May 4, 2023 • 39 mins
Today, Doug Pike interviews Dr. Sushanth Aroor about stroke awareness and treatment. Pike also speaks with Dr. Nicole Simpson about her book "The Quiet Shift: Navigating Through the Emotional and Economic Impact of Aging Parents In the Family."
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Remember when it was impossible to misplacethe TV remote all right, because you
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Well? This show is all aboutyou on a good die. This
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And now fifty plus with Doug Pike. Welcome, one and all to the
Thursday edition of the program. I'mDoug Pike, Will Melbourne. We will
plod through this hour, hopefully entertainingand informing you along the way. I
have two good segments of information scheduled. In addition, as I mentioned yesterday
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to it being Mental Health Month mentalHealth Awareness Month, it also happens to
be Stroke Awareness Month. I guessI guess Will, that we just have
so many diseases and conditions that wecan't we can't neglect anybody, So we
just got we got to get themall. That's what we have to do,
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and that means we have to doubledown in some months and champion more
than one thing. So mental health, what health? Oh, it's national
It's also National password Day. Andfor the love of me, I don't
know why that's necessary for where.Let's retirement account. Yeah, let's start
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with the banking in sure, Let'sjust let's kick it off right there.
That's a good idea. Yeah,bea are five four nine, that's it,
very cool, nine six seven fivethree zero nine out I mess that
out as a separate podcast. Yeah, you do that. Yeah, that'll
get everybody all kinds of access toabsolutely nothing. All right, So I
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think we this generation of hours sorrywill not including you, excluding you,
are becoming increasingly identifiable actually as thelast bastion of common sense in this country.
A quick recap of the markets,oil and weather before I get into
that down down and good, whichin the middle case there down of the
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oil price is also good. Andthis is all from about an hour and
a half two hours ago, rightbefore I got the call from the school
letting me know that my son hada fever and had to be dragged home,
and realizing that my wife is otherwiseoccupied this morning, and she couldn't
go get him. So I justgrabbed my keys, and let's just say
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I made the trip from here tohis school, to the house, and
then back to here, taking analternate route back to here by the way,
because I noticed that fifty nine wasabsolutely jammed up and jacked up as
my son and I plotted homeward,so I had if I found an alternate
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route, took it, and Imade that whole loop. Will knows where
he goes to school. Well,you'll be impressed. I made it from
here to the school. And Idon't want to tell everybody where my son
goes to school. It doesn't matter. From here to the school to the
house, alternate route back to herein one hour and six minutes. Wow,
Yeah, that's what I said.That's what I said. The entire
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I really wasn't. It wasn't necessary. What I did get, though,
was very lucky. I hit allbut maybe two of the style lights I
had to navigate in that space,and most of it is pretty open road,
freeway, highway, whatever, Soit wasn't. It could have been
a lot worse. I had alreadyI told Will, I called, did
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I call you. I called youand told you what was going on.
Yeah, said, hey, man, you might want to have a best
of segment one. I think I'mI'm pretty sure I can be back for
seg two. And mostly I wantedto be back because I do have two
good interviews today. The first willbe with where Did It Go? I
want to put this one on thetop. The first would be it will
be with doctor Sushant Aroure, andwe are going to talk about stroke awareness
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and a lot on how to keepfrom having them. And then the second
most asked questions will reference how todeal with them if you get them,
and then we'll talk about protocols forrehab and whatnot. And then after that
we're going to talk to a womannamed doctor Nicole Simpson. She a certified
financial planner, a reverend, andhas all kinds of credentials that make her
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a good person to talk to,and she's written a book about it,
kind of about having those awkward conversationswe've talked about on this program many times
with parents or other older family friends, whatever, people for whom suddenly we
go from being cared for by themto needing to care for them. We'll
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deal with that. Two more stepswere taken by the left this week.
Actually probably about ten, but theseare the two most recent one steps that
are designed to do no more thanconfuse our young people and then use their
confusion to come riding in as theparty that has all the answers. And
if they just if our kids willjust listen to them and not us,
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which is increasingly the narrative, thenthey'll be they'll be better off in the
future. Vermont School District this pastweek announced that it was eliminating the terms
male and female, boy and girl, and they are replacing them in the
schools with person who produces sperm andperson who produces eggs. That is a
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two for one in liberalism. Itconfuses a heck out of kids. First,
who are they're gonna just become morereliant on their teachers to show them
the light because that's where they're hearingall this. It also actually is a
three for one because it also enforcesthe the the indoctrination that are that their
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parents don't know anything and their parentsare not in working in their favor.
When when I try to tell myson, no you're a boy, No
you're you're a young man, oh, well, a teacher doesn't say that.
And then the third thing is thatit brings sexual talk into the classrooms
in some cases, depending on wherethey're going to launch all this hullabaloo inappropriately
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early, I think. And bythe way, it's a dangerous attack on
kids, and whatever adults are leftin this world need to speak up.
Really, And what about the littleboy who hadn't even started puberty yet,
by the way, he's gonna learnit. He doesn't produce either one,
So what type of person is he? What are they gonna do for him?
It's it's gonna be so confused.Hitler convinced children to turn on their
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own parents. This is Stalin esqueStalin, same kind of stuff. What
they do is they they knew andthey took full advantage of the fact that
if you control the children, youultimately control the society. And that's I
think what's happening here. And it'sa very frightening thing. It's a long
term thing. It doesn't happen overnight. Look back to any regime in which
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this happened, and you'll see thatit took not an hour and a half.
It took six to eight, ten, fifteen, twenty years to get
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plus with Doug Pike. Well,I'm nodding off that needs something more upbeat
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from you. This is lunchtime,it's not nighttime. You don't need to
play a lullaby. You've never heardof a nap after a big meal.
Yeah, but I haven't had thebig meal yet. Welcome back to fifty
plus and a very very busy monthfor health related awareness. As I mentioned
a little while ago. In additionto being thank you, will please take
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that down all the way down MentalHealth Awareness Month also Stroke Awareness Month.
Every forty seconds someone in this countryhas a stroke, and every three and
a half minutes someone dies from astroke. In just the past few months,
I have actually known three people whosuffered strokes. Two of them survived
and are actually doing quite well.The third our former garden Line host Randy
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Lemon, did not win that battleto explain strokes and how to avoid having
them out. Welcome doctor Sashantha Or, Assistant Professor in the Department of Neurology
with McGovern Medical School at UT Houston. Welcome to fifty plus. Doctor.
Thank you, Doug God, it'sgreat to be on your show. Appreciate
it. I really do appreciate yourtime. So in layman's terms, how
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how do you guys define stroke?So, a stroke, we basically mean
in the condition where which affects theblood vessel that's applying our brain. So
most often it is due to aclot that up starts slow to the brain.
But at times it can also bedue to a rupture the blood vessel
in the brain. It's like aheart attack, but it's now it affects
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the brain. So the symptoms aregoing to be different. Okay, so
and clearly different outcomes for everybody's stroke. Are there different types of strokes?
Yeah, so in addition to youknow, like I mentioned, there's the
ischemic stroke, which is due toa blood clot that blocks off a blood
vessel. But then you also havethe bleeding type of stroke, where it's
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because it's due to erupture of ablood vessel. So essentially too much blood
or too little blood. Yes,okay, aside from the usual suspects,
which would be I've I've got smoking, diabetes, high cholesterol, what else
can raise the risk of stroke?Well, I mean high blood pressure is
probably one more of that. Ithink that's probably the number one. And
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then of course, you know,high cholesterol, diabetes, smoking. I
think these are still the foremost common, just like you have for heart attacks.
Now there are other conditions but muchrarer, but like for example,
a history of having blood clots oryour blood is very thick, or for
example a condition and as we getolder it's called atrefibrillation where the heart is
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not does not beat at a regularrhythm. Right, So these are some
of the things that can put yourat risk for stroke. But I think
the four main ones that we canactually change that we can reduce ourselves as
probably high blood RISU or cholesterol,diabetes, and smoking and lay off the
smokes. Yeah. Absolutely, Sowhen someone does have a stroke, is
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it's still true that a speedy responsegreatly improves the outcome. Absolutely? In
fact, you know it's it's probablythe we have this short window where we
can actually help reverse the deficits fromthe stroke. We're able to remove the
clot fast enough, or we're ableto give medications or blood pressure medications that
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can if it's a bleeding type ofstroke, we can do things to help
you reduce the expansion of the stroke. But this is all Yeah, the
faster we're able to do it,the more brain we can save. So
from the time oh my gosh,I'm having a stroke, bam, start
to stop, watch how much timeis ideal for the minimum problems? So
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I think, again, it dependson the size of the stroke. Okay,
but we've seen that. You know, if you if the response is
within one hour, there's almost there'sa greater than fifty percent chance that you
can have a really good outcome.So that number comes down as the time
goes on. So you know,for the clotbuster, we generally see about
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four and a half hours. There'salso a procedure. If it's a large
clot, then there's a procedure calledthrombectomy, which is fancy medical terminology for
removing the blood clot. We usuallydo that using a catheter that goes through
one of our arteries, either throughthe growing or in the hand, and
it goes all the way up tothe brain and we are able to pull
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the clot out. And so thatwe have we can potentially have a little
bit longer of a time, butagain the faster we do it, the
better the outcome. All this stuffyou guys can do today that you couldn't
do twenty years ago, it's justso fast exactly, it's Yeah. In
fact, you g Houston was Ithink one of the centers that was in
the initial trial that came up withthe clockbuster. Wou prove the clockbuster worked?
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Yeah, well, I'm so gladit was here and not halfway around
the world because I can't get therein an hour. So if we recognize
a stroke in ourselves or some way, if we're trying to recognize it so
that we might do this better,what are the typical physical symptoms that raise
just immediate red flags. So Ithink the mnemonic right now that's probably the
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easiest to remember that covers most ofthe stroke symptoms is be fast, So
it's a it used to be fast, but then we realize the balance any
vision also are common stroke symptoms thataffect the back part of the brain.
So right now we're you know,we're promoting be fast. B is balanced,
not onst loss of balance or difficultywalking. E stands for eyes,
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so either sudden loss of vision inan eye or double vision face as in
facial droop, A as an armdrift or arm weakness or even leg weakness.
And then M S is for speech, which means either difficulty thinking of
words or getting words out, orsometimes it's just slurts speech. And then
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the T stands for time to callnine one one, because that's the appropriate
response. Now headache is another one, like a sudden onset worst headache of
your life, can be a signfor a bleeding type of stroke as well.
There's just really no place to putan age though here. I just
noticed this when I wrote down befast. If you guys can come up
with an R another A in aK, we can call it fist.
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That's hilarious, a little little medicalhumor work on that, will you?
I don't know what they'll babe.Doctors has shot the roar on fifty plus.
If someone else we suspect is havinga stroke, we've we've gone down
the checklist and two or three ofthese things are jumping off the page at
us. We call nine one one, and then what can we do in
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the meantime until somebody gets there?Anything? Not? Really, I think
you just have to wait and justyou know, be there with a patient
because you don't want to give aspirinlike we do the heart attacks, because
if it is a bleeding broke,we won't really know until we get the
cast scan. So that's why wejust have to, you know, just
make sure they're you know, checkon their breathing, and then just make
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sure be there when the ambulance getsthere, and possibly try to get a
little bit more history to see ifthey're on any blood calls or anything.
Yeah, so I think that thatwill be additional information that will be help
and it and along the same line, if it's me, if I'm sitting
in a hotel room somewhere just camein from fishing, I don't feel really
good, the first thing I'll dois unlocked the hotel or the door,
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and the second thing I've made myphone call. I'm unlocking the door.
And I guess while I still haveany wits about me, I should start
writing down any of those meds orsomething like that. Right, Um,
yeah, I guess. I meanthat's a stretching, I don't. I
think the first response still should becalling and maybe you can give that information
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to the person the phone operator.I thought of that as I said it,
and I felt really stupid saying writeit down. Okay, so we're
believing or not, we're very closeto out of time, So optimum outcomes
what what percentage of people recover wellfrom strokes these days? I would say
it's uh again where he's from,the type of stroke, in the size
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of the stroke. But we stillwe're having a lot more better outcomes than
before. I would say at leastabout half of our patients have good outcomes,
or a little more than that.I'm glad to hear that. Yeah.
Yeah, especially after like three monthsof physical therapy. That's probably the
time point where we see most ofthe recovery after a stroke. You know,
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the fact that somebody can recover evenif it takes three months, six
months, whatever it takes. That'sreally good. Thank you so much for
your time, doctor sisht Arore onfifty plus talking about strokes here. That
was really good information. Thank youso much. Well, thank you so
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little break here. When we comeback, we'll talk about navigating the unavoidable
steps we all have to make asour parents, or or even ourselves I
guess shift from healthy and strong andprosperous to increasingly older and more dependent.
We'll be back now. They suredon't make them like they used to.
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That's why every few months we washthem, check his fluids and spring on
a fresh cut a wax. Thisis fifty plus with Doug. He sounds
hurt. He stepped on something,not in something on something. Welcome back
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at fifty plus. I'm Dougie's will. On this cloudy but relatively dry Thursday
afternoon, we'll turning this segment tothe segment not sigment good Heavens, to
the unavoidable transition at some point inour lives, presuming nothing kills us first.
This inescapable transition from someone who caresfor the family to someone for whom
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the family cares. I experienced thatwith my own mother, whose decline was
relatively slow and sometimes painful for her. She'd been such a strong woman,
and then one day she kind ofneeded my help more than I needed hers.
To help all of us navigate thatstage of life for ourselves or family
members, I'm gonna bring in doctorNicole Simpson, co author with Sharon Stamford
of The Quiet Shift. Welcome aboard. Thank you so much Doug for having
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me today. It is a pleasureto be with you. I'm glad.
I'm glad to get your time likethis. As a writer myself, I'm
always curious as to what inspires aparticular book. What launched Quiet Shift?
I'm glad you question. I wasobserving throughout my beginning stages of my career,
families that had acquired some minimum levelof wealth and then that major asset
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that they had did not transfer intothe next generation until the houses were being
lost to foreclosure. So that wasmy issue level of interest, seeing families
working hard, earning every day andthen the children not being the ultimate benefactors.
But douga, I must admit,I am a word trade center survivor,
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and so my life altered after thefirst decade. I've been in this
industry for thirty years, and Idealt with trauma and recovery from a different
length until much like you just expressedexperience and what you went through with your
mother, it resonated again with mewhen my mother was unexpectedly diagnosed with stage
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four pancreatic cancers. So that whichI had observed, you know, financially,
I began to see it from theemotional aspect because she was relatively young
when that happened, and I sawthe need to really begin to address it
on a broader scale. I hadbeen dealing with it with my clientele over
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the years, but on a broaderscale so that real families couldn't know what
it is that we're getting into.I will say one other thing. Baby
boomers are probably the generation that hasthe potential of the opportunity to transfer the
greatest level of wealth to the nextgeneration. But we have this thing where
parents are getting older, living longer, but have been planned for the unknown
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or the slow demise, and howthat can impact your sources that you may
have, and so any area inwhich we can preserve that so that one
kid maintained legacy, I thought itwas important to write about it. It's
interesting that you draw that parallel toyour mom and my mom and how it
sparked us to That's exactly what startedfifty plus eight and a half years ago
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was a decline of my mom onthe whole. Since it is being discussed
at least more openly in recent years, would you say more people are talking
about living arrangements and finances and endof life decisions with their adult children now,
Not as much as I would like, anticipating that it would change a
little bit more. I think it'sa very hard conversation. It's a very
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hard conversation to have. And nowthat we see the baby boon was coming
of age where they need the supportof assistance from their children. You know
what I'm experiencing both as I hearstories and share stories that they're still not
inclined to say exactly where they're standingfrom a health perspective or where they're standing
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from a financial perspective. And Ithink that we've grown up that way.
We are parents were not accustomed toreleasing some level of control, so to
speak, so that their children couldbest care for and manage it with a
level of dignity, so that theparents can age gracefully. Yeah, as
a kid, you always grow upthinking mom and dad are fine. I'm
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so glad because that's what we seeas children, that our parents are.
They're the foundation, they're the rock. They're gonna be okay. And then
all of a sudden you have thatawkward conversation and you realize that mom and
dad weren't saving any money, andnow you feel some obligation to them,
and it's so awkward. Do youhave if that conversation gets started? Do
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you have any approach for if weget shut down the first time we bring
it up? After you go,you know, mom and dad, maybe
we should talk about this, andthey just kind of dismiss it and walk
away. How do you get backin there and rekindle that. I think
that's an excellent question. I thinksometimes opportunities will present themselves. People that
are loved ones and close to youmay experience this level of deterioration physically,
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and so when you can associate itto a disinterested third party that both of
you may know, to a perfectopportunity to invite someone to say, well,
hey, mom, dad, howwould you like to be cared for?
You know? I find that tobe extremely helpful. I also think
that the direct approach is very importantto just you know, continue to be
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persistent and ask pointed questions, becausethe pointed questions really makes a parent begin
to think about those things or ifyou you know, were deteriorated and the
help how would you like to becareful? Do you want to stay in
the house? And that oftentimes mayfeel overwhelming to the parents, But if
the children are the ones that arecaring, the adults children are the ones
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that are caring, you have tocome to some level of consensus. The
other notion that you know, oropportunity that arises is when you see,
as you've identified, you saw yourselfcaring for your mother, then she had
historically cared for you at this stageof the relationship, but it is at
those moments that you have an opportunity. Well, Mom, I'm taking on
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a lot. Dad, I'm takingon a lot right now, and so
there's some important things that I needto know so that I know how to
manage and help you as best Ican. And so maybe we should have
a conversation. The final moment Ithink is important because as I indicated,
I've been a financial planet for thirtyyears, for twenty and in the industry
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for thirty years. Adult children shouldbe planning their own lives. That there's
some great way of saying it is, Hey, I've spoken to my financial
advisor, and you know, we'venever had this conversation before. What would
you like me to know at thisstage of your life? And so it
may minimize to a degree the levelof angstead apparent may may or may not
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have. Yeah, I like thata lot. And you mentioned something earlier
about having a third party, maybea disinterested, well relatively interested a financial
planner such as yourself, involved inthe conversation. And I think that's a
fantastic idea on two levels. Numberone, you bring expertise in number two,
I've done too many stories over theyears on this show about elder abuse
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and if somebody, if an olderperson picks the wrong family member, everybody
else might wind up with nothing.I like that, I really do.
What what percentage of adults would youthink? Now we got about a minute
and a half. Unfortunately we're justgoing so fast. What percentage of older
adults you think are really counting ontheir kids to provide financial support? I
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would, unfortunately say the majority ashigh as sixty five seventy percent. And
to think that it's that high ofa number, long term care planet has
not been a consideration for most individuals, and most people believe that certain things
like Medicaid or Medicare will take careof the end of life needs, and
it really doesn't. So they're shockedingto having to deal with this situation.
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So I'm glad that there are showslike yours that are able to address this
consistently. As long as they'll letme sit behind this microphone, I'll continue
to do. I can assure youI like what I've read so far in
the book, doctor Nicole Simpson.I especially like the size of the font
you guys chose, no readers necessary. If anybody buys the book, holy
cow, I open that thing upand wow, This is awesome. It's
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kind of the reversion to when wewere in elementary school and all the print
was so big so we could readthem. Yeah. I like that though.
It's just the perfect size. Idon't have to reach from our reading
glasses and everything I've read so far, it has really impressed me. Thank
you so much, you and SharonStanford for writing The Quiet Shift. Wherever
fine books are sold, presume itis. Thank you so very much.
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I appreciate that, and that wasme understanding my target marketing. Thank you,
Yes, you did. Thank youso much. All Right, we'll
move on from here. Oh mygoodness, that was great. I really
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If it's not in your HB,then let me know and I'll make
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sure that the owner of the companygets it into your HGB. And he
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I think a lot of the stainsthat he's created may still be covered up
by p a furniture, maybe bysomething he's pushed into a corner that wasn't
there before, because all of asudden he had some fruit punch up there.
Or he used to drink all kindsof colorful drinks, and I'd see
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Okay, well, I think thatsounds like a good plan. Fifty
plus continues. Here's more with Doug. It was a beautiful agen sun deep
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Tenda. The radio on yea,well not if the car manufacturers have anything
to say about that, right AMradio. I don't know what is it
four or five manufacturers talking about,and I think actually doing it ditching AM
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radio in automobiles, which is ahorrible idea. It's bad for emergencies,
it's bad there was one congressman actuallylet those carmakers know that this is not
a good thing for national security,because the broadcast AM radios are what most
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people rely on for information in timesof crisis, and a crisis could be
decided there could be defined as ahurricane, a tornado. I saw a
horrible video of a tornado ripping througha town, and it was taken from
either the perspective high up of aradio tower of some sort not coincidentally,
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or possibly maybe even a drone farenough away then it could be safely deployed.
But that thing absolutely ripped up atown, and anybody who was on
the ground behind that thing and neededsome help would have been going to that
AM radio to find out what's goingon. AM radio belongs in cars.
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It needs to stay in cars.And in addition to offering up what I
hope is good entertainment and information foryou guys through this show and shows like
it, I also need that radioof mine, at least for when the
powers out at the house and Ican't rely on a phone. Also,
I also am not going to getlive updates on what's going on in real
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time on the phone, whereas abroadcast radio station could just break right in.
I don't want to rely on atext message on my phone to tell
me when it's safe to go backoutside. All you have to do to
help us keep that from happening acrossthe board is text the letters AM to
(34:05):
five two eight eighty six. TextAM to five two eight eight to six.
I'm writing it at the top ofthe page to go along with it
at the bottom of the page sothat I can look in either direction and
see what I'm trying to see.Text AM to five two eight eighty six.
Let Congress know you want these radios. Burney Sanders is at it again,
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and he's about to introduce a billthat would raise the minimum wage nationwide
to seventeen dollars. If you're gonnago to work, you're gonna get seventeen
dollars an hour. So if you'rein the robot business and you can build
robots that can cook and serve hamburgers, you are about to get rich.
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We already saw the first I thinkit was a mcdot. Was it McDonald's.
I believe it was. Will yourecall I think it was a McDonald's
that has a robotic store. Theonly thing the people inside do is cook
the food and bag it. Ipresume they bag it, and then from
that point everything is the transaction.The financial transaction is done robotically, and
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I don't know whether they take cashor not. I doubt that they do.
I bet it's all cards, whichis even more frightening. And then
the food delivery is done by robotics. So there's a couple of employees already
out and at seventeen dollars an hour, it's going to be far more cost
productive over the course of time tojust build robots and let them cook and
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serve and do all of that stufffor us. I don't know how you're
going to get extra guawk on yourburrito that way, but I'm sure they'll
come up with something at some point. I see a lot of clickbait.
You see a lot of clickbait siteswill where check here for five million pictures
of things that you can't imagine arereal and we couldn't believe number seventeen that
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kind of thing. Do You seethose all the time all the time.
So I kind of fell for onethe other day. This is one of
those ones that tells you a littletravelers hacks and like putting a plastic bag
over your car mirror for some reason, you've ever seen that one? No,
I have no idea why you'd wantto put a plastic bag over your
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rental car mirror. There's one aboutchecking hotel mirrors for cameras, which is
honestly probably not going on in theroom, and if it is, they
deserve whatever they have to look at. I saw a new one, though,
and this one actually suggested, willthat we put a crayon in our
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wallet? Think about that for aminute and try to come up with a
reason that we would put a crayonin a wallet. Well, sometimes you
just need a you need to doa quick picture signature, Yeah, draw
a kid or something that. Actually, so I've just hook line and sink
(37:06):
or I sit down on this thingand I'm scrolling through all kinds of stupid
things about code hangers and paper clipsand telephones and all of this stuff,
and I finally just had to closethe whole thing out. I've been through
I don't know, fifteen twenty picturesand still hadn't found the one about the
crayon in the wallet, which iswhat they do to you every time.
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The only one that seems really intriguingand awesome and compelling that you'd find it
is probably not even on the list. I don't know if anybody's ever gotten
that far. I lost two minutesof my life looking for that crown and
still at this point don't even havea clue. Quick chance for you to
drive the bus? Will I lovethis? Wrong move bud or portion control?
(37:52):
Wrong move, Bud, Well,guess what that's about. Bud Light
sales in April down twenty one percentfrom this past year because of their their
hook lining sinker dive in. It'sgonna be okay idea to use who they
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used as a spokesperson, and nowthe brand is potentially going to lose across
the board it's top selling beer status. That was some that was something that
didn't work out as they had wantedit to. Okay, wrong move,
please know or cut it out?Cut it out? Oh I already did.
(38:37):
Wrong move, That's the one Ijust did. But we thankfully there
was a third one. Cut itout. Kroger ditching its weekly newspaper ads
circulars, no coupons to cut outof the newspaper anymore. It's going entirely
online. So and with loyalty laps. You got to do that. Be
loyal to this program, will you? I would certainly ap appreciate it.
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Tell your friends about it. We'llsee you back here tomorrow, will and
I will Until then, Audios,
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And now fifty plus with Doug Pike. Welcome, one and all to the
Thursday edition of the program. I'mDoug Pike, Will Melbourne. We will
plod through this hour, hopefully entertainingand informing you along the way. I
have two good segments of information scheduled. In addition, as I mentioned yesterday
(01:07):
to it being Mental Health Month mentalHealth Awareness Month, it also happens to
be Stroke Awareness Month. I guessI guess Will, that we just have
so many diseases and conditions that wecan't we can't neglect anybody, So we
just got we got to get themall. That's what we have to do,
(01:27):
and that means we have to doubledown in some months and champion more
than one thing. So mental health, what health? Oh, it's national
It's also National password Day. Andfor the love of me, I don't
know why that's necessary for where.Let's retirement account. Yeah, let's start
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with the banking in sure, Let'sjust let's kick it off right there.
That's a good idea. Yeah,bea are five four nine, that's it,
very cool, nine six seven fivethree zero nine out I mess that
out as a separate podcast. Yeah, you do that. Yeah, that'll
get everybody all kinds of access toabsolutely nothing. All right, So I
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think we this generation of hours sorrywill not including you, excluding you,
are becoming increasingly identifiable actually as thelast bastion of common sense in this country.
A quick recap of the markets,oil and weather before I get into
that down down and good, whichin the middle case there down of the
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oil price is also good. Andthis is all from about an hour and
a half two hours ago, rightbefore I got the call from the school
letting me know that my son hada fever and had to be dragged home,
and realizing that my wife is otherwiseoccupied this morning, and she couldn't
go get him. So I justgrabbed my keys, and let's just say
(03:07):
I made the trip from here tohis school, to the house, and
then back to here, taking analternate route back to here by the way,
because I noticed that fifty nine wasabsolutely jammed up and jacked up as
my son and I plotted homeward,so I had if I found an alternate
(03:29):
route, took it, and Imade that whole loop. Will knows where
he goes to school. Well,you'll be impressed. I made it from
here to the school. And Idon't want to tell everybody where my son
goes to school. It doesn't matter. From here to the school to the
house, alternate route back to herein one hour and six minutes. Wow,
Yeah, that's what I said.That's what I said. The entire
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I really wasn't. It wasn't necessary. What I did get, though,
was very lucky. I hit allbut maybe two of the style lights I
had to navigate in that space,and most of it is pretty open road,
freeway, highway, whatever, Soit wasn't. It could have been
a lot worse. I had alreadyI told Will, I called, did
(04:13):
I call you. I called youand told you what was going on.
Yeah, said, hey, man, you might want to have a best
of segment one. I think I'mI'm pretty sure I can be back for
seg two. And mostly I wantedto be back because I do have two
good interviews today. The first willbe with where Did It Go? I
want to put this one on thetop. The first would be it will
be with doctor Sushant Aroure, andwe are going to talk about stroke awareness
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and a lot on how to keepfrom having them. And then the second
most asked questions will reference how todeal with them if you get them,
and then we'll talk about protocols forrehab and whatnot. And then after that
we're going to talk to a womannamed doctor Nicole Simpson. She a certified
financial planner, a reverend, andhas all kinds of credentials that make her
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a good person to talk to,and she's written a book about it,
kind of about having those awkward conversationswe've talked about on this program many times
with parents or other older family friends, whatever, people for whom suddenly we
go from being cared for by themto needing to care for them. We'll
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deal with that. Two more stepswere taken by the left this week.
Actually probably about ten, but theseare the two most recent one steps that
are designed to do no more thanconfuse our young people and then use their
confusion to come riding in as theparty that has all the answers. And
if they just if our kids willjust listen to them and not us,
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which is increasingly the narrative, thenthey'll be they'll be better off in the
future. Vermont School District this pastweek announced that it was eliminating the terms
male and female, boy and girl, and they are replacing them in the
schools with person who produces sperm andperson who produces eggs. That is a
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two for one in liberalism. Itconfuses a heck out of kids. First,
who are they're gonna just become morereliant on their teachers to show them
the light because that's where they're hearingall this. It also actually is a
three for one because it also enforcesthe the the indoctrination that are that their
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parents don't know anything and their parentsare not in working in their favor.
When when I try to tell myson, no you're a boy, No
you're you're a young man, oh, well, a teacher doesn't say that.
And then the third thing is thatit brings sexual talk into the classrooms
in some cases, depending on wherethey're going to launch all this hullabaloo inappropriately
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early, I think. And bythe way, it's a dangerous attack on
kids, and whatever adults are leftin this world need to speak up.
Really, And what about the littleboy who hadn't even started puberty yet,
by the way, he's gonna learnit. He doesn't produce either one,
So what type of person is he? What are they gonna do for him?
It's it's gonna be so confused.Hitler convinced children to turn on their
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own parents. This is Stalin esqueStalin, same kind of stuff. What
they do is they they knew andthey took full advantage of the fact that
if you control the children, youultimately control the society. And that's I
think what's happening here. And it'sa very frightening thing. It's a long
term thing. It doesn't happen overnight. Look back to any regime in which
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this happened, and you'll see thatit took not an hour and a half.
It took six to eight, ten, fifteen, twenty years to get
done what they wanted done. Allright, we've got to take a little
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They can probably do that for youright there in the office. Go
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a la te a late health dotcom aged to perfection. This is fifty
plus with Doug Pike. Well,I'm nodding off that needs something more upbeat
(09:35):
from you. This is lunchtime,it's not nighttime. You don't need to
play a lullaby. You've never heardof a nap after a big meal.
Yeah, but I haven't had thebig meal yet. Welcome back to fifty
plus and a very very busy monthfor health related awareness. As I mentioned
a little while ago. In additionto being thank you, will please take
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that down all the way down MentalHealth Awareness Month also Stroke Awareness Month.
Every forty seconds someone in this countryhas a stroke, and every three and
a half minutes someone dies from astroke. In just the past few months,
I have actually known three people whosuffered strokes. Two of them survived
and are actually doing quite well.The third our former garden Line host Randy
(10:22):
Lemon, did not win that battleto explain strokes and how to avoid having
them out. Welcome doctor Sashantha Or, Assistant Professor in the Department of Neurology
with McGovern Medical School at UT Houston. Welcome to fifty plus. Doctor.
Thank you, Doug God, it'sgreat to be on your show. Appreciate
it. I really do appreciate yourtime. So in layman's terms, how
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how do you guys define stroke?So, a stroke, we basically mean
in the condition where which affects theblood vessel that's applying our brain. So
most often it is due to aclot that up starts slow to the brain.
But at times it can also bedue to a rupture the blood vessel
in the brain. It's like aheart attack, but it's now it affects
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the brain. So the symptoms aregoing to be different. Okay, so
and clearly different outcomes for everybody's stroke. Are there different types of strokes?
Yeah, so in addition to youknow, like I mentioned, there's the
ischemic stroke, which is due toa blood clot that blocks off a blood
vessel. But then you also havethe bleeding type of stroke, where it's
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because it's due to erupture of ablood vessel. So essentially too much blood
or too little blood. Yes,okay, aside from the usual suspects,
which would be I've I've got smoking, diabetes, high cholesterol, what else
can raise the risk of stroke?Well, I mean high blood pressure is
probably one more of that. Ithink that's probably the number one. And
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then of course, you know,high cholesterol, diabetes, smoking. I
think these are still the foremost common, just like you have for heart attacks.
Now there are other conditions but muchrarer, but like for example,
a history of having blood clots oryour blood is very thick, or for
example a condition and as we getolder it's called atrefibrillation where the heart is
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not does not beat at a regularrhythm. Right, So these are some
of the things that can put yourat risk for stroke. But I think
the four main ones that we canactually change that we can reduce ourselves as
probably high blood RISU or cholesterol,diabetes, and smoking and lay off the
smokes. Yeah. Absolutely, Sowhen someone does have a stroke, is
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it's still true that a speedy responsegreatly improves the outcome. Absolutely? In
fact, you know it's it's probablythe we have this short window where we
can actually help reverse the deficits fromthe stroke. We're able to remove the
clot fast enough, or we're ableto give medications or blood pressure medications that
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can if it's a bleeding type ofstroke, we can do things to help
you reduce the expansion of the stroke. But this is all Yeah, the
faster we're able to do it,the more brain we can save. So
from the time oh my gosh,I'm having a stroke, bam, start
to stop, watch how much timeis ideal for the minimum problems? So
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I think, again, it dependson the size of the stroke. Okay,
but we've seen that. You know, if you if the response is
within one hour, there's almost there'sa greater than fifty percent chance that you
can have a really good outcome.So that number comes down as the time
goes on. So you know,for the clotbuster, we generally see about
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four and a half hours. There'salso a procedure. If it's a large
clot, then there's a procedure calledthrombectomy, which is fancy medical terminology for
removing the blood clot. We usuallydo that using a catheter that goes through
one of our arteries, either throughthe growing or in the hand, and
it goes all the way up tothe brain and we are able to pull
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the clot out. And so thatwe have we can potentially have a little
bit longer of a time, butagain the faster we do it, the
better the outcome. All this stuffyou guys can do today that you couldn't
do twenty years ago, it's justso fast exactly, it's Yeah. In
fact, you g Houston was Ithink one of the centers that was in
the initial trial that came up withthe clockbuster. Wou prove the clockbuster worked?
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Yeah, well, I'm so gladit was here and not halfway around
the world because I can't get therein an hour. So if we recognize
a stroke in ourselves or some way, if we're trying to recognize it so
that we might do this better,what are the typical physical symptoms that raise
just immediate red flags. So Ithink the mnemonic right now that's probably the
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easiest to remember that covers most ofthe stroke symptoms is be fast, So
it's a it used to be fast, but then we realize the balance any
vision also are common stroke symptoms thataffect the back part of the brain.
So right now we're you know,we're promoting be fast. B is balanced,
not onst loss of balance or difficultywalking. E stands for eyes,
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so either sudden loss of vision inan eye or double vision face as in
facial droop, A as an armdrift or arm weakness or even leg weakness.
And then M S is for speech, which means either difficulty thinking of
words or getting words out, orsometimes it's just slurts speech. And then
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the T stands for time to callnine one one, because that's the appropriate
response. Now headache is another one, like a sudden onset worst headache of
your life, can be a signfor a bleeding type of stroke as well.
There's just really no place to putan age though here. I just
noticed this when I wrote down befast. If you guys can come up
with an R another A in aK, we can call it fist.
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That's hilarious, a little little medicalhumor work on that, will you?
I don't know what they'll babe.Doctors has shot the roar on fifty plus.
If someone else we suspect is havinga stroke, we've we've gone down
the checklist and two or three ofthese things are jumping off the page at
us. We call nine one one, and then what can we do in
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the meantime until somebody gets there?Anything? Not? Really, I think
you just have to wait and justyou know, be there with a patient
because you don't want to give aspirinlike we do the heart attacks, because
if it is a bleeding broke,we won't really know until we get the
cast scan. So that's why wejust have to, you know, just
make sure they're you know, checkon their breathing, and then just make
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sure be there when the ambulance getsthere, and possibly try to get a
little bit more history to see ifthey're on any blood calls or anything.
Yeah, so I think that thatwill be additional information that will be help
and it and along the same line, if it's me, if I'm sitting
in a hotel room somewhere just camein from fishing, I don't feel really
good, the first thing I'll dois unlocked the hotel or the door,
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and the second thing I've made myphone call. I'm unlocking the door.
And I guess while I still haveany wits about me, I should start
writing down any of those meds orsomething like that. Right, Um,
yeah, I guess. I meanthat's a stretching, I don't. I
think the first response still should becalling and maybe you can give that information
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to the person the phone operator.I thought of that as I said it,
and I felt really stupid saying writeit down. Okay, so we're
believing or not, we're very closeto out of time, So optimum outcomes
what what percentage of people recover wellfrom strokes these days? I would say
it's uh again where he's from,the type of stroke, in the size
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of the stroke. But we stillwe're having a lot more better outcomes than
before. I would say at leastabout half of our patients have good outcomes,
or a little more than that.I'm glad to hear that. Yeah.
Yeah, especially after like three monthsof physical therapy. That's probably the
time point where we see most ofthe recovery after a stroke. You know,
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the fact that somebody can recover evenif it takes three months, six
months, whatever it takes. That'sreally good. Thank you so much for
your time, doctor sisht Arore onfifty plus talking about strokes here. That
was really good information. Thank youso much. Well, thank you so
much for having me my pleasure.Alrighty, then we have to go now
to this break, and on theway there, I will tell you all
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little break here. When we comeback, we'll talk about navigating the unavoidable
steps we all have to make asour parents, or or even ourselves I
guess shift from healthy and strong andprosperous to increasingly older and more dependent.
We'll be back now. They suredon't make them like they used to.
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That's why every few months we washthem, check his fluids and spring on
a fresh cut a wax. Thisis fifty plus with Doug. He sounds
hurt. He stepped on something,not in something on something. Welcome back
(20:15):
at fifty plus. I'm Dougie's will. On this cloudy but relatively dry Thursday
afternoon, we'll turning this segment tothe segment not sigment good Heavens, to
the unavoidable transition at some point inour lives, presuming nothing kills us first.
This inescapable transition from someone who caresfor the family to someone for whom
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the family cares. I experienced thatwith my own mother, whose decline was
relatively slow and sometimes painful for her. She'd been such a strong woman,
and then one day she kind ofneeded my help more than I needed hers.
To help all of us navigate thatstage of life for ourselves or family
members, I'm gonna bring in doctorNicole Simpson, co author with Sharon Stamford
of The Quiet Shift. Welcome aboard. Thank you so much Doug for having
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me today. It is a pleasureto be with you. I'm glad.
I'm glad to get your time likethis. As a writer myself, I'm
always curious as to what inspires aparticular book. What launched Quiet Shift?
I'm glad you question. I wasobserving throughout my beginning stages of my career,
families that had acquired some minimum levelof wealth and then that major asset
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that they had did not transfer intothe next generation until the houses were being
lost to foreclosure. So that wasmy issue level of interest, seeing families
working hard, earning every day andthen the children not being the ultimate benefactors.
But douga, I must admit,I am a word trade center survivor,
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and so my life altered after thefirst decade. I've been in this
industry for thirty years, and Idealt with trauma and recovery from a different
length until much like you just expressedexperience and what you went through with your
mother, it resonated again with mewhen my mother was unexpectedly diagnosed with stage
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four pancreatic cancers. So that whichI had observed, you know, financially,
I began to see it from theemotional aspect because she was relatively young
when that happened, and I sawthe need to really begin to address it
on a broader scale. I hadbeen dealing with it with my clientele over
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the years, but on a broaderscale so that real families couldn't know what
it is that we're getting into.I will say one other thing. Baby
boomers are probably the generation that hasthe potential of the opportunity to transfer the
greatest level of wealth to the nextgeneration. But we have this thing where
parents are getting older, living longer, but have been planned for the unknown
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or the slow demise, and howthat can impact your sources that you may
have, and so any area inwhich we can preserve that so that one
kid maintained legacy, I thought itwas important to write about it. It's
interesting that you draw that parallel toyour mom and my mom and how it
sparked us to That's exactly what startedfifty plus eight and a half years ago
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was a decline of my mom onthe whole. Since it is being discussed
at least more openly in recent years, would you say more people are talking
about living arrangements and finances and endof life decisions with their adult children now,
Not as much as I would like, anticipating that it would change a
little bit more. I think it'sa very hard conversation. It's a very
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hard conversation to have. And nowthat we see the baby boon was coming
of age where they need the supportof assistance from their children. You know
what I'm experiencing both as I hearstories and share stories that they're still not
inclined to say exactly where they're standingfrom a health perspective or where they're standing
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from a financial perspective. And Ithink that we've grown up that way.
We are parents were not accustomed toreleasing some level of control, so to
speak, so that their children couldbest care for and manage it with a
level of dignity, so that theparents can age gracefully. Yeah, as
a kid, you always grow upthinking mom and dad are fine. I'm
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so glad because that's what we seeas children, that our parents are.
They're the foundation, they're the rock. They're gonna be okay. And then
all of a sudden you have thatawkward conversation and you realize that mom and
dad weren't saving any money, andnow you feel some obligation to them,
and it's so awkward. Do youhave if that conversation gets started? Do
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you have any approach for if weget shut down the first time we bring
it up? After you go,you know, mom and dad, maybe
we should talk about this, andthey just kind of dismiss it and walk
away. How do you get backin there and rekindle that. I think
that's an excellent question. I thinksometimes opportunities will present themselves. People that
are loved ones and close to youmay experience this level of deterioration physically,
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and so when you can associate itto a disinterested third party that both of
you may know, to a perfectopportunity to invite someone to say, well,
hey, mom, dad, howwould you like to be cared for?
You know? I find that tobe extremely helpful. I also think
that the direct approach is very importantto just you know, continue to be
(25:40):
persistent and ask pointed questions, becausethe pointed questions really makes a parent begin
to think about those things or ifyou you know, were deteriorated and the
help how would you like to becareful? Do you want to stay in
the house? And that oftentimes mayfeel overwhelming to the parents, But if
the children are the ones that arecaring, the adults children are the ones
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that are caring, you have tocome to some level of consensus. The
other notion that you know, oropportunity that arises is when you see,
as you've identified, you saw yourselfcaring for your mother, then she had
historically cared for you at this stageof the relationship, but it is at
those moments that you have an opportunity. Well, Mom, I'm taking on
(26:25):
a lot. Dad, I'm takingon a lot right now, and so
there's some important things that I needto know so that I know how to
manage and help you as best Ican. And so maybe we should have
a conversation. The final moment Ithink is important because as I indicated,
I've been a financial planet for thirtyyears, for twenty and in the industry
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for thirty years. Adult children shouldbe planning their own lives. That there's
some great way of saying it is, Hey, I've spoken to my financial
advisor, and you know, we'venever had this conversation before. What would
you like me to know at thisstage of your life? And so it
may minimize to a degree the levelof angstead apparent may may or may not
(27:10):
have. Yeah, I like thata lot. And you mentioned something earlier
about having a third party, maybea disinterested, well relatively interested a financial
planner such as yourself, involved inthe conversation. And I think that's a
fantastic idea on two levels. Numberone, you bring expertise in number two,
I've done too many stories over theyears on this show about elder abuse
(27:30):
and if somebody, if an olderperson picks the wrong family member, everybody
else might wind up with nothing.I like that, I really do.
What what percentage of adults would youthink? Now we got about a minute
and a half. Unfortunately we're justgoing so fast. What percentage of older
adults you think are really counting ontheir kids to provide financial support? I
(27:52):
would, unfortunately say the majority ashigh as sixty five seventy percent. And
to think that it's that high ofa number, long term care planet has
not been a consideration for most individuals, and most people believe that certain things
like Medicaid or Medicare will take careof the end of life needs, and
it really doesn't. So they're shockedingto having to deal with this situation.
(28:17):
So I'm glad that there are showslike yours that are able to address this
consistently. As long as they'll letme sit behind this microphone, I'll continue
to do. I can assure youI like what I've read so far in
the book, doctor Nicole Simpson.I especially like the size of the font
you guys chose, no readers necessary. If anybody buys the book, holy
cow, I open that thing upand wow, This is awesome. It's
(28:40):
kind of the reversion to when wewere in elementary school and all the print
was so big so we could readthem. Yeah. I like that though.
It's just the perfect size. Idon't have to reach from our reading
glasses and everything I've read so far, it has really impressed me. Thank
you so much, you and SharonStanford for writing The Quiet Shift. Wherever
fine books are sold, presume itis. Thank you so very much.
(29:03):
I appreciate that, and that wasme understanding my target marketing. Thank you,
Yes, you did. Thank youso much. All Right, we'll
move on from here. Oh mygoodness, that was great. I really
enjoyed that. Incredible is the stainremover that you can reach for. If
you have it in the house,all you got to go by hib anywhere.
If it's not in your HB,then let me know and I'll make
(29:25):
sure that the owner of the companygets it into your HGB. And he
will. He's done that for mebefore. Incredible is there and in most
fine hardware stores. And what itdoes is eliminate odors and stains from just
about anything. The rugs, thecarpet, the furniture, your clothes,
the upholstery in your car, anywherethat someone has spilled something. And this
(29:48):
is important too, even if theyspilled it a long time ago. Having
a thirteen year old son two yearsago, fifteen year old son now,
I think a lot of the stainsthat he's created may still be covered up
by p a furniture, maybe bysomething he's pushed into a corner that wasn't
there before, because all of asudden he had some fruit punch up there.
Or he used to drink all kindsof colorful drinks, and I'd see
(30:11):
those colorful stains in the carpet,and rather than have to call somebody to
come in and drag a bunch ofheavy equipment in there two or three days
later, I just grabbed the bottleof incredible, pour some on the stain.
Wait a little while, you cansing your favorite song, Maybe walk
to the kitchen, grab a bananaor something like that, and then go
back up and just blot it awaywith a clean dry cloth. The worst
(30:36):
case scenario in my house twenty plusyears of incredible. Think about how long
this has happened. Worst case scenariostill batting one thousand. But there was
one stain one time on an upholsteredchair. I've talked about it before.
That took four applications to get itall out of there. I was a
little nervous after the first one didn'treally seem to do a lot. But
(31:00):
I went back a second time,a third time it was almost gone.
Fourth time gone. I would challengeanybody to show me where that staying was
on that chair. It's an amazingproduct. It could have been called amazing.
It could have been called awesome,but the owner of the company settled
on incredible, which it absolutely is. Safer children and pets, no chemical
(31:21):
smell. Ask for it by nameincredible, old guy's rule. And of
course women never get old. Ifyou want to avoid sleeping on the couch.
Okay, well, I think thatsounds like a good plan. Fifty
plus continues. Here's more with Doug. It was a beautiful agen sun deep
(31:56):
Tenda. The radio on yea,well not if the car manufacturers have anything
to say about that, right AMradio. I don't know what is it
four or five manufacturers talking about,and I think actually doing it ditching AM
(32:16):
radio in automobiles, which is ahorrible idea. It's bad for emergencies,
it's bad there was one congressman actuallylet those carmakers know that this is not
a good thing for national security,because the broadcast AM radios are what most
(32:39):
people rely on for information in timesof crisis, and a crisis could be
decided there could be defined as ahurricane, a tornado. I saw a
horrible video of a tornado ripping througha town, and it was taken from
either the perspective high up of aradio tower of some sort not coincidentally,
(33:02):
or possibly maybe even a drone farenough away then it could be safely deployed.
But that thing absolutely ripped up atown, and anybody who was on
the ground behind that thing and neededsome help would have been going to that
AM radio to find out what's goingon. AM radio belongs in cars.
(33:23):
It needs to stay in cars.And in addition to offering up what I
hope is good entertainment and information foryou guys through this show and shows like
it, I also need that radioof mine, at least for when the
powers out at the house and Ican't rely on a phone. Also,
I also am not going to getlive updates on what's going on in real
(33:45):
time on the phone, whereas abroadcast radio station could just break right in.
I don't want to rely on atext message on my phone to tell
me when it's safe to go backoutside. All you have to do to
help us keep that from happening acrossthe board is text the letters AM to
(34:05):
five two eight eighty six. TextAM to five two eight eight to six.
I'm writing it at the top ofthe page to go along with it
at the bottom of the page sothat I can look in either direction and
see what I'm trying to see.Text AM to five two eight eighty six.
Let Congress know you want these radios. Burney Sanders is at it again,
(34:27):
and he's about to introduce a billthat would raise the minimum wage nationwide
to seventeen dollars. If you're gonnago to work, you're gonna get seventeen
dollars an hour. So if you'rein the robot business and you can build
robots that can cook and serve hamburgers, you are about to get rich.
(34:50):
We already saw the first I thinkit was a mcdot. Was it McDonald's.
I believe it was. Will yourecall I think it was a McDonald's
that has a robotic store. Theonly thing the people inside do is cook
the food and bag it. Ipresume they bag it, and then from
that point everything is the transaction.The financial transaction is done robotically, and
(35:15):
I don't know whether they take cashor not. I doubt that they do.
I bet it's all cards, whichis even more frightening. And then
the food delivery is done by robotics. So there's a couple of employees already
out and at seventeen dollars an hour, it's going to be far more cost
productive over the course of time tojust build robots and let them cook and
(35:38):
serve and do all of that stufffor us. I don't know how you're
going to get extra guawk on yourburrito that way, but I'm sure they'll
come up with something at some point. I see a lot of clickbait.
You see a lot of clickbait siteswill where check here for five million pictures
of things that you can't imagine arereal and we couldn't believe number seventeen that
(36:01):
kind of thing. Do You seethose all the time all the time.
So I kind of fell for onethe other day. This is one of
those ones that tells you a littletravelers hacks and like putting a plastic bag
over your car mirror for some reason, you've ever seen that one? No,
I have no idea why you'd wantto put a plastic bag over your
(36:22):
rental car mirror. There's one aboutchecking hotel mirrors for cameras, which is
honestly probably not going on in theroom, and if it is, they
deserve whatever they have to look at. I saw a new one, though,
and this one actually suggested, willthat we put a crayon in our
(36:45):
wallet? Think about that for aminute and try to come up with a
reason that we would put a crayonin a wallet. Well, sometimes you
just need a you need to doa quick picture signature, Yeah, draw
a kid or something that. Actually, so I've just hook line and sink
(37:06):
or I sit down on this thingand I'm scrolling through all kinds of stupid
things about code hangers and paper clipsand telephones and all of this stuff,
and I finally just had to closethe whole thing out. I've been through
I don't know, fifteen twenty picturesand still hadn't found the one about the
crayon in the wallet, which iswhat they do to you every time.
(37:27):
The only one that seems really intriguingand awesome and compelling that you'd find it
is probably not even on the list. I don't know if anybody's ever gotten
that far. I lost two minutesof my life looking for that crown and
still at this point don't even havea clue. Quick chance for you to
drive the bus? Will I lovethis? Wrong move bud or portion control?
(37:52):
Wrong move, Bud, Well,guess what that's about. Bud Light
sales in April down twenty one percentfrom this past year because of their their
hook lining sinker dive in. It'sgonna be okay idea to use who they
(38:12):
used as a spokesperson, and nowthe brand is potentially going to lose across
the board it's top selling beer status. That was some that was something that
didn't work out as they had wantedit to. Okay, wrong move,
please know or cut it out?Cut it out? Oh I already did.
(38:37):
Wrong move, That's the one Ijust did. But we thankfully there
was a third one. Cut itout. Kroger ditching its weekly newspaper ads
circulars, no coupons to cut outof the newspaper anymore. It's going entirely
online. So and with loyalty laps. You got to do that. Be
loyal to this program, will you? I would certainly ap appreciate it.
(39:00):
Tell your friends about it. We'llsee you back here tomorrow, will and
I will Until then, Audios,
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