August 12, 2022 • 30 mins
Tom Brady made headlines when he came out and said that being rich has made parenting HARDER for him and Giselle. Honey and Carolina discuss what they really mean and bring up some great points about remaining humble despite the fame and fortune.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I
was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker being. This is life in English. Honey.
I know you're not a big football person, but we've
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got to discuss what Tom Brady said a couple of
weeks ago that has not left it lives rent free
in my head because I feel like it is such
an argument to have Carolina before you tell me exactly
what he says. The Latina mean was like you said football.
I'm like, does she mean soccer? Does she mean football?
What the hell she means? Yes, That's where I knew.
(00:49):
I was like, no, Honey's done with it. But I
mean to discuss this with you because I want to
hear your opinion. So Tom Brady, okay of New England Patriots.
You know he plays for the Buccaneers. Now he's got
a clothing line. He's married to, I would say, in
my humble opinion, to one of the most beautiful women
in the world. Okay, yes, do you don't think she's pretty.
(01:11):
I think she's so beautiful. She's gorgeous. No, she is gorgeous,
but I just want to make sure I got the
right model. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's that's her. Um. So
they have three children together, one from his previous relationship
with virgin Winterhand so um. But they but they call
parents so um. And then they have two children together.
So he and Giselle have their two kids, and then
he has his other child from his previous relationship. So
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Tom Brady was doing a episode of a podcast where
he revealed the hardest part of parenting, and he said
the hardest part of him being a parent right now
in two is raising his kids to be grounded despite
them being wealthy. Now, I want to discuss this because
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I feel like we both came from different backgrounds and
I want to hear what your perspective is. But let
me just let me just give you the details of
what Tom Brady. So, tom Brady is basically one of
the richest men I would say, like probably one of
the richest men in the world, and he will be
actually after he goes and does this broadcasting contract. I mean,
the guy is just making hundreds of millions of dollars.
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So he said, my kids will have an issue being grounded.
We have people that clean for us, people that make
our food, we have people that drive us to the airport.
That's my kid's reality, which is a hard part to say, guys,
this is not the way reality really is. And he
said that he's had a really hard time explaining this
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to his children because his own childhood was so different.
He grew up middle class in California. His dad worked
his ass off, his mom worked every day. So a
lot of people took this one sound bite that Tom
Brady made and they were like, Oh, poor little rich guy,
you're worried about raising your kids with too much money.
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I wish I had those problems when you have people
out here working too three jobs, can't even fill the
gas tank right now, Inflation all X y Z, all
of these other things. I would love to hear your
perspective on whether or not you think Tom Brady has
a point on this. I think you know everything. I
feel like we take little sound bits and we take
it all out of context. I think maybe parenting is
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hella easy for him, Carolina. He got the nanny's, he
got the cook he got the housekeeper. The only thing
he can't really really teach his kids is how to struggle,
how to be in the hood, how to stove, how
to you know, how to get up and get that money.
He's maybe that's the only thing he can't do for
those kids. He could do everything else in the world
except show them maybe what the streets are really like.
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Maybe that's what he meant. Maybe it wasn't just boo,
who I'm so rich and you know I'm struggling here,
because we know he's not struggling right right. But I
feel like growing up as the youngest of six kids,
there was there was not a hand me down that
was not given to me. I even wore boy hand
me downs. Okay, so here's this. I even bought use
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clothes like my mom would take us to like I
guess secondhand we go in shopping, right, So trust me,
I understand a struggle. But we were not, by any
means raised uh poor or struggling. My father is a doctor,
he you know, obviously worked his tail off to give
us our education, private schools. We had a big house.
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But what people didn't see was the debt of raising
six kids. So I feel like I kind of got
not the best of both worlds, but the worst of
both worlds, because on the exterior people thought we had money,
but on the interior we were really I would watch
my mom put all of our bills out on the table,
and my mom did a really really good job of
trying to you know, the saying Rob Peter to pay Paul.
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You know, if um, if my sister was going to
college and she needed books, then she would say, okay,
well then I'm not going to buy this for this
one this this month because Jenny needs books. Or you know.
One time I needed a new cheerleading outfit and my
brother was applying to medical schools and my mom said,
you know, what are we gonna do? And my brother,
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I remember them having the conversation, said to my mom,
get her the new cheerleading outfit. We can figure it out.
I'll look at the schools and you know. So it
was a very eye opening experience for me. And that's
where I really feel like humility comes from. It's from
seeing your parents or your brothers and sisters in different
life situations. And I think that's what Tom Brady is
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speaking to, that you can have all the money in
the world, but you still have problems or or you
can still have that issue where you don't want to
raise entitled kids. It's like that privilege. You know, there's
also an impact that wealth does have on kids. You know.
Obviously it's not like a problem like let's say what
we had, Let's say my home. If we didn't get
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our food stamps, we didn't eat, so yeah, that would
seem like a much bigger problem. But it's not his reality.
So I don't feel like we have we can be
you know, mad at him for just telling us what
he's struggling with. Yeah, it seems kind of like, oh
my god, poor you. You're so rich and your kids
is so wealthy that you're struggling with this when some
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of us, you know, a government cheese for breakfast. So
I understand, you know, both sides of the spectrum. I guess, Yeah, no, definitely.
And I feel like people came down so hard on
him when he was really just speaking his truth. And
I do understand what he means by trying to ground
your kids, remember seeing it, Yeah, like trying to explain
to your kids like, you know, look, we're on Long Island, okay,
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and we're in a we're in a nice neighborhood. But
I do remind my own children this, this what we're
living is not real life, where what we are experiencing
is not the way that most people live their lives
in America or in other countries. And so I really
really want my kids to have that perspective to where
they don't take things for granted, or you know, if
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they want a pair of Jordan's, which thank god my
kids aren't there yet, man, because I think that's going
to be the hard part when they want those things,
trying to figure out ways for them to earn it
or to not look and say, oh, well, my mom
or dad gets me anything I want. Because there are
those kids out there that one of my one of
my son's eight year old friends, has a better iPhone
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than I do. And I said, and he was, he
was clowning me for it. He goes, Jax has an
iPhone thirteen prol Max. I said, well, then he's doing
better than I am, friend, because I got an iPhone
tent and I'm I'm riding this sucker out as long
as i can. But you know, Carolyn, and it's Crazy's like, yeah,
these kids can be privileged. It can be wealthy. And
I'm talking about not Tom Brady. I'm talking about regular
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kids on Long Island, on Staten Island, in Brooklyn, even
in Manhattan, living in these brown stones. There are still
ways that you know, parents can you know, make them
see what reality is like. If you have housekeeper, don't
let her touch that kid's room. That kid's room is
his responsibility. You don't assigned kids chores. I love my sister,
but my niece never had chores ever, and she's twenty
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one now. So you can assign your kids chores even
giving the money, make them earn the money. There's different
ways that even if you're doing very well, which a
lot of people are for themselves, you don't have to
ruin your kids and then send them out to society
so that we have to deal with them. Well, no,
you're so right. And actually, um, the housekeeper in this
house is me. You're looking at her. It's right here, yep.
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And um I always say to my kids, no, no
on on. When we're at the dinner table, I'll say, um,
that's that plate is not going to lift itself. Go on,
pick up your plate, pick up your napkin, and your cup.
If you've got to make two trips, do what you
need to do. But I am not your maid. When
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they wake up in the morning, part of their chore
is doing their bed. I say, you don't come down
for breakfast until your bed is made. Now do they
do a great job. They're six and eight years old.
It's not perfection. It's not the four seasons you know
how they make the bed, but it's the action of
making them do that so that when they do have
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the opportunity to have somebody that cleans for them, they
will number one, either appreciate it or they will know
how to do it themselves. Because you've got a lot
of kids out here going to college, going and living
with roommates, and it's a disaster. I can only imagine.
It's like, you don't even know how to make a bed,
can't even like I'm sorry, I don't have kids, but
as a parent, how can you put out a kid
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into the regular world who can't even fix themselves a
plate of food at home? Like I understand we have
uber eats and everything is take out and everything is
the fast life, but there's especially when it comes to females,
like I meet young girls that tell me I don't
know how to cook anything? Are you crazy? Oh my gosh, Honey,
(09:58):
I can't believe you're talking about this right out. Okay, wait,
go ahead, because I have a story for you. But Carolina,
let me tell you what. When I was young, I
used to go summers to Dominican Republic, and if I
behaved bad, I would go a whole year to live
with my grandmother. And guess what I had to do.
I had to if we had any type of service
person making meals. Guess where my ass was right next
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to that stove with no air conditioning, learning how to
cook my ass all off? Okay, and and ain't nobody
was paying me for that or washing the dishes right
next to them, Carolo, you know I know how to
wash close by hand. My mother. My mother would be like, yeah,
we had a washing machine. But get what my mother
would do. She would get a bucket with clothes and
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put and be like, okay, and now you're gonna learn
how to wash close my hand, Like why woman, we
have a right there. But she was teaching me for
when I went into the outside world, I would be
able to, you know, to be self sufficient. And I
don't know if that's happening that much any longer. You
kids over here talk about I'm gonna be a TikToker
TikTok on my ask you better wash that story. Well, well,
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if you don't, then you better make enough money to
have somebody do that for you, because you know what,
it is so funny. We just had this conversation. So
there are times where I have to look for help
in the morning because you know, I work from home
most of the time, but then I go into the
city on some days. And on this one day, I asked,
and she's a young girl, she was home from college.
I needed help. And I was like, honey, I said,
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I'm so sorry. I said, is there any way that
you can just come get my son on the bus
for me? Because I have nobody to help me because
my my husband leaves too early for work, right, So
she volunteered, She comes and she helps me, and um
that that next afternoon, I called her and I said,
how did everything go? And she was like, oh, it
went great, And I said oh, I said, thank you
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so much for coming and helping me in a pinch,
I said, because you know it was last minute, I said, oh,
I go what did you give asher for breakfast? And
she said, oh, I gave him a toaster strudle. He
asked for eggs, but I didn't know how to make them,
and I said what, and she goes, yeah, I don't
know how to make exist. And wait, my grass, and
you don't know how to make a scrambled egg. She goes. No,
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she goes, and I'm so embarrassed. She goes, but I
was never taught how to make existence. So what do
you do when you're hungry? She said? Uber? Eats uber?
So you know me, mosa. I called my mom. I said, mommy,
guest the ainting, you know, no sac you know? And like,
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by the way I will say this, I'm not shifting
on her. It was just a reality check for me.
She's twenty, right, so no, she's twenty. She's on vacated, Yes,
exactly exactly. But I was just shocked at, like, you know,
the complacency of you know, these young adults that are
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coming up in the world. And my mom goes, no, no,
no, no no, no, y how She's like, no, danco Moko
se ross And It's true. I can make you a
rice today, I can make you a chicken dish. You know,
So these are like the things that we're learning. But honey,
the other part of the story that I thought was
so fascinating is that this has sparked a movement and
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a lot of these really wealthy people, so Warren Buffett,
Daniel Craig, the actor who was double O seven um,
and you know, and and they've even hinted at some
of these other people like Elon Musk and I'm not
but a lot of these people they're not leaving their
children and inheritance. They are saying, I am not going
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to allow my kids to live off of my wealth,
and so they're looking for ways to distribute this money
because they want to make sure that their kids know
how to function in the world. But I would be
super salty if my dad is Tom Brady and has
hundreds of millions of dollars and doesn't leave me anything.
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That would just be like, what there our star stealing
from right now? If I was seven years old. I'm sorry,
I just took a step because you know, they just
got home saving It's okay, girl, Like, but I understand
you want to teach your kids a lesson, but to
not leave them an inheritance, I think It's like it
should be on a person by persons basis, like you
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you're doing amazing, you did your own thing. You you're lazy,
You're over here tarnishing the family name, doing drugs, locked
up in your room all day. You know, you're not
getting nothing. I think everyone should be evaluated individually, because
remember in the house, when one person then everybody gets
the asked. That's not the type of environment I want
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when my mama is a billionaire. It's true, no, you
know what, I do think that's a really great point though,
on a case by case basis. You could have a
kid who's a hard worker, has their own career is
not even in the field of you know, entertainment or
football or finance or whatever, you know, and if they're
really working hard, like why would you deny them? You know?
But then again I also look back at like the
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other side of the argument, like there are so many
people who struggle in their childhood who don't know what
these kids know. So it's like maybe it levels the
playing field. I don't know. This whole conversation is just
so fascinating to me, and like the thing that I
took away because I actually listened to the podcast. After
I saw the article, I went back and I listened
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to Tom Brady in the way that he was speaking.
My opinion is that this is a man who truly
cares for his children and his wife. Um, it seems
to me like this is a genuine concern for him.
I just couldn't wrap my head around why people were
trashing him just because he's loaded and telling his truth.
You know, people it's like, oh, poor little rich girl.
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Like when you have money or not even a lot
of money, when you're just doing well, people don't even
want to hear anything. Carolina. Just the other day, I
was in a conversation and people were talking about I
don't mean to get dark, but suicide and depression and
you know, rich people killing themselves. And it was just
like so insensitive. But the comments they were just like, oh,
because you're rich, why would you kill yourself? Like you
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have everything in this world. Like I don't feel bad,
but rich people that commit suicide, I'm like, yo, what
is wrong with you? People? Like there is something deeper,
like it's not all about money. But I feel like
when it comes to wealthy people and people that are successful,
people tempt to really not have a lot of sympathy
towards you going through anything or having any type of
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struggle because they feel like you have money, so who
cares if you go through anything. But people got understand
you're still human. You are so right, honey, I mean
you seriously. There are some times where I'm just like,
you are so right in my head with me, because
that's it. The comments, the comments were really where it
got nasty and dark, and I was just like, wow,
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you know, so it's like I love a good conversation
because like, look, I'm not anywhere both of us together
with everybody else. I mean, we're nowhere near where this
guy is on a on a level financially and and
and would never be. But I like that he was
willing to give us that perspective from the inside of
saying like, you know, my kids get to go to
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these incredible events. They get to meet people that other
kids would never get to meet, Like these are like
his homies, Like you know what I mean. So even
that even though those experiences where they're rich in in
just getting to meet different people and getting to experience
different places and go you know. So that's where I
really just took a step back and I was like, well, damn, Like,
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the struggle is real. No matter who you are, We're
all human, we're all people, and we all have our
own life experience. So anyway, you know, look, I just
feel like, no matter what, parenting is hard, whether you
have money or you don't. I think that there are
so many situations that you face as a parent where
you truly do not know. You're not given a book
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that tells you, oh, okay, so when your kid doesn't
make the team, this is what you say to them
or you know. So I just think that conversations like
this are so importan for us to have, for us
to gain that perspective and to be able to share
it with other people. Um So yeah, I will keep
an eye out for Tom Brady and his kids, but
I think they're gonna be just fine. You know. And
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if you're listening, you know to this episode and you're
like a little bit lost. I was watching this show
on Netflix, Carolina. It's called Snowflake Mountain and they take
like these I thought you saw them kid adults a
kid adults? Yo? These were This is what we're talking about.
This is what you as a parent want to avoid.
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I couldn't even believe these adults were like children. Honey,
I fell into the snowflake mountain hole. I don't know how.
I watched one episode, Carolina, and I was like, I
cannot stomach this. I saw it through to the end
and it was you did. Yes, I told you, I
fell into the whole girl. I had COVID, please, I
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had nothing else to do, but I had time on
my hands, and I just kept that ship rolling. So
you're exactly right. This is where there are kids that
are in their twenties who are just raised getting everything
that they want from their parents, who are not incredibly wealthy.
By the way, a lot of those kids, if you
wouldn't like middle class. Yes, they were like middle class,
but they're all Gucci, this Fendi, that blood and I'm like,
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they have better, of course than I do. I'm all
about Target and h and M. Don't try me, you know, Like,
but these kids, Zara, Yes, that's my ship. So, like,
these kids were taken into a situation where they had
to actually learn survival skills, and is it going to
take that to get this generation on track? I don't know,
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I don't know, but it's just it's it's food for thought,
and it's something to think about before we get too
deep into this. I did want to bring up we
got a letter at the salon and we need to
help somebody out. I think that we both can give
some really good advice on this. So it says, oh,
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go ahead, said I'm gonna be nice. I don't know why.
I feel like that been kind of like to raw
in the last few letters. I don't think, no, no, you.
That's exactly what it is. Because when I listen back,
I'm like, I am crazy. I know I do too,
and I'm like I am a big marshmallow, like I
need to toughen up, and you remind me that I
need to toughen up. So we got this let it.
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We got this letter and it's from Cam and she says,
Dear Carolina and Honey, I love listening to your podcast.
I actually listen when I'm on my way to work
because I don't want to miss anything that you guys
are saying. So thank you for keeping me company. I
wanted to write to the Salon because I have a dilemma.
My friend backed out of my wedding. My maid of
honor you can call her at least backed out after
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I corrected her on a minor detail about my bachelorette
party in a group text. I've asked several people since,
and they've all said that they were shocked that she
took it that far. She told me that I've never
had respect for her and that I embarrassed her in
a public setting, and I finally took a too far.
It was over a potential dinner reservation. I feel like
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I don't even want her there on my big day now,
but we share a ten year history. Until now, we've
never had a fight. I guess I'm just asking should
I contact her or should I just let this friendship go.
This is just before my wedding, and I can't believe
that she's putting this on me at the most stressful
time of my life. So it makes me question whether
or not she's ever been a real friend. Anything you
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guys can tell me to help me would really be appreciated.
Thank you so much. Keep doing a great job, Love Kim. Okay,
so the friend backed out because she corrected her about
the bachelorette party in a group text. Okay, that happens sometimes,
especially with brides, but there seems to be an underlying
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issue here. Obviously it's something you mentioned, something about other
things happening before. No, she said that she had never
gotten in a fight with her before, but that she
embarrassed her. The friend said, least said that she embarrassed
her in a public setting, and it finally took it
too far. So I and by the way, Kim, I'm
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obviously just going off of what you wrote to us.
I feel like your friend has had some issues that
have been festering that maybe she never brought up to you.
That now I feel like it too. That was like
the final shot because to me, something as dumb as
correcting someone on a text message. If you can't do
that with your friends, then who can you do it with. Well,
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there's always two sides to every story, So we need
a lease's letter to so that we can compay a
notes because you never know, you know, I know brides
can get a little bit crazy. Maybe you know that's
what took at least over the edge, Like yo, you
over here, making me look like a clown in front
of these to all these people. Maybe with fifteen females
in that text chat and the same way you texted
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on that chat, you could have hit her on the side,
So I don't feel like Alba first, I feel like
I don't feel like you should let the friendship die
out over a tex And I'm also a firm believer
that texts can be misread, Carolina. I tell this to
my sister all the time. If somebody sent her a text, well,
I don't know what you want to do. Oh well,
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I don't know what you want to do. Oh well,
I don't know what you want to do. Like, I
always read her the text message in different tones of
voices because I feel like texts can be read with
different tones and it can be taken in different ways.
So not over a text, I would say, talk to
your friend. Maybe your tone of voice can be different
and you can say the same exact thing and she'll
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receive it in a totally different way. I want to
hear what the other ladies on the text read thought
about it, because like, if they didn't think that she
was coming at her a certain type of way, then
I think that this friend really does have some underlying issues.
But also like the drama of it all, I feel
for you, Kim, because like, you're right, this is oh yeah,
because she pulled out my bad, My bad. She pulled
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out as as as maid of honor. So there's something
deep there. There's definitely something deep there because you don't
just pull out as the maid of honor right before
a wedding, unless over a text and over a correction.
That that's where I feel like, especially if you're the
maid of honor, then you know what you do. You
put you you send aside text and be like girl,
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how are you going to talk to me like that
in front of everybody? I'm sorry? Like, then you have
the discussion, but you don't just back out of somebody's wedding,
which you know. And that's where I feel like I've
been there, Kim. I know how like stressful it can be.
You're dealing with a lot of personalities right around your wedding.
You've got to think about all kinds of people, especially
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bach White. And I will say this, this is this
is the reason why I did not have any um
m us at my wedding. I said to my maid,
I did not have any bridesmaids because you know what
I said to my mom. I have too many different
phases of my life where I have different friends. I
have friends from Arizona State, I have friends from l A,
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I have friends from Miami, all the different places that
I've lived in my life. Number One, I don't know
if they're all going to get along. Number two, I
don't know if they're all in a headspace to be
in a wedding right now. Because some of them were single,
some of them were pregnant, some of them were just
getting married themselves. So I was like, you know what,
I'm going to give them the freedom to come to
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my wedding and really enjoy themselves. And like my bachelorette,
if whoever wanted to come of my friends, they were invited.
There were no hard feelings, no obligations, no monetary like
it just there's so many other factors that go into it.
So Carolina, before we move on, what about this factor,
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which is the reason why I didn't have any brides, Madies,
you're gonna have a I have like forty cousins. I'm
not kidding you. It was not happening, girl, I said, nah,
I have like twenty two female cousins. So I picked
my two sisters and my one niece and that was it. Cabo,
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no friends, no prima, no sister in laws, nobody let's
just make it nice and simple. I agree with you.
And you know what I did was I didn't need
my sister. My um, my older older sister was totally
fine with not being in the wedding. But I did
ask my sister Elizabeth, and look, I needed somebody to
like help with my train, and you know, do that.
And then my husband has a half brother, so he
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asked him to be his best man, and that was it.
Like I did not want the whole dog and pony
show because it's situations like this that I wanted to avoid. Grandma,
you have waiting in a bench till everybody walks in
the Brada shoes. Yeah, I know, and then people complain
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about who they were paired with. I don't like that one.
I know, so he needs love to so you know, Kim,
I would just say, I know you're looking for a solution.
I don't think we have an off information to go
off of what I do have. I would say it's
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definitely worth a conversation. I don't know if it will
end up with you having her in your wedding again,
but I think that you owe it after ten years
of a friendship to each other to at least have
a discussion or see if there's something else that might
have been really upsetting her, that that was the trigger
to really end the friendship. And when you say conversation, Carolina,
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I meant I am so sick of these text apologies
and these text threads of people not understanding what the
other one wants to say. Pick up the damn phone.
Call New It doesn't cost you any money. It's not
like you've got those limited calls from the nineties. Pick
up the phone. Here's somebody's tone of voice. Here the
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sincerity in their apology, or hear the pain in their words.
Let's let's change it around man, stop texting. Call set
up a date, and you, the person that did something wrong,
take initiative. Be like I scheduled us a lunch date
on me. Let's talk. I agree with you wholeheartedly. I
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think it's worth a conversation face to face. I'd be
too intense, right, No, I agree with you. I think
that it's this is a conversation that needs to happen.
And the thing is is that people are too afraid.
You know, It's like nobody wants to be uncomfortable, but
you're in an uncomfortable situation and if you want to
make it better, you gotta put yourself out there. So Kim,
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I hope. Oh my gosh, I feel terrible because it's
like right before your wedding. Man, that's like something you
don't even want. You don't want to deal with this.
But this could be fixed. This could this can be fixed,
especially if she already has the dress. You know what,
I'm dresses saying, cheap girl, I've already bought the dress.
Let's just talk this out. Let's fix. Our friendship is
ten years and we hope that we helped you just
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even a bit, Kim, and please let us know what happens.
We wish you nothing but love and happiness as you
get ready to start your marriage. And thank you so
much for listening to the podcast. Seriously, honey, I'm not
gonna lie. We got lots of love over here. It's
a love fest. Is a lot of love and it
comes from every single angle. I love our listeners, man,
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person and they're like, oh my god, this episode. I
was listening to that episode and I was this episode. Yeah,
And it's crazy because like you guys, genuinely want to
get into conversation about different things that we spoke about,
and I love it and I welcome you know. I
was at the Balloon Festival out in Jersey a couple
of weeks ago, and I saw one of my followers
and and we were close by, and I was like,
(29:32):
sit with us, who cares? We're out in a public space,
And we mostly talked about the podcast. Isn't that so crazy?
Out of all the things in the world. We were
watching like these humongous balloons go up and she was like, so, Carolina,
I'm like, forget Carolina, do you see this Testbania Devil's
going up right now? No? You know what. The journey
has been amazing, and you guys are the reason why
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I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I
was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker being. This is life in English. Honey.
I know you're not a big football person, but we've
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got to discuss what Tom Brady said a couple of
weeks ago that has not left it lives rent free
in my head because I feel like it is such
an argument to have Carolina before you tell me exactly
what he says. The Latina mean was like you said football.
I'm like, does she mean soccer? Does she mean football?
What the hell she means? Yes, That's where I knew.
(00:49):
I was like, no, Honey's done with it. But I
mean to discuss this with you because I want to
hear your opinion. So Tom Brady, okay of New England Patriots.
You know he plays for the Buccaneers. Now he's got
a clothing line. He's married to, I would say, in
my humble opinion, to one of the most beautiful women
in the world. Okay, yes, do you don't think she's pretty.
(01:11):
I think she's so beautiful. She's gorgeous. No, she is gorgeous,
but I just want to make sure I got the
right model. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's that's her. Um. So
they have three children together, one from his previous relationship
with virgin Winterhand so um. But they but they call
parents so um. And then they have two children together.
So he and Giselle have their two kids, and then
he has his other child from his previous relationship. So
(01:34):
Tom Brady was doing a episode of a podcast where
he revealed the hardest part of parenting, and he said
the hardest part of him being a parent right now
in two is raising his kids to be grounded despite
them being wealthy. Now, I want to discuss this because
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I feel like we both came from different backgrounds and
I want to hear what your perspective is. But let
me just let me just give you the details of
what Tom Brady. So, tom Brady is basically one of
the richest men I would say, like probably one of
the richest men in the world, and he will be
actually after he goes and does this broadcasting contract. I mean,
the guy is just making hundreds of millions of dollars.
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So he said, my kids will have an issue being grounded.
We have people that clean for us, people that make
our food, we have people that drive us to the airport.
That's my kid's reality, which is a hard part to say, guys,
this is not the way reality really is. And he
said that he's had a really hard time explaining this
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to his children because his own childhood was so different.
He grew up middle class in California. His dad worked
his ass off, his mom worked every day. So a
lot of people took this one sound bite that Tom
Brady made and they were like, Oh, poor little rich guy,
you're worried about raising your kids with too much money.
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I wish I had those problems when you have people
out here working too three jobs, can't even fill the
gas tank right now, Inflation all X y Z, all
of these other things. I would love to hear your
perspective on whether or not you think Tom Brady has
a point on this. I think you know everything. I
feel like we take little sound bits and we take
it all out of context. I think maybe parenting is
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hella easy for him, Carolina. He got the nanny's, he
got the cook he got the housekeeper. The only thing
he can't really really teach his kids is how to struggle,
how to be in the hood, how to stove, how
to you know, how to get up and get that money.
He's maybe that's the only thing he can't do for
those kids. He could do everything else in the world
except show them maybe what the streets are really like.
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Maybe that's what he meant. Maybe it wasn't just boo,
who I'm so rich and you know I'm struggling here,
because we know he's not struggling right right. But I
feel like growing up as the youngest of six kids,
there was there was not a hand me down that
was not given to me. I even wore boy hand
me downs. Okay, so here's this. I even bought use
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clothes like my mom would take us to like I
guess secondhand we go in shopping, right, So trust me,
I understand a struggle. But we were not, by any
means raised uh poor or struggling. My father is a doctor,
he you know, obviously worked his tail off to give
us our education, private schools. We had a big house.
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But what people didn't see was the debt of raising
six kids. So I feel like I kind of got
not the best of both worlds, but the worst of
both worlds, because on the exterior people thought we had money,
but on the interior we were really I would watch
my mom put all of our bills out on the table,
and my mom did a really really good job of
trying to you know, the saying Rob Peter to pay Paul.
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You know, if um, if my sister was going to
college and she needed books, then she would say, okay,
well then I'm not going to buy this for this
one this this month because Jenny needs books. Or you know.
One time I needed a new cheerleading outfit and my
brother was applying to medical schools and my mom said,
you know, what are we gonna do? And my brother,
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I remember them having the conversation, said to my mom,
get her the new cheerleading outfit. We can figure it out.
I'll look at the schools and you know. So it
was a very eye opening experience for me. And that's
where I really feel like humility comes from. It's from
seeing your parents or your brothers and sisters in different
life situations. And I think that's what Tom Brady is
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speaking to, that you can have all the money in
the world, but you still have problems or or you
can still have that issue where you don't want to
raise entitled kids. It's like that privilege. You know, there's
also an impact that wealth does have on kids. You know.
Obviously it's not like a problem like let's say what
we had, Let's say my home. If we didn't get
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our food stamps, we didn't eat, so yeah, that would
seem like a much bigger problem. But it's not his reality.
So I don't feel like we have we can be
you know, mad at him for just telling us what
he's struggling with. Yeah, it seems kind of like, oh
my god, poor you. You're so rich and your kids
is so wealthy that you're struggling with this when some
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of us, you know, a government cheese for breakfast. So
I understand, you know, both sides of the spectrum. I guess, Yeah, no, definitely.
And I feel like people came down so hard on
him when he was really just speaking his truth. And
I do understand what he means by trying to ground
your kids, remember seeing it, Yeah, like trying to explain
to your kids like, you know, look, we're on Long Island, okay,
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and we're in a we're in a nice neighborhood. But
I do remind my own children this, this what we're
living is not real life, where what we are experiencing
is not the way that most people live their lives
in America or in other countries. And so I really
really want my kids to have that perspective to where
they don't take things for granted, or you know, if
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they want a pair of Jordan's, which thank god my
kids aren't there yet, man, because I think that's going
to be the hard part when they want those things,
trying to figure out ways for them to earn it
or to not look and say, oh, well, my mom
or dad gets me anything I want. Because there are
those kids out there that one of my one of
my son's eight year old friends, has a better iPhone
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than I do. And I said, and he was, he
was clowning me for it. He goes, Jax has an
iPhone thirteen prol Max. I said, well, then he's doing
better than I am, friend, because I got an iPhone
tent and I'm I'm riding this sucker out as long
as i can. But you know, Carolyn, and it's Crazy's like, yeah,
these kids can be privileged. It can be wealthy. And
I'm talking about not Tom Brady. I'm talking about regular
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kids on Long Island, on Staten Island, in Brooklyn, even
in Manhattan, living in these brown stones. There are still
ways that you know, parents can you know, make them
see what reality is like. If you have housekeeper, don't
let her touch that kid's room. That kid's room is
his responsibility. You don't assigned kids chores. I love my sister,
but my niece never had chores ever, and she's twenty
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one now. So you can assign your kids chores even
giving the money, make them earn the money. There's different
ways that even if you're doing very well, which a
lot of people are for themselves, you don't have to
ruin your kids and then send them out to society
so that we have to deal with them. Well, no,
you're so right. And actually, um, the housekeeper in this
house is me. You're looking at her. It's right here, yep.
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And um I always say to my kids, no, no
on on. When we're at the dinner table, I'll say, um,
that's that plate is not going to lift itself. Go on,
pick up your plate, pick up your napkin, and your cup.
If you've got to make two trips, do what you
need to do. But I am not your maid. When
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they wake up in the morning, part of their chore
is doing their bed. I say, you don't come down
for breakfast until your bed is made. Now do they
do a great job. They're six and eight years old.
It's not perfection. It's not the four seasons you know
how they make the bed, but it's the action of
making them do that so that when they do have
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the opportunity to have somebody that cleans for them, they
will number one, either appreciate it or they will know
how to do it themselves. Because you've got a lot
of kids out here going to college, going and living
with roommates, and it's a disaster. I can only imagine.
It's like, you don't even know how to make a bed,
can't even like I'm sorry, I don't have kids, but
as a parent, how can you put out a kid
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into the regular world who can't even fix themselves a
plate of food at home? Like I understand we have
uber eats and everything is take out and everything is
the fast life, but there's especially when it comes to females,
like I meet young girls that tell me I don't
know how to cook anything? Are you crazy? Oh my gosh, Honey,
(09:58):
I can't believe you're talking about this right out. Okay, wait,
go ahead, because I have a story for you. But Carolina,
let me tell you what. When I was young, I
used to go summers to Dominican Republic, and if I
behaved bad, I would go a whole year to live
with my grandmother. And guess what I had to do.
I had to if we had any type of service
person making meals. Guess where my ass was right next
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to that stove with no air conditioning, learning how to
cook my ass all off? Okay, and and ain't nobody
was paying me for that or washing the dishes right
next to them, Carolo, you know I know how to
wash close by hand. My mother. My mother would be like, yeah,
we had a washing machine. But get what my mother
would do. She would get a bucket with clothes and
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put and be like, okay, and now you're gonna learn
how to wash close my hand, Like why woman, we
have a right there. But she was teaching me for
when I went into the outside world, I would be
able to, you know, to be self sufficient. And I
don't know if that's happening that much any longer. You
kids over here talk about I'm gonna be a TikToker
TikTok on my ask you better wash that story. Well, well,
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if you don't, then you better make enough money to
have somebody do that for you, because you know what,
it is so funny. We just had this conversation. So
there are times where I have to look for help
in the morning because you know, I work from home
most of the time, but then I go into the
city on some days. And on this one day, I asked,
and she's a young girl, she was home from college.
I needed help. And I was like, honey, I said,
(11:28):
I'm so sorry. I said, is there any way that
you can just come get my son on the bus
for me? Because I have nobody to help me because
my my husband leaves too early for work, right, So
she volunteered, She comes and she helps me, and um
that that next afternoon, I called her and I said,
how did everything go? And she was like, oh, it
went great, And I said oh, I said, thank you
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so much for coming and helping me in a pinch,
I said, because you know it was last minute, I said, oh,
I go what did you give asher for breakfast? And
she said, oh, I gave him a toaster strudle. He
asked for eggs, but I didn't know how to make them,
and I said what, and she goes, yeah, I don't
know how to make exist. And wait, my grass, and
you don't know how to make a scrambled egg. She goes. No,
(12:10):
she goes, and I'm so embarrassed. She goes, but I
was never taught how to make existence. So what do
you do when you're hungry? She said? Uber? Eats uber?
So you know me, mosa. I called my mom. I said, mommy,
guest the ainting, you know, no sac you know? And like,
(12:31):
by the way I will say this, I'm not shifting
on her. It was just a reality check for me.
She's twenty, right, so no, she's twenty. She's on vacated, Yes,
exactly exactly. But I was just shocked at, like, you know,
the complacency of you know, these young adults that are
(12:53):
coming up in the world. And my mom goes, no, no,
no, no no, no, y how She's like, no, danco Moko
se ross And It's true. I can make you a
rice today, I can make you a chicken dish. You know,
So these are like the things that we're learning. But honey,
the other part of the story that I thought was
so fascinating is that this has sparked a movement and
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a lot of these really wealthy people, so Warren Buffett,
Daniel Craig, the actor who was double O seven um,
and you know, and and they've even hinted at some
of these other people like Elon Musk and I'm not
but a lot of these people they're not leaving their
children and inheritance. They are saying, I am not going
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to allow my kids to live off of my wealth,
and so they're looking for ways to distribute this money
because they want to make sure that their kids know
how to function in the world. But I would be
super salty if my dad is Tom Brady and has
hundreds of millions of dollars and doesn't leave me anything.
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That would just be like, what there our star stealing
from right now? If I was seven years old. I'm sorry,
I just took a step because you know, they just
got home saving It's okay, girl, Like, but I understand
you want to teach your kids a lesson, but to
not leave them an inheritance, I think It's like it
should be on a person by persons basis, like you
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you're doing amazing, you did your own thing. You you're lazy,
You're over here tarnishing the family name, doing drugs, locked
up in your room all day. You know, you're not
getting nothing. I think everyone should be evaluated individually, because
remember in the house, when one person then everybody gets
the asked. That's not the type of environment I want
(14:42):
when my mama is a billionaire. It's true, no, you
know what, I do think that's a really great point though,
on a case by case basis. You could have a
kid who's a hard worker, has their own career is
not even in the field of you know, entertainment or
football or finance or whatever, you know, and if they're
really working hard, like why would you deny them? You know?
But then again I also look back at like the
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other side of the argument, like there are so many
people who struggle in their childhood who don't know what
these kids know. So it's like maybe it levels the
playing field. I don't know. This whole conversation is just
so fascinating to me, and like the thing that I
took away because I actually listened to the podcast. After
I saw the article, I went back and I listened
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to Tom Brady in the way that he was speaking.
My opinion is that this is a man who truly
cares for his children and his wife. Um, it seems
to me like this is a genuine concern for him.
I just couldn't wrap my head around why people were
trashing him just because he's loaded and telling his truth.
You know, people it's like, oh, poor little rich girl.
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Like when you have money or not even a lot
of money, when you're just doing well, people don't even
want to hear anything. Carolina. Just the other day, I
was in a conversation and people were talking about I
don't mean to get dark, but suicide and depression and
you know, rich people killing themselves. And it was just
like so insensitive. But the comments they were just like, oh,
because you're rich, why would you kill yourself? Like you
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have everything in this world. Like I don't feel bad,
but rich people that commit suicide, I'm like, yo, what
is wrong with you? People? Like there is something deeper,
like it's not all about money. But I feel like
when it comes to wealthy people and people that are successful,
people tempt to really not have a lot of sympathy
towards you going through anything or having any type of
(16:27):
struggle because they feel like you have money, so who
cares if you go through anything. But people got understand
you're still human. You are so right, honey, I mean
you seriously. There are some times where I'm just like,
you are so right in my head with me, because
that's it. The comments, the comments were really where it
got nasty and dark, and I was just like, wow,
(16:47):
you know, so it's like I love a good conversation
because like, look, I'm not anywhere both of us together
with everybody else. I mean, we're nowhere near where this
guy is on a on a level financially and and
and would never be. But I like that he was
willing to give us that perspective from the inside of
saying like, you know, my kids get to go to
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these incredible events. They get to meet people that other
kids would never get to meet, Like these are like
his homies, Like you know what I mean. So even
that even though those experiences where they're rich in in
just getting to meet different people and getting to experience
different places and go you know. So that's where I
really just took a step back and I was like, well, damn, Like,
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the struggle is real. No matter who you are, We're
all human, we're all people, and we all have our
own life experience. So anyway, you know, look, I just
feel like, no matter what, parenting is hard, whether you
have money or you don't. I think that there are
so many situations that you face as a parent where
you truly do not know. You're not given a book
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that tells you, oh, okay, so when your kid doesn't
make the team, this is what you say to them
or you know. So I just think that conversations like
this are so importan for us to have, for us
to gain that perspective and to be able to share
it with other people. Um So yeah, I will keep
an eye out for Tom Brady and his kids, but
I think they're gonna be just fine. You know. And
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if you're listening, you know to this episode and you're
like a little bit lost. I was watching this show
on Netflix, Carolina. It's called Snowflake Mountain and they take
like these I thought you saw them kid adults a
kid adults? Yo? These were This is what we're talking about.
This is what you as a parent want to avoid.
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I couldn't even believe these adults were like children. Honey,
I fell into the snowflake mountain hole. I don't know how.
I watched one episode, Carolina, and I was like, I
cannot stomach this. I saw it through to the end
and it was you did. Yes, I told you, I
fell into the whole girl. I had COVID, please, I
(18:53):
had nothing else to do, but I had time on
my hands, and I just kept that ship rolling. So
you're exactly right. This is where there are kids that
are in their twenties who are just raised getting everything
that they want from their parents, who are not incredibly wealthy.
By the way, a lot of those kids, if you
wouldn't like middle class. Yes, they were like middle class,
but they're all Gucci, this Fendi, that blood and I'm like,
(19:16):
they have better, of course than I do. I'm all
about Target and h and M. Don't try me, you know, Like,
but these kids, Zara, Yes, that's my ship. So, like,
these kids were taken into a situation where they had
to actually learn survival skills, and is it going to
take that to get this generation on track? I don't know,
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I don't know, but it's just it's it's food for thought,
and it's something to think about before we get too
deep into this. I did want to bring up we
got a letter at the salon and we need to
help somebody out. I think that we both can give
some really good advice on this. So it says, oh,
(19:57):
go ahead, said I'm gonna be nice. I don't know why.
I feel like that been kind of like to raw
in the last few letters. I don't think, no, no, you.
That's exactly what it is. Because when I listen back,
I'm like, I am crazy. I know I do too,
and I'm like I am a big marshmallow, like I
need to toughen up, and you remind me that I
need to toughen up. So we got this let it.
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We got this letter and it's from Cam and she says,
Dear Carolina and Honey, I love listening to your podcast.
I actually listen when I'm on my way to work
because I don't want to miss anything that you guys
are saying. So thank you for keeping me company. I
wanted to write to the Salon because I have a dilemma.
My friend backed out of my wedding. My maid of
honor you can call her at least backed out after
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I corrected her on a minor detail about my bachelorette
party in a group text. I've asked several people since,
and they've all said that they were shocked that she
took it that far. She told me that I've never
had respect for her and that I embarrassed her in
a public setting, and I finally took a too far.
It was over a potential dinner reservation. I feel like
(21:04):
I don't even want her there on my big day now,
but we share a ten year history. Until now, we've
never had a fight. I guess I'm just asking should
I contact her or should I just let this friendship go.
This is just before my wedding, and I can't believe
that she's putting this on me at the most stressful
time of my life. So it makes me question whether
or not she's ever been a real friend. Anything you
(21:25):
guys can tell me to help me would really be appreciated.
Thank you so much. Keep doing a great job, Love Kim. Okay,
so the friend backed out because she corrected her about
the bachelorette party in a group text. Okay, that happens sometimes,
especially with brides, but there seems to be an underlying
(21:47):
issue here. Obviously it's something you mentioned, something about other
things happening before. No, she said that she had never
gotten in a fight with her before, but that she
embarrassed her. The friend said, least said that she embarrassed
her in a public setting, and it finally took it
too far. So I and by the way, Kim, I'm
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obviously just going off of what you wrote to us.
I feel like your friend has had some issues that
have been festering that maybe she never brought up to you.
That now I feel like it too. That was like
the final shot because to me, something as dumb as
correcting someone on a text message. If you can't do
that with your friends, then who can you do it with. Well,
(22:29):
there's always two sides to every story, So we need
a lease's letter to so that we can compay a
notes because you never know, you know, I know brides
can get a little bit crazy. Maybe you know that's
what took at least over the edge, Like yo, you
over here, making me look like a clown in front
of these to all these people. Maybe with fifteen females
in that text chat and the same way you texted
(22:51):
on that chat, you could have hit her on the side,
So I don't feel like Alba first, I feel like
I don't feel like you should let the friendship die
out over a tex And I'm also a firm believer
that texts can be misread, Carolina. I tell this to
my sister all the time. If somebody sent her a text, well,
I don't know what you want to do. Oh well,
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I don't know what you want to do. Oh well,
I don't know what you want to do. Like, I
always read her the text message in different tones of
voices because I feel like texts can be read with
different tones and it can be taken in different ways.
So not over a text, I would say, talk to
your friend. Maybe your tone of voice can be different
and you can say the same exact thing and she'll
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receive it in a totally different way. I want to
hear what the other ladies on the text read thought
about it, because like, if they didn't think that she
was coming at her a certain type of way, then
I think that this friend really does have some underlying issues.
But also like the drama of it all, I feel
for you, Kim, because like, you're right, this is oh yeah,
because she pulled out my bad, My bad. She pulled
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out as as as maid of honor. So there's something
deep there. There's definitely something deep there because you don't
just pull out as the maid of honor right before
a wedding, unless over a text and over a correction.
That that's where I feel like, especially if you're the
maid of honor, then you know what you do. You
put you you send aside text and be like girl,
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how are you going to talk to me like that
in front of everybody? I'm sorry? Like, then you have
the discussion, but you don't just back out of somebody's wedding,
which you know. And that's where I feel like I've
been there, Kim. I know how like stressful it can be.
You're dealing with a lot of personalities right around your wedding.
You've got to think about all kinds of people, especially
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bach White. And I will say this, this is this
is the reason why I did not have any um
m us at my wedding. I said to my maid,
I did not have any bridesmaids because you know what
I said to my mom. I have too many different
phases of my life where I have different friends. I
have friends from Arizona State, I have friends from l A,
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I have friends from Miami, all the different places that
I've lived in my life. Number One, I don't know
if they're all going to get along. Number two, I
don't know if they're all in a headspace to be
in a wedding right now. Because some of them were single,
some of them were pregnant, some of them were just
getting married themselves. So I was like, you know what,
I'm going to give them the freedom to come to
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my wedding and really enjoy themselves. And like my bachelorette,
if whoever wanted to come of my friends, they were invited.
There were no hard feelings, no obligations, no monetary like
it just there's so many other factors that go into it.
So Carolina, before we move on, what about this factor,
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which is the reason why I didn't have any brides, Madies,
you're gonna have a I have like forty cousins. I'm
not kidding you. It was not happening, girl, I said, nah,
I have like twenty two female cousins. So I picked
my two sisters and my one niece and that was it. Cabo,
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no friends, no prima, no sister in laws, nobody let's
just make it nice and simple. I agree with you.
And you know what I did was I didn't need
my sister. My um, my older older sister was totally
fine with not being in the wedding. But I did
ask my sister Elizabeth, and look, I needed somebody to
like help with my train, and you know, do that.
And then my husband has a half brother, so he
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asked him to be his best man, and that was it.
Like I did not want the whole dog and pony
show because it's situations like this that I wanted to avoid. Grandma,
you have waiting in a bench till everybody walks in
the Brada shoes. Yeah, I know, and then people complain
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about who they were paired with. I don't like that one.
I know, so he needs love to so you know, Kim,
I would just say, I know you're looking for a solution.
I don't think we have an off information to go
off of what I do have. I would say it's
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definitely worth a conversation. I don't know if it will
end up with you having her in your wedding again,
but I think that you owe it after ten years
of a friendship to each other to at least have
a discussion or see if there's something else that might
have been really upsetting her, that that was the trigger
to really end the friendship. And when you say conversation, Carolina,
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I meant I am so sick of these text apologies
and these text threads of people not understanding what the
other one wants to say. Pick up the damn phone.
Call New It doesn't cost you any money. It's not
like you've got those limited calls from the nineties. Pick
up the phone. Here's somebody's tone of voice. Here the
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sincerity in their apology, or hear the pain in their words.
Let's let's change it around man, stop texting. Call set
up a date, and you, the person that did something wrong,
take initiative. Be like I scheduled us a lunch date
on me. Let's talk. I agree with you wholeheartedly. I
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think it's worth a conversation face to face. I'd be
too intense, right, No, I agree with you. I think
that it's this is a conversation that needs to happen.
And the thing is is that people are too afraid.
You know, It's like nobody wants to be uncomfortable, but
you're in an uncomfortable situation and if you want to
make it better, you gotta put yourself out there. So Kim,
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I hope. Oh my gosh, I feel terrible because it's
like right before your wedding. Man, that's like something you
don't even want. You don't want to deal with this.
But this could be fixed. This could this can be fixed,
especially if she already has the dress. You know what,
I'm dresses saying, cheap girl, I've already bought the dress.
Let's just talk this out. Let's fix. Our friendship is
ten years and we hope that we helped you just
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even a bit, Kim, and please let us know what happens.
We wish you nothing but love and happiness as you
get ready to start your marriage. And thank you so
much for listening to the podcast. Seriously, honey, I'm not
gonna lie. We got lots of love over here. It's
a love fest. Is a lot of love and it
comes from every single angle. I love our listeners, man,
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really do. It's crazy because like people see me in
person and they're like, oh my god, this episode. I
was listening to that episode and I was this episode. Yeah,
And it's crazy because like you guys, genuinely want to
get into conversation about different things that we spoke about,
and I love it and I welcome you know. I
was at the Balloon Festival out in Jersey a couple
of weeks ago, and I saw one of my followers
and and we were close by, and I was like,
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sit with us, who cares? We're out in a public space,
And we mostly talked about the podcast. Isn't that so crazy?
Out of all the things in the world. We were
watching like these humongous balloons go up and she was like, so, Carolina,
I'm like, forget Carolina, do you see this Testbania Devil's
going up right now? No? You know what. The journey
has been amazing, and you guys are the reason why
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