April 1, 2025 • 11 mins
Rach has been shamed for allowing her kids to watch one of her guilty pleasures on tv, but wait, what did WE watch as kids?!!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apod Shake Production.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Podcast?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
We constantly asked the same question, and actually I was
having a conversation with someone the other day about alcohol
in mums. I won't get into the darkness of it,
but how there's an unhealthy relationship with alcohol in.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
A lot of mums.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, And I was like, I can so relate, Like
you can so relate.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Do you think it's more secretive with mums than it
is with dads? Like dads is just like they sit
there and they just have a beer and it's just
what they do. And with mum, it's like I might
have a wine a bit earlier before people come home,
so then you know, you don't get that distinct lab
(01:12):
that goes with it of like, oh, sorry, you just
had a wine at five and now you're having another
wine whilst you're cooking dinner. And I'm like saying it
because it is a thing like I've questioned myself a
few times, which we've talked about, where you go do
you really Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
There's definitely a shame around it. And I also think
it's kind of a because being a mum is so hard.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
It's almost like it's.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
The kind of the reward of going, Oh my god,
like such a busy day.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
There was so much going on. I managed to get
them to.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
You know, football or dance or whatever it is. We
got home, we did dinner, We've done lunch.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Boxes and blah blah blah, bah blah blah blah blah.
You're thinking of a million things.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
It's that.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Now I'm gonna have a wine. Now I'm gonna relax.
Kids are in bed. It's kind of my time.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
We laugh about it too, like even on our logo,
We've got mom with a.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Glass of wine.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
It's like, and actually at it now the bottle was
nearly empty. So it's that whole when's too early to
have a wine?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Like laugh about it. But yeah, I was actually having
a serious conversation.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
I was like, it's having a real serious conversation with someone,
or just with yourself.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
I was having a conversation with someone, genuinely.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
I have conversations with myself, Like I have moments where
I'm like I try and ask myself the question, why
are you having this? Why are you choosing to have
a cider instead of a soda water?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Why?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Yeah, well, you know, it's more fun but yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Yeah, yeah, that's where I'm going to leave that one.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
The amount of times my kids have gone, why are
you drinking wine?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
I'm like because of you falls.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Am I a bad mom for creating bad habits?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I don't know. So I don't know where I stand
or land with this one. Katie. Currently Channel nine.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Has a TV show on corn Maths.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I feel like I'm oh, I feel like.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
I'm like, literally, you know, at a meeting where you
own your bad behavior.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
That's where I.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Am funny because you love maths like you've loved maths
for years always. Your husband was recently on I'm a Celebrity.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Get Me out of Here, really different channels.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
You had a bit of a battle when Maths started
showing at the same time on the opposite channel. It's like, well,
I should really watch my husband, but I actually really
like Maths.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
So to give you a really clear view, I don't
watch any other TV for the entire year. I barely
sit down. I know, it's really hard to believe that
I don't sit down to watch TV. And if I
watch a Netflix series, it's usually like an eight part
series that's like got me. But then I have to
binge the whole thing, and then I'm down. I don't
(04:05):
need to kind of thing like I'm genuinely I train early,
I go to bed early, I work early, so TV
is not my go.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
To right Xactually quite funny that you love math because
you're not that kind of trashy TV.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
So the person I'm that person, I love Kardaski.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
I've never watched a favorite episode of Kardashians in my
life to this day.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I love that trashy I watched Real Housewives of Beverly
Hills like I.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Love that trashy shit.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
I don't watch like heaps a bit like I've got
no I don't money.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Of those, but I don't have any, which is why
I get so much shit around this.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Right, So, in my house, if my mum.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Chooses to call in and stay the night, what are
you watching this ship for? Can we have a little
bit less please, I'm trying to watch TV show, so
going now into creating bad habits for children? Yes, mum
called over, Mom stayed the night. We've eaten dinner, and
the girls and I watched Maths from somebody?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Why am I going quiet? Seven thirty to eight?
Speaker 4 (05:08):
And then they go to bed and then I'll watch
the end of it kind of thing, but they'll do
reading and do their usual thing and then eight thirties bedtimes.
That's how our household runs, obviously, not maths every night.
That's genuinely how it all runs.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Now.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Mum being there, she was like, what is this shit?
Why are you letting them watch this?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Rachel?
Speaker 4 (05:27):
Oh, this is not even real life. This is not
real TV. And I was like, I know they know, like,
well they don't know, but I'm trying to tell them
that it's not. But it's like one of those things
Katie that I go, I don't ever watch anything else.
And yes, it is trashy TV, and no, it is
absolutely by far not honest or healthy relationships coming out
(05:49):
of this right and the way that they behave on there.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yes, we know how it works.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
There's structured people behind it making a lot of shit unfold,
and then our own behavior within those certain situations.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Reality TV is.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Really hard, yeah, really hard, Like the background of it
is tough and brutal, yet people continue to do it.
So then we choose to watch it, and then I
let my kids watch it, But then my mum comes
in absolutely ridicules me for it. You are teaching them
bad habits. Love you, Nanity, and then I feel bad
(06:24):
for it, but I don't stop doing it.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
My kids watch. This is worse.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
So I'm putting it to you to go watch your
kids watch.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Yeah, this is potentially fucking up their whole reality of
what life is actually about.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
They watch Love Island and they are obsessed with it
to the point where they act out the people and
they go, Hi, I'm twenty two and I'm from Essex.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
And then they said to me one day, Amelia goes, Mum,
when i'm.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Older, I'm going to go on Love Island.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
You're not.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
No, You're fucking not still watching that shit, and she's joking.
But they love it. They love Love Islands. And I'm like,
I don't watch it with them because you know, they're
teenagers and that doesn't happen now. But but I do
hear the stories and see little snippets of the people
that are.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
And I'm like, probably don't put that as your.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
You know, tagline, your goal, your dreams. Don't aspire to
be on it. And we you know what.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Weirdly enough, ten and twelve the girls my girls, and
I'm having those conversations with them going this is absolutely
not real life, just fyi, and it is not how
you're going to generate or look for love in another Okay, just.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Letting you know.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
If you come to me and tell me you're on Maths,
I will not support it. We're having a gig or rat. Obviously,
also need to put in a disclaimer that when they
do the Intimacy Week in Maths, the kids don't watch.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
That's not for them.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
They are allowed to watch the dinner parties and they're like,
you know all that stuff, but the Intimacy Week, it's
a no go.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
We don't watch that. We have a laugh about it,
watch it for half an hour a night.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
But what did you watch as a kid that your
parents let you watch that you reckon really fucked up
your view on things?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
If there was any.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Silence of the Lambs, Yeah, I watched Silence of the Lambs.
I recognize about ten.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
I think I was Gracie's age, and we went to
a day where we went and did videos at a
friend's house and she put on that what's the other one?
That Stephen King with the clown clown come up out
of the thing in the drain, was that the clowns
it maybe I don't know the one whatever that came
up from the drain on the ground, and would like
(08:45):
I genuinely will not still walk next to a great
like that on a road.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Weird sound comes out.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
But in terms of like my mum just gonna throw
down a d under the bus because she obviously this
is where this topic has come from. She let us
watch like at say Gracie's age.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Actually she didn't let us watch it, just watched it.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Yeah. Actually, Luke used to hide underneath her chair. She
would genuinely think we've gone to bed, and Luke would
push the envelope a little bit more hide underneath her chair.
So she's sitting on this chair, his head is underneath
the chair where her legs are watching.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
The semi show, whereas I would just sort of be
like watching around the corner. I kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I've told this story previously, but I do remember being
on a plane and my kids sitting next to me,
and I was watching what Jennifer Lopez is it like
Hustlers or something like that where she's a stripper. Yeah,
and I'm watching and there's like some quite you know,
adult scenes in there. And I noticed that Holly is
(09:49):
like she's got some sort of cartoon on or whatever.
This is years ago, and she's watching my screen, but
my screen's right next to her. I'm like, what are
you doing that situation? When you're on a plane, you
can't stop them from seeing. I've got the bloody safety
card up, like holding it against this greens as you
can't see.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh my gosh. I love that though, so inventive. Yeah,
I would not have thought of that, would be like,
look away, that's.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
The safety No one's ever actually looked at the safety
path of the safety card. It's just used to screen
your kids from watching inappropriate stuff on the TV.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Honestly, I can't stand those safety cards. I do not
touch them.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
They've been in that seat pocket for so long that
I'm like, no, no, no one's cleaning na no, no, no,
one's wiping that down.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
You probably know this because you're hosty. The dirtiest thing
on the plane, isn't it the tray table where.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
You put food.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
Also the air vents of the recycled air they're like
one of the dirtiest places on an aircraft, and obviously
of the bathroom. So flying long distance and you think,
Oh my gosh, I'm just going to take myself into
that bathroom and reach my high club. Think again, think again,
and think about all those things that those bathrooms.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Oh my god, I think so. I can't think of
anything worse than joining in my hard club. I'm perfectly
fine without Ernie.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Do that, Katie's in there, Hang on, I just wipe
it all down a second.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
I can't even barely fit in there to go to
the toilet alone, do anything else,
Apod Shake Production.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Podcast?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
We constantly asked the same question, and actually I was
having a conversation with someone the other day about alcohol
in mums. I won't get into the darkness of it,
but how there's an unhealthy relationship with alcohol in.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
A lot of mums.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, And I was like, I can so relate, Like
you can so relate.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Do you think it's more secretive with mums than it
is with dads? Like dads is just like they sit
there and they just have a beer and it's just
what they do. And with mum, it's like I might
have a wine a bit earlier before people come home,
so then you know, you don't get that distinct lab
(01:12):
that goes with it of like, oh, sorry, you just
had a wine at five and now you're having another
wine whilst you're cooking dinner. And I'm like saying it
because it is a thing like I've questioned myself a
few times, which we've talked about, where you go do
you really Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
There's definitely a shame around it. And I also think
it's kind of a because being a mum is so hard.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
It's almost like it's.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
The kind of the reward of going, Oh my god,
like such a busy day.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
There was so much going on. I managed to get
them to.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
You know, football or dance or whatever it is. We
got home, we did dinner, We've done lunch.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Boxes and blah blah blah, bah blah blah blah blah.
You're thinking of a million things.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
It's that.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Now I'm gonna have a wine. Now I'm gonna relax.
Kids are in bed. It's kind of my time.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
We laugh about it too, like even on our logo,
We've got mom with a.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Glass of wine.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
It's like, and actually at it now the bottle was
nearly empty. So it's that whole when's too early to
have a wine?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Like laugh about it. But yeah, I was actually having
a serious conversation.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
I was like, it's having a real serious conversation with someone,
or just with yourself.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
I was having a conversation with someone, genuinely.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
I have conversations with myself, Like I have moments where
I'm like I try and ask myself the question, why
are you having this? Why are you choosing to have
a cider instead of a soda water?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Why?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Yeah, well, you know, it's more fun but yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Yeah, yeah, that's where I'm going to leave that one.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
The amount of times my kids have gone, why are
you drinking wine?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
I'm like because of you falls.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Am I a bad mom for creating bad habits?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I don't know. So I don't know where I stand
or land with this one. Katie. Currently Channel nine.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Has a TV show on corn Maths.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I feel like I'm oh, I feel like.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
I'm like, literally, you know, at a meeting where you
own your bad behavior.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
That's where I.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Am funny because you love maths like you've loved maths
for years always. Your husband was recently on I'm a Celebrity.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Get Me out of Here, really different channels.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
You had a bit of a battle when Maths started
showing at the same time on the opposite channel. It's like, well,
I should really watch my husband, but I actually really
like Maths.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
So to give you a really clear view, I don't
watch any other TV for the entire year. I barely
sit down. I know, it's really hard to believe that
I don't sit down to watch TV. And if I
watch a Netflix series, it's usually like an eight part
series that's like got me. But then I have to
binge the whole thing, and then I'm down. I don't
(04:05):
need to kind of thing like I'm genuinely I train early,
I go to bed early, I work early, so TV
is not my go.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
To right Xactually quite funny that you love math because
you're not that kind of trashy TV.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
So the person I'm that person, I love Kardaski.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
I've never watched a favorite episode of Kardashians in my
life to this day.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I love that trashy I watched Real Housewives of Beverly
Hills like I.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Love that trashy shit.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
I don't watch like heaps a bit like I've got
no I don't money.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Of those, but I don't have any, which is why
I get so much shit around this.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Right, So, in my house, if my mum.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Chooses to call in and stay the night, what are
you watching this ship for? Can we have a little
bit less please, I'm trying to watch TV show, so
going now into creating bad habits for children? Yes, mum
called over, Mom stayed the night. We've eaten dinner, and
the girls and I watched Maths from somebody?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Why am I going quiet? Seven thirty to eight?
Speaker 4 (05:08):
And then they go to bed and then I'll watch
the end of it kind of thing, but they'll do
reading and do their usual thing and then eight thirties bedtimes.
That's how our household runs, obviously, not maths every night.
That's genuinely how it all runs.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Now.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Mum being there, she was like, what is this shit?
Why are you letting them watch this?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Rachel?
Speaker 4 (05:27):
Oh, this is not even real life. This is not
real TV. And I was like, I know they know, like,
well they don't know, but I'm trying to tell them
that it's not. But it's like one of those things
Katie that I go, I don't ever watch anything else.
And yes, it is trashy TV, and no, it is
absolutely by far not honest or healthy relationships coming out
(05:49):
of this right and the way that they behave on there.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yes, we know how it works.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
There's structured people behind it making a lot of shit unfold,
and then our own behavior within those certain situations.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Reality TV is.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Really hard, yeah, really hard, Like the background of it
is tough and brutal, yet people continue to do it.
So then we choose to watch it, and then I
let my kids watch it, But then my mum comes
in absolutely ridicules me for it. You are teaching them
bad habits. Love you, Nanity, and then I feel bad
(06:24):
for it, but I don't stop doing it.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
My kids watch. This is worse.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
So I'm putting it to you to go watch your
kids watch.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Yeah, this is potentially fucking up their whole reality of
what life is actually about.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
They watch Love Island and they are obsessed with it
to the point where they act out the people and
they go, Hi, I'm twenty two and I'm from Essex.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
And then they said to me one day, Amelia goes, Mum,
when i'm.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Older, I'm going to go on Love Island.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
You're not.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
No, You're fucking not still watching that shit, and she's joking.
But they love it. They love Love Islands. And I'm like,
I don't watch it with them because you know, they're
teenagers and that doesn't happen now. But but I do
hear the stories and see little snippets of the people
that are.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
And I'm like, probably don't put that as your.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
You know, tagline, your goal, your dreams. Don't aspire to
be on it. And we you know what.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Weirdly enough, ten and twelve the girls my girls, and
I'm having those conversations with them going this is absolutely
not real life, just fyi, and it is not how
you're going to generate or look for love in another Okay, just.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Letting you know.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
If you come to me and tell me you're on Maths,
I will not support it. We're having a gig or rat. Obviously,
also need to put in a disclaimer that when they
do the Intimacy Week in Maths, the kids don't watch.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
That's not for them.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
They are allowed to watch the dinner parties and they're like,
you know all that stuff, but the Intimacy Week, it's
a no go.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
We don't watch that. We have a laugh about it,
watch it for half an hour a night.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
But what did you watch as a kid that your
parents let you watch that you reckon really fucked up
your view on things?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
If there was any.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Silence of the Lambs, Yeah, I watched Silence of the Lambs.
I recognize about ten.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
I think I was Gracie's age, and we went to
a day where we went and did videos at a
friend's house and she put on that what's the other one?
That Stephen King with the clown clown come up out
of the thing in the drain, was that the clowns
it maybe I don't know the one whatever that came
up from the drain on the ground, and would like
(08:45):
I genuinely will not still walk next to a great
like that on a road.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Weird sound comes out.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
But in terms of like my mum just gonna throw
down a d under the bus because she obviously this
is where this topic has come from. She let us
watch like at say Gracie's age.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Actually she didn't let us watch it, just watched it.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Yeah. Actually, Luke used to hide underneath her chair. She
would genuinely think we've gone to bed, and Luke would
push the envelope a little bit more hide underneath her chair.
So she's sitting on this chair, his head is underneath
the chair where her legs are watching.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
The semi show, whereas I would just sort of be
like watching around the corner. I kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I've told this story previously, but I do remember being
on a plane and my kids sitting next to me,
and I was watching what Jennifer Lopez is it like
Hustlers or something like that where she's a stripper. Yeah,
and I'm watching and there's like some quite you know,
adult scenes in there. And I noticed that Holly is
(09:49):
like she's got some sort of cartoon on or whatever.
This is years ago, and she's watching my screen, but
my screen's right next to her. I'm like, what are
you doing that situation? When you're on a plane, you
can't stop them from seeing. I've got the bloody safety
card up, like holding it against this greens as you
can't see.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh my gosh. I love that though, so inventive. Yeah,
I would not have thought of that, would be like,
look away, that's.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
The safety No one's ever actually looked at the safety
path of the safety card. It's just used to screen
your kids from watching inappropriate stuff on the TV.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Honestly, I can't stand those safety cards. I do not
touch them.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
They've been in that seat pocket for so long that
I'm like, no, no, no one's cleaning na no, no, no,
one's wiping that down.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
You probably know this because you're hosty. The dirtiest thing
on the plane, isn't it the tray table where.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
You put food.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
Also the air vents of the recycled air they're like
one of the dirtiest places on an aircraft, and obviously
of the bathroom. So flying long distance and you think,
Oh my gosh, I'm just going to take myself into
that bathroom and reach my high club. Think again, think again,
and think about all those things that those bathrooms.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Oh my god, I think so. I can't think of
anything worse than joining in my hard club. I'm perfectly
fine without Ernie.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Do that, Katie's in there, Hang on, I just wipe
it all down a second.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
I can't even barely fit in there to go to
the toilet alone, do anything else,
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