July 14, 2023 • 29 mins
There’s a new Bandera being waived en el mundo of dating and relationships. While not as toxic as RED Flags, Beige Flags are still baffling, cringe and serving up ICKY vibras!!
H&C break it all down, give us their partner’s Beige Flags + get into TikTok’s top complaints on the “trend.”
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm Carolina Bermudez soy nika a wins it. But I
was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker bee.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
This is life in spanglish.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
You know. It's movements like this that make me so
happy that I am not in the dating world anymore
because TikTok is all over this new thing that is
taking over, which, by the way, we shouldn't be surprised
because TikTok has like all of the info. It is
where all of the information lies. But this beij flag
thing that is happening in the dating world, we must
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discuss this.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Let's talk about it, because even though we're not dating. Carolina,
when I was looking at this trend, I'm like, what
is it? And they said it's like weird habits that
are less than a deal breaker but are not a plus.
And I'm like, oh wow, my husband got a bunch
of ohs. What divorce them? But I'm happy about them.
So I said, we're going to get into this beige
flag trend and break it down for our listeners.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
So yeah, so beige flag less offensive than a red flag.
So basically these are things that like are not deal breakers,
Like they're not going to make you run away from
the relationship, but they give you pause. They make you
stop and say, who is this person that I'm with?
I love this and I looked it up and somebody
said a beige flag. It's like a trendy relationship term, yes,
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but basically it's where someone can identify signs on these
dating apps that make you wonder about the person, whether
or not they're really making the effort like this is.
There's a lot of different interpretations for beige flags, so
I get it, Like, if you're on a dating app,
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how would you know whether or not to move forward
with somebody unless you like really start picking apart their
profile so you can even pick You can even find
some of these beige flags in their description in these
dating apps. That's what I found out about this.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
If I was on a dating app, Carolina, you want
me to give you a beige flag really quick? If
I see this man with anything superhero related like a
Superman T shirt or a Batman but a hell No,
that's a beige flag. You could be fine, but I
don't know, girl, I just cannot stomach a man that's
obsessed with superhero anything.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
As a full blown adult. You cannot take if he's
into Marvel DC, if he's the first one in line
to see thor things of that, that's your beige flag.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I could still date him, but it's gonna bother me
the whole relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Okay, So perfect definition of a beige flag. I saw
a definitely or I saw an example of a beige
flag that I thought, oh, okay, I get it now.
This one person said that whenever her date would ask
for a fork at a sushi restaurant, that's a beige
flag because it's like, how are you going to come
to a sushi restaurant fully knowing that you need to
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be able to like be adept with chopsticks, and you're
gonna ask for a fork, Then that's a beige flag.
So that's what this one woman was saying, Like how
because she's in the dating world and she's out there,
and that's one thing that she said. She's like, I
like to go out for sushi dinners or like, you know,
just to test to see like if this is a
beige flag for me, if the person asks a request
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a fork that.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Feels evil, I don't feel like everyone in America knows
how to use chopsticks, so I feel like I don't
know she's being a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
That's a personal I feel like that's a personal beige flag. Right,
So these people are all over the place, and then
I start to think to myself, like, what are my
beige flags?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Oh girl, we would have to bring the guys in
on this episode. I'm pretty sure we have a million
beige flags.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I mean, listen, my husband could really break it down
with me, because I feel like I am just in
totality a beige flag. But yeah, like, for example, something
that drives. I can offer myself up on this one
and say I am probably the worst person to sleep
with because I don't have just one alarm. I have
three alarms, and I don't necessarily like allow myself to
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snooze because I am considerate of my partner. I know
that three point fifteen is rude, It's like a rude awakening,
but there are those times where I'm super tired, so
I have three fifteen that I have three thirty and
then I have three forty five. Is like, that's it.
You're not gonna make it like you basically just have
to like brush your teeth and get into the city
type of vibe.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
You know, that is not only a beige flag, Carolina,
that warrants you have your separate bedroom. If we were married,
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
That's that's a whole discussion that we were like, actually, like,
the only thing is that I need Mark to put
me to bed, otherwise we would be completely content sleeping
in different bed pods.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
You know me, I love TikTok, So as soon as
we said, you know, let's talk about beige flags, I
went dive on TikTok and I saw one particular trend.
A lot of women were saying that their boyfriend or
husband's beage flag is that they're super unbothered to ask
for any details that he'll be like, oh my best
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friend broke up with her man. Oh that's sad, zero details.
Oh my sister had a baby, Oh congratulations, zero details.
Is d a beige flag for you, Carolina?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
It's not a beach flag. But I feel like it
depends on the person. Like there are some guys who
are so down to give you like every dirty detail,
like my one girlfriend is married to I won't. I mean,
obviously I'm not gonna say who they are. But he
is always down for the tea piping hot he wants it.
He'll sit in the room with us while we're talking
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about other people. He just loves to be around it, Okay,
And like whenever he tells the story, he gives very
pertinent details. Mark Grossman, my husband is the type that
would not even bring it up, like he could have
been president for like the throwdown of all throwdowns, and
he would not give me any info, unbothered, unbothered by
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the details. Where meanwhile, I'm like living for them. I'm like,
and what was she wearing? And then did a titty
pop out? Like what happened? Like does somebody have a
black eye? Like can we discuss this? But he does
not do that. Yeah, so I would say that's definitely
a sign of a beige flag for some people, but
for Mark, that's like completely normal.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
A lot of women complain about this. They want men
to ask questions. I feel like I would need it
to I can't tell you such and such got a
new job, and you're not gonna ask me where you're
not gonna ask me how much did it make you?
Or you're not gonna ask me what the position is.
That's a beige flag for me. I like to talk
and a lot of women on TikTok are having the
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same exact beige flag problem.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Well, also, you know what people are talking about beige
flags in relationships too, Like this isn't just limited to
the people who are single out there, like you know
when when you have a partnership, and let's say, for example,
like I started watching White Lotus. Okay, White Lotus was hot.
I did not get in on White Lotus though, to
be fair, until like close to the second season. Everybody
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was hyping it up. I was late to the game,
so was I.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
I just watched the first season last week.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Oh my gosh, Okay, yeah, so I before season two
came out, everybody was ridiculing me and saying, I can't
believe you haven't watched White Lotus. So finally I was like,
I'm going to commit myself to this. I'm going to
watch the first two episodes because my girlfriend told me
she was like, watch the first two episodes and like
don't give up on it, like just trust me, Like
be in it for the long haul. So I watched
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the first two episodes. Mark comes in on the second episode,
is intrigued by it. Now it has become our show. Okay,
now it's not just my show anymore. So that first
of all was annoying to me. Then it became our show,
so I couldn't watch it without him, which in turn
made me delay me watching this whole thing. Right, there
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is an example of a beige flag in your relationship.
Like he couldn't have been bothered before. He's not bothered
with housewives. He doesn't even watch Below Deck with me.
But when he got into White Lotus, then it became
our show, and he was like offended when I watched
without him.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Girl, if I watch a show that is our show
without NOONI you know what I do. I rewind the
episode so that he doesn't know I watched it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Oh see, I can't keep a straight face though. That's
the thing. It's like, I won't give myself I'll watch
it again. That good. I am not that good. See.
I wish I had that like ability because I would
be like, oh my gosh, I can't okay, fine, just
wait for it. Like I'm that type of person that
will say that. So another user on TikTok says that, like,
you know, beige flags are not just things that like
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affect that person. There are things that can affect you.
Like So for example, if Mark says we're leaving at
three pm, we are leaving at three pm, okay, But
like other people will say like, oh, oh, we're gonna
leave soon. Well, what does soon mean? Soon means different
things for different people. Soon for you, honey, could be
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thirty minutes soon for Mark Grossman means five minutes. You
know what I mean. So those are like examples of
beige flags that I saw too, where it's like it
doesn't just affect you, like it affects the partner.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
This beige flag right here that I saw, it's from
a couple and she says that her fiance's beige flag
is that he doesn't like to eat dinner in silence.
That he will google a couple questions or relationship quizzes,
and when they go out to a restaurant, he wants
to talk the entire time.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
But see, I think that's so sweet. I feel like
that's connecting and I actually applaud his effort because I
will say this you know, the kids are gone, and
Mark and I went out to dinner a couple of
nights ago and we were sitting there and yeah, okay,
finally we were discussing things like that, we have coming up,
we have trips coming up, we have this, we have that, like,
we have like all of these things that we had
to like kind of square away on the calendar. Then
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I ever, like you talk about things and you work
things out, then it's just kind of like, okay, it's
not awkward silence, but it's like it would be nice
to have other things to go to. So I actually
applaud that partner for having like the foresight to say, hey,
we're gonna need some shit to talk about.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
That's super cute. We just gossip during dinner, but that's
super cute on his part. One beige flag that I
can throw out there at Carolina is if he doesn't
like the beach, that's a beige flag for me, Like,
I'm not gonna break up with you, I'll still date you,
but I have a big problem with that. I love
the beach, and if this man doesn't care about the beach,
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water tanning, or just relaxing by the sand, that's a
beige flag.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
But see, beige flag means that it's not a deal breaker.
So you would really like if somebody came up to
you and said, I'm not down for the beach, like
you would stop dating them if it was like in
dating terms.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Nah, it's it's a beige flag. I could still date him,
but I have an issue with it.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Okay, all right, So when we come back, we are
going to continue the discussion of beige flags and whether
or not it's time to walk, So we'll we'll go
through that right after. Okay. So we were discussing something
and you and I both were researching beige flags, and
there was one that came up that I thought, oh
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my gosh, if I would have applied this to my
own relationship, we would have never made it. So somebody
said that their beige flag is that the person that
they're with is never at one hundred percent health, meaning
like they always have like a headache or you know,
their their stomach is bothering them or.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
You know, make them fake ailments.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Yeah, it's like it's like they're never at one hundred percent,
Like you don't wake up one day just feeling great.
Like listen, as we get older. I'll be honest with you.
I do wake up with like random aches and pains.
I slept on my shoulder the wrong way the other night.
I had like a thord shoulder. I was just like,
are you being.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So annoyed at you all day long? If you keep
complaining about that shoulder?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Well, and then it's also just like, oh, I'm so tired.
So what this girl was saying about like a beige
flag was just like when somebody is just never at
one hundred percent, You're going to live the rest of
your life with this person's ailments. And I thought to myself,
that is a major beige flag for me, because there
are times when like I don't need to hear about
your ailments. I got enough of my own.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
I got friends that that's all they do, and I
cringe when they call me because I'm like, I know
the list of ailments is coming and it'd be like
weird ailments. So I ate and I have a pain
on my side that won't leave.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's like, you you have
your own things to deal with, and then to have
to deal with somebody else's like stuff like you know,
hold on top of it. No, thank you, So no,
that's another beige flag. Another thing that I found was
like somebody said that if they eat pizza with a fork,
another like food thing. A lot of these things revolve
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around food.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
That is alarming, correct, Tarrelina, That is not a beige flag.
That is, as a new worker, that is a red
flag to me, you are not all mentally up there
if you are cutting up a slice of pizza.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
I do it all the time because my pizza I
always have so many toppings on it that I want
to get every topping in every bite. And I have
no problem with myself.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
I am you get I know who you are. You
get that pizza that's no longer pizza. Got it?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
I get like mushroom, black olive onion. But I want
every delectable bite to have every single topping on it.
And I see nothing wrong with my behavior. Don't at me, Okay,
me on it. Okay, I want to have. If I'm
going to indulge in pizza, I want it to be
everything I wanted to be. Wait, no, somebody else wrote
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if they continue to wear underwear or clothes that have
holes in them. Okay, now, other than like the trendy
thing of like, you know, obviously wearing jeans that have
holes in them. If you're a full grown adult and
you're wearing your you know, underwear with holes in them,
we need to have a talk. That's definitely a beige flag.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Nah, drawls with holes in them, Nah, that's photos out.
We can get you new ones. Underwears are not that expensive,
my love.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
No, I know. And it's like you got a rotato
comes and see it was like you've got to make
sure that, like your game is on. Some of the
beige flags too that I thought were really interesting about
the dating apps in particular, And I think this one
is so, so so true. It would definitely bring up
like a moment of pause for me if they wear
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sunglasses in every photo. What are you hiding? Bro? What
are you or what are you hiding? Sis? Because girls
do it too.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Oh for sure. And here here's why it's like borderline
beige red. Sometimes when people take off their sunglasses, they
look like a completely different human, eyes be wandering all
over the place. You might no longer be physically attracted
to that.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Person, right, So a beige flag in if you go
on somebody's dating app and there is not one picture
of them without sunglasses. It may be time to swipe.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Left or right. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, well I think that's that, and I think it's left.
But then also somebody said, and this is really really true,
and I believe this. If they're competitive about everything, like
I get it. It's fun if you go to like
trivia nights or because that's like all a part of
like dating and getting to know each other. Right when
you go and do these fun things, Oh.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
For sure, but you got to get into it. Girl,
I beat my pits, be sweating. If we do anything competitive, girl,
give me another little sprits of the.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Odor, Well, yes, because we want to get in that.
But if they're competitive about everything and they don't ever
let you win, not that they should let you win,
but if they're just like super aggie and like super
aggressive and like they need to win it everything, that's
a definite page for me. That would be a red
flag because it's like, why are you so intense? Like
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I love to win too, but we don't have to
win everything.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
If you had David Buster's doing the little basketball shooting
situation and he's elbow you to get out the way
I feel you that's a redfly for me.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah, definitely. So I don't know, I feel like we're
very fortunate to not be in that space of having
to like decipher these beige flags or these red flags.
But also I think it's like good looking out for
those of you who are out in the dating game again,
you know. And like I will say this, my sister's
been out of the dating game for years, and she said,
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every time I go back in, it is so overwhelming,
so daunting, because it's just a different game that's being
played now.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
It is because my sister, she's been she's been single
for a while, and she dates, She used these dating apps,
and sometimes she just tells me, I'm closing it all down.
I'm not messing with this. I'd rather just focus on
my career. I'd rather focus on traveling. This dating shit
is not for me. It is a mess out here.
And I'm like le Tinder, Sierra Bumbo Instagram.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
You get why, you know, I mean, she's that's the
only way that people are meeting though right now. That's
the thing that sucks about it.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Come on, I met somebody, didn't meet somebody. I saw
somebody that I haven't seen in a long time and
she had a new boyfriend with her and I said,
how did you meet and she said, oh, my sister
introduced us. I was floored, Carolina, I have not met
people that met through other people in years.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Everything is I Oh, that's the move though. Who was
I talking to the other day? Okay, so it's a
friend of mine. Her daughter is in a different grade
and she was dating somebody they broke up, and she said, oh,
if you know anyone you know, like hook me up.
And I said, girl, I mean we pretty much all
know the same people, you know? And she said, I'm
convinced that the only way that I will find another
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partner is through other people, because the dating apps are
that bad.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
I get Banna. Thank god I grew up ten years ago,
because right now I wouldn't be able to do it.
They flags, red flags, all types of flags.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Well some of the other beige flags that you guys
can look out for. Somebody said, if they're always taking
pictures of themselves at the gym, if they're saying that
they're a regular at the gym, if they like to
describe their physical appearance when they literally have photos of
themselves online, like that's a beige flag. If they have
the word foodie anywhere in their profile, which that to
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me would be like a great thing. I would think,
oh my gosh, like this person has the knowledge I
want to go out with them.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
You would think. But I don't know. I don't know.
It's just so many different things. Like I was on TikTok,
I saw at least thirty tiktoks. It feels like everything
is a beige flag.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
They said, if they have multiple pictures of them in
the club, that's a beige flag, which okay, But then
like if you're single. That's why I feel like maybe
sometimes we're dissecting things too much, because if somebody's single,
then where do you want them to be taking pictures?
If they're taking pictures with their cat in their living room,
then you're like, oh, beig flag, he's boring and out
of the club. See. I feel like there's just too
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many like preconceived notions, and I feel like we're not
giving each other a chance. So take the beige flag thing,
like with a grain of salt, see if it works
for you or if it doesn't. And if you've like
encountered any of these beige flags, we definitely want to know.
But after this, we're going to go straight to the
salon unless you have more beage flags you want to
get into.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Honey, girl, my whole life is a beage flag with
this mamba continue.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
All right, Well before we go to the salon, Honey,
what page flags does NOONI have? If you said that
the whole thing is a page flag with him.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
I don't know. It's just wee well his I think
my top of the list is that he uses his
phone with the volume up, no matter what he's doing,
no matter what he's watching. He does not have any
regards for me. If he's on let's say Instagram reels,
he'll watch twenty minutes of reels with the volume on
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high and it's like, oh that a monkey, Oh that
was a car, Oh that was a comedian.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
I'm like Jesus Christ, I won't divorce you because of this,
but it's killing me.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Okay, wait Soonie, Noonie's beige flag, Poor Noonie. I feel
like he is just you too. Crack me up now, Darlinas.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
He has ear pods, I'm like, I charged him and
I always bring him and be like you want ear pods.
He's like if I wanted EarPods, I would have grabbed
him and I'm like, well, I don't want to hear
what you're watching.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Why is he giving me old THEO vibes? Like that
is something that my THEO would do. He would be
sitting in a room and start watching Facebook, like full
blown volume in your regard for anybody else that's like,
that's full THEO vibe right there.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
And there you go. We're gonna shame him him to
feeling like that's old people behavior.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
So he could quit exactly. And you know that he
wants to be up on the trends, which, by the way,
sidebar his business. That car looked amazing. I know, I'm sorry,
I'm totally diverting from the topic, but like I don't
know if you guys know, but noone has a new business.
And what is he doing? Is he wrapping cars?
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yes, so he's always loved cars. So me, being the
amazing wife, I am encouraged him to go off and
get certified. He took two weeks and we launched his business,
New Design and he does car wraps, final wraps and
no he lives for Carolina. He'll wrap an entire car
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for you. You pick the color, bring it here well to
the shop, and he'll take care of it for you. Yeah,
this is a whole new episode. I think this is
another episode, Carolina, because I felt like his career early
in his life was not what he loved. So I
decided for him that I want you to now explore
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what you love. I don't care how much it costs.
I want you the second half of your life as
a working person to enjoy.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah. Yeah, and he.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Loves it, Carolina, But I feel like that's a whole
other episode, switching gears. Getting a new career and feeling
fulfilled when you work, and that's something that he's feeling
right now. And I am so happy for him.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I love that for him. Yeah yeah, Karlina, he doesn't care.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
They'll be like, oh, can you wrap a car today?
He'd be like, yep, pull up, and he'll work till
three am to make it happen. I've never seen I
never saw him with his old career even care to
get up to go to work. Now he don't sleep
so he can work.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Oh wow, what is that?
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Like?
Speaker 2 (22:34):
You know what it is? It's like he's filled his
spirit with something that he really enjoys, which is so beautiful.
You know, it's like, not everybody gets to do that.
But yeah, I saw some of the cars that he's
been doing, and I was like, whoa, these are like
works of art.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
He's the man, got like the man got talent the man,
and he does. And he's always loved cars. There's always
been his passion. So I'm happy for him, and I
love this for me too, because he's gonna work hard,
he's gonna make a lot of money. I'm gonna get
a lot of money.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Well, listen, it's the trickle down theory. You know. Hey,
he's happy, you're happy, everybody's happy. Then we will take
it so good. Well, we'll have to do another episode
on that. But I did want to go to the
salon before we break because this one is good. Okay,
So this this comes to us from Deienna and she said, hey,
Honey and Carolina, I just wanted to write to you
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guys because I'm having a dilemma. I've been with this
guy for two months or so. I finally brought him
back to my apartment. Things were going great until he
told me he hates dogs and to keep my precious
Rocco locked upstairs by the way. I had a dog
named Rocco, and she goes on to say, Rocco has
been my dog for over five years and this boy
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is telling me what I can and can't do and
we're only two months in hell No, so I called
him an uber and sent him on his way. I
haven't spoken to him since. My friends think that I'm
crazy and that I overreacted, but I think I just
dodged a huge red Oh look, dogs was a huge
red flag. Am I the asshole? This is from Deanna
and Rocco, and she wants to know whether or not
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she was in the wrong for sending this guy on
his way after he told her that he didn't want
the dog around.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
You gotta go, my man. Listen, this dog been here
five years, you'll be here two months. You probably just
trying to smash and you're telling me to lock up
my baby. You guss to go. I would have never
called him an uber, that's first of all. Yeah, and
my dog would have been right on my lap the
whole entire man. He was there for that one time.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Yeah, I don't know, Diana, like something about this is
really bothering me because if you were talking to this
guy for two months. There had to be a conversation
where you brought up your dog. I mean, obviously you've
had your dog for five years. You probably put your
dog in your dating profile, you know what I mean,
Like you're very aware that somebody has an animal or
that they're an animal lover, you know, like and I
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told the story a million times, Like I had two
little dogs when I first started dating Mark z your question,
you came to my house or two little Yorkis yapping away,
you know, when we were on the phone having conversations,
you can hear the dog barking in the background. So
then he waited until he got to your house to
tell you it a lot. First of all, you're not
gonna tell me what to do in my own home.
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That's the first thing.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
He was probably like, Yo, she fly or whatever. I'm gonna,
you know, not care about the dog when I go
to her house, I'm gonna just tell her to lock
up the dog. But li did he know Deanna is
not just a dog owner. She is a fir mommy.
And that's where the problem served.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
Well exactly, And the fact that you're going to request
that she keep her dog in the other room, Like
what do you what do you think is gonna happen? Like,
do you think that I'm just gonna lock up my
dog every time you come over? Don't you think this?
THEEDS a little bit further of a discussion. So, Deanna,
I feel like you did definitely dodge a red flag. Also,
there's something about guys who don't like animals. There has
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to be some kind of trauma that happened in the past.
Why don't you what's your deal with dogs? Like, let's
go there, talk to me about it.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
One thing is you're allergic to dogs. That I could
understand bus straight up, like, I hate dogs. I don't
want to be around dogs. You're not my type of
person because I am an.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Animal lover exactly, That's what I'm saying. So if this
is an animal lover, you've dodged a definite red flag,
not even a beige flag. But second of all, Babe,
why are you calling him an uber? He has a phone.
He could call the uber on his own. Next time,
you politely ask him to gather or whoever it is,
to gather their things and leave and let him figure
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it out what he's outside on the sidewalk. I think
you were very generous and offering him the uber and
by the way, let me add this, the fact that
he hasn't even reached out after gives me definite weirdo
vibes on it, Like I would be mortified if somebody
sent me on my way, and like I would just
be like, hey, I'm sorry, there may have been a miscommunication.
Like I'm just not sure if the dog would have
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liked me, you know what I mean, Like, I don't know.
I think that this guy was definitely a.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Buster at the US MAAMU. It was nice knowing you.
Good luck with the next.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
One, Yeah, Deanna, definitely. I hope that you go out
there and you find somebody that's going to accept and
love your dogs. Almost to the point where, like my dogs,
they didn't even see me anymore after Mark Grossman came
in the picture. They like changed their masters, which they say,
like dogs never change their masters. These little mofos did.
They're like, no, bitch, you've been feeding us for eight
(27:28):
years of our life, but like we're gonna go with
this dude now because he makes us feel safe.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I was like, okay, that's the same thing to happen
to me with Roxy, Like Roxy was my dog. Then
she became Nuoni's dog. Then they developed like a romantic relationship.
And I used to argue because I would go lay
down and the dog was like on his shoulder licking
his face. I'm like, I need this dog out of here.
It's like me and her were fighting over his man competing.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Oh no, it's a full blown competition here. Erna will
like stake her claim. She'll get on the couch and
put her paw over Merk's leg like she has claimed
her man.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
So this is my man. I don't know about you, Carolina,
but this mark is mine.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I know, but I'm like, bitch, you only lived for
like ten to thirteen years, so whatever, We're straight on
that note. Now, you know what, Guys, you can always
email us, send us your saloon questions at l spanglish.
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And hit us up on a gram. Send us over
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Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm Carolina Bermudez soy nika a wins it. But I
was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker bee.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
You know. It's movements like this that make me so
happy that I am not in the dating world anymore
because TikTok is all over this new thing that is
taking over, which, by the way, we shouldn't be surprised
because TikTok has like all of the info. It is
where all of the information lies. But this beij flag
thing that is happening in the dating world, we must
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discuss this.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Let's talk about it, because even though we're not dating. Carolina,
when I was looking at this trend, I'm like, what
is it? And they said it's like weird habits that
are less than a deal breaker but are not a plus.
And I'm like, oh wow, my husband got a bunch
of ohs. What divorce them? But I'm happy about them.
So I said, we're going to get into this beige
flag trend and break it down for our listeners.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
So yeah, so beige flag less offensive than a red flag.
So basically these are things that like are not deal breakers,
Like they're not going to make you run away from
the relationship, but they give you pause. They make you
stop and say, who is this person that I'm with?
I love this and I looked it up and somebody
said a beige flag. It's like a trendy relationship term, yes,
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but basically it's where someone can identify signs on these
dating apps that make you wonder about the person, whether
or not they're really making the effort like this is.
There's a lot of different interpretations for beige flags, so
I get it, Like, if you're on a dating app,
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how would you know whether or not to move forward
with somebody unless you like really start picking apart their
profile so you can even pick You can even find
some of these beige flags in their description in these
dating apps. That's what I found out about this.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
If I was on a dating app, Carolina, you want
me to give you a beige flag really quick? If
I see this man with anything superhero related like a
Superman T shirt or a Batman but a hell No,
that's a beige flag. You could be fine, but I
don't know, girl, I just cannot stomach a man that's
obsessed with superhero anything.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
As a full blown adult. You cannot take if he's
into Marvel DC, if he's the first one in line
to see thor things of that, that's your beige flag.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I could still date him, but it's gonna bother me
the whole relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Okay, So perfect definition of a beige flag. I saw
a definitely or I saw an example of a beige
flag that I thought, oh, okay, I get it now.
This one person said that whenever her date would ask
for a fork at a sushi restaurant, that's a beige
flag because it's like, how are you going to come
to a sushi restaurant fully knowing that you need to
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be able to like be adept with chopsticks, and you're
gonna ask for a fork, Then that's a beige flag.
So that's what this one woman was saying, Like how
because she's in the dating world and she's out there,
and that's one thing that she said. She's like, I
like to go out for sushi dinners or like, you know,
just to test to see like if this is a
beige flag for me, if the person asks a request
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a fork that.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Feels evil, I don't feel like everyone in America knows
how to use chopsticks, so I feel like I don't
know she's being a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
That's a personal I feel like that's a personal beige flag. Right,
So these people are all over the place, and then
I start to think to myself, like, what are my
beige flags?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Oh girl, we would have to bring the guys in
on this episode. I'm pretty sure we have a million
beige flags.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I mean, listen, my husband could really break it down
with me, because I feel like I am just in
totality a beige flag. But yeah, like, for example, something
that drives. I can offer myself up on this one
and say I am probably the worst person to sleep
with because I don't have just one alarm. I have
three alarms, and I don't necessarily like allow myself to
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snooze because I am considerate of my partner. I know
that three point fifteen is rude, It's like a rude awakening,
but there are those times where I'm super tired, so
I have three fifteen that I have three thirty and
then I have three forty five. Is like, that's it.
You're not gonna make it like you basically just have
to like brush your teeth and get into the city
type of vibe.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
You know, that is not only a beige flag, Carolina,
that warrants you have your separate bedroom. If we were married,
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
That's that's a whole discussion that we were like, actually, like,
the only thing is that I need Mark to put
me to bed, otherwise we would be completely content sleeping
in different bed pods.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
You know me, I love TikTok, So as soon as
we said, you know, let's talk about beige flags, I
went dive on TikTok and I saw one particular trend.
A lot of women were saying that their boyfriend or
husband's beage flag is that they're super unbothered to ask
for any details that he'll be like, oh my best
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friend broke up with her man. Oh that's sad, zero details.
Oh my sister had a baby, Oh congratulations, zero details.
Is d a beige flag for you, Carolina?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
It's not a beach flag. But I feel like it
depends on the person. Like there are some guys who
are so down to give you like every dirty detail,
like my one girlfriend is married to I won't. I mean,
obviously I'm not gonna say who they are. But he
is always down for the tea piping hot he wants it.
He'll sit in the room with us while we're talking
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about other people. He just loves to be around it, Okay,
And like whenever he tells the story, he gives very
pertinent details. Mark Grossman, my husband is the type that
would not even bring it up, like he could have
been president for like the throwdown of all throwdowns, and
he would not give me any info, unbothered, unbothered by
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the details. Where meanwhile, I'm like living for them. I'm like,
and what was she wearing? And then did a titty
pop out? Like what happened? Like does somebody have a
black eye? Like can we discuss this? But he does
not do that. Yeah, so I would say that's definitely
a sign of a beige flag for some people, but
for Mark, that's like completely normal.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
A lot of women complain about this. They want men
to ask questions. I feel like I would need it
to I can't tell you such and such got a
new job, and you're not gonna ask me where you're
not gonna ask me how much did it make you?
Or you're not gonna ask me what the position is.
That's a beige flag for me. I like to talk
and a lot of women on TikTok are having the
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same exact beige flag problem.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Well, also, you know what people are talking about beige
flags in relationships too, Like this isn't just limited to
the people who are single out there, like you know
when when you have a partnership, and let's say, for example,
like I started watching White Lotus. Okay, White Lotus was hot.
I did not get in on White Lotus though, to
be fair, until like close to the second season. Everybody
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was hyping it up. I was late to the game,
so was I.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
I just watched the first season last week.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Oh my gosh, Okay, yeah, so I before season two
came out, everybody was ridiculing me and saying, I can't
believe you haven't watched White Lotus. So finally I was like,
I'm going to commit myself to this. I'm going to
watch the first two episodes because my girlfriend told me
she was like, watch the first two episodes and like
don't give up on it, like just trust me, Like
be in it for the long haul. So I watched
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the first two episodes. Mark comes in on the second episode,
is intrigued by it. Now it has become our show. Okay,
now it's not just my show anymore. So that first
of all was annoying to me. Then it became our show,
so I couldn't watch it without him, which in turn
made me delay me watching this whole thing. Right, there
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is an example of a beige flag in your relationship.
Like he couldn't have been bothered before. He's not bothered
with housewives. He doesn't even watch Below Deck with me.
But when he got into White Lotus, then it became
our show, and he was like offended when I watched
without him.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Girl, if I watch a show that is our show
without NOONI you know what I do. I rewind the
episode so that he doesn't know I watched it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Oh see, I can't keep a straight face though. That's
the thing. It's like, I won't give myself I'll watch
it again. That good. I am not that good. See.
I wish I had that like ability because I would
be like, oh my gosh, I can't okay, fine, just
wait for it. Like I'm that type of person that
will say that. So another user on TikTok says that, like,
you know, beige flags are not just things that like
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affect that person. There are things that can affect you.
Like So for example, if Mark says we're leaving at
three pm, we are leaving at three pm, okay, But
like other people will say like, oh, oh, we're gonna
leave soon. Well, what does soon mean? Soon means different
things for different people. Soon for you, honey, could be
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thirty minutes soon for Mark Grossman means five minutes. You
know what I mean. So those are like examples of
beige flags that I saw too, where it's like it
doesn't just affect you, like it affects the partner.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
This beige flag right here that I saw, it's from
a couple and she says that her fiance's beige flag
is that he doesn't like to eat dinner in silence.
That he will google a couple questions or relationship quizzes,
and when they go out to a restaurant, he wants
to talk the entire time.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
But see, I think that's so sweet. I feel like
that's connecting and I actually applaud his effort because I
will say this you know, the kids are gone, and
Mark and I went out to dinner a couple of
nights ago and we were sitting there and yeah, okay,
finally we were discussing things like that, we have coming up,
we have trips coming up, we have this, we have that, like,
we have like all of these things that we had
to like kind of square away on the calendar. Then
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I ever, like you talk about things and you work
things out, then it's just kind of like, okay, it's
not awkward silence, but it's like it would be nice
to have other things to go to. So I actually
applaud that partner for having like the foresight to say, hey,
we're gonna need some shit to talk about.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
That's super cute. We just gossip during dinner, but that's
super cute on his part. One beige flag that I
can throw out there at Carolina is if he doesn't
like the beach, that's a beige flag for me, Like,
I'm not gonna break up with you, I'll still date you,
but I have a big problem with that. I love
the beach, and if this man doesn't care about the beach,
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water tanning, or just relaxing by the sand, that's a
beige flag.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
But see, beige flag means that it's not a deal breaker.
So you would really like if somebody came up to
you and said, I'm not down for the beach, like
you would stop dating them if it was like in
dating terms.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Nah, it's it's a beige flag. I could still date him,
but I have an issue with it.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Okay, all right, So when we come back, we are
going to continue the discussion of beige flags and whether
or not it's time to walk, So we'll we'll go
through that right after. Okay. So we were discussing something
and you and I both were researching beige flags, and
there was one that came up that I thought, oh
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my gosh, if I would have applied this to my
own relationship, we would have never made it. So somebody
said that their beige flag is that the person that
they're with is never at one hundred percent health, meaning
like they always have like a headache or you know,
their their stomach is bothering them or.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
You know, make them fake ailments.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Yeah, it's like it's like they're never at one hundred percent,
Like you don't wake up one day just feeling great.
Like listen, as we get older. I'll be honest with you.
I do wake up with like random aches and pains.
I slept on my shoulder the wrong way the other night.
I had like a thord shoulder. I was just like,
are you being.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So annoyed at you all day long? If you keep
complaining about that shoulder?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Well, and then it's also just like, oh, I'm so tired.
So what this girl was saying about like a beige
flag was just like when somebody is just never at
one hundred percent, You're going to live the rest of
your life with this person's ailments. And I thought to myself,
that is a major beige flag for me, because there
are times when like I don't need to hear about
your ailments. I got enough of my own.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
I got friends that that's all they do, and I
cringe when they call me because I'm like, I know
the list of ailments is coming and it'd be like
weird ailments. So I ate and I have a pain
on my side that won't leave.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's like, you you have
your own things to deal with, and then to have
to deal with somebody else's like stuff like you know,
hold on top of it. No, thank you, So no,
that's another beige flag. Another thing that I found was
like somebody said that if they eat pizza with a fork,
another like food thing. A lot of these things revolve
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around food.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
That is alarming, correct, Tarrelina, That is not a beige flag.
That is, as a new worker, that is a red
flag to me, you are not all mentally up there
if you are cutting up a slice of pizza.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
I do it all the time because my pizza I
always have so many toppings on it that I want
to get every topping in every bite. And I have
no problem with myself.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
I am you get I know who you are. You
get that pizza that's no longer pizza. Got it?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
I get like mushroom, black olive onion. But I want
every delectable bite to have every single topping on it.
And I see nothing wrong with my behavior. Don't at me, Okay,
me on it. Okay, I want to have. If I'm
going to indulge in pizza, I want it to be
everything I wanted to be. Wait, no, somebody else wrote
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if they continue to wear underwear or clothes that have
holes in them. Okay, now, other than like the trendy
thing of like, you know, obviously wearing jeans that have
holes in them. If you're a full grown adult and
you're wearing your you know, underwear with holes in them,
we need to have a talk. That's definitely a beige flag.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Nah, drawls with holes in them, Nah, that's photos out.
We can get you new ones. Underwears are not that expensive,
my love.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
No, I know. And it's like you got a rotato
comes and see it was like you've got to make
sure that, like your game is on. Some of the
beige flags too that I thought were really interesting about
the dating apps in particular, And I think this one
is so, so so true. It would definitely bring up
like a moment of pause for me if they wear
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sunglasses in every photo. What are you hiding? Bro? What
are you or what are you hiding? Sis? Because girls
do it too.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Oh for sure. And here here's why it's like borderline
beige red. Sometimes when people take off their sunglasses, they
look like a completely different human, eyes be wandering all
over the place. You might no longer be physically attracted
to that.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Person, right, So a beige flag in if you go
on somebody's dating app and there is not one picture
of them without sunglasses. It may be time to swipe.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Left or right. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, well I think that's that, and I think it's left.
But then also somebody said, and this is really really true,
and I believe this. If they're competitive about everything, like
I get it. It's fun if you go to like
trivia nights or because that's like all a part of
like dating and getting to know each other. Right when
you go and do these fun things, Oh.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
For sure, but you got to get into it. Girl,
I beat my pits, be sweating. If we do anything competitive, girl,
give me another little sprits of the.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Odor, Well, yes, because we want to get in that.
But if they're competitive about everything and they don't ever
let you win, not that they should let you win,
but if they're just like super aggie and like super
aggressive and like they need to win it everything, that's
a definite page for me. That would be a red
flag because it's like, why are you so intense? Like
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I love to win too, but we don't have to
win everything.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
If you had David Buster's doing the little basketball shooting
situation and he's elbow you to get out the way
I feel you that's a redfly for me.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah, definitely. So I don't know, I feel like we're
very fortunate to not be in that space of having
to like decipher these beige flags or these red flags.
But also I think it's like good looking out for
those of you who are out in the dating game again,
you know. And like I will say this, my sister's
been out of the dating game for years, and she said,
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every time I go back in, it is so overwhelming,
so daunting, because it's just a different game that's being
played now.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
It is because my sister, she's been she's been single
for a while, and she dates, She used these dating apps,
and sometimes she just tells me, I'm closing it all down.
I'm not messing with this. I'd rather just focus on
my career. I'd rather focus on traveling. This dating shit
is not for me. It is a mess out here.
And I'm like le Tinder, Sierra Bumbo Instagram.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
You get why, you know, I mean, she's that's the
only way that people are meeting though right now. That's
the thing that sucks about it.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Come on, I met somebody, didn't meet somebody. I saw
somebody that I haven't seen in a long time and
she had a new boyfriend with her and I said,
how did you meet and she said, oh, my sister
introduced us. I was floored, Carolina, I have not met
people that met through other people in years.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Everything is I Oh, that's the move though. Who was
I talking to the other day? Okay, so it's a
friend of mine. Her daughter is in a different grade
and she was dating somebody they broke up, and she said, oh,
if you know anyone you know, like hook me up.
And I said, girl, I mean we pretty much all
know the same people, you know? And she said, I'm
convinced that the only way that I will find another
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partner is through other people, because the dating apps are
that bad.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
I get Banna. Thank god I grew up ten years ago,
because right now I wouldn't be able to do it.
They flags, red flags, all types of flags.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Well some of the other beige flags that you guys
can look out for. Somebody said, if they're always taking
pictures of themselves at the gym, if they're saying that
they're a regular at the gym, if they like to
describe their physical appearance when they literally have photos of
themselves online, like that's a beige flag. If they have
the word foodie anywhere in their profile, which that to
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me would be like a great thing. I would think,
oh my gosh, like this person has the knowledge I
want to go out with them.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
You would think. But I don't know. I don't know.
It's just so many different things. Like I was on TikTok,
I saw at least thirty tiktoks. It feels like everything
is a beige flag.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
They said, if they have multiple pictures of them in
the club, that's a beige flag, which okay, But then
like if you're single. That's why I feel like maybe
sometimes we're dissecting things too much, because if somebody's single,
then where do you want them to be taking pictures?
If they're taking pictures with their cat in their living room,
then you're like, oh, beig flag, he's boring and out
of the club. See. I feel like there's just too
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many like preconceived notions, and I feel like we're not
giving each other a chance. So take the beige flag thing,
like with a grain of salt, see if it works
for you or if it doesn't. And if you've like
encountered any of these beige flags, we definitely want to know.
But after this, we're going to go straight to the
salon unless you have more beage flags you want to
get into.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Honey, girl, my whole life is a beage flag with
this mamba continue.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
All right, Well before we go to the salon, Honey,
what page flags does NOONI have? If you said that
the whole thing is a page flag with him.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
I don't know. It's just wee well his I think
my top of the list is that he uses his
phone with the volume up, no matter what he's doing,
no matter what he's watching. He does not have any
regards for me. If he's on let's say Instagram reels,
he'll watch twenty minutes of reels with the volume on
(19:58):
high and it's like, oh that a monkey, Oh that
was a car, Oh that was a comedian.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
I'm like Jesus Christ, I won't divorce you because of this,
but it's killing me.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Okay, wait Soonie, Noonie's beige flag, Poor Noonie. I feel
like he is just you too. Crack me up now, Darlinas.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
He has ear pods, I'm like, I charged him and
I always bring him and be like you want ear pods.
He's like if I wanted EarPods, I would have grabbed
him and I'm like, well, I don't want to hear
what you're watching.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Why is he giving me old THEO vibes? Like that
is something that my THEO would do. He would be
sitting in a room and start watching Facebook, like full
blown volume in your regard for anybody else that's like,
that's full THEO vibe right there.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
And there you go. We're gonna shame him him to
feeling like that's old people behavior.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
So he could quit exactly. And you know that he
wants to be up on the trends, which, by the way,
sidebar his business. That car looked amazing. I know, I'm sorry,
I'm totally diverting from the topic, but like I don't
know if you guys know, but noone has a new business.
And what is he doing? Is he wrapping cars?
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yes, so he's always loved cars. So me, being the
amazing wife, I am encouraged him to go off and
get certified. He took two weeks and we launched his business,
New Design and he does car wraps, final wraps and
no he lives for Carolina. He'll wrap an entire car
(21:30):
for you. You pick the color, bring it here well to
the shop, and he'll take care of it for you. Yeah,
this is a whole new episode. I think this is
another episode, Carolina, because I felt like his career early
in his life was not what he loved. So I
decided for him that I want you to now explore
(21:52):
what you love. I don't care how much it costs.
I want you the second half of your life as
a working person to enjoy.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah. Yeah, and he.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Loves it, Carolina, But I feel like that's a whole
other episode, switching gears. Getting a new career and feeling
fulfilled when you work, and that's something that he's feeling
right now. And I am so happy for him.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I love that for him. Yeah yeah, Karlina, he doesn't care.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
They'll be like, oh, can you wrap a car today?
He'd be like, yep, pull up, and he'll work till
three am to make it happen. I've never seen I
never saw him with his old career even care to
get up to go to work. Now he don't sleep
so he can work.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Oh wow, what is that?
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Like?
Speaker 2 (22:34):
You know what it is? It's like he's filled his
spirit with something that he really enjoys, which is so beautiful.
You know, it's like, not everybody gets to do that.
But yeah, I saw some of the cars that he's
been doing, and I was like, whoa, these are like
works of art.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
He's the man, got like the man got talent the man,
and he does. And he's always loved cars. There's always
been his passion. So I'm happy for him, and I
love this for me too, because he's gonna work hard,
he's gonna make a lot of money. I'm gonna get
a lot of money.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Well, listen, it's the trickle down theory. You know. Hey,
he's happy, you're happy, everybody's happy. Then we will take
it so good. Well, we'll have to do another episode
on that. But I did want to go to the
salon before we break because this one is good. Okay,
So this this comes to us from Deienna and she said, hey,
Honey and Carolina, I just wanted to write to you
(23:24):
guys because I'm having a dilemma. I've been with this
guy for two months or so. I finally brought him
back to my apartment. Things were going great until he
told me he hates dogs and to keep my precious
Rocco locked upstairs by the way. I had a dog
named Rocco, and she goes on to say, Rocco has
been my dog for over five years and this boy
(23:45):
is telling me what I can and can't do and
we're only two months in hell No, so I called
him an uber and sent him on his way. I
haven't spoken to him since. My friends think that I'm
crazy and that I overreacted, but I think I just
dodged a huge red Oh look, dogs was a huge
red flag. Am I the asshole? This is from Deanna
and Rocco, and she wants to know whether or not
(24:07):
she was in the wrong for sending this guy on
his way after he told her that he didn't want
the dog around.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
You gotta go, my man. Listen, this dog been here
five years, you'll be here two months. You probably just
trying to smash and you're telling me to lock up
my baby. You guss to go. I would have never
called him an uber, that's first of all. Yeah, and
my dog would have been right on my lap the
whole entire man. He was there for that one time.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Yeah, I don't know, Diana, like something about this is
really bothering me because if you were talking to this
guy for two months. There had to be a conversation
where you brought up your dog. I mean, obviously you've
had your dog for five years. You probably put your
dog in your dating profile, you know what I mean,
Like you're very aware that somebody has an animal or
that they're an animal lover, you know, like and I
(24:55):
told the story a million times, Like I had two
little dogs when I first started dating Mark z your question,
you came to my house or two little Yorkis yapping away,
you know, when we were on the phone having conversations,
you can hear the dog barking in the background. So
then he waited until he got to your house to
tell you it a lot. First of all, you're not
gonna tell me what to do in my own home.
(25:16):
That's the first thing.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
He was probably like, Yo, she fly or whatever. I'm gonna,
you know, not care about the dog when I go
to her house, I'm gonna just tell her to lock
up the dog. But li did he know Deanna is
not just a dog owner. She is a fir mommy.
And that's where the problem served.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
Well exactly, And the fact that you're going to request
that she keep her dog in the other room, Like
what do you what do you think is gonna happen? Like,
do you think that I'm just gonna lock up my
dog every time you come over? Don't you think this?
THEEDS a little bit further of a discussion. So, Deanna,
I feel like you did definitely dodge a red flag. Also,
there's something about guys who don't like animals. There has
(25:56):
to be some kind of trauma that happened in the past.
Why don't you what's your deal with dogs? Like, let's
go there, talk to me about it.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
One thing is you're allergic to dogs. That I could
understand bus straight up, like, I hate dogs. I don't
want to be around dogs. You're not my type of
person because I am an.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Animal lover exactly, That's what I'm saying. So if this
is an animal lover, you've dodged a definite red flag,
not even a beige flag. But second of all, Babe,
why are you calling him an uber? He has a phone.
He could call the uber on his own. Next time,
you politely ask him to gather or whoever it is,
to gather their things and leave and let him figure
(26:36):
it out what he's outside on the sidewalk. I think
you were very generous and offering him the uber and
by the way, let me add this, the fact that
he hasn't even reached out after gives me definite weirdo
vibes on it, Like I would be mortified if somebody
sent me on my way, and like I would just
be like, hey, I'm sorry, there may have been a miscommunication.
Like I'm just not sure if the dog would have
(26:57):
liked me, you know what I mean, Like, I don't know.
I think that this guy was definitely a.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Buster at the US MAAMU. It was nice knowing you.
Good luck with the next.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
One, Yeah, Deanna, definitely. I hope that you go out
there and you find somebody that's going to accept and
love your dogs. Almost to the point where, like my dogs,
they didn't even see me anymore after Mark Grossman came
in the picture. They like changed their masters, which they say,
like dogs never change their masters. These little mofos did.
They're like, no, bitch, you've been feeding us for eight
(27:28):
years of our life, but like we're gonna go with
this dude now because he makes us feel safe.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I was like, okay, that's the same thing to happen
to me with Roxy, Like Roxy was my dog. Then
she became Nuoni's dog. Then they developed like a romantic relationship.
And I used to argue because I would go lay
down and the dog was like on his shoulder licking
his face. I'm like, I need this dog out of here.
It's like me and her were fighting over his man competing.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Oh no, it's a full blown competition here. Erna will
like stake her claim. She'll get on the couch and
put her paw over Merk's leg like she has claimed
her man.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
So this is my man. I don't know about you, Carolina,
but this mark is mine.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I know, but I'm like, bitch, you only lived for
like ten to thirteen years, so whatever, We're straight on
that note. Now, you know what, Guys, you can always
email us, send us your saloon questions at l spanglish.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
And hit us up on a gram. Send us over
all your beige flags, whether you're dating and a relationship
or married. I want to know that I'm not out
here alone because I had a list of ten bage flags.
I just didn't give it to y'all. Hit us on
social media.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
It's l spanglish, yes, and you can hit me up individually.
I'm at the real Carolina on all social.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
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Speaker 2 (28:47):
Definitely, and we'll be back next week for another episode.
Thanks so much for joining us, guys.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
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