November 2, 2025 • 10 mins
Rach thought she was nailing the day, so organised. It was all going swimmingly.... until it wasn't!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Appod Shaped Production.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mum?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Podcast?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Week in week out, we come through with the goods
and the goods though, as we know, the stages and
ages of this podcast, but also our kids keeps providing.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Most people just go like, how have you still got content?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
No, I don't think we've ever come and gone. I
don't have any ideas for today.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I know that, Like, literally this past week, there's been
two occasions, well probably more, but two that's come to mind.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Two occasions where I've literally said out loud to someone,
oh my god, I just did this? Am I Bad mum?
Or what?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
And then I have like that moment of going, oh
my gosh, that's one hundred percent while we grew up
this podcast of those moments.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Yeah, the girls sometimes say to me, oh, you just
talk shit about us on the podcast. I'm like, well,
we can't talk shit about ourselves too.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Like this podcast is more about us than it is
about them. Like obviously they provide the content, but it's
how we react and like attempt to parent.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Yeah, because no one nails parenting.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
No, and no kids spawn with a manual.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
No, there's guides, you feed them you know, it's a guy,
it's the right sleep situation.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
You know, there's so much out there for that sort
of stuff. There's no book that says how to be
a mom. No, you're just maternally meant to know what
you're doing until later on in life when they're big
enough to speak back and you know, add a little
bit more friction into the mix, and then your own
behaviors kick in where you're like, why am I acting
(01:58):
like that?
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Like that was one hundred percent me this morning.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I just didn't understand why they were fighting like they were,
and it was just heat and it was just so
much going on, and I just looked and was like, Rachel,
why are you behaving like this? Because I had that
moment going why am I behaving like this? But I
did see it in reflection and go.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Oh, yeah, I need to work on X y Z.
But we just keep going back people.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
I know, we're just human.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
We are just human. I tell my children that all
the time. I am just a human being with feelings.
You're same as you.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, I don't know what I'm doing.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
And then they look at me and I don't give
a fuck.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Yeah, And so not only is their childhood pretty challenging.
But then when they're adults, they'll then come at you
about all the things you did badly and wrong. Yeah,
it's lifelong torture.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Am I a bad mum for falling short of the
finish line? Okay?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
This is literally about feeling like you've got everything. I
was sort of feeling like I had everything nailed. And
when I say everything, I'm talking about all of the
things that sort of add up in your normal week
when you're parenting. Solow and the kids have got so
much on at the moment when I get cocky, and
(03:27):
when I say cocky, I'm only competing with myself.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
I'm fully competing with myself.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
So like, literally in the morning, as soon as the
morning starts, I look at my calendar and I sort
of like have to work backwards in order for me
to be able to wrap up our day at about
seven point thirty pm, which would be Elsie walking off
the network cort me driving home. In order for me
to be able to do that, I need to slot
in making dinner that is easily microwaveable for Gracie when
(03:55):
she gets home at six point thirty from dance.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Yep, it's sort of like backtracking.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I was like, yes, I can do this, and so
then I'll do that, and then we got heap of weather,
so the network was canceled. I mean, I'm really sad
that I was super excited right because then I was like, Okay,
that's fine. Now I can do normal pickup for dance.
Elsie's got no netple. I also don't have to rush dinner.
But at the same time, I was sort of half prepared,
(04:20):
so that made me get even more cockier, and so
all going, well.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
That was the night before.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Then we fast forward to this morning and I said
to both of them, we need to be ready by
this time. How much time do you need in the
morning to get ready? An hour six fifteen I'll wake
you up seven fifteen. You have to be out of
the door.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Yeah. Done.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
In between six fifteen and seven fifteen, I'm thinking, like,
what do you want for lunches? Oh, we want the
we want the mini pizzas for lunch. As soon as
they ask for anything different, I'm looking at the kitchen bench,
going but I bought rolls, just a fucking roll with it.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
You made the mistake of asking them all funny, But
this is where I got cocky, competing against myself, and
then once they asked for it, I.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Was like, fuck fucking fuck it. And then I was like, yeah,
no worries. And then I'm like looking and I was like.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Oh God, got me pushing it to get to this
finish line. Start whipping up these mini pizzas, putting them
in the air fray, putting them back on the bench
that they cooled down enough to put him into their
lunch boxes or within thirty minutes. I was like, this
is it's extreme cooking. And as soon as Katie, as
soon as I go out of just a roll with
(05:32):
veggimi and butter, and I go into the depths where
I sort of can't swim. Cookie is not my I
know that making a small pizza in the fray is
not hard, but it's like it's extra thought and then
there's steps and processes and like timing. Anyway, fuck it,
I got it done. That was fine, got Gracie out
(05:53):
the door. Now I've got my first client at eight
thirty am. So I was like, this is so good,
look at us. Go and then I get Elsie's lunchbox
finals together and put in lunch box and feel the
water bottle and put it there, and I'm like, you're
getting out the door in like two minutes.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
And then as I'm saying that, my client for.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Eight thirty is walking in, Elsie sits there and it
is now eight thirty eight. Am I meant to be
walking out the door into the gym? And she looks
at me so quietly, Katie, and so calmly. She goes,
but Mom, She's like, when am I going to get
my breakfast?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Nice, so calmly. Wow.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
And everything you've done the lunches, you were ahead of
the head of the guy lunches, everyone sorted, everyone's out.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
My child's starving my breakfast.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
She looked to me so quiet because my brain gonna
work if I haven't had breakfast.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
And she was kind of blame her for not telling
you early.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Are she No, this is the worst part of it.
She genuinely was.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Destraught, and she was like, Mum, but I asked for
my porridge at about seven.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
And I went, you did, yes?
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Fuck.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Then I looked at my class just two minutes just
let me and I do walk back and it's like,
what a fucking ship, Mum.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Who send their kids to no No.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I the amount of times my kids go to school
without breakfast, there's probably nine out of ten times. But
she was The other thing is on the days where
back in the day, like they obviously they can do
their own breakfast, but back in the day where I
hadn't done breakfast, or we were running out of time,
(07:35):
I'd grab a.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
Musical that's it is a car.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Yeah, it's easily bar yeah, gay.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Yeah, it's not breakfast. Yes, it is not fine.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
It is anything's breakfast.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I think it's like, in my head, i'd nail.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
I actually I'd crossed the finish line and I was
actually fucking still bounds in front.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Right in my head, I was like, how did I
pull that up? I have no idea. You didn't.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Your child is starving, and she's just waited, and she's
waited and she's waited, and she like, she could have laughed.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
She could have just gone to school.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
She could have ignored the fact that most kids hate
the whole torturess eat breakfast kind of vibe.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
And she's just sitting there like, what about me? What
about my food?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
And I was like, oh, literally, we'll walk into the
gym and my clients.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
She's got three boys, and she was still giggling, and
I was like, what is shit? Mom?
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Who sends their kids?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
She goes, ah, it'll give her another ten minutes before
she has to leave.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
When we talk about what kids need, like what you
have to do for them, feed them, feed there.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
But for me, like each parent has like a something
that will just be really passionate to them or like
really and one of my things with my girls is always.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
Been eat breakfast.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah, you cannot fuel your tank like any other way.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
Eat breakfast, Eat breakfast.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Secrets the most important meal of the day. You know
he made that up who Kellogg's.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Of course, But at the same time it sets you
up for a day when the morning in the day.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Yeah, and then I'm the one that's like, bye, here,
have a good day. What about me? Sorry didn't feed you?
What a ship mom? What a ship mom?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I was like, I was beating myself up. I would
holand have done the grab a snack and.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I looked around. I was like, what do you want?
I was like, what about this role. I can put
veggiemite and butter on it. It's kind of like toasts.
And she was like, I don't want that. I want porroache.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
And I was like.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
About a pack of the chips.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
Agen igainnot I would not have lived with that.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
And then, just to top it off, just before this,
I get a phone call from the school high rate.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
I'm really sorry to do this. You've forgotten Elsie's swimming gear.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Oh, for the love of God, you've just put the
nail in the coffin.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
I failed and didn't.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Age, like, at what stage can you go excuse me?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
She forgot an.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
I should have just said, not my problem.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I'm not swimming. I've got what I need to go swimming.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Not my problem.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
I ain't got no swimming lessons today.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Imagine the teacher. Yeah, and it's not my problem. What
do you want me to do about it? I've got
my swimming stuff.
Appod Shaped Production.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mum?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Podcast?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Week in week out, we come through with the goods
and the goods though, as we know, the stages and
ages of this podcast, but also our kids keeps providing.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Most people just go like, how have you still got content?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
No, I don't think we've ever come and gone. I
don't have any ideas for today.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I know that, Like, literally this past week, there's been
two occasions, well probably more, but two that's come to mind.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Two occasions where I've literally said out loud to someone,
oh my god, I just did this? Am I Bad mum?
Or what?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
And then I have like that moment of going, oh
my gosh, that's one hundred percent while we grew up
this podcast of those moments.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Yeah, the girls sometimes say to me, oh, you just
talk shit about us on the podcast. I'm like, well,
we can't talk shit about ourselves too.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Like this podcast is more about us than it is
about them. Like obviously they provide the content, but it's
how we react and like attempt to parent.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Yeah, because no one nails parenting.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
No, and no kids spawn with a manual.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
No, there's guides, you feed them you know, it's a guy,
it's the right sleep situation.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
You know, there's so much out there for that sort
of stuff. There's no book that says how to be
a mom. No, you're just maternally meant to know what
you're doing until later on in life when they're big
enough to speak back and you know, add a little
bit more friction into the mix, and then your own
behaviors kick in where you're like, why am I acting
(01:58):
like that?
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Like that was one hundred percent me this morning.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I just didn't understand why they were fighting like they were,
and it was just heat and it was just so
much going on, and I just looked and was like, Rachel,
why are you behaving like this? Because I had that
moment going why am I behaving like this? But I
did see it in reflection and go.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Oh, yeah, I need to work on X y Z.
But we just keep going back people.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
I know, we're just human.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
We are just human. I tell my children that all
the time. I am just a human being with feelings.
You're same as you.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, I don't know what I'm doing.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
And then they look at me and I don't give
a fuck.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Yeah, And so not only is their childhood pretty challenging.
But then when they're adults, they'll then come at you
about all the things you did badly and wrong. Yeah,
it's lifelong torture.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Am I a bad mum for falling short of the
finish line? Okay?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
This is literally about feeling like you've got everything. I
was sort of feeling like I had everything nailed. And
when I say everything, I'm talking about all of the
things that sort of add up in your normal week
when you're parenting. Solow and the kids have got so
much on at the moment when I get cocky, and
(03:27):
when I say cocky, I'm only competing with myself.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
I'm fully competing with myself.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
So like, literally in the morning, as soon as the
morning starts, I look at my calendar and I sort
of like have to work backwards in order for me
to be able to wrap up our day at about
seven point thirty pm, which would be Elsie walking off
the network cort me driving home. In order for me
to be able to do that, I need to slot
in making dinner that is easily microwaveable for Gracie when
(03:55):
she gets home at six point thirty from dance.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Yep, it's sort of like backtracking.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I was like, yes, I can do this, and so
then I'll do that, and then we got heap of weather,
so the network was canceled. I mean, I'm really sad
that I was super excited right because then I was like, Okay,
that's fine. Now I can do normal pickup for dance.
Elsie's got no netple. I also don't have to rush dinner.
But at the same time, I was sort of half prepared,
(04:20):
so that made me get even more cockier, and so
all going, well.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
That was the night before.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Then we fast forward to this morning and I said
to both of them, we need to be ready by
this time. How much time do you need in the
morning to get ready? An hour six fifteen I'll wake
you up seven fifteen. You have to be out of
the door.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Yeah. Done.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
In between six fifteen and seven fifteen, I'm thinking, like,
what do you want for lunches? Oh, we want the
we want the mini pizzas for lunch. As soon as
they ask for anything different, I'm looking at the kitchen bench,
going but I bought rolls, just a fucking roll with it.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
You made the mistake of asking them all funny, But
this is where I got cocky, competing against myself, and
then once they asked for it, I.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Was like, fuck fucking fuck it. And then I was like, yeah,
no worries. And then I'm like looking and I was like.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Oh God, got me pushing it to get to this
finish line. Start whipping up these mini pizzas, putting them
in the air fray, putting them back on the bench
that they cooled down enough to put him into their
lunch boxes or within thirty minutes. I was like, this
is it's extreme cooking. And as soon as Katie, as
soon as I go out of just a roll with
(05:32):
veggimi and butter, and I go into the depths where
I sort of can't swim. Cookie is not my I
know that making a small pizza in the fray is
not hard, but it's like it's extra thought and then
there's steps and processes and like timing. Anyway, fuck it,
I got it done. That was fine, got Gracie out
(05:53):
the door. Now I've got my first client at eight
thirty am. So I was like, this is so good,
look at us. Go and then I get Elsie's lunchbox
finals together and put in lunch box and feel the
water bottle and put it there, and I'm like, you're
getting out the door in like two minutes.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
And then as I'm saying that, my client for.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Eight thirty is walking in, Elsie sits there and it
is now eight thirty eight. Am I meant to be
walking out the door into the gym? And she looks
at me so quietly, Katie, and so calmly. She goes,
but Mom, She's like, when am I going to get
my breakfast?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Nice, so calmly. Wow.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
And everything you've done the lunches, you were ahead of
the head of the guy lunches, everyone sorted, everyone's out.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
My child's starving my breakfast.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
She looked to me so quiet because my brain gonna
work if I haven't had breakfast.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
And she was kind of blame her for not telling
you early.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Are she No, this is the worst part of it.
She genuinely was.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Destraught, and she was like, Mum, but I asked for
my porridge at about seven.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
And I went, you did, yes?
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Fuck.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Then I looked at my class just two minutes just
let me and I do walk back and it's like,
what a fucking ship, Mum.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Who send their kids to no No.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I the amount of times my kids go to school
without breakfast, there's probably nine out of ten times. But
she was The other thing is on the days where
back in the day, like they obviously they can do
their own breakfast, but back in the day where I
hadn't done breakfast, or we were running out of time,
(07:35):
I'd grab a.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
Musical that's it is a car.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Yeah, it's easily bar yeah, gay.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Yeah, it's not breakfast. Yes, it is not fine.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
It is anything's breakfast.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I think it's like, in my head, i'd nail.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
I actually I'd crossed the finish line and I was
actually fucking still bounds in front.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Right in my head, I was like, how did I
pull that up? I have no idea. You didn't.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Your child is starving, and she's just waited, and she's
waited and she's waited, and she like, she could have laughed.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
She could have just gone to school.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
She could have ignored the fact that most kids hate
the whole torturess eat breakfast kind of vibe.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
And she's just sitting there like, what about me? What
about my food?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
And I was like, oh, literally, we'll walk into the
gym and my clients.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
She's got three boys, and she was still giggling, and
I was like, what is shit? Mom?
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Who sends their kids?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
She goes, ah, it'll give her another ten minutes before
she has to leave.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
When we talk about what kids need, like what you
have to do for them, feed them, feed there.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
But for me, like each parent has like a something
that will just be really passionate to them or like
really and one of my things with my girls is always.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
Been eat breakfast.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah, you cannot fuel your tank like any other way.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
Eat breakfast, Eat breakfast.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Secrets the most important meal of the day. You know
he made that up who Kellogg's.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Of course, But at the same time it sets you
up for a day when the morning in the day.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Yeah, and then I'm the one that's like, bye, here,
have a good day. What about me? Sorry didn't feed you?
What a ship mom? What a ship mom?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I was like, I was beating myself up. I would
holand have done the grab a snack and.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I looked around. I was like, what do you want?
I was like, what about this role. I can put
veggiemite and butter on it. It's kind of like toasts.
And she was like, I don't want that. I want porroache.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
And I was like.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
About a pack of the chips.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
Agen igainnot I would not have lived with that.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
And then, just to top it off, just before this,
I get a phone call from the school high rate.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
I'm really sorry to do this. You've forgotten Elsie's swimming gear.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Oh, for the love of God, you've just put the
nail in the coffin.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
I failed and didn't.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Age, like, at what stage can you go excuse me?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
She forgot an.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
I should have just said, not my problem.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I'm not swimming. I've got what I need to go swimming.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Not my problem.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
I ain't got no swimming lessons today.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Imagine the teacher. Yeah, and it's not my problem. What
do you want me to do about it? I've got
my swimming stuff.
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