Last Day At Disney (Full Show)

It's our final day at Disney!

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hi, everybody, Good morning. It is.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's to the point now where my body physically hurts.
And that's an aspect of Disney that you know. It's
a it's a workout. You know.

Speaker 1 (00:13):
What's funny.

Speaker 3 (00:14):
I think the first day we did eighteen thousand steps,
we walked about seven miles eight what.

Speaker 1 (00:19):
Yeah, yeah, because you can track it on your watch,
that's right.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
It's crazy to think that because it doesn't feel that,
but physically you do feel it.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
And I I'm not even kidding you. Born at the
end of the night, I have felt like a heartbeat.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
In my feet. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
Because and I'm wearing I'm wearing my three fifties because
they're super comfortable. I'm wearing my new balance like the
cloud foams. I'm wearing all of the sneakers, like the
right sneakers for this.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
But you you just walk so much.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
I said to the fire man the other day, we
were talking about food that we've had while we were here,
and he's like, it doesn't even matter what we're all
because we're burning so much washed.

Speaker 4 (00:56):
So the thing is real about the meebrace huh oh.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
Aside from the braces, it's the cards for me here.
But what Yeah, the like motorized scooters.

Speaker 4 (01:10):
What if everybody is everybody of every size using them?

Speaker 5 (01:14):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (01:14):
Yes, And you know what, I've noticed, they'll have to
go through the security.

Speaker 6 (01:19):
This is so messed up by the way, get six
o'clock in the way.

Speaker 2 (01:22):
They'll have to go through the security things, and they
hop right out of those scooters, like it's not like jogs.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Sometimes I'm like, question for you do get priority?

Speaker 4 (01:32):
You know, like at the airport of view in the
wheelchair you can get through check out it.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
Do they get priority scooter? I'm about to hop.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
Obviously, there are a lot of people out there who
need them, and I respect that and find with that.
It's the people who take advantage that I don't like.
Because the line's along and if you get that, you're
right on the ride. That's unfair. Then they get up
and they're running for.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
I don't know if it's true, but I heard a
rumor that, you know, back in the day, you could say, hey,
I hurt my knee last month, I had my a
c L replaced whatever, and they'd say, okay, we'll give
you like priority access to Rits Disney, Like wouldn't cross check.
Now I've heard so many people were gaming the system
that they do like a skype zoom call with you before.

(02:16):
That's what I've heard.

Speaker 6 (02:18):
I don't know, I've heard.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
Can ask those questions, Hey Mickey, Mickey golf. But I'm
telling you, like, I don't know about about you guys,
but I just genuinely enjoy people watching and you you
you could post up on a bench here and just people.
I saw a woman discipline her child yesterday and I
got aggressive. Oh really, yeah, you people were getting people

(02:43):
get they're tired.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
I mean, I unfortunately saw an older gent with his
older wife and they were fighting, bickering back and forth. Yeah,
like this Disney get the emotions.

Speaker 1 (02:52):
It's because it's a workout. It's a workout for Disney.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Though I'm not finding it super packed, and I'm strictly
going by the wait times because some of these way
times are only an hour, which sounds like a lot,
but it's not.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
I peak times, Like there's park peak times right, there's
like right when it opens because everyone's trying to rush in.
There's like a lunch peak, and there's a mid afternoon
peak where people park hop and then they end up
going to kind of during the peak.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Hours I have known.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
I have noticed the crowds walking are a lot, and
I think for like, for instance, the fireman is like
he thinks it's jammed like slamm, and I'm like, honey,
you got to come at you got to come here
in Christmas time.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
You can't walk, you can't walk.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
But you know, there are certain times, and there's other
times where I'm like, I can easily get a seat
on a bench, which sometimes doesn't happen. I also was
reading that there are a ton of senior class trips
here right now, and I've seen a lot of high
school age kids, so that kind of makes sense.

Speaker 1 (03:49):
But I mean, no, A good example is I think
the wait time for.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
Haunted Mansion, which is like a very popular attraction at
Magic King yesterday was forty five minutes.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
That's not bad at all, which is normally what in
the in the in the I guess what, Oh, you
could wait two hours? Probably have you.

Speaker 4 (04:07):
Seen the proposals? You know everybody wants to I actually
did one. Yes, I actually got a video of it. Yes,
wait rand front of the castle. That just reminded me.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
Yes, they do that.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
And I always, by the way, I would say no,
I would say no, what are you doing?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
What are you like? Yeah, because I'm sure you So
you're there with the Fireman and the fire seas and
me and says, you know, marry me. You wouldn't do
it at the most magical place. No, I would take
it out because he literally found one. There's the thing.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
There are way too many people there. There are way
too many people around. And the thing is you have
to bet that your wife is gonna like has to
be in love with the castle and everything about it.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
But the fact that there's so many.

Speaker 4 (04:45):
Think if I was dating Ashley that this would be
the place to do it.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
It's just it's it's like how I say, I don't
want to get proposed to on a holiday, Like, don't
take a holiday for me, give me an extra day?

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Can I tell you? Though? I used to talk really.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
Really all in this year because like we're gonna play a song,
but I used to talk so bad about those people
that got proposed to at Disney.

Speaker 6 (05:05):
And then the Fireman's sister got proposed to Disney.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
I was like, no, it's sick. It's so sweet, it's magical, sadly.

Speaker 7 (05:11):
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Speaker 1 (05:18):
Five. Hi, everybody, good morning.

Speaker 2 (05:23):
We are live from Disney and he couldn't be more magical.
But that doesn't mean the dating stops. I mean we
still gotta we still got to try to find love
out here. Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
four five Talking dating love relationships, we call it beyond
the swipe furn Can I just tell you I'm looking

(05:44):
at the call screener? And when he gets to Michelle,
Santi points to it and goes, remember what you told
me in Foreign about that.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Dream and that Mike the fireman.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
Said he didn't love you for three years, that he
hadn't loved that number three.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
Okay, just remember that. Let's go to Michelle in Boston. Michelle, no,
good morning. Yeah, no, no, no, no, all right.

Speaker 2 (06:11):
So Whenda is this recent? Did this happen a few
years ago? Tell everybody what's going on.

Speaker 8 (06:18):
So we're still in the process of divorce. It was
three years ago that everything was discovered and his girlfriend
of three years, so he was with his girlfriend for
the three years before that. We were together for twenty years,

(06:40):
married for thirteen and my son was the one who
found the messages and told me what was going on.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
I'm gonna I want to literally hug you. Also vomit, Schelle,
tell everybody what your ex husband did for work.

Speaker 8 (07:00):
He is a firefighter and he would do you want
me to he's a city firefighter.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
Is he Boston? Yes, he is, last name Joyce. I'm
just kid kidding. I'm just kidding. Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
First off, I can't I am I'm so sorry, Like
I can't even imagine this. But what do you mean
your son found the messages? How old is your kid?
And like, what are we talking?

Speaker 8 (07:29):
Well, he's fourteen now. He saw messages and told me,
you know, daddy's cheating on you. And I said, oh,
that's got to be a joke. It's probably his group
chat with his boys, you know sometimes.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh yeah, And no it was.

Speaker 8 (07:49):
Not his boys. It was his girlfriend. And he would
talk to her while he was at work and then
see her on his days off while I was at
work and the kids are at school.

Speaker 2 (08:02):
That for cheaters, the firefighters shift would be a godson
because they're gone from us for whole days.

Speaker 8 (08:10):
Oh yeah, my lawyer told me if I could tell
people one thing, I'm sorry. Actually you would say, don't
ever marry a copper a firefighter.

Speaker 1 (08:21):
I can't be puking here in front of the Disney people.

Speaker 2 (08:24):
I mean, listen, I'm not shocked at the statement, because again,
I say, by to the fireman. He's gone for a
whole day, twenty four hours. He could have a whole
like side life.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
There. Did you know the woman?

Speaker 8 (08:37):
No?

Speaker 2 (08:38):
No?

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Wow, so you're okay. No affiliation to her. Is he
still with her?

Speaker 8 (08:44):
No? Nope, he has a new girlfriend.

Speaker 1 (08:46):
Now, oh my god.

Speaker 2 (08:49):
When you found out and you confronted him, did he
try to lie or was he honest?

Speaker 9 (08:54):
Oh?

Speaker 8 (08:54):
No, he lied straight? Yeah two years.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
He lied for you.

Speaker 9 (09:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:01):
Wow, I'm so sorry here and there.

Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, I'm gonna be honest with you.

Speaker 1 (09:07):
You sound you still sound so drained by it.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
I feel like you sound exhausted, and I don't know
if that's because you still are in I can't believe
it's happening, or like, are you in a.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
Better place now? Have you met to anybody? Are you
trying to date?

Speaker 8 (09:22):
I have not met anybody. I did two dates from
Hinge and then I just said, this world is crazy
and I got.

Speaker 9 (09:31):
Off of that. It is I'm drained.

Speaker 8 (09:33):
Only in the sense that like it's still going on,
Like I just want it to be over, I want
it to be settled. But I can just clear my
mind from that part. But you're just not making it easy.

Speaker 1 (09:48):
And you know why is why is? Why is he
not making it easy for you? He cheated? Why is
he not making it easy for you?

Speaker 8 (09:59):
I I think some people just don't feel like they
deserve consequences. I think that he feels, you know, he's
been able to justify his choices in his head and
he felt entitled whatever he felt entitled to, and you know,
some people just don't want to see consequences.

Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, you know, yeah, I listen, I feel.

Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah, No, it's okay. I mean I said, I don't
think you need too.

Speaker 6 (10:33):
I can hear it in your voice.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
I do want to ask something because I know there's
somebody in the car that's hearing you and they're being
a little beach and they have an attitude. They're like
three years and she never picked up on that high
insight looking back. Yeah, I bet high insight looking back.
Are you like, oh, okay, well maybe or was he
strictly doing this while he was at work, or were

(10:56):
there other times where you're like, oh, I could probably
see that he snow off then, because that's a three
years is a long time.

Speaker 8 (11:04):
Yeah, looking back, I could seat And you know, I
started going to therapy for myself because I was like,
something's off with us, Like maybe I need to like
get my head right. I don't know, but he would
always just say, oh, you take everything so personally you're
so sensitive. No, but no, as far as I know.

Speaker 9 (11:26):
It was just while I was at work. I work
twelve hour shifts, so he got.

Speaker 10 (11:33):
Time.

Speaker 8 (11:33):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah, I mean, listen, they have they have a lot
of time, and you know you got You definitely have
to trust because again they're gone for whole days.

Speaker 1 (11:43):
That's that's that schedules. Not for everybody.

Speaker 2 (11:45):
It's certainly not for the for I know a lot
of my girlfriends will say the same thing, well, because
I've made the little joke that I enjoy having the
alone time because I do. Uh So, there's there's some
positives to it depending on the type of person you are,
but you know that is just in the end, to
think of him doing that to you while he was

(12:06):
at work, while like you're just thinking he's working. Is
that it's messed up on a multitude of levels.

Speaker 8 (12:14):
Yeah, And like I said, he's he lied about a
lot of it, so even the three years. I don't
know if that's accurate or if that's just what he's
coughing to. But it's just this thing I struggled with.
Like you said, you know, people are going to say,
how did she not know? How is she so blind?
I did that to myself? And just what else was
not true in my life?

Speaker 2 (12:35):
Like?

Speaker 9 (12:36):
What else?

Speaker 2 (12:36):
And hey, can I just tell you I would have
done the exact same thing, Jenny, who's thinking that in
the car?

Speaker 1 (12:43):
Michelle?

Speaker 2 (12:44):
You'm saying the same names over But my point is
every single person that's in that would think the same
exact thing.

Speaker 1 (12:52):
I'd be like, what the hell? Why did I have
the blinders on what's going on? You know what? I now?
I'm following the fireman to school? Oh you want to
go school on Tuesday nights? Big Mama's coming west. That's it. Listen.
I do I think I think you'll come out of it.
I think it'll be fine.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
And I think I know hinge depressed you a little bit,
But something is gonna happen for you because.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
You deserve it. You deserve it.

Speaker 6 (13:15):
Thank you, all right, keep your head up, thank you,
thank you.

Speaker 1 (13:20):
Bye.

Speaker 3 (13:21):
Oh my god, it's so painful. You can still hear
the pain in her voice. Clearly he's gaslighting her and
also trying to get her back all at the same time.

Speaker 1 (13:30):
Guys, he's Boston fire too.

Speaker 2 (13:32):
Like when people call me like, oh, my husband's a
firefighter and hang them or whatever, it's like that.

Speaker 1 (13:36):
Has no Boston though.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
That's does it hit close close to home? Although I don't.
I do not think the fireman is cheating.

Speaker 1 (13:45):
Oh that's nice of you. Now I have to say
it's here.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
Let's just let's just say Anonymous has been divorced for
eight years and oh, you have a So your ex
came clean to you.

Speaker 6 (13:58):
You didn't even catch him. He came clean to you.

Speaker 11 (14:02):
So I yeah, no, he he passed up. I mean
and like a drunken stupor. He fessed up. But he
fessed up.

Speaker 1 (14:08):
What tell me?

Speaker 9 (14:11):
So?

Speaker 11 (14:12):
I was like, we were we were happy, like we
were happy happy until we weren't. And then I don't know.
I was kind of curious, like something was up, something
was off for probably like six weeks. And I kept asking, asking,
and I'm not a check your phone kind of girl.
I'm not going to go there, So I'm just I'm
expecting him to be honest. He's like, nothing's up, We're good,

(14:32):
we're good. Went out with his boys one night, all right,
sat he went out with his boys, and then I
kept calling. I was messaging, turned his phone off, and
then three am he comes home. I heard a car.
I was like, what is going on? So I jump
up by going to the kitchen and he's in my
kitchen standing there with a female.

Speaker 9 (14:54):
I was like, wait, I go, what.

Speaker 11 (14:58):
Do we bro her into my kitchen? Walked in three him.

Speaker 1 (15:01):
I go, what are we doing?

Speaker 11 (15:04):
He goes, You've been curious.

Speaker 9 (15:05):
What's going on?

Speaker 11 (15:06):
This is what's been going on. I've been sleeping with
her for six months. I don't love you anymore. I
want to divorce. I'm done here.

Speaker 1 (15:13):
All right, We're in the most magical place on earth.
What's wrong with you? People calling me with these stories?
Oh my god? Was he that drunk?

Speaker 2 (15:24):
Though? That?

Speaker 6 (15:24):
He was like pissy and he was trying to prove.

Speaker 1 (15:27):
Up point like I don't.

Speaker 11 (15:29):
He wasn't like I mean, I'd seen him way more
messed up than that, for sure, But I only have
to assume that he was a wreck because he was
pulling that kind of junk.

Speaker 2 (15:40):
I was like, no, because that's that's next level, like
any cheater in the world, Like they're not gonna you know,
she's home, but who cares.

Speaker 6 (15:48):
And by the way, the fact that she was like
this is a good idea, like.

Speaker 11 (15:52):
She actually the poor little lamb stood there staring at
my kitchen floors like the to I didn't even like
glance in his direction. I literally just fucked up to
her and I said, you're so lucky that my son
is asleep in the room behind me, because I would
murder you.

Speaker 1 (16:11):
Where were your kid was?

Speaker 8 (16:12):
I could get out alert your kid was home?

Speaker 1 (16:15):
Your your child was home? All right? Who are these people?
Who are these people? Oh my god? This is yeah.
So that they left, well.

Speaker 11 (16:28):
So so she like turning, scurried out real quick, and
he chased after her. But super fun part of this
story is that she left her keys in my kitchen.
So I took him. I chucked him in the woods
behind my house. My queen, they were never to be
seen again.

Speaker 1 (16:51):
It sounds to me like she didn't know that what
she was walking into though she knew.

Speaker 11 (16:57):
Even I messaged her afterwards like, you know, I was nasty.
I was nasty.

Speaker 9 (17:03):
I message.

Speaker 11 (17:05):
Uh huh, And she was like, I knew exactly what
I was walking into and I was proud to be there.

Speaker 2 (17:11):
I was like, oh what, I'm so sick of it. Hey,
I always wonder this. Are they still together now?

Speaker 12 (17:18):
No?

Speaker 11 (17:18):
God, no, no sick He Leo.

Speaker 1 (17:24):
He's a Leonardo DiCaprio type.

Speaker 11 (17:26):
He sure as hell is. He's got a new twenty
six year old and he is just in love with
and got a matching tattoo with.

Speaker 1 (17:33):
Oh my god. Well, you know what.

Speaker 2 (17:36):
I know it probably sucks to tell this story, but
I'm sure you probably just made Michelle feel a little
bit better and a little less alone, because people go
through this stuff and.

Speaker 1 (17:44):
It's just yeah, I hope, and you know what.

Speaker 11 (17:46):
Honestly, listen, you sound like you're the end of the tunnel.
Can I just say that the tunnel.

Speaker 2 (17:52):
The difference for me in the in the two calls,
her light is dimmed. Right now your light is back,
and I think she can get to where you're at
for sure.

Speaker 11 (17:59):
She one can. I had to make sure that I
was raising my child, keeping roof over his head, and
keeping a steady job. And in that time, I didn't date,
I didn't look around for something else. I did nothing
but raise my kid and work. And I literally like
found myself getting back to a normal place because I

(18:22):
was focused on me and my kid and not what
else is out there. Now I'm at the place where
I'm like, Okay, let's see who we can mess with.

Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah, let's see what's up. I love it.

Speaker 2 (18:31):
Well, I'm glad you called. I think she definitely needed
to hear that today. Thank you so much for the
holl Anonymous. I appreciate it.

Speaker 1 (18:38):
I'm just so sick of it.

Speaker 2 (18:39):
I can't like to bring her how reason beyond her
being home the kid.

Speaker 1 (18:45):
Sleeping, you sick.

Speaker 3 (18:47):
Like, if you're going through that and you feel compelled
to admit it, just have a conversation.

Speaker 1 (18:52):
Don't bring the proof home too. It wasn't the fire
man right, it was done.

Speaker 5 (18:57):
Right.

Speaker 1 (19:00):
Everybody, Good morning. It's actually in the gym in Morning Show.

Speaker 2 (19:02):
We're live still in Orlando, right across from the Magic Kingdom.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
We can see the castle from here.

Speaker 2 (19:07):
I mean wild times for us, We've this is certainly
a goal for Santi and I don't We don't know
if we're coming back.

Speaker 1 (19:14):
We've we've peaked.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
We just took two calls from two women on that
went through a very similar situation but are at two
opposite ends of the spectrum right now. And I, by
the way, this is why I love the show, because
I think the one needed to hear the other and
the other one needed to hear the you know, because
I think there is there is a way to come
out of such a horrible situation, but it takes a

(19:36):
lot of time and effort. You putting it back into
yourself because that is a that trust to be broken
in your marriage in both of those stories, and the
way it was is that'll mess you up.

Speaker 3 (19:46):
And also because the fact that he was cheating for
so long too, and you could still hear the hurt
in his voice.

Speaker 6 (19:50):
Fire Man's going to be like, why do you keep
coming to the firehouse?

Speaker 2 (19:54):
The girls love riding the truck, The girl's enjoy lighting
down the wall.

Speaker 1 (20:00):
Anonymous, this is crazy.

Speaker 2 (20:03):
I just talked about two different women that went through
a similar situation, but opposite ends of the spectrum, And
there you are, right in the middle of the spectrum.
Causing all the problems. You told fourign this, But how
would you describe yourself? You are the You're the side check.

Speaker 1 (20:19):
Okay, listen, I'm need answer.

Speaker 13 (20:22):
I don't feel like one.

Speaker 6 (20:25):
Uh well, yeah, I'm sure we've heard that one before.

Speaker 1 (20:28):
So you're the side check. You've been the side check
for how long? Two whole years? Is he full on
married or is he got a girlfriend.

Speaker 13 (20:39):
Full on like twelve years?

Speaker 2 (20:41):
He's been married for twelve years. Does his wife know
that you exist?

Speaker 9 (20:46):
I would think so, you would say, so she knows.

Speaker 2 (20:55):
Yeah, But see, okay, so fine, guys, you think that.
But then we had that call that we just got
that she had no idea for three years, she had
no idea.

Speaker 1 (21:03):
Why why why side chick? Do you I'm going to
call you.

Speaker 13 (21:08):
You didn't give us network? Like it's just a full
blown relationship at work?

Speaker 1 (21:14):
Where is work?

Speaker 9 (21:16):
Healthcare?

Speaker 2 (21:18):
So you guys work together in healthcare. You're not a
fire later lady or anything. You know, So you work
in healthcare together with this man who's full on married,
but you have a full on, full blown we're not
hiding a relationship at work. Does not a single soul
that you work with say to you bitch, what are

(21:40):
you doing that man is married?

Speaker 1 (21:42):
You like you're ruining a home?

Speaker 13 (21:47):
That say that again?

Speaker 1 (21:50):
Does anybody else pick up that? She sounds sad?

Speaker 3 (21:52):
She does sound sad because she ultimately wants to be
with him, like full time, and she can't.

Speaker 1 (21:57):
Yeah, but you're not the main.

Speaker 2 (21:59):
How many times he told you that he's leaving her
just out of curiosity?

Speaker 9 (22:03):
Few?

Speaker 1 (22:04):
Yeah, it's never gonna happ heard this story so many
times on this show. Heard this so many And here's
the thing.

Speaker 4 (22:12):
I think anonymously told me when I picked up the
phone that he has kids in his cart marriage, but
other kids elsewhere, right, Yeah, and she.

Speaker 13 (22:20):
Takes care of them, and I don't want to do that.

Speaker 1 (22:23):
I don't has he has? He told you he wants
to have kids with you, but he has he can't.

Speaker 13 (22:29):
He can't have any more kids. I guess that was
probably a stipulation and his marriage.

Speaker 1 (22:34):
See what I'm saying. Wow, you what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (22:38):
So she was like, you want to fool around, that's fine,
but the one rule is you can't have any kids,
no more babies.

Speaker 13 (22:43):
Seems that way. Yeah.

Speaker 6 (22:45):
How old are you?

Speaker 14 (22:47):
Thirty six?

Speaker 2 (22:48):
You're thirty six years old you're wasting your whole life,
You're wasting your good marriage.

Speaker 13 (22:55):
And I don't know.

Speaker 4 (22:58):
Maybe the better question is what is it about him
that you like so much that you're willing to be
second place.

Speaker 9 (23:04):
Everything.

Speaker 13 (23:05):
I believe men can love multiple women. I don't believe
men love women.

Speaker 1 (23:08):
In the same way.

Speaker 2 (23:10):
If Ford never asked me that question and refer to
me as second place, I would literally vomit.

Speaker 13 (23:14):
And I don't like because he's at work with me
more and when we're not at work, he's with me,
So it's like I'm not sucking plate though.

Speaker 2 (23:25):
Yes you are, honey, You're not his wife. You're not
his wife, and you're not going to be.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
You are second place, like legally you.

Speaker 13 (23:33):
Are cooking, clean and take care of the five kids.
It's not me.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
You're getting emotional, get dinners.

Speaker 13 (23:42):
No, I'm like trying to discude my voice. I get skied,
sang it dates, I get video pictures, everything. It is
no discretion. So I don't feel like I'm a sky chick.
I said it.

Speaker 3 (23:55):
But fine, but what is your goal with this? Because
you're never gonna fully have him unless he leaves his wife,
which if he does, find but he has a pattern.

Speaker 13 (24:05):
Right, And that's exactly why I don't want to be
the wife, because they want lend them there's my chicken
on boy.

Speaker 1 (24:12):
No, I think I want.

Speaker 2 (24:21):
You're not gonna You're not gonna be well received right now,
bye bye by other women listening, and so I think,
I no, no, no, no no. What I was gonna say
is so props to you from making the call and
actually admitting to this, because I'm telling you right now,
even if you don't feel it in the workplace, they're
talking about you, and they're they're they're yeah, they just
all it just is what it is.

Speaker 1 (24:40):
I mean.

Speaker 2 (24:41):
The bottom line is I feel like, at thirty six
years old, I get it. You've you've had marriage and
that didn't work out for you. But you're really trying
to make I think you're trying to convince yourself that
this is what you want. I I really do, because
this is not this is not ideal for any woman.
Like I don't you want to cook and clean, that's listen,
I'm married.

Speaker 1 (25:01):
I don't. That's not all I do. I got two kids.

Speaker 2 (25:03):
I'll sit at home and cook and clean and take
care of the kid like I do other things, like
the way you're boxing what it is to be a
wife to somebody acting like it's the worst thing on
the planet.

Speaker 1 (25:12):
You don't want those responsibilities.

Speaker 15 (25:13):
Maybe that's so, But I'm saying maybe your marriage before
wasn't wasn't a good indication of what marriage can be,
and now you're stuck in this rut of Oh well,
I don't have to do any of those old things
I was doing your old marriage.

Speaker 6 (25:25):
Maybe your old marriage was.

Speaker 1 (25:26):
Trash, and.

Speaker 2 (25:29):
I if I were, you wouldn't want to be any
part attached to a man who already has an attachment.

Speaker 1 (25:39):
And by the way, we're not going to convince you
who are the three of us?

Speaker 4 (25:43):
We're just kidding. I do gotta ask is he like
some kind of is he a boss? Or does he
have a kind.

Speaker 9 (25:48):
Of you know, I make more money.

Speaker 13 (25:51):
I make more money and.

Speaker 9 (25:52):
I offer it and he won't take it.

Speaker 1 (25:53):
So no, you're not going to convince us that this
guy's a good guy. He's a loser.

Speaker 2 (26:00):
I just I I don't unless the only way is
what like what's to Florren's point, if if the wife
is literally like I know you're in this relationship, it
is okay be with her.

Speaker 1 (26:13):
Maybe I'm gonna go do my own thing, which but
I could never do.

Speaker 6 (26:15):
But if that is the case, fine, but I'm not
getting that, Okay.

Speaker 13 (26:22):
So, and I just told four in this that I
was just outside of the house because I have the address.
Sometimes I pick them up for work, like and I
almost want to just call and ask her if it's
true that she does know, because I'm I don't know,
because that's what.

Speaker 1 (26:36):
He's saying, that the wife knows, that the wife knows,
but he doesn't.

Speaker 3 (26:40):
He's he's telling her that she's his coworker that's picking
them up so they keep car.

Speaker 4 (26:45):
Listen to me, I think that I think the wife
knows because he's had kids outside of their marriage. And
you just heard the side say that the wife takes
care of all the children, every single one of them.

Speaker 1 (26:57):
All of them talk about it, dab talk about.

Speaker 4 (27:01):
A d just go out there and get a bisect
to me and don't have any more kids. And you know, uh,
plan b over here wants to be planning. I don't
know what's gonna happen.

Speaker 2 (27:12):
Wow, Well, listen again, your happiness is all that matters
for you. We're just conversing here, We're chatting about your situation.
But we're not out here to convince you. If you're happy,
you're happy. But I would assume you called because you
heard those other two calls and it made you feel
a type of way, because yeah, because I and I
that's totally understandable, because in a sense, you are that

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woman to those to those those two that are listening.

Speaker 1 (27:35):
So yeah, well, I wish you the best of luck
in your side chick endeavors.

Speaker 6 (27:43):
Hope it works out for you. You're welcome, babe, God's speed,
You're welcome, Anonymous.

Speaker 2 (27:47):
I want those people to call, and so I certainly
don't want to make her feel like I want.

Speaker 4 (27:53):
But but he ain't leaving, leaving I don't want to
be But if he could have kids, she would have
she would have bay him kids, she would have give
him one or two kids just to keep attached and
fail to attach and feel like.

Speaker 1 (28:07):
I couldn't agree with that's the way I'm going to
keep this guy.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
And I hate, like, I'm just I'm not gonna stand
on this narrative of like, oh, it's better because he
buys me gifts and I don't cook her clean stop it.

Speaker 3 (28:17):
Yeah, And also, no side piece wants to stay the
side piece.

Speaker 1 (28:20):
They want to be the mains.

Speaker 6 (28:23):
Okay, what how long had you been?

Speaker 1 (28:25):
How long had you been holding on the mains? Committed?
He hadn't spoken in ten minutes.

Speaker 8 (28:30):
He was.

Speaker 2 (28:33):
I stand by that, though. I think we all want
to be the mains.

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Speaker 2 (28:48):
Hi, everybody, good morning. You know I hate what do
the kids call it when they don't look the ick? Yes,
I mean I definitely have some weird ones. I think
my first ick is if a man can't beat me
in basketball, which I know is crazy.

Speaker 1 (29:09):
I know why it's crazy.

Speaker 3 (29:11):
I'll tell them because you played Division one, you got
a scholarship to college, you're really good.

Speaker 2 (29:15):
Yeah, and and and if I am trying to be
with a man and I want him to feel manly
and powerful and dominant, and I can beat him on
a basketball court one on one. Now, I'm not talking
shooting competitions, because I've beat many men in my time
in a shooting competition, but I'm talking one on one,
like this man can't body me and beat me.

Speaker 1 (29:34):
I don't want to we're in Disney.

Speaker 2 (29:37):
I don't want to on one on with you happy.

Speaker 6 (29:41):
I don't want to make magic with you.

Speaker 1 (29:46):
Dude. I'm adding this one to the list.

Speaker 2 (29:48):
I didn't even tell the fireman this, but we got
off a ride yesterday. He the teacups, the tea cups, Well,
no they can't. But then the middle thing you can
take and spin and you can.

Speaker 1 (30:02):
Make it real.

Speaker 2 (30:04):
So we get off the tea cups and she Laila goes,
I want to go on them again, and he goes, not, Now,
daddy's gonna be sick.

Speaker 1 (30:12):
Daddy. I looked at him. I said, I just feel
a little sick from he goes, I.

Speaker 6 (30:19):
Feel a little sick from the rod little.

Speaker 3 (30:21):
Bitch boy like I can like in the fires a
manly dude. Right, I can understand if it was a
ride like Tron, something that's like thrill seeking and crazy.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
But then he comes little kids.

Speaker 2 (30:35):
The adults are only there to accompany the little kids,
like the mad Hatter teacups or what's sending you, bro?
And he listen, he's not he doesn't care about the
rides in a sense of like if we can all
go on, he'll go like he loved going on teanas
by you adventure because we could all go on it
and everybody, but he's not gonna There's a thing that
you can do here where you get in line with

(30:57):
your kid form and then you kids swap, so the
one person goes on the ride and then the other
person parent holds the kid, and then you switch to
the I've told him, let's do that on the big
ride so you can we can both experience.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
You just go home with Santy. I don't care he does.
It's not He's there strictly for her.

Speaker 2 (31:13):
And to see her reactions. He doesn't care about anything else.
But yeah, I'm adding that to the list because like
the teacups that that.

Speaker 1 (31:22):
On your belly hurts.

Speaker 3 (31:23):
Yeah, Like honestly though, if my belly hurt that bad,
I think I would suck it up, especially after hearing
this story now too.

Speaker 16 (31:29):
Yeah, nobody, nobody's trying to nobody's trying to hear that.

Speaker 2 (31:33):
But I feel like everybody has what's a weird thing
that you guys could see in a female Well, I
know what she was gonna say.

Speaker 3 (31:39):
A dirty room, A dirty room, yeah, dirty shoes, boom
in a dirty car, in a back car, not a
backup but not a dult car.

Speaker 2 (31:45):
And that I remember one before and without that girl
and he actually liked her, but she wore the same
dirty strees right.

Speaker 4 (31:51):
Yeah, they were like sketches or something with the big
platforms and they were white and they dirty.

Speaker 2 (31:56):
I'm like, now now they were white, they were brown,
but they were supposed to be like no, no, we
can't do that.

Speaker 4 (32:02):
Yeah, my man said, a bad car. What do you
mean she got to drive a band Santi.

Speaker 13 (32:07):
No.

Speaker 3 (32:08):
If she's in her thirties and she's like driving like
a beat up young person car with like that's hooked
up and stuff, I feel like, listen, you need to
get on that. Get an adult car, which is like,
you know, mid size like s u V. I'm not
that's nothing money. This has nothing to do with let
him cook cook. If she's driving a car with ball
tires or something like that, that girl.

Speaker 17 (32:29):
Has bro like yeah, because if I walk by, anybody
in their car has ball tires like yo, that girl
need tell she's like when I.

Speaker 16 (32:40):
First started the job at Jamin Sati sat me down,
I was like, Ashley, I got talked to him crying.
He's like, I talked to you about something. When he
goes your tires are bald and you know what, so
maybe you have something.

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Speaker 2 (33:05):
I am obviously starting to with Leila at the age
of three be invited to, you know, birthday parties for
kids and that type of thing. I didn't even know
that this was a conversation. I had no idea that
people were chatting about this online, that this was trending
and this is a big thing. But I guess there's
this new rule that on a kid's birthday that everybody

(33:32):
at the party has to get a gift so that
nobody feels bad.

Speaker 3 (33:38):
Usually what happens is that you leave the party with
like a party gift, like a like a little bad
with a bunch of yes, fine, they do it.

Speaker 2 (33:45):
I've seen that, right, like a little. I've seen that.
I did that at the at my wedding. You know,
at weddings they do that. They might give you like
a little but it's the one kid's birthday, So like
that kid's gonna get the gifts.

Speaker 1 (33:57):
I don't happen, No.

Speaker 3 (33:58):
But that kid's gonna get the best gift, probably like
all the present, but then you leave like a little
bag we would like, oh or something?

Speaker 2 (34:05):
Yes, yeah, okay, so people do party favors.

Speaker 4 (34:08):
It's a birthday party. Those kids, WI are gonna leave
with the gifts? Come with gifts, don't they? Yes, But
then they've given gifts to leave away with.

Speaker 2 (34:16):
Yes, yeah, yes, you're giving a party, yes, changing gifts
pretty much, you're give it a party favor.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
I'm spending all this money for the party. Anyway.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
Well, this, this whole conversation started because wait, no, wait
for and.

Speaker 1 (34:28):
You're not ready. No, you're not You're not ready for this.

Speaker 2 (34:32):
So just to set the scene here, this woman went
viral because she had her daughter's birthday at Build a Bear.

Speaker 1 (34:39):
We all know what build a Bear is, right, it's
a store in the mall.

Speaker 2 (34:41):
You go, you stuff the animal, you dress it, you
pick it out whatever. I will let her explain her
thought process. But again, her daughter's birthday party at Build
a Bear.

Speaker 18 (34:53):
The other moms you're mad at me at school and
staid they won't be bringing their child to my child's
birthday party next year. So this year we had a
birthday party at Build a Bear for my daughter and
everyone had a thirty five dollars limit on my dime,
and everyone built their bears and it was really cute

(35:13):
and fun, and I thought it was a really great idea.
Some moms decided to spend extra on accessories out of
their own pocket, which was completely their choice, and I
thought they were being really sweet and thoughtful. So after
we checked out at Build a Bear, I said, all right,
everyone like turning your bear to my daughter. I don't
want to save her name on here, And some of

(35:34):
the moms started acting really weird. Well, we went back
to our house for cake and the rest of the party,
and one of the moms had the audacity to come
up to me and say, you know, I was under
the impression that the bears we built were for our
own daughters. And I'm like, it's a birthday party for
my daughter. Why would you build a bear for yourself

(35:55):
for my daughter's birthday? Like if it was my birthday
and we went to one of those like glazed under
fire places, like some of my friends would probably give
me what they made. Like if we go to a
wine bar for my birthday party as an adult, like
my friends like buy me a glass of wine, Like
I don't know, Like if you're a guy with your

(36:17):
buddies at the bar. Do people buy you around or something?
So the mom that approached me left and then shortly
after the rest of the parents just wrapped it up,
and I guess decided my daughter's birthday was over. And
now they're basically saying, none of their kids are coming
to my daughter's birthday next year.

Speaker 2 (36:34):
What do you think, because I think you're terrible, That's
what I Chris just just as Okay. So they go
to build a bear with these little kids. All right,
the little kids make bears. They think they're making the
bears for themselves because they're picking. Oh, I want that
Hello Kitty bear, and I want to put her in
that dress, and she's gonna hold that bag.

Speaker 1 (36:54):
Then they get back to the house for cake and
ice cream and the woman goes give me the bear.

Speaker 2 (37:00):
Yeah, noa, what what do you mean you like she
picked out all of her favorite things?

Speaker 1 (37:05):
What do you mean now? Mind you?

Speaker 2 (37:07):
She probably thought that because she was putting up the
thirty five per bear.

Speaker 1 (37:10):
That's exactly what it was, So it should have.

Speaker 2 (37:13):
Been discussed prior to Hey, if this is the way
she wanted, now, mind you, I bet you half the.

Speaker 1 (37:19):
People wouldn't have come. I would not have gone. It's weird.

Speaker 2 (37:23):
But you can't how am I supposed to explain to
my little kid who just built a bear that that's
not their bear.

Speaker 1 (37:30):
It's weird. It's very weird.

Speaker 3 (37:32):
It's very selfish too, because I think this lady thinks
that her kid is the center of the universe, and
that's the way she's raised.

Speaker 1 (37:37):
I mean, on this day, he is.

Speaker 3 (37:39):
Yeah, but it's also not about because all these young
kids took the time to go to the party, do
all these things.

Speaker 1 (37:43):
Things, go back to the house for ice cream.

Speaker 4 (37:45):
Let me play Devil's aguacate. But it's my party that
I put together. I went and got the location, I
went and spent the money for every So you're not
you're just bringing your kid along. We're having a Kumbaya
moment with my kids. I still don't get the part
where I'm leaving the bed with you because we built it.
I think I should just take it home, because again,
it was a community thing, right, But I can understand
how theory that I spend all this money for everybody

(38:08):
to build a bear and all the bed stay with me.

Speaker 6 (38:10):
I'm gonna just say this and people might think this
is crazy.

Speaker 2 (38:13):
If I'm having a birthday party for Layla at Build
a Bear, I'm not going to invite a lot of people.
Maybe five, yes, and I'm they can pick out whatever
bear they want. They not covering the costs.

Speaker 1 (38:25):
Because it's a party and it's at Build a Bear,
and that's.

Speaker 2 (38:27):
What you do because there's kids and it sucks you,
So don't invite she invite like nine people.

Speaker 1 (38:31):
Don't invite that many.

Speaker 2 (38:32):
Cut it down. Don't invite that many kids. You can't
have it at that location and then attact them to
take their bears.

Speaker 1 (38:40):
And what are you to do with that many bears?
That doesn't make sense.

Speaker 4 (38:45):
This is weird, Like you could take them to any
other situation painting something. The kids are gonna leave with
whatever they created. Why are you leaving the bears with you?

Speaker 1 (38:54):
That's not even a party.

Speaker 2 (38:56):
But I do a lot of play dates with my
friend Courtney, who lives inhood in Marshfield. She's she puts
my mom into shame. She's so good about like, I'm
so thoughtful with the kids. Every time we go over there.
She's gone to like the dollar store and bought a
bunch of stuff for them to do crafts and stuff,
and I always in my head, I'm like, damn, never
asks me for a dollar, you know what I mean, Like,

(39:17):
because she bought the stuff and we're coming to her
house and she's doing, I need to get bet I
gotta buy some plate o or something. But my point
is is like, it's not like I'm going over there
and she's saying, well, if you want to come, you
have to give me money for these supplies. Like it's
it's kind of like we just it's a thing that
we do. When she comes to my house, I offer
the kids snacks. I'm not asking her, can you give
me five for the fruit snacks.

Speaker 3 (39:35):
Note now, if there's a parent that wants to leave
the bear there, that's a nice thing, thank you, But
you don't go there with the expectations she don't ask.

Speaker 1 (39:44):
You can't.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
It's because you chose that location that I think makes
this all weird again. It would be like you have
a party at Dave and Busters and then the food
comes and all the kids start eating, and then you say, oh,
you have to pay for that, but wait, we're at
a party.

Speaker 1 (40:03):
I'm under the assumption that.

Speaker 3 (40:04):
Actually I went to a party like that about two
weeks ago and the kid was turning ten. And what
the parents did. They gave each of the kids, like say,
like twenty bucks worth of token to go play. They
didn't ask that money back. It was a part of
the party.

Speaker 1 (40:16):
Right, And and then beyond that.

Speaker 3 (40:19):
And then after they took the tickets out there, they
turned them there for whatever that they didn't ask for,
like the prize that they won and all that stuff back.

Speaker 1 (40:26):
No, it was a weird part. That's weird. And then
and then probably was like, dude, I spent like mad bread.
That's a lot of money. No, it is. That was
her choice. Why she thirty five per she had like
nine or ten kids. That's you. It's the you can't
have it at that spot and not yes or you do.

Speaker 2 (40:43):
And you in the card are like, hey, guys, we'd
love for you to come to our party at bild
a Bear. You can feel free to make your own
what you kind of have to put that. But that's
still weird.

Speaker 4 (40:53):
You got to say son, like, you know, let's all
come and build bears for my son.

Speaker 1 (40:57):
I'm going to put twenty dollars. Half those people ain't
showing up. The mom crazy if you like think about it.

Speaker 3 (41:04):
So she made a drive to build a bear and
then when the party was done, When that part was done, we.

Speaker 2 (41:08):
Attracted to the house that can wait too much for
transport the bear.

Speaker 1 (41:14):
I'm leaving off to build a bear with my bear.

Speaker 2 (41:19):
I wonder if anybody has a I went to a
kid party and there was a weird like thing that
happened where Because I'm telling you, people spend so much money.
Me being one, for Layla's first birthday, I had a
boozy brunch like I spent money for Daisy's first birthday.
There will be there will be money spent, but I'm

(41:41):
not ever going to ask anybody else for money, and
I'm certainly going to send them home with a party.
For you.

Speaker 3 (41:47):
There's a new thing now too, also to you have
to invite the entire class. You can just invite two
or three, you get invite everybody there.

Speaker 2 (41:52):
And I agree with that because I see videos of
these kids where they're bawling, crying because they're the only
kid in classes on invited. That's you can't do that, Chanelle.
I mean, this is this is crazy. You're gonna invite
everybody to a party at build a Bear and then
yank the bears from the little kid's grips.

Speaker 19 (42:13):
What absolutely, And then you're gonna be like the worst
mom of the year when they talk about you ask ooh,
how you stole the little kid's beers. Yes, that's their
takeaway present, like you know, the little gift bags you
give to go home the.

Speaker 1 (42:24):
Party favors, you know what.

Speaker 2 (42:25):
I keep thinking Chanelle too when she said at the end,
and now no one's come to the party next year,
like you ruined it for your daughter.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
And by the way, half.

Speaker 2 (42:32):
The party at build a bear and maybe say listen,
I can throw ten dollars towards each bear.

Speaker 1 (42:36):
Whatever it is. I don't care.

Speaker 2 (42:38):
But now this poor girl, everyone hates mom and they're
not gonna come to the party next year.

Speaker 19 (42:44):
But nowmn that they already brought the gift for the daughter.

Speaker 1 (42:48):
True, I didn't think about it. Oh my god, you're
so right. We didn't even you know, they all showed
up with a gift for the kid. You're so right. Wow,
she was just.

Speaker 19 (42:58):
Being selfish and one of them money go back to Harris.

Speaker 3 (43:01):
You got it.

Speaker 19 (43:02):
We're better when they come as a guest, you have
to serve them too.

Speaker 1 (43:05):
Yeah, thank you. That's so true. Wow, I can't even
think about that.

Speaker 2 (43:09):
No one's showing up empty handed to a party. They're
all gonna bring something, all right. Six one seven nine
three one one nine four five six one seven nine
three one one nine four five. I'm just getting into
this realm of my life. But what is going on
with these kids parties? Like?

Speaker 1 (43:23):
What are we doing out here?

Speaker 17 (43:24):
Hi?

Speaker 2 (43:25):
Everybody? Good morning. It's Ashley and the jam In Morning Show.
It's so funny. I had no idea that there was
such a conversation around kid's birthday parties. I just got
a DM from a girl and she's like, ash I'm
in a mom Facebook group and a very like a
common question that I'm seeing in there is I'm having
my kid's birthday party soon?

Speaker 1 (43:42):
Should I have food?

Speaker 2 (43:43):
She goes, Ashley, what who has a party invites people
doesn't have food? More recently, the woman goes, well, my
party's from one thirty to three thirty, so it's.

Speaker 1 (43:51):
After lunch and before dinner, so I shouldn't have to
have food. Excuse me? What you have to have food
at a part? Like you have to part?

Speaker 3 (44:00):
And I've been to them where they don't have anything,
and it is talked about.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
That is for sure.

Speaker 2 (44:04):
Obviously, you invite a bunch of little kids to build
a bear, You ask them to build a bear, say
here's thirty five bucks per bear. They build the bears,
and then you say, give me them their mind. What
Tina is in Brockton, Tina, this is this is a
little weird.

Speaker 20 (44:25):
I listen, I would leave the bear because of course
I got to be in the presence for the middle
one yup, thinking that my kids bring the bear back,
so I would leave it there, pick up my present
and come back home with.

Speaker 1 (44:40):
No but that that's so true.

Speaker 2 (44:42):
And and thank you to the woman who called him.
Was like Chanelle, She's like asked. They all brought present.
That is so true. No parent came their empty handed.
They all brought a gift. So of course you would
think that they were gonna be able to keep the bear.
You're right, fine, here's your bear. I'm taking my present.

Speaker 9 (44:55):
But again, all of this, all.

Speaker 2 (44:57):
Of this hunts the little kid though, And that's that's
why it's sad that mom did this.

Speaker 9 (45:02):
It does that is very sad, very sad.

Speaker 20 (45:04):
I brought my daughter knows she's twenty eight, so I'm
sure little I took her to build a bear.

Speaker 9 (45:09):
You know, Oh my gosh, she was crazy about that bear.
She came home like she was great, showing off to everybody.

Speaker 1 (45:17):
Yeah, because this this is not right. It's not Tina,
thank you for the call.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
Because they go to build a bear and they build
a bear for themselves, So she's not They're not picking
out Oh little miss Molly would like this on their bread.
Now they're picking out what they like. Zena or Zena
is in Cambridge.

Speaker 1 (45:32):
Yep, it's Xina Xena.

Speaker 9 (45:33):
So we did the same thing for my granddaughter. I
build a bed and she had about eight gaps.

Speaker 1 (45:38):
Oh, tell us everything. Okay, so how did you what
was the layout?

Speaker 12 (45:41):
So what they is they do a great job. So
they have all kind of activities and they pick out
what they want. My daughter let them pick out whatever
they wanted, and then afterwards she also made a reservation
who knows, and had the parents and the kids. She
had adult food and pizzas for the kids afterwards, and
everybody bought a gift. But nowadays if they notice that,
people are saying, don't bring gifts, excuse me.

Speaker 2 (46:04):
Well, first of let's let's go back. Did she pay
for everybody's bild of.

Speaker 1 (46:08):
Bear or did yeah?

Speaker 9 (46:09):
Yeah, pay for everything?

Speaker 1 (46:10):
Okay, and how many how many kids would you say
we're there?

Speaker 5 (46:14):
Hey?

Speaker 1 (46:14):
Wow? So that even if we're saying, like let's.

Speaker 2 (46:17):
Just say forty a bear, probably that okay, that that's
a lot of money. But again, like if you're having
your party there, I would I would do the same
thing your daughter did.

Speaker 8 (46:25):
It was worth it.

Speaker 12 (46:26):
We don't have to clean up, we don't have to
do any of that.

Speaker 9 (46:30):
You're really worth it.

Speaker 1 (46:31):
Yeah, I didn't think about that. That's actually a solid point.

Speaker 2 (46:34):
So then and then you go and you go to
who knows, and you guys eat there, and you obviously
go and you cover that bill because you invited people.

Speaker 9 (46:41):
Yeah, adult's got cocktails.

Speaker 1 (46:44):
Yeah, you covered everything.

Speaker 2 (46:45):
That's the only reason I'm going to parties these days.
But what is this narrative now they're saying don't bring
gifts for what?

Speaker 1 (46:50):
Why?

Speaker 18 (46:50):
Yeah?

Speaker 12 (46:51):
I noticed my daughter, my granddaughter, got invited to her
mother told me she got invited to three parties this
year and all of them said don't bring gifts.

Speaker 1 (46:58):
Okay, fine, I'm not good.

Speaker 4 (46:59):
I mean, yeah, okay, but that was probably because they're
footing the bill for everything. They probably like, we're gonna
cover everything for y'all. There's no need for y'all to
bring a gift. Just come enjoy it without without kids.

Speaker 1 (47:11):
I'm never know those gift me too.

Speaker 2 (47:14):
Hey, hey, you're never gonna hear those words come out
of this another's mouth bringing your gifts.

Speaker 1 (47:18):
Thanks for the call, like we change. Somebody got offended
with some gift and then they just band.

Speaker 4 (47:24):
It's probably that that little thing where it's like, oh,
everybody feels like maybe the kids started complaining, like, oh,
comes they get a gift and I don't birth.

Speaker 6 (47:32):
Yeah, it's not like shut up.

Speaker 2 (47:34):
My favorite thing is when and I do this all
the time, if the if the party is for a
kid that's like under a certain age, like they might
not need another firetruck. So I I always text the.

Speaker 1 (47:47):
Mom and be like, what do you need?

Speaker 2 (47:49):
And I love when people do that to me because
then we're not like doubling gifts or we're getting maybe
they need whatever.

Speaker 3 (47:54):
You know, two hours max. That's the length of the party.
Anything beyond that is hell because none of the parents
want to be.

Speaker 1 (48:00):
There, couldn't it.

Speaker 2 (48:01):
Yeah, well, it's a problem how the parties. There's no
I went to a party. I went to a party
over the weekend. It was a ten thirty to twelve
thirty perfect great.

Speaker 1 (48:10):
It was in the morning. I was I walked in
at ten thirty. No one's drinking, like, not even a mimosa.
I mean not everybody has a problem. So it wasn't
an alcoholic party. Yeah, it was a birthday.

Speaker 21 (48:24):
If you want an alcoholics Yeah, Like party sucks everything.

Speaker 5 (48:36):
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Speaker 7 (48:39):
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Speaker 1 (48:45):
Hi, everybody, good morning from Disney.

Speaker 2 (48:48):
Our last day year, son is like the last day
is always sad because I don't know about you. But
I start packing my bag and I get things ready
to go so for the flight the next you know,
whenever it is because a lot of people people, which
we're doing. You can sneak into a park for the
top half of the day and then take a flight
out that night, which makes the travel day even more exhausting,
but well worth it to get one more park time in. Uh.

(49:11):
But it's just if there's something about the last day,
it just makes you so sad. It also and this
is the Disney effect for and I'm not kidding you.
I'm already chatting with the fireman about Okay, so let's
wait until Daisy's two point five like we did with Layla,
and we have to come She no, of course, but
I want to wait. I want to wait till number
one that she's free, so she's still in the free zone, which.

Speaker 1 (49:31):
Is under three and then two and a half.

Speaker 2 (49:34):
I thought was just the perfect age for Laila where
she finally was starting to really understand and enjoy it.

Speaker 1 (49:39):
And so I'm already planning my next trip.

Speaker 2 (49:42):
Yeah, and that's why I'm trying to suck up to
every single person that we talked to.

Speaker 1 (49:46):
I'm sure, I'm so fake. I'm like, tell me everything
about your position here.

Speaker 3 (49:51):
I'm sure you can do a nice little trade for
maybe like ten Instagram posts you get a free trip back.

Speaker 1 (49:55):
Then just give me the link.

Speaker 4 (49:57):
Yeah, you have done a good job of selling this thing, right.
It's clean, it smells like freedom, it's the happiest place
on earth. But what's what's the most unexpected thing about
Disney that you've noticed?

Speaker 5 (50:09):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (50:09):
Good question.

Speaker 3 (50:11):
I've been here before many times, but I think this
is the first time where I really invested in the
food at the parks, and let me tell you, top
to bottom, you go into these places, the food is
really amazing. And I think, like sometimes you don't think
it can be because it's a major like theme park,
but the food here has been exceptional.

Speaker 1 (50:27):
Okay, So I don't know.

Speaker 2 (50:28):
If you meant that, And like, are you asking me
to give a negative because I could do. Yeah, I
mean listen, and I this is a this is a
dual answer here because I wouldn't necessarily say it's a negative,
but I don't think personally you can just free ball
it to Disney.

Speaker 1 (50:44):
True, Yes, that is true.

Speaker 2 (50:47):
All right, if you woke up tomorrow and you said,
I'm taking the boys to Disney and we're just gonna go,
We're just gonna check it out. We're gonna see it.
We're not gonna look up lightning lanes. We're not gonna,
you know, decide what's going on at each park. We're
not gonna see like wait times. We're just gonna hop
on rides and we're gonna maybe go to this restaurant
and oh, we heard there's really good cookies at Gideons.

Speaker 1 (51:08):
Maybe we'll see if we can get in the two
hour line.

Speaker 2 (51:10):
You can't maybe it to Disney, and I think that
turns a lot of people off, but it shouldn't.

Speaker 1 (51:14):
Just do a little bit of research and a little
bit of research here goes a long way.

Speaker 2 (51:19):
And I just like, I know people who have had
terrible experiences, but that's because they did that. They were like, oh,
they didn't plan. They did you got a plot to
come here. They're like, we'll just go and we'll see
you get on.

Speaker 1 (51:30):
Two rides a day.

Speaker 2 (51:31):
You there, I hit eighty five percent of the rides
at Magic Kingdom yesterday because I know what I'm doing
and how to do it. There are people who plan
people's Disney trips for a living. I just that that's
the one thing that I would advise to anybody, even
somebody that wins this trip, do your research and once
you get a hang of it, it's nothing this. I

(51:51):
could do it blindfolded. Now I know the parks by hand.
But yeah, I would say that would be for some
people that would be like, like, I remember we were
talking to aj about it.

Speaker 1 (52:00):
She goes.

Speaker 2 (52:01):
Listening to you guys talk about your Disney plans sometimes
is exhausting because it's a lot of work, and I
said it is, but once you're in there, it pays off.
Santi's wife and I had this whole conversation yesterday. There's
there's to me, no other way to do it.

Speaker 3 (52:13):
But that's also why utilize the app, because the app
will help you navigate all of this stuff. You can
work on scheduling, you can get the lightning lanes there,
and it helps you guide you down in the direction
of magicalness.

Speaker 2 (52:22):
It does, But that's why I say it could be
a negative because like my mother for example, like a boomer,
they're not going to be able to figure out that app.

Speaker 1 (52:28):
So I think, you know you need assistance, you need help,
but that that's a yeah, hire me DM me.

Speaker 2 (52:36):
But no, I that that would be the only thing
I could say about about coming here that you know,
what was your favorite thing that you've had to eat?
Because listen, well, I'm doing this today because I made
a mistake yesterday. I guess on TikTok a trending thing
to eat at Magic Kingdom.

Speaker 1 (52:52):
Is the cheeseburger spring rolls. Those did not know.

Speaker 2 (52:56):
That they existed. Found out about that yesterday. Somebody messaged
me on Instagram. Thank you to whoever you are. I
will be getting one of those today. I heard they're amazing.

Speaker 3 (53:04):
I want to play some Monday night called Tiffins Animal
and the food was amazing. I had fish and some rice,
but like all the flavors, it was international everywhere.

Speaker 1 (53:16):
Fish and some rice.

Speaker 9 (53:19):
That's what I'm.

Speaker 2 (53:21):
You know what I'm doing, hey, And i'd also that
was microwave. I'd also like to add in if you're
dieting it Didny, you can't easily do it.

Speaker 1 (53:34):
Head over to Animal get yourself a slab.

Speaker 3 (53:41):
Because the food was from Africa and it was amazing.

Speaker 13 (53:45):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (54:09):
Alright, ch'all we had to call it audible real quick
because Ashley and Schanta are caught up in an interview.
So you got DJ Forarren. I'm here to give away
Ashley's magical giveaway to one lucky listener. Hopefully you guys
have been staying up not only a social but also
on our podcast. But let's go with Amy from Fall River.
What's good, Mama? Congratulations you calling number twenty five?

Speaker 1 (54:32):
Amy? Can you hear us?

Speaker 9 (54:35):
Yes?

Speaker 4 (54:35):
Okay, Amy, congratulations once again, you calling number twenty five.

Speaker 1 (54:39):
How you doing? I'm good? All right, So are you
ready for the question?

Speaker 4 (54:45):
Yes, and I hope you've been listening because I get
a lot of dms when people get these messages wrong
and they're like, bro, they killing me. How do they
not know this answer? So here it goes, and you
got about five seconds to answer this question. Okay, okay,
good luck, Amy. So yesterday Santy and Ashley were excited,
especially Ashley to visit this park. I don't think actually

(55:06):
that had ever been there before, and I've seen on
social that she got trash smashed.

Speaker 1 (55:11):
Ashley came out all right.

Speaker 4 (55:13):
What was the park that Ashley and Santy visit at first? Yesterday?
Out at Disney Nah, No, I'm sorry, here's the answer
real quick.

Speaker 2 (55:29):
But our first stop today Epcot and Big Mama.

Speaker 1 (55:33):
Playing Mamasaya around the world.

Speaker 6 (55:37):
Why I might black out at Epcot?

Speaker 4 (55:40):
That was it, Amy, Sorry you lost that, but it's
all good. Thank you for calling. But which means that
we got an extra pair to give away. Now we
won't double up today we've been doing yesterday, we kind
of od. They had to talk to us in the
back and be like, yo, relax, if one person doesn't
get it on, let's just keep it pushing to the
next one night. So tomorrow right, AJ, We're gonna do
it again at A to one.

Speaker 1 (56:00):
All right.

Speaker 4 (56:01):
Uh, Like I said, Ashley and Sonto a caught up
in an interview, but they gonna be back on the
show in just a few I think they've wrapped that
up in about five minutes. Otherwise, you're ready on to
go if you want to win a magical trip out
to Disney on us.

Speaker 1 (56:13):
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Speaker 1 (56:31):
All right, everybody, let's check in with you. What's going on?

Speaker 2 (56:34):
How are we six one seven nine three one one
nine four five six one seven nine three one one
nine four five. You call me and we're talking about
anything you want. It's all about your life. Our Lenny
is in stow in. She's gonna start the check in
for us.

Speaker 14 (56:48):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (56:48):
Things are a little rocky right now between you and
the father of your children. So how long have you
guys been separated? What's the setup? Do they live with you?

Speaker 1 (56:58):
Like? Set set, set the scene for us.

Speaker 9 (57:01):
So basically I met him back in my space days
when I was like twelve, damn, and I know, and
we were We stayed together until I think I was
like twenty twenty one. But throughout that whole really like
throughout the whole relationship at the time, it was just toxic,
all types of toxic. I was just young. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (57:23):
Now, when you're saying relateships the red flat, he was
you guys were never married or anything like that.

Speaker 1 (57:28):
Oh no, okay, okay.

Speaker 9 (57:30):
So after I turned obviously twenty, I got like I
put my big girl pants on. I said, Okay, this
is not what I want. You know, my son is walking.
This guy has little chill about what he says about
my around my son. I got to just walk day.

Speaker 2 (57:51):
He made by the way timeline wise, you said you
had a one year old son around the age of twenty,
so you were really young.

Speaker 9 (57:58):
Yes, so I had my son acteventeen. Sorry, I had
him at seventeen.

Speaker 1 (58:02):
Yeah, wow, so you had a ground like that's crazy.
Seventeen is young.

Speaker 2 (58:05):
You have this this kid, You're like you automatically knew
after about a year's time with the baby, this is
not he's not going to be a good role model
for my son.

Speaker 9 (58:15):
Exactly. You couldn't say it anybody. That's what I said
to myself, because it's like, you date someone you want
your son to be like if that makes sense, Like
you don't want more, if you don't want your child
to be like the specific person, It's like, why are
you doing?

Speaker 1 (58:28):
What are we doing?

Speaker 9 (58:29):
What do you don't want your daughter dating this type
of guy? What are we doing here?

Speaker 1 (58:34):
Yeah?

Speaker 9 (58:34):
So that's the thing. When when I turned twenty twenty one,
a couple of years went by, he you know, tried
to get back with me at like twenty five. He tried,
and I kind of believe everything he was saying that
he changed or whatever, and we ended up getting back
together and we had another baby. She's a beautiful girl.

(58:59):
But it's like things have just got worse, Like he
kind of came in like, oh, you know, I love you,
I'm sorry, and now it's like you're this, you're that,
and it's like what happens overnight?

Speaker 2 (59:11):
M So, yeah, you let him back in, which you know, Okay,
we have a whole other baby.

Speaker 1 (59:18):
So now we have two kids with this.

Speaker 2 (59:20):
Man, and yeah, and do we feel like obviously you
felt like there was a little bit of change, and
I'm sure that's why you took him back and all
the things. And now he's kind of reverting back to
the initial reason why you left him exactly.

Speaker 22 (59:33):
And what I mean by changing, I've seeing him sober,
not drinking, not smoking, because I know I noticed back
in the days when he was drinking, he'll get very
angry then the next morning not remember what.

Speaker 9 (59:44):
He did or said, you know, and that physically and
mentally destroyed me. And he wouldn't understand because he's a man.
He's like, oh you she got over it.

Speaker 8 (59:51):
She's a woman.

Speaker 9 (59:52):
And I don't like that type of mindset.

Speaker 2 (59:54):
So where are you guys at today? Like you don't
live with each other, you live with each other?

Speaker 9 (59:59):
Like what's not Yeah, we don't live with each other.
That like, yes, so we don't live with each other.
Went out together, and he just won't kind of like
co parent in a healthy way. It's like he was,
you won't talk to me. It's either work together or
he just don't want to talk to me at all.
And I think that's just a sick mindset because at
the end of the day, it's the kids now, and

(01:00:20):
I feel like the kids shouldn't know if you don't
like their mother. I believe in that old school love.

Speaker 1 (01:00:26):
Whatever we go.

Speaker 9 (01:00:27):
Through, our kids don't need enough period.

Speaker 2 (01:00:28):
Yeah, yeah, I agree on that, and that's honestly the
way I was raised. My parents were divorced, but until
I was of age, they were best friends. In my eyes,
they just weren't together anymore and they co parented. And
you know, I would agree with you on that, but
that has to be and I know foreign that's kind
of that was your mindset, but both parties have to

(01:00:49):
agree to that. So if he's not, then now are
you comfortable, like does he take the kids by himself?
Are you comfortable with that dose? You mentioned the drinking
and stuff.

Speaker 9 (01:00:59):
So I'm not comfortable because of my personal reasons. It's
been like the family co signed him with his behavior.
That's what makes it even worse. These are not people like,
oh you're wrong, They're like, okay, you know, it is
what it is. So it makes me not like I
don't feel comfortable around like my kids being around like

(01:01:22):
the family and stuff, because like when I'm telling you,
when they get lit, they're like punching each other doing
all types of stuff, and I don't want my kids
around gettleness. Not that I'm being petty, but it's like,
I'm trying to protect my kids.

Speaker 1 (01:01:34):
So what do they see him then? Under your supervision
or how are you guys handling that?

Speaker 9 (01:01:39):
So I so I offered him that, but it's like
when he's around me, he's just saying a bunch of
stuff and the kids are there, so I'm like, Okay,
this is not going to work out. So that's where
I'm stuck at right now, Like he's not respecting me,
I don't really talk to any of the family, and
it's deep like that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:57):
So I'm like, fuck, yeah, and how old are the kids?

Speaker 9 (01:02:01):
Eleven and ten months?

Speaker 4 (01:02:04):
Yeah, that's I mean, it's a hard leg to have
because unless he's physically abusing them, or mentally abusing them,
or even verbally abusing them to the extent where they
feel like, oh nah, you can't be around him. You
can't really stop him from you know, taking the kids
and going to the like you said, ghetto house.

Speaker 1 (01:02:21):
You get what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:02:22):
So if everybody over there is like rowdy and however,
you may not like it, but do you really have
a legal leg to stand on to be like nah,
I don't want him to take my kids because I
don't feel safe. There has to be a safety concern.
Just because they loud and obnoxious isn't safety concern?

Speaker 9 (01:02:37):
No, no, no, So there's been like other stuff is
just I'm on lie, So I don't want to go.
Yeah yeah, so things have gone like that route not
safety like were I don't feel safe, and I feel
like if I'm not safe, why should my kids be
around that.

Speaker 2 (01:02:53):
I just listen, you and I both have babies around
the same age, and I can't picture a day where
Daisy doesn't see her dad. And I know that you
want there to be that relationship. He deserves for there
to be that relationship. I don't know how you guys
come to that, but I think that is of the
utmost important for the kids, and especially for an eleven

(01:03:13):
year old boy, like he needs dad, you know. And
so I don't know how you guys come to that,
and you guys figure that out. But it doesn't seem
like he's making it easy for you mom and that
at all, because.

Speaker 9 (01:03:24):
It's like, yeah, like I let him, you know, with
the kids, I've allowed it, but it's like it seems
like he's more focused on my personal life honestly, and
it's like it's a not an end in story, and
it's like I want him to be there. I want
him to see the kids, but then I want to
ask her.

Speaker 2 (01:03:40):
I want to see for And if you ever, like,
did you ever go through that when you and your ex,
like when you guys first decided to split and you
guys were trying to figure it, like, did you have
to have a conversation like, Hey, I'm I'm not going
to ask you about what you're doing in your personal life.

Speaker 1 (01:03:52):
Because I could see whey that would be a hot button,
you know.

Speaker 4 (01:03:55):
But I don't know if it was really a conversation.
Maybe it came up in argument. But that's the understanding though,
you know what I mean, anyone's business. Yes, we're going
on separate ways. What you do on your side and
what I do on my side of two different things. Now,
if you've got a toxic partner or something like that,
or a toxic egg and they stop coming at you
the way you know old boys coming at you, then
it's different. But you have a ground to stand on.

(01:04:17):
I understand in the moment it doesn't seem that way.
It's easy for us to talk about it from the outside,
but you got grounds to stand on and ways to
be able to make that happen.

Speaker 1 (01:04:24):
R Lenny.

Speaker 2 (01:04:25):
I feel like when we first started this combo, you
kind of insinuated he still wants to be back with you,
and I think that we need we need to squash
that first and foremost, like that's that's not the future
for you, guys. But that's okay. You can still be
really good parents. Man, you have a literal baby in
the house.

Speaker 1 (01:04:41):
You know it can happen. It's gonna take a lot
of work.

Speaker 9 (01:04:44):
No, And I agree, and that's what I told him.
But he has this mindset like ask this girl I
don't want to talk to. But he texted that to
my son's phone. So that's where those toxic comes, Like
why are you texting our son that you.

Speaker 1 (01:04:58):
Hate me and even here because he's better. That's that's
a loser's he's heard.

Speaker 4 (01:05:04):
He figures the way to get to you to is
to hurt you. To get through your kids. You got
to sit your kids down and be like, listen, pop,
you know what I mean. This is what's going on
with me and your dad. And you know he may
say some mean things and you know that. Don't take
it to heart. You know I'm I'm and you show
them the opposite side of love. You get what I'm saying,
don't stoop down to his don't ever.

Speaker 6 (01:05:22):
Talk bigger person sucks so much God, and you have
to do it letting it.

Speaker 1 (01:05:27):
I know, And I hate it for you because it
was terrible. Sometimes it's just not easy. But you you
have like you got it.

Speaker 4 (01:05:33):
It's just eventually will get there because these kids are
going to become teens and then they're going to become
adults and they'll they'll see for themselves. Right now, it's
so impressionable that you know Dad is trying to make it.
Trust me, you do not got to defend nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:05:46):
He says.

Speaker 4 (01:05:47):
Kids know a lot more than we think they do.
I learned that by experience, and as they get older,
they'll realize, Yo. Dad is always the one with negative
and Mom is all those one who's positive. We see
what side of the scale that this is on.

Speaker 2 (01:05:58):
And I just want to take a second to to
say like, and I don't want to. It's gonna make
me emotional just to say it. You have a ten
month old like that that should really be highlighted here.
I know how much work that is. You can't look
away for a second. You're doing all of this with
no help, and you just want him to be a
part of it, and that that's that's also like a
whole added layer to this too. So I really hope

(01:06:20):
for your sake you can you got you know, he
can figure this out, because doing that by yourself is
that's a lot.

Speaker 6 (01:06:27):
That is a lot.

Speaker 9 (01:06:28):
And then to make it worse, he lives fifteen minutes
from me, and I've been doing this on my own,
you know.

Speaker 1 (01:06:33):
So I mean, that's born. That's crazy. That good.

Speaker 4 (01:06:37):
He's a bully and you got to ignore the bully.
That's really what you got to do at the end
of the day. I know it's hard, I know it's tough. Again,
talk to your kids, but don't react to everything he does,
because then he knows he's getting under your skin, and
that's what he's thriving for the moment you start.

Speaker 9 (01:06:50):
I got a question for you guys. Sorry, So if
if you guys, because you know this system is all
messed up, you know, the court system, this whole this
whole family courts, all that stuff. I did conversate with
a couple people they you know, looked in the background
and they honestly felt like supervised visits is like the

(01:07:12):
best way, you know, if things have gotten physical with
the mother in the past, Like that's what they recommend,
And what would you guys suggest.

Speaker 1 (01:07:22):
Yeah, I mean, I'll give it to you. Two ways.

Speaker 4 (01:07:25):
You've got to protect your kids, okay, But there is
a thing about involving the government in your family. They
will be in every nook and cranny of your business.
A lot of people don't like to go that way
because that's that's the feeling. But if you're genuinely like,
if there's really a problem and a safety for concern
for your children, you as a mother got to do

(01:07:45):
what you got to do to protect yourself and your children.

Speaker 1 (01:07:48):
I just don't know if necessarily we can answer that
for you. We're not there.

Speaker 2 (01:07:52):
That's a gut decision that you got to make for yourself.
Like you know, it's like a mom can understand every
kid has different types of right, but only the actual
mother can decipher through the cries. I think that's the
same kind of sentiment here. We're not there, we don't
know what it is. We can only give you our
outside opinion. You're in there. You got to trust your gut.

(01:08:12):
No one's going to know better.

Speaker 9 (01:08:13):
Than you, ay man. So that and I appreciate that.
And I should have said, like an opinion, because no
one can decide for life.

Speaker 2 (01:08:22):
Yeah, and listen, honestly, I could just tell you just
wanted to call invent and get this off your chest.

Speaker 1 (01:08:26):
So I'm glad you did.

Speaker 2 (01:08:27):
I don't know if we helped it all, but I
know it probably feels good to at least be able
to talk about it.

Speaker 1 (01:08:31):
So the best of luck.

Speaker 9 (01:08:32):
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (01:08:33):
I just want you to know I see you, and
I know how hard it is, and you know, just
keep putting those kids first.

Speaker 1 (01:08:39):
That's really all you can do.

Speaker 9 (01:08:41):
Okay, thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (01:08:42):
Good luck, good luck.

Speaker 3 (01:08:45):
To your point, I feel like she's already said the
words like that guy is telling her exactly what to do.

Speaker 2 (01:08:50):
Yeah, And I think again, if it's a tough situation,
if he still wants to be with her, and now
he's coming in, who are you with texting the eleven
year old talking to oh, I hate your mother, that's
like legit diabolical.

Speaker 3 (01:09:02):
But then also she's already gone through the steps of
talking to somebody through the courts and all that stuff.

Speaker 1 (01:09:05):
I feel like she knows what she needs to do
for her kids.

Speaker 3 (01:09:08):
Yeah, it's you know, hesitation, and I understand it must
be impossible for you.

Speaker 5 (01:09:12):
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Speaker 7 (01:09:17):
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Speaker 1 (01:09:23):
Hi, everybody, good morning. We're coming up.

Speaker 2 (01:09:31):
We're two days away from the anniversary of Drake, my dog,
going to dog Heaven. And I mentioned this because I
really I know there are other people who feel the
same way as me, and I I hate even talking
about this because it I feel so bad. Obviously, Drake

(01:09:56):
is in heaven. So now at the house, it's Teddy
and the fireman.

Speaker 1 (01:10:00):
Dog that doesn't a name.

Speaker 6 (01:10:02):
Well, it's not my dog.

Speaker 2 (01:10:04):
So my relationship with Teddy has changed so drastically, and
if when I really start to think about it, I
get emotional and I feel because I feel like, okay,
I kind of start to hate myself, and I think
anybody else who's in the situation that I'm in right now,
where you it's like trench time, like you're in the dunches.

(01:10:25):
I mean, I have an eight month old baby and
I have a three year old. So when I get
home and it's time for people's like to get attention
from me, I'm I'm on the bottom of the list,
And so the dog is also down there on the
on the bottom of the list. And little things that

(01:10:46):
the dog used to do that I used to think
were like funny and cute now send me.

Speaker 1 (01:10:51):
To the moon to like okay, like okay.

Speaker 2 (01:10:54):
For example, he has this thing where he likes to
pick up a ball, yeah, and drop it at the
top of the steps. It hits every step and goes
down okay, Like he used to do this, and.

Speaker 1 (01:11:07):
I used to crack up. I used to in Dorchester.
I thought it was hlarious.

Speaker 2 (01:11:13):
Yeah, because he likes to eat a tennis ball while
he eats his food.

Speaker 1 (01:11:15):
It's very strange. But now.

Speaker 2 (01:11:20):
He picked up that ball yesterday and I looked at
him and I said, you're not going to do it
because I can't.

Speaker 1 (01:11:24):
I'm not dealing with I was so like, I'm just.

Speaker 2 (01:11:28):
Being touched and grabbed and somebody needs something all the time.
And you know, whereas I think about this often about
how my life on the weekends used to be at
what dog park are we going to? Like, I'm hungover
I'm waking up at nine am, ten am. I'm on
DJ Jewels time. Okay, I'm sleeping in. I'm living life.
I don't have any priorities and other than the dogs,

(01:11:49):
you know. And so I saw this, this girl post
this meme and she's like she's panning her house and
she's like, this isn't setting me off. And it's her
kid like coloring on the walls. And she's like, this
isn't setting off. And it's her other kid like throwing
eggs at the wall. She's like, this is and it's
the dog just.

Speaker 1 (01:12:05):
Staring at her.

Speaker 2 (01:12:05):
It's so true, like any small thing that the dog
does now drives me mental, and it's I hate it.
I hate myself. I have had to take a step back.
This was like last week and I said to myself,
every day, you need to give the dog five minutes.
You have to force yourself to add it in to
the schedule of the day and just sit down and

(01:12:27):
give him five minutes of pets and five minutes of
cuddles and five because if I don't force it on myself,
he just falls by the wayside because I like, I
don't have time for myself now, mind you it sounds
like I'm like not enjoying my life. I wouldn't change anything.
I am so blessed and I'm so lucky and I
but I do be feeling bad for that dog because

(01:12:48):
it's just our relationship isn't what it used to be.

Speaker 3 (01:12:50):
I think I can understand it, like you feel bad
for him and the dog not getting attention. But I
guess I don't get the and he makes you mad
when he looks at you type of things.

Speaker 1 (01:12:58):
And even like the dog's breathing and he's looking at
him like what, And the poor thing just wants your edu.
That's all he wants. That's all he wants. And it's
just it's just and like then.

Speaker 2 (01:13:11):
The baby is sleeping, God forbid, somebody rings the doorbell,
the dogs showing his teeth. You are a miniature golden doodle.
What are you gonna do? He's growling, he's barking, the
dogs waking up. Now I go to pee, I'm tripping
over him. He's he's following me.

Speaker 1 (01:13:28):
I'm rop I want to put him out for adoption.

Speaker 3 (01:13:33):
My favorite thing I've seen your dog do consistently is
when he's a dog on the TV and it barks
at it.

Speaker 1 (01:13:38):
It's so funny.

Speaker 2 (01:13:40):
Try try, try, try, trying to watch nineteen twenty three
on Sunday with the horses and the Lion. There's there's
a scene where there's a lion on the porch and
he's up. I can't even hear the talking between the
people because he's up at the screen.

Speaker 1 (01:13:57):
What do you you have a fluffy hair? What are
you gonna do to that lion?

Speaker 2 (01:14:02):
It's just I I hate admitting this and even hearing
myself talk like I want to slap my own self.
I get it, and I know people are listening like
you bitch, no, like you loved your like and I do.

Speaker 1 (01:14:13):
I love my dog.

Speaker 2 (01:14:14):
But it's just again, like my priorities, they have changed,
and the list of people getting attention. I said to
Santia the other day, Jewels, I'm like, the one thing
I do for myself during the day is go to
the gym.

Speaker 1 (01:14:26):
That's it.

Speaker 2 (01:14:27):
When I get home, like I my my time is
my kids and whatever we need to do with them,
that that's what we do.

Speaker 1 (01:14:33):
So that, like Teddy, I think it's a normal thing.

Speaker 3 (01:14:36):
My wife used to bring our dog to work, like
back in the day, like every single day. Then we
had four kids, and then the dog is now now
at the bottom. I think it's a natural thing and
it's okay.

Speaker 2 (01:14:45):
I remember my neighbor shout out to Nick when I lived.
This was like years and years and years ago. But
he would make fun of me because I was the
my dogs are my kids, like Drake and Teddy or
my I was single at the time, Like my life
revolved around them, four or five walks a day, We're
going to dog parks, Like every photo in my phone

(01:15:08):
is of the dogs.

Speaker 1 (01:15:08):
And he was like, wait till you get a boyfriend.

Speaker 2 (01:15:11):
Like he would like literally say like things like that,
Wait you get a boyfriend, Wait you get a husband,
Wait till you have kids. Like when you have kids,
your pictures on your phone aren't going to be of
your dogs. And I said, who are you talking to?
Like these are my Yes. I took a picture of
Teddy the other day. I almost cried because I was
like I hadn't taken one in like a week, two weeks,
three weeks.

Speaker 1 (01:15:31):
It's sad.

Speaker 3 (01:15:32):
Is there a world where you could just walk the
dog one to day and then that way there's the
attention there?

Speaker 2 (01:15:36):
Absolutely, we're going to get to that and I think
we'll get there. I just think get into this at
some point.

Speaker 1 (01:15:41):
Yeah, I just.

Speaker 2 (01:15:42):
Think this chapter of my life, like this isn't the
whole book, this is just the chapter. And you know
I I'm not, They're not. They're only going to be
this this little for a little bit of time, and
so that that's it. Like my attention is there because
I'd be looking at myself in the mirror sometimes and
it's hard find.

Speaker 1 (01:16:00):
What I see really like you's scary, just like massive
cast type level. I'm like, bitch, are you okay? But
I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:16:08):
I just don't have the time, Like, I just don't.
So that that's what it is. I will look like
a drug addict.

Speaker 8 (01:16:15):
You know.

Speaker 3 (01:16:15):
It's funny. At some point, you know you'll probably get
another dog, like down the road you say that, but
if your dog is you can start asking for a
dog acte, No, you can.

Speaker 1 (01:16:25):
You're never getting a dog yet. I don't believe you.
I'm telling you. People have have like.

Speaker 2 (01:16:31):
No, I've also come to the realization that I don't
like dogs. I like my own dogs, and that's it.

Speaker 1 (01:16:37):
I don't. I'm done like dogs. No, I don't, Yes,
you do, what do you mean? I don't. I really don't.

Speaker 3 (01:16:42):
I just don't point it was going to be that
when you do eventually get like another dog, it comes
into like the situation. They come into the situation with
kids already there, so like they're pecking like order. They
understand it, and your your your whole relationship with them
is from that perspect them. It's not going from one
to five. What did you just say when you.

Speaker 1 (01:17:04):
Bring a dog? I want to understand, but I'm confused.

Speaker 3 (01:17:06):
So when you eventually get like another dog, right, you're
bringing them into like a family with kids in aweso,
so they understand their role in the pack before they
went from me in the top to the bottom.

Speaker 1 (01:17:17):
You're right, Okay, Now you have dogs.

Speaker 3 (01:17:19):
It's a different dynamic and you will like dogs again.
No I won't, Yes you will.

Speaker 1 (01:17:23):
It's done. I don't believe that you'll never get a dog.

Speaker 13 (01:17:25):
Yet.

Speaker 3 (01:17:25):
You know how many people have stated the same exact thing.
I'm never getting a dog again.

Speaker 2 (01:17:30):
To be honest, I feel like such trash that I
even told you guys these things, It admitted these things
that I would love. I'm just going to give the
number out and pray that one person I understand now
I just need one person to.

Speaker 1 (01:17:43):
Be like ash I get it.

Speaker 2 (01:17:46):
And if nobody calls, I'm I was gonna make a
bad joke, right, they're six one seven, I was gonna
say a Tobin thing six one seven nine, three one
four five. Please everybody, good morning, It's Ashley the Jam
of Morning Show. I feel like I've been holding this
in and I thought to myself, I'm gonna I'm gonna
admit this, and then people are gonna be like, she's

(01:18:06):
a horrible person, like and I listen, my dogs were
my life. They were my life and then I had kids,
and not that they're not a part of my life anymore,
but they're just not high on the priority list, and
it's making me feel bad. I have had to have
sit down combos with myself where I'm like, Okay, you
have to pencil in Teddy time where you at least

(01:18:29):
look at him and pet him, because if not, the
day will go by and I will not have had
a second of time with him. And I'm telling you, I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:18:38):
Done with dogs. This is it.

Speaker 2 (01:18:40):
When when Teddy goes to heaven, that is it for me.
I'm wrapping up in a bow my time with dogs.
I can't do it anymore. I can't.

Speaker 1 (01:18:48):
It'll be like a three year break. Then you'll get
another one.

Speaker 2 (01:18:50):
No, I won't, Katie is in Lynn, Katie, I said,
I just need one person to understand what I'm saying,
because I feel so awful even admitting it and saying it.
And thank god, hey there are others of us because
the phones are lighting up, but you get what.

Speaker 1 (01:19:06):
I'm saying right because I say it.

Speaker 2 (01:19:08):
It makes me literally feel like I should just just
walk right into the depths of hell.

Speaker 10 (01:19:13):
I feel the exact same. I have two dogs. So
I have an eight year old American bulldog Mex, who
was my first baby, and I made the mistake of
treating him like a human child his entire life, and
then when he turns by, we got another dog because
we didn't want him to be old and alone. So
now I have a three year old boss a Terrier,
and now I have a one year old and my

(01:19:34):
daughter is I mean, she's everything. So unfortunately my two
baby boys they are at the end of the list, like, yeah,
they're lucky if they get a walk once a week.

Speaker 1 (01:19:45):
I know, I know.

Speaker 2 (01:19:46):
And what's crazy is like a one year old, like
your hands are taken like physically, there's nothing you can do.

Speaker 1 (01:19:53):
Yeah, and yeah, it's.

Speaker 2 (01:19:55):
Like one of those things where it's like, Okay, we
could just put the TV on and you know, play
with the dogs a little bit, but then we feel
like bad parents for just putting on the TV and
not coming up with you know, like games and stuff.

Speaker 8 (01:20:08):
To do at the house.

Speaker 2 (01:20:08):
It's just it's a never ending cycle of just trying
to get through the day.

Speaker 8 (01:20:14):
I don't know, it really is.

Speaker 10 (01:20:16):
And then you feel so bad because it's like, you know,
you want to make time.

Speaker 14 (01:20:20):
For you, You want to make time.

Speaker 10 (01:20:21):
For your kids and let your dogs and then your husband.
It's like, I don't want to make time for anybody
about myself at this point.

Speaker 2 (01:20:25):
Yeah yeah, ok, and then Kittie, we feel guilty for that.

Speaker 1 (01:20:30):
It's crazy.

Speaker 2 (01:20:31):
Yeah, yeah, it's nuts. All right, Well, thank you, there's
more of us. Okay, Tiana is in New Bedford, Tiana.
It's just like, not only is the dog at the
bottom of the list, but also if the dog like
eats a kernel of food wrong, it sends me.

Speaker 1 (01:20:45):
I don't, I don't. It's just a lot right now, I.

Speaker 10 (01:20:49):
Know it makes you feel so guilty.

Speaker 13 (01:20:51):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:20:53):
No, it's it's it's terrible.

Speaker 2 (01:20:56):
I mean, and I, like I said, I'm telling myself
straight up, you got to you got to pet the
dog like you got to carve out dog time because if.

Speaker 10 (01:21:02):
Not, I know, maybe just including with the girls do
it all together.

Speaker 13 (01:21:08):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:21:09):
Yeah, well, thank you, thank you for the I know
there's no answer. There's there's no there's no answer, you know,
but Millie is in Boston. Millie, you get what I'm saying.

Speaker 14 (01:21:22):
Guys, good morning, good morning.

Speaker 1 (01:21:24):
Good morning. Thank god you guys are all calling.

Speaker 2 (01:21:26):
Or else I would be like, hey, let me run
to the bathroom and I would just go to backs
and cast and never come back.

Speaker 9 (01:21:30):
Oh but no, no, and what what sounthing said?

Speaker 14 (01:21:35):
Yes, when your kids grow up and they're like ten
twelve and they're not in need of you anymore, you're
gonna get on all the dogs.

Speaker 1 (01:21:43):
I'm not.

Speaker 13 (01:21:43):
I'm not Milli.

Speaker 1 (01:21:44):
It's nice of you to say, but I'm not.

Speaker 14 (01:21:47):
It gets to the point where you're neglecting yourself literally,
and like you're neglecting the dog as well. That's why,
because you don't have time for other than your children's
and you neglect your kids because they cry and they Mommy,
you all the time, but the dog does it.

Speaker 2 (01:22:04):
Yeah, that's true. I appreciate the call. I have to
go to Lisa real quick and fall river because I
know we're running out of time. But Lisa, like, you
get what Lisa says when the dog brees, No, you
get it's serious.

Speaker 1 (01:22:16):
It's serious.

Speaker 9 (01:22:18):
I get it.

Speaker 8 (01:22:19):
I get it.

Speaker 9 (01:22:20):
My kids are like, mom, just look at us. I'm like.

Speaker 1 (01:22:26):
You, I know, I know.

Speaker 2 (01:22:28):
The other day, Teddy was Teddy was licking his palls
and it was all I could hear. Like there was
eight hundred things happening in the house, but I could
hear that.

Speaker 1 (01:22:36):
I was like, I just like hear it.

Speaker 2 (01:22:38):
I'm at my I'm at my edge so bad, me.

Speaker 9 (01:22:42):
Too, you still so bad?

Speaker 19 (01:22:44):
But yeah, and then like you're trying to get out
the door and then they run the wet No, yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:22:50):
No mine, mine, don't trip me, min don't trip me
do Yeah no, I'm not Lisa, Thank you, thank you?

Speaker 1 (01:22:58):
So yeah, you know what I'm talking about. All right,
thanks babe. Yeah, no, I know I feel that we're
rushing off. We just have a lot of time. But
the amount of times like this I'll be.

Speaker 2 (01:23:08):
Just couldn't like I have to say, I just have
to be like, get in your bed and lean down
because mommy's gonna lose it.

Speaker 3 (01:23:17):
You could give your dog away. This farms in Vermont
apparently like taking dogs, so.

Speaker 2 (01:23:23):
You know what, you know, I think Teddy would get
her along with Chloe Dashy.

Speaker 5 (01:23:29):
And the jam In Morning Show with d J. Foreign
It's saw Morning.

Speaker 7 (01:23:33):
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or five.

Speaker 1 (01:23:38):
All right, babe, that is gonna do it for Ross.
We're getting up out of here.

Speaker 2 (01:23:41):
This is our last day here in Orlando, so tomorrow
we'll be back live in Medford.

Speaker 1 (01:23:45):
Foreign.

Speaker 6 (01:23:46):
What's the vibe in like without us physically in there.

Speaker 1 (01:23:48):
I mean the weather has been good. That's about the best.
That's it. Yeah, you know, because I'll take it. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:23:54):
I did hope that it was like twenty so that
way we could rub it. But it's not like it's
it's actually for you and I.

Speaker 1 (01:24:00):
That's balmy.

Speaker 2 (01:24:00):
By Speaking of the weather, it was fifty six degrees
this morning while we were waiting for the bus to
get over here, and he goes, I'll wait inside.

Speaker 1 (01:24:09):
It's chilly. I say, it's thirty two degrees at home.
Right now, like grow up, Yeah, I row, I am tropical.
I don't like the cold. It was cold though. No,
he's an idiot, all right, so on shoutouts, shout out.

Speaker 3 (01:24:21):
To me man hosting us, it's an amazing experience. And
let me just tell you about the lightning link. I
don't know if I could ever go back to waiting
lines because Lightning Lanes have changed my perspective on everything.

Speaker 2 (01:24:32):
I was telling you guys about being on Instagram and
people asking me questions. The number two, the biggest two
questions I get. Number one, Should I stay on property
and spend the thousands it's not my money, spend every dime.

Speaker 6 (01:24:43):
Should I buy the lightning lanes? There is no other
way to do Disney.

Speaker 2 (01:24:46):
If you're doing Disney, you know we're talking about spend
the money and it will. It will come back to
you tenfold DJ four and shoutouts Ashley.

Speaker 4 (01:24:54):
He's in the am. Check out the pod. Are we
giving away another trip tomorrow?

Speaker 1 (01:24:58):
Yes we are. We're back us more.

Speaker 4 (01:25:00):
Trips, So make sure you chout out the podcast so
we could get the answer to tomorrow's question. Otherwise I'm
back later on tonight at DJ The Number four EIG.

Speaker 2 (01:25:08):
I just want to also thank Disney, thank Jackie here
with Walt, Disney World, and everybody who's been a part
of this broadcast. I don't say this often, especially when
we do remotes. There's always an issue. This has been
fairly seamless this entire time that we've been here. And
we walked over to our table to do the show today,
there were hats, there were Mickey ears. They Disney has
really done right by us, and I couldn't be more appreciative.

(01:25:30):
I love Mickey and Minnie so much, Daisy as well,
the duck and the child.

Speaker 1 (01:25:34):
I miss you. Mom is coming home.