November 17, 2023 • 5 mins
This went viral on TikTok as being one of the best ways to know if you're with "the one." Is it really the best?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I know we mentioned this the other day, but I
don't know if we called it the bird test and
said it was the hottest thing on TikTok TikTok, which
is evil in ruining the world and is where all
our young people are getting their news, and it's from
the Chinese Communist Party. But the bird test is just
to find out if you've found a soulmate, if you
believe in that sort of thing or not. And it
is kind of interesting. Here's the test, and it doesn't
(00:22):
have to specifically be this, but this sort of thing.
If you're sitting there with your new boyfriend girlfriend and
you look out the window and you say, wow, that's
a beautiful bird. Does your partner look to see what
you're interested in? Or do they ignore it and go
about what they were doing. Do they act like they're
at least bit interested in what you're excited about. If
(00:42):
they don't, you're doomed. If they are interested, at least
you got a chance.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Yeah, psychologists have backed this up. This has been popular
for a while now, sixteen million of views on the
particular bird test thing.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
But that strikes me as pretty real.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Sound you as a provoked my thoughts as opposed to
TikTok nonsense, with the idea being the purpose of the
bird test is to see how often your partner picks
up on bids you offer them in your relationship. It's
a it's a request to engage and connect with each other,
no matter what the topic is, like an invitation to
(01:21):
look at a bird or.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
A bed in your relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Like I'll give you a hundred bucks to have sex,
all right, one hundred and fifty.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
So do they do they look or not?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Do they dismiss as stupid what you're into or not,
or act like they don't care.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
That's that's a pretty decent thing right there.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
That is, do we have a connection or respectful loving
connection or do we not?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
And I would suggest if they do, dismiss it and
you just hang in there anyway. What if he's hot, Yeah,
there's that. I would say, that's a little sad and
a little codependent.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
The other hand, life doesn't always go the way I
hope it's gonna go. Sometimes good enough is as good
as it gets.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Wow, Joe Getty with another might as well settle Friday.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I'm just trying to be a realist. About it.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
I think you can settle in a lot of different ways.
Them not being interested in what you're interested in, or
at least willing to pretend they're interested in what you're
interested in, is a that's a pretty big problem.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
If you express this is important to me and they
say yeah, whatever, Yeah right, not good?
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Yeah, yeah, I'm back to a sad and codependent I
think we got the opposite problem going on.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Just from my observation, I don't think people are settling.
I think it's the other way around. I think people
have way overshot what they think they deserve out of
a relationship or mate, and that's why they just hang
on the sidelines so long. Just what I'm observing with
the younger generations, everybody thinks they can do better than
they actually can.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
I remember, Yeah, I think there is an element of that,
but I think that's the symptom, not the disease.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I think the disease is.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I'm reminded of our old producer Positive Sean, who would
say relationships are hard. People are complicated. Actual interpersonal relationships
are a challenge, but you get better at them. Generally,
surface online clickity click relationships are much much easier to manage.
(03:30):
And if that's the entirety of your experience or most
of it, then the instinct, the learned skill of when
somebody you care about says, hey, look at that beautiful
bird and you ignore it.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Maybe you're just not good at relations, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I don't know much about the modern A lot of
people meet online in the online dating huge and I've
never done that. But I can think of a couple
of people have interacted with recently and I don't say
this out loud. Maybe I should, Maybe that would be
the nice thing to do. But like women who have
talked to me about I don't know. He was like,
he seemed super interested in you know. I saw his
post and we emailed back and forth, and then we
(04:06):
met and then blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
He just wanted to have sex with you. That's what's
going on here.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
I can explain it.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
To you really easy. He wasn't interested in you at all.
You know, there's nothing here to figure out. He didn't
lose interest in you. You didn't say something to make
him mad. Yeah, he was pretending. He was just pretending
to like you until you had sex. That's the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
It's not complicated and everyone knows it.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Now.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
If that's what you want, fine, but you got to
realize that's what's going on most of the time with
these guys.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Wow, it's a men are pigs and they're using you.
Friday with Jack Armstrong.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I'm just telling you, just a super it's yeah, I
don't understand what I'll tell you what happened. He got
what he wanted and now he's moved on. I know
it's awful and and uh to transitory and it's not
the way it should be, but that's the way it
is for a lot of these people online.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Wow, tough talk.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
You're the world's most kick ass advice column I never
say it out loud to anybody because it seems to ardful.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Oh you just did Armstrong and Getty
I know we mentioned this the other day, but I
don't know if we called it the bird test and
said it was the hottest thing on TikTok TikTok, which
is evil in ruining the world and is where all
our young people are getting their news, and it's from
the Chinese Communist Party. But the bird test is just
to find out if you've found a soulmate, if you
believe in that sort of thing or not. And it
is kind of interesting. Here's the test, and it doesn't
(00:22):
have to specifically be this, but this sort of thing.
If you're sitting there with your new boyfriend girlfriend and
you look out the window and you say, wow, that's
a beautiful bird. Does your partner look to see what
you're interested in? Or do they ignore it and go
about what they were doing. Do they act like they're
at least bit interested in what you're excited about. If
(00:42):
they don't, you're doomed. If they are interested, at least
you got a chance.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Yeah, psychologists have backed this up. This has been popular
for a while now, sixteen million of views on the
particular bird test thing.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
But that strikes me as pretty real.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Sound you as a provoked my thoughts as opposed to
TikTok nonsense, with the idea being the purpose of the
bird test is to see how often your partner picks
up on bids you offer them in your relationship. It's
a it's a request to engage and connect with each other,
no matter what the topic is, like an invitation to
(01:21):
look at a bird or.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
A bed in your relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Like I'll give you a hundred bucks to have sex,
all right, one hundred and fifty.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
So do they do they look or not?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Do they dismiss as stupid what you're into or not,
or act like they don't care.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
That's that's a pretty decent thing right there.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
That is, do we have a connection or respectful loving
connection or do we not?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
And I would suggest if they do, dismiss it and
you just hang in there anyway. What if he's hot, Yeah,
there's that. I would say, that's a little sad and
a little codependent.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
The other hand, life doesn't always go the way I
hope it's gonna go. Sometimes good enough is as good
as it gets.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Wow, Joe Getty with another might as well settle Friday.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I'm just trying to be a realist. About it.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
I think you can settle in a lot of different ways.
Them not being interested in what you're interested in, or
at least willing to pretend they're interested in what you're
interested in, is a that's a pretty big problem.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
If you express this is important to me and they
say yeah, whatever, Yeah right, not good?
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Yeah, yeah, I'm back to a sad and codependent I
think we got the opposite problem going on.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Just from my observation, I don't think people are settling.
I think it's the other way around. I think people
have way overshot what they think they deserve out of
a relationship or mate, and that's why they just hang
on the sidelines so long. Just what I'm observing with
the younger generations, everybody thinks they can do better than
they actually can.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
I remember, Yeah, I think there is an element of that,
but I think that's the symptom, not the disease.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I think the disease is.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I'm reminded of our old producer Positive Sean, who would
say relationships are hard. People are complicated. Actual interpersonal relationships
are a challenge, but you get better at them. Generally,
surface online clickity click relationships are much much easier to manage.
(03:30):
And if that's the entirety of your experience or most
of it, then the instinct, the learned skill of when
somebody you care about says, hey, look at that beautiful
bird and you ignore it.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Maybe you're just not good at relations, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I don't know much about the modern A lot of
people meet online in the online dating huge and I've
never done that. But I can think of a couple
of people have interacted with recently and I don't say
this out loud. Maybe I should, Maybe that would be
the nice thing to do. But like women who have
talked to me about I don't know. He was like,
he seemed super interested in you know. I saw his
post and we emailed back and forth, and then we
(04:06):
met and then blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
He just wanted to have sex with you. That's what's
going on here.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
I can explain it.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
To you really easy. He wasn't interested in you at all.
You know, there's nothing here to figure out. He didn't
lose interest in you. You didn't say something to make
him mad. Yeah, he was pretending. He was just pretending
to like you until you had sex. That's the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
It's not complicated and everyone knows it.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Now.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
If that's what you want, fine, but you got to
realize that's what's going on most of the time with
these guys.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Wow, it's a men are pigs and they're using you.
Friday with Jack Armstrong.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I'm just telling you, just a super it's yeah, I
don't understand what I'll tell you what happened. He got
what he wanted and now he's moved on. I know
it's awful and and uh to transitory and it's not
the way it should be, but that's the way it
is for a lot of these people online.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Wow, tough talk.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
You're the world's most kick ass advice column I never
say it out loud to anybody because it seems to ardful.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Oh you just did Armstrong and Getty
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