Why Bad Sex Means You're Living a Fake Life with Lauren Elise Rogers • 410

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why the survival patterns you developed around sexuality are the exact same patterns keeping you stuck everywhere else - and how seeing this connection sets you free

• The difference between using sex to escape pain versus using it to heal pain, and how to tell which side you're actually on

• How to separate your authentic desires from the stories you inherited, so you can finally make choices based on who you are instead of who you think you should be

What if the most dangerous thing you could do is keep pretending you're fine?

Let's get real for a second. Seventy percent of women have never had an orgasm during partnered sex. Not sometimes. Never. Meanwhile, boys learn by age seven that they're responsible for everyone else's pleasure. We're all walking around carrying sexual shame that doesn't even belong to us, wondering why intimacy feels like performing instead of connecting.

I spent years thinking something was wrong with me because I couldn't just magically know what felt good. Turns out, most of us are operating from scripts written by people who never lived in our bodies. Religious purity culture tells us desire is dangerous. Hook-up culture treats sex like a sport. Neither one teaches us how to actually connect with another human being.

Want to know what's really messed up? The World Health Organization says sexual health is fundamental to human wellbeing. Yet we spend more time learning algebra than understanding our own anatomy. We memorize the periodic table but stay clueless about consent. We study dead languages but can't speak the language of our own pleasure.

This stuff ripples out everywhere. When you disconnect from what you actually want sexually, you lose touch with what you want period. You become someone who says yes when you mean no. Who gives until you're empty. Who performs instead of living. This isn't just about bedroom problems. It's about life problems.

Today our guest is Lauren Elise Rogers, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain to purpose journey, bringing an empathetic and non-judgmental approach that empowers clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection.

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