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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Bailey is on the phone today for a first date
follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Sean.
So in a few minutes we'll call him and see
if hotels why he's ghosting her and maybe get her
another date. But first, Bailey, how long has it been
since you heard from Sean?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hi?
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Yeah, it's been two weeks.
Speaker 5 (00:21):
Okay, okay, a long time.
Speaker 6 (00:23):
Have you tried to talk to him?
Speaker 7 (00:25):
No?
Speaker 4 (00:26):
I mean he's only at the end of the day
when he kissed my cheek he said, I'll call you,
and you know, I really like menu follow up and
keep your word. So I was really trying to give
him that chance. In the first week, I wasn't worried
because people get busy with work. But now it's been
two weeks, so I do feel like he's forgotten about
(00:46):
me or something.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
I get that.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
How is the date? Why don't you tell us about
that and how you met him?
Speaker 4 (00:52):
Yeah? Okay, Well I matched with him on Hinge and
he actually reached out because he saw that I went
to was one of his college buddies. So I thought
that that was kind of like a quirky little connection.
And and and he's not like my usual type because
he's not like a ten out of ten or anything.
But he has a really sweet face and he was
(01:15):
funny and the messages, you know, so if I gave
him a chance, I was like, you know, obviously not
working what I'm doing, so I'm gonna I'm gonna try this.
But the date was it was actually really lovely. It
was it was three hours long on a on a Thursday,
So I thought that everything was like really good signs.
But he he asked me out to you know, Stay restaurant.
(01:38):
I was so good.
Speaker 7 (01:38):
It was so good.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
It was like fancy, so we like the dressed up
and we made it real cute and he was a
total gentleman, Like as soon as I got out of
my car, he was like there, he opened doors for me.
It was, it was, it was, It was perfect. And
I'm actually surprised by how much I liked him because
because yeah, like I said, he's not in my normal type,
Like I haven't felt this kind of potential in such
a long time. Because he's paid in these kind I
(02:02):
guess I'm just I'm just like scared that maybe he
thinks I'm high maintenance or something.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
Is there a reason that he would think that?
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Well, liked when the steak came out, like I ordered
rare because I know how to order steak obviously, and
it came back it came back mediumware, and normally, like
I wouldn't have made such a big deal about it,
but like it's it's a fancy stake like restaurant.
Speaker 7 (02:29):
They should like know the.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Difference between those things. So so I apologize, and you know,
I explained how you know, stake is supposed to be rare,
and I told I told youm that too, and he
just he was again a gentleman, so he waited until
my new steak came out, so I'm sure his must
have been kind of cold by the time we ate,
And I tried to tell him to you know, eat his,
but he, you know insisted, But like, I don't know,
(02:51):
I probably should have just eaten it. I kind of
kind of feel dumb. I should have eaten it.
Speaker 7 (02:55):
Maybemrale.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
It's like it's not the end of the world. It's
not like they some other didn't catch up or something,
but like it's a good steak. It's it's how it
should be eaten. And yeah, I don't know. I mean
because he ordered his medium, but I wasn't judging, you know,
like I really hope he wasn't. He didn't think I
was judging, even though he did it wrong. But it's fine. Okay,
(03:19):
how did you ask Bailey?
Speaker 1 (03:21):
I think maybe it's not high maintenance, like to you know,
get your meal right. Everybody wants that, especially if you're
spending a lot of money at a restaurant. But if
you're just like, excuse me, Gasson, can you fix my stake?
I could see that that was a problem. Or were
you nice about it?
Speaker 7 (03:35):
No?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
No, no, I I think I'm always nice. Yeah, I
just politely said this wasn't you know what I ordered?
And I asked for a new one with a smile,
you know.
Speaker 5 (03:47):
Okay, So you weren't rude to the weight staff or anything.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Oh no, absolutely not.
Speaker 6 (03:51):
Didn't tell the medium is just not the way to
order it.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Oh no, that was to Sean. That was to Sean.
Speaker 5 (03:58):
Any other things that you can think of that might
be a reason he might not call.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
You back, honestly, No, I mean like the conversation stalled
a few times, but I, you know, I just I
can talk.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
So that was fine, Okay, pretty normal, especially on a
first eight. Yeah, we'll see if we can figure it
out for you. Play a song, come back, and then
call him and see if he'll tell us why he's
ghosting you and maybe get to another date.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yep, play song, come back, and get your first day
follow up next. Right in the middle of your first
day follow up if you're just joining us, Bailey is
on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy
named Sean. So we're about to call him and see
if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get
her another date. But before we do that, Bailey, why
don't you catch us up on your situation.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Yeah, so I met Sean on Hinge. We had a
lovely three hour date. He told me he'd call me
at the end, and I have not heard from him since.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
And you think it might be because of your steak.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Yes, I think it might be because I ordered my
steak prayer and I got back a medium riner and
I just wanted a new one.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
But did you didn't freak about it?
Speaker 7 (05:00):
Though I did not.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
I did not freak out I was perfectly calm and collected.
Speaker 6 (05:04):
But you did mention that Sean ordered his medium and
that wasn't right.
Speaker 7 (05:08):
That was true?
Speaker 5 (05:09):
All right? Man? Were you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Please?
Speaker 5 (05:13):
Okay, here we go. Well him, I aspeaking to Sean.
Speaker 7 (05:26):
Please yeah, Sean?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Hey man, how are you? My name is Jebel. I'm
calling from a radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 6 (05:33):
Hi, Sean, I'm Nina.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7 (05:35):
Hey. Yeah, what's up?
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Not much? Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 7 (05:41):
Yeah, a little bit. Actually, what what is it about? Though?
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Well, we do a segment on the show called the
First Aid follow Up where if you go out on
a date with somebody and they end up ghosting them,
that person can email us to get you on the
phone and ask.
Speaker 5 (05:53):
Why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 7 (05:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
Yeah, yeah, so somebody emailed us about you.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
Oh yeah, I have a feeling. I know where this
is going.
Speaker 5 (06:02):
Okay, Okay, who do you think it is?
Speaker 7 (06:05):
Is it Bailey?
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Yes, it is Bailey. You want to tell us why
you're ghost and Bailey?
Speaker 7 (06:11):
Yeah, you know. Yeah, I'm gonna get I'll get into it.
I'm a little disappointed. I had to ghost. See, like,
in my mind, I thought that she was gonna be great.
I thought the date was gonna be great. You know,
we have like some mutual friends in common.
Speaker 8 (06:27):
But when we got there, she.
Speaker 7 (06:31):
She started nippicking and everything, and I thought it was
a little cute at first, and then it got to
be a little too much.
Speaker 6 (06:38):
You know, like, what was she what was she nitpicking
a man like everything?
Speaker 7 (06:44):
But okay, so we sit down and the first thing
she did was like refold the baskins, and you know,
that's one of the things that I was like, oh,
that's kind of cute. That's the skill and maybe like
a little neuroto napkins ud just refolded the napkins.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
That is a skill.
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Though if they do him fancy.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
It's a skill. I get it. But it's also like,
you're about to use that napkin. I was like, you're
a little quirky. That's cool. I like quirkiness. And then
it started to get a little weird because she kept
asking the server to turn the piano off like down. First,
it was like, hey, excuse me, the music's a little loud,
(07:25):
can you turn down? And the server was like, it
was a piano, it's a piano. It's not possible. Honestly,
in my mind, it wasn't even that loud. But I
was like whatever. And ten minutes later she asked the
same question, like can you turn the piano down a little?
And the same server and he looks at me like
what's going on here? It was a joke and alter,
(07:46):
it's the same thing. It's a piano. We can't turn
it down. Sorry for your inconvenience. And then she told
him about how she had when growing up and there
was a way that they had to tune it so
it wasn't loud, or maybe they should throw a blanket
over it so noise won't come off.
Speaker 6 (08:04):
Oh like what, okay, so this is just really loud
for her.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
Yeah, it's also like, who done?
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I have never really had anybody ask the piano to
be turned out before, but you know, I haven't heard
that either. No, okay, so what are you doing while
she's asking the server to throw a blanket over a piano.
Speaker 7 (08:23):
I'm really embarrassed at this point because, uh, and because
it's a little weird, because I've never been in a
situation like that. You know, we're in their establishment anyway,
So I stepped in and like change the subject a
little bit. And then I realized, maybe she doesn't like
loud music. Like loud music, but this wasn't an ADM concert.
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It was a restaurant with a piano and it's on
the other side of the building too, so it wasn't
even close to us.
Speaker 6 (08:50):
Did she did she tell you that she was sensitive
to noises?
Speaker 3 (08:54):
No?
Speaker 7 (08:55):
No, And she didn't seem bothered by it until just
like a server came around and then she like flits
the and it was a little weird. It's weird to me,
but two nights, two nice girl, But you know that
kind of intensity and nippicking this it's a little bit
too much for me.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
So basically doughtyas high main that's your words. Now mind,
all right, well, thank you for telling us, Sean. Now
I'll let you know that Bailey is on the phone
listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 7 (09:27):
Oh okay, I knew it was a really big red
flag actually that he ordered his state medium, Like, no
real men would do that.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
You think I'm too intense?
Speaker 7 (09:39):
Really?
Speaker 4 (09:40):
Is that what you're going with?
Speaker 7 (09:42):
Hey, you're you're particular, which is fine, you know, Like, yeah, well,
I actually like men who like women who know what
they want.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
So if you want some wishy washy chick, maybe you
should date someone young twenties instead of someone who's established
in thirty Wait what, well, is it clear I doesn't
like a girl who knows what she wants? So you
know you're not even really a tense like I gave
you a chance. Dude, have you seen me.
Speaker 7 (10:09):
Ouch one coming after me like totally not cool in
front of like a live live audience.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
Oh yeah, you just said that I was intense and
nitpicky and high maintenance.
Speaker 7 (10:21):
You agreed, So you're getting so you're coming at me
at my look because.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
Yeah, you're also a rier because you said you'd call, Like,
why don't you just say, hey, you know what, just
like you said, I know what I want, I'm going
to tell you what I want? Why do you lie
to me? Like that's such a sad moves like it
makes sense that you have a purse.
Speaker 7 (10:43):
Puppy instead of a real dog. Hey, you can talk
whatever you want about me, but you can please don't
go after midget my dog. That's totally not cool at
that point.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
She's not a dog, she's a cat.
Speaker 7 (10:57):
No, she's literally a p dog is your weird particularity
and preferences clearly don't match with me. I don't need
to really defend myself if you're like making yourself look bad,
And like, what kind of.
Speaker 8 (11:11):
Person a restaurant to turn down the piano we have
a blanket? Really, what kind of people have blankets? Bring
blankets to restaurants or have restaurants that have blankets, They're
going to put it over their own piano?
Speaker 7 (11:25):
Like that doesn't make any kind of.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
Person thinks that other people's hearing sensitivity is their problem,
Like that didn't affect you at all.
Speaker 7 (11:33):
Look like you can go to red my.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Ears hurt makes you embarrassed? Like that's pathetic, dude.
Speaker 7 (11:41):
You can wear headphones and go eat at Chili's. Don't
have to go to a Chili's.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
Is actually louder so No, thank you?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Okay, Well, hey Sean, would you like another day with Bailey?
We'll pay for it.
Speaker 7 (11:54):
Sure, Bailly, you want to go on again? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Sounds great.
Speaker 7 (12:00):
He's in.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I feel like neither of you are serious.
Speaker 7 (12:02):
That's sarcastic, right, definitely sarcastic.
Speaker 5 (12:09):
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