Join us as we flip the convo to hear from the daughters instead of the Mamas this time! Meet Lexi and Autumn, they are high achievers in their classes, taking on exciting new career opportunities and holding leadership roles at Career Girls an amazing non-profit helping young women connect to successful working women to get guidance as they journey on the path towards finding a passion and turning it into a thriving career. These young ladies tell us all about their hard work and payoffs as they get ready to finish high school and dive into college. We talk what worked, what didn’t – as Mamas what can we work to improve and/or continue doing to raise capable people!
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Yeah, this Mama Got Drama.We're back for another episode. I'm excited
about this one, Drina, becauseit's different. Like we we okay,
we've already had the amazing moms onwhat we're gonna continue to do. Then
we flipped it and brought the dadson. And now on other's day,
yeah, and on our father's day. Now we're flipping it again, and
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we're turning the scope on to youngladies who are not yet mothers, aspiring
to be amazing career women, andwe want to ask them how do we
become better at what we're doing fromtheir perspective? So please help us enjoining
Young Lexie and Young Autumn to thepodcast. Hey, hello, hello Applaus.
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So you ladies are from Go AheadRain Now, Yeah, you guys
are from Career Girls. Tell usabout the organization, what you guys you
know, do with career girls andhow you guys got started working with career
girls. Career Girls, I guessI can go first. I thought on.
Curve Girls is an organization that hasa huge idea of young like videos
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for young ladies to explore their passionsand different careers in like so many,
so many different careers and it's reallygreat. Um. I first became a
member of the Youth of the DiceoryBoard in twenty twenty one when I was
actually introduced to Career Girls buying mymiddle school's head of school, which is
really awesome. So that's kind ofhow I got involved, Lexi. And
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then we also have autumn on andautumn how did you become involved? So
I actually joined Career Girls after sendinga lengthy email to my counselor explaining that
I was tired of being put incertain classes that kind of objectified women into
one category. And this this emailgot sent to my vice principal who was
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like, Hey, I'm part ofCareer Roles and they need people who are
going to state opinions and give themadvice on things. And I think you'd
be perfect for this position. Ohyeah, I got got this position from
actually fighting forum girl of quality andlike classes. So good for you.
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And so now are you were youalso in middle school or was this in
high school? Oh? This wastwenty twenty one. I was a sophomore
in high school. Okay, nice, And I think Lexie gave like the
best kind of intro to Career Girls. But the other thing I want to
add, is you know, thisorganization really just gives young women like yourselves
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an opportunity to see and hear andlike actually go down a path with the
working woman and understand what her dayto day looks like. And like,
you know, a lot of uswho are a little bit older than you
guys, didn't have that opportunity.You just kind of heard about a career
and you're like, that kind ofsounds cool, but then you get in
it and you're like, WHOA,this is not what I expected. So
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this scope that you guys are gettingis such an important key that you're given
to open the lock of finding outwhat you want to do with your life
and what's gonna make you happy.So now that we've kind of talked about
what you do with careers, girls, what is something you know that you
guys are doing lately or something newthat you guys are diving into. I
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don't know about Lexi, but I'ma I'm a rising senior in high school.
So currently I'm going through like collegeadmissions process and looking into careers for
myself and talking to people who arein those careers. So that's exciting,
and you seem relaxed because normally atthis time or when I was going through
it, I'm like, oh mygosh, pulling out my hair a little
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bit. So you're you seem likeyou have the right to support around you
because you've already been kind of goingdown this path. It seems like a
little more stress free. Yeah.I have great support. My parents have
been great, My counselors are amazing. I am stressed with the college essays
I want. Lie I've heard youmentioned a few times, like you know
that you've you've used, you've reachedout to your counselor. I feel like
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that's in such an important part ofhigh school that maybe a lot of teens
overlook and even middle school because myson's in middle school and I know he's
had many conversations with his counselor fordifferent different reasons. But I just feel
like sometimes we forget, or teensforget that that resource is available. I
have a friend who actually is she'sworking in the counseling department in another high
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school in Reno. But it's justreally cool because she has been such a
support for these students and hearing herstories and then just hearing you reference you
know, meeting with your counselor.I feel like that's such an important resource
that maybe some kids overlook a lotof times or just don't know if it's
available. I don't know. Imean, I think that's kind of a
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nice question to ask autom like,what what do you think are some of
the things that you know? Peopleautomatically think counselor and they think maybe therapy
or asking questions about college. Whatare some of the things that people wouldn't
you think they can go to theircounselor for. I'm with my counselor a
lot. He knows me, butI'm walking to me. I annoy him
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sometimes, but no, it probablyloves it. I mean, they probably
love everything that the students are comingin and feeling comfortable and talking to them
about everything, you know, andusing them for whatever they can help with.
So go ahead, and sorry,I don't apologize. I use my
counselor a lot, especially with somethings in high school that I know.
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I can't go to my parents toobecause they don't fully understand how North Carolina
school system school systems work. Sothere's been times where I've just gone my
counselor and asked him questions about collegeadmissions in high school, or there's also
been sometimes where I've been really juststressed out school and didn't like it wasn't
something I wanted to talk to mymom about, so I just wanted to
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talk to my counselor and it reallyhelped out because if it was related to
school, he could like email myteachers and just be like, Hey,
this student just needs a little helpwith this, and I think she's too
scared to come to you. Soit's just like things that maybe a parent
couldn't help with, a counselor canand it's just another support system that's great.
And Lexie, have you been ableto utilize like the counseling at your
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school or Oh, for me,it's a it's been a little bit different.
I haven't actually been um meeting consistentlywith my school counselor, but I
guess for me, someone in thatposition be my advisors, who I meet
with every every other week, andit's been really great because I got to
talk to them about so many things, like from problems at home to problems
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at school, and they're always justthere to support me. So that's my
system of support at school. Usuallythat's amazing. Yeah, there are times
I'm sure when you guys, youknow, like we're gonna discuss that you
don't feel comfortable coming to your parents, right, So having that that outlet
is really important. Yes, Yeah, that's the that's the first stamp two,
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breaking the ice, because, likeAdrina was saying, you know,
a lot of these counselors are justhappy to have you guys come in the
door because a lot of times,nine times out of ten, they're just
trying to connect with you and makeyou feel comfortable enough to come to them.
So you guys are already like howmany steps ahead of the other peers
that you guys have around you.Lexi, is there anything new that you're
working on or that you got goingon? Well, right now, I'm
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working on the science internship program atthe University of California, Santa Cruz and
especially been really cool. I'm acomputational media intern and before starting this internship,
I had never heard a lot termbefore, but I think it's basically
a field that combines a computer scienceand a little bit of art, which
are both fields I'm really interested in. So right now that's kind of something
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that's thank me on in my life. How exciting. Also another thing that
would almost stress me how but lookit brings a smile to Lexi's face,
So that's amazing. Well, let'sdive right in. I mean Drina kind
of touched on it a little bit. I mean, you know, as
you are becoming a mature woman andyou're diving into these spaces where you get
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to test out careers and put yourcollege applications in, you're thinking about moving
out right and being quote unquote onyour own right, what are some areas
that you feel your parents might haveyou know, flubbed at first step right
because it's their first time probably havingyou know, a child at your age,
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was there a point where you werelike, m, they probably should
have handled this a little differently.I probably I could pull up many times
where my parents I started fighting.My mother was a single working mother and
so she was very spread thined growingup, and she did a great job,
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but there was definitely times where shewas just very blunt about things,
and as a kid, it's justlike, oh my god, is she
mad at me? But in hindsight, I actually think that that parenting style
were great for me. Obviously itdoesn't work amazing for everyone. But now
I just I don't know how todeal with things if it's not said straight
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to me, Like I don't knowwhat direction to go in with information that
isn't bluntly stated towards me. AndI really loved that my mother would say
things to be straight because I havesome thick skin. Now just love me.
They can yell at me and Ijust sit there with a straight face.
But yeah, that was definitely.There was definitely times growing up where
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I was just like really upset becauseI felt like, oh I needed something
more soft sad, But that wasnot my mom, very strong, independent
woman. I grew up with oneof those two. Same. Now I'm
trying to be mindful on my approachto my children as well. But I
think sometimes you know, like yeah, sometimes you gotta say it straight.
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You do, you do? Andnow, like you said, Adam,
you have a thick skin now,and that's going to help you more than
you know, way more than youknow, not just in the career space,
but just you know, walking downthe street, going to different potential
housing places and meeting different people likeyou're it's gonna help you a lot.
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Tell about you, Lexie, arethere any times when you're like, I
should have been the parent here.I know, I know how to handle
this better. Yeah. I guessfor me, it's a little bit of
the opposite of Autumn. When Iwas growing up, my parents were usually
are very very encouraging and they alwayssupport me and like whatever I wanted to
do. But there were some timeswhen we would seem like sons and daughters
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and like children of family friends andacquinstances who were maybe doing better and something
that I was, And sometimes Iwould just hear my parents say like,
oh, like they're doing so welland that why don't you do that as
well? And that sometimes just mademe feel like I had to do everything
to please my parents. And Iguess that to me right now, I
feel like that's given me more ofa sense of I need to like sees
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everyone or I need to like dothings for other people, and that's something
that I'm definitely working on and myparents are supporting me in that. But
I guess growing it up, likejust constantly hearing these comparisons has not been
the best I would say, yeah, yeah, and people placing as a
real thing, So props see youfor like acknowledging that at such a young
age that that's something that you canwork on because it's important for real.
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Yeah, and they're so young tojust know that that's like something that you
need to work on. It's reallyreally incredible, yeah, because it it
can morph into other things and thenyou have to figure out what that is
too. So, like she said, amazing that you're doing it at such
a young age. I mean,I think you guys brought up to two
really good points of parenting styles,which is like that parent that's like tough
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love and then that parent that alsoreminds you of like competition and stuff that's
kind of going on around you.And not to say what's right or what's
wrong, but really just kind ofwanting to hear from YouTube being young women,
Are there some pieces of advice youcan give to us because we,
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you know, like Drena mentioned,her kids are getting more and more closer
to teenage years than mine are minorfive and three. But there are things
that I'm doing now that's going tolay the groundwork to when we get to
this teen years And you know,being that you guys are kind of already
pushed through that early initial phase oflike teenage life are there some things that
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you would tell a parent now,like hey, talk more about this,
or maybe ease into this, orwhat are some some things that come to
mind? Um, one of thefirst things that comes to mind for me,
I'm the oldest of my family,so I've seen multiple like younger than
me, brought up in so manydifferent ways. But one of the things
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that I think works best for meand my family was kind of always talking
to a kid like there are you'reequal, Because I've definitely seen parents talk
down to their kids and it makestheir kids feel small and like kind of
makes you feel like you don't matteras much. But if you're talking to
a child like they're you're equal,even if they're doing something that's immature or
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like not socially acceptable, it kindof helps them realize that they need to
act as you're equal and they needto act more mature. And it also
just makes conversations easier. It doesn'tfeel like you're being like talked down to,
it shamed. It's a two wayconversation, not just one way.
This is what you're going to do, it's why am I going to do
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this? Well, here's why,And it just helps facilitate growth in a
much smoother way, right, Ilove that. Yeah, and just once
a little bit, I guess,like make sure you listen to the child's
opinions and their thoughts, because,like Autumn said, it's a two way
conversation and the child's thoughts, Likeyou might be surprised at what they have
to say, and sometimes it's notchildish flavoring the metaphor, like a lot
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of what they say is actually likea different way of thinking, and it's
actually really valuable to just like settledown and try to listen to what they
have to say sometimes. Yeah.Yeah, I think it's easy as a
parent too, especially because you're likeyou're I'm the parent, right, so
you feel like you have to youhave to flex that authority at times.
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Um, But like you said,it doesn't have to be that way.
You know, obviously we have toparent make sure no one gets hurt,
or to make sure that we keepthe child on the right path, and
you know, um, but itdoesn't have to be like I'm in charge
and what you say doesn't matter,right, right, right, listening is
really important. I feel I feellike I heard that from Lexi, like
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just listening, Um, I heardyou say at times, and I think
that's really important, like there's timeand place and sometimes with eating emotions that
gets thrown out the window. Butyeah, there's definitely times where you have
to act like the authority and there'snot two ways, especially when it comes
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to safety. But there's always timeswhere it's just a conversation and it's not
urgent and it can be said faceto face, a two way conversation right
right. And then you know,there's there's that parenting style that's like,
you know, almost spoil the kid, right, give them what they want,
give them miss, give them that, and then they're always going to
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come talk to me because they knowthey're going to get whatever X y Z.
I mean, I personally don't subscribeto that, but I mean I
know that there are a lot ofparents that do. And it's like you're
giving them all of these things,they're a not having to work for them
or learn how to do things right. But then also it's like you're not
necessarily creating that comforting space or thatspace where they feel equal, like you
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said or heard to, where theywant to come talk to you about troubling
things. Because that's really what I'mmost concerned about is creating that space where,
like my kids feel comfortable enough totell me when they massed up and
uncomfortable, like the same comfortability ifthey're doing great, you know, because
all of us parents really just wantthe best for you guys, Right,
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is there something that your parents didthat just set the tone and was like,
Okay, I know I'm messed up, I know this is a bad
situation, but I have to goto my parents, Like what was the
thing that your parents did that gaveyou that that comfort of like I can
turn to them whether it's really goodor really bad for me. I guess
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my parents just made it really clearthat they're not here to try to dictate
my life, Like they're here toguide me through my life and try to
help help and support me, likethrough all mine endepports in life. And
I think that like shift and mindsetjust made it a lot easier for me
to go talk to them about thingsI'm having trouble with because I know they're
not phone too Like sure maybe theymight like get that at first, but
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they're going to try to like helpme talk through it and help support me
through it and just overall just likeguide me through the situation as opposed to
just getting mad and like shutting medown completely and turning me out of the
house or something. Just like knowingthat they're there to support you and that's
like something that they want to dois really impactful. Yeah, I folly
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agree with LEXI, just kind ofbeing like letting you know they're there for
when you mess up. There's beentimes where I've done really bad things and
like I knew at that point,I need to go to my parents about
this because I can't handle it onmy own. And it's it's not balance
you were talking about, like makingsure you know that they're there for you,
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but making sure or you're there forthem, but also making sure they
know that they're held to a certainstandard by themselves. And it's just finding
a way to communicate that when youwhen we as kids as we will like
drop below that standard, that youguys will be there to hold us to
a perfect standard. And like mug, like I said, very Blood kind
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of just says that's right. It'slike you think you're mature, but you're
not. If you need something,you're going to come to me and we'll
give you the resources as long aswe know that you're doing what you can't
to pride. Yeah, because Ithink that's the thing too. It's like,
you know, setting that foundation,like like Raina's you know, she's
in the young toddler stage right now, but always being there for them,
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showing them love, support, andthen that kind of like transitions into you
know, the preteen and then theteenage years. You know, if you
have that support and you feel thatlove from your parents, because they're gonna
there's gonna be times where your childdoesn't come to you, you know,
But I hope that what they've whatI've been able to teach them up until
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that point will help them make theright decision for themselves. And then if
they do need to come, youknow, talk to us. They know
that they can might get in trouble, but I'm here for you over artless
right right. I'm not saying you'renot gonna get grounded, but you know,
right, take care of you inthe situation first. And then were
we go there, do you feellike like you guys are ready to just
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dive in and move out and youknow, go to college and start at
I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no,
is that the plan? Though?Once you because you're getting ready to
graduate what class of twenty four rightat them? And I mean, obviously
you still have this whole senior yearto enjoy and embark on. But as
you come to completion, are youexcited to move into the dorms or like
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you're like I kind of can seetearing up a little bit. I'm I'm
a little excited obviously, like thefreedom, the independence. Um My mom's
also a podcast listener though she lovesher Murder podcast, So I just know
it's going to be Are you okay, wow? Are you walking with someone
at night? Yes? But alsoI was an only child for eleven years,
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so I definitely to a point withpeople where I'm like, I need
to be away from you. Soit's gonna be hard being in a door
with another person right right right?How about you? Lexie? Honestly,
I feel like since I started thinkingabout moving out in college and things like
that, I've just been realizing howmuch, like how many little things my
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parents do hear me every day,Like from what I'm seeing, like my
mom usually brings me like pleats offood because she's wears out like studdy,
and it's just like little actions likethat, Like, I don't know,
I think I'm really good, andI'm not quite sure how I'm going to
like how it's going to feel completelybeing like independent, But I, like
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Autumn said, like the nightly calls, like all those those like small things
will definitely add up. Yeah,yeah, I think you brought up I
think you brought up a really goodpoint. Lex you really don't realize how
much your parents do until you're notliving under their roof. Just like the
little snacks they put out, likeshe said, um, you know,
putting your clothes in a dryer whenyou forgot to put them in. You
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know, little things that you're justlike, oh, I have to wash
my towels like I have to.I really actually have to wash these dishes
like they're just not gonna disappear.And so you kind of have these these
realization moments when you move out,and then you also have this moment of
gratitude where you're like, oh mygod, like I didn't realize how much
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I didn't think them in the momentbecause you're just so used to the treatment,
right, And even I remember readingsomething that someone posted this this guy
had just gone off to college andhe was like, oh my god,
this is how much peanut butter costs, Like you don't even like small things
like that, Like you don't evenrealize, you know, how much is
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like handed to you so that youcan succeed and so that you don't have
to think about what do we needon the grocery list this week? How
much are those groceries? You know, Inflation is a whole real thing.
Right now, you guys probably haven'tfelt the full brunt of it yet.
You know, autumn had like agrin just not like nope, I don't
even know what that word means.And so that's your parents are doing a
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wonderful job, right, because youdon't even feel it yet, right,
And then when you go to collegeyou probably will feel it on just like
the tip of the iceberg, right, And so they're just giving you an
opportunity to get a little bit ofthat freedom, a little bit of that
independence, and then build up yourconfidence of like, Okay, I'm doing
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my own laundry. Okay, Ididn't show up to school looking wrinkled and
my hair messed all up because Ican do this, right, And as
you start to build confidence, it'ssnowballs. It builds and then next you
know, you fully are living onyour own, you know, so how
exciting to be like right here aboutto graduate and Lexie's over here about to
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become a whole scientist slash. Youknow, I don't even remember the name
that you said. It just breezeright through my brain, like did did
either of you work during your highschool years? Yeah? I actually I
got a really good job. I'ma babysitter, nice personal assisting for the
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woman I babysit for, and she'samazing, she's like family, So I
got I got it really easy.It's great pay, and it doesn't even
feel like a job because it's likeI've known these kids so long they're basically
my siblings. So and yeah,it was nice because now she's giving me
a spot, like an internship spotin her company. So I definitely got
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it really easy. It's like abuild up of things that's great though,
a testament to you in how yourhard work, and you know, she
obviously thinks very highly of you tobe able to put you in that type
or you know, offer you thatposition as in an internship, So that's
really incredible. How about you,Lexi? H no, I haven't actually
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had any working experience. Um,yeah, I'm a current rising junior and
both this year and slash Jew,I was thinking about getting a BOVA job
maybe over the summer, but Ialways like ended up to physic committed to
other things. But I think it'sdefinitely be a really valuable experience though,
So I'm talking to maybe that ajob next year. A lot of your
peers work, like, is thatbecause I know, like when I was
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in high school, everyone worked,But I don't know if that's changed,
you know over the years. Youdo a lot of your peers work or
do they just go to school?Well, I think for me, a
lot of my peers actually do work. I think, um mostly like restaurants
and BOVA stories and places like that. There's probably like other places that I
haven't really heard of yet, butyeah, a lot of my peers do
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work. Yeah. I think hereit's pretty mixed because from my friend group
of my understanding, there's kind ofa consensus with a lot of parents where
like, you're making good grades inschool, they'll make sure that you can
get what you need to succeed inschool, but if you're struggling in school,
they prefer you to go and getsome work experience just because it's a
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higher possibility that that's going to bewhat you do later on. So it's
pretty mixed. Definitely, students whostruggle a little bit more are more likely
to have jobs at our school,and then the students who do well in
school don't typically because they're so focusedon school, right, But you know,
there's always exceptions, and it's it'sjust kind of a balance of what's
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going to benefit you in the futureand what you need now. Yeah.
Yeah, that's a great question becauseoh my god, do I have to
prepare these people for resumes at fourteen? No? But um, you know,
as you guys look back to whenyou were kids, right, do
you think that there's something that yourparents did to get you excited about education,
excited about um, you know,striving for this better version of yourself?
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Because not all kids are born thatway, right, Like there's some
kids that need a little bit moremotivation in terms of like education. Right,
So are there things that your parentsmight have done that like expose you
to different things or got that kindof innue at an early age? Oh,
for me, my dad would alwaystalk about like how much he injured
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in subjects in school, and hewould always like at dinner time bring up
cool concepts and fascinating like subjects thatI haven't heard of before, And so
I think that really exposed me toa lot of different things. I remember,
especially on long car rides, hewould actually make a game of like
math concepts for us, so hewould like ask us to solve math comes
on the car and make it kindof a fun game. So I think
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that also really helps me think oflike education has more fun instead of just
like stressing study. So I haveto ask do you have other sibling?
How many siblings do you have?You said too, so are your other
siblings just as interested about math andeducation as you are? Um? Well,
for one of my siblings, he'sone and a half, so okay.
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For my other stifling though, Ithink he's definitely pretty interested in math
as well. But I think aslike high school and middle school homeward because
ran stuff. I think he's alsobeen trying to explore other subjects as well.
But I think, like overall,just talking about like math concept and
exposing us to so many different subjectsareas that my dad personally was excited about
when he was in his school dayshas just really expanded our horizons on that.
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So very cool, very cool,how about you on him? Honestly,
I think it was more so myparents put me in cheer at a
young age, and a lot ofI got really competitive there because it's like
you are standing right next to yourcompetition, but you're also competing with them
because they're your teammates. And Ithink it's just I kind of learned that
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if I'm not doing well at something, it's not anyone else's fault. It's
my fault and I should be workingharder. But instead of seeing that as
like, oh, that's stressful,my parents have framed it as like this
is a competition, Like you eitherwin and get that A, or you
lose and get the C and youdon't get these privileges. So it's it's
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like a game to me in myhead. That does not work for a
lot of people. But I've alwaysthought it's fun to kind of like see
how much I can push myself.My freshman year, I got invited to
take an AP class and it wasin my worst subject. It was in
history, and I was terrible athistory. And my mom's like, well,
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if you do it, these kidssaid it was terrible and they couldn't
get through it, like that's onyou, and I got an A.
And then every year since then,I've been like upping my classes just to
see how much I can push myself. Because it's also kind of just nice
to see, like how much youreally can do when you put yourself to
it, right outside of like,oh, I'm taking these classes so I
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don't have to worry about this asmuch, but also it's just nice to
be like wow, Like back insoft year, I could have never thought
I took five classes, five dAP classes junior year and survived. Like
freshman year me would have been terrifiedof that. And now I'm just kind
of like I feel prepared for college. I feel ready to go take these
classes on my own, and it'sjust training it as a competition always made
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it just way easier because I'm competingwith myself. Yeah, if I can
do if I could beat my lastyear's record, that's great. It truly
is a mindset, and I feellike you both have that early one trying
to tell my kids out all thetime and like it's how you approach it,
it's how you think about it.It's you know you if you decide
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you're gonna have a bad day,you're gonna have a bad day. Like
you know, it's up to youto make that decision. So that's really
great. You guys are some awesomeYou two are awesome. Yes, yes,
I'm very impressed with you two,super super impressed. And you know,
us being you know, radio momsand women in this industry, it's
really exciting to see young lady thatare coming up next because we're always advocating
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for you guys. We're always championingwomen and you know us coming up in
whatever industry that is. So it'samazing to see you guys butting and this
limitless potential pouring out of you guys, and we are so excited to see
what you guys come up with next. And when that fear starts to set
in and you get a little nervous, just know that you got women like
us rooting for you and we can'twait to see what amazing stuff you come
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up with next. Guys are awesome. Kind of cool to see you guys
do that, though, because that'ssort of what we are supposed to do
as career roles, is like setup stuff for the next few generations.
So it's just kind of cool tosee that trickle down of like there was
people who gave us this opportunity,so we can help give others offsets.
Yes, yes, for sure,for sure. And before we get off,
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we're about to close up. Iknow one thing that we always want
to touch on is making sure totake time to put that self care in
There. Is there something that youguys are doing that you know, on
the daily, weekly, whatever itis that you're putting in to make sure
that you're taking care of yourself too, because that's so important. Well,
I like king out with my babybrother. Just looking at his face kind
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of just relaxes me, you know, and always, so that's probably something
that I do on a daily basisto that's cute. Yeah, Um,
I kind of just set my goalsup for the weekend if I felt like
I've met them, I tell myselfto close the book, step away from
the computer, go outside. ApparentlyI don't do that a lot. Didn't
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learn that till this summer when Igot tan and I was like, how
much have I been in my house? But just reminding myself that, like
school is not your entire life,like take a step back. Go do
something for your mind in a day, do something for your body in a
day, and do something for yourhappiness within a day. Yeah, amazing.
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You guys are great. You getwe can't wait. I want,
I want like a postcard from China, host card from wherever you decide to
go to school next. I meanjust to be like, look, we
made it, We're in our dormroom, we're safe, We're good.
I love it. I love it, ladies, Thank you so much.
Thank you, and Autumn. That'sanother episode of this Mama Got drama.
There was no drama this episode.I feel like it was just all smiles.
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Actually, that is the drama.The emotions of smiles and happiness and
excitement. There it is. Ifound it. Thank you so much for
joining us. Thank you.
Yeah, this Mama Got Drama.We're back for another episode. I'm excited
about this one, Drina, becauseit's different. Like we we okay,
we've already had the amazing moms onwhat we're gonna continue to do. Then
we flipped it and brought the dadson. And now on other's day,
yeah, and on our father's day. Now we're flipping it again, and
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we're turning the scope on to youngladies who are not yet mothers, aspiring
to be amazing career women, andwe want to ask them how do we
become better at what we're doing fromtheir perspective? So please help us enjoining
Young Lexie and Young Autumn to thepodcast. Hey, hello, hello Applaus.
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So you ladies are from Go AheadRain Now, Yeah, you guys
are from Career Girls. Tell usabout the organization, what you guys you
know, do with career girls andhow you guys got started working with career
girls. Career Girls, I guessI can go first. I thought on.
Curve Girls is an organization that hasa huge idea of young like videos
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for young ladies to explore their passionsand different careers in like so many,
so many different careers and it's reallygreat. Um. I first became a
member of the Youth of the DiceoryBoard in twenty twenty one when I was
actually introduced to Career Girls buying mymiddle school's head of school, which is
really awesome. So that's kind ofhow I got involved, Lexi. And
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then we also have autumn on andautumn how did you become involved? So
I actually joined Career Girls after sendinga lengthy email to my counselor explaining that
I was tired of being put incertain classes that kind of objectified women into
one category. And this this emailgot sent to my vice principal who was
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like, Hey, I'm part ofCareer Roles and they need people who are
going to state opinions and give themadvice on things. And I think you'd
be perfect for this position. Ohyeah, I got got this position from
actually fighting forum girl of quality andlike classes. So good for you.
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And so now are you were youalso in middle school or was this in
high school? Oh? This wastwenty twenty one. I was a sophomore
in high school. Okay, nice, And I think Lexie gave like the
best kind of intro to Career Girls. But the other thing I want to
add, is you know, thisorganization really just gives young women like yourselves
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an opportunity to see and hear andlike actually go down a path with the
working woman and understand what her dayto day looks like. And like,
you know, a lot of uswho are a little bit older than you
guys, didn't have that opportunity.You just kind of heard about a career
and you're like, that kind ofsounds cool, but then you get in
it and you're like, WHOA,this is not what I expected. So
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this scope that you guys are gettingis such an important key that you're given
to open the lock of finding outwhat you want to do with your life
and what's gonna make you happy.So now that we've kind of talked about
what you do with careers, girls, what is something you know that you
guys are doing lately or something newthat you guys are diving into. I
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don't know about Lexi, but I'ma I'm a rising senior in high school.
So currently I'm going through like collegeadmissions process and looking into careers for
myself and talking to people who arein those careers. So that's exciting,
and you seem relaxed because normally atthis time or when I was going through
it, I'm like, oh mygosh, pulling out my hair a little
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bit. So you're you seem likeyou have the right to support around you
because you've already been kind of goingdown this path. It seems like a
little more stress free. Yeah.I have great support. My parents have
been great, My counselors are amazing. I am stressed with the college essays
I want. Lie I've heard youmentioned a few times, like you know
that you've you've used, you've reachedout to your counselor. I feel like
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that's in such an important part ofhigh school that maybe a lot of teens
overlook and even middle school because myson's in middle school and I know he's
had many conversations with his counselor fordifferent different reasons. But I just feel
like sometimes we forget, or teensforget that that resource is available. I
have a friend who actually is she'sworking in the counseling department in another high
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school in Reno. But it's justreally cool because she has been such a
support for these students and hearing herstories and then just hearing you reference you
know, meeting with your counselor.I feel like that's such an important resource
that maybe some kids overlook a lotof times or just don't know if it's
available. I don't know. Imean, I think that's kind of a
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nice question to ask autom like,what what do you think are some of
the things that you know? Peopleautomatically think counselor and they think maybe therapy
or asking questions about college. Whatare some of the things that people wouldn't
you think they can go to theircounselor for. I'm with my counselor a
lot. He knows me, butI'm walking to me. I annoy him
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sometimes, but no, it probablyloves it. I mean, they probably
love everything that the students are comingin and feeling comfortable and talking to them
about everything, you know, andusing them for whatever they can help with.
So go ahead, and sorry,I don't apologize. I use my
counselor a lot, especially with somethings in high school that I know.
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I can't go to my parents toobecause they don't fully understand how North Carolina
school system school systems work. Sothere's been times where I've just gone my
counselor and asked him questions about collegeadmissions in high school, or there's also
been sometimes where I've been really juststressed out school and didn't like it wasn't
something I wanted to talk to mymom about, so I just wanted to
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talk to my counselor and it reallyhelped out because if it was related to
school, he could like email myteachers and just be like, Hey,
this student just needs a little helpwith this, and I think she's too
scared to come to you. Soit's just like things that maybe a parent
couldn't help with, a counselor canand it's just another support system that's great.
And Lexie, have you been ableto utilize like the counseling at your
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school or Oh, for me,it's a it's been a little bit different.
I haven't actually been um meeting consistentlywith my school counselor, but I
guess for me, someone in thatposition be my advisors, who I meet
with every every other week, andit's been really great because I got to
talk to them about so many things, like from problems at home to problems
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at school, and they're always justthere to support me. So that's my
system of support at school. Usuallythat's amazing. Yeah, there are times
I'm sure when you guys, youknow, like we're gonna discuss that you
don't feel comfortable coming to your parents, right, So having that that outlet
is really important. Yes, Yeah, that's the that's the first stamp two,
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breaking the ice, because, likeAdrina was saying, you know,
a lot of these counselors are justhappy to have you guys come in the
door because a lot of times,nine times out of ten, they're just
trying to connect with you and makeyou feel comfortable enough to come to them.
So you guys are already like howmany steps ahead of the other peers
that you guys have around you.Lexi, is there anything new that you're
working on or that you got goingon? Well, right now, I'm
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working on the science internship program atthe University of California, Santa Cruz and
especially been really cool. I'm acomputational media intern and before starting this internship,
I had never heard a lot termbefore, but I think it's basically
a field that combines a computer scienceand a little bit of art, which
are both fields I'm really interested in. So right now that's kind of something
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that's thank me on in my life. How exciting. Also another thing that
would almost stress me how but lookit brings a smile to Lexi's face,
So that's amazing. Well, let'sdive right in. I mean Drina kind
of touched on it a little bit. I mean, you know, as
you are becoming a mature woman andyou're diving into these spaces where you get
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to test out careers and put yourcollege applications in, you're thinking about moving
out right and being quote unquote onyour own right, what are some areas
that you feel your parents might haveyou know, flubbed at first step right
because it's their first time probably havingyou know, a child at your age,
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was there a point where you werelike, m, they probably should
have handled this a little differently.I probably I could pull up many times
where my parents I started fighting.My mother was a single working mother and
so she was very spread thined growingup, and she did a great job,
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but there was definitely times where shewas just very blunt about things,
and as a kid, it's justlike, oh my god, is she
mad at me? But in hindsight, I actually think that that parenting style
were great for me. Obviously itdoesn't work amazing for everyone. But now
I just I don't know how todeal with things if it's not said straight
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to me, Like I don't knowwhat direction to go in with information that
isn't bluntly stated towards me. AndI really loved that my mother would say
things to be straight because I havesome thick skin. Now just love me.
They can yell at me and Ijust sit there with a straight face.
But yeah, that was definitely.There was definitely times growing up where
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I was just like really upset becauseI felt like, oh I needed something
more soft sad, But that wasnot my mom, very strong, independent
woman. I grew up with oneof those two. Same. Now I'm
trying to be mindful on my approachto my children as well. But I
think sometimes you know, like yeah, sometimes you gotta say it straight.
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You do, you do? Andnow, like you said, Adam,
you have a thick skin now,and that's going to help you more than
you know, way more than youknow, not just in the career space,
but just you know, walking downthe street, going to different potential
housing places and meeting different people likeyou're it's gonna help you a lot.
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Tell about you, Lexie, arethere any times when you're like, I
should have been the parent here.I know, I know how to handle
this better. Yeah. I guessfor me, it's a little bit of
the opposite of Autumn. When Iwas growing up, my parents were usually
are very very encouraging and they alwayssupport me and like whatever I wanted to
do. But there were some timeswhen we would seem like sons and daughters
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and like children of family friends andacquinstances who were maybe doing better and something
that I was, And sometimes Iwould just hear my parents say like,
oh, like they're doing so welland that why don't you do that as
well? And that sometimes just mademe feel like I had to do everything
to please my parents. And Iguess that to me right now, I
feel like that's given me more ofa sense of I need to like sees
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everyone or I need to like dothings for other people, and that's something
that I'm definitely working on and myparents are supporting me in that. But
I guess growing it up, likejust constantly hearing these comparisons has not been
the best I would say, yeah, yeah, and people placing as a
real thing, So props see youfor like acknowledging that at such a young
age that that's something that you canwork on because it's important for real.
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Yeah, and they're so young tojust know that that's like something that you
need to work on. It's reallyreally incredible, yeah, because it it
can morph into other things and thenyou have to figure out what that is
too. So, like she said, amazing that you're doing it at such
a young age. I mean,I think you guys brought up to two
really good points of parenting styles,which is like that parent that's like tough
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love and then that parent that alsoreminds you of like competition and stuff that's
kind of going on around you.And not to say what's right or what's
wrong, but really just kind ofwanting to hear from YouTube being young women,
Are there some pieces of advice youcan give to us because we,
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you know, like Drena mentioned,her kids are getting more and more closer
to teenage years than mine are minorfive and three. But there are things
that I'm doing now that's going tolay the groundwork to when we get to
this teen years And you know,being that you guys are kind of already
pushed through that early initial phase oflike teenage life are there some things that
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you would tell a parent now,like hey, talk more about this,
or maybe ease into this, orwhat are some some things that come to
mind? Um, one of thefirst things that comes to mind for me,
I'm the oldest of my family,so I've seen multiple like younger than
me, brought up in so manydifferent ways. But one of the things
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that I think works best for meand my family was kind of always talking
to a kid like there are you'reequal, Because I've definitely seen parents talk
down to their kids and it makestheir kids feel small and like kind of
makes you feel like you don't matteras much. But if you're talking to
a child like they're you're equal,even if they're doing something that's immature or
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like not socially acceptable, it kindof helps them realize that they need to
act as you're equal and they needto act more mature. And it also
just makes conversations easier. It doesn'tfeel like you're being like talked down to,
it shamed. It's a two wayconversation, not just one way.
This is what you're going to do, it's why am I going to do
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this? Well, here's why,And it just helps facilitate growth in a
much smoother way, right, Ilove that. Yeah, and just once
a little bit, I guess,like make sure you listen to the child's
opinions and their thoughts, because,like Autumn said, it's a two way
conversation and the child's thoughts, Likeyou might be surprised at what they have
to say, and sometimes it's notchildish flavoring the metaphor, like a lot
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of what they say is actually likea different way of thinking, and it's
actually really valuable to just like settledown and try to listen to what they
have to say sometimes. Yeah.Yeah, I think it's easy as a
parent too, especially because you're likeyou're I'm the parent, right, so
you feel like you have to youhave to flex that authority at times.
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Um, But like you said,it doesn't have to be that way.
You know, obviously we have toparent make sure no one gets hurt,
or to make sure that we keepthe child on the right path, and
you know, um, but itdoesn't have to be like I'm in charge
and what you say doesn't matter,right, right, right, listening is
really important. I feel I feellike I heard that from Lexi, like
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just listening, Um, I heardyou say at times, and I think
that's really important, like there's timeand place and sometimes with eating emotions that
gets thrown out the window. Butyeah, there's definitely times where you have
to act like the authority and there'snot two ways, especially when it comes
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to safety. But there's always timeswhere it's just a conversation and it's not
urgent and it can be said faceto face, a two way conversation right
right. And then you know,there's there's that parenting style that's like,
you know, almost spoil the kid, right, give them what they want,
give them miss, give them that, and then they're always going to
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come talk to me because they knowthey're going to get whatever X y Z.
I mean, I personally don't subscribeto that, but I mean I
know that there are a lot ofparents that do. And it's like you're
giving them all of these things,they're a not having to work for them
or learn how to do things right. But then also it's like you're not
necessarily creating that comforting space or thatspace where they feel equal, like you
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said or heard to, where theywant to come talk to you about troubling
things. Because that's really what I'mmost concerned about is creating that space where,
like my kids feel comfortable enough totell me when they massed up and
uncomfortable, like the same comfortability ifthey're doing great, you know, because
all of us parents really just wantthe best for you guys, Right,
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is there something that your parents didthat just set the tone and was like,
Okay, I know I'm messed up, I know this is a bad
situation, but I have to goto my parents, Like what was the
thing that your parents did that gaveyou that that comfort of like I can
turn to them whether it's really goodor really bad for me. I guess
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my parents just made it really clearthat they're not here to try to dictate
my life, Like they're here toguide me through my life and try to
help help and support me, likethrough all mine endepports in life. And
I think that like shift and mindsetjust made it a lot easier for me
to go talk to them about thingsI'm having trouble with because I know they're
not phone too Like sure maybe theymight like get that at first, but
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they're going to try to like helpme talk through it and help support me
through it and just overall just likeguide me through the situation as opposed to
just getting mad and like shutting medown completely and turning me out of the
house or something. Just like knowingthat they're there to support you and that's
like something that they want to dois really impactful. Yeah, I folly
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agree with LEXI, just kind ofbeing like letting you know they're there for
when you mess up. There's beentimes where I've done really bad things and
like I knew at that point,I need to go to my parents about
this because I can't handle it onmy own. And it's it's not balance
you were talking about, like makingsure you know that they're there for you,
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but making sure or you're there forthem, but also making sure they
know that they're held to a certainstandard by themselves. And it's just finding
a way to communicate that when youwhen we as kids as we will like
drop below that standard, that youguys will be there to hold us to
a perfect standard. And like mug, like I said, very Blood kind
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of just says that's right. It'slike you think you're mature, but you're
not. If you need something,you're going to come to me and we'll
give you the resources as long aswe know that you're doing what you can't
to pride. Yeah, because Ithink that's the thing too. It's like,
you know, setting that foundation,like like Raina's you know, she's
in the young toddler stage right now, but always being there for them,
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showing them love, support, andthen that kind of like transitions into you
know, the preteen and then theteenage years. You know, if you
have that support and you feel thatlove from your parents, because they're gonna
there's gonna be times where your childdoesn't come to you, you know,
But I hope that what they've whatI've been able to teach them up until
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that point will help them make theright decision for themselves. And then if
they do need to come, youknow, talk to us. They know
that they can might get in trouble, but I'm here for you over artless
right right. I'm not saying you'renot gonna get grounded, but you know,
right, take care of you inthe situation first. And then were
we go there, do you feellike like you guys are ready to just
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dive in and move out and youknow, go to college and start at
I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no,
is that the plan? Though?Once you because you're getting ready to
graduate what class of twenty four rightat them? And I mean, obviously
you still have this whole senior yearto enjoy and embark on. But as
you come to completion, are youexcited to move into the dorms or like
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you're like I kind of can seetearing up a little bit. I'm I'm
a little excited obviously, like thefreedom, the independence. Um My mom's
also a podcast listener though she lovesher Murder podcast, So I just know
it's going to be Are you okay, wow? Are you walking with someone
at night? Yes? But alsoI was an only child for eleven years,
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so I definitely to a point withpeople where I'm like, I need
to be away from you. Soit's gonna be hard being in a door
with another person right right right?How about you? Lexie? Honestly,
I feel like since I started thinkingabout moving out in college and things like
that, I've just been realizing howmuch, like how many little things my
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parents do hear me every day,Like from what I'm seeing, like my
mom usually brings me like pleats offood because she's wears out like studdy,
and it's just like little actions likethat, Like, I don't know,
I think I'm really good, andI'm not quite sure how I'm going to
like how it's going to feel completelybeing like independent, But I, like
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Autumn said, like the nightly calls, like all those those like small things
will definitely add up. Yeah,yeah, I think you brought up I
think you brought up a really goodpoint. Lex you really don't realize how
much your parents do until you're notliving under their roof. Just like the
little snacks they put out, likeshe said, um, you know,
putting your clothes in a dryer whenyou forgot to put them in. You
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know, little things that you're justlike, oh, I have to wash
my towels like I have to.I really actually have to wash these dishes
like they're just not gonna disappear.And so you kind of have these these
realization moments when you move out,and then you also have this moment of
gratitude where you're like, oh mygod, like I didn't realize how much
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I didn't think them in the momentbecause you're just so used to the treatment,
right, And even I remember readingsomething that someone posted this this guy
had just gone off to college andhe was like, oh my god,
this is how much peanut butter costs, Like you don't even like small things
like that, Like you don't evenrealize, you know, how much is
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like handed to you so that youcan succeed and so that you don't have
to think about what do we needon the grocery list this week? How
much are those groceries? You know, Inflation is a whole real thing.
Right now, you guys probably haven'tfelt the full brunt of it yet.
You know, autumn had like agrin just not like nope, I don't
even know what that word means.And so that's your parents are doing a
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wonderful job, right, because youdon't even feel it yet, right,
And then when you go to collegeyou probably will feel it on just like
the tip of the iceberg, right, And so they're just giving you an
opportunity to get a little bit ofthat freedom, a little bit of that
independence, and then build up yourconfidence of like, Okay, I'm doing
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my own laundry. Okay, Ididn't show up to school looking wrinkled and
my hair messed all up because Ican do this, right, And as
you start to build confidence, it'ssnowballs. It builds and then next you
know, you fully are living onyour own, you know, so how
exciting to be like right here aboutto graduate and Lexie's over here about to
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become a whole scientist slash. Youknow, I don't even remember the name
that you said. It just breezeright through my brain, like did did
either of you work during your highschool years? Yeah? I actually I
got a really good job. I'ma babysitter, nice personal assisting for the
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woman I babysit for, and she'samazing, she's like family, So I
got I got it really easy.It's great pay, and it doesn't even
feel like a job because it's likeI've known these kids so long they're basically
my siblings. So and yeah,it was nice because now she's giving me
a spot, like an internship spotin her company. So I definitely got
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it really easy. It's like abuild up of things that's great though,
a testament to you in how yourhard work, and you know, she
obviously thinks very highly of you tobe able to put you in that type
or you know, offer you thatposition as in an internship, So that's
really incredible. How about you,Lexi? H no, I haven't actually
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had any working experience. Um,yeah, I'm a current rising junior and
both this year and slash Jew,I was thinking about getting a BOVA job
maybe over the summer, but Ialways like ended up to physic committed to
other things. But I think it'sdefinitely be a really valuable experience though,
So I'm talking to maybe that ajob next year. A lot of your
peers work, like, is thatbecause I know, like when I was
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in high school, everyone worked,But I don't know if that's changed,
you know over the years. Youdo a lot of your peers work or
do they just go to school?Well, I think for me, a
lot of my peers actually do work. I think, um mostly like restaurants
and BOVA stories and places like that. There's probably like other places that I
haven't really heard of yet, butyeah, a lot of my peers do
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work. Yeah. I think hereit's pretty mixed because from my friend group
of my understanding, there's kind ofa consensus with a lot of parents where
like, you're making good grades inschool, they'll make sure that you can
get what you need to succeed inschool, but if you're struggling in school,
they prefer you to go and getsome work experience just because it's a
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higher possibility that that's going to bewhat you do later on. So it's
pretty mixed. Definitely, students whostruggle a little bit more are more likely
to have jobs at our school,and then the students who do well in
school don't typically because they're so focusedon school, right, But you know,
there's always exceptions, and it's it'sjust kind of a balance of what's
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going to benefit you in the futureand what you need now. Yeah.
Yeah, that's a great question becauseoh my god, do I have to
prepare these people for resumes at fourteen? No? But um, you know,
as you guys look back to whenyou were kids, right, do
you think that there's something that yourparents did to get you excited about education,
excited about um, you know,striving for this better version of yourself?
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Because not all kids are born thatway, right, Like there's some
kids that need a little bit moremotivation in terms of like education. Right,
So are there things that your parentsmight have done that like expose you
to different things or got that kindof innue at an early age? Oh,
for me, my dad would alwaystalk about like how much he injured
(26:15):
in subjects in school, and hewould always like at dinner time bring up
cool concepts and fascinating like subjects thatI haven't heard of before, And so
I think that really exposed me toa lot of different things. I remember,
especially on long car rides, hewould actually make a game of like
math concepts for us, so hewould like ask us to solve math comes
on the car and make it kindof a fun game. So I think
(26:36):
that also really helps me think oflike education has more fun instead of just
like stressing study. So I haveto ask do you have other sibling?
How many siblings do you have?You said too, so are your other
siblings just as interested about math andeducation as you are? Um? Well,
for one of my siblings, he'sone and a half, so okay.
(27:03):
For my other stifling though, Ithink he's definitely pretty interested in math
as well. But I think aslike high school and middle school homeward because
ran stuff. I think he's alsobeen trying to explore other subjects as well.
But I think, like overall,just talking about like math concept and
exposing us to so many different subjectsareas that my dad personally was excited about
when he was in his school dayshas just really expanded our horizons on that.
(27:25):
So very cool, very cool,how about you on him? Honestly,
I think it was more so myparents put me in cheer at a
young age, and a lot ofI got really competitive there because it's like
you are standing right next to yourcompetition, but you're also competing with them
because they're your teammates. And Ithink it's just I kind of learned that
(27:49):
if I'm not doing well at something, it's not anyone else's fault. It's
my fault and I should be workingharder. But instead of seeing that as
like, oh, that's stressful,my parents have framed it as like this
is a competition, Like you eitherwin and get that A, or you
lose and get the C and youdon't get these privileges. So it's it's
(28:10):
like a game to me in myhead. That does not work for a
lot of people. But I've alwaysthought it's fun to kind of like see
how much I can push myself.My freshman year, I got invited to
take an AP class and it wasin my worst subject. It was in
history, and I was terrible athistory. And my mom's like, well,
(28:32):
if you do it, these kidssaid it was terrible and they couldn't
get through it, like that's onyou, and I got an A.
And then every year since then,I've been like upping my classes just to
see how much I can push myself. Because it's also kind of just nice
to see, like how much youreally can do when you put yourself to
it, right outside of like,oh, I'm taking these classes so I
(28:53):
don't have to worry about this asmuch, but also it's just nice to
be like wow, Like back insoft year, I could have never thought
I took five classes, five dAP classes junior year and survived. Like
freshman year me would have been terrifiedof that. And now I'm just kind
of like I feel prepared for college. I feel ready to go take these
classes on my own, and it'sjust training it as a competition always made
(29:17):
it just way easier because I'm competingwith myself. Yeah, if I can
do if I could beat my lastyear's record, that's great. It truly
is a mindset, and I feellike you both have that early one trying
to tell my kids out all thetime and like it's how you approach it,
it's how you think about it.It's you know you if you decide
(29:38):
you're gonna have a bad day,you're gonna have a bad day. Like
you know, it's up to youto make that decision. So that's really
great. You guys are some awesomeYou two are awesome. Yes, yes,
I'm very impressed with you two,super super impressed. And you know,
us being you know, radio momsand women in this industry, it's
really exciting to see young lady thatare coming up next because we're always advocating
(30:02):
for you guys. We're always championingwomen and you know us coming up in
whatever industry that is. So it'samazing to see you guys butting and this
limitless potential pouring out of you guys, and we are so excited to see
what you guys come up with next. And when that fear starts to set
in and you get a little nervous, just know that you got women like
us rooting for you and we can'twait to see what amazing stuff you come
(30:26):
up with next. Guys are awesome. Kind of cool to see you guys
do that, though, because that'ssort of what we are supposed to do
as career roles, is like setup stuff for the next few generations.
So it's just kind of cool tosee that trickle down of like there was
people who gave us this opportunity,so we can help give others offsets.
Yes, yes, for sure,for sure. And before we get off,
(30:49):
we're about to close up. Iknow one thing that we always want
to touch on is making sure totake time to put that self care in
There. Is there something that youguys are doing that you know, on
the daily, weekly, whatever itis that you're putting in to make sure
that you're taking care of yourself too, because that's so important. Well,
I like king out with my babybrother. Just looking at his face kind
(31:12):
of just relaxes me, you know, and always, so that's probably something
that I do on a daily basisto that's cute. Yeah, Um,
I kind of just set my goalsup for the weekend if I felt like
I've met them, I tell myselfto close the book, step away from
the computer, go outside. ApparentlyI don't do that a lot. Didn't
(31:34):
learn that till this summer when Igot tan and I was like, how
much have I been in my house? But just reminding myself that, like
school is not your entire life,like take a step back. Go do
something for your mind in a day, do something for your body in a
day, and do something for yourhappiness within a day. Yeah, amazing.
(31:55):
You guys are great. You getwe can't wait. I want,
I want like a postcard from China, host card from wherever you decide to
go to school next. I meanjust to be like, look, we
made it, We're in our dormroom, we're safe, We're good.
I love it. I love it, ladies, Thank you so much.
Thank you, and Autumn. That'sanother episode of this Mama Got drama.
There was no drama this episode.I feel like it was just all smiles.
(32:16):
Actually, that is the drama.The emotions of smiles and happiness and
excitement. There it is. Ifound it. Thank you so much for
joining us. Thank you.
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