December 2, 2025 • 11 mins
Rach has made a last minute decision which she decided to keep from her kids to prevent them from banging on about it for months! BUT... it will be worth it!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apod Jake Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am
I A Bad Mom? Podcast? At am I A Bad
(00:28):
Mum on Instagram as well.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Coming in hot today, not even trying. There's four people
in the office right now, including you and I. Yeah,
and three out of four. I got denim shorts on. Yeah,
tell me it's summer without telling me, I.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Know it's so hot. And actually, although it's freezing in
here because we've got the airport last, I'm in two minds.
I'm a little bit excited about a break and Christmas
and all the rest of it. I'm also feel like
that duck that's like paddling underwater but getting anywhere, because
I feel like there's so much still to do. I
(01:04):
am definitely not on top of work Christmas. I haven't
even put a Christmas tree up yet. We're in December.
I know, I always have it up.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I like you, you know, what have you been doing
with your spare time? I mean, you've got nothing going on?
What have you been doing?
Speaker 1 (01:21):
I just feel like I'm just starting to breathe after
end of school assignments.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Being chaos for you? Really, hasn't it doing all those.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Assignments mate up until the end of last week, I
had a teacher emailing me, going, Katie, just to let
you know, Amelia still hasn't got this question right for
her assignment.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I'm like sat with her, h Like, I was like, okay,
let me have a look at this, and I'm looking
through and I'm looking through the email feedback from the teacher.
I was at the point where I was like almost
emailed back the teacher going, can you sit down and
elbow with this? I don't even know what course. I
don't even know what you're talking about. I don't even
know what she's doing. Anyway, there were five questions in
(02:04):
one emais. She said, Okay, you have got four out
of the five correct. The next one she said, you've
only now got one correct and four wrong. I'm looking
through this.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
But hang on, you've got four out of five right.
You need to go back, and but you don't know
which four out of nie she's not telling us.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, yeah, So anyway, we're like trying to be strategic
about it. Okay, well if that one's not right and
that one is right, and then at this point that
one was right, and then I just went, okay, let's
forget about all of those let me read the information
and let me do the questions, like, let's do the
questions from scratch, like we haven't beginning any previous feedback. Yeah,
(02:42):
went through them and I was like, okay, this this,
this is got to the end. And I went I
am so sure that that is right, like it literally
it couldn't be any I've gone through with a fine
tooth comb. And then Amelia's she's happy with it, but
she's also like, no, Mum, she told me that that
one wasn't right, blah blah blah blah. And this email,
I was like, no, it doesn't matter, like I think
(03:03):
she is wrong because I am so sure.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
She's a teacher, but she's wrong.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
It's wrong anyway, right, give it to me. She comes
back one out of five, No, five out of five.
They're all right now. So at some point in the
email chain, the teacher has got it wrong.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Oh, she's just trying to fuck with you. I was like, no,
she actually knew that she was doing it just to
mess with you, to see how much longer you could
spend as the parent on your child's I've got.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Nothing else to do.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
She hasn't even got a Christmas tree out let's give
her an assignment. Am I a bad mom for keeping
it a secret from them?
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Excited for this?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I think I've been pretty open about how I tend
to approach things with and I've got another friend who
does this too. Our girls are say mate, and we
sort of approach things as more of spontaneous catch ups,
only so that we don't have to get peppered with
the questions for two weeks prior to telling them that
(04:18):
they've get you know what I mean. So like we're
the saying, we sort of go We as adults know
that our kids are catching up in two weeks, but
we don't tell them until the day. Yeah, they're on
cloud nights. They're so excited. I have learned a little
bit about Elsie of late, because she's obviously ten. She
can now tell me how she's really She's very good
articulating how she feels. But she's come out and you know,
(04:40):
done the whole I need to know a little bit
more in advance. She handles it better if she knows
what's going on a little bit more in evans. And
I'm like, okay, well you can have three days in advance.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Not you know, don't just bring it on me. I'm
not prepared.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Yeah. She doesn't like not knowing, she doesn't like being unprepared.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Yeah, I'm exactly the same.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
But at the same time, Katie, I really don't need
to hear about it for a week beforehand. Yeah, I
don't want to answer the same question thousand times anyway.
So recapping the start of this year, their dad went
away off to I'm a slebe, get me out of here.
He went off to Africa. I told them that he
was in Sydney and he'd been gone a week. We
(05:19):
sat down and the surprise for them was surprise, your
dad's on arm a slabe, get me out of here.
He's not in Sydney, He's actually in Africa. And it
went down well, not so much a lead balloon, but
we went through every emotion physically possible.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Yeah, kind And it started off with cause I saw
the video. It started off with Grace going, oh my god,
this is going to be so embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Yeah, and Elsie, I told you so, I knew it.
And then so far forward from obviously not learning my
lesson from January hour in December, I think about maybe
six or seven weeks, eight weeks ago, I had a
fuck it moment and just booked a holiday, and so
I have sat on it, knowing that I had booked
(06:04):
a whole holiday for Christmas, but I hadn't told them
because I wanted to use it as part of their
Christmas present. So I've been waiting for the first of
December because the elf on the showd.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
You know what the amount of times I have not
booked holidays because I've gone, oh, we should save the money,
we shouldn't do it, we should wait until we've got
more savings. The amount of times I've done that. But
one of the most important things is memories doesn't have
to be like a super expensive overseas holiday. Even doing
(06:37):
it like a weekend await or camping or whatever it
might be. It is with your budget.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
And your family.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
It's about memories.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah, exactly where I went after you know, like another big,
you know, shock diagnosis of a close family member in
my family, I just had this bucket moment and was like,
oh my god, life is really short. I'm just booking it. Yeah,
And so I booked it, and now I've sat on
it for this long that I felt like, finally the
first of December's here. The l elves have arrived. The
(07:06):
elves brought a letter from Santa, and the letter from
Santa tells them, this is your Christmas present. We're going
on a holiday.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Yeah, exciting.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Oh my god. They were like beside themselves because I
got a bit of feedback, and I was starting to
get a little bit worried because I hadn't told too
many people because I didn't want them to accidentally tell
their kids and then their kids go back to my kids,
and so I had sort of just held off. Yeah,
and then my brother had called me for something else
(07:34):
the other day, and he had this moment where he
was just like, right, what happens if this plan doesn't
sort of unfold in your head like as it is
in your head or happy in la la la. And
then they actually get the news and they're like, I
fucking hate it. I don't want to go.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Well, it's funny because just on your brother for a second.
I know exactly which brother you're talking about. And I
happened to bump into that brother recently at the shopping center. Yeah,
and we had a brief chat about your holiday, and
you know, when are we all catching up over Christmas? No,
rate is going to be away blah blah blah, And
(08:13):
actually what he said was, do you think Rachus remembered
how long she's going to have to spend with her
husband whilst away?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Ah?
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Do you know how many people have gone? Are you okay?
And I was like, what do you mean? And they're like,
it's a very very long time to be in close
proximity with your husband and.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Asking how many weeks are you going for?
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Three?
Speaker 1 (08:35):
You're going for three weeks? Yes, And can we just
tell people where you're going because this is a big trip,
like this is a kind of a once in a life.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
All this time. Yeah, well, I mean the fuck it
moment really gives it away, because we're at that stage where,
like my girls are about to transition into the next
group of children that don't believe any longer.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Yeah, so heading towards teenagers.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Heading towards we're tweens. Yeah, we're going to go and
do Lapland, and like I've got rellies in Switzerland and
so it's just going to be a cold Christmas and
they've never experienced a cold Christmas. B they've never been
overseas that far, and it'll just be like a once
in a lifetime opportunity. It's definitely one location I've never
(09:21):
been to, so I'm excited also about visiting a new location.
And it's been a ride of eight weeks.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
What you're going to remember is that you know how
much planning is involved in this particular trip, how much planning,
like there's different locations, the preparation you're going to need
to do, not to mention the money and what you've
financially into it.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Yeah right, it's a lot, Yeah, a lot.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
What you've got to remember is that your kids will
never really truly appreciate that because they just don't have
the ability. No, they will have an amazing time regardless, Like,
they will absolutely love it. And I think with kids,
just the fact that you're all together and you're present,
like that's what they need.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, I think that's what they'll love. And we really
haven't spent much time this year really with the four
of us, so yeah, we've done it. The information was
received very well, and then you know, like Elsie's response
was priceless. She's like, what about rivershow?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
What about the camping trip that you've got beforehand?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
What about Rivershow? And I was like, in that moment
of going like instead of reacting like a three year
old Rachel just she's just processing. I had to just
sort of like, oh, yeah, you'll get a night there
and then we'll have to like we're going to start packing.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
That's the example, right, Let's the example of like the
amount of times I've said over the years, oh my god,
you understand how lucky you are to have been able
to do that. And it will be something like that.
But what about the camping trip we were supposed to
go on on the weekend?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Yeah, and you know, like it's already started and it
was this morning. Gracie says to me.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Oh my god, Lady Gaga's here next week.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
She's like, why can't we go?
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah? I know exactly how that feels.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Do you want me to tell you about your holiday?
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah? Can we just remind you of the holiday? Remember
you're going to Lapland.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Before today, I have not been able to use that one.
I've had to stumble over my words every time they're like,
can we do this during the holidays? Can I have
this sleepover? Can I be here? Can I do that?
Speaker 1 (11:31):
And I'm like, no, Yeah, I'm still still going to.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Be eating two minute noodles for the remainder of the holidays.
When we get home and of your life, don't be crazy.
Apod Jake Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am
I A Bad Mom? Podcast? At am I A Bad
(00:28):
Mum on Instagram as well.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Coming in hot today, not even trying. There's four people
in the office right now, including you and I. Yeah,
and three out of four. I got denim shorts on. Yeah,
tell me it's summer without telling me, I.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Know it's so hot. And actually, although it's freezing in
here because we've got the airport last, I'm in two minds.
I'm a little bit excited about a break and Christmas
and all the rest of it. I'm also feel like
that duck that's like paddling underwater but getting anywhere, because
I feel like there's so much still to do. I
(01:04):
am definitely not on top of work Christmas. I haven't
even put a Christmas tree up yet. We're in December.
I know, I always have it up.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I like you, you know, what have you been doing
with your spare time? I mean, you've got nothing going on?
What have you been doing?
Speaker 1 (01:21):
I just feel like I'm just starting to breathe after
end of school assignments.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Being chaos for you? Really, hasn't it doing all those.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Assignments mate up until the end of last week, I
had a teacher emailing me, going, Katie, just to let
you know, Amelia still hasn't got this question right for
her assignment.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I'm like sat with her, h Like, I was like, okay,
let me have a look at this, and I'm looking
through and I'm looking through the email feedback from the teacher.
I was at the point where I was like almost
emailed back the teacher going, can you sit down and
elbow with this? I don't even know what course. I
don't even know what you're talking about. I don't even
know what she's doing. Anyway, there were five questions in
(02:04):
one emais. She said, Okay, you have got four out
of the five correct. The next one she said, you've
only now got one correct and four wrong. I'm looking
through this.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
But hang on, you've got four out of five right.
You need to go back, and but you don't know
which four out of nie she's not telling us.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, yeah, So anyway, we're like trying to be strategic
about it. Okay, well if that one's not right and
that one is right, and then at this point that
one was right, and then I just went, okay, let's
forget about all of those let me read the information
and let me do the questions, like, let's do the
questions from scratch, like we haven't beginning any previous feedback. Yeah,
(02:42):
went through them and I was like, okay, this this,
this is got to the end. And I went I
am so sure that that is right, like it literally
it couldn't be any I've gone through with a fine
tooth comb. And then Amelia's she's happy with it, but
she's also like, no, Mum, she told me that that
one wasn't right, blah blah blah blah. And this email,
I was like, no, it doesn't matter, like I think
(03:03):
she is wrong because I am so sure.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
She's a teacher, but she's wrong.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
It's wrong anyway, right, give it to me. She comes
back one out of five, No, five out of five.
They're all right now. So at some point in the
email chain, the teacher has got it wrong.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Oh, she's just trying to fuck with you. I was like, no,
she actually knew that she was doing it just to
mess with you, to see how much longer you could
spend as the parent on your child's I've got.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Nothing else to do.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
She hasn't even got a Christmas tree out let's give
her an assignment. Am I a bad mom for keeping
it a secret from them?
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Excited for this?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I think I've been pretty open about how I tend
to approach things with and I've got another friend who
does this too. Our girls are say mate, and we
sort of approach things as more of spontaneous catch ups,
only so that we don't have to get peppered with
the questions for two weeks prior to telling them that
(04:18):
they've get you know what I mean. So like we're
the saying, we sort of go We as adults know
that our kids are catching up in two weeks, but
we don't tell them until the day. Yeah, they're on
cloud nights. They're so excited. I have learned a little
bit about Elsie of late, because she's obviously ten. She
can now tell me how she's really She's very good
articulating how she feels. But she's come out and you know,
(04:40):
done the whole I need to know a little bit
more in advance. She handles it better if she knows
what's going on a little bit more in evans. And
I'm like, okay, well you can have three days in advance.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Not you know, don't just bring it on me. I'm
not prepared.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Yeah. She doesn't like not knowing, she doesn't like being unprepared.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Yeah, I'm exactly the same.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
But at the same time, Katie, I really don't need
to hear about it for a week beforehand. Yeah, I
don't want to answer the same question thousand times anyway.
So recapping the start of this year, their dad went
away off to I'm a slebe, get me out of here.
He went off to Africa. I told them that he
was in Sydney and he'd been gone a week. We
(05:19):
sat down and the surprise for them was surprise, your
dad's on arm a slabe, get me out of here.
He's not in Sydney, He's actually in Africa. And it
went down well, not so much a lead balloon, but
we went through every emotion physically possible.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Yeah, kind And it started off with cause I saw
the video. It started off with Grace going, oh my god,
this is going to be so embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Yeah, and Elsie, I told you so, I knew it.
And then so far forward from obviously not learning my
lesson from January hour in December, I think about maybe
six or seven weeks, eight weeks ago, I had a
fuck it moment and just booked a holiday, and so
I have sat on it, knowing that I had booked
(06:04):
a whole holiday for Christmas, but I hadn't told them
because I wanted to use it as part of their
Christmas present. So I've been waiting for the first of
December because the elf on the showd.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
You know what the amount of times I have not
booked holidays because I've gone, oh, we should save the money,
we shouldn't do it, we should wait until we've got
more savings. The amount of times I've done that. But
one of the most important things is memories doesn't have
to be like a super expensive overseas holiday. Even doing
(06:37):
it like a weekend await or camping or whatever it
might be. It is with your budget.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
And your family.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
It's about memories.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah, exactly where I went after you know, like another big,
you know, shock diagnosis of a close family member in
my family, I just had this bucket moment and was like,
oh my god, life is really short. I'm just booking it. Yeah,
And so I booked it, and now I've sat on
it for this long that I felt like, finally the
first of December's here. The l elves have arrived. The
(07:06):
elves brought a letter from Santa, and the letter from
Santa tells them, this is your Christmas present. We're going
on a holiday.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Yeah, exciting.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Oh my god. They were like beside themselves because I
got a bit of feedback, and I was starting to
get a little bit worried because I hadn't told too
many people because I didn't want them to accidentally tell
their kids and then their kids go back to my kids,
and so I had sort of just held off. Yeah,
and then my brother had called me for something else
(07:34):
the other day, and he had this moment where he
was just like, right, what happens if this plan doesn't
sort of unfold in your head like as it is
in your head or happy in la la la. And
then they actually get the news and they're like, I
fucking hate it. I don't want to go.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Well, it's funny because just on your brother for a second.
I know exactly which brother you're talking about. And I
happened to bump into that brother recently at the shopping center. Yeah,
and we had a brief chat about your holiday, and
you know, when are we all catching up over Christmas? No,
rate is going to be away blah blah blah, And
(08:13):
actually what he said was, do you think Rachus remembered
how long she's going to have to spend with her
husband whilst away?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Ah?
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Do you know how many people have gone? Are you okay?
And I was like, what do you mean? And they're like,
it's a very very long time to be in close
proximity with your husband and.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Asking how many weeks are you going for?
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Three?
Speaker 1 (08:35):
You're going for three weeks? Yes, And can we just
tell people where you're going because this is a big trip,
like this is a kind of a once in a life.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
All this time. Yeah, well, I mean the fuck it
moment really gives it away, because we're at that stage where,
like my girls are about to transition into the next
group of children that don't believe any longer.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Yeah, so heading towards teenagers.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Heading towards we're tweens. Yeah, we're going to go and
do Lapland, and like I've got rellies in Switzerland and
so it's just going to be a cold Christmas and
they've never experienced a cold Christmas. B they've never been
overseas that far, and it'll just be like a once
in a lifetime opportunity. It's definitely one location I've never
(09:21):
been to, so I'm excited also about visiting a new location.
And it's been a ride of eight weeks.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
What you're going to remember is that you know how
much planning is involved in this particular trip, how much planning,
like there's different locations, the preparation you're going to need
to do, not to mention the money and what you've
financially into it.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Yeah right, it's a lot, Yeah, a lot.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
What you've got to remember is that your kids will
never really truly appreciate that because they just don't have
the ability. No, they will have an amazing time regardless, Like,
they will absolutely love it. And I think with kids,
just the fact that you're all together and you're present,
like that's what they need.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, I think that's what they'll love. And we really
haven't spent much time this year really with the four
of us, so yeah, we've done it. The information was
received very well, and then you know, like Elsie's response
was priceless. She's like, what about rivershow?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
What about the camping trip that you've got beforehand?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
What about Rivershow? And I was like, in that moment
of going like instead of reacting like a three year
old Rachel just she's just processing. I had to just
sort of like, oh, yeah, you'll get a night there
and then we'll have to like we're going to start packing.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
That's the example, right, Let's the example of like the
amount of times I've said over the years, oh my god,
you understand how lucky you are to have been able
to do that. And it will be something like that.
But what about the camping trip we were supposed to
go on on the weekend?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Yeah, and you know, like it's already started and it
was this morning. Gracie says to me.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Oh my god, Lady Gaga's here next week.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
She's like, why can't we go?
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah? I know exactly how that feels.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Do you want me to tell you about your holiday?
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah? Can we just remind you of the holiday? Remember
you're going to Lapland.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Before today, I have not been able to use that one.
I've had to stumble over my words every time they're like,
can we do this during the holidays? Can I have
this sleepover? Can I be here? Can I do that?
Speaker 1 (11:31):
And I'm like, no, Yeah, I'm still still going to.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Be eating two minute noodles for the remainder of the holidays.
When we get home and of your life, don't be crazy.
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