March 6, 2024 • 46 mins
Hey guys! In this episode KT and Kayla discuss the recent episodes of Love is Blind, giving men a safe space to be vulnerable, the recent controversy surrounding Pastor Mike Todd's church theatrics and more!
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The Petty Is Podcast. Welcome backto another episode of petty Ish. My
name is Kayla and I'm Kayla.What's good with you? Hey girl?
How is you? I like yourspace buns? Yeah, you know,
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it's funny because today I had mylashes, I had my wig, I
had my meeting in Beverly Hills.I saw you. Where were you?
I'm I'm a member of MS.I'm a member of the committee. So
every year we have a meeting atNancy Davis's house in Beverly Hills and just
try to get together some auction itemsto give away this year. Does someone
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in your family have MS? No? Actually I don't know how I became
a member of the but here Iam good for you for being an advocate.
But that's okay. Yeah, yeah, so it was really really cool.
I do love being you know,anybody with its Williams. There was
also Mercedes on no is he who'sMantel Williams. He was a talk show
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host back in the day. Ohno, not that I know of.
It's okay, but I do,like, you know, want a cure
and everything. So I do.God, bless you, God bless uh
So, yeah, I went theretoday. It was really really cool,
just you know, going into thegated community, seeing how the others live
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and just oh, you know ifthis watch that was mentioned in Forbes,
that's a part of my company.And jewelers taking off their rings like here
you can action this. They're like, oh my god, this is being
a the Oh you know what,let's let's get Christina Aguila to perform Go
Knock on her tour. She's rightnext, Like just I'm like, okay,
casual, this is my morning.Yeah, this is my morning.
So that was pretty cool. ButI was saying that I had the wig
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on, the lashes completely put together, and then I got home, snatched
the wig off, snatched the lashesoff, but my buns and j that's
the best part about a glueless ishe can snatch it on and put it
back on. Literally my new bestfriend, best investment, isn't it.
Yeah? And I spoke out ofuniversity this week. Oh really that was
really cool too. I think thisis my last year' speak and I feel
like it's a lot of the samestudents for for for the most part,
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but you know, I like thefact they keep coming back. I just
feel like I can't really say anythingnew that I haven't already said. But
I do love the messages that Ireceived. They say, you know that
I'm one of the realest people thatthey've spoken to, and always get new
connections and new people asking me forwhatever I can do, and I definitely
help them out the best I can. So look at you and speak on
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committees and whatnot. Right am Iin my thirties or what? Like?
What's happening? What about you?How was your week? It was a
chill week. I feel like thisweekend I didn't do anything, which was
nice. All I did was work. Yeah, that's that's about it.
But I had a really good conversationwith my mentor, and I swear every
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time I talked to him, likeI get motivated to do more. And
he was talking to me about howthe entertainment not just the entertainment industry as
a whole, but like across thecountry there are massive layoffs going on right
now amongst like every single type ofindustry and no one is safe. And
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I mean, you see what happenedacross the street at our arrival station,
like they wiped out all their middaypersonalities. And I was just talking to
him about that and like what hethinks about it? And he was like,
well, this is why you needtwo sources of income. Never get
comfortable. Even though you're comfortable.He was like, you're in a really
good position with your job right now, but it doesn't matter, like anything
could happen, expect the unexpected.And he was like, you need to
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be doing television yesterday. And Iwas like, well, you know,
I don't really like being on acamera that much like I like being behind
the scenes. Radio is cool.You just hear my voice. I can
come into work in sweatpans and whatnot. And he was like, whatever you're
going through, get over it.I was like, I was like,
okay, that's true, and it'strue. It's like I think a lot
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of it is roaded off of insecurities, even though I'm on camera all the
time now, but I just Iprefer, you know, I just prefer
radio. Right. He was like, you're so good on camera. You
need to be doing television. Andhe was like, we're gonna get you
an agent. And I was like, okay, let's get me an agent.
Like okay, whatever I need todo. Because he was like,
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because in this time next year,you need to be start looking for a
house, and I was like okay, and he's just throwing all this stuff
at me, and I was like, a right house, Like okay.
He was like, there's no wayin the hell that you should be playing
twenty five hundred dollars for like yourapartment when I'm right now paying three thousand,
three thousand for my mortgage to twobedroom with a garage and a gated
community. It's here in La,it's like around I would say, like
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twenty minutes away. Yeah, eachI just want a house, a two
bedteran house. And he's and he'sfifteen minutes away, like it's so possible.
And I was like okay. Andwe were just going through like the
numbers and everything that I need todo, how much I need to like
save for our house, what Ineed to renegotiate my contract. But he
was like, Kayla, adding anotherlayer of income will help you. So
you know, he was like,I need your dumber reel by the end
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of the week. And I waslike, well, I don't know if
I can get you by the nexweek, maybe two weeks. I need
it by the end of the week. And I'm like okay. Because he
called an agent while I was onthe phone with him, like ready to
help me, and I was like, Okay, this is serious. And
that's why I love about him.He's always willing to help me. He
always pushes me. He's so bluntand brually honest and straightforward, but it
pushes me to be better. Yeah. So that's like my big takeaway from
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the week, and so that's whatI'm going to be doing in the next
few weeks is like, how canI what more can I do? Right?
And so, yeah, I lovethe mindset. I think that's how
you attract the more. And Ilove the people that hold us accountable and
actually help us that just being likeI don't know, figure it out,
or yeah you know it's not myproblem, or even just you know,
I don't know, ignoring you.But I like the fact that he helps
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you'll hold you accountable and right.It makes it so possible and real.
Yeah, it's it's very rare.In this story, I have met so
many people who do not want tohelp the next person, and I see
it in a lot of in women. Also. That's why I always aspired
to be the person that could helpWhoever. When I was back in my
old station, I had so manyinterns that text me to this day,
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like, thank you so much forinspiring me, for creating my demoree,
for teaching me. Because I'm herenow, I have like my interns are
freaking out like TV stations across thecountry. Yeah, and I love to
see it because that's what because somebodyhelped me. My best friend Freddie,
he helped me. He mentored me, He gave me a chance when he
did not have to have let mesit in the sit in the studio with
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him for all those hours, youknow, so I always try to pay
her for it. Yeah, asuperhero did you have? I wouldn't say
petty, but like my neighbors movedout and I was like what, No,
I'm just like I don't know howthat's I don't know. I was
just nervous, how that's gonna leavesomething petty. I'm like, no,
I'm petty because I never like,I didn't say goodbye or anything. Friends.
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We weren't friends. I think,honestly, what I think it is
for me is I don't know.I just I'm tired of hearing them argue
all the time. Yeah, andI remember one time, like I called,
I texted one of the girls tocheck in on her to see if
she was okay, because she waswas have like wwe on the other side
of the freaking wall, and itsounded really crazy. So I texted her.
I was like, hey, girl, like, you can tell me
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to mind my business, but uh, are you okay? Like let me
know if you're okay, Like that'sit. She never responded yeah, basically,
But I feel like, come onnow, like if I heard something,
if somebody heard me getting tossed aroundlike that and it sounded really really
bad, I would want somebody tocheck it on me, or I would
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at least like it, or Iwould at least say something. But not
to say anything was kind of crazy. I don't know if I'm embarrassed.
And I was just getting tossed around, and now I know my neighbor heard
it, I might be like,I mean they weren't. It wasn't like
that she was trying to hide it. I mean it was like screaming,
like a whole freaking complex can hear. Yeah, sometimes when you're in those
fights, you don't really remember whoelse is around. You just got tunnel
vision and things like damn now,not my neighborhood. I got these text
messages. Now you're dumb a butI wasn't even judging though. I literally
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was like, hey, girl,like I know, I know, yeah,
but I don't know. It's notlike we were cool friends. We
were like it was a high bysituation and now I don't know to get
a bye, they yeah, allright, goodbye. Well bring on the
next neighbor. I love it.I didn't have anything. I didn't do
anything Patty. I should had somethingPatty done to me, I think kind
of. So I've been really busy. But one of the girls I used
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to work with at a job outhere a long time ago posted that you
know, she's having enough time.She just doesn't feel pretty and she just
you know, not believing in herself. And you know I have a soft
spot for things like that. SoI'm just like, heye, girl,
sorry, I haven't made time foryou. Because we were actually cool when
we broke together. I wouldn't saythat we were like friend friends. You
know, that was my work friend. I would talk to her at work,
didn't really hang out with her outsideof work too much. But anyway,
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I'm like, hey girl, sorry, I haven't made time for you,
like, let's do lunch or something, and she's like, oh,
OKAYL missed, so my you know, let's do it. So I made
plans for I had a meeting inthe morning and then I had to do
something at night. So I hada very small window of time, and
I tried to schedule her within thatwindow, and within that window I actually
fell asleep, so I had twomiscalls from her and text messages from her
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when I woke up. So Itexted her back like I'm sorry, I
fell asleep, like where are you? Because I still had like a little
bit of time to meet up andshe was just like I'm already headed home.
Hopefully we run into each other inthe future. I'm like, no,
let's let's reschedule available this day,and she like literally never responded.
I wouldn't have be there, likeshe was at the place. I don't
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know where she was. Yeah,girl, I would not respond to you
either. You set this up Andhow did you didn't even try to set
an alarm? Yeah, how doyou file? I said an alarm?
And you just you didn't really wantto go. No, I did want
to go, but like I'm busy, I'm tired, like my body just
literally shut down and I literally turnedmy alarm off. And we were supposed
to meet at what like four fifteen. I called you back at four forty,
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So I get it, Like mybad, I guess also because you
guys aren't friends, Like it's likea situation where it's like you talk maybe
through social media. Yeah, soshe doesn't care enough to try again because
this wasn't even a friendship to beginwith, Like you reached out to her.
It's okay. I was trying tobe a good person. I was
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trying to do the right thing.But I think I had My problem is
I overextend myself and I over promisedmy I really didn't have the energy for
that, unfortunately, you know.And it's one of those people that's like,
you know, she applied for Batties. She's like, it's kind of
a little bit drama, a littlebit of drama. So you just vision
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like Natalie Nunn type of girl.Natalie None fell asleep while she was auditioning
and it was literally on the show, and like, you know, she
also posted on her story that shewas in McDonald's at the drive through,
and I guess somebody behind her keptyelling like next window or move along or
something like that. So she literallyheld up the whole drive through while she
was just recording him. So notthat she's wrong in that, it's just
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like a lot of drama from thatindividual. So I didn't think happens for
a reason. All right, pettythings, our listener, did you wanna
go first? Yeah? I wentthrough my boyfriend's phone and his ex girlfriend
kept sending him nudes, so Iposted nudes all over his social media and
then changed all his past You're goingto jail. Revenge porn. You're going
to fucking jail. Well, stopsitting my man nudes? Bitch, how
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you like your boobs on the ground? Didn't CARDI say that girl, you
were going to jail. It's neverrevenge porn is never worth it. Bailed
me out. Don't send in myman. News ain't worth it? Okay?
Have you ever done something crazy?Oh? God, I wouldn't do
that. No, no, no, I did see nudes of other girls
in my and my exes phones,but I wouldn't post them. No.
I just like yelled at them andthen maybe message the girl. But see,
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back in the day, like Iwas always too scared to send news
because I was friends with guys whowould show me a look and I would
actually see them in groups showing eachother the videos that they would take while
they're having sex with the girl andlike laughing and like look at her,
like look at this. Like Iwould see it and I would never want
to be that girl that's being shownaround, so I would I would never
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Yeah, I would never post,you do I send them? Is that
was that your question? No?Yes? Send? I would never let
anybody. Would you let anybody recordyou? Back in college? Like I'm
talking specifically during the college days whereI was like no, no, no,
no, I'm talking like send likenothing because they show each other,
well, I was in a relationship. I don't know what he did.
But I was always taught to keepmy face out of it. So if
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I send the picture, I justkeep my face out of it so it
doesn't look like me. It couldbe could not be and sex. Now,
I've never been I've never been oneto be like get the camera,
let's do this. Like, no, you never was recorded, you never
recorded yourself ever. I was recorded, but it wasn't like oh you never
like meditate. I was recorded,but I didn't know about it. So
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I wasn't like, let's do atape. So I had a tape done,
but I wasn't. That's not that'sthat's illegal. But yeah, I
mean, you know, some peoplelike to say you record themselves for like
each other, you like to recordyourself. I've done it before. I've
done it before. But I thinkas I grow in my career and the
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bigger I get, that's not happeninganymore because I'm not going to end up
on like the Shade Room and Iknow I'm not like Charlemagne level and stuff
like that. Yeah, but oneday and then you can still be on
and it's okay, you know,no, thank you. So I'm I'm
good off that. The good thingis though today you could be like girl,
that's ai. That is not easy, as I would never that is
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so true. Okay. Someone saidI went to get my hair done and
absolutely hated it, but was tooscared to say something while I was there.
I paid and I left, butwhen I went home, I wrote
a bad review on her YELP page. Oh okay, I mean, how
do you feel about that kind ofsituation when you're getting a service of some
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type, getting your hair done,getting your nails done whatever? And are
you the type of person if youdon't like what you got the service that
you received, are you going tosay something right then and there, or
do you just like suck it up, pay later and then complain online later.
I suck it up, pay andthen complain later, because I'm really
not good with respectable confrontation. Iknow how to rock rah or I know
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how to not say anything, soI'd rather just not say anything because everybody's
about to be uncomfortable if I saysomething. See. I used to do
that in the past, but Ihave gotten so many messed up hairstyles over
the years that I learned I gotto speak up for myself and say something
or I'm unhappy, I'm sorry butthis isn't what I asked for. I'm
sorry, can you fix this?Or I remember one time when I was
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getting my makeup done and she didit hungover in the dark morning, breath
all in my face. I rememberthat, Oh my god, that was
a terrible and that was before ourphoto shoot for Oh my Gosh. And
I literally was like, this isterrible. And I thought about you know,
because she was so sweet, butyou didn't say anything in that moment,
I did, I think you messageher later. I messaged her later
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and I was like, now thatI'm in the light, I can see
that I don't really like it andI don't feel comfortable, like can I
have half of my money back?And she was like, well, you
should have told me while you haven'tseen it, I could have fixed it.
And so from that point on,now I speak up because I'm not
going through that again. Well,yeah, I haven't had that yet.
Even with the locks by B girl. I gave her looks, but I
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never like said, I don't appreciateyou. You gotta speak up. Are
you going to have that four hundreddollars hairstyles? But you can be stuck
with it for two months? Absolutelynot. I'm not gonna if I'm paying
for it, and especially with theprices that people are having right nowadays,
I'm not. I'm gonna get mymoney's worth and I'm gonna leave happy.
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Okay, you better looking at thatone day. So I like the fact
that you're comfortable to speak up andyou feel like you're safe enough to speak
up. But I guess this newtrend or not even a new trend,
just another another comment and I knowyou've been watching Love Is Blind and I
love it. We and my sisterhave been having a disagreement about this,
but this is manute. This manis on Instagram saying this is why it
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doesn't work with most women. Ithink the number one issue man I have
a women is we don't feel likeit's a safe space created for us to
express ourselves. And I'm gonna tellyou what I mean by that. Like
with women when they go through thingsor when a man does something that she
doesn't like in a relationship, shehas free reign to express to him that
she doesn't like it whenever and howevershe wants right and if it's too crazy
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or whatever, we're just talking toOh, she's a woman, she's emotional,
you know. But as a man, we have to kind of tiptoe
around a woman's insecurities when we're tellingthem all these things, Okay, watch
your tone, don't talk too loud, don't be too abrasive. So a
lot of men just get to thepoint like, know what, I'm not
even gonna do it. I don'teven feel like arguing. So I think
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that is what we wish could changeand what could improve more when it comes
to one, but a lot ofwomen are not open to it. So
what do you think about that?That's why you roll your eyes. I
agree in some sense that men haveto tiptoe around our feelings. I one
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agree, but I want to makeit comfortable for my man to speak freely
about whatever, and I want to. I wanted to be a safe space
for him, and so I tryit at least to let my guard down,
be vulnerable enough to and hear himout, even if it might hurt
my feelings. Yeah, no,for sure, I definitely agree with you
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as well. I try to bea safe speed for my space, my
little booze and let them have theiremotions and let them cry and let them
be expressive. And that's totally fine. But me and I asked us to
have a disagreement because you've been watchingLove is Blind and ad so every time
you know he's talking her, he'slike, I'm so scared that I want
to cheat on you, because youknow, that's what I've seen my father
do, That's what I've seen myfriends do, and my father even took
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me to other women's houses. Andthat's just something I'm in scared about.
Like I'm really scared I want tocheat on you. They're eating lunch.
This lunch is good. I'm scared, I'm mooning chewed on you like all
the time. So do you thinkthat AD should be a safe space for
him to express that comfortably or isthat like a red flag in Aid needs
toick. No, he is awalking red flag, and it's not AD's
responsibility to coddle him and make himfeel better about potentially cheating on her.
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So that is the most ridiculous thingI have ever heard. And I saw
that debate on social media. Like, either Clay is being he's just being
honest, he's just speaking his truth. He's just telling her about his insecurities.
And on the other hand, it'slike, you're a grown ass man.
I'm sorry, you're grown. You'reabout twenty something years old and you
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are basing your feelings off of whichyour father did and what you were around.
Nah, is that the biggest redflag in him to you? Yeah,
that was a big red flag forme for him With Clay, just
why are you always constantly talking aboutI might cheat, I'm scared I might
cheat, Like she's literally he's literallytelling her and preparing her like I'm gonna
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cheat on you one day, I'mnot ready for marriage. I agree one
thousand percent. And I think thatyou know, yeah, men should have
a safe face. But I thinkthat that is something he should talk about
with his therapist if that's something that'sbecause it's not like diabetes or like even
it's not like something that's handed downgenetically, like if you don't want to
cheat, don't fucking cheat period.But I think that if a d is
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trained to accept that and be like, I need to be here for him
through this and love him through this, I think that that's doing a greater
disservice to womanhood as a whole,because I feel women have been trained to
say, this is what you gottadeal with from a man, and the
longer you deal with it and youhold him down through that, the more
you'll be rewarded later. And that'sa falsehood that needs to be deaded like
yesterday. Yeah, And I thinkhim confiding in her with that is reinforcing
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that woman need to accept that.Yeah. I was having this conversation with
one of my friends and it's like, it just makes me so sad because
it just shows you how you wereraised in the environments that you grow up
when matter when it comes to arelationship in the future. And so I'm
sorry. If you are constantly aroundpeople that cheat, if you constantly see
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abuse, you have the tools tobreak those generational curses. But that's what
it is. It's a generational curse, Okay, Right. So I was
in a relationship with ship with somebodywho his mom was not faithful to her
partner. Neither his dad was notfaithful to his mom. He saw a
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lot of abuse growing up, andthat's just like that was his reality.
So growing up, Like, Ican see how he never trusted when I
remember one time I was sitting inthe living room with this with this particular
boyfriend, and his mom came inwith a guy that we never seen before,
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and I was like, and thenthey just go upstairs to her room
and shut the door. And Ilook at him and I say, that's
not so and so like, that'snot her man, her boyfriend. And
he looks at me and he goes, this is why I don't trust women.
Wow. And so I think,truly, I truly believe because that
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is what he's seen, that's theenvironment that he grew up in. That
is why he and him saying Idon't trust women. That's the reason why
he is the way he is andwhy he cheated on me. Now you
have the power and the tools tobreak those generational curses. You have the
to go to therapy, get yourselfright, get right with the Lord,
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and God can change you. Butyou got to do the work. It
takes extra effort. It's unlearning everythingthat you've learned, everything that's been normal.
Right, this is just what lifeis. This is what it's going
to be. And to just havethat reality like, actually, no,
this isn't life. I don't haveto be this way. It does take
the extra work and the extra effort. And I do commend like for acknowledging
this, Yes, acknowledging that hehas these struggles. I don't think that
this is the platform to do ittoo, or what I do it because
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what the fuck is she supposed todo with that? Absolutely not. But
sometimes I think Adie's a good girl. Sometimes you get a girl like this.
Did you see the girl that waspissed at she asked her man for
lunch? She sent her thirty dollars. Okay, so yeah, story time.
So yeah, please tell me ifI'm wrong. So today, this
dude wrote me on Instagram and hewas like, can I send you money?
Let me send you money for lunch. So I was like okay.
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I wrote her back and I waslike sandeep. So he wrote me and
was like, okay with your cashup. So I send him the cash
up. Yeah. I just knewI was going to open my cash up
and I was gonna have at leastprobably about a hunt about you're getting what
I'm saying, because like did Ieat and this how much I spend on
my food? Yeah? I openedmy cash up and this man sent me
thirty dollars. Yeah, he's thirtydollars. And I'm just like at first,
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I'm like damn, like am Igrateful? Like am I fucked up?
Like feeling like like why the fuckulyou seeing me thirty dollars? But
then I had to ask some peopleand they was like nah, because I'm
like, thirty dollars is not evenhalf a tank in my car, Like
what the fuck you thought I wasgonna go cheap? Like like I mean,
I'm trying to figure out what whatdid you think I was gonna eat?
Justified? Yo, thirty dollars willcover chew Chipotle Bels plus extra walk
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and chips and a drink Girl Relax. That's my favorite meal. Last week
green a nice little harvest bowl,Little Casha breade Li kombucha twenty four dollars,
got six dollars of putting the tankbaby, thirty dollars is more than
enough? Are you kidding me?How bougie? Are you? Like?
Social social media? Social media isfucking us up? Like why is that
an expectation? Why do you feellike so? But then again, maybe
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the video you look like an asshole. Maybe the type of man that she
has dated has sent her one hundreddollars for lunch and that's just what she's
used to. So getting a guythat says, hair, here's thirty,
she's like, what am I goingto do with this? That's very valid
as well, maybe shit, Andmaybe she set her standards from the beginning,
like hey, like this is whatI expect. I guess that.
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I guess. I guess that couldbe your standard and you can afford those
boundaries. That's cool, boats.I think posting on social media and talking
down on that man, it waslike that says a lot about says yeah,
absolutely. I mean she's beautiful I'mlooking at it right now, but
like the entitlement and the ungratefulness,it just dims her attractiveness and then makes
her just like ugly just the wayshe's speaking, like I'd be grateful for
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thirty dollars, and I send youand I do spend money on food at
least when we go out to eating. Maybe not like week to week,
but if we go out to eat, like we're at least spending that.
So and I think you and Iwould be grateful for thirty dollars so just
to be like I spent on myfood and imbedded than that, Like don't
we all this, But nobody's likethat's not cool. That's not cool to
act like that. And I thinksocial media is sucking us up, which
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is why social media is also glorifyingthe BBL. Glorify So I heard his
things. What do you mean girl, The BBL has a smell, the
BBL smell, the BBL smell peopleare saying. Well, first it started
with men saying their particular encounters withwomen with bbls and had an explanation in
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order for you to have a BBOyet to seek for the rest of your
life. Yeah, that's a sadreality of a BBL. I live in
Miami. Miami the BBL capital ofthe world. We got some of the
best and worst bbls in the world. And in the club sometimes it do
leave the little trail, you know, like we could be in the section
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and it could be like two orthree BBO baddies and you're wondering, like,
like who the hell got cheesy forus? You know, like who
got their socks out? You knowsomething, something don't smell right. It
ain't the champagne, it ain't theHennessy. It beating bbl's And when they
bundled up together, it's like atrash pound, you know, not all
of them. But you gotta understand. It's like physics. If you was
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a chick that was like all right, one fifty right, one hundred and
fifty pounds, and then you gota BBL. So the BBL made you
probably like one seventy one eighty.You're not used to that goal around you
feel me that that that that thathands to back motion. You're not used
to that extra twenty pounds back there. So when you cleaning, you need
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to miss a few little specs youfeel mean you know, I know a
chick. She'd be doing waxing andshe'd be saying, the BBL badties be
coming there with specs and you know, the throng was supposed to be blue,
but it's brown in a certain sectionbecause they can't get that goal around.
Do you understand me? So,M yeah, that BBL do gotta
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smell. You know, yeah,I can't relate, so I okay,
I mean that that was the hoodexplanation, and I believe it. I
also was watching the Tiktac TikTok wherea guy said that he went home the
BBL baddie and then she, youknow, she looked bad. And when
they got home and it was timeto perform, she took her clothes off.
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She started shaking her ass, tryingto be like really sexy and bent
over. And he just said,the smell in gulf the room and he
was just like, I can't doit. Maybe you got to take a
shower. He said that she tooka shower, he hit that everything was
fine. He said her problem washygiene. It seems like this guy thinks
that it is hygiene. But somebodyexplained that apparently something happens when you get
lepo on bbls that causes some kindof smell. I ain't in a doctor
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and someone was dominicaning I'm gonna explainthe BBL smell. So everybody has just
started talking about this, But honestly, the smell doesn't come from the butt
or from the badge. The smellcomes from the fat excretions that are coming
out. So when women have liposuctionsand bbls about three three weeks later,
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all the way up to three weekslater, they have excretions actually grease that
comes out of their body and ithas a putrid smell. That's one of
the main reasons why I just staythe way that I am and just try
to work out and do the best, because you gotta be really brave to
get a BBL or any type ofliposuction surgery. So the BBL smell is
not because of women's pH ballast,it's not because they don't shower. It's
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simply because it's fat excretions that arestill coming out weeks after the surgery is
finally done. So if you dosmell an awkward smell around somebody that had
a BBL, is because of thefat excretions and liquid coming out their body.
I mean, I'm still going toget to be be out. That
was my question to you. Youstill want to be be out after knowing
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that you're gonna smell. It's likeI don't even have enough for a BB.
I'll just get asked shots because I'mlike tiny in the stomach. But
girl, listen, as many peopleI've been seeing die from these mommy makeovers
and these procedures, anybody even reallystill want to get these? I mean,
is it that serious? With Godbless you know? But a lot
of people live with them too.You know, you see a lot of
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people walking around. There's a lotof I know, the bomb, but
like you never know if you couldbe that one person that like guys,
I mean, yeah, you coulddie with anything though, like you know,
anything could kill you. But isit worth smelling? You know?
I mean I think some people thinkit is. I mean, they would
rather look bomb because you can alwaysdo something about this smell, you know
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what I mean? Like some peoplelike freaking ROLLI from Baddies right, Like
she should have got a gas orsleeve before she got a BBL. She
got to know, but it's trueshe got a BBL and everyone was saying,
was like, is your b andmy like low enough to get one?
And they said no, but shewent to a doctor that was willing
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to do the procedure anyway. Andit just shows you how badly people want
to look like coke bottle. Ifthey will literally risk their health it will
they will risk smelling how like silicone, just to have that look that social
media says is perfect. Yeah,and I honestly think they are getting just
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more and more ridiculous looking. Forme personally, it's just not my style.
And now that I know that,you think, it's just leaving another
taste in my mouth, and I'mjust like, yeah, why are you
doing that to yourself? So,but to reach his own I just wanted
to get the word out there thatyou know, if you're going to be
you might stink. Yeah, youmight smell a little something someday al ward
of the week. Okay, SoI'm gonna give mine to Pastor Mike Todd.
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I don't know if you know,but he has been trending a lot
recently. I think a lot ofpeople are just upset, and he has
been losing a lot of members fromhis church because of his latest antics.
I think he's trying to appeal tothe younger generation, and his sermons have
come become more about like the theatricsrather than just straightforward teaching. So sometimes
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he'll be like jumping on a trampoline. One sermon he was like getting a
haircut, trying to talk about likethe word of God. Most recently,
he was pouring syrup on the Bibleas a way to explain that people like,
you know, crap on the Bibleor I don't know. And then
you know how he did the wholespitting thing a few years ago, right,
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so people are just outraged with that. And actually last week and in
one of his sermons, he addressedhow this has been making him feel.
Another staff member just left and allthey said was it's because God called them
somewhere else. After after six years, you can't even tell me the real
reason, but you do subliminal Instagramposts. Uh. He just went on
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and on about how people are leavingthe church and how he admits his stuff
was disgusting. I remember, andanother clip he said something along the lines
of you know, I know I'vedone some disgusting things of the spitting and
the spitting in the hand and rubbitingon on my brother's face was disgusting,
But I can think of a lotof other things that you guys did to
do with spit, and so everyonewas kind of just like WHOA. So
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I want to know, like,how do you feel about Pastor Mike Todd
and how he's Have you ever followedhim? No? Ioud. I heard
about him with the whole spit thing. That was the first time I heard
about him, and I was like, why would you as a pastor.
I'm not here for the theatrics.I'm not here for the jumping on the
trampolines s poot like I don't.I don't like the clickbait of it all.
I feel like that's the windling theword. But I also don't really
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relate so much to the old schoolchurch, like the whole I don't relate
to that. I don't really carefor that, like the whole theatrics of
it all. That's why I likemy pastor because he just breaks it down
in layman's terms and just kind ofmakes jokes throughout. So there's a way
to kind of attract the newer,the younger generation without doing that. I
feel like that's taking it a littlebit too far, and I just can't
really take you seriously as I can'ttake your words seriously doing all that.
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Yeah, I used to love PastorMike Todd, especially during Quarantine. I
think that's when everybody was like reallyheavy on him. He got me through
like COVID. And he also hada book called Relationship Goals and that just
sold out. I mean that wasjust like the epitome of what you want
in a relationship and he was basicallyteaching people how to be in a relationship
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and it was just such a goodbook. But I think I don't know
where the turning point was, butall of a sudden it did become about
the clickbaby things, and I thinkhe was just trying to come out with
new and creative ways to reach ayounger generation because our attention span is pretty
short, you know what I mean. And so the long drawn out sermons
from the pastor and the long robeis I'm gonna my mind's gonna be somewhere
else. My mind is at theclub or our brunch, right, Yeah,
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Yeah, it's just funny. I'mjust good. I'm just gonna so
I understand trying to do things anddo the most to try to keep kids
attention. But I think now it'sbecome a distraction. Why are you pouring
syrup on the Bible? Why areyou spitting in people's face? And it's
to the point where it's become sucha turn off that it has turned the
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focus off of the Word of God. And now it's more like us going
to do next? Yeah, andso now he's lost members. And I
can tell that. I mean,I'm watching this video and you can tell
it hurts him. You're very,very upset about it. And but to
throw shade on the pool pit likethat was a little bit much. But
to know that you were like aman of a man of him, you
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like really follow him and you've ftwith him, and then you can't even
tell me what the words were about. You could just tell me the theatrics.
That's just also saying a lot abouthim and what he's pull And the
word was I think it was howpeople dispect like you don't even know.
It's just it's just really, yeah, he's, he's, he's. You
can't act like that and then besurprised when people turn their backwards exactly.
But I just thought it was pettybecause It's like, did you really have
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to call people? I will sayanother thing. People don't need a reason
to tell don't have to have areason to tell you why they're leaving the
church. No, they said thatGod. If God said God called me
away from this church, that shouldbe good enough explanation. So for him
to go up one here and say, they couldn't even give me the real
reason, but we'll go on socialmedia and post a shady posts. Da
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da dah like that that was subliminalto somebody in particularly. Oh yeah,
absolutely, I'm gonna give my PettyAward to Miami Beach because it is spring
break and Miami said don't come here, and they said it in a very
clevel commercial. We need to talk. This isn't working anymore, and it's
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not us, it's you. Wejust want different things, all right.
You have a good time. It'srelaxing on the beach, hitting up the
spot, or checking out a newrestaurant. You just want to get drunk
in public and ignore laws. Doyou even remember what happened last March?
(35:50):
That was our breaking point. Sowe're breaking up with you, and don't
try to apologize and come crawling back. This is in safe so we're done,
and just so you know we're serious. This March, you can expect
things like curfews, bag checks andrestricted beach access, DUI checkpoints, one
hundred dollars parking, and strong policeenforcement for drug possession and violence, whatever
(36:15):
it takes, because it's times youwant. Maybe we can talk when you're
done with your spring break phase,but until then, I love it.
I think that that is so clever. So spring break got broken up with
by Miami Beach and I love thatcommercial. I thought it was super creative.
They were playing the clips from lastyear in March when everybody was being
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arrested and violating the curfew and jammingup the beaches. Did you ever go
to Miami for a spring break?No? My first time going to Miami
was in October of this last year. Did you No? I never went.
I was never really allowed to goon spring break. So you never
did a spring break never? Becausethis is these are high schoolers, right,
and sometimes college too. College,but I always went home for spring
break, but I never was allowedto go. But anyway, it was
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always Correy. Have you ever beento like a wild party though that got
shut down or like that? Peoplewere arresting. You were like, I
don't belong here. You've always ohyeah, in college. In college,
definitely, Man, those places alwaysgot rated out so bad. I remember
one time the freaking floor caved inand I was like, I'm not gonna
(37:19):
be here on the cop I ranout. I jumped out the back windows
into the woods because the cops werecoming in. Yeah, but like because
we were jumping up and down somuch, and like you know, literally
the apartment floor just sank into thebottom. You're like, I'm not getting
arrested, and I was out.Everybody's just started like sprinting. I was
booking it through. Yeah, I'vebeen to so many parties that got busted
(37:39):
by the cops. I don't thinkI've ever been to a party that got
shut down by the cops that Ican't remember. I have lived a lot
of life, but I can't remembera party ever being shut down by the
Not in college. My college experiencewas different because I was a commuter,
so I worked through jobs and likeonly went to class then went home.
So like my college years, maybeI party with some co workers and some
(38:00):
shit, but like it wasn't likeI was ever. I never really got
that that whole college experience got.Unfortunately, mine was extra thrilling because it
was a Christian university and we wereextra not supposed to be drinking and partying.
So if we got caught, itgoes back to the school and you
get fine if you get enough ofthem, if you get enough rets.
Yeah, so that was like anotherlayer of thrill. But like we did
(38:23):
it anyway, and so trying notto get caught and having like these secret
parties and setting out the address secretlyso that nobody that'll get into the right
people's hands and not the wrong people'shands. That was like the best part
about throwing these parties. But yeah, they would get rated out all the
time. I love that the twenties. It's something that you could just you
know, never get back. Itseems like a book or a movie.
(38:45):
Yeah, because something you can't relatetoday when you see when I see a
bunch of twenty some things like collegeage, I like, why am I
here? Let's go with the otherparties now just around well, I mean,
your birthday is this week, You'regetting old. I can't believe it.
It's my Jesus year and I alreadyhave so much clarity like I can't
even begin to tell you them theactions I've done, and like the clarity
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that I received, like I've askedGod just remove who isn't for me and
remove everything that does not belong,and people have been dropping like damn,
like who's honest and true? I'velost. I think I've lost a really
close friend, which is fine,I think, yeah, And I also
lost a guy. I've been like, I'm good, like I mean,
well, I'm good, like I'mjust good and I just feel nothing.
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I just feel and you have aboutit. That's how you know it's the
right decision. And I know itcame from God, like there's no question
mark because it's just this is whatneeded to be done. And thank you
for dying on the cross so Ican realize that. Amen. The week,
I want to give it to MiamiBeach. I think I'm gonna give
it to Miami Beach too, becausePastor Mike is just doing too much.
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The petty mail Alright, Dan Yellfrom Philly Rights, Dear Kayla and Kayla,
My and I have a great relationshipwith amazing conversations, trust and communication.
He got hit on at the gymand the girl's excuse was that she
knows everyone at the gym and shewanted to get a group together to work
(40:12):
out outside of the gym to makethings less awkward at the gym. He
said sure, just to end theconversation. He told me immediately what happened,
and I don't doubt him at all. She ended up texting him when
we were hanging out tonight. Wait, she ended up texting him when we
were hanging out to go out fordrinks, and he showed me immediately and
immediately said to her sorry that hegave her the wrong impression, but he
(40:36):
has a girlfriend. Again. I'mwriting this because I don't know why I
feel a certain way, like Ifeel sad. Even though I appreciate him
telling me immediately, I still feelsad. It's it normal to feel this
way. Maybe she feels sad becausethe girl did the girl didn't know that
she had a he had a girlfriend, right, Yeah, that's what it
(40:58):
seems like. And then I don'tknow why you feel sad. I mean,
and he did everything right I am. I think maybe nobody likes me
and tried like I wouldn't like anybodytrying to hit on my man, Like
I just don't like that. Andthen also we got to go to the
gym, And now I know thatyou tried my man. If I go
to the gym with him, andI'm uncomfortable. But I definitely think maybe
your feelings are valid and natural.But I don't think you should like make
(41:21):
it his problem, because then hemight regret telling you and then not tell
you anything in the future because hehandled that how anybody would want their man
to handle that right, And there'sa come one. It's kind of human
nature. People are gonna find peopleattractive, and if they're bold enough,
they're going to say something and theninvite them to drinks. He she didn't
know that he had a girlfriend,and I think that's fine. He did
the right thing. He politely declined, and then that just shows you that
(41:43):
you have nothing to worry about,you know. On a side note,
I saw a video of I don'tknow if I sent it to you,
but a man was helping an olderwoman I may say, maybe in her
fifties load her water carts into hercar at Walmart and her his his girlfriend
was off to the side recording why. She asked my man, why did
(42:05):
she get all the water crates?Knowing that she can't carry them by herself,
and she had to ask my man, Mmm, i'm watching, I'm
watching just super like just off.I thought she was. I saw the
video. I don't know if yousent it to me, but I thought
she was being funny. I didn'twatch it till end because I thought she
was well. I didn't know ifshe was trying to be funny or not.
But I do know that there arewomen who are like that. It's
like, don't talk to my man, don't ask my man for any type
(42:25):
of help. No, he's notgonna help you, you know, tow
your car. No, he's notgonna fix your tire. Like, even
if it's strictly blatonic or nothing's goingon, it's this. Women are that
protective over their man. And Idon't think that's I don't think that's necessary.
No. I think that women thatact like that and have been through
that, I mean, yeah,field the need to act that way,
have been through something where it's likeI don't trust you or I don't need
(42:47):
you out of my sight because Ifeel like you're gonna do whatever somebody else
did to me. But you needto heal girl, because I think that's
that's a form of abuse, becauseif a man was to do that to
a woman, we'd be like,oh, she's being controlled and she needs
to free her you know, soright to be free. That's not cool,
that's true. But in this case, I mean, girl, just
I mean, he did the rightthing. So try not to let it
bother you. Go find a newgym, and I go to the gym
(43:08):
with him, and make sure youbecome friends with short. Right, But
you got coming up this week?What do I have coming up your birthday?
I think that's basically it. Uhyeah, Oh I'm going to like
this allo yoga and meditation thing withmy friend on Saturday morning before work in
(43:29):
Venice, which should be a lotof fun. Yeah, that's basically it.
You know what, now that mytrainer is out on maternity leave,
I have done my last workout foruntil she comes back, and I don't
really know how to work out outsideof her. So my birthday's coming up
this week, and I know wehave some things planned. I don't know
what's a secure or not that.I'm sure it'll be fun whatever we do.
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I'm not too pressed, but Ido think the following week I do
want to set something up with mygirlies. And I want Aliya to to
trap yoga class, birthday yoga becauseI gotta get back into fitness and I
don't know what I'm gonna do thatshe's going, now, girl, why
don't you get class pass? DidI tell you about this? Is that
like for yoga or something? No, it's everything. See it's literally are
(44:15):
you gonna choose any class that youwant? Boxing, a hate class,
yoga, pilates, anything, allright, send it my life. I
just never really worked out before herNita, and I don't know how to
work out without her, Like Ijust it's never really been. And how
long is she on maternally? Likefive months? She only plans on being
out for like a month. Butyou know, you never really know once
(44:36):
he comes out, you don't knowhow it's or does she said, let's
sleep down once the baby comes out. I don't know how it's gonna be.
You know, you can plan asmuch as you want, but yeah,
I just need to figure out,I say, because honestly, if
I don't work out, I genuinelyhave a flat ass, Like it's like
the flattest thing. So I reallyhate that about myself and I got it.
I gotta keep this thing, justget it. You can go to
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any class in La and it islike the most. I love it.
I meet so many people with everynew class that I go to, I
have, I have my partner incrime, Ruby, we go everywhere,
we go every Pilate studio. We'vebeen to like six different ones, meeting
all these different people and it's justsuch a good workout. You can find
the studio that you love the most, and it doesn't have to be Pilate's.
Like I said, I you likehit workouts, so I do find
a hit workout. Yeah. Mysister also invited me to bent yoga or
(45:21):
sculpt yoga because she says that's morelike not as much yoga as it is
workout, and I like more workoutthan yoga. I can't really pace myself,
but figuring out a new finish routineis definitely on my list This week
and turn in the oldest fuck Yes. Happy birthday, Kayla. Make sure
you spam her with happy birthdays inthe comments. Thank you. Thank you
guys so much for listening. Ifyou need any advice, ask at the
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Pettyshpodcast dot com. Follow me atKayla Thomas forty follow me at the Kayla
Austin and follow at the Badyash podcast. We will talk to you next time. Bye,
The Petty Is Podcast. Welcome backto another episode of petty Ish. My
name is Kayla and I'm Kayla.What's good with you? Hey girl?
How is you? I like yourspace buns? Yeah, you know,
(00:21):
it's funny because today I had mylashes, I had my wig, I
had my meeting in Beverly Hills.I saw you. Where were you?
I'm I'm a member of MS.I'm a member of the committee. So
every year we have a meeting atNancy Davis's house in Beverly Hills and just
try to get together some auction itemsto give away this year. Does someone
(00:44):
in your family have MS? No? Actually I don't know how I became
a member of the but here Iam good for you for being an advocate.
But that's okay. Yeah, yeah, so it was really really cool.
I do love being you know,anybody with its Williams. There was
also Mercedes on no is he who'sMantel Williams. He was a talk show
(01:07):
host back in the day. Ohno, not that I know of.
It's okay, but I do,like, you know, want a cure
and everything. So I do.God, bless you, God bless uh
So, yeah, I went theretoday. It was really really cool,
just you know, going into thegated community, seeing how the others live
(01:30):
and just oh, you know ifthis watch that was mentioned in Forbes,
that's a part of my company.And jewelers taking off their rings like here
you can action this. They're like, oh my god, this is being
a the Oh you know what,let's let's get Christina Aguila to perform Go
Knock on her tour. She's rightnext, Like just I'm like, okay,
casual, this is my morning.Yeah, this is my morning.
So that was pretty cool. ButI was saying that I had the wig
(01:52):
on, the lashes completely put together, and then I got home, snatched
the wig off, snatched the lashesoff, but my buns and j that's
the best part about a glueless ishe can snatch it on and put it
back on. Literally my new bestfriend, best investment, isn't it.
Yeah? And I spoke out ofuniversity this week. Oh really that was
really cool too. I think thisis my last year' speak and I feel
like it's a lot of the samestudents for for for the most part,
(02:14):
but you know, I like thefact they keep coming back. I just
feel like I can't really say anythingnew that I haven't already said. But
I do love the messages that Ireceived. They say, you know that
I'm one of the realest people thatthey've spoken to, and always get new
connections and new people asking me forwhatever I can do, and I definitely
help them out the best I can. So look at you and speak on
(02:34):
committees and whatnot. Right am Iin my thirties or what? Like?
What's happening? What about you?How was your week? It was a
chill week. I feel like thisweekend I didn't do anything, which was
nice. All I did was work. Yeah, that's that's about it.
But I had a really good conversationwith my mentor, and I swear every
(02:55):
time I talked to him, likeI get motivated to do more. And
he was talking to me about howthe entertainment not just the entertainment industry as
a whole, but like across thecountry there are massive layoffs going on right
now amongst like every single type ofindustry and no one is safe. And
(03:21):
I mean, you see what happenedacross the street at our arrival station,
like they wiped out all their middaypersonalities. And I was just talking to
him about that and like what hethinks about it? And he was like,
well, this is why you needtwo sources of income. Never get
comfortable. Even though you're comfortable.He was like, you're in a really
good position with your job right now, but it doesn't matter, like anything
could happen, expect the unexpected.And he was like, you need to
(03:44):
be doing television yesterday. And Iwas like, well, you know,
I don't really like being on acamera that much like I like being behind
the scenes. Radio is cool.You just hear my voice. I can
come into work in sweatpans and whatnot. And he was like, whatever you're
going through, get over it.I was like, I was like,
okay, that's true, and it'strue. It's like I think a lot
(04:04):
of it is roaded off of insecurities, even though I'm on camera all the
time now, but I just Iprefer, you know, I just prefer
radio. Right. He was like, you're so good on camera. You
need to be doing television. Andhe was like, we're gonna get you
an agent. And I was like, okay, let's get me an agent.
Like okay, whatever I need todo. Because he was like,
(04:24):
because in this time next year,you need to be start looking for a
house, and I was like okay, and he's just throwing all this stuff
at me, and I was like, a right house, Like okay.
He was like, there's no wayin the hell that you should be playing
twenty five hundred dollars for like yourapartment when I'm right now paying three thousand,
three thousand for my mortgage to twobedroom with a garage and a gated
community. It's here in La,it's like around I would say, like
(04:46):
twenty minutes away. Yeah, eachI just want a house, a two
bedteran house. And he's and he'sfifteen minutes away, like it's so possible.
And I was like okay. Andwe were just going through like the
numbers and everything that I need todo, how much I need to like
save for our house, what Ineed to renegotiate my contract. But he
was like, Kayla, adding anotherlayer of income will help you. So
you know, he was like,I need your dumber reel by the end
(05:09):
of the week. And I waslike, well, I don't know if
I can get you by the nexweek, maybe two weeks. I need
it by the end of the week. And I'm like okay. Because he
called an agent while I was onthe phone with him, like ready to
help me, and I was like, Okay, this is serious. And
that's why I love about him.He's always willing to help me. He
always pushes me. He's so bluntand brually honest and straightforward, but it
pushes me to be better. Yeah. So that's like my big takeaway from
(05:31):
the week, and so that's whatI'm going to be doing in the next
few weeks is like, how canI what more can I do? Right?
And so, yeah, I lovethe mindset. I think that's how
you attract the more. And Ilove the people that hold us accountable and
actually help us that just being likeI don't know, figure it out,
or yeah you know it's not myproblem, or even just you know,
I don't know, ignoring you.But I like the fact that he helps
(05:54):
you'll hold you accountable and right.It makes it so possible and real.
Yeah, it's it's very rare.In this story, I have met so
many people who do not want tohelp the next person, and I see
it in a lot of in women. Also. That's why I always aspired
to be the person that could helpWhoever. When I was back in my
old station, I had so manyinterns that text me to this day,
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like, thank you so much forinspiring me, for creating my demoree,
for teaching me. Because I'm herenow, I have like my interns are
freaking out like TV stations across thecountry. Yeah, and I love to
see it because that's what because somebodyhelped me. My best friend Freddie,
he helped me. He mentored me, He gave me a chance when he
did not have to have let mesit in the sit in the studio with
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him for all those hours, youknow, so I always try to pay
her for it. Yeah, asuperhero did you have? I wouldn't say
petty, but like my neighbors movedout and I was like what, No,
I'm just like I don't know howthat's I don't know. I was
just nervous, how that's gonna leavesomething petty. I'm like, no,
I'm petty because I never like,I didn't say goodbye or anything. Friends.
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We weren't friends. I think,honestly, what I think it is
for me is I don't know.I just I'm tired of hearing them argue
all the time. Yeah, andI remember one time, like I called,
I texted one of the girls tocheck in on her to see if
she was okay, because she waswas have like wwe on the other side
of the freaking wall, and itsounded really crazy. So I texted her.
I was like, hey, girl, like, you can tell me
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to mind my business, but uh, are you okay? Like let me
know if you're okay, Like that'sit. She never responded yeah, basically,
But I feel like, come onnow, like if I heard something,
if somebody heard me getting tossed aroundlike that and it sounded really really
bad, I would want somebody tocheck it on me, or I would
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at least like it, or Iwould at least say something. But not
to say anything was kind of crazy. I don't know if I'm embarrassed.
And I was just getting tossed around, and now I know my neighbor heard
it, I might be like,I mean they weren't. It wasn't like
that she was trying to hide it. I mean it was like screaming,
like a whole freaking complex can hear. Yeah, sometimes when you're in those
fights, you don't really remember whoelse is around. You just got tunnel
vision and things like damn now,not my neighborhood. I got these text
messages. Now you're dumb a butI wasn't even judging though. I literally
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was like, hey, girl,like I know, I know, yeah,
but I don't know. It's notlike we were cool friends. We
were like it was a high bysituation and now I don't know to get
a bye, they yeah, allright, goodbye. Well bring on the
next neighbor. I love it.I didn't have anything. I didn't do
anything Patty. I should had somethingPatty done to me, I think kind
of. So I've been really busy. But one of the girls I used
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to work with at a job outhere a long time ago posted that you
know, she's having enough time.She just doesn't feel pretty and she just
you know, not believing in herself. And you know I have a soft
spot for things like that. SoI'm just like, heye, girl,
sorry, I haven't made time foryou. Because we were actually cool when
we broke together. I wouldn't saythat we were like friend friends. You
know, that was my work friend. I would talk to her at work,
didn't really hang out with her outsideof work too much. But anyway,
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I'm like, hey girl, sorry, I haven't made time for you,
like, let's do lunch or something, and she's like, oh,
OKAYL missed, so my you know, let's do it. So I made
plans for I had a meeting inthe morning and then I had to do
something at night. So I hada very small window of time, and
I tried to schedule her within thatwindow, and within that window I actually
fell asleep, so I had twomiscalls from her and text messages from her
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when I woke up. So Itexted her back like I'm sorry, I
fell asleep, like where are you? Because I still had like a little
bit of time to meet up andshe was just like I'm already headed home.
Hopefully we run into each other inthe future. I'm like, no,
let's let's reschedule available this day,and she like literally never responded.
I wouldn't have be there, likeshe was at the place. I don't
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know where she was. Yeah,girl, I would not respond to you
either. You set this up Andhow did you didn't even try to set
an alarm? Yeah, how doyou file? I said an alarm?
And you just you didn't really wantto go. No, I did want
to go, but like I'm busy, I'm tired, like my body just
literally shut down and I literally turnedmy alarm off. And we were supposed
to meet at what like four fifteen. I called you back at four forty,
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So I get it, Like mybad, I guess also because you
guys aren't friends, Like it's likea situation where it's like you talk maybe
through social media. Yeah, soshe doesn't care enough to try again because
this wasn't even a friendship to beginwith, Like you reached out to her.
It's okay. I was trying tobe a good person. I was
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trying to do the right thing.But I think I had My problem is
I overextend myself and I over promisedmy I really didn't have the energy for
that, unfortunately, you know.And it's one of those people that's like,
you know, she applied for Batties. She's like, it's kind of
a little bit drama, a littlebit of drama. So you just vision
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like Natalie Nunn type of girl.Natalie None fell asleep while she was auditioning
and it was literally on the show, and like, you know, she
also posted on her story that shewas in McDonald's at the drive through,
and I guess somebody behind her keptyelling like next window or move along or
something like that. So she literallyheld up the whole drive through while she
was just recording him. So notthat she's wrong in that, it's just
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like a lot of drama from thatindividual. So I didn't think happens for
a reason. All right, pettythings, our listener, did you wanna
go first? Yeah? I wentthrough my boyfriend's phone and his ex girlfriend
kept sending him nudes, so Iposted nudes all over his social media and
then changed all his past You're goingto jail. Revenge porn. You're going
to fucking jail. Well, stopsitting my man nudes? Bitch, how
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you like your boobs on the ground? Didn't CARDI say that girl, you
were going to jail. It's neverrevenge porn is never worth it. Bailed
me out. Don't send in myman. News ain't worth it? Okay?
Have you ever done something crazy?Oh? God, I wouldn't do
that. No, no, no, I did see nudes of other girls
in my and my exes phones,but I wouldn't post them. No.
I just like yelled at them andthen maybe message the girl. But see,
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back in the day, like Iwas always too scared to send news
because I was friends with guys whowould show me a look and I would
actually see them in groups showing eachother the videos that they would take while
they're having sex with the girl andlike laughing and like look at her,
like look at this. Like Iwould see it and I would never want
to be that girl that's being shownaround, so I would I would never
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Yeah, I would never post,you do I send them? Is that
was that your question? No?Yes? Send? I would never let
anybody. Would you let anybody recordyou? Back in college? Like I'm
talking specifically during the college days whereI was like no, no, no,
no, I'm talking like send likenothing because they show each other,
well, I was in a relationship. I don't know what he did.
But I was always taught to keepmy face out of it. So if
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I send the picture, I justkeep my face out of it so it
doesn't look like me. It couldbe could not be and sex. Now,
I've never been I've never been oneto be like get the camera,
let's do this. Like, no, you never was recorded, you never
recorded yourself ever. I was recorded, but it wasn't like oh you never
like meditate. I was recorded,but I didn't know about it. So
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I wasn't like, let's do atape. So I had a tape done,
but I wasn't. That's not that'sthat's illegal. But yeah, I
mean, you know, some peoplelike to say you record themselves for like
each other, you like to recordyourself. I've done it before. I've
done it before. But I thinkas I grow in my career and the
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bigger I get, that's not happeninganymore because I'm not going to end up
on like the Shade Room and Iknow I'm not like Charlemagne level and stuff
like that. Yeah, but oneday and then you can still be on
and it's okay, you know,no, thank you. So I'm I'm
good off that. The good thingis though today you could be like girl,
that's ai. That is not easy, as I would never that is
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so true. Okay. Someone saidI went to get my hair done and
absolutely hated it, but was tooscared to say something while I was there.
I paid and I left, butwhen I went home, I wrote
a bad review on her YELP page. Oh okay, I mean, how
do you feel about that kind ofsituation when you're getting a service of some
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type, getting your hair done,getting your nails done whatever? And are
you the type of person if youdon't like what you got the service that
you received, are you going tosay something right then and there, or
do you just like suck it up, pay later and then complain online later.
I suck it up, pay andthen complain later, because I'm really
not good with respectable confrontation. Iknow how to rock rah or I know
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how to not say anything, soI'd rather just not say anything because everybody's
about to be uncomfortable if I saysomething. See. I used to do
that in the past, but Ihave gotten so many messed up hairstyles over
the years that I learned I gotto speak up for myself and say something
or I'm unhappy, I'm sorry butthis isn't what I asked for. I'm
sorry, can you fix this?Or I remember one time when I was
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getting my makeup done and she didit hungover in the dark morning, breath
all in my face. I rememberthat, Oh my god, that was
a terrible and that was before ourphoto shoot for Oh my Gosh. And
I literally was like, this isterrible. And I thought about you know,
because she was so sweet, butyou didn't say anything in that moment,
I did, I think you messageher later. I messaged her later
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and I was like, now thatI'm in the light, I can see
that I don't really like it andI don't feel comfortable, like can I
have half of my money back?And she was like, well, you
should have told me while you haven'tseen it, I could have fixed it.
And so from that point on,now I speak up because I'm not
going through that again. Well,yeah, I haven't had that yet.
Even with the locks by B girl. I gave her looks, but I
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never like said, I don't appreciateyou. You gotta speak up. Are
you going to have that four hundreddollars hairstyles? But you can be stuck
with it for two months? Absolutelynot. I'm not gonna if I'm paying
for it, and especially with theprices that people are having right nowadays,
I'm not. I'm gonna get mymoney's worth and I'm gonna leave happy.
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Okay, you better looking at thatone day. So I like the fact
that you're comfortable to speak up andyou feel like you're safe enough to speak
up. But I guess this newtrend or not even a new trend,
just another another comment and I knowyou've been watching Love Is Blind and I
love it. We and my sisterhave been having a disagreement about this,
but this is manute. This manis on Instagram saying this is why it
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doesn't work with most women. Ithink the number one issue man I have
a women is we don't feel likeit's a safe space created for us to
express ourselves. And I'm gonna tellyou what I mean by that. Like
with women when they go through thingsor when a man does something that she
doesn't like in a relationship, shehas free reign to express to him that
she doesn't like it whenever and howevershe wants right and if it's too crazy
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or whatever, we're just talking toOh, she's a woman, she's emotional,
you know. But as a man, we have to kind of tiptoe
around a woman's insecurities when we're tellingthem all these things, Okay, watch
your tone, don't talk too loud, don't be too abrasive. So a
lot of men just get to thepoint like, know what, I'm not
even gonna do it. I don'teven feel like arguing. So I think
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that is what we wish could changeand what could improve more when it comes
to one, but a lot ofwomen are not open to it. So
what do you think about that?That's why you roll your eyes. I
agree in some sense that men haveto tiptoe around our feelings. I one
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agree, but I want to makeit comfortable for my man to speak freely
about whatever, and I want to. I wanted to be a safe space
for him, and so I tryit at least to let my guard down,
be vulnerable enough to and hear himout, even if it might hurt
my feelings. Yeah, no,for sure, I definitely agree with you
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as well. I try to bea safe speed for my space, my
little booze and let them have theiremotions and let them cry and let them
be expressive. And that's totally fine. But me and I asked us to
have a disagreement because you've been watchingLove is Blind and ad so every time
you know he's talking her, he'slike, I'm so scared that I want
to cheat on you, because youknow, that's what I've seen my father
do, That's what I've seen myfriends do, and my father even took
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me to other women's houses. Andthat's just something I'm in scared about.
Like I'm really scared I want tocheat on you. They're eating lunch.
This lunch is good. I'm scared, I'm mooning chewed on you like all
the time. So do you thinkthat AD should be a safe space for
him to express that comfortably or isthat like a red flag in Aid needs
toick. No, he is awalking red flag, and it's not AD's
responsibility to coddle him and make himfeel better about potentially cheating on her.
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So that is the most ridiculous thingI have ever heard. And I saw
that debate on social media. Like, either Clay is being he's just being
honest, he's just speaking his truth. He's just telling her about his insecurities.
And on the other hand, it'slike, you're a grown ass man.
I'm sorry, you're grown. You'reabout twenty something years old and you
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are basing your feelings off of whichyour father did and what you were around.
Nah, is that the biggest redflag in him to you? Yeah,
that was a big red flag forme for him With Clay, just
why are you always constantly talking aboutI might cheat, I'm scared I might
cheat, Like she's literally he's literallytelling her and preparing her like I'm gonna
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cheat on you one day, I'mnot ready for marriage. I agree one
thousand percent. And I think thatyou know, yeah, men should have
a safe face. But I thinkthat that is something he should talk about
with his therapist if that's something that'sbecause it's not like diabetes or like even
it's not like something that's handed downgenetically, like if you don't want to
cheat, don't fucking cheat period.But I think that if a d is
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trained to accept that and be like, I need to be here for him
through this and love him through this, I think that that's doing a greater
disservice to womanhood as a whole,because I feel women have been trained to
say, this is what you gottadeal with from a man, and the
longer you deal with it and youhold him down through that, the more
you'll be rewarded later. And that'sa falsehood that needs to be deaded like
yesterday. Yeah, And I thinkhim confiding in her with that is reinforcing
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that woman need to accept that.Yeah. I was having this conversation with
one of my friends and it's like, it just makes me so sad because
it just shows you how you wereraised in the environments that you grow up
when matter when it comes to arelationship in the future. And so I'm
sorry. If you are constantly aroundpeople that cheat, if you constantly see
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abuse, you have the tools tobreak those generational curses. But that's what
it is. It's a generational curse, Okay, Right. So I was
in a relationship with ship with somebodywho his mom was not faithful to her
partner. Neither his dad was notfaithful to his mom. He saw a
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lot of abuse growing up, andthat's just like that was his reality.
So growing up, Like, Ican see how he never trusted when I
remember one time I was sitting inthe living room with this with this particular
boyfriend, and his mom came inwith a guy that we never seen before,
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and I was like, and thenthey just go upstairs to her room
and shut the door. And Ilook at him and I say, that's
not so and so like, that'snot her man, her boyfriend. And
he looks at me and he goes, this is why I don't trust women.
Wow. And so I think,truly, I truly believe because that
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is what he's seen, that's theenvironment that he grew up in. That
is why he and him saying Idon't trust women. That's the reason why
he is the way he is andwhy he cheated on me. Now you
have the power and the tools tobreak those generational curses. You have the
to go to therapy, get yourselfright, get right with the Lord,
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and God can change you. Butyou got to do the work. It
takes extra effort. It's unlearning everythingthat you've learned, everything that's been normal.
Right, this is just what lifeis. This is what it's going
to be. And to just havethat reality like, actually, no,
this isn't life. I don't haveto be this way. It does take
the extra work and the extra effort. And I do commend like for acknowledging
this, Yes, acknowledging that hehas these struggles. I don't think that
this is the platform to do ittoo, or what I do it because
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what the fuck is she supposed todo with that? Absolutely not. But
sometimes I think Adie's a good girl. Sometimes you get a girl like this.
Did you see the girl that waspissed at she asked her man for
lunch? She sent her thirty dollars. Okay, so yeah, story time.
So yeah, please tell me ifI'm wrong. So today, this
dude wrote me on Instagram and hewas like, can I send you money?
Let me send you money for lunch. So I was like okay.
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I wrote her back and I waslike sandeep. So he wrote me and
was like, okay with your cashup. So I send him the cash
up. Yeah. I just knewI was going to open my cash up
and I was gonna have at leastprobably about a hunt about you're getting what
I'm saying, because like did Ieat and this how much I spend on
my food? Yeah? I openedmy cash up and this man sent me
thirty dollars. Yeah, he's thirtydollars. And I'm just like at first,
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I'm like damn, like am Igrateful? Like am I fucked up?
Like feeling like like why the fuckulyou seeing me thirty dollars? But
then I had to ask some peopleand they was like nah, because I'm
like, thirty dollars is not evenhalf a tank in my car, Like
what the fuck you thought I wasgonna go cheap? Like like I mean,
I'm trying to figure out what whatdid you think I was gonna eat?
Justified? Yo, thirty dollars willcover chew Chipotle Bels plus extra walk
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and chips and a drink Girl Relax. That's my favorite meal. Last week
green a nice little harvest bowl,Little Casha breade Li kombucha twenty four dollars,
got six dollars of putting the tankbaby, thirty dollars is more than
enough? Are you kidding me?How bougie? Are you? Like?
Social social media? Social media isfucking us up? Like why is that
an expectation? Why do you feellike so? But then again, maybe
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the video you look like an asshole. Maybe the type of man that she
has dated has sent her one hundreddollars for lunch and that's just what she's
used to. So getting a guythat says, hair, here's thirty,
she's like, what am I goingto do with this? That's very valid
as well, maybe shit, Andmaybe she set her standards from the beginning,
like hey, like this is whatI expect. I guess that.
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I guess. I guess that couldbe your standard and you can afford those
boundaries. That's cool, boats.I think posting on social media and talking
down on that man, it waslike that says a lot about says yeah,
absolutely. I mean she's beautiful I'mlooking at it right now, but
like the entitlement and the ungratefulness,it just dims her attractiveness and then makes
her just like ugly just the wayshe's speaking, like I'd be grateful for
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thirty dollars, and I send youand I do spend money on food at
least when we go out to eating. Maybe not like week to week,
but if we go out to eat, like we're at least spending that.
So and I think you and Iwould be grateful for thirty dollars so just
to be like I spent on myfood and imbedded than that, Like don't
we all this, But nobody's likethat's not cool. That's not cool to
act like that. And I thinksocial media is sucking us up, which
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is why social media is also glorifyingthe BBL. Glorify So I heard his
things. What do you mean girl, The BBL has a smell, the
BBL smell, the BBL smell peopleare saying. Well, first it started
with men saying their particular encounters withwomen with bbls and had an explanation in
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order for you to have a BBOyet to seek for the rest of your
life. Yeah, that's a sadreality of a BBL. I live in
Miami. Miami the BBL capital ofthe world. We got some of the
best and worst bbls in the world. And in the club sometimes it do
leave the little trail, you know, like we could be in the section
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and it could be like two orthree BBO baddies and you're wondering, like,
like who the hell got cheesy forus? You know, like who
got their socks out? You knowsomething, something don't smell right. It
ain't the champagne, it ain't theHennessy. It beating bbl's And when they
bundled up together, it's like atrash pound, you know, not all
of them. But you gotta understand. It's like physics. If you was
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a chick that was like all right, one fifty right, one hundred and
fifty pounds, and then you gota BBL. So the BBL made you
probably like one seventy one eighty.You're not used to that goal around you
feel me that that that that thathands to back motion. You're not used
to that extra twenty pounds back there. So when you cleaning, you need
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to miss a few little specs youfeel mean you know, I know a
chick. She'd be doing waxing andshe'd be saying, the BBL badties be
coming there with specs and you know, the throng was supposed to be blue,
but it's brown in a certain sectionbecause they can't get that goal around.
Do you understand me? So,M yeah, that BBL do gotta
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smell. You know, yeah,I can't relate, so I okay,
I mean that that was the hoodexplanation, and I believe it. I
also was watching the Tiktac TikTok wherea guy said that he went home the
BBL baddie and then she, youknow, she looked bad. And when
they got home and it was timeto perform, she took her clothes off.
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She started shaking her ass, tryingto be like really sexy and bent
over. And he just said,the smell in gulf the room and he
was just like, I can't doit. Maybe you got to take a
shower. He said that she tooka shower, he hit that everything was
fine. He said her problem washygiene. It seems like this guy thinks
that it is hygiene. But somebodyexplained that apparently something happens when you get
lepo on bbls that causes some kindof smell. I ain't in a doctor
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and someone was dominicaning I'm gonna explainthe BBL smell. So everybody has just
started talking about this, But honestly, the smell doesn't come from the butt
or from the badge. The smellcomes from the fat excretions that are coming
out. So when women have liposuctionsand bbls about three three weeks later,
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all the way up to three weekslater, they have excretions actually grease that
comes out of their body and ithas a putrid smell. That's one of
the main reasons why I just staythe way that I am and just try
to work out and do the best, because you gotta be really brave to
get a BBL or any type ofliposuction surgery. So the BBL smell is
not because of women's pH ballast,it's not because they don't shower. It's
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simply because it's fat excretions that arestill coming out weeks after the surgery is
finally done. So if you dosmell an awkward smell around somebody that had
a BBL, is because of thefat excretions and liquid coming out their body.
I mean, I'm still going toget to be be out. That
was my question to you. Youstill want to be be out after knowing
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that you're gonna smell. It's likeI don't even have enough for a BB.
I'll just get asked shots because I'mlike tiny in the stomach. But
girl, listen, as many peopleI've been seeing die from these mommy makeovers
and these procedures, anybody even reallystill want to get these? I mean,
is it that serious? With Godbless you know? But a lot
of people live with them too.You know, you see a lot of
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people walking around. There's a lotof I know, the bomb, but
like you never know if you couldbe that one person that like guys,
I mean, yeah, you coulddie with anything though, like you know,
anything could kill you. But isit worth smelling? You know?
I mean I think some people thinkit is. I mean, they would
rather look bomb because you can alwaysdo something about this smell, you know
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what I mean? Like some peoplelike freaking ROLLI from Baddies right, Like
she should have got a gas orsleeve before she got a BBL. She
got to know, but it's trueshe got a BBL and everyone was saying,
was like, is your b andmy like low enough to get one?
And they said no, but shewent to a doctor that was willing
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to do the procedure anyway. Andit just shows you how badly people want
to look like coke bottle. Ifthey will literally risk their health it will
they will risk smelling how like silicone, just to have that look that social
media says is perfect. Yeah,and I honestly think they are getting just
(30:14):
more and more ridiculous looking. Forme personally, it's just not my style.
And now that I know that,you think, it's just leaving another
taste in my mouth, and I'mjust like, yeah, why are you
doing that to yourself? So,but to reach his own I just wanted
to get the word out there thatyou know, if you're going to be
you might stink. Yeah, youmight smell a little something someday al ward
of the week. Okay, SoI'm gonna give mine to Pastor Mike Todd.
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I don't know if you know,but he has been trending a lot
recently. I think a lot ofpeople are just upset, and he has
been losing a lot of members fromhis church because of his latest antics.
I think he's trying to appeal tothe younger generation, and his sermons have
come become more about like the theatricsrather than just straightforward teaching. So sometimes
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he'll be like jumping on a trampoline. One sermon he was like getting a
haircut, trying to talk about likethe word of God. Most recently,
he was pouring syrup on the Bibleas a way to explain that people like,
you know, crap on the Bibleor I don't know. And then
you know how he did the wholespitting thing a few years ago, right,
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so people are just outraged with that. And actually last week and in
one of his sermons, he addressedhow this has been making him feel.
Another staff member just left and allthey said was it's because God called them
somewhere else. After after six years, you can't even tell me the real
reason, but you do subliminal Instagramposts. Uh. He just went on
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and on about how people are leavingthe church and how he admits his stuff
was disgusting. I remember, andanother clip he said something along the lines
of you know, I know I'vedone some disgusting things of the spitting and
the spitting in the hand and rubbitingon on my brother's face was disgusting,
But I can think of a lotof other things that you guys did to
do with spit, and so everyonewas kind of just like WHOA. So
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I want to know, like,how do you feel about Pastor Mike Todd
and how he's Have you ever followedhim? No? Ioud. I heard
about him with the whole spit thing. That was the first time I heard
about him, and I was like, why would you as a pastor.
I'm not here for the theatrics.I'm not here for the jumping on the
trampolines s poot like I don't.I don't like the clickbait of it all.
I feel like that's the windling theword. But I also don't really
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relate so much to the old schoolchurch, like the whole I don't relate
to that. I don't really carefor that, like the whole theatrics of
it all. That's why I likemy pastor because he just breaks it down
in layman's terms and just kind ofmakes jokes throughout. So there's a way
to kind of attract the newer,the younger generation without doing that. I
feel like that's taking it a littlebit too far, and I just can't
really take you seriously as I can'ttake your words seriously doing all that.
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Yeah, I used to love PastorMike Todd, especially during Quarantine. I
think that's when everybody was like reallyheavy on him. He got me through
like COVID. And he also hada book called Relationship Goals and that just
sold out. I mean that wasjust like the epitome of what you want
in a relationship and he was basicallyteaching people how to be in a relationship
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and it was just such a goodbook. But I think I don't know
where the turning point was, butall of a sudden it did become about
the clickbaby things, and I thinkhe was just trying to come out with
new and creative ways to reach ayounger generation because our attention span is pretty
short, you know what I mean. And so the long drawn out sermons
from the pastor and the long robeis I'm gonna my mind's gonna be somewhere
else. My mind is at theclub or our brunch, right, Yeah,
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Yeah, it's just funny. I'mjust good. I'm just gonna so
I understand trying to do things anddo the most to try to keep kids
attention. But I think now it'sbecome a distraction. Why are you pouring
syrup on the Bible? Why areyou spitting in people's face? And it's
to the point where it's become sucha turn off that it has turned the
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focus off of the Word of God. And now it's more like us going
to do next? Yeah, andso now he's lost members. And I
can tell that. I mean,I'm watching this video and you can tell
it hurts him. You're very,very upset about it. And but to
throw shade on the pool pit likethat was a little bit much. But
to know that you were like aman of a man of him, you
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like really follow him and you've ftwith him, and then you can't even
tell me what the words were about. You could just tell me the theatrics.
That's just also saying a lot abouthim and what he's pull And the
word was I think it was howpeople dispect like you don't even know.
It's just it's just really, yeah, he's, he's, he's. You
can't act like that and then besurprised when people turn their backwards exactly.
But I just thought it was pettybecause It's like, did you really have
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to call people? I will sayanother thing. People don't need a reason
to tell don't have to have areason to tell you why they're leaving the
church. No, they said thatGod. If God said God called me
away from this church, that shouldbe good enough explanation. So for him
to go up one here and say, they couldn't even give me the real
reason, but we'll go on socialmedia and post a shady posts. Da
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da dah like that that was subliminalto somebody in particularly. Oh yeah,
absolutely, I'm gonna give my PettyAward to Miami Beach because it is spring
break and Miami said don't come here, and they said it in a very
clevel commercial. We need to talk. This isn't working anymore, and it's
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not us, it's you. Wejust want different things, all right.
You have a good time. It'srelaxing on the beach, hitting up the
spot, or checking out a newrestaurant. You just want to get drunk
in public and ignore laws. Doyou even remember what happened last March?
(35:50):
That was our breaking point. Sowe're breaking up with you, and don't
try to apologize and come crawling back. This is in safe so we're done,
and just so you know we're serious. This March, you can expect
things like curfews, bag checks andrestricted beach access, DUI checkpoints, one
hundred dollars parking, and strong policeenforcement for drug possession and violence, whatever
(36:15):
it takes, because it's times youwant. Maybe we can talk when you're
done with your spring break phase,but until then, I love it.
I think that that is so clever. So spring break got broken up with
by Miami Beach and I love thatcommercial. I thought it was super creative.
They were playing the clips from lastyear in March when everybody was being
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arrested and violating the curfew and jammingup the beaches. Did you ever go
to Miami for a spring break?No? My first time going to Miami
was in October of this last year. Did you No? I never went.
I was never really allowed to goon spring break. So you never
did a spring break never? Becausethis is these are high schoolers, right,
and sometimes college too. College,but I always went home for spring
break, but I never was allowedto go. But anyway, it was
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always Correy. Have you ever beento like a wild party though that got
shut down or like that? Peoplewere arresting. You were like, I
don't belong here. You've always ohyeah, in college. In college,
definitely, Man, those places alwaysgot rated out so bad. I remember
one time the freaking floor caved inand I was like, I'm not gonna
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be here on the cop I ranout. I jumped out the back windows
into the woods because the cops werecoming in. Yeah, but like because
we were jumping up and down somuch, and like you know, literally
the apartment floor just sank into thebottom. You're like, I'm not getting
arrested, and I was out.Everybody's just started like sprinting. I was
booking it through. Yeah, I'vebeen to so many parties that got busted
(37:39):
by the cops. I don't thinkI've ever been to a party that got
shut down by the cops that Ican't remember. I have lived a lot
of life, but I can't remembera party ever being shut down by the
Not in college. My college experiencewas different because I was a commuter,
so I worked through jobs and likeonly went to class then went home.
So like my college years, maybeI party with some co workers and some
(38:00):
shit, but like it wasn't likeI was ever. I never really got
that that whole college experience got.Unfortunately, mine was extra thrilling because it
was a Christian university and we wereextra not supposed to be drinking and partying.
So if we got caught, itgoes back to the school and you
get fine if you get enough ofthem, if you get enough rets.
Yeah, so that was like anotherlayer of thrill. But like we did
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it anyway, and so trying notto get caught and having like these secret
parties and setting out the address secretlyso that nobody that'll get into the right
people's hands and not the wrong people'shands. That was like the best part
about throwing these parties. But yeah, they would get rated out all the
time. I love that the twenties. It's something that you could just you
know, never get back. Itseems like a book or a movie.
(38:45):
Yeah, because something you can't relatetoday when you see when I see a
bunch of twenty some things like collegeage, I like, why am I
here? Let's go with the otherparties now just around well, I mean,
your birthday is this week, You'regetting old. I can't believe it.
It's my Jesus year and I alreadyhave so much clarity like I can't
even begin to tell you them theactions I've done, and like the clarity
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that I received, like I've askedGod just remove who isn't for me and
remove everything that does not belong,and people have been dropping like damn,
like who's honest and true? I'velost. I think I've lost a really
close friend, which is fine,I think, yeah, And I also
lost a guy. I've been like, I'm good, like I mean,
well, I'm good, like I'mjust good and I just feel nothing.
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I just feel and you have aboutit. That's how you know it's the
right decision. And I know itcame from God, like there's no question
mark because it's just this is whatneeded to be done. And thank you
for dying on the cross so Ican realize that. Amen. The week,
I want to give it to MiamiBeach. I think I'm gonna give
it to Miami Beach too, becausePastor Mike is just doing too much.
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The petty mail Alright, Dan Yellfrom Philly Rights, Dear Kayla and Kayla,
My and I have a great relationshipwith amazing conversations, trust and communication.
He got hit on at the gymand the girl's excuse was that she
knows everyone at the gym and shewanted to get a group together to work
(40:12):
out outside of the gym to makethings less awkward at the gym. He
said sure, just to end theconversation. He told me immediately what happened,
and I don't doubt him at all. She ended up texting him when
we were hanging out tonight. Wait, she ended up texting him when we
were hanging out to go out fordrinks, and he showed me immediately and
immediately said to her sorry that hegave her the wrong impression, but he
(40:36):
has a girlfriend. Again. I'mwriting this because I don't know why I
feel a certain way, like Ifeel sad. Even though I appreciate him
telling me immediately, I still feelsad. It's it normal to feel this
way. Maybe she feels sad becausethe girl did the girl didn't know that
she had a he had a girlfriend, right, Yeah, that's what it
(40:58):
seems like. And then I don'tknow why you feel sad. I mean,
and he did everything right I am. I think maybe nobody likes me
and tried like I wouldn't like anybodytrying to hit on my man, Like
I just don't like that. Andthen also we got to go to the
gym, And now I know thatyou tried my man. If I go
to the gym with him, andI'm uncomfortable. But I definitely think maybe
your feelings are valid and natural.But I don't think you should like make
(41:21):
it his problem, because then hemight regret telling you and then not tell
you anything in the future because hehandled that how anybody would want their man
to handle that right, And there'sa come one. It's kind of human
nature. People are gonna find peopleattractive, and if they're bold enough,
they're going to say something and theninvite them to drinks. He she didn't
know that he had a girlfriend,and I think that's fine. He did
the right thing. He politely declined, and then that just shows you that
(41:43):
you have nothing to worry about,you know. On a side note,
I saw a video of I don'tknow if I sent it to you,
but a man was helping an olderwoman I may say, maybe in her
fifties load her water carts into hercar at Walmart and her his his girlfriend
was off to the side recording why. She asked my man, why did
(42:05):
she get all the water crates?Knowing that she can't carry them by herself,
and she had to ask my man, Mmm, i'm watching, I'm
watching just super like just off.I thought she was. I saw the
video. I don't know if yousent it to me, but I thought
she was being funny. I didn'twatch it till end because I thought she
was well. I didn't know ifshe was trying to be funny or not.
But I do know that there arewomen who are like that. It's
like, don't talk to my man, don't ask my man for any type
(42:25):
of help. No, he's notgonna help you, you know, tow
your car. No, he's notgonna fix your tire. Like, even
if it's strictly blatonic or nothing's goingon, it's this. Women are that
protective over their man. And Idon't think that's I don't think that's necessary.
No. I think that women thatact like that and have been through
that, I mean, yeah,field the need to act that way,
have been through something where it's likeI don't trust you or I don't need
(42:47):
you out of my sight because Ifeel like you're gonna do whatever somebody else
did to me. But you needto heal girl, because I think that's
that's a form of abuse, becauseif a man was to do that to
a woman, we'd be like,oh, she's being controlled and she needs
to free her you know, soright to be free. That's not cool,
that's true. But in this case, I mean, girl, just
I mean, he did the rightthing. So try not to let it
bother you. Go find a newgym, and I go to the gym
(43:08):
with him, and make sure youbecome friends with short. Right, But
you got coming up this week?What do I have coming up your birthday?
I think that's basically it. Uhyeah, Oh I'm going to like
this allo yoga and meditation thing withmy friend on Saturday morning before work in
(43:29):
Venice, which should be a lotof fun. Yeah, that's basically it.
You know what, now that mytrainer is out on maternity leave,
I have done my last workout foruntil she comes back, and I don't
really know how to work out outsideof her. So my birthday's coming up
this week, and I know wehave some things planned. I don't know
what's a secure or not that.I'm sure it'll be fun whatever we do.
(43:52):
I'm not too pressed, but Ido think the following week I do
want to set something up with mygirlies. And I want Aliya to to
trap yoga class, birthday yoga becauseI gotta get back into fitness and I
don't know what I'm gonna do thatshe's going, now, girl, why
don't you get class pass? DidI tell you about this? Is that
like for yoga or something? No, it's everything. See it's literally are
(44:15):
you gonna choose any class that youwant? Boxing, a hate class,
yoga, pilates, anything, allright, send it my life. I
just never really worked out before herNita, and I don't know how to
work out without her, Like Ijust it's never really been. And how
long is she on maternally? Likefive months? She only plans on being
out for like a month. Butyou know, you never really know once
(44:36):
he comes out, you don't knowhow it's or does she said, let's
sleep down once the baby comes out. I don't know how it's gonna be.
You know, you can plan asmuch as you want, but yeah,
I just need to figure out,I say, because honestly, if
I don't work out, I genuinelyhave a flat ass, Like it's like
the flattest thing. So I reallyhate that about myself and I got it.
I gotta keep this thing, justget it. You can go to
(44:58):
any class in La and it islike the most. I love it.
I meet so many people with everynew class that I go to, I
have, I have my partner incrime, Ruby, we go everywhere,
we go every Pilate studio. We'vebeen to like six different ones, meeting
all these different people and it's justsuch a good workout. You can find
the studio that you love the most, and it doesn't have to be Pilate's.
Like I said, I you likehit workouts, so I do find
a hit workout. Yeah. Mysister also invited me to bent yoga or
(45:21):
sculpt yoga because she says that's morelike not as much yoga as it is
workout, and I like more workoutthan yoga. I can't really pace myself,
but figuring out a new finish routineis definitely on my list This week
and turn in the oldest fuck Yes. Happy birthday, Kayla. Make sure
you spam her with happy birthdays inthe comments. Thank you. Thank you
guys so much for listening. Ifyou need any advice, ask at the
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Pettyshpodcast dot com. Follow me atKayla Thomas forty follow me at the Kayla
Austin and follow at the Badyash podcast. We will talk to you next time. Bye,
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