December 10, 2025 • 30 mins
This week on Tales Over Cocktails, Danielle is adjusting in post-move mode, Astra surprises us all with an actually amazing first date (!!), and Wendy shares the saga of once being victimized by her infamous paper towel–bandit ex.
All laughs aside, we discuss the red and green flags to look out for and why settling is never an option.
All laughs aside, we discuss the red and green flags to look out for and why settling is never an option.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Wow, get me cocktails. I'm Wendy, I'm Astra, and I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Danielle, and we are tails over cocktails, where the stories
are real, the laughs are loud, and there's always something
to sip on. Hey, how you doing.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
It's a weekly mix of absolute chaos, cocktails and way
too honest conversations.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hold up a.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Chair and pour something. It's about to get fun.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Whoa like my grandmother with me right now?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Me too?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Holding it in man.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
And we went from like the Balls podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
To the we have to pee every five minutes?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Who's got a diaper?
Speaker 3 (00:51):
I don't got tapers on?
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Oh my goodness. Well we're back. It's another week. I
think we skipped last week, but that's it's been al
was a holiday, you know? We did do last week?
Didn't know was there Thanksgiving? Less holiday? It was a holiday.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I can't remember the days.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I can't either. I feel like everything when the holidays
come in, I can't remember anything because all I know
is it goes from Thanksgiving to Christmas, Hanukah to New
Year's to Yeah, it's like.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
If my time just passes. You buy so much faster
than it used to.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yes, the older we get, the quicker it goes and
I believed my parents and they used to say that.
I was like it would always take forever for the
summer to read. I thought it was an eternity, right,
And now it's like the summer already my winter coat.
I pulled out the winter coat the other day.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
But I've been in winter wellils in her winter coat
now a reason.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I have the Canada Goose and I'm not gonna lie.
It does not keep me warm. What oh my god mine.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
I have two of them and I keep me so warm.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I wore it in my classroom last night. I was
freezing in my classroom and I was kept me warm.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I might have the wrong version that I looked it
up and it says that it's like one.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Of the Canada Loose, not Canada.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I can't.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
I can personally cannot do Canada Goose because of the
animal advocacy that I do. But I have the viral
orola from Amazon that everybody was talking about, and it
actually does keep me warm.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Really. Yes, I was told to go on Amazon and
get those jackets that heat up.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
One.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
It sounds like a fire hazard. No no, no, you plug it in,
you like charge it, charge your charge, your jacket and
then you wear it and it's warm, and I feel
like that's what I need because I can't function in
this weather.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
My sister word at the Thanksgiving Day parade and she
was I was freezing and she was fine, Yeah, it
was not.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
You just charge it like you charge your phone.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
But how long does it last? That's the question?
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Like all day? Five six hours with it?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
That's the name of this.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
Yeah, we're gonna not sponsored, by the way, no, although
you know it is so funny.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I had seen how Kim Kardashian had posted that she's
got a new skims like collab with north Face, I
think it is, and they have these like puffer jackets
ones Ago all the way down to your ankle and
you look like this big like marshmallow man. I'm like,
that's what I think I need.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
I think we are past the puffer stage and we're
onto the parka stagecause he's in our winter here in
the Northeast, because we don't know where our listeners are
tuned in right right.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
It's horrible though. People are like, aren't you from New York.
I'm like born and raised and I'm still not used
to the cold. I'll never get used to this cold.
You know. It's really odd.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
People have been asking me if the cold weather affects
my condition.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Does it? No? Really no, I mean I think it's.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
More like wet weather about to come in that affects
it more. But I was standing outside waiting for the
train the other day and I was like, you know,
I feel like rejuvenated in a way.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I don't like.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Being cold in the studio when I'm inside, but if
I'm expecting it to be cold outside, I don't mind
it so much as long as I'm wearing the proper gear.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
What's the condition again? In case people are just tuning in.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
Sure. So we've talked about this before, and probably more
so on my podcast Life Bites with Wendy Wild, which
lately we've been simulcasting this. Sorry about that, but it's
called fibromyalgia, which is the pain disease, and nobody really
knows where it comes from. It's one of those diseases
that is diagnosed after they rule out everything else, all
of the autoimmune diseases, and it's your pain receptor is
(04:08):
just going crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
They go off the hook. Is there anything you can
take or do to help it? Not really.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
There are some lifestyle changes. The funny thing is is
most doctors will prescribe walking and exercise.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Mean while.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
It's in my legs, and I have a lot of
trouble with stairs, but I try, you know, I still
work out and I have good days. And but I
will say that, uh, there are some some drugs that
may help. We're going to discuss that. Actually have a
doctors appointment tomorrow, so we're gonna see.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
How that goes. Okay, keep posting, but yeah, but the
cold weather.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Like I think I'm the only one that's kind of
thriving in it right now.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Oh, it does just keep me awake.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
All it does is make my bones freeze so much
that I wish that I could just, I don't know,
walk around with like a heated blanket. That's what I
always say. I'm like, I need either a heated blanket
or like a heavy man to put over me that
I could just like, well, you hold on on a second.
That is such a good transition, because I got something.
I got some breaking news. Well I won't call it.
(05:08):
I don't want to jinxxid.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Well, we can just like keep the expect expectations low
and see all right, all right, I finally have dipped
my toe back into the dating pool.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Finally. I've been single over seven years and I know
and I'm like, you know what, I've been trying to date,
but like COVID had come along, couldn't really date during
that time. And then when I did date somebody at
that point, I went out with this guy and come
to find out he was married, and I was like, Okay,
why don't you tell me on the first date. He
waits till the second date to tell me, right, So
(05:40):
then I was like, well, I'm not going to hang
out these guys anymore. Then I went out with like
another one or two guys, but it's always a one
and done because I'm never fully interested. Do you get
the ick?
Speaker 4 (05:47):
Do you go on a date and somebody does something
small that just gives me like they have like a
like a boogie in their nose, or you don't like
the way they pick up their fork, or if there's
a crook.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
It like, I'm all about like aesthetically pleasing and if
you're you know, if your teeth are crooked, and I
mean listen, I don't want somebody to be like, oh
my god, my teeth are cooked, well, you can go
fix them. It's not like it's not fixable. Things that
are fixable you can fix, you know. So it's like
those things are just not a turn on from dirty
fingernails app So I always look at the fingernails if
there's any like blackness under there, I'm like, no way.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
If you're not putting the care into taking care of yourself,
especially before, I.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Don't want to know I'm waist down then if your
nails are gross. I heard I met this guy. Technically
we kind of like we kind of connected like last
year on social media. But I was just like, oh,
I don't think this guy is real. I don't know why.
I thought maybe that it was like a bot page,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
Any Fair, he is very handsome and has a blue
check mark, so right off the bat, I would have
thought he was about to right because I was just like, well.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
It shows that he's like into acting and like sports
and all this stuff, like he's like in kickboxing, and
I'm just like, this guy seems like too good to
be true, perfect right, exactly perfect, He doesn't he does it.
His eyes are so beautiful. But anyway, so we finally
made time to meet up, and he was such a gentleman.
He was so nice, he was so sweet, and I
(07:09):
was just like wow, Like I was kind of shy
and scared because and you know me, I'm usually not
but I'm like, my gosh, this guy's really cool. And
then he wanted to hang out again and I was like, oh, okay.
So then we hung out again, and I was a.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Fact is I mean, you were telling me about how
it went and all the green flags for instance, like
really showing interest in wanting to see you again, but
not just saying it vaguely, saying what are you doing
on this particular day? That shows interest and having a
plan in mind, having a plan in mind. Also, he
you know, most guys, they will say, are usually pretty
(07:43):
turned off by women and their presence on social media,
and that's kind of your job, right, But it's.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
Also kind of his shop, which is great, where he
was like, let me find the right writing for me
to take a picture of you.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
How about this?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I asked him to help me with a TikTok for
my friend's brand because she's promoting you know, her skincare line.
Big shout out to Tea Bozzie. My g oh, yeah,
And I had said to him, I go, would you mind?
And I hated asking him because like the second time
we're hanging out, would you mind helping me make a
TikTok video? It's like attacking that that's going to be
such a turn off. He's like, you had no problem
turn this way. The lighting's better.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
I'm like, is this dreams a guy that's in the industry,
which is maybe what you need not to like again,
not to put too much pressure on it, but this
is like the type of guy that like understands the biz, right, So,
like I said, I don't want to jinx it because
you never know what may or may not happen.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
I have to see, like how it goes.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
Everything's always great in the beginning. Always you need a
nickname for Do we need a nickname? Or you want
to go on one more date?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I think you need maybe yeah, because.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Right now I feel like, right now my nickname for
him is mister movie phone. No. No, if you know
the name of the movie, I like to call him
like blue eyes. His eyes are gorgeous, they're these blue Frankie,
but no, because he's also French.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Exactly, frenchie.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
No, how about friend friend, Francois.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
All right, we'll wait on the nickname. Okay, make sure
I'm still like I'm still waiting.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
I hate to say this, but like I'm waiting for
the other shoe to drop, I'm waiting for some sort
of ick to happen, like this is a sex in
the City episode.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Is that's so funny? Oh my god, Francois, But onto
you day, tell you and your moves. Oh my gosh,
I have to tell you. I am so happy in
my new apartment. I have never slept so well in
my entire life.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
See that, and you were so Oh my god. I'm
gonna miss my pleas on the beach. I'm gonna miss
my balcony. What's it like without the beach though?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Do you know this is a weird, weird I don't
go outside as much like every morning I would go
out on my balcony.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Are you looking out the window th every day?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
I am?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
You know, in the in the warmer months, you're gonna
have a rooftop.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yes, so that's when I'll start my ddy on the rooftop.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Do they have barbecues up there?
Speaker 2 (10:08):
They have barbecues, they have fire pits everything.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Oh, we're coming over.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Yeah, And in the courtyard they have the same thing.
And then they have like a life sized chess board.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
So the they're like shuffle board. No, like chess.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Oh, so it's they're actually your size, Wendy.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Oh, I've seen those.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
They have those whenever you travel, Like I remember when
I was like in Jamaica, we say you are you
like the pawd or the pieces are the size of you.
So you physically picked them up like a human and
you walk them. It sounds like too much work. I'll
show you a.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Picture, but yeah, I actually moved with piece of cake,
which you.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Told me all about.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
And I had the best experience with them.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
I had so much fun with them.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
So first there was four guys that came and then
they called the fifth guy. They're like this broad's got
so many pairs of shoes.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Carry Bradshaw.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
I had two guys, three guys. I think that four
is a lot five five, five guys and.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
God guys, I know.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
And then at the end I surprised them with a
cake and I cut them all a piece of cake
and they were still.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Piece of cake. A piece of cake.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah, they said, never has anyone done that, so I
feel kind of special, and.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Now everybody's going to follow in your footsteps, right, maybe
I start.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
I have a question about the pink bins though, yes,
they give you Like when I moved, I just used
round boxes. They give you these pink bins.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
To borrow, but they give you a week. I think too, right,
that gives you a timeframe you have to unpack your stuff.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Guess what I did?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Unpacked all your stuff.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I unpacked everything that night. What I unpacked all fifty bins?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Fifty that night.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
How shoes do you have?
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:50):
You girls, are you gonna donate some of these?
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Come on, I've been going through them, Yes, and I
have I have a lot. But yes, not only wore
my shoes in there. It was everything else. But my
best friends came over. They're like, we're gonna help you
all right, great, because.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I'm like, I'm so not an organizer. Unpacked.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
So we unpacked like twenty eight bins together and I
unpacked the rest. After they left, I was up until
two in the morning, and then the next day I
had to go do an event. So then they came
on Monday and picked up the bins. They were like shocked,
Maxwell's probably still unpacking his He's.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Gonna have to pay a fee for keeping the I
have a question because I remember this specifically.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
When I moved last year, I had a full on
panic attack because the kitchen was so disorganized. I couldn't
find It was my spaghetti strainer that sent me over
the edge. What was the one item that you couldn't
find right off the bat that kind of gave you
a little Odjita.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Oh, that's a great question.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Probably a hairdryer for her. She probably packed that in
like her yet she carried that. She's like safe keeping,
It's not gonna lose this one.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
No, So we we Actually, my friends and I organized
the entire kitchen when they were over. I just did
my bathroom the other day, so I.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Had to do those two.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
But it's funny because I was looking for my bras
right and I.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Was like, I name it Ira nowadays.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I know, but I like a little push up, you know.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
So I'm like looking for my bras and I was like,
where the hell did I put on? I'm like, oh
my god, where are they? I forgot I unpacked my
bras at that night, like at one o'clock in the morning,
I totally forgot so here I am like going crazy them.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
Oh my god, Oh my cra.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
That's what happens when you unpacked when you're half asleep.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
Yeah, I was half asleep.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Was that kind of nice?
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Though, you've now officially gone through it and you're more organized,
You've gotten you probably got rid of a lot of stuff,
and I need Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I just put a whole big box together of clothes
last night, so I have let's see, I have six
bags of clothes nice and three bags of shoes so
far that I'm going to donate good And then I
donated ten.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
Oh yeah, me too, drive I did, I did three.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
I have I think four or five. I have a
bag sitting in my kitchen right now, well like my
my dining room area, where I'm like, every time I
walk out in the morning, I forget to grab it,
don't forget to grab it over soon, I'm gonna do
it tomorrow.
Speaker 4 (14:24):
We have a coat drive happening here and the ship
with peafood right which is amazing. And you know what,
I donated two of my winter coats, but I also
had this one coat from doctor Nebraska.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Sorry mister Nebraska.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
Just to be catty, let's yeah, let's let's downgrade. I
honestly only kept it because I liked the way it looked.
I loved that androgynist look. But I thought it was time.
I said to her, I'm like, you gotta get that
negative energy. Yes, I don't need any of his ship.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
That's why I moved. I got a new car. I
was like, all negative energy out.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Anything from the past has got to go going into
twenty twenty seve It's got to be fresh, like you.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
Yeah, yeah, only good vibes, good vibes only.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Oh yeah, no negativity, Yeah, keep that shit in twenty
twenty five.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Twenty twenty five was such a weird year, by the way,
And I don't know if you're so a good year
for me, well.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Kind of sort of, And look it's weird. I'm happy.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Yeah, you had n up and down.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Up and down. But I feel old true because you
got you got.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
The morning show here with Hollywood Hamilton and the KT
Morning twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
But you had the whole year.
Speaker 4 (15:25):
To really expand upon the show and really build build.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
It up and build up the brand.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
But I think for most people, and I saw this
in the prep yesterday, it still might be there. I
don't know, but I saw that most people would not
give this an A plus rating.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Really yeah, I mean I read that too.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Listen every year, I would never give an A plus rating.
How about a B plus? I would probably give it
a B plus because you know, I've had a couple
of like not going to say bad things, but just
non incredible things, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (15:56):
Yeah, every year has its ups and downs. It's like
how you look at things.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Wow, I know I was just looking at that. She's
talking about jingle Ball for Chris.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Yeah, Darren, Chris is going to be there.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Look at this channel we look I love so for
everybody just listening. Yeah, I keeped Fox five on because
I watch all my Fox five peeps, Mike loves yeah,
like Rosanna, everybody that we watch. But no, it's funny
because Emily Curl, who's part of our iHeart family, is
on there right now. And it's funny because I'm the
only one facing the TV as we're doing this.
Speaker 5 (16:32):
Podcast, and they see my face like at it, they turned.
I'm like, sorry, guys, I didn't mean to distress. So
three eighty HD girls step into her room. Actually two
and a half maybe who's the half you.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Oh my god, oh my goodness. Wait, what's been going
on with you, Wendy.
Speaker 4 (16:49):
I mean, besides the hell thing, you know, I've been
doing a lot of stuff around the house. It's like
a never ending thing. I've been taking care of a
lot of cats outside.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
You're such a cat, lad, You're a cat.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I'm proud. I'm owning that. I'm owning that.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
I actually had one of my stray cats had a
wound on his side. It looked like he got into
a little I know, did I tell you this?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
He gotti a fight.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
He got a big bite mark, giant bite mark, and
it was a jump scare this little boy. So remember,
I can't handle and pick up a lot of these cats.
They're wild animals. But you know, I called all my resources.
There's John Tobacker, who is one of the biggest rescuers
out on Long Island. He was obviously weird. For Thanksgiving.
I reached out a bunch of people, all my vet friends,
(17:34):
and eventually I got my hands on this antibiotic meant
for cats, and I was like, well, I'm going to
get my face mauled off.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Watch this.
Speaker 4 (17:40):
I can't even touch this cat, I'm going to apply
medication to a deep wound.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Okay, and you know what I did it. He allowed it.
It gets better. He's now a lot better. He's doing
much better. It healed, and then I'll get to apply
it more than once.
Speaker 4 (17:57):
I only did it the one time, but my vet friend,
my vet friend thought it was on its way to
healing anyway. But wait the other day, I wake up
and now there's a dead bird.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
They bring her thank you gifts.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
And then just this morning, he shows up at the
back door and heat. Do you know when cats do
a slow blank at you, that's how they say they
love you.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Oh, I didn't know. It's it's their version of a kiss.
Speaker 4 (18:20):
So we like to kiss our animals, but cats they
do this, They like kind of slowly blink a little
squinty blink a squint in the open and close. And
he shows up on my back door just to do that.
So I was like, you're you're welcome, but I'm good
with you. Don't have to send birds, but like, I'm good,
I don't need birds or snakes. They like to do
snakes in the summer. I know it's disgusting.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
So how many cats do we have now in the backyard.
Speaker 4 (18:42):
Well, I am a two regular girls that I look
out for. I have a little like I built a
little house for them.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Oh, I had someone help me with that. She so
much straw got cat house. This is important.
Speaker 4 (18:53):
Straw is for strays, hay is for horses because straw
is actually insulating, so it helps keep them warm. Something
to remember if you're gonna be building community houses for cats.
And I have my two girls, and then the two
kittens showed up over the summer, so I look out.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
For them too.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
And now there's like a random straggler that shows up,
but mostly just four.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
They're calling, They're calling the whole team in the neighborhood
that I know. They're like, we know, we know a woman,
come join them.
Speaker 6 (19:17):
Yeah, And it's funny because you know stra woman. They
really look very healthy for stray cats. So do you
think that they might be indoor outdoor cats or are
they straight?
Speaker 4 (19:27):
You know, Eric from down the hall told me, he's like,
how many cats you got in your house? He's trying
to make sure I stay a non crazy cat lady. Oh,
you only have your one, my one baby. He is
kind of an only child situation. There is one that
is so friendly that I would consider it down the road.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
But we'll see how that goes. Like, okay, next door,
I can see in twenty twenty six, she's gonna be like,
I have three cats in my house now. I think it.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
Gets my obligation to watch out for people and mostly animals.
I have this like attraction to them, to prot to
animals that need my help. I love that cats, dogs,
any any animal. That's also a big green flag for me.
When somebody loves.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Animals, yea, and to go back to him he's a
big animal lover. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:17):
I also want to say this because I was talking
to you about a couple of things before you went
on your date, or maybe it was after. So how
someone treats strangers, you watch out for that. You also
see if they are interested in you. Are they asking
you questions and they are listening to you too? Are
they listening to you? After the whole doctor Nebraska fiasco
A couple months later, I had gone on one date
(20:38):
and this guy he only wanted to talk about his
special interests.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
He had no interest in asking me any questions.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
But I don't know why. I was like, let me
give him another chance, and then what happened? He texts me,
and I think it was a thoughtful gesture. It was
like the Jewish holiday of Yom kipor. Now I'm not
particularly religious, but he writes to me happy Yom kipor.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
Oh Gosh, which if you're not Jewish.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Right, not know, Henry pout. I think I did that
two to you once and then you did, but politely
I said it to you. I said it yes, or
you know you asked first, you said what how do
I wish you?
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Uh, how do you recognize it? And Henry p d
I know is listening right now, and he will. He's
probably cringing so hard at this. So I wasn't gonna
let it go. And I said, you know what, what
if he says this is somebody else, like his boss
or something, I mean, that's embarrassing because it's like it's
a very solemn holiday for most people who observe this.
I wouldn't say celebrate, I would say observe. So I said, hey,
(21:34):
I'm like, that's such a kind, thoughtful gesture.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
I just wanted to quick correction.
Speaker 4 (21:39):
It's kind of a solemn holiday, so traditionally you say,
I hope you have a meaningful holiday is probably more appropriate.
And he doubles down and he goes, well, I have
a friend who's Jewish who jokes around about it and says,
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
And that was it.
Speaker 4 (21:55):
I said, by Felicia, by Felicia and block because somebody
who's gonna fight.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Back on that guy?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, and especially on something that you're not really knowledgeable on.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:06):
And I was like, okay, if it's something and this
was like a small thing. I guess he just wanted
to be right, and that was such a red flag
that I was like at that point, I said, you know, what,
do I really need.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
To be dating? Do I?
Speaker 2 (22:18):
Am?
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I desperate to find somebody. See, it's these little things
that turn you off. And like people don't understand. This
is why I've taken off so much time from dating,
because the little things that turned me off just turn
me off. And I'm not trying to say that it
won't give me the opportunity to give somebody else a chance,
But it's like it takes you to reach you Aret.
It was the meme you sent me.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
We are providing all of the things that we need
for ourselves, right, So if you don't have anything to
bring to the table.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
I don't need you.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
I don't need you to fight me over my holidays.
Tell me that no it's okay to say happy Yom
Kipoor because it's not. And that was the point for
me that said, I'm going to take a step back.
I'm going to turn off any kind of apps because
I don't need it in my life. And actually, after
a couple of weeks, I felt so much better. I
felt a weight come off my shoulders.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Because we don't need it. If you want it, that's
you know, that's something else. This is why to me,
I feel like everyone's a learning experience because you do
start to see the things that you like and don't
like in a person. So then for the next person,
I almost feel bad in a way too, because then
the next person gets the brunt of what you dealt
with in the past, because now you know the things
you don't want to deal with. So now it's like
(23:26):
I feel like I'm interrogating a new person to make
sure they don't have these qualities.
Speaker 4 (23:30):
That's not interrogating, but you can just turn it off
as soon as you see something you don't like. Everybody
loved Doctor Nebraska he was a nice.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Guy to the outside world. Yes, but then you.
Speaker 4 (23:41):
Know, I would see some cracks, but I would constantly
make excuses because he was We all do good.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Enough, right, because that's a settle and we've all been there.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
But I'd watch him be very immature with how to
handle conflict, like not so much with me, but he'd
come home from work and be completely bent out of
shape over something, and I had to emotionally regulate him,
like that's not my responsibility.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
That I know.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
You were telling me a story that you wanted to
share about paper towels.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Oh my god, I've been wanting to we talk about
it before we go.
Speaker 4 (24:09):
Yes, and I'm sorry if I'm monopolizing the whole podcast.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Oh you're not at all.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
Okay, this is really for everyone, but I will say this,
this is such a telling sign that things are not
right in your situation. So, and this goes back to
the financials of it all. Technically speaking, he could have
handled a lot more of the financial burden. But like I,
as a man, should because I really think it matters.
Like I know, but I'm still very old school, and
I really do feel that you should have not let
(24:35):
a man feel that he can take advantage like move
in with you and then only handle a very small
person exactly of the cost of everything else, which you know,
I had felt bad. I was like, he has student loans,
he's got this.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Can't make it.
Speaker 4 (24:47):
It was my apartment first. I was handling it on
my own.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Before he came along. Like again, he has to come
in and bring what you've already been able to provide
for yourself.
Speaker 4 (24:56):
This should have been fifty to fifty a man supposed
to be the provider. I'm just saying, not only was
there just a percentage happening, I also handled all of
the supplies for the household.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
Are you a bounty or a I'm a bounty girl.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
I do bounty too.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
I like select size. I've tried Brownie, They're okay.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
I certainly even done like the no name like no
no Algre, which is so crappy, but like that's if
I'm on. Like that was when I was like struggling
a little bit, but like, yeah, I do the bounty.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
And I had noticed his paper towel habits were really crazy.
Now listen, I know that he had four cats, but again,
I'm paying for paper towels, and I asked Alexa recently.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
I was like, how much am I paying.
Speaker 4 (25:34):
On average for paper towels versus how much I was
paying back in twenty twenty two, And it was like.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Alexa does your spreadsheets?
Speaker 4 (25:40):
I mean, I get most of my stuff on Amazon, so.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
I pay half. I am paying half.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Now I would see him do things like just purposely
be wasteful with so like doing what he had to
have this very fancy coffee subscription which I paid for.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
No, what did he want? He should have paid for it,
I know. And it was like one hundred dollars a
month for this car.
Speaker 5 (26:03):
One hundred dollars a month, yells, miss coffee.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Oh my god, this is.
Speaker 4 (26:09):
A judgment free zone. Like it's harder to see the
stuff when you're in it, I know. So he would
ground his coffee and then he would fill these little
like reusable k cups. But when he would empty them,
now he would drink so much coffee.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
He would have four of these and he would bring
he would have two. It was only taking advantage of
that subscription.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
If you're gonna empty these reusable cups, wouldn't you just
take it over to the garbage and just take a spoon.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
And go whack whack. Yeah, oh my, So he'd take
him to a paper towel.
Speaker 4 (26:35):
He would take four hundred paper towels, lining them on
the counter, and then he would whack them into the
paper towels and yeah, like they're whack. And then he
would take and then he would take like a big
but he would just ball up the paper towels.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
It looks like the size of like like not even
back a basketball.
Speaker 4 (26:51):
And then he would walk the one or two steps
to the garbage candy.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Away to drop the big ball and paper towel when
he could have.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
Just walked them over one at a time to whack
them straight into the garbage. Because I think, when and
this is the lesson here, when someone else is covering
the costs of these.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
Things, you don't think about it or you don't care.
You don't care. Yeah, whenever you're the one paying for something,
it feels like people do take advantage because they're like,
I'm not paying for this, I could just do whatever
I want. No, absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Right, Well, guess what I'm getting you for Hanukah?
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Paper towel, paper down would be honestly, that's a great gift.
She would be so happy with that, let's get hurt.
You know what we should get her thestrial size.
Speaker 4 (27:32):
I like the triple size of the select, the SELECTI
side little squares that come off. Yeah, I like those.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Yes, yes, yes, you know it's so funny. I do
love paper towels. And every time I use a paper
towel now, I always think of you, because.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
When you told me that story, I'm like, I.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Was like, am I just using it too much? Now?
Especially when I get to the last piece, I'm like,
oh my god, I finished the role? How long did
that roll last? When they have approved?
Speaker 4 (27:54):
Like, it's not how much you use, because you're being
you're probably being being mindful full of what you're doing,
and if you need to wipe your hands, you can
use a hand towel. It's just it's just funny how
other people treat.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
And sometimes I just use my legs depends on my pants,
you know, I just wipe them on the side.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (28:12):
But like, there's no need to do two hundred paper
towels to whack four things when you could have just
done it.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Strange, So things like that, you know what now I
feel like doing buying a whole thing of paper towels
just to wrap him up like a damn mummy and
toss him somewhere. We gave a little extra today. I'm like,
I used up all the wasn't you at all? We
had a lot to talk about?
Speaker 2 (28:32):
D D.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Do you have anything else to add before we go?
Speaker 2 (28:34):
Nah?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Anything on your mind? You have a busy weekend ahead.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Yes, I have jingle Ball and Powa sessions, and then uh,
I fly out to DC next Tuesday for jingle Ball there,
come home Wednesday. I come back here on Thursday, and
then Friday, me and my girlfriends that I grew up with,
we're staying in the city and we're gonna go to.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
All the holiday happenings in Manhattan.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
No horse in your own city.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And for me this weekend it's my sister's engagement party.
Picture to Arissa and Anthony. I'm so excited for them, gratulation.
I'm happy, and I'm just like, Wow, my baby sister's
getting married.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
What so crazy?
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Wild?
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Like I don't even know what to say or think.
Maybe it'll be a meet cute at the wedding.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
She's so much younger than me. That'll talk about you know,
thank you I don't want to do any of her friends.
They're too young. But then again, nowadays, what anything goes? Right?
I know?
Speaker 4 (29:30):
Yeah, really I look at Kim control right, Oh my god. Yeah,
why don't we keep talking about sex and the city.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
I don't know, but on that note, not right.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
We are gonna go, guys, We're gonna go.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
We'll catch you again as soon as we can, possibly
next week, hopefully next week. Yeah, I'll be there with
my bounty. So on social media, I'm Astra.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
On the air, I'm Wendy Wild Radio, and I'm Danielle.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
And together we are tails over cottages. And with that said, ladies,
great now for real, yes, for real, cheer us
Wow, get me cocktails. I'm Wendy, I'm Astra, and I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Danielle, and we are tails over cocktails, where the stories
are real, the laughs are loud, and there's always something
to sip on. Hey, how you doing.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
It's a weekly mix of absolute chaos, cocktails and way
too honest conversations.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hold up a.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Chair and pour something. It's about to get fun.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Whoa like my grandmother with me right now?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Me too?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Holding it in man.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
And we went from like the Balls podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
To the we have to pee every five minutes?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Who's got a diaper?
Speaker 3 (00:51):
I don't got tapers on?
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Oh my goodness. Well we're back. It's another week. I
think we skipped last week, but that's it's been al
was a holiday, you know? We did do last week?
Didn't know was there Thanksgiving? Less holiday? It was a holiday.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I can't remember the days.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I can't either. I feel like everything when the holidays
come in, I can't remember anything because all I know
is it goes from Thanksgiving to Christmas, Hanukah to New
Year's to Yeah, it's like.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
If my time just passes. You buy so much faster
than it used to.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yes, the older we get, the quicker it goes and
I believed my parents and they used to say that.
I was like it would always take forever for the
summer to read. I thought it was an eternity, right,
And now it's like the summer already my winter coat.
I pulled out the winter coat the other day.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
But I've been in winter wellils in her winter coat
now a reason.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I have the Canada Goose and I'm not gonna lie.
It does not keep me warm. What oh my god mine.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
I have two of them and I keep me so warm.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I wore it in my classroom last night. I was
freezing in my classroom and I was kept me warm.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I might have the wrong version that I looked it
up and it says that it's like one.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Of the Canada Loose, not Canada.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I can't.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
I can personally cannot do Canada Goose because of the
animal advocacy that I do. But I have the viral
orola from Amazon that everybody was talking about, and it
actually does keep me warm.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Really. Yes, I was told to go on Amazon and
get those jackets that heat up.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
One.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
It sounds like a fire hazard. No no, no, you plug it in,
you like charge it, charge your charge, your jacket and
then you wear it and it's warm, and I feel
like that's what I need because I can't function in
this weather.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
My sister word at the Thanksgiving Day parade and she
was I was freezing and she was fine, Yeah, it
was not.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
You just charge it like you charge your phone.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
But how long does it last? That's the question?
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Like all day? Five six hours with it?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
That's the name of this.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
Yeah, we're gonna not sponsored, by the way, no, although
you know it is so funny.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I had seen how Kim Kardashian had posted that she's
got a new skims like collab with north Face, I
think it is, and they have these like puffer jackets
ones Ago all the way down to your ankle and
you look like this big like marshmallow man. I'm like,
that's what I think I need.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
I think we are past the puffer stage and we're
onto the parka stagecause he's in our winter here in
the Northeast, because we don't know where our listeners are
tuned in right right.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
It's horrible though. People are like, aren't you from New York.
I'm like born and raised and I'm still not used
to the cold. I'll never get used to this cold.
You know. It's really odd.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
People have been asking me if the cold weather affects
my condition.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Does it? No? Really no, I mean I think it's.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
More like wet weather about to come in that affects
it more. But I was standing outside waiting for the
train the other day and I was like, you know,
I feel like rejuvenated in a way.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I don't like.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Being cold in the studio when I'm inside, but if
I'm expecting it to be cold outside, I don't mind
it so much as long as I'm wearing the proper gear.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
What's the condition again? In case people are just tuning in.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
Sure. So we've talked about this before, and probably more
so on my podcast Life Bites with Wendy Wild, which
lately we've been simulcasting this. Sorry about that, but it's
called fibromyalgia, which is the pain disease, and nobody really
knows where it comes from. It's one of those diseases
that is diagnosed after they rule out everything else, all
of the autoimmune diseases, and it's your pain receptor is
(04:08):
just going crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
They go off the hook. Is there anything you can
take or do to help it? Not really.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
There are some lifestyle changes. The funny thing is is
most doctors will prescribe walking and exercise.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Mean while.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
It's in my legs, and I have a lot of
trouble with stairs, but I try, you know, I still
work out and I have good days. And but I
will say that, uh, there are some some drugs that
may help. We're going to discuss that. Actually have a
doctors appointment tomorrow, so we're gonna see.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
How that goes. Okay, keep posting, but yeah, but the
cold weather.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Like I think I'm the only one that's kind of
thriving in it right now.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Oh, it does just keep me awake.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
All it does is make my bones freeze so much
that I wish that I could just, I don't know,
walk around with like a heated blanket. That's what I
always say. I'm like, I need either a heated blanket
or like a heavy man to put over me that
I could just like, well, you hold on on a second.
That is such a good transition, because I got something.
I got some breaking news. Well I won't call it.
(05:08):
I don't want to jinxxid.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Well, we can just like keep the expect expectations low
and see all right, all right, I finally have dipped
my toe back into the dating pool.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Finally. I've been single over seven years and I know
and I'm like, you know what, I've been trying to date,
but like COVID had come along, couldn't really date during
that time. And then when I did date somebody at
that point, I went out with this guy and come
to find out he was married, and I was like, Okay,
why don't you tell me on the first date. He
waits till the second date to tell me, right, So
(05:40):
then I was like, well, I'm not going to hang
out these guys anymore. Then I went out with like
another one or two guys, but it's always a one
and done because I'm never fully interested. Do you get
the ick?
Speaker 4 (05:47):
Do you go on a date and somebody does something
small that just gives me like they have like a
like a boogie in their nose, or you don't like
the way they pick up their fork, or if there's
a crook.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
It like, I'm all about like aesthetically pleasing and if
you're you know, if your teeth are crooked, and I
mean listen, I don't want somebody to be like, oh
my god, my teeth are cooked, well, you can go
fix them. It's not like it's not fixable. Things that
are fixable you can fix, you know. So it's like
those things are just not a turn on from dirty
fingernails app So I always look at the fingernails if
there's any like blackness under there, I'm like, no way.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
If you're not putting the care into taking care of yourself,
especially before, I.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Don't want to know I'm waist down then if your
nails are gross. I heard I met this guy. Technically
we kind of like we kind of connected like last
year on social media. But I was just like, oh,
I don't think this guy is real. I don't know why.
I thought maybe that it was like a bot page,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
Any Fair, he is very handsome and has a blue
check mark, so right off the bat, I would have
thought he was about to right because I was just like, well.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
It shows that he's like into acting and like sports
and all this stuff, like he's like in kickboxing, and
I'm just like, this guy seems like too good to
be true, perfect right, exactly perfect, He doesn't he does it.
His eyes are so beautiful. But anyway, so we finally
made time to meet up, and he was such a gentleman.
He was so nice, he was so sweet, and I
(07:09):
was just like wow, Like I was kind of shy
and scared because and you know me, I'm usually not
but I'm like, my gosh, this guy's really cool. And
then he wanted to hang out again and I was like, oh, okay.
So then we hung out again, and I was a.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Fact is I mean, you were telling me about how
it went and all the green flags for instance, like
really showing interest in wanting to see you again, but
not just saying it vaguely, saying what are you doing
on this particular day? That shows interest and having a
plan in mind, having a plan in mind. Also, he
you know, most guys, they will say, are usually pretty
(07:43):
turned off by women and their presence on social media,
and that's kind of your job, right, But it's.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
Also kind of his shop, which is great, where he
was like, let me find the right writing for me
to take a picture of you.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
How about this?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I asked him to help me with a TikTok for
my friend's brand because she's promoting you know, her skincare line.
Big shout out to Tea Bozzie. My g oh, yeah,
And I had said to him, I go, would you mind?
And I hated asking him because like the second time
we're hanging out, would you mind helping me make a
TikTok video? It's like attacking that that's going to be
such a turn off. He's like, you had no problem
turn this way. The lighting's better.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
I'm like, is this dreams a guy that's in the industry,
which is maybe what you need not to like again,
not to put too much pressure on it, but this
is like the type of guy that like understands the biz, right, So,
like I said, I don't want to jinx it because
you never know what may or may not happen.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
I have to see, like how it goes.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
Everything's always great in the beginning. Always you need a
nickname for Do we need a nickname? Or you want
to go on one more date?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I think you need maybe yeah, because.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Right now I feel like, right now my nickname for
him is mister movie phone. No. No, if you know
the name of the movie, I like to call him
like blue eyes. His eyes are gorgeous, they're these blue Frankie,
but no, because he's also French.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Exactly, frenchie.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
No, how about friend friend, Francois.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
All right, we'll wait on the nickname. Okay, make sure
I'm still like I'm still waiting.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
I hate to say this, but like I'm waiting for
the other shoe to drop, I'm waiting for some sort
of ick to happen, like this is a sex in
the City episode.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Is that's so funny? Oh my god, Francois, But onto
you day, tell you and your moves. Oh my gosh,
I have to tell you. I am so happy in
my new apartment. I have never slept so well in
my entire life.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
See that, and you were so Oh my god. I'm
gonna miss my pleas on the beach. I'm gonna miss
my balcony. What's it like without the beach though?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Do you know this is a weird, weird I don't
go outside as much like every morning I would go
out on my balcony.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Are you looking out the window th every day?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
I am?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
You know, in the in the warmer months, you're gonna
have a rooftop.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yes, so that's when I'll start my ddy on the rooftop.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Do they have barbecues up there?
Speaker 2 (10:08):
They have barbecues, they have fire pits everything.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Oh, we're coming over.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Yeah, And in the courtyard they have the same thing.
And then they have like a life sized chess board.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
So the they're like shuffle board. No, like chess.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Oh, so it's they're actually your size, Wendy.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Oh, I've seen those.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
They have those whenever you travel, Like I remember when
I was like in Jamaica, we say you are you
like the pawd or the pieces are the size of you.
So you physically picked them up like a human and
you walk them. It sounds like too much work. I'll
show you a.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Picture, but yeah, I actually moved with piece of cake,
which you.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Told me all about.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
And I had the best experience with them.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
I had so much fun with them.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
So first there was four guys that came and then
they called the fifth guy. They're like this broad's got
so many pairs of shoes.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Carry Bradshaw.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
I had two guys, three guys. I think that four
is a lot five five, five guys and.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
God guys, I know.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
And then at the end I surprised them with a
cake and I cut them all a piece of cake
and they were still.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Piece of cake. A piece of cake.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah, they said, never has anyone done that, so I
feel kind of special, and.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Now everybody's going to follow in your footsteps, right, maybe
I start.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
I have a question about the pink bins though, yes,
they give you Like when I moved, I just used
round boxes. They give you these pink bins.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
To borrow, but they give you a week. I think too, right,
that gives you a timeframe you have to unpack your stuff.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Guess what I did?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Unpacked all your stuff.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I unpacked everything that night. What I unpacked all fifty bins?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Fifty that night.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
How shoes do you have?
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:50):
You girls, are you gonna donate some of these?
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Come on, I've been going through them, Yes, and I
have I have a lot. But yes, not only wore
my shoes in there. It was everything else. But my
best friends came over. They're like, we're gonna help you
all right, great, because.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I'm like, I'm so not an organizer. Unpacked.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
So we unpacked like twenty eight bins together and I
unpacked the rest. After they left, I was up until
two in the morning, and then the next day I
had to go do an event. So then they came
on Monday and picked up the bins. They were like shocked,
Maxwell's probably still unpacking his He's.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Gonna have to pay a fee for keeping the I
have a question because I remember this specifically.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
When I moved last year, I had a full on
panic attack because the kitchen was so disorganized. I couldn't
find It was my spaghetti strainer that sent me over
the edge. What was the one item that you couldn't
find right off the bat that kind of gave you
a little Odjita.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Oh, that's a great question.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Probably a hairdryer for her. She probably packed that in
like her yet she carried that. She's like safe keeping,
It's not gonna lose this one.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
No, So we we Actually, my friends and I organized
the entire kitchen when they were over. I just did
my bathroom the other day, so I.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Had to do those two.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
But it's funny because I was looking for my bras
right and I.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Was like, I name it Ira nowadays.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I know, but I like a little push up, you know.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
So I'm like looking for my bras and I was like,
where the hell did I put on? I'm like, oh
my god, where are they? I forgot I unpacked my
bras at that night, like at one o'clock in the morning,
I totally forgot so here I am like going crazy them.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
Oh my god, Oh my cra.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
That's what happens when you unpacked when you're half asleep.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
Yeah, I was half asleep.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Was that kind of nice?
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Though, you've now officially gone through it and you're more organized,
You've gotten you probably got rid of a lot of stuff,
and I need Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I just put a whole big box together of clothes
last night, so I have let's see, I have six
bags of clothes nice and three bags of shoes so
far that I'm going to donate good And then I
donated ten.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
Oh yeah, me too, drive I did, I did three.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
I have I think four or five. I have a
bag sitting in my kitchen right now, well like my
my dining room area, where I'm like, every time I
walk out in the morning, I forget to grab it,
don't forget to grab it over soon, I'm gonna do
it tomorrow.
Speaker 4 (14:24):
We have a coat drive happening here and the ship
with peafood right which is amazing. And you know what,
I donated two of my winter coats, but I also
had this one coat from doctor Nebraska.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Sorry mister Nebraska.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
Just to be catty, let's yeah, let's let's downgrade. I
honestly only kept it because I liked the way it looked.
I loved that androgynist look. But I thought it was time.
I said to her, I'm like, you gotta get that
negative energy. Yes, I don't need any of his ship.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
That's why I moved. I got a new car. I
was like, all negative energy out.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Anything from the past has got to go going into
twenty twenty seve It's got to be fresh, like you.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
Yeah, yeah, only good vibes, good vibes only.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Oh yeah, no negativity, Yeah, keep that shit in twenty
twenty five.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Twenty twenty five was such a weird year, by the way,
And I don't know if you're so a good year
for me, well.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Kind of sort of, And look it's weird. I'm happy.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Yeah, you had n up and down.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Up and down. But I feel old true because you
got you got.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
The morning show here with Hollywood Hamilton and the KT
Morning twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
But you had the whole year.
Speaker 4 (15:25):
To really expand upon the show and really build build.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
It up and build up the brand.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
But I think for most people, and I saw this
in the prep yesterday, it still might be there. I
don't know, but I saw that most people would not
give this an A plus rating.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Really yeah, I mean I read that too.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Listen every year, I would never give an A plus rating.
How about a B plus? I would probably give it
a B plus because you know, I've had a couple
of like not going to say bad things, but just
non incredible things, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (15:56):
Yeah, every year has its ups and downs. It's like
how you look at things.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Wow, I know I was just looking at that. She's
talking about jingle Ball for Chris.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Yeah, Darren, Chris is going to be there.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Look at this channel we look I love so for
everybody just listening. Yeah, I keeped Fox five on because
I watch all my Fox five peeps, Mike loves yeah,
like Rosanna, everybody that we watch. But no, it's funny
because Emily Curl, who's part of our iHeart family, is
on there right now. And it's funny because I'm the
only one facing the TV as we're doing this.
Speaker 5 (16:32):
Podcast, and they see my face like at it, they turned.
I'm like, sorry, guys, I didn't mean to distress. So
three eighty HD girls step into her room. Actually two
and a half maybe who's the half you.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Oh my god, oh my goodness. Wait, what's been going
on with you, Wendy.
Speaker 4 (16:49):
I mean, besides the hell thing, you know, I've been
doing a lot of stuff around the house. It's like
a never ending thing. I've been taking care of a
lot of cats outside.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
You're such a cat, lad, You're a cat.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I'm proud. I'm owning that. I'm owning that.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
I actually had one of my stray cats had a
wound on his side. It looked like he got into
a little I know, did I tell you this?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
He gotti a fight.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
He got a big bite mark, giant bite mark, and
it was a jump scare this little boy. So remember,
I can't handle and pick up a lot of these cats.
They're wild animals. But you know, I called all my resources.
There's John Tobacker, who is one of the biggest rescuers
out on Long Island. He was obviously weird. For Thanksgiving.
I reached out a bunch of people, all my vet friends,
(17:34):
and eventually I got my hands on this antibiotic meant
for cats, and I was like, well, I'm going to
get my face mauled off.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Watch this.
Speaker 4 (17:40):
I can't even touch this cat, I'm going to apply
medication to a deep wound.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Okay, and you know what I did it. He allowed it.
It gets better. He's now a lot better. He's doing
much better. It healed, and then I'll get to apply
it more than once.
Speaker 4 (17:57):
I only did it the one time, but my vet friend,
my vet friend thought it was on its way to
healing anyway. But wait the other day, I wake up
and now there's a dead bird.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
They bring her thank you gifts.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
And then just this morning, he shows up at the
back door and heat. Do you know when cats do
a slow blank at you, that's how they say they
love you.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Oh, I didn't know. It's it's their version of a kiss.
Speaker 4 (18:20):
So we like to kiss our animals, but cats they
do this, They like kind of slowly blink a little
squinty blink a squint in the open and close. And
he shows up on my back door just to do that.
So I was like, you're you're welcome, but I'm good
with you. Don't have to send birds, but like, I'm good,
I don't need birds or snakes. They like to do
snakes in the summer. I know it's disgusting.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
So how many cats do we have now in the backyard.
Speaker 4 (18:42):
Well, I am a two regular girls that I look
out for. I have a little like I built a
little house for them.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Oh, I had someone help me with that. She so
much straw got cat house. This is important.
Speaker 4 (18:53):
Straw is for strays, hay is for horses because straw
is actually insulating, so it helps keep them warm. Something
to remember if you're gonna be building community houses for cats.
And I have my two girls, and then the two
kittens showed up over the summer, so I look out.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
For them too.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
And now there's like a random straggler that shows up,
but mostly just four.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
They're calling, They're calling the whole team in the neighborhood
that I know. They're like, we know, we know a woman,
come join them.
Speaker 6 (19:17):
Yeah, And it's funny because you know stra woman. They
really look very healthy for stray cats. So do you
think that they might be indoor outdoor cats or are
they straight?
Speaker 4 (19:27):
You know, Eric from down the hall told me, he's like,
how many cats you got in your house? He's trying
to make sure I stay a non crazy cat lady. Oh,
you only have your one, my one baby. He is
kind of an only child situation. There is one that
is so friendly that I would consider it down the road.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
But we'll see how that goes. Like, okay, next door,
I can see in twenty twenty six, she's gonna be like,
I have three cats in my house now. I think it.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
Gets my obligation to watch out for people and mostly animals.
I have this like attraction to them, to prot to
animals that need my help. I love that cats, dogs,
any any animal. That's also a big green flag for me.
When somebody loves.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Animals, yea, and to go back to him he's a
big animal lover. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:17):
I also want to say this because I was talking
to you about a couple of things before you went
on your date, or maybe it was after. So how
someone treats strangers, you watch out for that. You also
see if they are interested in you. Are they asking
you questions and they are listening to you too? Are
they listening to you? After the whole doctor Nebraska fiasco
A couple months later, I had gone on one date
(20:38):
and this guy he only wanted to talk about his
special interests.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
He had no interest in asking me any questions.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
But I don't know why. I was like, let me
give him another chance, and then what happened? He texts me,
and I think it was a thoughtful gesture. It was
like the Jewish holiday of Yom kipor. Now I'm not
particularly religious, but he writes to me happy Yom kipor.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
Oh Gosh, which if you're not Jewish.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Right, not know, Henry pout. I think I did that
two to you once and then you did, but politely
I said it to you. I said it yes, or
you know you asked first, you said what how do
I wish you?
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Uh, how do you recognize it? And Henry p d
I know is listening right now, and he will. He's
probably cringing so hard at this. So I wasn't gonna
let it go. And I said, you know what, what
if he says this is somebody else, like his boss
or something, I mean, that's embarrassing because it's like it's
a very solemn holiday for most people who observe this.
I wouldn't say celebrate, I would say observe. So I said, hey,
(21:34):
I'm like, that's such a kind, thoughtful gesture.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
I just wanted to quick correction.
Speaker 4 (21:39):
It's kind of a solemn holiday, so traditionally you say,
I hope you have a meaningful holiday is probably more appropriate.
And he doubles down and he goes, well, I have
a friend who's Jewish who jokes around about it and says,
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
And that was it.
Speaker 4 (21:55):
I said, by Felicia, by Felicia and block because somebody
who's gonna fight.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Back on that guy?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, and especially on something that you're not really knowledgeable on.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:06):
And I was like, okay, if it's something and this
was like a small thing. I guess he just wanted
to be right, and that was such a red flag
that I was like at that point, I said, you know, what,
do I really need.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
To be dating? Do I?
Speaker 2 (22:18):
Am?
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I desperate to find somebody. See, it's these little things
that turn you off. And like people don't understand. This
is why I've taken off so much time from dating,
because the little things that turned me off just turn
me off. And I'm not trying to say that it
won't give me the opportunity to give somebody else a chance,
But it's like it takes you to reach you Aret.
It was the meme you sent me.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
We are providing all of the things that we need
for ourselves, right, So if you don't have anything to
bring to the table.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
I don't need you.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
I don't need you to fight me over my holidays.
Tell me that no it's okay to say happy Yom
Kipoor because it's not. And that was the point for
me that said, I'm going to take a step back.
I'm going to turn off any kind of apps because
I don't need it in my life. And actually, after
a couple of weeks, I felt so much better. I
felt a weight come off my shoulders.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Because we don't need it. If you want it, that's
you know, that's something else. This is why to me,
I feel like everyone's a learning experience because you do
start to see the things that you like and don't
like in a person. So then for the next person,
I almost feel bad in a way too, because then
the next person gets the brunt of what you dealt
with in the past, because now you know the things
you don't want to deal with. So now it's like
(23:26):
I feel like I'm interrogating a new person to make
sure they don't have these qualities.
Speaker 4 (23:30):
That's not interrogating, but you can just turn it off
as soon as you see something you don't like. Everybody
loved Doctor Nebraska he was a nice.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Guy to the outside world. Yes, but then you.
Speaker 4 (23:41):
Know, I would see some cracks, but I would constantly
make excuses because he was We all do good.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Enough, right, because that's a settle and we've all been there.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
But I'd watch him be very immature with how to
handle conflict, like not so much with me, but he'd
come home from work and be completely bent out of
shape over something, and I had to emotionally regulate him,
like that's not my responsibility.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
That I know.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
You were telling me a story that you wanted to
share about paper towels.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Oh my god, I've been wanting to we talk about
it before we go.
Speaker 4 (24:09):
Yes, and I'm sorry if I'm monopolizing the whole podcast.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Oh you're not at all.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
Okay, this is really for everyone, but I will say this,
this is such a telling sign that things are not
right in your situation. So, and this goes back to
the financials of it all. Technically speaking, he could have
handled a lot more of the financial burden. But like I,
as a man, should because I really think it matters.
Like I know, but I'm still very old school, and
I really do feel that you should have not let
(24:35):
a man feel that he can take advantage like move
in with you and then only handle a very small
person exactly of the cost of everything else, which you know,
I had felt bad. I was like, he has student loans,
he's got this.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Can't make it.
Speaker 4 (24:47):
It was my apartment first. I was handling it on
my own.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Before he came along. Like again, he has to come
in and bring what you've already been able to provide
for yourself.
Speaker 4 (24:56):
This should have been fifty to fifty a man supposed
to be the provider. I'm just saying, not only was
there just a percentage happening, I also handled all of
the supplies for the household.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
Are you a bounty or a I'm a bounty girl.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
I do bounty too.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
I like select size. I've tried Brownie, They're okay.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
I certainly even done like the no name like no
no Algre, which is so crappy, but like that's if
I'm on. Like that was when I was like struggling
a little bit, but like, yeah, I do the bounty.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
And I had noticed his paper towel habits were really crazy.
Now listen, I know that he had four cats, but again,
I'm paying for paper towels, and I asked Alexa recently.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
I was like, how much am I paying.
Speaker 4 (25:34):
On average for paper towels versus how much I was
paying back in twenty twenty two, And it was like.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Alexa does your spreadsheets?
Speaker 4 (25:40):
I mean, I get most of my stuff on Amazon, so.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
I pay half. I am paying half.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Now I would see him do things like just purposely
be wasteful with so like doing what he had to
have this very fancy coffee subscription which I paid for.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
No, what did he want? He should have paid for it,
I know. And it was like one hundred dollars a
month for this car.
Speaker 5 (26:03):
One hundred dollars a month, yells, miss coffee.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Oh my god, this is.
Speaker 4 (26:09):
A judgment free zone. Like it's harder to see the
stuff when you're in it, I know. So he would
ground his coffee and then he would fill these little
like reusable k cups. But when he would empty them,
now he would drink so much coffee.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
He would have four of these and he would bring
he would have two. It was only taking advantage of
that subscription.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
If you're gonna empty these reusable cups, wouldn't you just
take it over to the garbage and just take a spoon.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
And go whack whack. Yeah, oh my, So he'd take
him to a paper towel.
Speaker 4 (26:35):
He would take four hundred paper towels, lining them on
the counter, and then he would whack them into the
paper towels and yeah, like they're whack. And then he
would take and then he would take like a big
but he would just ball up the paper towels.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
It looks like the size of like like not even
back a basketball.
Speaker 4 (26:51):
And then he would walk the one or two steps
to the garbage candy.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Away to drop the big ball and paper towel when
he could have.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
Just walked them over one at a time to whack
them straight into the garbage. Because I think, when and
this is the lesson here, when someone else is covering
the costs of these.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
Things, you don't think about it or you don't care.
You don't care. Yeah, whenever you're the one paying for something,
it feels like people do take advantage because they're like,
I'm not paying for this, I could just do whatever
I want. No, absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Right, Well, guess what I'm getting you for Hanukah?
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Paper towel, paper down would be honestly, that's a great gift.
She would be so happy with that, let's get hurt.
You know what we should get her thestrial size.
Speaker 4 (27:32):
I like the triple size of the select, the SELECTI
side little squares that come off. Yeah, I like those.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Yes, yes, yes, you know it's so funny. I do
love paper towels. And every time I use a paper
towel now, I always think of you, because.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
When you told me that story, I'm like, I.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Was like, am I just using it too much? Now?
Especially when I get to the last piece, I'm like,
oh my god, I finished the role? How long did
that roll last? When they have approved?
Speaker 4 (27:54):
Like, it's not how much you use, because you're being
you're probably being being mindful full of what you're doing,
and if you need to wipe your hands, you can
use a hand towel. It's just it's just funny how
other people treat.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
And sometimes I just use my legs depends on my pants,
you know, I just wipe them on the side.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (28:12):
But like, there's no need to do two hundred paper
towels to whack four things when you could have just
done it.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Strange, So things like that, you know what now I
feel like doing buying a whole thing of paper towels
just to wrap him up like a damn mummy and
toss him somewhere. We gave a little extra today. I'm like,
I used up all the wasn't you at all? We
had a lot to talk about?
Speaker 2 (28:32):
D D.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Do you have anything else to add before we go?
Speaker 2 (28:34):
Nah?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Anything on your mind? You have a busy weekend ahead.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Yes, I have jingle Ball and Powa sessions, and then uh,
I fly out to DC next Tuesday for jingle Ball there,
come home Wednesday. I come back here on Thursday, and
then Friday, me and my girlfriends that I grew up with,
we're staying in the city and we're gonna go to.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
All the holiday happenings in Manhattan.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
No horse in your own city.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And for me this weekend it's my sister's engagement party.
Picture to Arissa and Anthony. I'm so excited for them, gratulation.
I'm happy, and I'm just like, Wow, my baby sister's
getting married.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
What so crazy?
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Wild?
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Like I don't even know what to say or think.
Maybe it'll be a meet cute at the wedding.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
She's so much younger than me. That'll talk about you know,
thank you I don't want to do any of her friends.
They're too young. But then again, nowadays, what anything goes? Right?
I know?
Speaker 4 (29:30):
Yeah, really I look at Kim control right, Oh my god. Yeah,
why don't we keep talking about sex and the city.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
I don't know, but on that note, not right.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
We are gonna go, guys, We're gonna go.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
We'll catch you again as soon as we can, possibly
next week, hopefully next week. Yeah, I'll be there with
my bounty. So on social media, I'm Astra.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
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