November 12, 2024 • 7 mins
Our relationship expert Laurie talks about over indexing on ordering too many packages
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Just one seven one.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's time to make a date or break on TIF
in the morning, It's time.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
To fight the swit struggling within her demons in your relationship.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You come right here, right here, You come right to
this show.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Make a date or break You're supposed to decide whether
or not you're gonna make your next date or you're
gonna break it off. I don't like ghosting. It's hard
not to ghost I get it. We just like come
up with different practices in ways. Obviously, we started this
thing together two plus years ago. It was two years
in October, and it has grown and evolved, like most
things in our life.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Laurie Sharpage, let me introduce you to her. If you
haven't met.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
She comes on the show every Tuesday at this time
to talk through your different relationship question. She's our expert,
and nothing has been too weird for our girl.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I love it weird.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I love it we struggling within a demons. You come
right here, all right. So this is in regard. This
is actually from a husband. This Maybe you're familiar with
this because we talked to about it on the show
last week and I said, you know what we're gonna
do we're gonna table this for Loris sharp Page, and
she's gonna come and give her expertise. So we've already
kind of talked about this. You can get caught up
(01:09):
on the podcast, but just to paraphrase, I got a
message that said, Hi, Tiff, I've recently gone into the
minimalist lifestyle after cleaning out my parents' house and just
cleaning out my own, and my wife has packages delivered
just about daily. I know it's the holidays, but help.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Yeah, yo, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
The Amazon truck pulls up to my neighbor's house quite
a bit.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Oh yeah, yeah, I mean I think we've all had
seasons where you're drowning in Amazon boxes. You know, this
is interesting because everybody has different relationships with stuff and
with things. Yeah, and some people find stuff and things
to be very comforting, and some people find stuff and
things to be too much, to be too overwhelming. And
this is a kind of classic mismatch that we find
(02:00):
in a lot of different couples. Things similar to like,
you know, people that are really really clean and people
that maybe aren't so clean. So there's kind of a
natural difference here between people that we have to make
room for now. With that being said, keeping your space
comfortable for both of you if you're living together is
really really important, and so you need to find that
(02:22):
balance and that may mean having some level of and
I almost hate to say it out loud, accountability With
the Amazon boxes.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Dude, there is no accountability.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
I'm with him one hundred because I don't I don't
shop on Amazon, I don't have an Amazon account, I
don't have Prime. I get nothing delivered to my house,
which I know sounds like an alien. I'd feel like
an alien in my own body most of the time.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But if he wants her.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
To order like less and she's like, well, I'm not
ordering less, what where do you go in between that?
And think you get to the point where you're like
hiding the packages and getting them delivered to work.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, and then that gets even more complicated because you're
hiding secrets and that's not healthy for your relationship.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
It happens, It does happen.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Is there a problem with like a little white lie
though in a relationship?
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I mean, I think we all do little white lies
all the time. I don't think there's anything wrong with them.
The problem is is that lies tend to compound over time,
and that's when you get yourself in real serious trouble.
So I do think there's a conversation about what is
the stuff doing for you versus what's the stuff doing
for me? And trying to find a better way to
negotiate through that.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
We've all seen that TikTok where the guys like you
went to Target this date and spent this much and
this date and spent this much. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
See, I mean I get it. Target. It sucks the
life out of my bank account as well.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Why don't we do this five one three seven four
nine one seven when.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
You are absolutely allowed.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
To remain anonymous and let me know kind of what
side you're on. I am I'm the weird one in
this situation where I don't do a lot of Amazon shopping,
so I'd like to hear from you. And also if
you have questions for LORI sharp page as far as
if this is coming up in your relationship quite a
bit like I said, five win three seven, four nine
one o seven one, or you can talk back with
(04:13):
Tiff on iHeartRadio by searching kiss the microphones right next
to the play.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
But and what is the last thing that you ordered
on Amazon.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
The last thing I or Wi Fi extender.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
At least, it's not like a pen holder.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Hi, good morning and you're waking up with Tiff in
the morning. On Kiss one oh seven one, Lori Sharpage
is our licensed clinical counselor. On Tuesdays we do make
a date or break, which is where relationships and therapy
come together on the show when we fight the Swid,
we swid struggling with enterdemons. By the way, Lori sharp
Paige and I were just talking about November and how
(04:51):
quickly it's come and essentially gone. Guys, we're halfway through
November by the end of this week. I keep saying
to myself, when we start November, you know, I'll think
about this, not have have we started?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
It's here, It's here, and we're halfway through it. It's
almost gone.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
So we were in the midst of talking about speaking
of holidays, Amazon packages and just delivery in general.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
If you're just walking into this.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
I had gotten a message from a husband that said, listen,
I'm trying to embrace this minimalist lifestyle. I've recently kind
of cleaned out and purged, but my partner just is
relentless with ordering packages quickly.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
What's your thoughts on that.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I think that there has to be some level of
communication on this and that there has to be balance.
It can't just be all Amazon packages all the time.
As much as I hate saying that, it is. Yeah,
you just said that you were going to cancel your
I am going to cancel the Amazon account.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
It's addicting, it is.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
It is so I'm kind of short, and a friend
recommended when I'm flying on an airplane to it's this
like leg holder that you put over the tray and
you like hang it and slide your legs into it
so they don't like dangle.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
I saw someone next to me on my flight home
from the dr using one of those, Yeah, and she
looked like she was living her best life.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
See, maybe I'm not canceling my Amazon account. Now I'm
all confused. Talk back with Tip on iHeart Radio.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
When you search kiss, you'll see the microphone next to
the play button.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
There.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
We're just kind of in the midst now of talking
about maybe stuff that you've purchased from.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Amazon that you know that you.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Didn't need, that maybe you had to hide from your
significant other. Not that I'm promoting that I just know
that that's happening.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
So I bought this dcal from my bathroom that says
get naked.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
It's like a wall.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
D cow thought it was cute necessary probably not?
Speaker 3 (06:50):
No, who am I to tell you what's necessary versus not.
I just know that there's probably a lot.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
I actually love.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
To hear from an Amazon driver that themselves anyone sitting
that's out on the road right now and you have
a chance to call and you're not driving, or maybe
you can do so safely five one, three, seven, four nine,
one oh seven one. Is there like a house that
you go to quite a bit and you're like, why
what else? Why are we ordering these things? We don't
need this, anything else you want to add to this?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Uh, just that everything that we have requires some level
of emotional energy. So that's one of the reasons to
kind of keep your stash of things down is because
it is part of how you take care of your
mental health, and it's something that we often don't think about.
Just one seven one.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's time to make a date or break on TIF
in the morning, It's time.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
To fight the swit struggling within her demons in your relationship.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You come right here, right here, You come right to
this show.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Make a date or break You're supposed to decide whether
or not you're gonna make your next date or you're
gonna break it off. I don't like ghosting. It's hard
not to ghost I get it. We just like come
up with different practices in ways. Obviously, we started this
thing together two plus years ago. It was two years
in October, and it has grown and evolved, like most
things in our life.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Laurie Sharpage, let me introduce you to her. If you
haven't met.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
She comes on the show every Tuesday at this time
to talk through your different relationship question. She's our expert,
and nothing has been too weird for our girl.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I love it weird.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I love it we struggling within a demons. You come
right here, all right. So this is in regard. This
is actually from a husband. This Maybe you're familiar with
this because we talked to about it on the show
last week and I said, you know what we're gonna
do we're gonna table this for Loris sharp Page, and
she's gonna come and give her expertise. So we've already
kind of talked about this. You can get caught up
(01:09):
on the podcast, but just to paraphrase, I got a
message that said, Hi, Tiff, I've recently gone into the
minimalist lifestyle after cleaning out my parents' house and just
cleaning out my own, and my wife has packages delivered
just about daily. I know it's the holidays, but help.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Yeah, yo, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
The Amazon truck pulls up to my neighbor's house quite
a bit.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Oh yeah, yeah, I mean I think we've all had
seasons where you're drowning in Amazon boxes. You know, this
is interesting because everybody has different relationships with stuff and
with things. Yeah, and some people find stuff and things
to be very comforting, and some people find stuff and
things to be too much, to be too overwhelming. And
this is a kind of classic mismatch that we find
(02:00):
in a lot of different couples. Things similar to like,
you know, people that are really really clean and people
that maybe aren't so clean. So there's kind of a
natural difference here between people that we have to make
room for now. With that being said, keeping your space
comfortable for both of you if you're living together is
really really important, and so you need to find that
(02:22):
balance and that may mean having some level of and
I almost hate to say it out loud, accountability With
the Amazon boxes.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Dude, there is no accountability.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
I'm with him one hundred because I don't I don't
shop on Amazon, I don't have an Amazon account, I
don't have Prime. I get nothing delivered to my house,
which I know sounds like an alien. I'd feel like
an alien in my own body most of the time.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But if he wants her.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
To order like less and she's like, well, I'm not
ordering less, what where do you go in between that?
And think you get to the point where you're like
hiding the packages and getting them delivered to work.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, and then that gets even more complicated because you're
hiding secrets and that's not healthy for your relationship.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
It happens, It does happen.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Is there a problem with like a little white lie
though in a relationship?
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I mean, I think we all do little white lies
all the time. I don't think there's anything wrong with them.
The problem is is that lies tend to compound over time,
and that's when you get yourself in real serious trouble.
So I do think there's a conversation about what is
the stuff doing for you versus what's the stuff doing
for me? And trying to find a better way to
negotiate through that.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
We've all seen that TikTok where the guys like you
went to Target this date and spent this much and
this date and spent this much. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
See, I mean I get it. Target. It sucks the
life out of my bank account as well.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Why don't we do this five one three seven four
nine one seven when.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
You are absolutely allowed.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
To remain anonymous and let me know kind of what
side you're on. I am I'm the weird one in
this situation where I don't do a lot of Amazon shopping,
so I'd like to hear from you. And also if
you have questions for LORI sharp page as far as
if this is coming up in your relationship quite a
bit like I said, five win three seven, four nine
one o seven one, or you can talk back with
(04:13):
Tiff on iHeartRadio by searching kiss the microphones right next
to the play.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
But and what is the last thing that you ordered
on Amazon.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
The last thing I or Wi Fi extender.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
At least, it's not like a pen holder.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Hi, good morning and you're waking up with Tiff in
the morning. On Kiss one oh seven one, Lori Sharpage
is our licensed clinical counselor. On Tuesdays we do make
a date or break, which is where relationships and therapy
come together on the show when we fight the Swid,
we swid struggling with enterdemons. By the way, Lori sharp
Paige and I were just talking about November and how
(04:51):
quickly it's come and essentially gone. Guys, we're halfway through
November by the end of this week. I keep saying
to myself, when we start November, you know, I'll think
about this, not have have we started?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
It's here, It's here, and we're halfway through it. It's
almost gone.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
So we were in the midst of talking about speaking
of holidays, Amazon packages and just delivery in general.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
If you're just walking into this.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
I had gotten a message from a husband that said, listen,
I'm trying to embrace this minimalist lifestyle. I've recently kind
of cleaned out and purged, but my partner just is
relentless with ordering packages quickly.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
What's your thoughts on that.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I think that there has to be some level of
communication on this and that there has to be balance.
It can't just be all Amazon packages all the time.
As much as I hate saying that, it is. Yeah,
you just said that you were going to cancel your
I am going to cancel the Amazon account.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
It's addicting, it is.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
It is so I'm kind of short, and a friend
recommended when I'm flying on an airplane to it's this
like leg holder that you put over the tray and
you like hang it and slide your legs into it
so they don't like dangle.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
I saw someone next to me on my flight home
from the dr using one of those, Yeah, and she
looked like she was living her best life.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
See, maybe I'm not canceling my Amazon account. Now I'm
all confused. Talk back with Tip on iHeart Radio.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
When you search kiss, you'll see the microphone next to
the play button.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
There.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
We're just kind of in the midst now of talking
about maybe stuff that you've purchased from.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Amazon that you know that you.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Didn't need, that maybe you had to hide from your
significant other. Not that I'm promoting that I just know
that that's happening.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
So I bought this dcal from my bathroom that says
get naked.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
It's like a wall.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
D cow thought it was cute necessary probably not?
Speaker 3 (06:50):
No, who am I to tell you what's necessary versus not.
I just know that there's probably a lot.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
I actually love.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
To hear from an Amazon driver that themselves anyone sitting
that's out on the road right now and you have
a chance to call and you're not driving, or maybe
you can do so safely five one, three, seven, four nine,
one oh seven one. Is there like a house that
you go to quite a bit and you're like, why
what else? Why are we ordering these things? We don't
need this, anything else you want to add to this?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Uh, just that everything that we have requires some level
of emotional energy. So that's one of the reasons to
kind of keep your stash of things down is because
it is part of how you take care of your
mental health, and it's something that we often don't think about.
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