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Hello, killing Ash, Hello,it's tomorrow show today. I don't have
the montage ready yet, the montauhfor the Kenny Chesney contest. I was
gonna do, uh three for two? What does that mean? There's gonna
be three duets? Oh? Onewould insist that I use the some we
used today. So he's only gotthree two other duets Yeah, Uncle Crackers
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one of them, which will beperfect because Uncle Crackers on the show.
Yeah, So not gonna be todo three for two. Now, I
got to figure out something else.I like a theme would be what's her
name? The Lauren Olana? Areyou doing with Laurena o? Lena?
Mm? Let me look, yeahwe could, we could. Maybe we
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said let's keep that hope alive.I think it's a clever idea. He
came up with three for two KennyChesney duets, and let's see how many
they they list? Okay, he'sApple Music says he's got a bunch.
He's got they weren't hit when thesun goes down with Uncle Crack. Ye
Uh, let's see with the Whalers, everybody wants to go to heaven.
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I remember that one with Okay,Yeah, I remember I quote that all
the time Kenny Chesney is when hetaught me everyone wants to go to heaven,
but nobody want to go. Nowthat's good, okay. Yeah.
And then we just mentioned the onewith what's her face Potter? That's who
we use that today? Is thatthe one where where he's singing about in
tequila? What about to Yeah,Megan Marony, Megan Moroni. We can
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do those three there you go,all right, right there, nailed it,
nailed it, We got that.I'll put that together now you got
the answer. You don't even needto hear the montage. We put it
together right here for you. Thatjust happened in the Morning Show meeting.
Wow, it's all Tomorrow Show Today. That's what it's all about on Tomorrow
Show Today, trying to figure outwhat we're going to do, the angles
(01:51):
we're going to take those types ofthings, giving you insights onto how we
come up with the Morning Show.Uh. I've got a study here,
Jonathan. I don't know if thisis going to make women angry or maybe
just smug. It might make themsmug. According to this research, women
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win all the time with their spouseall the time. Sally does, and
it's apparently genetically programmed that way.After this study shows that women don't even
try as hard to beat their spouseas they do strange men. So if
they're in some sort of like dartthrowing competition, playing Tic tac toe,
(02:37):
whatever, when they look at theirbrains, the women are trying harder to
beat the strangers when they go againstthe men. They don't try their husbands.
They don't try as hard, butthe men try even less. The
men actually apparently have the feeling.According to the researchers, the old happy
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wife, happy life is actually true, and so in their it's adage that
has stood the test of time.Of course it's true. Well, they're
saying, God programmed that into you, that you actually look at a victory
over your wife as a loss.I just thought I was being smart.
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No, no, no, thisis just the way you've been built.
That you can't beat your wife.You can't beat her in free throws,
you can't beat her in running,you can't beat her in pull ups.
There's literally nothing you can beat yourwife at. Although when these men went
against the stranger, the strange womenalmost uniformly beat them one hundred percent of
the time. In everything memory games, whatever, and they showed that they
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had some subjects here where where theyactually had the wife introduce a lie into
the argument and the husband lets itslide that the husband knows I don't want
to call her out. I actuallyhave the right answer, but if I
give her the right answer, andit's going to make her more angry,
so he'll intentionally lose, quote unquotelose the argument, even because we just
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want to make our wives happy.I thought I was doing it just so
she wouldn't be upset, because Sally'svery competitive. But I just thought about
something. Whenever we're playing a teamsport, like a family get together,
we're doing volleyball, we're doing softball, or whatever the version of baseball is,
we're playing kickball, whatever that versionis. I insist on being on
a Sally's team because I want usto win. But she was on the
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other team because you couldn't compete againsther. But I don't even I never
even thought of this. I've nevereven had this thought process. I've never
read this science before. Yeah,if you competed with your wife, you
would destroy your own team so shecould win. Yeah, But then at
the same time, what if thereis somebody else if there's a husband on
the other team, he's trying todestroy that team, so his wife could
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strateg Because we've got families getting togetherfor Thanksgiving, there's always some kind of
competition coming down at our house.There is. Yeah, it could be
any board games whatever. Men aregenetically programmed. Wife should win. Sally's
way too competitive show she'll ruin theevent. It's not just family fund anymore.
Sally's out to win. That's actuallybeen said. It's just volleyball.
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Greg. That's good. Wow.So it'd be fun if we did the
Brady Bunch competitions. I mean competitionswere on the Brady Bunch and the driving
competition. I don't remember these.No. The only thing I remember about
the Brady Bunch is Greg took aphotograph and caught the photo. The guy's
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foot was I think out of bounds, and he blew it up and changed
the game or something. Vaguely.I remember that. I remember the Marshall
record. Notice what was that afootball? That was Also that was when
Joe Willie namath and was having catchGreg and then he went to throw it
and I don't know, he said, Marcia, think fast or something.
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He threw it and hit Marsha inthe face. Why would you do that?
Oh my gosh, I remember theyrode donkeys into the Grand Canyon.
Oh yeah, I forgot about that. I don't really remember. A lot
of The Brady Bunch was not reallymy show. I remember spots of it,
like I remember remember watching a wholelot of The Brady Bunch. I
just remember the stupid conversations around it, because everybody else seemingly watched it.
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Yeah, and that's one of thoseweird things that we've talked about in the
past where it was a stiff whenit came out CBS and when it originally
was released, not a hit,became a hit in reruns, kind of
like when we talk about our favoriteChristmas move, It's a wonderful life.
Nobody like that, Like Kenny Chesney, she thinks much actor sexy. Not
a hit, not a number onehit, not even top ten, didn't
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even get the top ten. Everybodysings along with that song. But back
to this other thing, maybe we'regonna have you know, because everybody's not
uniform. Not everybody is genetically programmedperfectly, or some people have overridden that.
Ladies, you have a husband who'snot letting you win. This guy
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refuses let you win, and Iknow that it makes women angry. I
think that when husbands don't let theirchildren win, most guys will not let
their kids win. They let thegirls win. Dads will let the girls
win, but not the guys,not the boys. Yeah, when you
finally beat me, you're gonna haveabsolutely earned it. You're going to know
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that. And I'm trying to rememberwho it was. I was just listening
to somebody tell a story. Wasit. I'm trying to remember it was
Arnold Schwarzenegger or somebody. I don'tthink it was Stallone. But he beat
his father for the first time atlike it was checkers. I remember they
played checkers. Who was it?And he finally beat him for the first
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time when he was like he waslike seventy and his father was like ninety,
okay, And it was the firsttime he beat him. And his
father died like two days later.He said, the guy I might have
been Stallone. I remember him saying, my dad didn't even know his name
at that point. But he buthe had a moment of clarity when he
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because he normally didn't know who Iwas, and he said hey, son,
you want to play some checkers,which is what we used to do
all the time, and he usuallyjust ran the table on h and I
said, yeah, Pops, I'dlove to play. And we played and
I beat him, and he saidthat was that was good, that was
impressive. And it didn't even hitme that I that I just beat him
for the first time. I realizedthat, like at the funeral, I
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only beat him once in his life, and it was two days before he
died. Killed him. That's probablywhat he did. You should have let
your old man win at at Thanksgiving. Don't beat your dad thick checkers.
Yeah. Yeah, I remember hearinga Joel Ostein story once. I thought
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it was funny. Joel Ostin wastrying to give the example of perspective and
how you should focus on the good. Well, he always likes to start
with something funny, and he wastelling a story about playing basketball with his
son, and his son beat himfor the first time in one on one
basketball. So he's probably like fourteenor fifteen, and Joel is probably I'm
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guessing close to fifty at that point. And you know, as you get
older as a guy, you're losingyour physical capabilities and young men are gaining,
so there is a window there wherethe old man can't keep up with
the young man anymore. And itfinally happened. He lost, but it
was a tough fought battle in thebackyard, and there was a play where
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the kid drove by Joel and wasgoing for the layup and Joel time just
jumped perfect and like kind of pinnedit on the glass type of thing.
But then he went on to losethat game. Well, the next day
or the day after, they're they'rehaving some sort of get together and the
guy, the Joel's talking some guyand the kid says, hey, mister
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Johnson, did my dad tell youwhat happened the other day? Because he's
excited I just beat my father forthe first time. And he said,
no, what happened Joel? Hegoes tell him that about the basketball game,
and he said, I wasn't tryingto be a smart butt, but
my first thought was, oh,yeah, he tried to drive by me
and I pinned his stuff on theglass. And he was like, not
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that, I beat you. Ibeat you. And he's like, oh
yeah, that happened already, forgotthat part. I'm just focusing on the
good. The good is good.Yeah, I'm focusing on the good.
The fact that my son beat me, that's not good. I'd never want
to lose to my son at anything, jumping Jack's push ups, got it
whatever. But to your wife,we always want to lose a panally it's
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programmed. But maybe you've got ahusband who's not letting you win, who
pushes back on? Who is thatneanderthal? We need to know his name
exactly. We've got an anti loiteringmessage happening at a Taco Bell in Phoenix,
and now the neighbors are complaining thatthe anti loitering message is worse than
the loiterers. They had complained tothe police that look, there's all these
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kids. They come by, youknow, midnight, and they get their
chloupas and then they sit around andthey change that exactly. How can we
get well? Taco Bell said,well, we'll help, and so they've
recorded a message thank you for visitingTaco Bell. This property is being monitored
for guest safety and security. Loiteringis not allowed, and they say that
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this is keeping them up all night. Can we go back to just having
the loitering? Who tried to fixa problem in your life and actually made
it worse. The problem is worsenow than when they started. And also,
Jonathan, we've got a morning Russianregular. You're talking about husbands and
wives. This is one of thoseones where you don't you don't want to
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push the wife too much. Butat the same time, uh, this
could be leading to your own demise. We've got according to this man,
we've got some friends about a yearago, came upon some hard times as
a just because we've been great friendswith them for you know a number of
years, my wife and I decidedto give them just a gift. It's
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just that we're not we don't wantto loan. We just want to give
you a gift of a thousand dollars. Wow, Merry Christmas or whatever it
was. And he said quote theywere super appreciative. But the thing is,
once we gave it to him,I noticed on social media that suddenly
they're going out more often, they'rehaving fancy dinners, they seem to be
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scourging a bit more. Uh huh. And I thought to myself, well,
that's kind of weird. I thoughtyou were on hard times right.
Well, here we are about ayear later, my wife tells me that
the other wife has explained her thatthey're back on hard times. Oh,
they're coming back to the whale.Well, now that the woman is apparently
talking to the wife about maybe wecould take out alone. And I don't
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want to lend them any money,my wife either, My wife wants us
to consider lending them some money.I said, I don't want to lend
them any money. So what doyou do here? Now? Alone is
different than a gift. If yougive you a gift, I'm spending the
gift. Yeah, you get malone. You're not going to get that back.
It's going to be a gift.Well, that that's we don't know.
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We've never given them a loan before. You've already written it off.
So if they were to borrow athousand, you never get it back.
Wow, you just jumped to thatconclusion. You never get it back?
Well, what about it's a thousanddollars to make my wife happy? You
ever sit down an ad how muchmoney you've loaned to people and you never
got back? No, And Itry to let it go. I can't.
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And there's one guy who really ticksme off about it. It's still
in my mind. It's probably becauseI was so young. I was like
twenty one, twenty two something likethat. I wasn't a father yet.
I became a dad at twenty four. But so, whatever the age was,
this guy was. This is whenI was still single and mingland,
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and he used to have these greatparties. He was a Yale student,
and I used to go over tohis you know, this house that he
rented on campus at Yale, andhe throw these incredible parties. Loved it,
and I gave him some money fromtime to time. And I was
making pretty good money for somebody myage at that point. And he says,
Hey, I have to move towherever, California or someplace, and
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I'm a little light on money.I was wondering if you could lend me.
It was like eight hundred dollars.And again we're going back to like
nineteen ninety one. Eight hundred dollars. I'm like twenty three years old.
That's a crapload of money. Sure, And I said, I know you're
good for it. Yeah, ofcourse, he said, of course,
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as soon as I get to California. I'm a Yale g graduate. A
couple of weeks once I get there, yeah, I don't even sweat it.
Well, I get it. Abouta couple of weeks after he's gone,
I haven't heard from him. SoI sent him a letter, like
a little card or something like,hey man, congratulations on the move.
We all miss you back out hereand New Haven. Hope things are going
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great in San Diego or wherever itwas. No respond, no respond,
nothing, And I call the number. It's been disconnected. Never heard from
that guy. Never. He tookmy eight hundred dollars. And now that's
the one that really still bothers me. And and do you know what,
that's not healthy for me. Thatdoesn't do me any good to think about
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that. That's like a cancer justsitting there. And I'm like, I
don't know if I disliked to getI felt so betrayed. Yeah, when
I said I can't let it go, I can't let it go. I
don't think about it very often,but I'll think about that person I go,
and it sticks in your brain.Are they still in your life?
Well occasionally, because that would bedifferent. I had to see this guy,
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Yeah, yeah, rarely. Oh, Sam bro we're working on forty
years here. It was a lotof money too. You got that you
got that eight hundred dollars from fortyyears ago. You got that this was
a down payment on a car.He needed to get financed. But he
needed down payment on a car.Oh, but he needed to go to
work. He needed a car.Was he working for you. I'm not
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going to say that part. We'regoing to keep that part quiet. Yeah.
But so you helped him get thecar. Yes, he got the
car. Yes, he got towork, he got paid. Yeah,
he just found other things to spendthat money on other than Yeah, I
never saw it. Mm hmmm.I think that's the largest amount. No,
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it's not. I just thought aboutanother one. But he he he
was under he knew that was aloan. Yes, that's not a gift.
No, that's not like if somebodycomes to you and says, I
mean I had go to it.I had to go to a line of
credit and pull the money out.Yeah, so I was paying interest to
paying myself back. But this isone of those things where it's different to
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me because it's like, say,it's not your kid, because I understand
everything's different with your children. Butif it's a friend of yours who normally
you to, not you two couplesexchange gifts. Guys don't exchange gifts.
But if it was a you know, you and another couple exchange gifts,
and usually the gift will say it'slike worth a hundred dollars, right,
But this Christmas, you know they'vebeen going through a rough time, and
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so you said to Sally, lookBilly and Diane over there, they're having
a really rough go of it.We've got the extra money. Why not
just give them a thousand dollars andtell them it's going to be the best
New Year's ever. You know,their fortunes are changing, and they do
it and they live it up.That's not their fault because you told me
to have my bestin I like it. I like it good and awkward.
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Oh, let's talk about that tomorrow. Hey, what's going on in your
neighborhood? You give them money too. We should have a who owes you
the most money? Competition? Oh? Man, somebody can beat aiden at
all? Oh, I'm sure ofit. You can, I know,
don't that's bothering you. Let's notplay that game. It's only gonna make
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that game sucks. I come hereto feel good. I don't feel bad.
Okay, what's going on in yourneighborhood. We start talking to more.
You start talking to nine seven eightnine two six seven nine seven eight w COS
Hello, killing Ash, Hello,it's tomorrow show today. I don't have
the montage ready yet, the montauhfor the Kenny Chesney contest. I was
gonna do, uh three for two? What does that mean? There's gonna
be three duets? Oh? Onewould insist that I use the some we
used today. So he's only gotthree two other duets Yeah, Uncle Crackers
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one of them, which will beperfect because Uncle Crackers on the show.
Yeah, So not gonna be todo three for two. Now, I
got to figure out something else.I like a theme would be what's her
name? The Lauren Olana? Areyou doing with Laurena o? Lena?
Mm? Let me look, yeahwe could, we could. Maybe we
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said let's keep that hope alive.I think it's a clever idea. He
came up with three for two KennyChesney duets, and let's see how many
they they list? Okay, he'sApple Music says he's got a bunch.
He's got they weren't hit when thesun goes down with Uncle Crack. Ye
Uh, let's see with the Whalers, everybody wants to go to heaven.
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I remember that one with Okay,Yeah, I remember I quote that all
the time Kenny Chesney is when hetaught me everyone wants to go to heaven,
but nobody want to go. Nowthat's good, okay. Yeah.
And then we just mentioned the onewith what's her face Potter? That's who
we use that today? Is thatthe one where where he's singing about in
tequila? What about to Yeah,Megan Marony, Megan Moroni. We can
(01:30):
do those three there you go,all right, right there, nailed it,
nailed it, We got that.I'll put that together now you got
the answer. You don't even needto hear the montage. We put it
together right here for you. Thatjust happened in the Morning Show meeting.
Wow, it's all Tomorrow Show Today. That's what it's all about on Tomorrow
Show Today, trying to figure outwhat we're going to do, the angles
(01:51):
we're going to take those types ofthings, giving you insights onto how we
come up with the Morning Show.Uh. I've got a study here,
Jonathan. I don't know if thisis going to make women angry or maybe
just smug. It might make themsmug. According to this research, women
(02:14):
win all the time with their spouseall the time. Sally does, and
it's apparently genetically programmed that way.After this study shows that women don't even
try as hard to beat their spouseas they do strange men. So if
they're in some sort of like dartthrowing competition, playing Tic tac toe,
(02:37):
whatever, when they look at theirbrains, the women are trying harder to
beat the strangers when they go againstthe men. They don't try their husbands.
They don't try as hard, butthe men try even less. The
men actually apparently have the feeling.According to the researchers, the old happy
(03:00):
wife, happy life is actually true, and so in their it's adage that
has stood the test of time.Of course it's true. Well, they're
saying, God programmed that into you, that you actually look at a victory
over your wife as a loss.I just thought I was being smart.
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No, no, no, thisis just the way you've been built.
That you can't beat your wife.You can't beat her in free throws,
you can't beat her in running,you can't beat her in pull ups.
There's literally nothing you can beat yourwife at. Although when these men went
against the stranger, the strange womenalmost uniformly beat them one hundred percent of
the time. In everything memory games, whatever, and they showed that they
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had some subjects here where where theyactually had the wife introduce a lie into
the argument and the husband lets itslide that the husband knows I don't want
to call her out. I actuallyhave the right answer, but if I
give her the right answer, andit's going to make her more angry,
so he'll intentionally lose, quote unquotelose the argument, even because we just
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want to make our wives happy.I thought I was doing it just so
she wouldn't be upset, because Sally'svery competitive. But I just thought about
something. Whenever we're playing a teamsport, like a family get together,
we're doing volleyball, we're doing softball, or whatever the version of baseball is,
we're playing kickball, whatever that versionis. I insist on being on
a Sally's team because I want usto win. But she was on the
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other team because you couldn't compete againsther. But I don't even I never
even thought of this. I've nevereven had this thought process. I've never
read this science before. Yeah,if you competed with your wife, you
would destroy your own team so shecould win. Yeah, But then at
the same time, what if thereis somebody else if there's a husband on
the other team, he's trying todestroy that team, so his wife could
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strateg Because we've got families getting togetherfor Thanksgiving, there's always some kind of
competition coming down at our house.There is. Yeah, it could be
any board games whatever. Men aregenetically programmed. Wife should win. Sally's
way too competitive show she'll ruin theevent. It's not just family fund anymore.
Sally's out to win. That's actuallybeen said. It's just volleyball.
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Greg. That's good. Wow.So it'd be fun if we did the
Brady Bunch competitions. I mean competitionswere on the Brady Bunch and the driving
competition. I don't remember these.No. The only thing I remember about
the Brady Bunch is Greg took aphotograph and caught the photo. The guy's
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foot was I think out of bounds, and he blew it up and changed
the game or something. Vaguely.I remember that. I remember the Marshall
record. Notice what was that afootball? That was Also that was when
Joe Willie namath and was having catchGreg and then he went to throw it
and I don't know, he said, Marcia, think fast or something.
(06:08):
He threw it and hit Marsha inthe face. Why would you do that?
Oh my gosh, I remember theyrode donkeys into the Grand Canyon.
Oh yeah, I forgot about that. I don't really remember. A lot
of The Brady Bunch was not reallymy show. I remember spots of it,
like I remember remember watching a wholelot of The Brady Bunch. I
just remember the stupid conversations around it, because everybody else seemingly watched it.
(06:30):
Yeah, and that's one of thoseweird things that we've talked about in the
past where it was a stiff whenit came out CBS and when it originally
was released, not a hit,became a hit in reruns, kind of
like when we talk about our favoriteChristmas move, It's a wonderful life.
Nobody like that, Like Kenny Chesney, she thinks much actor sexy. Not
a hit, not a number onehit, not even top ten, didn't
(06:53):
even get the top ten. Everybodysings along with that song. But back
to this other thing, maybe we'regonna have you know, because everybody's not
uniform. Not everybody is genetically programmedperfectly, or some people have overridden that.
Ladies, you have a husband who'snot letting you win. This guy
(07:15):
refuses let you win, and Iknow that it makes women angry. I
think that when husbands don't let theirchildren win, most guys will not let
their kids win. They let thegirls win. Dads will let the girls
win, but not the guys,not the boys. Yeah, when you
finally beat me, you're gonna haveabsolutely earned it. You're going to know
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that. And I'm trying to rememberwho it was. I was just listening
to somebody tell a story. Wasit. I'm trying to remember it was
Arnold Schwarzenegger or somebody. I don'tthink it was Stallone. But he beat
his father for the first time atlike it was checkers. I remember they
played checkers. Who was it?And he finally beat him for the first
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time when he was like he waslike seventy and his father was like ninety,
okay, And it was the firsttime he beat him. And his
father died like two days later.He said, the guy I might have
been Stallone. I remember him saying, my dad didn't even know his name
at that point. But he buthe had a moment of clarity when he
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because he normally didn't know who Iwas, and he said hey, son,
you want to play some checkers,which is what we used to do
all the time, and he usuallyjust ran the table on h and I
said, yeah, Pops, I'dlove to play. And we played and
I beat him, and he saidthat was that was good, that was
impressive. And it didn't even hitme that I that I just beat him
for the first time. I realizedthat, like at the funeral, I
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only beat him once in his life, and it was two days before he
died. Killed him. That's probablywhat he did. You should have let
your old man win at at Thanksgiving. Don't beat your dad thick checkers.
Yeah. Yeah, I remember hearinga Joel Ostein story once. I thought
(09:03):
it was funny. Joel Ostin wastrying to give the example of perspective and
how you should focus on the good. Well, he always likes to start
with something funny, and he wastelling a story about playing basketball with his
son, and his son beat himfor the first time in one on one
basketball. So he's probably like fourteenor fifteen, and Joel is probably I'm
(09:24):
guessing close to fifty at that point. And you know, as you get
older as a guy, you're losingyour physical capabilities and young men are gaining,
so there is a window there wherethe old man can't keep up with
the young man anymore. And itfinally happened. He lost, but it
was a tough fought battle in thebackyard, and there was a play where
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the kid drove by Joel and wasgoing for the layup and Joel time just
jumped perfect and like kind of pinnedit on the glass type of thing.
But then he went on to losethat game. Well, the next day
or the day after, they're they'rehaving some sort of get together and the
guy, the Joel's talking some guyand the kid says, hey, mister
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Johnson, did my dad tell youwhat happened the other day? Because he's
excited I just beat my father forthe first time. And he said,
no, what happened Joel? Hegoes tell him that about the basketball game,
and he said, I wasn't tryingto be a smart butt, but
my first thought was, oh,yeah, he tried to drive by me
and I pinned his stuff on theglass. And he was like, not
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that, I beat you. Ibeat you. And he's like, oh
yeah, that happened already, forgotthat part. I'm just focusing on the
good. The good is good.Yeah, I'm focusing on the good.
The fact that my son beat me, that's not good. I'd never want
to lose to my son at anything, jumping Jack's push ups, got it
whatever. But to your wife,we always want to lose a panally it's
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programmed. But maybe you've got ahusband who's not letting you win, who
pushes back on? Who is thatneanderthal? We need to know his name
exactly. We've got an anti loiteringmessage happening at a Taco Bell in Phoenix,
and now the neighbors are complaining thatthe anti loitering message is worse than
the loiterers. They had complained tothe police that look, there's all these
(11:18):
kids. They come by, youknow, midnight, and they get their
chloupas and then they sit around andthey change that exactly. How can we
get well? Taco Bell said,well, we'll help, and so they've
recorded a message thank you for visitingTaco Bell. This property is being monitored
for guest safety and security. Loiteringis not allowed, and they say that
(11:39):
this is keeping them up all night. Can we go back to just having
the loitering? Who tried to fixa problem in your life and actually made
it worse. The problem is worsenow than when they started. And also,
Jonathan, we've got a morning Russianregular. You're talking about husbands and
wives. This is one of thoseones where you don't you don't want to
(12:01):
push the wife too much. Butat the same time, uh, this
could be leading to your own demise. We've got according to this man,
we've got some friends about a yearago, came upon some hard times as
a just because we've been great friendswith them for you know a number of
years, my wife and I decidedto give them just a gift. It's
(12:22):
just that we're not we don't wantto loan. We just want to give
you a gift of a thousand dollars. Wow, Merry Christmas or whatever it
was. And he said quote theywere super appreciative. But the thing is,
once we gave it to him,I noticed on social media that suddenly
they're going out more often, they'rehaving fancy dinners, they seem to be
(12:43):
scourging a bit more. Uh huh. And I thought to myself, well,
that's kind of weird. I thoughtyou were on hard times right.
Well, here we are about ayear later, my wife tells me that
the other wife has explained her thatthey're back on hard times. Oh,
they're coming back to the whale.Well, now that the woman is apparently
talking to the wife about maybe wecould take out alone. And I don't
(13:05):
want to lend them any money,my wife either, My wife wants us
to consider lending them some money.I said, I don't want to lend
them any money. So what doyou do here? Now? Alone is
different than a gift. If yougive you a gift, I'm spending the
gift. Yeah, you get malone. You're not going to get that back.
It's going to be a gift.Well, that that's we don't know.
(13:26):
We've never given them a loan before. You've already written it off.
So if they were to borrow athousand, you never get it back.
Wow, you just jumped to thatconclusion. You never get it back?
Well, what about it's a thousanddollars to make my wife happy? You
ever sit down an ad how muchmoney you've loaned to people and you never
got back? No, And Itry to let it go. I can't.
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And there's one guy who really ticksme off about it. It's still
in my mind. It's probably becauseI was so young. I was like
twenty one, twenty two something likethat. I wasn't a father yet.
I became a dad at twenty four. But so, whatever the age was,
this guy was. This is whenI was still single and mingland,
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and he used to have these greatparties. He was a Yale student,
and I used to go over tohis you know, this house that he
rented on campus at Yale, andhe throw these incredible parties. Loved it,
and I gave him some money fromtime to time. And I was
making pretty good money for somebody myage at that point. And he says,
Hey, I have to move towherever, California or someplace, and
(14:35):
I'm a little light on money.I was wondering if you could lend me.
It was like eight hundred dollars.And again we're going back to like
nineteen ninety one. Eight hundred dollars. I'm like twenty three years old.
That's a crapload of money. Sure, And I said, I know you're
good for it. Yeah, ofcourse, he said, of course,
(14:56):
as soon as I get to California. I'm a Yale g graduate. A
couple of weeks once I get there, yeah, I don't even sweat it.
Well, I get it. Abouta couple of weeks after he's gone,
I haven't heard from him. SoI sent him a letter, like
a little card or something like,hey man, congratulations on the move.
We all miss you back out hereand New Haven. Hope things are going
(15:18):
great in San Diego or wherever itwas. No respond, no respond,
nothing, And I call the number. It's been disconnected. Never heard from
that guy. Never. He tookmy eight hundred dollars. And now that's
the one that really still bothers me. And and do you know what,
that's not healthy for me. Thatdoesn't do me any good to think about
(15:41):
that. That's like a cancer justsitting there. And I'm like, I
don't know if I disliked to getI felt so betrayed. Yeah, when
I said I can't let it go, I can't let it go. I
don't think about it very often,but I'll think about that person I go,
and it sticks in your brain.Are they still in your life?
Well occasionally, because that would bedifferent. I had to see this guy,
(16:03):
Yeah, yeah, rarely. Oh, Sam bro we're working on forty
years here. It was a lotof money too. You got that you
got that eight hundred dollars from fortyyears ago. You got that this was
a down payment on a car.He needed to get financed. But he
needed down payment on a car.Oh, but he needed to go to
work. He needed a car.Was he working for you. I'm not
(16:26):
going to say that part. We'regoing to keep that part quiet. Yeah.
But so you helped him get thecar. Yes, he got the
car. Yes, he got towork, he got paid. Yeah,
he just found other things to spendthat money on other than Yeah, I
never saw it. Mm hmmm.I think that's the largest amount. No,
(16:47):
it's not. I just thought aboutanother one. But he he he
was under he knew that was aloan. Yes, that's not a gift.
No, that's not like if somebodycomes to you and says, I
mean I had go to it.I had to go to a line of
credit and pull the money out.Yeah, so I was paying interest to
paying myself back. But this isone of those things where it's different to
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me because it's like, say,it's not your kid, because I understand
everything's different with your children. Butif it's a friend of yours who normally
you to, not you two couplesexchange gifts. Guys don't exchange gifts.
But if it was a you know, you and another couple exchange gifts,
and usually the gift will say it'slike worth a hundred dollars, right,
But this Christmas, you know they'vebeen going through a rough time, and
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so you said to Sally, lookBilly and Diane over there, they're having
a really rough go of it.We've got the extra money. Why not
just give them a thousand dollars andtell them it's going to be the best
New Year's ever. You know,their fortunes are changing, and they do
it and they live it up.That's not their fault because you told me
to have my bestin I like it. I like it good and awkward.
(17:52):
Oh, let's talk about that tomorrow. Hey, what's going on in your
neighborhood? You give them money too. We should have a who owes you
the most money? Competition? Oh? Man, somebody can beat aiden at
all? Oh, I'm sure ofit. You can, I know,
don't that's bothering you. Let's notplay that game. It's only gonna make
(18:12):
that game sucks. I come hereto feel good. I don't feel bad.
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