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Welcome back! In this episode KT and Kayla discuss love bombing, someone using KT's photos to catfish people on Tinder, the Nickelodean documentary about Brian Peck and Dan Schneider and more! Enjoy!

Episode Transcript

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The Petty Ish Podcast. Hello,Welcome back to another episode of Petty Ish.
My name is Kayla and I'm Kayla. Recording is so late. It
is late. It is like theday after that episode was supposed to drop.
It's midnight. I'm so exhausted,and you were in Vegas. There's

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a lot of things going on.I feel like I can't keep up with
anything that's happening. I mean,it's all good things, blessings on blessings,
but I just feel like I'm likedoing so much and I just can't
even do anything in order. Iliterally value my space in my bed,
in my just alone time so much, my nap time. I genuinely value
that, and I just really havebeen neglecting that part of myself, which

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is why this episode is dropping late, because I just couldn't scrape myself out
of bed. I'm like, Ican't, I can't. No. I
mean, you did a lot thatweekend that we had was a lie,
and then you went to Vegas,like, which was so much twenty four
hours or eight hours, yeah,thirty eight hours a day. It's all
up in the freaking sky doing allthis shit like so much. Fine,
But you you were partying with MissVivica Fox and at the NAACP. And

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we'll get into that's the pettiest thingthat you did this week. I,
like I said, I prayed forGod to reveal a lot of people to
me as to who's really from meand who's not, and he did just
that. And I just went onto removed people from my close friends for
you on Instagram name girl bye.They gonna notice playing on my close friends
no more. But yeah, somepeople are no longer there because you know,

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that's found. That's like, youknow, privilege. All right?
What about you constantly dealing people fromclose friends? Are you? People get
dropped and added to the roster everyday? Oh wow? Okay, yes,
if I post something and I feellike I want you to engage with
it, and you just look atit and I feel like you're maybe judging.
Next, Wow, my close friendsis a privilege? Yeah. No,

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I took a lot of like thoughtas to who I wanted to add
to it anyway, So once youmade it, I'm like, all right,
that took a lot of thought.You're there, you shall say,
but no, that's how it works. I was like, remove, remove,
move, remove, move, Sohow many people do you have in
there? I only have like fortyin there. Forty that's way too many.
I have about twenty oh if that? Yeah, like I don't trust
them. Yeah, maybe I shouldcut some more and not maybe be posting

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anything in my close friends Like nothingthere, but no te I'm be spelling
to you on my close friends.All right, Well my close friends is
kind of like Kayla, maybe notas little. This is what I want
to This is what I know forreal, this is what I want to
see in close friends. I wantto see a sneaky link. I want
to I want to see you slashingtires. I want to do you see
doing some crazy shit that you wouldnever post on your real story. That

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is the content I want to seein close friends. I don't want to
see what you're eating for dinner.I don't want to see your drink.
Yeah, I want to see somecrazy shit. Is not close friends worthy.
I have certain people's close friends thatI'm in that will post like curse
words that they just won't post.Like so if it's a meme that says
fucking it, it's like that goesin their close friends, I'm like,
get me there, it's the thankyou. I just wanted people to see
what you look like without the life. It's the church people who do that,

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who have the ques. Yeah yeah, what did you do petty this
week? My love hold on asI set my stuff back up. I'm
so sorry. Would I do pettythis week? I had to like tell
somebody about themselves. That's always fun. Yeah. How do I say this
without like blasting everybody? Yeah?Well, I mean I feel like there

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was a situation that happened like ayear ago that me and my like close
group of friends were involved in.And it was a very serious situation where
a man was harming somebody else andwe knew about it, and it was
on close proximity to our space,our friend group, and this man was

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just reigning terror on everybody the wholefriend group, made it very uncomfortable to
be around, made a lot ofus scared when we found out that he
was doing a lot of things thata man should not do. Cheating,
you know, putting your hands onwomen, you know what I mean.
There was a situation one time wherewe were all drinking at a party and

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he got in my face and itwas just like five man man to get
in your face like, you're sotough, right, you got like take
on somebody in your own size,And so we stopped talking. We distanced
a lot. Me and my friendskind of distanced ourselves from that situation almost

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a year ago because it was asituation that was not We were not welcomed
in it anymore. The girl choseher man over her friends, and that's
okay, that's what you chose atthe time, then that's fine. Were
like, I got to remove myselffrom that situation, but I don't forget,
and I didn't forget how you gotin my face and how you talk
shit about me. Raised hell rap. So this week, like I finally

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saw him for the first time inlike a long time almost a year,
ran into him and awkward and Iignore it. Of course, I don't
speak, like what am I gonnasay hi for? I don't like you,
and he goes, kay, looky, looky, look come here,
come here, come here, andI'm like no, and I literally was
like, no, fuck you,I don't fuck with you, and and
he was like no, no,this is amiss understanding, this misunderstanding,

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and he just goes on this longrant about he is so sorry and how
we all got the wrong idea ofhim and how he's changed and he's gone
to therapy, and you were nothingbut a good friend to everyone, Kayla,
And there was just his and Iliterally just like told him about himself.
I was like, you mean youtreat women disgustingly. You didn't think

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that anybody would find out. Idon't respect you. You got in my
face and as a woman, youcame too close into my stock simity,
like you're not manly for that.And I've done nothing but try to create
a fun friend group for everybody.And this was at the time where my
ex was here too, and like, I don't know, I just I
always threw cookouts and I alway throughparties and you know me, I'm always

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trying to get people together. Andhe was like, well, you know,
sometimes I just wanted to stay homeand be in my bed, and
you know, you were always gettingpeople together, and I just I got
social anxiety and sometimes I just wantedto be home with my girl. I
said, you could have stayed home. You could have said no. And
I was like, my personality isn'tfor everybody. Okay, some people are
gonna like me, some people don't, Okay, But I've been nothing but

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nice to you, and you werejust intimidated by how I had your your
girlfriend out in these streets and havingfun. And he was he was like,
yeah, you're right. He waslike, you're absolutely right, Like
I have no friends out here andshe's all I have, and you know,
you came in and gave her afriend group. And I was intimidated
by that. And I was like, well, that's not her problem,

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that's not my problem. That's yourproblem, that's your own insecurities. And
I can go on and on aboutwhatever the other side. I love it.
I am filled me and I recordedthe whole thing because I am the
recording queen because nobody, no oneis ever gonna tell me that I didn't
that I didn't say this, orI did And I learned that with my
ex because he he always tried tolie. Right. That's why I started
recording shit, like I always recordconversations because no one's gonna tell me,

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no, this is what I actuallysaid, right, And so I can
go on and on and on aboutthe rest of the conversation, but my
point is like, I'm gonna alwaysspeak up for myself. I'm gonna always
call out what's wrong. And Ialways try to be the best version of
myself to everybody and a good friendto everybody, and some people are gonna
receive it. Well, some peopleare gonna like me, some people don't.
But at the end of the day, the majority of people are like,
yeah, Kayla, Like, youwere a really good person. You

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were a nice girl, and allyou ever did was try to get people
together. And I'm glad he recognizedhis wrongs and apologized and I was like,
cool, that's a hater. Okay, well I'm proud of that.
I don't know if that was fattyor that just needed to be done,
but god, yeah, I justexposed whatever. Anyway. Petty things our
listeners did this week, we onlygot one today. It says I set

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my mom's new boyfriend's cat free.No, I hate him and his cat,
so I left the window open lastweek. Haven't seen the Wow,
that's not cool, man, Idon't like that. I feel bad for
the cat. It's cooled outside,right cool? And I got a little
milo. So it's like, Ilove cats. They don't deserve that.
They don't deserve that. What aboutthe rest of your week? Trap yoga

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was lit? Oh yeah, thatwas fun. I had so much fun.
So for my birthday, the celebrationcontinued and my sister taught a trap
yoga class and we had a coupleof my friends come up. Kayla came,
Joy came, Tay came, andhad some cousins in town. So
okay, look, I got tomeet some of my cousins, which is
really cool. And I really reallyenjoyed trap yoga. I felt sexy,

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I felt fun, and I justwant to do it again and again.
Yeah. I liked it too,And you know, I'm trying to get
on my hip hop grind. Iwant to actually do a dance class,
and so I feel like that waslike a good step in the right direction
of like feeling confident enough to takean actual dance class. So I want
to do it again. Yeah itwas awesome. And then outside of that,
the family came. Like I said, I'm really really, really really

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close to my family. I didn'thave friends for a really long time because
I just need. All I haveis cousins and that's all I need it.
So when I see them, it'slike the greatest recharge two have.
My cousins drove down from Vegas toLa They were visiting somebody in Vegas,
and then we spent two days inLa drove back to Vegas, spent two
days in Vegas, and it wasjust non stop, go go, go,
go go. We didn't really hitthis strip. We had kids with

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us and they wanted to gamble itat night, but that's not really my
thing. I just want to goto bed, So I didn't really hit
the strip. They did, butwe did do just family activities, shows,
interactive things, and it was justa lot a lot of fun.
Exhausting, but a lot of fun. So I felt recharged and depleted at
the same time, because there's nothinglike that family charge. But at the
same time, there's also nothing likemy time. Your week was a lot

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more than Vegas. So dude,tell Zalez it was girl. You looks
lit at the NAACP. I waslike, you're got Oh she's tired.
Oh my gosh. Yes, Sothe NC double or N double ACP Like
I'm a basketball min right now.Yeah, it was a lot of fun.
So Joy went with her uncle herhis uncle. Her uncle is a

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congressman in New Orleans, I believe, and so he got invited. Joy
and I think his wife were hisplus ones, and the original plan was
for Joy to like, I didn'tgo to the award show. I went
to the gala. Originally the planwas to sneak me in because I didn't
have a ticket, and you know, me and Joy were always about,
you know, always up to something. We always going sneak in somewhere.

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But eventually, like she just askedher uncle and he got me a ticket.
So it was cool. I mean, like, at first I didn't
know what to wear. You lookso cute, thank you. That was
actually my birthday outfit from last yearthat I'd never wore out. I just
wore for like a Q photo shooton my birthday. But yeah, so
I did my own hair, whichI was very proud of because originally I

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was like, oh my gosh,like this is an a ward show that
I like freaking Quien Latifa's gonna behere, Usha is gonna be here,
There's so many everybody, all ofthese amazing, high profiled actors are gonna
be here. I can't be lookingcrazy with it's a little bun. And
I wanted a nice, long,elegant ponytail, so I was like calling
around asking people like, hey,can you do a ponytail last minute,
nobody could do it, or theirprice was crazy, or I couldn't get

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there in time with the LA trafficand then make it back. And so
I was like, Heyla, justdo it yourself. You have gotten your
hair done so many times, youshould just like try to do it yourself.
So I did and it turned outreally really nice. Surprisingly got to
the Word show and it was justlike amazing being in amongst just so many
amazing black people who are doing thedamn thing. Uh. It was just

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crazy to be that. I mean, I saw Trevor Jackson was there from
Grown Ish in his Fine Self.I saw a lot of the people from
Abbot Elementary people. Did you'll makeeye contact? No, man, he
is so cute. Man. Uh, the people from the actors from Rap

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Shit, all these different influencers andjust people that you ran them like,
oh wait, I think I've seenthat show, like but I can't really
put, you know, picture whoit actually is. Man. It was
crazy. So, I mean theyhad all these like different buffets, so
they had like Indian food over here, soul food over here, seafood in
this corner, free drink that soundslike. It was so great Ludacris performed

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all his throwback songs and yeah,and so I don't know. Before I
get to the Vivica Fox things,I think that situation is actually pretty funny.
I will say I was in thisroom and my immediate reaction, my
immediate like thought, is like doI even belong here? You know?
And of course who wouldn't feel thatway? Right I'm like, oh my

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gosh, what am I doing here? Like this is Ushers right here,
Queen Latifa's right here? What amI doing here? But I don't know.
I have found like a new senseof confidence lately where when I walk
into the room, like I knowthat I deserve to be here. If
I didn't, I wouldn't even Iwouldn't physically be here. I deserve to
be in spaces like this. AndI felt good. I felt like I

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looked nice, like I really didthat than period, and it was really
nice. And I was looking aroundat all these beautiful, like this black
people and I was like, thereare so many beautiful black men out here.
There is no reason why anybody shouldtrip over one person. Period.
I don't know why I just hitme in that moment, but I was
just like, look, at allthis right here, a full successful,

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hard work and clean cut. Yeswe have money or ambitious, and it
was just like I could easily bewith one of these people, you know
what I mean. And that justkind of hit me, like there is
no reason why that I should everbe tripping about anybody of my past because
there's so much better out there,because look at where I'm at, Like

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if I was still in my pastlife with the people that I was with,
I could never be. I probablywouldn't have been in that space,
you know what I mean. SoI don't know, it's just really cool
realization. So Vivica Fox. Joywas in the Bobby Christina movie and Vivica
Fox was her co star, sothey know each other and they're very,
very close. Vivica Fox. Everybodyknows her. She is very you know

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who that is. She's on SoulFox like playing that game. I used
to love me some Vivical Soul Food. Let's go because my girl. Yeah.
So, uh, they met up, and of course I was with
Joy, so like I went withher, and so many of these fans
just kept coming up to her andtaking pictures with her. But Joy's like

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her girl, so like we kindof stuck with her and her publicist for
the second half of the night andjust chilled with her, dance with her,
you know, drank with her.It was really cool. And then
at the end of the night whenit we had like an hour left of
the whole shebang, and Vivico wasready to go and she taps Joy and
she's like, let's go. It'sdown to go, And all of a

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sudden, I was like, oh, I guess we're a part of her
entourage. So we walked out.It was me, Joy, Vivica in
her publicist, and we all walkedout to get into her black car,
and I so important, like Vivicalike, what's us to be our part
of entourage to walk out? Let'sgo? And we're like, oh,
okay, guess we're leaving. Let'sgo it. And it was so funny

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because she walked out said go byto all these people chopped in her black
car, and Joy's like, okay, we gotta order our car and I
was like, okay, I orderedit and a freaking Prius. It was
a Prius and She's like, Kyla, no, we cannot all these black
cars pulling up to the j W. Bitch we had it know, we
had to meet us around the cornerbecause we were not going to be picked

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up in a prius Can tesla cancel. And so yeah, those hard night
it was so much fun. ButI love that's amazing making memories, especially
with Joy, like we always havethe best time ever. So that's amazing.

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And you almost burned your house down, girl, Why you gotta do
that because we're not going to leavethat fight out, bitch. Oh my
gosh. And you made me feelsuper bad when I almost burned house down,
So I need something. This wasactually scary because you know, my
past just recently got diagnosed with asthma, and so I guess I was in
a rush and I was just doingtoo many things at once and I left

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a baked potato in the oven onfour hundred degrees. Whoa three hours?
Okay, three hours isn't the worst. It's like like an eight hour that
like I was expected like all daytype thing and came home. Happened.
So I randomly remembered while I wason the radio, I was like,
wait a minute, my potato,my potato, and I literally jumped up.

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I ran to my to the producerdown the hall and I was like
throwing sweepers. I gotta go home. I called my neighborn and Tony,
and I was like, there's ayou please help me, like see if
you can somehow break into my house. By the time they got to my
house, I was already there too, so we all met in my house.
There was smoke everywhere. The firealarm was going off. My little
luckily, was fine because I hadleft my window open up stair. Thanks

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God, Thank god he could breathesome fresh air. Yeah, because really
bad. Yeah, it could havebeen way worse, especially with his asthma.
But the big potato was like disintegrated. It was crazy damn lunch mm
hmmm, well yeah, so I'mhappy. Everybody's okay. Yeah, help
you made yourself in New Potato,got yourself now. I'm never eating potatoes
forever, forget again. Okay,So did I tell you about how someone

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used my pictures to catfish Nobody?I think I saw any your close friends
girl. So my friend randomly textedme the other day and was like,
by the way, we got sentthis from our friend in Wisconsin. Uh,
somebody's using your pictures to catfish peopleand they actually like my friends scheduled
to meet up with this fake Kaylaand got stood up, right, So

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it was my pictures from like freshmanyear of college, it says Kayla right.
The bio was like freaking Tender ishaunting me, by the way,
like ever since my ex was onTender, it's like fucking Tender, I
can't get rid of the stories fromman. Ever. So the bio was

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like teacher at Milwaukee Public Schools orsomething like that. Uh, the possibly
the whitest black girl on the planetfucked Donald Trump, uh something twenty twenty.
It was just a weird ass bio. Some made that, Oh yeah,

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absolutely, but the fact that theywere actually talking to people weird and
meeting up or scheduling to meet up. Are you using your real name?
Yeah? I think that she wasweird and taking like low key shots like
are you and why are you beingweird? Possibly the whitest black gir that
was a shy weird It absolutely was. But it's okay. You have an
idea you think we not. No, I have absolutely. I've had fake

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pages made of me before. Doyou know who did those? No?
I mean I know a lot ofpeople I've gotten like I had like three
fake Instagram pages of me. Peoplejust take my photos and and they do
it to people in a lot ofradio personalities all the time because they'll say,
hey, I can play your songon the radio if you pay me.
Oh, they use you as likeswindle of scam it. Yes,

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yes, yes, yes, yesyes. So well back in my day
when I was like, you know, maybe young adult, early twenties,
I definitely me and my friends wemade a fake page with a girl whose
image we got online, and wetried to talk to our boyfriends so we
like slid in their dms as likethis model girl. I want to say.

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Her name is like Kara or somethinglike that, like Kara or something
or another, and we like tryto talk to our boyfriends get them caught
up, and it worked. Itdidn't work for mine because he knew that
it was a fake page, notbecause he was a faithful person, because
he wasn't. He just knew,he just knew I was doing that.
It did work for my friend though, when we message her boyfriend off the
page and I just remember her startto shake and her eyes start you know

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that feeling when your heart just fallsinto your butt and your boyfriend's being so
inappropriate to you. And then whenyou call and he's like, oh,
look, you know, nice flipsare scraping you like the ashogs while you
messaged him on a fake page froma girl named Kara. So I never
got a page faked, but Imade a fake page back in my day,
and it worked for my friend,not for myself. So if you
ever want to see if you're befercheating, I wasn't above that. I

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wasn't above that, and it worked. Listen, and sometimes you gotta do
what you gotta do to see ifthese these men are acting right. Have
you ever been catfished. I've neverbeen catfished, like to the extent of
somebody making fake pages and stuff likethat. But I've gotten people who don't
look like their pictures. I've gottenhat fished where they have hats on their

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profile. See, I love hatfish. I'm done with with I'm done.
I'm absolutely done because I've had somany horror stories. Mind you, I'm
done with the small talk. Ihate it. It's just it's so huge,
hot, time consuming. But like, people don't look like they're pictures.
They're either say that they're six footand they're really five to five they
got pictures of with the hat intheir profile picture. You take off the

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hat, they're fucking bald. Ihad somebody who was he was so cute.
He was a little redhead. Ilike little red heads a little,
but he looked like a tall redheadon the on the jating app back in
the day, and we met inpersonally. He was like really really short,
and he was missing his front tooth, but it was his face.
He just didn't have a front tooth, which is like absolutely disrespectful. Please
if you don't have his front tooth, like tell the person like, hey,

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just you know, I don't havemy front tooth, just like you,
no surprise when I meet you.I think that was a little bit
disrespectful. But that was the closestthing I've I've experienced to a catfish.
He was him though, he justwas short and toothless. Well, how
do you feel about that, though, because I know there's a lot of
conversations about what people should disclose rightaway, right so even in like let's
say you make it to the firstdate, should you disclose if you are

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a transgender, Should you disclose ifyou have right away? If you have
a disease that you cannot cure children. What needs to be said in the
first date if you have children,I think that she needs to be said
in the first date because that's theperson's prerogative. I they want to date
somebody with kids or not. Okay, So the girl from Love is Blind,
why didn't she say that upfront?Didn't she wait to like date five

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to say that she had a kid? I think she should have said that
up front, and she said itwas because I just want him to get
to know me for me. Butisn't your child a part of you?
I think that a child's a hugepart of who you are as a person,
because it's not something that you canget rid of. And then on
top of that, I just thinkLove is Blind should have I don't know
if they were playing fair by puttinga single parent in the in the mix,

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because there's no way you can learna good person if somebody says,
hey, I have a kid,and you're like, oh, I don't
want to do that, Like theAmerica's going to eat you up, even
though you have every right to feelthat way. So I think that you
let somebody know on the first date. And on top of that, I
think I had a close friend whowas dating somebody who she didn't find out
that he had a kid until likelater, and actually his mom slipped up
into it her before he did,and he turned out to be a sneaky

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person in the long run. SoI think that's a red flag. Is
a characteristic trait, like why areyou trying to hide that you know facts?
So what about other stuff like sexualdiseases? Someone to say that in
the first date. I don't knowif you say that on the firs day,
because that's little presumptuous that I'm goingto have sex with you, you
know, maybe if we even havethat sexual chemistry first. But I think
before we have sex, we shouldalways be like, oh, le's booth

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get tested, or let's discussed ifwe have anything. Oh I want to
know right away on your first date, I asked. On the first day,
I was like, have you everhad any ScDs? Okay? I
asked my ex. Okay, Isaid, let's play never have I ever?
Because I want all the information upfront. Okay. So somebody's like,
hey, yeah, I had gonerhea for two weeks in college,

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but I got rid of it,or I had crabs back in the day,
he like forgot here? Yeah,I have crops? Are you like
fuck off? Like? Are youlike okay that happens? I mean I
feel like I would say that.I mean, if it's like back in
the day, I don't know.I think it happens, right, What
would you say? I mean,I don't ask on the first day,
but I don't think I date somethingdump somebody if they had something back of
the day. Yeah, I don'tthink. I feel like I want to

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get all my ship out the wayfor listen, I'm not playing gays and
more now right away. I wantto know do you have trauma? Are
you in therapy? Okay? Ithink I think that's important. I think
that's the one is something that's gold. Are you in therapy? Do you
have a relationship with it like yourdad? Are you? What is your
sexuality? Are you? Are youstraight? Because a lot of people aren't

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and that's okay, but I needto know, like if you're bisexual or
transgender or something. That's something Iwant to know. Are am I wrong?
I don't think you're wrong. Youseem like you're judging me right out?
Am I I don't know. No, I agree with you. I
think that you should ask these questions. I mean, I definitely I again
wouldnt ask them on the first date. But I don't care. Honestly,

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this is why I should. I'mclearly I'm not healed. No, I
am healing. I'm healing, butI think I'm just like, I'm so
fed up with finding shit out later, And don't you want to not waste
your time and get all your questionsanswered up front rather than and know,
rather than waste three four months andthen you find out because oh oh,
that's another thing. So they talkabout this on The Ryan Secret Show.

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It was like a timeline of thingsthat you should talk about when in a
relationship. So it's like you're supposedto wait four months before talking about past
partners with each other, You're supposedto wait five months before disclosing financial situations.
I think it was like you're supposedto wait six months before you actually
become boyfriend and girlfriend this bullshit stuff. But I don't. And that's why

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my view was, like, whyI want to know about your past relationships
up front? Do I need tohave to worry about a crazy baby mama?
Do you have a stalk or excessgonna come and slash our tires one
day, like I want to knowall that up fronting out five months in.
Yeah, that's fair, But Ialso think I don't want to say.
I don't want it to feel likean interview, Like I don't want
to feel like do you have this? Do you have that? I'm running

(26:08):
like chill dogs, And I say, if I like you first, before
you start doing all this ship like, I think that some things come up
naturally, And I think sometimes ifsomething doesn't come up in a organic conversation,
it's not something that something I wastrying to hide from you. It
just didn't come up. And I'mnot about to be interviewed on my first
date like you're the King of Sheba. No, like that's true. Get
out of here. I'm not,you're not a cop, I'm not under

(26:30):
investigation. Get out of hereganically happenedschool? But yeah, no, okay,
you got it, chill Well.Has you ever been in a situation
where someone wasn't who they presented themselvesto be in the beginning? Though,
yes, I would say a lotof the times that has happened to me,
Uh, my ex boyfriend, theone, the rebound after the ex

(26:52):
boyfriend, I'd say a lot ofthese men A fake man. A lot
of these men are fake. Ohninety five percent of the men I dealt
with were not who they presented themselvesto be. They had so much more
issues. Are just was a characterlike you wouldn't believe, Like that's I
think that's Is there anybody who youmet that was this? Friends of me?

(27:15):
I don't even know. It's hard. I'm just tired. It's called
love bombing. They do all thisstuff in the beginning, they give you
the roses, they say all thenice sweet things, and then it just
fizzles out. And it's crazy becauseI was listening to this person, this
man on the shape room, whosays that men actually have a three month

(27:37):
rule. I'm gonna break down thismethod that some men use, and it's
typically known as the three month rule. And before we get into it,
I can speak on it because unfortunately, yes, I have done it.
I know, like I know,I was a shitty ass human being for
doing it. It's super manipultive.But this shit is is full proof.
This shit worked, and I've takenfull accountability for it. I don't live

(27:59):
that life anymore. And if youcan't change something, embrace it, So
I'm embrace it by giving y'all thegames so y'all can peep up on it.
So for the first time, y'allmake contact. This man is giving
you boom one hundred percent. He'lltext you first, and he's consistent with
it. The compliments endless. Thisman is in love with you. He
think you the most beautiful person onthe planet. He's always available. You
can random face time him, andhe's always picking up the phone. He

(28:22):
tells you when he's going somewhere.He might even give you his location.
Oh, he might even see he'ssome money on. And this isn't just
one two three, No, he'sconsistent with it. That's the key is
consistency. That's what we fall inlove with. Consistency. And he'll fight
through the fast you're trying to playhard to get. Maybe you got certain
boundaries from past relationships. He gonnarespect them all. He might not even
try to fuck. And now youthink you done got to win. You

(28:45):
think you don't got to love yourlife. You're so proud of yourself.
Oh I still I'm business, Inever said, and I finally got him.
No, baby, nah, it'sjust a start. So now that
he knows that he got you.Boom he dropping a ninety five percent,
but you don't notice because saith,it's not too much of a difference from
what he was doing. And thenboom he drops it to ninety percent,
and some women notice it, majorityof women don't. Most of the time,

(29:07):
the delusion that you got from himputting in one hundred percent is still
it is still in there, soy'all not really from the peak. And
then boom he drops it to eightyand you notice this one, but you're
not ready to say nothing yet.You soon as you just overthinking. You
don't want to self sabotage a goodrelationship that you don't feel. So boom,
now he drops it to seventy fiveand you speak on this one.
You reach out to him and you'relike, hey, what's going on?

(29:30):
You seem a little distant? Iseverything cool? You just seem a little
off. This shit is so devousnow. A man's response will typically be
I'm just dealing with a lot.When I'm going through stuff, I just
like to isolate on on my energylow. I just like the distance myself
so we don't rub off on you, okay, So boom, he knows
you peeped the shift. So hebumps it back up to seventy five,

(29:51):
and you're grateful. You happy aboutthis five percent. You like, oh,
he's putting back an effort. Iknew he cared about me. Woo
wood would woop, just feeding feedingthe delusion. But all boy, five
percent is nothing. From seventy toseventy five, that's what a couple of
face time calls today. He gonnakeep chopping. It's gonna keep getting lower.
He probably at sixty five, sixtyfifty five percent by now, So
you say something again and get whathe do, bump it back up five

(30:12):
more percent, and you still gratefulbecause you communicated so many changed but it's
five percent. Shout it. That'snothing, and he's just gonna keep chopping
it. At this point, youat like twenty percent, but you so
desperate to get back to that onehundred percent that you thought were real.
You like, please give me,give me anything, and go what he
do? He give you another fivepercent, and you still happy, Like,

(30:33):
do y'all catch what's going on?The whole point of is like this
manipulative push and pull method, likegive you a little bit, take a
little bit more, But every timehe's taking, he's taking more and more.
Way he could give you. Hecould be at nothing, zero percent,
and you will be happy with thatfive percent. And I'm gonna give
you all example just so I cankeep how small five percent is. It's
that random text you get a shotof just just think about you, hope

(30:56):
your day going well, how yourmama doing? It could be a random
swipe up on the story. Youknow what I'm saying, some hard eyes
and you look gorgeous right here.Take this ship down, woo wool.
Like the game has always been thegame, and the only way to beat
this is to believe him when heshows you who he is, a man
that cares about you. He's notgoing a day without talking to you.

(31:17):
There's no way that he's gonna cutcommunication because he's going through something. He
gonna he gonna want you a partof that. Yeah, I do think
be sick. I didn't realize howintentional it was. Like that is so
lame and that Lyris, you wantto just go under a tent and just
not come out. How about wejust like grow up and not play those
games? Like for what isn't thatexhausting for the guy? But I do

(31:41):
like the advice when somebody shows youthey are, believe him. At the
end of the day, people areplaying these corniasque games at these old ass
ages, and yeah, when hewants to, he will the people that
actually like you and they'll talk todayand that's it. That's all. Like
anything else, when they show youwho it is, believe him. And
when you get hurt for not believingthem, they have nobody else to blame
but yourself. I'm talking to myselftoo, not just you know, like

(32:05):
damn, like, let me putthis clown makeup off and get my life
together. I feel that, girl, I feel that so much. But
another thing, did you see quieton set? Oh my god, it
like traumatized me. I saw abunch of different clips on social media and
I definitely have been shook. Ihave to find somebody's password to HBO Max

(32:29):
so I can watch it. ButI think it's just very sad what's happening
with everything that's coming out about Nickelodeon. And it's funny because you see the
way that all these child actors haveturned out to be. I know,
we all joke, aha, theyall turned out to be crazy. Gotta
landa brown off the Rockers, Aman of binds. But it's true,

(32:49):
and I think it's because of thethings that they have witnessed and seen and
were forced to do when they werechildren. A man of binds. What
is up with her? She toldus back in the day, bro we
ignore her, and now we seethis documentary that's pretty much solidifying everything that
she's said. She had a Twitteraccount which was acknowledged back in the day
of fake Twitter called Ashley Banks wasa name, and she exposed everything.

(33:12):
She exposed everybody. She exposed AnneSchneider. She said that he impregnated her
at thirteen and then forced her toget an abortion. She also exposed John
Travalto on Hairspray and if you look, John Travalta has a bunch of sexual
assault cases against him. Nobody talksabout it like and nobody talks about it
until it's too late. Drake BellI believe he well. In the documentary,

(33:34):
it shows that this person, BrianPeck, was grooming him and had
his eyes on him, and Drake'sdad tried to protect him. In Hollywood,
I guess once they realize your dadis like onto us, they ostracize
him. Now. I turned Drakeagainst him and say, oh, Drake
Bell, your dad's a terrible manager. He's going to ruin this for you.
If you don't get rid of him, you're not going to be a

(33:55):
star. If you don't get ridof him. Somebody who's accomplished it's telling
you that. You're like, oh, Dad, you gotta go. And
Dad's like, all right, i'llgo. He's crying. Tell him the
mom, I'll go, but makesure you keep him away from Brian Peck.
I don't trust Brian Peck. Themom doesn't listen. He ends up
at Brian Peck's house being, youknow, sexually assaulted, sideom eise with
foreign objects, just terrible, terriblethings. You could see Drake not even
being able to talk about it,his face just like he was. There

(34:19):
was so much pain in it.And the man only went to jail for
sixteen months. There were so manypeople on the Brian Pack side of the
courtroom. People wrote in support ofthis man. Sean from Boy Meets World,
Eric from Boy Meets World, allthese stars that we love wrote in
support of Brian Pack, like victimshamming, saying that the victim had to
entice him into it. It's justso sick. And the man still works

(34:39):
in Hollywood today, sixteen months injail, registered as a sex offender back
in Hollywood. Just really, whydidn't nobody know about this? Like,
why wasn't this made a bigger dealwhen we when this? Actually how old
were we? It was before Drakeand Josh, so it was after they
manage show, before Drake and Josh, so two thousand, we were children.
And he did get fired from Nickelodeon, and a lot of the people

(35:01):
also didn't know who the star wasthat said that he did these things,
Drake Bell. I think this washis first time sharing his story on camera,
so that people knew, now wasDrake Bell, But nobody knew all
these years who the kid was.They did these terrible things too, and
it's just six six sick things thathappen, And now I see why,
you know, get I even wonderabout Orlando Brown. You know, he's

(35:22):
crazy, yeah, and it's likecomical, haha, but I really kind
of wonder what happened to him,Like what has he been through? He
says that he's had sex with allthese people, and I wonder if he
was just like passed around like Cassieclaims that she was and as a child
though, so he like snapped.It's just it's really, really, really
and we make fun of these peoplein lifetime, but I think that some

(35:42):
terrible shit happened to them. Ithink it's kind of scary, especially now
that we actually live here. Weare actually in the center of where all
this shit happens, and we're inthe entertainment business, right, so we
get a first hand, behind thescenes look of all the stuff that goes
down, right, And I thinkit's very scary to think about those kind
of things happening right around us.Amanda Bndes is my biggest one that I

(36:07):
would love to hear her story.I don't know if she could ever,
like you know, come to buteven like you know, Miley Cyrus kind
of went wild for a minute,you think, like what triggered all this?
You know, what triggered the AndI've seen another other Disney Channel or
Nickelorio stars they would either have itget arrested for a duy later, or

(36:27):
they arrested for something, or theyare in a mental hospital or something's going
on. And I really truly believethat like Hollywood messes people up and sometimes
I get scared being here, youknow, And I think I have a
strong head on my shoulders, youknow, thirty At this point, I
know what not to indulge in,but it's easy to get caught up and
wrapped up around the hustle and bustleand of what this place is. Yeah,

(36:53):
discernment I feel is definitely strong,and I definitely feel protected by you
know, God. I'm definitely astrong Jesus and God worshiper. But I
do get scared because I don't thinkselling your soul is like and it could
be a ritual, it could besome kind of do this, go to
this place and they say some wordsand then your soul is going or whatever.

(37:14):
I don't know, you Oh,I don't know about that. But
I do that there's dark forces inthis world. If there's good, there's
dark, and I think that darkcan give you the power quick. And
I think people do sell their soulsand make promises to the devil with rituals.
I've even you know, I'm aTikToker now, thank you. And
I've seen like, you know,these demons at Travis Scott concerts and people

(37:36):
being like I've seen shit, andI don't know if it's real or not,
but it's like, yeah, thatstuff is real. That like dark
stuff is real. I just don'tknow how involved it in Hollywood. But
I say all that to say,like, I think also selling your soul
could be just like gambling your moralsor giving up your morals for what you
want right now. So I'm gonnasay this, I'm gonna do this to
this person. I'm gonna stablish thisperson in the back just to get ahead.

(37:58):
And I think that that's also yoursoul. And when you do things
that aren't genuinely what you're supposed todo or what you would normally do in
order to get ahead, very true. And we I mean, we've already
seen that kind of stuff like firsthandhere okay, okay, and things that
have happened, so I'm not surprisedby that. But I don't know.
I just think, you know,I made a promise to myself when I
moved out here that I wouldn't getwrapped up in this lifestyle, in this

(38:21):
Hollywood world and become like the storiesthat we hear, you know, and
that's how people end up on drugsand strung out and on the streets you
know, too much of something isnot good for you at all. And
I think too much of the fameand getting wrapped up in you know,
the parties and you know, sellingyour soul to get a movie part You

(38:43):
know how many people will do stuffjust to have their dreams come true.
I've like now that you say,we live out here and we talked,
and I talk to like a lotof people that that especially were in the
industry or are in the industry,and the things that happen at these parties
and the things that these women doand how they have you know, blowed
job contest. Whoever could suck thebest penis will get like it's like sick
stuff. And I'm so grateful thatI haven't been in any parties like that.

(39:06):
Like I don't even know how I'dreact to that, but I know
that there are people that are willingto do kind of stuff like that just
to be like, oh, yeah, I did this, so I'm now
in these parties or I'm now inthese rooms. Like even women that we
know and love till this day,I'm sure that they did some shit.
That's like, has anybody ever askedyou, like, so, what did
you do to get to that place, to where you're at. Does anybody

(39:27):
ever undermine your hard work? TheyI've been asked, well, I've been
asked what else, Like how doI afform my life out here? Like?
What else do you do outside ofthis? Because sometimes it gets hard
and it's been hard. I'm like, I got a family that loves me.
They're never going to let me fail, so if I need help,
they will cash at me and sendme money like that's that's it, that's

(39:50):
all. But I feel like theywere kind of insinuating, like what else
do you do? Do you havea sugar something like that? Yeah?
Yeah, And I'm also asked moreoften if I'm taking anything from my body?
Do you take while you're so skinny? What are you taking? What's
your secret? It's like, Ijust work out. I don't know,
God blessed me, but I getthan I'm used to, Like what are

(40:12):
you taking for your body? Andit's like I'm just built like this,
thankfully. But interesting, I haven'teither been like asked if I'd done something
to get to where I am.I think everybody knows that I work freaking
hard. I mean, if yousee where I come from, don't ever
disrespect me by saying I suck ittogether where I need to be or something

(40:32):
like that. You know, butI have been asked also how do I
afford it out here? And thenyou think they're insinuating something when they ask
you that. Probably, but becauseeverybody knows, everybody thinks that radio doesn't
it doesn't pay, but when youkiss a family does so I'm good.

(40:57):
But it's true. There's a lotof radio does not pay good at all,
and I think it's absolutely bullshit.You know, you shouldn't have to
be a market number one and twoto make six figures in radio, Like,
it's absolutely sad how other people arestruggling. But yeah, so that's
about it for me, though.It's like other people have asked me that,
but I don't know. I justI have had people act differently towards

(41:22):
me because I live here. Yeah, oh my god. Yeah, I've
been told you've gotten Hollywood, you'reso Hollywood. Now it's just like I
just run, what does it evenmean? Bro? Like nah, and
no, you don't act Hollywood.Well, I've just grown up, Like
I'm just acting Hollywood even mean toogood. I don't even know what that
means. I really don't. Ijust I just know that I'm like I

(41:42):
don't entertain the things I've used toentertain, Like I don't. I don't
have time for this certain certain conversations. I don't have time to be silly
and goofy with with with things Iused to be silly and goofy about.
I've just but that's just me maturing, Like I'm not I'm thirty three now.
I was twenty nine when the lasttime you spoke to me, Like
I'm I've grown, I don't thinkand moving away does grow you, But
I don't think. I act likeI don't even know what that means.

(42:04):
But Hollywood, I don't act likeI'm better than anybody. I don't think
I'm better than anybody. I'm justtrying to figure this out. But yeah,
I've gotten that. Yeah, I'veI gotten some people act differently towards
me, where it's like the whatcan you do for me? Like oh
you do this? Like oh thatmeans that you can automatically put me on
and it's like I would love tohelp as many people as I can,

(42:25):
but like it doesn't you just expectme to play your song on the radio.
You expect me to do this.I wish it worked that way,
but it doesn't. But I feellike I am also a very humble person
and I never like to rag aboutanything. I'm still hustling, just like
the next person in my job isnot any better than somebody who is a

(42:46):
doctor or saving lives, you knowwhat I mean. So it's like I'm
not gonna walk around with my noseall up in the air like I'm all
that like when I'm still not exactlywhere I want to be either. So
but yeah, I had people actdifferently towards me, sure, crazy and
yeah, and I noticed it moreI notice the more I accomplish it,
the more I do or the moreI don't even want to say it's about

(43:08):
accomplishments or doing things. It's justthe more I become more confident in myself
and and get closer to my higherself, the more it pushes the people
away that aren't supposed to be aroundme. And I take it as a
blessing. Yeah, yeah, Iagree, Patty Award the Week, Sure
who you're giving yours to? Iwant to give mine to lamar odom he
didn't know, and Caitlyn Jenner,which she did. Now they teamed up

(43:31):
and launched a podcast called Keeping Upwith Sports. I'm dying. No,
damn well, they're not gonna talkabout sports the two exits. They even
still like, I know Lamar Lamardoesn't play and Caitlyn isn't all right?

(43:52):
Weird weird, Petty, I ain'tgonna lie in between it and sports?
Did you about Tammy rivera beef andwith Waka Floka's new jawn Big Mal,
they're stopping each other on social media? So first Tammy puts up, no
one can make me jealous over aseat I had. First, you wouldn't
be sitting there if I didn't getup. Seeming unnecessary, seemed unprovoked,

(44:15):
Like what's up, so big Mal. She followed with the meme that said,
being washed up and can't let goof your past is type crazy.
This is the one because it's givingjealous and Benner and I think so because
we're just happy over here, likewhat you talking me for? So then

(44:36):
Tammy said, man, I'm wakingup and it's nine am over here where
I'm at Waka We literally just talkedabout this last night in parentheses your morning
that was PETI uh wak up?Get her please, for I hurt this
little girl's feelings. Oh, bythe way, that post wasn't even about
him nor you, but hit dogsgoing holla, you fucking up with a

(44:57):
steep san Tammy. She called bigmal as she and Tammy. And I
ain't gonna say that. I ain'tgonna say that's wrong. I will always
side with him. I loved himmyand I love that, uh that phrase.
You wouldn't be sitting there if Ididn't get up. That's what a
lot of you bitches don't fail torecognize. The only reason why you got
that first place seat is because Iexcused myself from the situation. I can

(45:20):
respect it, but I think that'sa bitter ass dance. I think the
best would always stay gracious. Bestrevenge is your paper. You acknowledging me,
youre acknowledging that you seem better.I'm gonna go sit on his face
and send you a video because clearlyget mad. Clearly get mad. So
if you moved on, be movedon. But if you mad because I'm
with him, then you about tobe real mad because I'm with him.
I do, I don't, Imean, I'm not. Nobody's right one

(45:42):
hundred percent of the time, likeI don't suck nobody's being this that art
like that wasn't cool. But ifshe wasn't talking about her when she claimed
she wasn't surety got like got mad, I wouldn't have did it publicly.
I would have did something petty,pet like I would have sent something to
your phone. You would have gota video and you would have been upside.
But I wouldn't have done that onInstagram or sweater because now, I
mean, because you weren't even talkingabout me and a head dog collars out.

(46:04):
But Tammy got my petty word ofthe week, even though I do
have far and Caitlin though it's thetwo exes linking up to do a podcast
called Keeping Up with they are cool, Like they're not even like the everybody
got parents, everybody a happy familywhen they meant to be like Christen,
No, they're I don't think theyCaitchris, I don't think they are.
I don't even know that you're justsaying that. I swear I saw something

(46:24):
where they're like were strained, Likewe don't talk swear, Yeah, bro
talk. I don't think she hits. Oh yeah, Caitlyn, I'm been
giving Tammy we God let us knowonline. Jaddy awarded the Week I Said
what I said. I said whatI say, Petty Ma, Dear Kayla

(46:47):
and Kayla, I want to remainanonymous. I recently found out that I'm
pregnant and that I'm in my latetwenties with my ex boyfriends who's in his
forties. Baby. I informed himand he says he wants absolutely nothing to
do with me or the baby terminate. I'm having a hard time because he's

(47:08):
pushing me for termination of the pregnancyand I don't want to do that,
but I'm also terrified of moving forwardand raising a baby all by myself.
What listen, I think at onetime to tell me that he doesn't want
a baby with me, because no, I'm not about to have a hard

(47:28):
life, okay on no for real, No, seriously, I totally think
that I can't put my body throughthat by myself, and I have like
that's a lot to go through alone. That's a lot to go through alone
because he's basically telling you that I'mnot going to be there. But I
also respect people that considered that alife and then like you know, have
to deal with that later in lifewith like, oh, shit. You

(47:49):
know now you might be you're inyour late twenties. Next thing, you
know, ten years as fast,you haven't gotten pregnant again. It's like,
oh, you know that that's that'ssomething to think about. Amen.
So I don't I think if that'ssomething that you really want, if you
want the baby, I don't thinkthat that man should terminate. Oh no,
shit, dictate whether you do ordon't have one. You might just
say determined. Yes, it's late, I'm say you, but uh he

(48:17):
should you. God gonna make itall right for you and your baby.
There's plenty of single moms out therethat survive every day. Honey. But
just know you went for a fuckingfucking some shit. But if that's what
you want, Jesus got you girl. What Kayla said, Yeah. Also
just an announcement. Our Portal oneepisode airs in four days, three days,

(48:37):
probably four days. I don't knowwhat today. I don't who's gonna
drop, But in March twenty fifthis dropping on Portal one. Download the
Portal one app and watch me andKayla get believed by gamers because my score
is really low when I know they'reprobably not gonna be next to the comments.
But portal one in four days.Are episode airs in twenty fifth right,
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(49:00):
it's just like a click and aclick. But yeah, go support
any gamers and wordever period. Anythingelse you got come up this week?
Joy's birthday Yes, going to Disneyland. Ye, that's it. Okay,
I think I have lunch with somebodyand Enjoy's birthday and just recharging this battery.

(49:22):
I want to shop. I'm gonnaget my my bedroom together. I
want to buy all new bedroom furniture. Kayla Thomas Warty on Instagram, at
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