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March 29, 2024 11 mins

➡︎ The Jubal Show’s First Date Follow Up

What happens when you get ghosted after a first date? You call The Jubal Show and have them find out why! It's like putting yourself in a situation to get roasted, when you really just want a second date.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jasmine is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Ryan.
So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him see
if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe
get her another date if she still wants one. But first, Jasmine,
how long has it been since you heard from Ryan?
It's been a week, okay, So have you reached out
to him? And that week about how many times.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Do you think I've reached out to him?

Speaker 3 (00:28):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Embarrassingly, probably over twenty times.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
Yeah, okay, that's a lot. Don't be embarrassed.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
I mean, I mean I think that we can all
say that that ghosting is definitely happening here.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Then yeah, unless he lost his phone?

Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, both, Like who can survive without a phone nowadays?

Speaker 2 (00:46):
True? What were the twenty texts or calls?

Speaker 1 (00:50):
Like?

Speaker 2 (00:51):
What did you say? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (00:53):
Well, I basically it was it was like more than
twenty calls and then just a text had just been
kind of like of just some kind of writing paragraphs
only because him and I basically met, we spoke on
this app and then we before meeting, we were just
he was like hyping me up and just it was

(01:14):
almost like love bombing, to be honest, now that I
think about it, and now that I've spoken to my
friends on it, but he kind of promised me a
lot of things, and I guess I was just being
really vulnerable. But before we met, he was telling me
how pretty I was, and we were going to go
to this place and we're going to go to that place.

(01:36):
And then when I met him, he was so incredible,
so like everything I could even ask for I checked off,
Like I don't ever, I don't even know if people
have a check box list. I don't, but if I
were to have one, he's definitely that person. And he
was witty, which is what I love so much. Yeah,

(02:00):
when we met at this top bugs bar, and I
was just super excited about everything. He paid for the
check of course, you know, like any gentleman would, and yeah,
I asked him if she was okay after that and
absolutely nothing. But before then, before we were the day,
everything we're just like so many checks. It was like
a lot. Like I said, it was like love bombing.

(02:22):
And then we go on this date and it's the
greatest time of my life. And then I was like okay,
like you know, I was gonna wait to see if
he wanted to go ahead and give me a call,
because that's like what you do. But he took too long.
I was like hey, like are you okay? And then

(02:43):
I was just like thanks for the night. And then
after that, I've just been like, what's going on?

Speaker 3 (02:47):
So while you were on the date at the restaurant,
it was so perfect, like can you tell us about that?
What were the conversations like, like what did you guys do?

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Yeah, So it was it was like NonStop, like talked
about our future together. He was talking about he was
talking about going to like Papo, going to like like
meet his parents.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
That's supera yeah, that is intent.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
I would wonder what was going on, But also it'd
be kind of flaggy to hear somebody start talking that
life so soon. Yeah, did you do or say anything
on the date that may have I don't know altered
the course of this marriage.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
I mean, I mean maybe I like appeared too eager
because he's like, yeah, like we'll meet like my parents.
I can't wait to show you like my grandparents too,
and I was just like, maybe, like I said, like, yes,
too quick.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
That is a lot. Yeah, I mean to go that
far right, Yeah, And.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
Then now I just think maybe he's like he wasn't
attracted to me or something, and maybe I should have
wanted parent dress but I don't look basic. But I
was like, I feel like I picked the perfect dress,
like you know, like when you ask your girlfriends when
you're going out, and I did. Yeah. Now I feel
kind of insecure and just not okay with the right
selection that I even picked on my.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Dress be anything about you at all.

Speaker 3 (04:02):
I mean, I understand turning to yourself like what's wrong
with me and doing the superficial like clothing and stuff
like that, but there's a really good chance it has
nothing to do with any of that.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
But like, first date impressions are everything too, you know,
like when I like, when you wear like a red
dress that makes a big statement that maybe I should
have just warned that one and I just I wore
a regular black dress, and I think that like a
guy probably in the first date wants like a red
statement piece dress.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
As a guy who's been on dates before, I don't
think I would care black or red as long as
you're wearing something well or not on where we meet.
But you know, I don't think. Yeah, I don't know
if the color of it, but hey, who knows. Everybody's different. Okay, Okay, plaus,
don't come back get your first date follow up next
if you're just joining us for today's first date follow up.

(04:51):
Jasmine is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Ryan.
So we're about to call him and see if he'll
tell us why he's ghostinger and see if she still
wants another date after she hears the reason. But things
moved pretty quickly. Jasmine, give a real quick recap for
everybody who's just joining us on your situation with Ryan.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
Okay, so I feel like this isn't your regular like
ghost story. I mean, like this guy sent me flowers
before our gate. He told me he wanted He told
me we wanted to travel together, that I can meet
his parents, he paid for the bill. Everything was good,
good conversation, and now I absolutely haven't heard from him.

(05:29):
And it went from so many messages of flowers to
my door and now I don't even get a peep. Nothing.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
I would want to know, Yeah, I would definitely want
to know what's going on? All right? Well? You ready
for us to call him?

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (05:45):
Here we go. I'm message to Ryan. Please the right Ryan.
How are you? Man? My name is Jubil from a
radio show called The Jebel Show.

Speaker 3 (06:03):
Hi, Ryan, whole show's here.

Speaker 2 (06:05):
I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

Speaker 1 (06:07):
Well okay, what's up?

Speaker 2 (06:09):
Have you ever listened to the show before?

Speaker 4 (06:11):
I have?

Speaker 1 (06:12):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (06:15):
No, Ryan, we're calling you because you went on a
date with somebody and you haven't called them back. Okay,
So I'm not sure if you've ever heard a first
date follow up before, but that's the segment where if
you go out with someone and then ghost them, they
ask us to call you and ask why. So we
got an email about you from Jasmine.

Speaker 4 (06:33):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
Do you mind telling us about why you're ghosting Jasmine?

Speaker 5 (06:40):
Well, Jasmine's great, we have a really cool date. She
is attractive, lovely. But you know what I have come
to learn about myself that I am I have a
lot of momentum in the romance department, and I need
to cool the jets more often, and so I have

(07:01):
decided for myself, no matter how good it's going. You know,
as we're texting and talking before him in the first
five minutes, irl, if I don't feel something discernible spark,
I got to cut it off because I've gone down
that road too many times hoping that would come because
everything else seems so good, and then I'm months into

(07:23):
a relationship. I want, you know, I just I'm too
much of a romantic, so I need I needed to draw.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Okay, wait, I don't like Okay, hey, sorry, but it's
kind of really refreshing to even hear your voice. But
at the same time, now I'm kind of just like
I'm really just in shock and taken by everything. If
you're such a romantic and all of this stuff, wouldn't
you have been polite to just send me a text
back or call back and be polite have, you know,

(07:50):
like just and communicate let me know what's going on,
instead of just leaving me out in the dark like that.
That's really disrespectful. I honestly want to like curse your
head off right now, but like I'm not going to
just because I'm actually polite. I don't understand why you
couldn't have just sent a message. You can go ahead
and send flowers before, but you can't go ahead and

(08:12):
send a message after our lovely date that we had
because you didn't feel.

Speaker 2 (08:16):
As dark, right, And that's Jasmine. She's been She's on
the phone and wants to talk to you.

Speaker 4 (08:22):
I got that.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
You're so much of a romantic, Like, what do you mean?
How are you such a romantic? I hope everybody knows
who this guy is and honestly doesn't want to be
with you, because you should be a little bit more
upfront if you're a romantic, have common turtesty.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
My biggest question for you, Ryan, though, is what made
you want to buy somebody flowers before you met them
and talked about family and all those types of things,
and then like what changed in the moment where you
felt comfortable doing that and meeting her in real life?

Speaker 1 (08:55):
Well, that is just a coward move to not even
respond back to me.

Speaker 5 (09:00):
I'm sorry, I'm just I'm also pretty non confrontational, and
I don't like ghosting, but it has become a fact
in our generation that that's just how people handle it.
So I thought it was better than me explaining all
this stuff to you about my rule.

Speaker 1 (09:14):
Yeah, but being romantic is being vulnerable and having courage
and all of that. So I don't even think that's
what you are. I think you're actually like a narcissist,
to be honest, if you're going to go ahead and
like this is like, honestly just unbelievable. You shouldn't love
bomb people like that. You shouldn't. You shouldn't do that.
I wish you lucky this spark and somebody I hear it.

Speaker 5 (09:35):
I was embarrassed that I went so far before we
even met, and so I just know your coward deponder
like double back from that.

Speaker 1 (09:43):
Okay, yeah, well I really hope you learn your lesson
and don't pull such a coward and move on the
next person that you try and find a spark with,
because I couldn't mentally mess with people like honestly, like
my friends aren't even enough now, like having to see
a therapist after this is like where it's leading to,
Like it's a lot so ridiculous. You should like you
can't do that stuff. I'm trying to find the love

(10:04):
of my life here, the person that I'm supposed to
be with. I think that's what everybody's job is and
that's what they're trying to do. And you're going over
here and then just like oh, let me just like fake,
pretend and love bomb you and all this stuff and
then just like stop and not talk to you, like
what are you doing with your life as a man?

Speaker 3 (10:19):
Okay, I'm sorry. I have to jump in again really quick, Jasmine.
You're right, you shouldn't be ghosting you and all that stuff.
And if you're in therapy, I think that that's wonderful.
But that's not entirely his fault.

Speaker 1 (10:31):
How I think that, Like, what if you were in
my position? What if you were like ghosted like that.
I don't think you understand.

Speaker 3 (10:37):
No, actually I do. I completely understand. I have been
in your position. It's more about the relationship.

Speaker 1 (10:42):
I'm sure. I'm just kind of hurt right now in
the situation. And it's just like I didn't expect him
to even answer.

Speaker 2 (10:48):
I get that. We'll just leave it there, Jasmine.

Speaker 5 (10:51):
I want to be really clear. I think you're amazing.
I had a great time with you. It was it
was me after our date processing this and realizing, you
know what, gone too far and I didn't feel something
that I wanted to feel before I proceeded, and you
deserved better communication about that. But that that those are
the facts, and I didn't want to lead you on
or any further whatever.

Speaker 2 (11:13):
Ryan, would you like to go on another date with Jasmine?
We'll pay for it.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
I would like to go on another date with you Ryan.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
Oh wait, what you would?

Speaker 4 (11:20):
Yeah? I would, absolutely you would. Okay, yes, yeah, what what?
I'm busy tonight, but.

Speaker 5 (11:32):
I do have a friend who I swear I just
I say you came to mind when we went out.
I thank you guys.

Speaker 1 (11:37):
Actually I can put you in cash, I swear.

Speaker 4 (11:39):
No.

Speaker 2 (11:39):
Oh that's nice.

Speaker 1 (11:44):
Really okay?

Speaker 2 (11:45):
Cool me all right, but you guys, seems like it
worked out.

Speaker 4 (11:50):
Thank you?

Speaker 2 (11:51):
All right? Cool? You will first date full
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