I'm having a night off!

Rach gave herself an impromptu night out after facing backlash from her youngest. So instead of arguing she simply just left!........

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apodjake Production.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of ami ad Mom Podcast.
I was having a chat earlier about the fact that
next week is December. I think a lot of people
will be doing kind of the same thing in regards
to holidays. But we pretty much got two weeks at work. Yes, yeah, yeah,
I know that means two weeks at work. That means

(00:43):
two weeks of preparation for Christmas shopping and stuff like that.
I feel like it's just crept up on us.

Speaker 3 (00:50):
Yeah, I know it has crept up. We always say
it this time of year. For some reason, this year
feels different.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
There's usually a lot of lead up.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah, I was like, this year feels really different.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
There's stuff going on. I don't think I've been invited
to a single Christmas party.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah, I don't know what's going on.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
Usually it starts in November people are doing something.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
And also like there's lots of usual like pr events
and those sorts of things like this, very nothing's going on.
I don't know, don't know what the feeling is, don't
know why it's different, but it does feel different, and
I agree with you, But we are on the what
did you want? The other week we recorded a podcast
and you were trying to bring in another word that

(01:29):
you hadn't used for maybe two decades. And I was
re listening to that particular podcast and I still was
shaking my head, going what was she thinking?

Speaker 2 (01:38):
Was it helter skelter, helter skelter? So I said we
were on So in my mind, I was thinking, we're
on the downhill slide into the Christmas holiday.

Speaker 3 (01:46):
And in my head I had a picture of MacDonald's
playground that used to have the slides that were like, yeah,
so I had in my head a downward spiral and
you were like, no, the slide.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
That is kind of what I meant. But that's the
like tube slide.

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Macis, Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:05):
Like that go down and they go round and round. Yeah,
so think about that, but with the top half so
it doesn't go over you, so it's like a half one.

Speaker 3 (02:15):
So just to give you, like how I'm feeling right now,
I feel like I'm going down, not a spiral, but
like the fastest fucking slide you've ever felt, with about
like a twenty five kilo weight just pushing me down
even faster.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
That's how fast things feel like right now.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (02:32):
I know, it's crazy it's a helter Skelter bait, helter skeltered,
Helter Skelter.

Speaker 3 (02:38):
It's actually a band from nineteen sixty am I bad
mum for taking.

Speaker 1 (02:53):
An impromptu parental night off.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Oh I'm bringing this one forward because I wasn't going
to actually talk about it. And then I was chatting
with a friend and they were like.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
Of course you are allowed to do that. I am
sort of had a moment of going, no, you're not.

Speaker 3 (03:10):
You're not allowed to do that, like no one in
their right mind, Like that was me throwing a tantrum.
Back to the situation of the tantrum thrown by my
ten year old.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
So a Thursday in our house is really busy.

Speaker 3 (03:23):
I go to Kelvin Grove and pick up Gracie from school,
drop her to dance, go home to get Elsie to
drive her back to netball. I dropped Elsie a message
on her iPad while she was at school and said, hey,
just a heads up because she likes to know things,
so you'll have more of a response from Elsie if

(03:44):
she knows things and advance. I've learned this quick and hard.
My message to her was heyesa heads up. I would
really like to go to the Cairo on our way
to netball. She was like, no, I don't want to
go to Cairo, and I was like, well, you don't
have to get an adjustment, but I am.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
But we're going to go on the way to your netball,
so we.

Speaker 2 (04:02):
Just need to lose as well. Isn't it like it's
take a quick fifteen.

Speaker 3 (04:06):
Minutes, like maybe like twenty five minutes. Also, I'm driving
you to Netbull. Yeah, we're just going by.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
So actually I'm not asking your permission.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
I'm not asking you permission.

Speaker 3 (04:14):
And if our heads up that this is what's gonna
happen right fast forward, gone to Calvin Grove, picked up Gracie,
dropped her a dance.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Come home. Now, this is usually a really quick turnaround.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
Sam's at home. We're both standing at the counter. I
said to Els, quick, can you go and get changed
for netball so we can leave in like five or
ten minutes so that we can go via the Cairo
to get to Netpul on time. She just fucking lost
it starts like screaming, crying, you forced me to do everything,

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like just let rip And I was like looking at her.
I'm looking at Sam to like say something. It's not
just me and her head to head, log to log
all the time.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Have my back. All I'm asking is to drive to
the Cairo. On the way to Netpule. You don't even
have to get out of the car. You can just
see there. You are a passenger.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
I'm driving you to your thing, so I consider it
your netple for an hour forty five on my fucking night,
get dressed. And at this point I'm heightened. She's even
more heightened. She's like mimicking me, and I was like, mate,
do it again, just try me. Like at this stage,
Mute is still standing next to me saying nothing.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
Elsie is just firing. I'm not going You forced me
to do this netble stuff. Oh no, I've never forced
you to do any of that.

Speaker 3 (05:39):
I have given you my time driving you for the
last seven weeks to this thing. Every time you have
turned up and you have thoroughly enjoyed it, and you've
wanted to go. Don't throw this on me on your
last night because it's convenient today, because it's suit, because
you can't be bothered to go to the Cairo. Usually, Katie,
I will just go too bad. You have made a

(06:01):
commitment to a team too bad. This night, I got
to this point, I was worn down. He was saying nothing.
She was still going. And I looked at her and
I went, do you know what? You stay home, don't go,
don't go, I said, but I am going to email
the association. I'll let them know because you have to
reply and say that they're coming. I said, I'll tell
them that we're pulling out tonight and I'll let them

(06:22):
know why why.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
I'm not going.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
Yeah, I'm not making an excuse. I'm not making excuses,
I said. But yeah, you're right, you don't have to go.
I'm not forcing you to do anything, I said, because
I'm not wearing that later in life when you're like, eh,
you forced me to play an abook, I did not.

Speaker 1 (06:34):
You've always wanted to do this.

Speaker 2 (06:36):
And was she happy with that?

Speaker 3 (06:38):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (06:38):
She goes, oh, yep, that's fine.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
Then I said, no, Goosman, because usually we'll go with
their mates after again, her go with her mates, sit down,
have goodsman after training, and then we go home. I went, no, Goosman,
cook your own dinner, Sam, do not cook her a
single thing. She can cook her own dinner.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
I just literally picked up my bag I said, I'll
in that note.

Speaker 3 (06:59):
I'll drop them an email and let them know that
you're not attending tonight because you threw a tantrum and
you're too lazy and uncommitted.

Speaker 1 (07:07):
But I'll let them know that that's it. She's good.
I don't even care.

Speaker 2 (07:11):
I love the So you were like, yeah, okay, fine,
But then in your mind you're getting more and more
annoyed at the fact that that's exactly what she wants
to do and she can't be bothered to get a netbule,
and you planned your evening and you around her, and
you probably paid for it too, paid for Yeah, and
so you get more and more annoyed, and then you
just throw out the extra little lines of punishments, like

(07:32):
you're not getting any good money games, we're not cooking.

Speaker 1 (07:35):
No, she said, She goes, that's fine, Dad will just
buy us guzman. Oh yeah. Dad was like. Oh. I
was like, I don't care, bro.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
If you're not buying that, there, buy her and reward
rewarding a dog for biting someone.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
You have a bone, you bit someone.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
No, it doesn't work like that, I said, and bed tonight,
lovely chime of eight o'clock. See you later, I'm going
to take myself to the Cairo. I might see a
movie on the way home. I might go to dinner.
I don't know. But I don't care about any of
this or any of you right now other than myself.
And so I just walked out the door and then
I got in the car and I text my sister

(08:14):
in law, who also goes to Netbuln, and was like, sorry,
not attending netbook tonight. Elsie's an asshole, And I'm going
to take myself out for a night of whatever I want.
Went to the Cairo, went to Indro, wandered around, did
a spots shopping, took myself for dinner. Good I'm nosing
in at about nine ninet thirty. Didn't want to talk

(08:36):
to them, didn't want to look at them, went to bed.

Speaker 2 (08:39):
I think it's really nice doing those like little impromptu
like I don't think it's nice the shit that you
had in the lead up to it, but to be
able to just go, you know what, because I don't
think we do that enough. You've taught me a bit
more over the years that that's an okay thing to do.
And I think there would be a lot of mums
listening that would also be like, oh, I can't do that,

(09:03):
you know I can't, Yes.

Speaker 1 (09:04):
You can. I can.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
Another thing, Katie is like that whole age appropriate like
an age awareness thing. Look afterwards, when you think about it,
like I sit there and I tend to like reflect
on it and go like, yeah, maybe I threw a
tantrum just as much as she had a tantrum. But
then like, you know, you could look at it it
that way, but then the other way, it was like, no,
I needed to remove myself from the situation in order

(09:28):
not to continue in the same Like, if I stayed there,
the trajectory of that fight would have just gotten bigger
and bigger and meaner and harsher, and words would have
been thrown that I don't want to throw.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
I needed to walk away. I needed to go and
do what I needed for me.

Speaker 2 (09:44):
Yeah, and I did something similar recently too. We talked
about it on the podcast. I actually went to the
extreme of leaving the house and staying in a hotel
overnight so I didn't have to face my children and
the horrible argument that was just getting worse and worse
and worse. That would have got even worse, and so
you know, the moral of the story for our kids,

(10:05):
As you become a nightmare, we'll just leave.

Speaker 1 (10:07):
We're left, goodbye, We're out. Were they in a hotel?

Speaker 3 (10:13):
Living life large without you?