The Year of Talking After the Fact

Happy new year petty people! KT and Kayla are back with brand new episodes and a whole lotta pettiness. In this episode the ladies discuss their goals and plans for 2024. Other topics include Halle Bailey giving birth, the professional boxer who divorced his wife one hour after their son was born, and the controversial hairstylist who went viral for charging clients an autism fee. Enjoy!

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Welcome back to another episode of PettyIsh. Exactly's back. We's back.
We Yes, I'm Kat, I'mKayla. I just don't on a
wig for the sake of this video. Girl, I was just a couple
of minutes ago. I was bustedand crusted. Let me tell you how
you just had a magic trick whileI like, now you're the baddest,

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the baddest. I didn't even knowthe hat and the wig was like a
trick like that, Like, girl, you can hit the bar, you
get the club and two seconds ago, you need to like to do the
seconds I had the dookie braids.Yeah, and then Katelle was like,
you know, just try to putit on the wigs. See how it
looks better on the camera thing on. Put the hat on. Bam boom
bam. Girl beautiful. That's abeautiful girl. Thank you. How is

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your break? Wait? First ofall, would you do petty? What
did I do? Petty? Pettyshit, petty ship? Because this is
petty? Uh so, okay thishaving a little bit of get bit a
little bit ago over the break,I was at the eyebrow salon and I

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was waiting for my turn, andthere was a little commotion with like one
of the brow ladies and her client. The girl had finished her client's eyebrows,
and the girl was like once shewas finished, she was like,
hey, you were late to thisappointment. Can I get a discount?
And the girl was like no,like as not, absolutely not. She

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was like, I feel like youshould accommodate me. My appointment was at
eight forty five and you didn't showup until nine forty five. Now I'm
late to my other appointment. Like, is there something that you can do?
And so they were going back andforth, back and forth, back
and forth, and apparently the eyebrowlady's or argument was I was late because
you booked overnight, so you bookedat one am in the morning. I

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was sleep so I didn't know toget up at eight o'clock in the morning
for your appointment. That's your fault. So I'm not going to give you
a discount because you shouldn't have bookedovernight. And so the girl was like,
you know on your website this wasan availability. It was there,

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So if you weren't gonna wake upat seven am before your listed appointments,
why am I Like? Why isit even up there? And she was
like, it's not my thoult youbooked over tonight. And they were going
back and forth, back and forth. She looked. The girl looks to
me for help, and I waslike, I'm not gonna lie, like
it was up on your website,you know what I mean, So I
would have, you know, assumedthat that was available and that you would

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be there at eight thirty am,right, And it was this big thing
the Eyebrow ladies that the manager gotinvolved. The girl started crying and she
was just like, forget it.You can just go and then that she
didn't have she got it for freere, go for her, Go for her.
I'm almost going back and forth.That's a lot. I feel like
a lot of these stylists, cosmetologists, whatever the case is, they are

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really really entitled lately. I don'tknow what's going on. But if that's
available and I booked it and youcame an hour late and ruin my day,
yeah, give me the discount.I don't work for you, You're
working for me right now. Discount. That logic was crazy. That is
crazy. That logic was crazy.I have it available if you can't be
there, girl exactly talking about OhI was sleep when you booked. That's
not my are you kidding me?Yeah? Yeah, I chimed in.

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Nice, you know, it wasn'tmy business. I chimed in. It
helped out, I mean yeah,because I felt like that was messed up.
So I think So I was alittle patio while ago to I uh
noticed that a few people had unfollowed me. So I downloaded that app
to see who had unfollowed me,and then I unfollowed everybody that unfollowed me.

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Okay, yeah, yeah, what'sthe app called? You know what
I deleted it because apparently it costsmoney after like one or two, like
I fou monthasa and it was nevercharging me three dollars. So I was
like, let me see what's goingon. I'm following follow back and then
delete that. Call them out?Who followed you? Were they people that
you cared about? No, nobodyI cared about, obviously, But it
was when I first got here toLa I had a waitressing job and I

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was cool with like the own.Actually I didn't really like the only other
black man, the only black managerthere, but she was a black girls,
so I try, you know how, I am like you black you
for me, let's let's be friends. But she really gave me weird energy.
And one day I was working andher husband like gave me a dirty
look and like didn't speak when Isaid hi, So I guess she was
going home talking shit about whatever herissue was with me. Anyway, she

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was one of the people that don'tfollowed me two years later, so I
am follow her back, So nobodyI cared about. But you know I'm
the same way. Well, I'mnot gonna grace you with the follow if
you don't follow me, Like,what the hell? I look like I
ain't your fan, bitch exactly followright back. I'm not about your dry
ass kids some kidding. I'm kidding. I don't care about your children.
That were your page, So I'mfollowing back. Patty thinks our listeners have

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done okay. So one person said, my girlfriend has been on one all
week because she's been on her period. She's been taking it out on me.
One day, I let her walkaround all day with her lace front
lifting and didn't bother to tell heruntil the drive home. That's so messed
up. Wait, but that's likea reflection on you, like the guy,

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Yeah, like you walk, she'swalking around with you. You're her
man, y'all both look back.Yeah, And I just really feel like,
you know, if you don't havea menstrual cycle to punish somebody over
something that's not in their control.When I tell you, when I am
PMS and like all my attitudes arelogical, it makes perfect sense to me

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at that moment, I have everyright to be married now justified. And
then maybe a week later I'll thinkback on it, like the hell was
that? But in that moment,bro, you just gotta let me be
and for you to embarrass me becauseI'm having a womanly moment. I think
you gotta go. I don't likethat. I don't like that either,
especially a lace lift in is best. That's embarrassing. That's very embarrassing.
You could be on like Instagram,Twitter or x now, you could be

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on world Star because like you andyour girl, because people for courtship like
that, Like look at this bustedass wig. That's a reflection of you,
bro. So if you want you, if you're okay with your girlfriend
looking like that all day, Likeall right, cool. I took the
shoelaces off all of my boyfriend's shoesbecause he brought home food for just himself.
Okay, the shoelaces. I likethat. I think that, no

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harm. I'm sure you'll return theshoelaces. Just let him know that that's
not okay, because you know,a man's shoe is everything to him.
He won't go out the house ifthe whole shoe isn't right. Oh my
god, I remember I had these, like, well, not me,
my ex had these. What wasit Black History Month edition Jordan something or
another. We got into a fightin one of the casinos. I threw

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them right in the trash. Ohhow much? What a two hundreds?
There are a trash ninety nine?He put us phone on airplane mode.
What did you What are you tryingto hide? Why is you phone on
airplane mode? Oh you can't getthee sneakers? Goodbye. I grew up
since then, though, But yeah, yeah, I was about that action
back in my day. What washis reaction? Oh he was. He
didn't really think I was going tothrow them out like he was like the

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next day, he's like, oh, where's my sneakers. I'm like,
oh, they're on the tribes.Don't play with me, don't play Oh
he played with me time and timeagain after that, but he often sneakers.
So that did nothing. No,no, just you know, it
just made me angry and I shouldhave just walked away. That's the point.
You walk away. You know,you're just throwing out sneak because being
crazy for no reasons. Listen,in twenty twenty four, we are growing
up, we are glowing up,we are maturing, we are you know,

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expanding everything. And I'm excited forthis year. I'm so excited for
this year. It already started offso amazing. I know, we are
eight days in and I feel good. Well, first of all, like,
how was how was your break?Oh? It was so amazing.
I don't know if I've said this, but identify as my little cousin's grandma,
and if you identify as everybody's agrandpa. No, I have one

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grand baby. That's my grand butI do identify it like as aunties and
whatever. But ever since my cousingot pregnant, I'm like, that's my
grandbaby. So when I came home, I'm like, what's my name?
She said, grandma? Well sheneeds touch like grandma grandma. I'm I
guess, baby, what do youneed? Why do you want to identify
as a grandma? That's my grandma. It's not about me. It's about

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my love for that child. Idon't have grandchildren, but I assume like
the way I love her is howgrandmothers love their grandchients. Okay, so
I am her grandmother and she calledme grandmam, and I love that.
That was the best Christmas gift ever, just seeing my family. I got
super sick. I spent New Year'sin bed in DC with my close friend
and I couldn't even go out,which was fine because they had a blast

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in the house and yeah, justnow I'm back in La on the grind
and you know what I said,I would like come back this year,
hustle hard, get into it.And it's like I just want to sleep
and like Mischurch, but not workout and be lazy. But you do
have your eyes on the prize.Do you want to tell them what your
plan is for Wednesday? No,but you know my plan for Wednesday,

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and yes, that's definitely take place. Yeah, I mean I think it's
so bold. I think so.I think it's amazing. I mean I
feel like that's the assertiveness that youneed to have, yeah, to go
after what you want. And eventuallyCayla will tell everybody what she plans on
doing, but like man like talkabout a leap of faith, like that's
going to be something. And youknow what, I think, twenty twenty
four is the year of talking afterthe fact. So I will, obviously

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I'll talk to you about everything,but like when I'm not gonna cause I
feel like every single time like thatand then it always falls through. So
when I get solidified pen in handcontract sogned, then I'll talk about it
on the microphone. But until then, yeah, I got a plan,
and I need to get my locksre twisted first and foremost before I walk
into anybody's anything. You found aloctician, black dude. I got my

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hair put in me on Wednesday.But she's charging me two hundred and fifty
dollars because we did so long betweenreeties. That's a lot of money.
It is. Yeah, I mean, how is your break? My break
was good. I mean I feellike I was here, there and everywhere.
I went to Houston to visit mybrother. Christmas Day, we went
to New Orleans and that was thefirst time that my entire family had gotten
together for the first time in liketen years. When I'm talking about all

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of us, I think it wasall of us, but like one cousin.
And it was love that. Itwas nice. I used to live
in Louisiana when I was younger,so so good being back in New Orleans,
and like, I don't know,just that was always my favorite state
to live in. The food isamazing. I mean, like you gotta
get the gumbo, you gotta getthe oysters, you gotta get the lobster

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and all that stuff, and soit was just grayish, the crawfish all
that. Like, yeah, Iheard great things about the food there that
sounds so much fun. And Ihaven't been back to New Orleans as an
adult, so it was good togo back and re experience it because the
last time I've been there when Iwas like, what ten eleven years old,
So it was nice came back here, and girl, I just have

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a new vision for myself for thisnew year. I am in such a
good space right now, so light. Right now, I feel light,
so light, And I give thatall to like credit to my friends and
my family and the work that I'vebeen doing on myself. I told you

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like a little while ago, itwas a season of isolation for me,
and so like not that I'm likedistancing myself from people, but like I'm
letting myself feel all my feels andnot masking it with going out and partying
or going out and drinking, orgoing out hurrying up and going out on
like dates or finding a new orreplacement or something like that. Like I'm
really sitting in my feelings, acknowledgingmy feelings and trying to heal as best

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as I can. And it isjust like so it's just it's just been
like a beautiful self awakening, andI'm very proud of myself for the progress
that I'm gonna be making. AndI'll when we get into our goals for
the year, i'll tell you moreabout it. But yeah, I mean,
I just been having a great time, I would say, I mean,
New Year's was fun. I wentto a pajama party with my friend.

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I am heading diving headfirst into likeinterviews. As soon as like the
New Year hit, it was like, okay, interview, interview, interview
for my new show. Yeah so, and I got another new segment with
presidential candidates. So my boss,Yes, sorry, it's very far off,

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and this is why I texted you. Yeah, we did have one.
Yeah, so, I know kissFM is very far off from talking
with like Brian. They've been dabbingto politics. But our boss wants us
to, you know, since thisis a campaign here, she wants us
to tap into it a little bit, and it's more of a what you
need to know about the candidates,just not getting heavy into politics and their

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policies and their blah blah blah blah. It's like here, here's this person,
get to know them. That definitelysounds like my station. That's so
fun. I guess like are youare you coming from? Are you coming
from? So it's gonna be it'sonly gonna live on social media. And
so what I did with Dean Phillipswhen he came. He's running as against
Joe Biden. Yeah, it's likea seventy three Questions with Vogue. Have

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you seen the Vogue seventy three Questionswhere they go to a celebrities house and
they'll walk around this, yeah,ask them a question. So I did
that with Dean Phillips and we're callingit seven Questions with Kiss FM. So
Dean Phillips came, he walked allaround like I had him walk all throughout
the studio, asking him questions likewhy do you want to be president?
What's the day in the life ofDean Philip? Look like why could we

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trust you? Are you a catterdog person? Which your favorite sports team?
Like like stuff like that's fun.Yeah, And so I think this
is gonna be really good. Imean because of them really never really dabbed
into politics, where it's more ofa if you want this information here it
is. We're not forcing in yourface. It's not gonna be air.
If you want to know more aboutthis, this is where you can go.
Well, I love that you gotthe opportunity to do that. That's

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what I love. I don't carefor probatics, the heaviness that is news.
I like, you know, music, BA music and news B news.
But if there's a new opportunity available, Kayla Thomas is on it,
that's what I love. Yeah,and that's curious girl. Like the fact
that she even asked me to dothat, you know what I mean.
It's like and I don't know nothingabout politics, but she like she was.
She came to me, it waslike, Cayla, I want you

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to think of this idea. Iwas like, boom, let's do it.
And I think this is the firsttime in a long time that I
feel secure in my job. Askedme last year. I think we even
talked about this on the podcast.I said, I'm always afraid of getting
fired or I can be replaceable becauseI am the bottom of the barrel.
I have the latest time slot,and I could be you know, like

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not renew my contract. But thisis the first time where I feel like
I am actually an asset. They'reusing me in so many different ways,
and I'm so proud of myself.Of how much I've just grown and developed
and she's asking me to do somany things and I'm just ready to bring
it this year. And I thinkthat just speaks volumes about your talent,

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your work ethic, the way youcare yourself, your trustworthy. If they
give you a job, you're goingto get it done to the best of
your ability. And they must likethe best of your ability because they keep
using you and giving you different jobs. And it's just that I think it's
just a real life check in ofhow amazingly talented you are. So I'm
glad that you're enjoying it in themoment as opposed to trying to find what's
wrong and what could go wrong andyou're like, no, like I'm dope,

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and my boss es it and Isee it, and yeah, I
deserve this and I love That's thatis me so happy. So what about
you, Like, as we're headinginto this new year, let's talk about
goals for yourself, your career,family, and even just whatever. Yeah.
So I actually went to a Christmasparty in bel Air before the break

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and it was my first time inbela Air. It was actually right before
I went to the house forming withyou and first of all, bel Air.
Wow. I mean wow. Ihave been here four years, never
been to Belair, not that Iknow of. But I'm like, this
is these houses, this cars.I didn't even know they had this kind
of space in LA Like wow,wow, the house is beautiful. Anyway,
I went to a party and mygoal going forward because I get invited

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to a lot of these rooms,but I feel like I don't have much
strength in networking. So every timeI go to one of these rooms,
now, my goal is to meetfive people that I don't know and not
think about how they can help me, but how I can help them.
So that's how I went into theChristmas party. That's how I made the

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connection that I'm going to go followup with on Wednesday. And then that's
also how I made the connections atthis party in Beller. I got a
property manager in Belair. Girl,what bailor money? But I got me
a property manager for when I'm readyperiod. And then I also met the
author of this book. She wassaying how we were talking about the mind

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and how powerful it is and howwe use so little of it and if
we were to access more of it, we have superpowers. So she was
like, yeah, I wrote thisbook about that because I can't remember any
of my childhood. I just Idon't love my mother. I don't know
what's wrong with me, why Ican't find love. Da da da.
So I'm like, oh, that'sjust said. So I wrote a book
because I had to go on thisjourney and I had to, you know,

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go out of the country and goplant based therapy, so ayahuasca and
things like that that take you ona hallucinity journey. AnyWho, fast forward,
the party was over. I getmy Christmas gifts. I was gifted
her book by somebody else. SoI like started to read it and I'm
diving into it, and it justreally challenged you to face your trauma head
on. She actually forgot that shewas sexually abused by her father from the

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time she was three, told shewas sixteen when he passed away. She
had very high memories of him,like would never even guess. So when
she went on that trip and theayahuasca's like, no, this happened to
you, her mind like literally wouldn'tlet her remember that because it was so
traumatic to her. And now sheknows all of it, and now she
is healing because she's able to beaware of her past and whatever she went
through. I say that to sayI think this year, I do want

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to start facing trauma's head on.Granted I can't go to Costa Rica and
go on a ayahuasca trip just yet, but I do want just yet.
It's definitely my ayahuasca money. SoonI think we should really go to Costa
Rica and do ayahuasca. It willbe crazy, but I think it's what
I want to do. And Ijust want to just start facing trauma's head
on and see like what is gettingin my way mentally and just kind of
lift up some of those mental blocks. I've also gotten into. I've been

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into journaling, but I've been doinga lot more free writing lately and just
not thinking, just writing and thenreading back. And that's also really insightful
to how I'm feeling about things thatI'm not even aware of, which I
didn't even know was a thing.I thought I was super aware of my
feelings. So I just want to, you know, get more in touch
with that. And I feel likeonce I'm more in touch with my traumas
and my feelings and who I amas a person, who is Kayla Austin.

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At this age and this chapter inlife, I think I'll be able
to navigate more of love life,career life. But it all starts with
me and healing those traumas, whateverthose traumas may be that I may or
may not be aware of. Sothis is a year of mental health growing
and also just taking again my trauma'shead on, which isn't easy. You

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know, when a caterpillar goes intothe cocoon, it becomes like liquid and
painful, and like everything melts awayand it's super hurtful, and then the
butterfly comes out. So I'm justready to go through this pain, tase
this shitthead on, and then beingout twenty twenty four. Yes, I
love that for you, Kayla,And I love how so self aware you
are. So many people will getinto relationships without being healed or not facing

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their trauma. And mind you don'thave to be fully healed to be in
a relationship. I don't know exists. Yeah, but but just the fact
that you're willing to go through thatand put yourself through that in order to
be a better version of yourself justjust shows how self aware you are.
And that's how it starts. Youknow. It's just like the desire to
want to change, the desire towant to heal your that inner child that

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is hurting, you know what Imean. So I'm proud of you,
and I I think you think youthank you. I really think that's the
only way. I think that ifyou ignore, it's just going to come
out in other ways. And ohyeah, absolutely not good. That's not
good stuff. So either you gothrough it or life going to go through
you. Amen. Period goes forthe year. I want to read more.
You want to read this book whenI'm done? What are you reading?
I told you the book about thewoman with the traumas and the sexual

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abuse. Are they sure? I'mwilling to read anything so good I've been
I like, right now I'm readingDark Vanessa. It's just like it's a
fiction book. I used to loveto read when I was younger, and
somewhere along the line I started hatingit but just didn't like reading anymore.
And it's like, oh, I'drather before bed scroll on TikTok and you

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know, or scroll on Instagram andbe on social media. But lately I
have been going to bed. I'vebeen reading first and then going to bed
and then not even touching my phone, and it's just, I don't know,
it's more peaceful. I like it. I go into another world when
you're reading, you know, astory about somebody else's life. And so

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I want to get back into readingbooks because I know I used to love
it, and I'm reminded of whyI love it, and I'm trying to
put down the phone a little bitmore mean. My life in my career
is social media and being online andentertainment. I can when I'm home,
I can take a few minutes,a few hours to do something else,

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read, write. I've also beeninto video diary because I actually do not
like writing. My hand hurts,so I've been doing video diaries instead.
I've also been doing a lot ofmeditation. I got this app that somebody
I inner Eric Nahma, He's aK pop artist. He created this app
called Mindset, and he told meabout it when he was when I was

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interviewing him like before the Break,and so I downloaded it thirty dollars thirty
dollars a year and it just likeit asks you how you're feeling, It
has you check in, and thenit gives you like a daily mindset.
It's like a six minute thing whereyou just stop, you lay down,
and you listen to this woman justaffirm you and tell you whatever affirmation of

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that day. I don't know,it's been really really nice. No,
I love that. I think it'slike really important because I feel like we
focus on working out our body oftenbecause you know, if you don't do
it, you don't look good,you don't feel good. But we forget
that our brain's are muscle too,and that needs to be worked out.
So like reading and writing and meditatingis all like working out your mind because
I feel like all those social mediatakes you to another world too. I

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think it's killing your brain because youdon't have to think, you just mindlessly
scroll, and then it just controlsyour emotion injury, something that makes you
mad, or something makes you sad. It's just like so unnecessary because it's
not real life. So I lovejust it sounds like you're getting in touch
with the real world. Yeah,I'm trying to. I'm really really trying
to. This is also the yearthat I want to love myself and actually

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really really feel it, not needanybody to tell me that I'm pretty,
for me to believe it, butI actually want to look in the mirror
and be like, God, damn, yeah, you know what I mean.
I want to have that confidence aboutmyself. So I don't know,
I've just been like, I've beendoing pilates, which is my new hobby.
How has that been. That hasbeen a lot of fun. I've
been doing with my coworker Ruby.It was hard at first, but it
makes you feel so good, andit does so much more than just help

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make you look good. It helpswith your balance, it helps with your
posture, it just helps with youroverall like aura of the way you carry
yourself, you know what I mean. And so I've been I told myself,
Okay, so for the first sixmonths of the year, I'm gonna
do pilates and yoga and just workon like getting in touch with my body.
And then the last six months ofthe year, I want to take
heels classes. I want to takehip hop classes. I want to like

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learn how to dance. I wantto feel good. I want to feel
sexy. I want to be afreaking Aliyah Jeanette, Janelle, whatever her
name is, you know what Imean. Like, So I'm gonna be
up up in there I love thatcase. Girl. Yes, wait,
it's not as long as not pulldance. I told you, I embarrassed
myself. I'm never gonna. Ido want to do a poll dancing class.
I'll do any I'll do regular dance, but poll dancing. I was
so embarrassed. Rub your body walkaround the pole. I'm like, god,

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it was sexy. It was sobad. They yell at you broke
your body. She was probably justsaying, like, rub your body,
feel sexy, but I felt like, yeah, be sexy, rob yourself.
I do want to take a poledancing class, though, Yeah,
but I feel like just everything you'redoing just sounds like a self investment,

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like I'm trying by the end ofthis year, like you keep it up.
It's Kayla two point oh oh,I seriod. I know I'm here
for it too, So I'm excitedfor this new year. I feel so
good, I feel so refreshed,and I'm ready to tackle it head on.
Same girl. You know I startedthe year started out rough for me.
I went to my first workout andI did a box jump and my

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old ass throughout my back stop.Yeah. I haven't been able to work
out like since I don't know ifmy trainer like, sorry, that's why
haven't been there. You need achiropractice. Honestly, like, my back
is jacked up. I've been walkingaround like I'm seventy. I just did
a box like landing and it's likeshot up and I'm like, oh my
god. So I like it takesme twenty minutes to get out of bed.

(25:30):
I've been walking around like a seventyyear old. But the good thing
is about this, when you goto seven eleven and stuff, nobody asked
you for money because they think likeyou're one of them because you're walking like
you know you're one of them.So so that's my year. I wanted
to fill my back. I wantto get a chiropractor this year because this
is like this is thirty three.Yeah almost, But I'm also this year

(25:52):
I am noticing, like I wassaying earlier, these stylists and these cosmic
tollogists, they are so entitled andI don't know if it was like the
pandemic or gen Z or what,but it's just ridiculous. So did you
see the story about the woman whopaid the two hundred and fifty dollars deposit

(26:15):
to her stylist. The stylust canceledon her because she said that she was
exposed to COVID. An act thewoman to reschedule. The woman said,
I can't reschedule. I just wantto refund. She refused her refund,
said I'll sell you a wig ifyou pay the rest of it, and
she's like, no, I justwant my refund. Turns out the hairstylist
wasn't even exposed to COVID. Sheliterally was in Miami partying. Yeah,

(26:36):
it was all over her story,all over her story, and she like
refused to give her the refund.Crazy girl. I've been new about these
stylists I have. I am thequeen of getting screwed over by hairstylists.
I can't. I have countless storiesof people not showing up or you know,

(26:56):
canceling on me an hour before,or doing half of my head then
and going off to fight another girl. Oh, I remember that story.
That one's funny, that lives inmy mind. Reent free, that's hilarious.
I have story after story after storyafter story to the point where I'm
like, yo, I'm about tojust do my own hair, my damn
self, because it's so annoying tobook a person and not really know if

(27:19):
they're actually going to show up thatday or if my appointment is going to
be canceled thirty minutes before. Theagony and the anxiety of trying to just
get some damn box braids is ridiculous. I've never really had bad experiences.
I've been going to the same girlsince I was fourteen, when I have
my real hair, and then whenI got braids, I found my I

(27:41):
just I'm so loyal. I treatmy stylists like I treat men, like
I'm riding with you till the willsfall off once I find you. The
first bad stylist I've really had wasthat locktician, and I've never experienced anything
like that, and I just hopeI never experienced anything like that again.
But if I give you money andI asked for a refund, I typically

(28:02):
get my refund, Like I don'treally ask refunds though, But that's not
a thing where I pay somebody,they don't give the service, they don't
give me my money back, Andwas not a thing. Wasn't it just
the deposit she was asking for.She wasn't asking for, Like the whole
thing price of the wig and youcanceled on her. It wasn't like she
canceled on you. So there shouldbe some type of understanding that like if

(28:23):
the styl is canceled, then theyshould be able to get any and all
their money back. You're not gonnabe in Miami with my two hundred and
fifty dollars girl talk about talking aboutsome Oh I was exposed to COVID.
But you up in the club twerkingdoing, driving a boat, taking shots,
exposing everybody in their mom to COVID. So are you lying or are
you just a fucking she's lying assholeand you're ashole. I think exposing everybody

(28:47):
to COVID. I think she's alying asshole. And I think that the
girl asked her for the refund,threatened a lawsuit, and she was like
she goes on social media like youthink I give a damn about your lawsuit?
Like you're not getting your money back? Who's going to you? Who's
going to the stylist? Like dothey care about their business? Do they
care about their reputation? I alsosaw there was a stylish charging somebody one

(29:07):
hundred dollars extra if you have autismI did see that there was an autism
fee. It's not funny. It'snot funny. No, why would you
do that? No? Okay,but wait no, I'm gonna bring up
the risk listen, No why wouldyou? I saw her response? Did

(29:30):
you see her response? I kindof I agree with her? What Oh
okay, okay, give give thebackstory. So basically, she charges one
hundred extra dollars if you have autism, right, And so everybody was up
in arms like yo, what thefuck? Like that's discrimination, Like how
dare you? That makes no sense? Like like before we are and before

(29:55):
I was with her, I was, I mean not with her against her?
Yeah, like I I was witheverybody else Like, Yo, this
is crazy, Like how dare youdiscriminate someone if they have autism in one
charity of one hundred extra dollars.So, after all the backlash she posted
on Instagram, I understand your concerns, both personally and professionally. I have

(30:17):
a severely autistic non verbal SUN andworked in the human services field for fourteen
years respectfully as a business owner andservice provider. I reserved the decision to
offer my services in space in anexclusive manner that allows an individual client,
my undivided attention and exclusive suite accessfor the entire appointment duration, full day,

(30:41):
or as long as my services mayrequire. One clients are welcome to
be accompanied by a one caregiver.Two, Light refreshments and entertainment are available.
Additional reasonable accommodations such as diapers,wipes, or chucks may be provided
accordingly. Three. Some individuals withspecial needs, both adults and children,
also exhibit behavioral challenges which I amequipped and willing to assist with, such

(31:04):
as aggressive behaviors, self injurious behaviors, feastal smearing, disrobing, may need
several breaks for stemming or sensory processingchallenges, and a plethora of other things.
Understand that there is no there isno market or none that I have
found for myself or others that caterto especially need individuals who exhibit challenging behaviors.

(31:29):
They deserve to be able to goto a space to get their hair
done with someone like me who understandshas patience as well as personal and professional
experience. However, that experience requiresextra care and research resources, which the
fee will cover. My objective isto make everyone who enters my space feel
and look good. I agree withher. All right, well makes sense,

(31:51):
right, so, especially since I'mnot like somebody who's ever built been
with that community, or dealt withthat community on a professional level. So
I really don't know what it is. I just see that this person has
this sickness or disability and they're beingcharged extra for it. But I guess
it's kind of what it sounds liketo me. And this may be not

(32:12):
the best analogy, but kind ofhow you pay more for larger clothes because
they use more material, And it'slike, we're not charging you extra because
you're overweight, it's just because theyhave to use more material that and that
clothing. So I guess it kindof does logically make sense. It does,
Like I totally agree, and Ifeel like she wrote it very professionally.
She explained it very well, andit's true. She is if she

(32:34):
has a son who is autistic,she knows what it's like. So and
there's a lot of autistic people whocan't get their go get their hair done
right, actually know. I ahometown hustler that I did a couple of
months ago was specifically for people likewho have disabilities. So this was a
hair salon specifically for people disabilities.Yeah, so if you are in a

(32:54):
wheelchair, they have chairs for peoplewho are bigger, yea, they have
you have an autoimmune disease, theyhave like ventilators who are fascificity where like
the air is like purified and whatnot. They have just all these little things
that you would never even think offor people who can't do this or have
this or this or this or this, and it does require extra work.

(33:16):
So for her to be inviting ofsomeone who who is autistic, because like
who was to say, like,let's say if I was a hairdresser,
I don't think I would take somebodywho is autistic because maybe I can't handle
that. Maybe I don't know,you know what I mean, Maybe I
don't know how to handle what ifthat where to happen or they were to
have an outburst. I don't know. I'm not properly equipped to handle that

(33:36):
service. But she is, andso it might cost a little extra money.
So I totally get it, andI think maybe they're paying the little
extra money for I guess everything thatshe's providing for that community that she seems
very well versed and is much betterthan turning them away. And saying I
can't do this, and they're makingthem feel like they don't deserve to be
treated, you know, beautified.Yeah, exactly. She should have just

(33:58):
worded it differently. It shouldn't havebeen like autism. It's like special care
fee, yeah, sensory something somethinglike girl. It just it just came
off really really, really really wrong. Honestly. All right, well there
that goes. All right, let'sget into the petty a war of the

(34:21):
week. No, what the hell? Okay? This was why old so
pro boxer Ryan Garcia he divorced hiswife an hour after she had his child.
So, I don't know if yousaw this, but niggas ain't ship,

(34:46):
bro, that's on period. Sohe posted the birth announcement. He
was like, praise Lord, I'mso thankful it only took eight minutes for
him to arrive. We are proudto you know, welcome our baby boy.
Whatever. Literally an hour later heposted another post black screen white writing,

(35:06):
and it said, as I stepinto a new chapter in my life,
it is with heavy heart to sharethat Drey and I have decided to
divorce. What in the actual hellyou couldn't wait a week? I don't
like it, so I don't likewhat it sounds like. Is okay,
maybe they decided to divorce way beforethe baby was in born, Okay,

(35:27):
but I don't understand the thought processof announcing them both on the same day.
It just makes you look like adouche. You do look like a
douche, especially like I obviously don'thave children, but a lot of my
close friends have recently had children orare having children, And just the mental
thing that happens to you when yourbody starts to change, when you don't

(35:49):
really know what's about to happen withyour life because you know you can't control
the kid, so you might keepyou up all night or need whatever,
and then the postpartum shit. Solike to have to go through that alone
when this person promised you, Marri, like not even say that you got
to stay with me, but justto do that to me publicly after my
body just went through such a traumaticexperience and now I don't even know myself.

(36:10):
I gotta get to know this kidthat I that I need to learn
to love that looks like you,And it's just too much. I don't
like it. It really just pissesme off. I like want to fight
him. A little bit. That'sjust not cool. Well, and I'm
hoping that like it was her sheokayed the post. Maybe who knows,
But then again, it's like,would anybody okay a post like that?

(36:34):
She's like, she just gave birth, her vagina is still like all the
way out, like she probably stillhas like being bilical cord attached, and
you are already posting. So Idon't know. I'm hoping that he wouldn't
be that insensitive and she knew thatit was coming, But I just don't
think that it was an appropriate timeat all. Yeah, I think that
that could have stayed between y'all andsool, Like you know, the baby
was, you know, a leastout of the hospital. What's the most

(36:54):
like outrageous thing that you've seen manor woman do that was just so like
out of pocket like that, andnot including the things that my ex has
done to me, you could includeit, Yeah, like, okay,
so outrageous breaking into my house andturning off my refrigerator so that my food
could go bad, breaking into thehouse and texting me that you were out

(37:15):
of town and texting me at yoube back at six pm. And then
I go home and my TV's aresmashed, or like, what would happened?
How can I save you? Likenigga, you did this shit?
Things like that, Like that wasjust really nutty, and he would just
like be so like empathetic and actlike he was there for me and trying
to be my hero when he wasreally the villain. I just think it's
just so crazy how people will dothe most alarming things. Like just the

(37:37):
fact that he posted that is justso crazy to me, and it just
shows you like it kind of remindsme of Antonio Brown. I think he's
a football player, football Antonio Brown. So he apparently put on his Twitter
he's like and mind you, thisman can't spell, Like he has the
kind of writing that makes you wantto punch him. Had to tell my

(37:57):
son auto Auto me and his momnot seeing eye to eye anymore. She
and Tampa on her knees and heput angel face, Winkie face, cool
guy, Moji face, smiley face, lefty what. Literally that reminds me
of like that Blue Face kind ofliterally that's another one. Yeah, Blue

(38:17):
Face went on Instagram and freaking putthe camera in his son's face and was
like, have you seen your momon her knees for anybody, like,
who has your mom brought? Itbeen second dick around the house? Did
she bring anybody here? The oldJaden's son. Yeah, that's also the
one that he was in the cupboardor the I don't know, snack cabinet

(38:39):
when there was grown strippers out there, and he's like, why are you
in here? You gay or something? Won't you want see the strippers?
It's like he's a kid, you'resexually abusing him. That's like literally sexual
abuse. Some people just should notbe parents. But I will say it
is a little funny when he saidthat Chrishawan's son looks like Charles Barkley,
and now they keep putting that littlebaby's face on Charles's body. He's like,

(39:00):
wait, but the baby really doeslook like Charles Barkley. I think
he's a cutie pitt because you know, the eyes are like kind of fart,
like, wait, am I talkingabout a baby? He does like
Charles Barkley, But it's not talking, you know, it is true,
And I think I think personally's cute. I've seen comments like he's ugly,
and I just think that those peopleare so disgusting to even write that.
But yeah. Do you think CharlesBarkley is cute? Calah, Yeah.

(39:25):
I actually used to crush on CharlesBarkley back in the Will Smith I like
I do. I don't und understandI got good taste, but yeah,
so Charles Barkley's He's handsome, andI think I think Antonio Brown was like
my honorable mention, But I thinkmy petty Award has to go to Hilly

(39:49):
Billy Halle Bailey, Ally Belly,Hilly Bailly h Yeah. So she was
pregnant the whole time. I sawpeople like pregnant her congratulations, congratulations,
And I just think that the captionwas super petty, even though we were
a few days into the new year. The greatest thing that twenty twenty three
could have done for me was bringme my son. Welcome to the world,

(40:10):
my halo, all these cute emojis. The world is desperate to know
you. For sure. I thinkeverybody was talking about it. People were
speculating that she's just trying to getus talking and she's not really pregnant,
and she just think everybody thinks sheis, so she's running with it.
I knew she was pregnant, butbecause I was so wrong with Kylie Jenner

(40:31):
that I just knew she was pregnantbecause I bet money Kylie wasn't pregnant and
she was just messing with us.Now, Kylie got two kids, and
I think, yeah, she wasn'tplaying. She has a son. Hey
hey no, okay, hey,Halo. I hope they live happily.
Well. I think it's just sofunny how on April Fools DDG posted the
sonogram I know, and then hewas like, and it's April Fools and

(40:53):
there was not He was telling theabsolute truth, but because it was April
Fools, nobody took here, nobodycould confirm, and he's known for trolling.
I thought that was just so wellplayed. I think that that was
super well played too. And Ialso love to mind my business when it
comes to other people's relationships. ButI wish them nothing. I mean,

(41:14):
they get a lot of hate.I think a lot of people don't like
him for Halle, because did hecheatd No, But he's a message in
his ex girlfriend. Oh no,we forgot. I don't forgot. Oh,
I mean, but shit happens,you know, shit happens, nah
girl, because you gotta leave withthe first red fly. Because that happened
to me, and then it justescalated from they think they can get away

(41:36):
with one thing like as small asthat, and they're like, oh I
got away with it. Let medo more and more and worship. I
didn't didn't know about that. Yeah, I just you know, things do
happen. I do know relationships wherethe man was a fool in the beginning
and now they're married with children andhe seems like a really really stand up
guy these days. Like I knowthose couples For me personally, you know,

(41:59):
my trust is too broken at thispoint and I'm just not driving myself
crazy with it. Just I'm notdoing it. I don't have the energy.
One strike for me, one strikeand you were it. You were
out. Oh I'm not want toask you something. What Okay, So
we're talking about you know, wantstrike, you have that, But what
about when your man is a goodman, right, and then you go

(42:20):
out on your birthday for dinner withhim and your girlfriends and he pays for
you and himself, and then yourgirlfriends start coming at him like, why
aren't you paying everything? Why aren'tyou paying the bill? I got the
birthday girl and my wife are youthe only man to say, well,
why are we doing that? Fortext? But it's all women here.
But I'm not I'm not responsible forpaying everybody I got. But I didn't

(42:49):
sign up for that. Okay,there's nobody I'm doing that. I don't
know, I don't care. I'msorry, I didn't. You always pay
like you're the only man at thetable. You're not gonna pay the but
I don't. I'm not. Iget my whole family, got one hundred
dollars for this whole table and it'smy birthday podcast. It's only saying you

(43:15):
mean, are you hitting me right? Hitting cheap right now? Okay?
If that was the case, Iwould have just just took you out,
dre. Are you gonna let himsit here with a whole table full of
women? I really feel like it'snot having possibility. And when you get
a husband, I know. Sorry, you're good because it's your birthday.

(43:39):
But I'm not paying for anything.I'm not trying for any No, do
you please separate, separate the techi. I don't like it. I don't

(44:00):
don't like it. I don't.I'm sorry. If I had none of
my friends is talking about man likethat, like you're the man, you
gotta pay for me, bitch,No, he doesn't. You're not his
girl. He doesn't do anything foryou. And who are you to be
counting his money? Oh it's onlyseven hundred dollars, okay, so pay
it. First of all, thereshould have been some things established before they

(44:20):
all sat down. Okay, Soapparently he invited everybody to come celebrate the
birthday. Girl. It should havebeen established who was paying for who up
front, so that there was noexpectations and there was everybody was clear from
the beginning, all right, you'repaying for your shit or I'm paying for
everybody. He should have made itclear. Okay, Well, let's take

(44:43):
it back to when with me,me and you and miss kiddies situation Exactly.
If it's a woman like y'all comingto my girls party, are gonna
be like you're paying for everything?Like you know that's not the case.
You know, I'm not. I'mnot paying for everything. If I'm invu
he'sed to show his birthday party.I feel like he should have paid the
bill and then ad all his wellasked his wife to block everyone afterwards.
It was a little ridiculous. Yeah, no, no, he shouldn't just

(45:06):
because he has a penis. It'snot mean he has to pay for everybody,
Like, that's not how this works. He is not your husband.
It seems like it was established thathe was paying up front. That's what
they assumed. I don't know whywhy you would assume that. I don't
know, And I also, likemy thing is it could have been a
miscommunication. You could have not expectedto pay whatever, But you're not about

(45:27):
to talk to my husband like that, Like you're just not like you're the
man you're paying. Bitch, let'sstep outside, like, who are you
talking to her? Man? Ifeel like she should have checked him.
She should have checked all her friends, oh, like in the back all
shy, like she should have beenlike, who are you talking to?
Like and when she did say something, she was like, you know,
when y'all get a husband, it'snot responsibility. Y'all go ahead and get

(45:49):
you one, and almost like Igot one. I got one. Well,
he should have been cash happing youto pay that bill because I'm my
husband. I'm paying for you,period and that's one period. So yeah,
I think that don't ever, don'tever, Just so y'all know when
I get into a relationship, Iwill switch up real quick. We'll talk
to my man. Don't talk mannow, girls? All right? So
who wait? We gotta go backto pity pro boxer Ryan Garcia or Hally

(46:09):
Belly Holly Belly, Are you kiddingme? That's not even that's not even
close? Like that is so disrespectful? Way okay, Petty mill Andrea from
Long Beach Route, Hey, Kaylaand Kayla? Is it unreasonable of me

(46:29):
to be annoyed that my boyfriend foralmost a year now doesn't post me on
social media? I've just been fedup, so I unfollowed him to prove
a point. Why follow him ifhe doesn't post me? Granted he doesn't
post much much at all, butsomething acknowledging where a couple will be ideal?
Mind you, there are other factorswith with this, and I'm just

(46:50):
irritated. I recently discovered that hefollowed this girl from the gym while we
were dating. I can go on, but this is what's irritating me in
the moment, and I took himoff as a follower. Am I being
unreasonable? The last time I askedabout it, he said that he wants
his life to be personal, butlike I think that is just because he

(47:10):
has his excess family on there andhe's going through a divorce. I could
be wrong, though, any suggestionswith this is getting worse and worse and
worse as you continued, girl,God damn, he's going through a divorce.
Okay. So first of all,I mean I don't know, like
I am so about the little redflags now, like thinking back to my

(47:32):
relate past relationships. Things, littlethings that I ignored in the beginning ended
up being so crucial and monumental andbig later on, right and blew up.
So him following a girl from thegym, like, do you guys
know this girl? Did you meethim? Did you both meet them?
Why were they why were they interacting? And you know what I mean,

(47:53):
little things like that, Okay.And I also think that if a man
is I'm posting you, something iswrong a whole situation talking about some Oh
I just want to keep my lifeprivate and personal. No, you're trying
to hide me from the world.That's what I believe, Okay. Because
the thing is also like if you'reif you're I don't understand that if the
person is not active on social mediaa lot, right, But if you're

(48:15):
constantly active and I'm a big partof your life. Why are you not
wanting to share that. I wantsomebody who's gonna show me off. I
want somebody who's gonna be proud ofme. And first of all, it
doesn't seem like you guys. Ifyou're not celebrities, who the fuck are
you worried about like trying to youknow what I mean. It's like,
come on, now, nobody wantsyour man so or your girl, So
I don't see why you feel likeyou can't post them because you're gonna feel

(48:37):
like people are gonna try to takeit. It's just dumb. Uh.
I feel like, Okay, he'sgoing through divorce, which I don't know
the legal proceedings, but I knowposting somebody else could be an issue for
him if he's going through a divorce, and like she could get more money
or some shit, So maybe he'splaying it low for that. I think
we put way too much emphasis onsocial media and posting, like like say

(49:00):
his page is curated and it's justbusiness and whatever like and you would throw
off the curation. It doesn't meanthat he doesn't love you. Maybe he's
with you every day all day,like you just have way too many insecurities
to be dealing with this person.In my opinion, he's following insecurities come
from It could come from him,it could come from somebody in her past.

(49:22):
It could come from her just notfeeling like she's enough. Even still,
the insecurities are there. And Ialso go as somebody who works out
before I threw her back out.I follow all the people I work out
with. I'm not sleeping with noneof them, not one. Not one
has see me naked, and notone has been inside of me. No
one has kissed me. But Ifollow them like I don't know, so
like I follow everybody. I'm notdming anybody. I just don't understand you.

(49:44):
You being that close to notice thathe followed, like how closely are
you monitoring his followings to be like, oh, like, you need to
get your life, That's what Ithink. I think you need to walk
away. You need to get yourlife. You need to get confident,
you need to get secure, youneed to be a beautiful woman and a
boasting me. You sound stupid,you sound dumb. Shut the fuck up,

(50:05):
leave him alone and get some selfesteem, because girl, by I'm
tired for me my sage. Godbless you. Thank you for listening.
Girl, I got your back becauseI understand that it could possibly come from
somewhere because I have been in yoursituation, and it might come off as
like super all insecuritious, but likemaybe he made her feel that way.
Maybe there's a reason why she hasa uh, why she's going through his

(50:27):
following, maybe the work right tolove yourself and be better or not.
I am, I definitely am,and she should. But you know,
there might be more to the story. Maybe there might be more to the
story. I say, leave himalone. If you got to write a
podcast asking should you care that hedon't poast you, like if you care
that much I following him and alsostill still like technically married, just leave

(50:52):
it alone. It's too fresh,like there's way too many fishing to see.
I don't know what to do.I can't help you forget up to
like raw from my relationship that Idon't Girl, I can I don't know.
I'm listen. I'm fresh out ofrelationship, so I can't help nobody.
I think, I think, Idon't know. I don't know.

(51:14):
All my opinions are skewed. Imean, I'm not gonna say you wrong.
I just I do feel like yougirl. Yeah yeah, next this
week, I already did my interviewwith Flavor Flaves. That's gonna be.
That's gonna be airing on Wednesday,and then that is a pretty easy week.
I gotta go get my car fixed. I freaking broke the seatbelt.

(51:37):
This weekend, Joy and I arehaving a vision Board Slash Affirmations party,
so please come and bring your sister. It's gonna be a lot of fun.
And that's gonna be this weekend.I think that's pretty much it.
I think the rest of my weekis pretty chill. Hopefully something might come
up. Yeah, I got alot of work to do, pre recorded

(51:57):
show show show shows, doing smallbusiness show outs every weekend. So I
got to find a small business forthis weekend, and I gotta get my
first retwist in two months. Ilook so homeless. I'm like looking in
the mirror, like, why amI not pretty? No? You are.
I definitely got a had on,but let me take this hat off.
I'm a little crazy. You sawme exactly. I'm gonna show you
later. But I look absolutely ridiculous. So I'm finally happy to be pretty

(52:19):
again. To get my retwists andhopefully I love this loctician and she's not
a weirdo like the last girl.And that's pretty much. And I'm gonna,
you know, read this book injournal. Be Other than that,
yeah, I don't think I haveanything else coming up. I don't have
a life anyhow. Follow me atthe Kayla Austin I'm at Kayla Thomas forty
and follow at the Pettish Podcast.He's out, babe,