November 10, 2025 • 14 mins
We all know someone who's done it. How did you handle it?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're talking about the Boy's strip or the girls strip,
you know, the sacred getaway. Sure, yeah, you don't have
to answer to anybody. You get to unplug from normal life.
We were talking a little bit about this last week
on the TikTok live stream.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Is it ever okay?
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Is it ever okay to bring your significant other to
the boys strip or the girls trip?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I would say, my first off, my wife is my
best friend real realistically, probably the only person I want
to hang out with on a consistent daily basis. I
have friends, Yeah, I see them every now and then,
but I would bring my wife everywhere with me except
a boys strip.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Does she get she gets along with your friends right?
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Would they be upset if she just showed up?
Speaker 4 (00:47):
They love her?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
And yes, yeah I think so if I if she
had to come everywhere with me, like if we're like yeah,
like we love Ali, but like we just want to
go out with the guys and go do this because
maybe a buddy's going whatever the reason might be right
and I just showed up.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
With her.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Brome, Nobody's gonna say anything, probably yeah, but bro, And
that's on me. That's on me, Like I'm the bad
guy here. Because I brought her without telling anybody. Like
if I wanted to bring her and I felt like
it was a guy's trip, I might shoot a text
to everybody and be like, hey, my wife might come.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Is that cool?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
And they would probably all still be like yeah, But
like I would never. I'm never, and I know people
like this, mm hmm. I'm never the guy that my
wife always has to be there.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Never. I love when she's there.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I think that that's healthy.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I think it's pretty healthy to be able to like
draw the line and be like I love you but
not this weekend, or I love you not this dinner.
If we want to do like a couple's thing, we
can do that another time, but this isn't the night
for that.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yeah, but sometimes I.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Feel like the wires get crossed. Like let me tell
you what happened yesterday. Uh oh, okay, we were doing
a for giving. Yeah, and we had discussed this in
our group of girls as like, Okay, the guys are
gonna come, like this is gonna be a friend's giving.
The couples, we're gonna it's gonna be more of a
couple's vibe. Right, And then as you start getting closer
to like the start time of the actual event, like
(02:19):
other girls, boyfriend's husbands fiances started kind of dropping off,
so I tried to like keep yimmy updated, like, hey,
this one's out, Hey, this one opted out today. So
we got there and it was like just the girls
and obviously, like the house we were at, they're married,
so he was there, but he was like internally panicking
(02:42):
like I feel like I'm crashing a girl's thing right now,
and I was like, you're not. That's not what this was.
It just like we got closer and closer. I don't
know why, but they had other stuff like it just
you're not crashing a girl's thing. This was like intended
to be a couple's thing. Even though you're one of
only a couple of guys here. This wasn't ever gonna
just be a girl's day.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
So did he let me ask you, did he go?
Did he end up going? He did? He did, and
it probably went fine, right, And.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I think like because he came, some of the other
girls there, like their significant others, ended up showing up
for like a little bit. They just weren't there for
like the whole time. Okay, but like here's my question.
When wires get crossed like that and you start out
with the intention of it not being a boy's day
(03:31):
or a girl's day, or a boy's trip or a
girl's trip, is it ever okay to bring your significant
other to a boy's trip or to a girl's trip,
or to the dinner or to the thing or whatever
in your scenario.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I see why it was uncomfor for me if I
was if I was, yimmy, I'm baling no offense, Like
well we drove together. No, I mean, I'm not going
to begin with like at that point, it's become a
girl's thing, and I'm like, all right, go have fun.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
It didn't end up that way. They did.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
There were other like significant others that ended up showing up.
They just had other stuff going on. But at the beginning,
I was like panicking for him because I was like, no, no, no,
I know that this feels uncomfortable. I would feel the
same way. But trust me, this was never intended to be.
And like I appreciated that. I appreciated that he had
the awareness to be like, hey, am I od man
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out here, And I was like, no, don't leave, because
the host is the hosts are a couple, Like, he's
going to be there, so don't make him like the
odd man out today.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Yeah, and I don't think I don't think your scenario is.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
This.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I don't think it's that. I don't think it's the
same thing necessarily. I think I'm thinking of like the
people that always bring their significant either.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Ah, yes, there's always one.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
There's always And I have a friend in the group
who always nearly a lot of town, So I'm okay
talking about it. Who always brings their significant other to everything,
even if they don't even ask, like, hey, is so
and so gonna be there? Hey, so is your spouse
going to be there? They're just always there And there
(05:11):
are scenarios. Yours is okay because I would have I
would have felt uncomfortable too and wanted to bail only
because like it's now turned into this. I totally got that,
but but it was it was it turned out great. Yeah,
But like even like, like if I if I was
like that, if I had to be around my wife always,
she's got a work trip.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Here's another one. It's not even just guys and girls.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
She's got a work trip coming up, right, And she's like,
I was like, you know, it'll be a fly and
you're going to go And she's like, yeah, I don't
really know what I'm gonna do outside of, you know,
going to these these events and we might go out
for dinner stuff.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
She's like, do you want to go? You can just
hang in the hotel. I was like, you do do what?
Speaker 3 (05:47):
And she's like, you can just chill in the hotel.
Come see you after all this stuff is done. I
was like, is anybody else bringing their spouses?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
No? Then no, good on you for asking the question.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
No, absolutely not, though, but there's always you can't crash
a guy's trip or a girl's trip.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Be ninety three Morning show, we're talking about the boy's trip,
the girl's trip, you know, those sacred trips that are
meant to get away, unplug. You don't have to answer
to anybody, you know. I got a couple of messages
from a couple of different people, want to throw yours
or want to throw these your way? Okay, is it
(06:23):
ever okay to bring a significant other on a trip
like this? And I think for most of us the
unanimous answer is no.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Yeah, but what do you do if it does happen?
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Great question?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I got a message from Jenna in Holland. She said, coincidentally,
you're going to be in Nashville this weekend.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
They had taken a girl's weekend in Nashville and one
of the girl's husbands surprised her by showing up unannounced.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
Why does it say or no?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
She said she was mortified. She didn't know that this
was happening. For some reason. He thought this would be
a good.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Idea, like a sweet set of metal.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You thought this would be a nice jest, Oh, they said.
They laughed, and they tried not to make it super uncomfortable.
We did make him take most of our group photos,
though he stayed.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
The whole weekend. What like this wasn't just in and
out like Nashville's not like a two hour drive.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
No, no, what, You're there, You're there.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Force you're there, You're there.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I got another message from Brian in Rockford. He said,
our boys annual golf trip turned into a family vaca
when one guy brought his wife and toddler to a
golf trip, a toddler. So what do you do when
this happens? This has never happened to me, like maybe
a dinner, but never like a trip I got.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
So this is never This is almost consistently happening. But
nobody's ever said anything. We have a friend who will
bring his spouse everywhere with him everywhere, doesn't matter what
we're doing. He doesn't ask in advance. He will do that.
And I love my wife more than anybody in this
entire world, even more than myself. I will spend all
(08:06):
my time with my wife, and I would be just happy. Yeah,
I got friends I'll go hang out with every now
and then. I'll do a boys trip every now and then,
not as much as I used to, but I would
never I don't need to be by with my wife
all the time. Every now and then breaks fine, breaks fine.
But nobody says anything to this guy. Nobody says a word,
(08:28):
And I don't know that.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Guys don't like have a heart to heart with him
and be like, hey, bro, we love her, she's great, glad,
you're happy, love your love.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
It's just kind of been like this.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But these weekends are a guy time. I don't like
we can plan a couple something. I feel like somebody's
got to have the conversation because if if it keeps happening, Yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
Don't know what, we've nobody. It's just gone on, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
It's one of those things where it's gone on so
long that everybody just kind of accepts it, and then
somebody else will one time bring their spouse and then
they hang out and then it's like, well, see it's
a good thing that she's here because now they got
somebody here. But nine times out of ten, if it's
a boys thing, even if it's like like, uh, golf's
the first thing I think of, but that's not the
only thing that we do. Like if it's a guy's weekend,
(09:13):
which I don't know, bachelor parties. Usually when I would
do that, she would just stay at a different hotel.
That's actually happened. She came, yes, came to the same
city and stayed at the just stayed at a hotel
in a different room, and then he would go out
for the night.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Right.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
See, My question then becomes.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
Does she know she has to Nobody else goes.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Well, I feel like now at this point that it's
happened maybe a few times, maybe then you start like
becoming a little bit more aware of this. But like
the first time, like did she know or did he say,
like no, this is just a trip for friends. This
is just a friend's trip, because that makes it a
little bit different.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
One hundred percent agree. I think you're right there. That
might be it.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
That might be it, But then it starts happening like
a second, third, fourth time. I am like, then you
got to start wondering like.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Hey, why are you here?
Speaker 4 (10:03):
Good morning, Welcome to the ninety three Morning Show. What's
your name? Away from?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Hi?
Speaker 5 (10:07):
This is Gary from Kalamazoo. How you doing.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
I'm fantastic, Gary, How you doing?
Speaker 5 (10:10):
All right? Hey? I think this issue is a little
bit deeper than one wanting to spend time together. I
think it's a trust issue.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yes, I agree, go into it Gary saying the quiet
part out loud today.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
Yep, I'm staying the quiet part out loud. This is
a trust issue. They obviously have deeper issues than wanting
to spend time together. They don't want to spend that
time together. They have to spend that time together because
they don't trust each other.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Kind of what it looks like, doesn't it?
Speaker 5 (10:36):
It does look like that. It doesn't just look like that.
It is that nobody loves her that much. Okay?
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Agree?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
I agree, man, so much so.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
Do you think it's a trust issue from her to
him or him to her?
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (10:48):
I think it's both. I think it's both.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Oh, she doesn't.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
She doesn't trust him because maybe she's done something a
little wrong in the past, and she doesn't trust herself.
Didn't trust him to him, trust to anybody. And then
throw the kid in there like it's a family get together.
It's not. That's all ammunition.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Okay, what do you so do you say something in
that situation? If you were in that situation, would you
say something to them?
Speaker 5 (11:13):
Dude? After you kicked after you, after you got your
buddy by by himself, and you're kicking back, kicking back
a few beers, you say, dude, what's what's going on
with this? Why do you got to bring her? This
is a guy's trip, Dude, it's not a it's not
a family get together. It's not a camping trip. Okay, Yeah,
we just got to get together and kick back some beers.
I mean, this is probably the same guy who I
don't care. If she's got a different hotel room, he's
(11:35):
going to check on her, She's going to check on him.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, the different hotel is like a different Is that
that's a whole other level.
Speaker 5 (11:42):
Okay, that that's that's that's a horrible level.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
I agree. I couldn't agree with you.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
More good feedback this morning, Gary, appreciate it, you too, say,
has anyone had the conversation with him that you know
of that.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
I know of?
Speaker 3 (11:57):
No, And maybe we allowed it in the beginning because
when they first, when this first happened, it was like,
oh jeez, I didn't know someon and so was gonna come.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Oh yeah, see.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
I think like the first time they get to pass
because it's like maybe he was confused, maybe he thought
everybody else, so then you're like, yeah, obigio whatever.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
But then when it starts happening over and over again,
it's kind of like, hey.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Man, yeah yeah, and then we would have somebody should
have said something. And I don't know that we're the
I don't know that that we would or will because
it's already gone on this long. But like even if
he had been like, hey man, I'm gonna bring her
for a golfing or whatever.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
I'm gonna bring her. Is that cool?
Speaker 3 (12:35):
It's not like we're like, oh gosh, she could never
come around. We'd like her, but like would sometimes you
want sometimes you just want to be and you know this.
Sometimes you just want to be with the girls. Sometimes
I just want to be with the boys.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
I think that that's healthy. I think that's okay. I
think that that is great. My question is is this
the problem with her or is this a problem with him?
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Like what's he not understanding?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Because I feel like everybody has that one friend who's like, well,
I love my significant other, I love my husband, fiance, boyfriend,
Like of course I want them to come like, yeah,
you guys like them.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
What's the big deal?
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Yeah, I know, And that's.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
And it's like it's hard to explain.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Yeah, yeah, because I think if I brought my wife,
everybody would be like, you know, it's not like anybody
doesn't like her or doesn't like him.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Everybody gets one right, Yeah, everybody gets one time.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
But it's not like they don't like to be we
don't like to be around her. It's just like, right,
sometimes we want to just be around him, and I
would understand that.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
I love like I spend a lot of my time
with a large percentage of the time with my wife
and my kids.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
That's just who I am.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
I'll bring friends, Like friends will go do couples things,
or we'll go do things with people's kids or or whatever.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
But like, I don't need my wife to be with
me at all time.
We're talking about the Boy's strip or the girls strip,
you know, the sacred getaway. Sure, yeah, you don't have
to answer to anybody. You get to unplug from normal life.
We were talking a little bit about this last week
on the TikTok live stream.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Is it ever okay?
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Is it ever okay to bring your significant other to
the boys strip or the girls trip?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I would say, my first off, my wife is my
best friend real realistically, probably the only person I want
to hang out with on a consistent daily basis. I
have friends, Yeah, I see them every now and then,
but I would bring my wife everywhere with me except
a boys strip.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Does she get she gets along with your friends right?
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Would they be upset if she just showed up?
Speaker 4 (00:47):
They love her?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
And yes, yeah I think so if I if she
had to come everywhere with me, like if we're like yeah,
like we love Ali, but like we just want to
go out with the guys and go do this because
maybe a buddy's going whatever the reason might be right
and I just showed up.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
With her.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Brome, Nobody's gonna say anything, probably yeah, but bro, And
that's on me. That's on me, Like I'm the bad
guy here. Because I brought her without telling anybody. Like
if I wanted to bring her and I felt like
it was a guy's trip, I might shoot a text
to everybody and be like, hey, my wife might come.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Is that cool?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
And they would probably all still be like yeah, But
like I would never. I'm never, and I know people
like this, mm hmm. I'm never the guy that my
wife always has to be there.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Never. I love when she's there.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I think that that's healthy.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I think it's pretty healthy to be able to like
draw the line and be like I love you but
not this weekend, or I love you not this dinner.
If we want to do like a couple's thing, we
can do that another time, but this isn't the night
for that.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yeah, but sometimes I.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Feel like the wires get crossed. Like let me tell
you what happened yesterday. Uh oh, okay, we were doing
a for giving. Yeah, and we had discussed this in
our group of girls as like, Okay, the guys are
gonna come, like this is gonna be a friend's giving.
The couples, we're gonna it's gonna be more of a
couple's vibe. Right, And then as you start getting closer
to like the start time of the actual event, like
(02:19):
other girls, boyfriend's husbands fiances started kind of dropping off,
so I tried to like keep yimmy updated, like, hey,
this one's out, Hey, this one opted out today. So
we got there and it was like just the girls
and obviously, like the house we were at, they're married,
so he was there, but he was like internally panicking
(02:42):
like I feel like I'm crashing a girl's thing right now,
and I was like, you're not. That's not what this was.
It just like we got closer and closer. I don't
know why, but they had other stuff like it just
you're not crashing a girl's thing. This was like intended
to be a couple's thing. Even though you're one of
only a couple of guys here. This wasn't ever gonna
just be a girl's day.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
So did he let me ask you, did he go?
Did he end up going? He did? He did, and
it probably went fine, right, And.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I think like because he came, some of the other
girls there, like their significant others, ended up showing up
for like a little bit. They just weren't there for
like the whole time. Okay, but like here's my question.
When wires get crossed like that and you start out
with the intention of it not being a boy's day
(03:31):
or a girl's day, or a boy's trip or a
girl's trip, is it ever okay to bring your significant
other to a boy's trip or to a girl's trip,
or to the dinner or to the thing or whatever
in your scenario.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I see why it was uncomfor for me if I
was if I was, yimmy, I'm baling no offense, Like
well we drove together. No, I mean, I'm not going
to begin with like at that point, it's become a
girl's thing, and I'm like, all right, go have fun.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
It didn't end up that way. They did.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
There were other like significant others that ended up showing up.
They just had other stuff going on. But at the beginning,
I was like panicking for him because I was like, no, no, no,
I know that this feels uncomfortable. I would feel the
same way. But trust me, this was never intended to be.
And like I appreciated that. I appreciated that he had
the awareness to be like, hey, am I od man
(04:24):
out here, And I was like, no, don't leave, because
the host is the hosts are a couple, Like, he's
going to be there, so don't make him like the
odd man out today.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Yeah, and I don't think I don't think your scenario is.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
This.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I don't think it's that. I don't think it's the
same thing necessarily. I think I'm thinking of like the
people that always bring their significant either.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Ah, yes, there's always one.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
There's always And I have a friend in the group
who always nearly a lot of town, So I'm okay
talking about it. Who always brings their significant other to everything,
even if they don't even ask, like, hey, is so
and so gonna be there? Hey, so is your spouse
going to be there? They're just always there And there
(05:11):
are scenarios. Yours is okay because I would have I
would have felt uncomfortable too and wanted to bail only
because like it's now turned into this. I totally got that,
but but it was it was it turned out great. Yeah,
But like even like, like if I if I was
like that, if I had to be around my wife always,
she's got a work trip.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Here's another one. It's not even just guys and girls.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
She's got a work trip coming up, right, And she's like,
I was like, you know, it'll be a fly and
you're going to go And she's like, yeah, I don't
really know what I'm gonna do outside of, you know,
going to these these events and we might go out
for dinner stuff.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
She's like, do you want to go? You can just
hang in the hotel. I was like, you do do what?
Speaker 3 (05:47):
And she's like, you can just chill in the hotel.
Come see you after all this stuff is done. I
was like, is anybody else bringing their spouses?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
No? Then no, good on you for asking the question.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
No, absolutely not, though, but there's always you can't crash
a guy's trip or a girl's trip.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Be ninety three Morning show, we're talking about the boy's trip,
the girl's trip, you know, those sacred trips that are
meant to get away, unplug. You don't have to answer
to anybody, you know. I got a couple of messages
from a couple of different people, want to throw yours
or want to throw these your way? Okay, is it
(06:23):
ever okay to bring a significant other on a trip
like this? And I think for most of us the
unanimous answer is no.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Yeah, but what do you do if it does happen?
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Great question?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I got a message from Jenna in Holland. She said, coincidentally,
you're going to be in Nashville this weekend.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
They had taken a girl's weekend in Nashville and one
of the girl's husbands surprised her by showing up unannounced.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
Why does it say or no?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
She said she was mortified. She didn't know that this
was happening. For some reason. He thought this would be
a good.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Idea, like a sweet set of metal.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You thought this would be a nice jest, Oh, they said.
They laughed, and they tried not to make it super uncomfortable.
We did make him take most of our group photos,
though he stayed.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
The whole weekend. What like this wasn't just in and
out like Nashville's not like a two hour drive.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
No, no, what, You're there, You're there.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Force you're there, You're there.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I got another message from Brian in Rockford. He said,
our boys annual golf trip turned into a family vaca
when one guy brought his wife and toddler to a
golf trip, a toddler. So what do you do when
this happens? This has never happened to me, like maybe
a dinner, but never like a trip I got.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
So this is never This is almost consistently happening. But
nobody's ever said anything. We have a friend who will
bring his spouse everywhere with him everywhere, doesn't matter what
we're doing. He doesn't ask in advance. He will do that.
And I love my wife more than anybody in this
entire world, even more than myself. I will spend all
(08:06):
my time with my wife, and I would be just happy. Yeah,
I got friends I'll go hang out with every now
and then. I'll do a boys trip every now and then,
not as much as I used to, but I would
never I don't need to be by with my wife
all the time. Every now and then breaks fine, breaks fine.
But nobody says anything to this guy. Nobody says a word,
(08:28):
And I don't know that.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Guys don't like have a heart to heart with him
and be like, hey, bro, we love her, she's great, glad,
you're happy, love your love.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
It's just kind of been like this.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But these weekends are a guy time. I don't like
we can plan a couple something. I feel like somebody's
got to have the conversation because if if it keeps happening, Yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
Don't know what, we've nobody. It's just gone on, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
It's one of those things where it's gone on so
long that everybody just kind of accepts it, and then
somebody else will one time bring their spouse and then
they hang out and then it's like, well, see it's
a good thing that she's here because now they got
somebody here. But nine times out of ten, if it's
a boys thing, even if it's like like, uh, golf's
the first thing I think of, but that's not the
only thing that we do. Like if it's a guy's weekend,
(09:13):
which I don't know, bachelor parties. Usually when I would
do that, she would just stay at a different hotel.
That's actually happened. She came, yes, came to the same
city and stayed at the just stayed at a hotel
in a different room, and then he would go out
for the night.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Right.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
See, My question then becomes.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
Does she know she has to Nobody else goes.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Well, I feel like now at this point that it's
happened maybe a few times, maybe then you start like
becoming a little bit more aware of this. But like
the first time, like did she know or did he say,
like no, this is just a trip for friends. This
is just a friend's trip, because that makes it a
little bit different.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
One hundred percent agree. I think you're right there. That
might be it.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
That might be it, But then it starts happening like
a second, third, fourth time. I am like, then you
got to start wondering like.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Hey, why are you here?
Speaker 4 (10:03):
Good morning, Welcome to the ninety three Morning Show. What's
your name? Away from?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Hi?
Speaker 5 (10:07):
This is Gary from Kalamazoo. How you doing.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
I'm fantastic, Gary, How you doing?
Speaker 5 (10:10):
All right? Hey? I think this issue is a little
bit deeper than one wanting to spend time together. I
think it's a trust issue.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yes, I agree, go into it Gary saying the quiet
part out loud today.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
Yep, I'm staying the quiet part out loud. This is
a trust issue. They obviously have deeper issues than wanting
to spend time together. They don't want to spend that
time together. They have to spend that time together because
they don't trust each other.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Kind of what it looks like, doesn't it?
Speaker 5 (10:36):
It does look like that. It doesn't just look like that.
It is that nobody loves her that much. Okay?
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Agree?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
I agree, man, so much so.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
Do you think it's a trust issue from her to
him or him to her?
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (10:48):
I think it's both. I think it's both.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Oh, she doesn't.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
She doesn't trust him because maybe she's done something a
little wrong in the past, and she doesn't trust herself.
Didn't trust him to him, trust to anybody. And then
throw the kid in there like it's a family get together.
It's not. That's all ammunition.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Okay, what do you so do you say something in
that situation? If you were in that situation, would you
say something to them?
Speaker 5 (11:13):
Dude? After you kicked after you, after you got your
buddy by by himself, and you're kicking back, kicking back
a few beers, you say, dude, what's what's going on
with this? Why do you got to bring her? This
is a guy's trip, Dude, it's not a it's not
a family get together. It's not a camping trip. Okay, Yeah,
we just got to get together and kick back some beers.
I mean, this is probably the same guy who I
don't care. If she's got a different hotel room, he's
(11:35):
going to check on her, She's going to check on him.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, the different hotel is like a different Is that
that's a whole other level.
Speaker 5 (11:42):
Okay, that that's that's that's a horrible level.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
I agree. I couldn't agree with you.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
More good feedback this morning, Gary, appreciate it, you too, say,
has anyone had the conversation with him that you know
of that.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
I know of?
Speaker 3 (11:57):
No, And maybe we allowed it in the beginning because
when they first, when this first happened, it was like,
oh jeez, I didn't know someon and so was gonna come.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Oh yeah, see.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
I think like the first time they get to pass
because it's like maybe he was confused, maybe he thought
everybody else, so then you're like, yeah, obigio whatever.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
But then when it starts happening over and over again,
it's kind of like, hey.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Man, yeah yeah, and then we would have somebody should
have said something. And I don't know that we're the
I don't know that that we would or will because
it's already gone on this long. But like even if
he had been like, hey man, I'm gonna bring her
for a golfing or whatever.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
I'm gonna bring her. Is that cool?
Speaker 3 (12:35):
It's not like we're like, oh gosh, she could never
come around. We'd like her, but like would sometimes you
want sometimes you just want to be and you know this.
Sometimes you just want to be with the girls. Sometimes
I just want to be with the boys.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
I think that that's healthy. I think that's okay. I
think that that is great. My question is is this
the problem with her or is this a problem with him?
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Like what's he not understanding?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Because I feel like everybody has that one friend who's like, well,
I love my significant other, I love my husband, fiance, boyfriend,
Like of course I want them to come like, yeah,
you guys like them.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
What's the big deal?
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Yeah, I know, And that's.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
And it's like it's hard to explain.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Yeah, yeah, because I think if I brought my wife,
everybody would be like, you know, it's not like anybody
doesn't like her or doesn't like him.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Everybody gets one right, Yeah, everybody gets one time.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
But it's not like they don't like to be we
don't like to be around her. It's just like, right,
sometimes we want to just be around him, and I
would understand that.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
I love like I spend a lot of my time
with a large percentage of the time with my wife
and my kids.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
That's just who I am.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
I'll bring friends, Like friends will go do couples things,
or we'll go do things with people's kids or or whatever.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
But like, I don't need my wife to be with
me at all time.
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