August 28, 2025 • 35 mins
Besties, we're serving HOT TEA and existential crises this week! Jerrilyn Lake (aka Indeskribeabull) and Lynee’ Monae are back with another chaotic episode of the She Said It First podcast where we're discussing why the Instagram algorithm has us in a chokehold, why making friends in your 30s hits different, and how to gracefully ghost a bestie who no longer sparks joy. We're getting vulnerable about becoming our mothers (the audacity!), why our backs hurt from just existing, and how tequila is now our sworn enemy. Plus, we're sharing the tea on what happens when you realize your childhood bestie and you are living in completely different universes - spoiler alert: it's not always messy, sometimes you just... drift. And because we can't help ourselves, we're also dragging certain political figures who think they can buy their way into heaven (sir, this is not a Wendy's). Grab your wine (preferably that Sauvignon Blanc we're still hunting for) and settle in for another episode of your favorite millennials oversharing for your entertainment.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What's up, everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
It's your girl in Describable aka jerrellen Lane. I'm checking
in with none other than my best fie for the
recipe the name Mode.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
And you are listening to the.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Podcasts and every one podcasts and the every one podcast
network every end.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
My girl, my girl, my girl. Okay.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Unfortunately it's not it's not in the same role today,
but that is all right because the relationship has remained unchanged.
The vibes are still immaculate, and we are here with
another fun Feeld Messy team given podcast episode right here,
as she said.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
The first favor. But you know we got the you
know how we thought these episodes are you do you
want to go? Hirst and you want me to go?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I think mine the short simpol is straight to the point, Frank, Okay,
what irritates you this week? I think it's every week
that irritates me. The algorithm. I do not like the algorithm.
I just don't like it doing away with it. I
think we was on the phone and you said something
which was just like, why they just can't show our
(01:07):
content to the people who follow us.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Obviously they want to see it.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Why is it that you are holding my views hostage,
like you showing them the people who don't even follow me.
If you look at your algorithm, now, if you follow somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
You never see them again.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
They show you people you would not you would never follow,
but you don't even know who they are. It's just like,
I don't like the algorithm. I don't like how much
it's changing. It's getting on my nerves, Like I don't
like it.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
I'm the same way.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
And they keep adding all these new features, like with
the location stuff on Instagram, like you can now repost videos,
and I'm like, that's great, But if I repost that,
nobody's gonna see. The people that follow me still not
even gonna see that because they're not seeing my regular posts.
So what is the point in reposting something? But you
know how these platforms are. When they release a new feature,
they're gonna push for people to start using it.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So, girl, I've been reposting lifting, right, I don't care
what it is.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I'm going down the line and I'm reposting videos from
ten years ago. If I I'm posting it, you're gonna
see it again, come back and find us, right, that's right,
That's actually what I've been doing like if they release
a new feature, just start using it. That's how they're
doing with the shorts now on YouTube. My shorts was
never getting no traction when I first posted to them.
Now they're getting a little bit of movement and I'm
(02:17):
actually making some money on there. So I was like,
I'm just gonna try to, you know, jazz it up
and see what I can do. But that's the least
of my weary Oh little friend. What irritated you?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Girl? Me? Me? I got on my own nerves this week.
I did that.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
I did, and I and then my mama was in
town this week. So that says indescribable. That says a
lot that my mama was here this week and I got.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
On my own nerves.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Like if it would be easy to just say, oh,
my mama was here, she was inconvenient or something like that.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
But no, girl, it was me. I got on my nerves.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
You do, girl, just the most, just bothering the lady,
Just bothering that laddie. So the thing that like I
wanted to I had all these ideas about what I
wanted to do and where I wanted to take her
and all of this stuff, and that lady loved me
so bad. She was like, we don't have to do anything.
We just stay here. We can work on this puzzle.
(03:13):
We can't watch TV, you know we can.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
She she just didn't want to do nothing to spend
time with me.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Now, for a disclosure, I just needed my mama, so
I said, I said, girl, let me fly.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
You out because I need you. And she was like,
floa out. I love that I flewed my mama out.
I'm officially the rich auntie, but I did.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I did use points though, Shout out to Delta, shout
out to my American and express the god points though,
because you got to be flying to get them right.
That's also true, it's still.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
And you know that. But yeah, like I ended up
just hanging out with her.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I took her dinner, you know, we went to the Beltline,
walked around, we did take total that was fun. Had
you know, had lunch up there and it's just a
really nice time. And I was so frustrated with myself
because I just wanted to do stuff for her and
she just she was like, girl, we ain't got to
do nothing. We don't have to spend no money or nothing.
She's very simple and Mama, I know you listening to
(04:12):
this girl.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I needed you so bad.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
I'm so glad dad and let you come out here,
and I appreciate it. We have to do it more.
But you know, I want to talk about something too.
We had another segment.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
We had a segment out here, but I feel like
we should talk about something else. I'mbout to call it
an alibile friend. Okay, okay, to tell me, but she
still got to ask me the question. Girl, we have it.
I'm talking last to ask me girl, speaking of Malmas.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Not to get too deep, but have you ever just
woke up one day and was like, dang, I'm more
like this lady than I would like to admit.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
And maybe I don't know this lady at all.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Because while you got it on a record, like why
you got this record? You could have called me out
to the show and asked me this. But you want
to ask it so people can rewind it back. If
you really shock you get take that rewinded back. Little
John got the beat to make your booty go, got
to make your boody go.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
But I'm just thinking about that. I was thinking about that.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
When I was with my mom, Like I did not
understand nothing about womanhood for real, until I spent time
with Most time i'm with my mom, I'm with my dad,
so I don't get unfiltered conversation with her about him
or their marriage or dating or relationships and stuff like.
It's always through that that, you know, like that lens
of well, my husband is.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Here, you know, so she she ain't gonna.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Do you know, you know, you know, and I respect it.
I respect it. One day, one day I'm gonna get there.
Maybe maybe not, but I love that she Like she
was very very honest with me, and so I was
just learning new things about her.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Realize, girl, I don't know that lady at all.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
And I'm people are like people be like, oh, you
and your daddy looked just like y'all look just like
y'all so much, and like I spent two days with
that lady. I said, Wow, I got this lady whole DNA,
I got this lady.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
That's the awful thing.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
My sister tells me that quite often, especially when I
get into like my real OCD, trying to get things together,
asking people and overstepping my boundaries.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Okay, They're like, no, you I can just like cause
my mom my mother.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Doesn't understand though, Okay, determined and driven, that's what the
challenge she's ambit. She is extremely ambiosageous, you hear me,
And so I too as well.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Happen to be the same way. But when I'm in
other people's business, so.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
It's like you need to calm down and get about
the people business and let them do what they want
to do. But it's like it's like something comes over me,
like no, but this is the better way to do this,
you know. And I feel like when I do have
children that that might be a problem because you gotta
let kids explore do their own thing, you know sometimes.
But it's like, no, but why would you want to
(07:02):
go to hardway when I could just tell you, like
this is a better avenue. But I don't think that'll
be a hard thing for you because I think you
have a I don't know if you believe this or not.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Take it how you want to take it.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
But I feel like you have a very motherly spirit
right me personally.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
F them kids, y'all know, very much. Get them out here.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Okay, God, what number is it? This is reason number
three thousand and two hundred and seventy nine.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Okay, Okay, what you got you put together, like want
like you need to put this together. But I feel
like you would be so great as a mom because
you you are so I've seen you do this with
me and other people. You are so patient and so understanding,
(07:48):
and you take the time to over explain if you
need to in a way that's not condescending or rude
and things like that.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Girl, I don't have the patience.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
And I know people like people are like, well, when
it's with it, when it's your child, you will be patient.
And I what I'm saying is that I don't ever
want to find out. I don't give a dam That's
what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that I'm not
interested in being patient with somebody who I told three
times to stop climbing on the damn stone.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Gets off my stone a little bit.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
You just got now but now, but now when you
got when you got, this whole arm is covered in burns.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I got to explain to child Services why I told
you three times not to get up there, but you
climbed up there anyway. So I'm a bad parent because
I couldn't stop a child who's just curious and wanted
to understand.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
How do you know what I'm saying? Like I think
you have girl, you got that Dawn pack.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
I have watched you in situations you just full of
empathy but still knowing knowing how to communicate. Here's a boundary,
you know what I'm saying like this, professionally, respectfully, friendship wise,
this is a boundary that I would like for you
to respect. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Me personally, I have a little more work to do,
(09:02):
so I.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Think I think I'm going to just when I got
something to say, I'm just gonna call you. I'm down,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Me and Jelin have figured out our strips, weakness out
a weaknesses over this year.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Are we a year and a half yet of friendship?
But I don't know, but a little over year now? Yeah, No,
we're almost.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
We're almost a two years because we met the December,
the December before the podcast. The podcast is a year all,
so that was six months. We're almost at two years.
Oh my god, time flies when you're having fun. So
y'all saying I know, and y'all wouldn't believe. Y'all just
don't believe that we haven't been friends forever, which is
a good thing though, but we we only been friends
for a little like two years now. So it's like
(09:47):
a lot of things you learn in friendship, but the
most beautiful thing. And I want to say this to
women who are of age who are kind of struggling
and like I don't have no friends, or you won't
have your childhood friends. And you you know what I'm saying.
You can genuinely make friends in your thirties.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Okay, I know sound crazy.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
I know it's like, how am I gonna do that?
I know you feel like that, but don't and it
could be different. I promise you can't compare it to
your twenties friendship, even your teen's friendship, because something about
making friends in your thirties. You know both of y'all bits,
You know, both of y'all got things to do. So
nothing is personal and personal?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Personal? Am I saying? Everybody? Yeah? Personal?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You don't like a word, Well, if you don't say,
if you say, don't take something personal, leave, Oh that's okay, that's.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
An adverb, but you but you're saying it right the
first time.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
I'm saying nothing, and that's correct as well period, So
nothing is a personal you know, people are busy. You
understand how to like have real conversations. Y'all can agree
to disagree, and it's not this big old thing. When
you get in your thirties, you don't have time for foolishness.
So the people you yet let in your life are
supposed to be there.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
You get it.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
And if they ain't, you cool with letting it go
to you cool off that too. And it's no bad blood.
It is so much fun, making fun, making friends in
your third I'm dead, sir, absolutely here. And that's what's
so crazy is that we have another segment talking about,
you know, like what's like if having to outgrow a bestie?
And so I think this is this is right on
(11:13):
point because over the years, you know, you'll you'll see
that everybody's just not a lie. And it's such a
it's a painful experience when somebody has been your your girl,
your your homeboy or whatever. Y'all been this and that
forever and ever and ever, and sometimes you just have
to let them go.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
And what the crazy thing is this all is coming
full circle right now.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
The crazy thing is not only have I made friends
in my thirties, I realized my mama is my best friend.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
When I tell you if I'm.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Looking for like, because I don't have a whole lot
of women friends. But it's not like I have like
a slew of guy friends either. As far as people
that are close to me that know my personal business,
it's like a handful of y'all and you've met them all,
you know what I'm saying. So it's not like I have,
you know, an entourage of people. I'm close to a
select few, and I think that the older you get,
(12:03):
that's the best way to go about it, because I like,
people aren't always genuine and I think that it's and
it could be me not not trusting too much. I
know that I'm you know, I don't trust people a lot,
and so I don't want seven close friends or no
or you know, ten bridesmaids at my wedding and stuff
like that. I feel like that's too much opportunity for
(12:23):
my business to be getting passed around. And I can't
monitor my friendships the way I would like to. It's
not that I want to control anything, but I don't
have the I don't have the capacity to be best
friends with.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Nine people like, how are how? Is everybody the best? How?
And you know they talking about each other behind their backs.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
And I have seen this, Like I have seen people
be friends with that many people, and you can always
tell who's closer than you know what I mean. You
can tell the one that's still just kind of hanging
in there but really ain't really feeling it. You can
tell the ones that's super close to hang out all
the time. So it's like, it's no way to equally
share that responsibility with nine or ten people and be like, oh,
(13:03):
I love everybody likes it's gonna be something. But what
I will say is that I am just a little vulnerability.
I am actively going through this right now, and it's hard,
you know. And it's not like we had any type
of falling out. It's not like anything bad happened. It's
just I am in a completely different space right now
(13:24):
and they are in a completely different space right now,
and we cannot get together or hang out, or the
way that we used to hang out is not really
a way that I want to.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Like, I'm not into a bunch of dramas.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
I'm not into you telling me what this person said
about me, especially if I'm not even around. It's weird,
you know what I'm saying. So it's like I think
back then it was fun. That was a good time
to me, you know, Like, but now I love making content.
I'm on social media. They not really into social media
or any of that. So it's like having a friend
(13:57):
like you that I could talk about social media and
content with who gets it.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Like I can talk about the algorithm with and they
not like algorithm. What's the algorithm? I don't really understand. Yeah,
Like you're not watching Violant.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Like I just you know, it's I'm in such a
different space that it wasn't that we had a fallen
out or anything. We genuinely have just grown apart. And
it is a challenge to let go or even come
to terms where you feel like this no longer is
serving me in this season of my life and I
have to walk away from it, and it's really sad.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
It's sad.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Yeah, I mean I totally agree, one hundred percent. But
the goal is, you know, you want to be aligned
and everything. I need my fitness goals to be aligned.
I need my friendships to be aligned. I need my relationships,
business partnerships, I need everything to be aligned. And again,
I hate to make it sound like so so doomsday type,
but the older you get, the less time you have.
(14:55):
Life is short. It's a cliche, but life is short.
You could walk outside, get here by bus, and you
are gone. And you have spent the last twenty thirty
forty years nitpicking, arguing with people, not seeing the world,
not making no money, bending over backwards for people who
really don't care about your well being, and being inconvenienced
that every turn because you don't have any boundaries, and
(15:16):
so like, I think it's just important to girl the
way that just came up out of me. I'm sorry, try, friend,
you got to send me a signal. Friend, you gotta
tell me when it's time.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
But it got word.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
That just wrap it all up. Yeah, every everything you
do got to be a line.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
And it do hurt, It hurt. But you know, like
at the end of the day, I think it's so
hard for people to understand, Uh, we didn't end on
bad terms. People don't understand that it's always with.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
What they do.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Well, what you what you did, And I'm like, it's
not even like that.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Yeah, don't trying to make up nothing.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Just tell people that it's just we just not the
same and I'm just in a different It's okay for
me and you to be in a different place. This
is not our season to even you know, try to
explore anything. And I mean that with family members, relationships, friendships,
situationships like all of that, there is a time and
a place for it. And you're gonna realize one day,
(16:20):
like I am tired of this, especially like situlationships, You're
gonna wake up one day and not be okay with
the fact that you let somebody play with you like
that for that long m You know, I'm saying, continuously
letting somebody in your space, in your body, be getting
all the benefits of an actual relationship, but never committing
to you, you gonna.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Wake up one day and be sick of that, you know.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
So like over time, you just outgrow things, and I
think you just gotta know when to let go and
not feel like it gotta be this big beef, this
big argument. It don't gotta be all of that. It's
just like, I don't want this around me, and that's okay.
It's okay for me not to want to be involved
with that anymore.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Girl. You know that again? A thousand percent agree.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
This is when I knew like it helps me a
lot to have you as a friend because in addition
to talking about certain things that you know, other people
don't really relate to with social media. Like I just
remember when you was here and we was hanging out
in Atlanta and I.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Was like, we was at but we always cutting up.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
No, we were saying McK and I was like, oh,
there's a speak easy back here, we can go back here.
We sat in there for two minutes. I grabbed my
phone because I felt the energy. Girl, I'd be feeling energy.
I said, but we can't go go go to sleep though,
you know, like if you're ready to demp we can,
God said, and I girl, okay, And we scut down
(17:43):
and we got up out of there, And I love
I loved that about you because one thing about us,
like our turn up is not like all night.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Now. Now we might get drunk.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
We might get drunk in a in a condo, in
a ruble now we might be there, but we're not
going to be still in the condo.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
But I like safe fun.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
I don't mind having a good time, but I need
to be aware of my surroundings. I need to know
that I can trust who's around me, and a lot
of times you can't, which is why I don't be
having a whole bunch of friends, which is why you
don't see me out drinking a whole bunch with a
bunch of different people, because I.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Don't know these snickers. I don't know them, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
And so you have to just be responsible with yourself,
with your time and with your space.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
That that has everything to do with cutting off people
and outgrowing besties and things like that.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Outgrowing things in general.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Girl, was a time where I could, you know, every week,
I could probably let y'all walls go get drunk.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Yeah, let's go get drunk. We're gona stay out till
three am. No more. I'm sitting here doing this podcast
in my back hurt.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Okay, right, not to mention it literally takes me seven
to ten business days to get me back out related
Like Lord, I cannot bounce back from looking no more, girl,
I can't.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
I can't. That's why I give me a little with
Sabvion Blanc. I can't. No More's I get the wine.
I'm asleep. That's it.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Okay, whatever, that tequila be on my ass when I
say I because I have, you know, different reasons why
if I'm if it's the beginning of the night and
we're out, if it's like seven o'clock, I'm gonna have
tequila because I know that that'll keep me up, that'll
keep me lively. But untie's tired and want to go
to bed. If you see I'm telling you now, if
(19:30):
you see me order Kendle Jackson sharone, you need to
snatch me up out of there, because I'm two seconds
away from finding a pillow and a blanket and nodding off.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
You need to take no wine, no hold on. Two things.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I want to say. I'm gonna stay five track, but
I got something else to say. Two things, girl, I
still been looking for that Savion Blanc we had when
we went to Cleveland, the Wretch, the Wrint.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Yeah, I'm still looking it was. You gotta go back
to the Wrints period because we can do that too.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Because they ain't grabb don't want to sell it to
us at the corner liquor store.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
We've got to go back to the rents. Girl. I
love that wine. That one was so good.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
But The second thing is get you a friend or
a best friend that can help you fix your nervous system.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
Y'all have no.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Clue your nervous system if you can get you a friend.
I told this to Jerline. I said, girl, I think
you just fixed my nervous system.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
I was going through so much. I went around her.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
We had such a good time. We went to the
Botanical guards a lot. It was beautiful, like just being
in nature, like Ryan is scooters. The thing about it,
if you tell your friend you going through something and
she knows exactly how to heal you, then that's the
person you need to be around, Like, that's the one,
like you know, like I don't. I just don't see
(20:52):
the point of having friends and they can't contribute anything,
especially if you are able to contribute back to them.
It's like, why is your friendship so one dimensional? And
y'all see that problem with that. That's what I mean
when I mean aligned, Like you have to be in
community with people who are interested in.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Giving the same things that they're taking from.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
You, because people will people will be like all your
nervous system tore up today.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Okay, I hold that thought.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I'm gonna mess it up some more because now I
want you know, because oh you got this going on,
everything needs to be about me, you know, like I said,
want you to do that that's going on with them? Yeah,
like you don't have a time, and you're gonna take
the attention.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
You're doing something, you're you're.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
Having a great day, you know, give me time to
be in my funk and even girl, even.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
Something the stuff that I was going through when you
was here. I was like, yeah, well I don't care.
We're gonna enjoy our time. You know, like we don't.
We don't crash my boy bank shop birthday party. We
don't did the belt line.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
We did the belt guardens, We went to the Brave Stadium,
walked around the Battery, and so.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
We really did. We had we did.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
We had a glass And I think that it matters
how you spend your time with people because we didn't
have to get tore up drunk, We wasn't being indecent
or getting arrested fighting. It wasn't messy with nobody arguing
like it was just a really good time. And that's
what I mean when I say a line like be
with people who if even nothing, if nothing is even
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going on you're still having a good time because we
could have just stayed at the hotel or just sat
around and did nothing, and I'm sure that would have
been fine, too.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Agreed.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
I won't agree, but yeah, I know we went on
a whole spilled Okay, get that jealous spirit of off
your friend. Look, you get you up, Carolyn, and you'll
be okay, okay, okay. But it is a beautiful thing,
you know, And I think that, like we said, life
(22:52):
is too short to spend it any other way but happy.
So get your so around yourself for some people that
make you feel good and regulate your nervous system around
yourself with people that you you know, that bring the
best in you and make you a better person and
hopefully help you make it to heaven. Because I'm sorry,
I had to say. I had to say, girl. They said,
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Donald Trump trying to figure out how he can make
it to the Pearly Gates. That's what he said. We
have a we have a c I'm such a good time.
I'm sorry, good time. I'm sorry I had to derail
it because we had to get this in. They said,
he wanted to know he done called in to Fox
and Friends. Uh, this past week and basically said that
he's trying to end the war in Ukraine because he's
(23:34):
trying to figure out how he can make it back
to heaven. Told them folk that he don't think he
high up on the totem pole and he got to
fix it. So let's they they let's okay, we gonna
see what.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
We haven't heard enough of what he said. We got
tapped out. Yeah, let's hear someone. Let's see what he says.
Seven thousand people a week from being killed.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
I think that I want to try and get to
Heaven if possible.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I'm hearing. I'm not doing well this guy.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
I there's a question on here that says one or
three things that Trump can do to get into heaven.
And I want you to know right now if you don't,
if you're of the Christian faith that believes in heaven
and Hell and God, the Father, God, the Son, Jesus,
and the Holy Spirit, then I can tell you right
now that man won't make it because you cannot say
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you believe in the God of the Christian faith and
you persecute and attack and discriminate against people that don't
look like you. Black and brown people are literally suffering.
I scott folks getting snatched off the streets, tearing up
their families. The National Guard was in DC and they
(24:48):
were ripping homeless people out of your tent, the people
who already don't have anything, or they came there with
the garbage people and they were taking their tests and
throwing them in the trash with their belonging, ripping them
out of their homeble.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
How in the world can you target a.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
Community that's already going through what they're going through that just.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
That right there alone. But it's so much more damage
that you have done.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
And I think you believe the number, the number of
people will slide you up to the top if you
get rid of this war.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
But I'm here to tell you today there is nothing, nothing, nothing,
I mean that you can do.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Okay, being subject to holiday Okay, heaven, I promise you that.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Right look, right.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Now, you can say your breath right now, right now,
you can save your breath because we don't want to
hear it. I think when you it's not a balancing act.
You don't do enough good to outweigh the bad when
it comes to this. I'm just I'm talking based on
what this man has said. They say they're Christians, right,
and y'all believe that the only way through heaven through
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the sun. Right, that's the only way you can get
through the Father.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Right. Okay, Well, Jesus was an immigrant. Speak.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Jesus was a friend to the homeless. Hello, Jesus had
empathy for sinners. Okay, So you I fear good clown
man that you'll never see.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
You'll never see the gates of heaven.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
You You and Tyler Perry for what he been doing
to black women in all these places and movies.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
Trays is crazy, try all of it. And you know,
obviously people are not perfect.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
But yeah, I don't even know why this was.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
The same thing. Yeah I can't. People are not perfect,
but there are people like him who just don't get
a past. For me.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Now, you belong in that circle of people not perfect.
Like he's literally evil. He has literally set out to
demolish and destroy those type of people, people who already
have the mentality that everybody is beneath them and they
can do no wrong.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
I don't want nothing to do with that.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I genuinely and strongly, I don't even know if I
can say this ooo, But if you can't leave it
in there. I strongly dislike him, strongly like, I just
don't Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I just don't
have any respect for someone who just lies the way
that he does. He lies so much that somebody can say, literally,
the sky is blue, and he will tell you not
(27:27):
really as purple. You just can't see it yet. But
I have concepts of a purple sky coming soon, and
people will.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Be like, you know what, you are so right.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
Like he's the only one who has access to the
proof of the purple sky. He's not ready to release
the chet. It's not above it's above our pay grade.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
That we don't have clearance for that yet. That's that means.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
So while y'all are lollygaggon and looking at blue skies,
we're onto something bigger and better and not girl.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
This is how he has gotten people to vote against
their own interest.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
This is how he has gotten the American people divided
by making them think that they have nothing in common
with the immigrant next door, or the trans person next door,
or the black or brown person next door, making them
think that we are so different when you actually have
more in common with that trans neighbor or that black neighbor.
You have way more in common with them than a billionaire.
But you'll never see some of us will never see
(28:20):
a million dollars. Most of us will never see a hundred.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Thousand I received that I received, We see a meal.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
But people, people don't be leaving their hometowns. People don't
be educated, people don't have any ambition, And it's not
sometimes it's not Sometimes it's not their fault. Sometimes people
literally are in areas where there's limited access to to
if they don't even know how to think that there
(28:48):
can be they don't even know how to think that
there's more than what they're dealing with right now, and
so that that that's it's a it's an unfortunate situation.
But he's he looked at them people and he said,
this will we gonna do? And it keeps getting worse
prayed on them, And that's so sad because they don't
see how they've been brainwashed. The worst thing about being
(29:08):
brainwashed is that you don't even know that it's happening.
It's like it's gradually happening, and you see somebody in power,
and because you start to idolize them more than you
idolize yourself, God, anything else. And you want the things
that they are able to do, the things they are
able to say, how they walk around the world with
no care. You want to exude that same power in
your life, and you don't have it, so you admire
(29:29):
those who do, and then you find yourself following behind
somebody who you think, okay, well, this group of people
will be in jeopardy, not realizing that it's actually a
domino effect, and you will be affected soon. I don't
care what nobody say, even in due time. I know
that he's trying to protect the billionaires, but in due time,
they too will.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Be affected by all of the decisions that he makes.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
Like, even if it is in their favor now, the
way that the world is going, we all gonna be affected.
You can't affect a large group of people like this
and think that we just gonna lay down and take
it like. This is not a dictatorship, this is not
a third world country. This is not that people are
extremely independent here. And eventually, you know, some people are
(30:11):
standing up. But there will come a time where we're
all gonna have to come together and we're gonna see
exactly what that looks like. Because I'm willing to go
to war about it, for sure. I just I just
love how people are finally standing up because for months
we've seen people just roll over and been so so
complace that. Okay, okay, okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
I know, I know, I'm sorry. I'm back because this
is what I mean when I say Tyler Perry won't
see Heaven.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Why would you make Janna Jackson say that to Martin
Hardrick of all people, ghosts, James Saint Patrick James, Why
would you make Jane and Jackson tell him that?
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (31:03):
This is what I mean when I say we have
got to have more empathy. Though, these the people in
power are literally bullying everybody who don't have enough money
to fight back. And shout out to Gavin Newsoen in
California who is basically outright loudly defying what they're trying
(31:24):
to do in Texas with the Jerry Mandarin redistricting so
they can have more seats to basically hold that Republican
influence for another thirty forty years or what have you.
It's sickening, it's disgusting, and I'm so proud of the
people that do use their voice. Gotta we gotta stand
up and fight this, y'all like there is not enough, There's.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Not enough of them.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
You can literally look at the percentage of billionaires, the
percentage of wealthy, the percentage of lawmakers. They don't outnumber us,
they don't outnumber us. But you know, but you know,
but you know who does outnumber who?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
A white man committing crimes in this country? What they
want to now, I just want you all to know.
Speaker 2 (32:08):
I just want you all to know that the statistics
are extremely skewed.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Black people, people of color are over policed.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
And that's why this whole black on black crime thing was,
it has been a thing. It's a lie. But I'm
saying this because I want people to know that these
people are playing with the information that they're giving us.
They're literally trying to rewrite history, disbanding the Department of Education.
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You're talking about what we can and can't mention when
we're discussing slavery in museums. Maybe if we probably wouldn't,
it would be a horror show.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
It would be a horror show.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
So I'm like, long story short, if Heaven had a cookout,
you wouldn't be invited.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
At all at all. And y'all stop inviting people to
the cookout. That's enough.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
You're pissing me off too, Like everybody who is of enough,
you want to say what I'm saying. Every time they
use a little slam okay, put a little dude rag on. Okay,
get on the camera and talk they you basic basic
human decency. That'd be my favorite one. They'd be like, oh,
they're not racist. They invited to the cookout, ma'am.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
That's not how that works. That's not how that works
at all. I strongly dislike it. I want to eat them.
I don't even be hungry.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
After I started inviting the wrong people to the cookout,
I'd be like, you know what, I think, I'm gonna
run up the street to the Popeyes, give me a
three piece of a biscuit on head onto the house extra, honey,
please not talk on this biscuit, all right, Love's pride
or something. But you know, hopefully, you know, I think
everybody has their own relationship with God, depending on their religion.
(33:49):
You know, I want him to work this out himself.
I personally, I hope that I go in therapy. I
hope right, you're worried about having you need to be
you want to see that got you.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
It's a mental condition. You gotta address that first.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
Before you can talk about Oh, I'm trying to go
to heaven and I'm gonna do this like no, like
work on your mental hope because the way you think
it ain't right. So you need to go talk to
the lady and a psychiatrist, not a therapist, just someone
to prescribe you something, okay, because it looks it do
look kind of crazy.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
I think that is. So I'm glad you made.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
That distinction because people will sit up in these sessions
and just talk and talk and talk and they ain't
got no will that all are dealing with chemical imbalances.
But you know, hopefully I hope I go to heaven too,
and when I get there, I pray to God I
don't I don't see that man. So friend, I hated
to do this, but we actually do have to wrap up.
(34:46):
You know, I prefer seeing your face in person, but
you know we'd be backing action that.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
Time we show me back.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
All right, y'all, Well, look, make sure you tune in
every Thursday. Okay, you're gonna get all the visuals on YouTube.
You gotta make sure you like, comment and subscribe and
hit that notification bills that you know every time we upload.
If you're more of an audio person, you can listen
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Speaker 1 (35:08):
All right, guys Bane
What's up, everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
It's your girl in Describable aka jerrellen Lane. I'm checking
in with none other than my best fie for the
recipe the name Mode.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
And you are listening to the.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Podcasts and every one podcasts and the every one podcast
network every end.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
My girl, my girl, my girl. Okay.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Unfortunately it's not it's not in the same role today,
but that is all right because the relationship has remained unchanged.
The vibes are still immaculate, and we are here with
another fun Feeld Messy team given podcast episode right here,
as she said.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
The first favor. But you know we got the you
know how we thought these episodes are you do you
want to go? Hirst and you want me to go?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I think mine the short simpol is straight to the point, Frank, Okay,
what irritates you this week? I think it's every week
that irritates me. The algorithm. I do not like the algorithm.
I just don't like it doing away with it. I
think we was on the phone and you said something
which was just like, why they just can't show our
(01:07):
content to the people who follow us.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Obviously they want to see it.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Why is it that you are holding my views hostage,
like you showing them the people who don't even follow me.
If you look at your algorithm, now, if you follow somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
You never see them again.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
They show you people you would not you would never follow,
but you don't even know who they are. It's just like,
I don't like the algorithm. I don't like how much
it's changing. It's getting on my nerves, Like I don't
like it.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
I'm the same way.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
And they keep adding all these new features, like with
the location stuff on Instagram, like you can now repost videos,
and I'm like, that's great, But if I repost that,
nobody's gonna see. The people that follow me still not
even gonna see that because they're not seeing my regular posts.
So what is the point in reposting something? But you
know how these platforms are. When they release a new feature,
they're gonna push for people to start using it.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So, girl, I've been reposting lifting, right, I don't care
what it is.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I'm going down the line and I'm reposting videos from
ten years ago. If I I'm posting it, you're gonna
see it again, come back and find us, right, that's right,
That's actually what I've been doing like if they release
a new feature, just start using it. That's how they're
doing with the shorts now on YouTube. My shorts was
never getting no traction when I first posted to them.
Now they're getting a little bit of movement and I'm
(02:17):
actually making some money on there. So I was like,
I'm just gonna try to, you know, jazz it up
and see what I can do. But that's the least
of my weary Oh little friend. What irritated you?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Girl? Me? Me? I got on my own nerves this week.
I did that.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
I did, and I and then my mama was in
town this week. So that says indescribable. That says a
lot that my mama was here this week and I got.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
On my own nerves.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Like if it would be easy to just say, oh,
my mama was here, she was inconvenient or something like that.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
But no, girl, it was me. I got on my nerves.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
You do, girl, just the most, just bothering the lady,
Just bothering that laddie. So the thing that like I
wanted to I had all these ideas about what I
wanted to do and where I wanted to take her
and all of this stuff, and that lady loved me
so bad. She was like, we don't have to do anything.
We just stay here. We can work on this puzzle.
(03:13):
We can't watch TV, you know we can.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
She she just didn't want to do nothing to spend
time with me.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Now, for a disclosure, I just needed my mama, so
I said, I said, girl, let me fly.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
You out because I need you. And she was like,
floa out. I love that I flewed my mama out.
I'm officially the rich auntie, but I did.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I did use points though, Shout out to Delta, shout
out to my American and express the god points though,
because you got to be flying to get them right.
That's also true, it's still.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
And you know that. But yeah, like I ended up
just hanging out with her.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I took her dinner, you know, we went to the Beltline,
walked around, we did take total that was fun. Had
you know, had lunch up there and it's just a
really nice time. And I was so frustrated with myself
because I just wanted to do stuff for her and
she just she was like, girl, we ain't got to
do nothing. We don't have to spend no money or nothing.
She's very simple and Mama, I know you listening to
(04:12):
this girl.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I needed you so bad.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
I'm so glad dad and let you come out here,
and I appreciate it. We have to do it more.
But you know, I want to talk about something too.
We had another segment.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
We had a segment out here, but I feel like
we should talk about something else. I'mbout to call it
an alibile friend. Okay, okay, to tell me, but she
still got to ask me the question. Girl, we have it.
I'm talking last to ask me girl, speaking of Malmas.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Not to get too deep, but have you ever just
woke up one day and was like, dang, I'm more
like this lady than I would like to admit.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
And maybe I don't know this lady at all.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Because while you got it on a record, like why
you got this record? You could have called me out
to the show and asked me this. But you want
to ask it so people can rewind it back. If
you really shock you get take that rewinded back. Little
John got the beat to make your booty go, got
to make your boody go.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
But I'm just thinking about that. I was thinking about that.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
When I was with my mom, Like I did not
understand nothing about womanhood for real, until I spent time
with Most time i'm with my mom, I'm with my dad,
so I don't get unfiltered conversation with her about him
or their marriage or dating or relationships and stuff like.
It's always through that that, you know, like that lens
of well, my husband is.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Here, you know, so she she ain't gonna.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Do you know, you know, you know, and I respect it.
I respect it. One day, one day I'm gonna get there.
Maybe maybe not, but I love that she Like she
was very very honest with me, and so I was
just learning new things about her.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Realize, girl, I don't know that lady at all.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
And I'm people are like people be like, oh, you
and your daddy looked just like y'all look just like
y'all so much, and like I spent two days with
that lady. I said, Wow, I got this lady whole DNA,
I got this lady.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
That's the awful thing.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
My sister tells me that quite often, especially when I
get into like my real OCD, trying to get things together,
asking people and overstepping my boundaries.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Okay, They're like, no, you I can just like cause
my mom my mother.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Doesn't understand though, Okay, determined and driven, that's what the
challenge she's ambit. She is extremely ambiosageous, you hear me,
And so I too as well.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Happen to be the same way. But when I'm in
other people's business, so.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
It's like you need to calm down and get about
the people business and let them do what they want
to do. But it's like it's like something comes over me,
like no, but this is the better way to do this,
you know. And I feel like when I do have
children that that might be a problem because you gotta
let kids explore do their own thing, you know sometimes.
But it's like, no, but why would you want to
(07:02):
go to hardway when I could just tell you, like
this is a better avenue. But I don't think that'll
be a hard thing for you because I think you
have a I don't know if you believe this or not.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Take it how you want to take it.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
But I feel like you have a very motherly spirit
right me personally.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
F them kids, y'all know, very much. Get them out here.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Okay, God, what number is it? This is reason number
three thousand and two hundred and seventy nine.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Okay, Okay, what you got you put together, like want
like you need to put this together. But I feel
like you would be so great as a mom because
you you are so I've seen you do this with
me and other people. You are so patient and so understanding,
(07:48):
and you take the time to over explain if you
need to in a way that's not condescending or rude
and things like that.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Girl, I don't have the patience.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
And I know people like people are like, well, when
it's with it, when it's your child, you will be patient.
And I what I'm saying is that I don't ever
want to find out. I don't give a dam That's
what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that I'm not
interested in being patient with somebody who I told three
times to stop climbing on the damn stone.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Gets off my stone a little bit.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
You just got now but now, but now when you
got when you got, this whole arm is covered in burns.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I got to explain to child Services why I told
you three times not to get up there, but you
climbed up there anyway. So I'm a bad parent because
I couldn't stop a child who's just curious and wanted
to understand.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
How do you know what I'm saying? Like I think
you have girl, you got that Dawn pack.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
I have watched you in situations you just full of
empathy but still knowing knowing how to communicate. Here's a boundary,
you know what I'm saying like this, professionally, respectfully, friendship wise,
this is a boundary that I would like for you
to respect. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Me personally, I have a little more work to do,
(09:02):
so I.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Think I think I'm going to just when I got
something to say, I'm just gonna call you. I'm down,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Me and Jelin have figured out our strips, weakness out
a weaknesses over this year.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Are we a year and a half yet of friendship?
But I don't know, but a little over year now? Yeah, No,
we're almost.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
We're almost a two years because we met the December,
the December before the podcast. The podcast is a year all,
so that was six months. We're almost at two years.
Oh my god, time flies when you're having fun. So
y'all saying I know, and y'all wouldn't believe. Y'all just
don't believe that we haven't been friends forever, which is
a good thing though, but we we only been friends
for a little like two years now. So it's like
(09:47):
a lot of things you learn in friendship, but the
most beautiful thing. And I want to say this to
women who are of age who are kind of struggling
and like I don't have no friends, or you won't
have your childhood friends. And you you know what I'm saying.
You can genuinely make friends in your thirties.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Okay, I know sound crazy.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
I know it's like, how am I gonna do that?
I know you feel like that, but don't and it
could be different. I promise you can't compare it to
your twenties friendship, even your teen's friendship, because something about
making friends in your thirties. You know both of y'all bits,
You know, both of y'all got things to do. So
nothing is personal and personal?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Personal? Am I saying? Everybody? Yeah? Personal?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You don't like a word, Well, if you don't say,
if you say, don't take something personal, leave, Oh that's okay, that's.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
An adverb, but you but you're saying it right the
first time.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
I'm saying nothing, and that's correct as well period, So
nothing is a personal you know, people are busy. You
understand how to like have real conversations. Y'all can agree
to disagree, and it's not this big old thing. When
you get in your thirties, you don't have time for foolishness.
So the people you yet let in your life are
supposed to be there.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
You get it.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
And if they ain't, you cool with letting it go
to you cool off that too. And it's no bad blood.
It is so much fun, making fun, making friends in
your third I'm dead, sir, absolutely here. And that's what's
so crazy is that we have another segment talking about,
you know, like what's like if having to outgrow a bestie?
And so I think this is this is right on
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point because over the years, you know, you'll you'll see
that everybody's just not a lie. And it's such a
it's a painful experience when somebody has been your your girl,
your your homeboy or whatever. Y'all been this and that
forever and ever and ever, and sometimes you just have
to let them go.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
And what the crazy thing is this all is coming
full circle right now.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
The crazy thing is not only have I made friends
in my thirties, I realized my mama is my best friend.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
When I tell you if I'm.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Looking for like, because I don't have a whole lot
of women friends. But it's not like I have like
a slew of guy friends either. As far as people
that are close to me that know my personal business,
it's like a handful of y'all and you've met them all,
you know what I'm saying. So it's not like I have,
you know, an entourage of people. I'm close to a
select few, and I think that the older you get,
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that's the best way to go about it, because I like,
people aren't always genuine and I think that it's and
it could be me not not trusting too much. I
know that I'm you know, I don't trust people a lot,
and so I don't want seven close friends or no
or you know, ten bridesmaids at my wedding and stuff
like that. I feel like that's too much opportunity for
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my business to be getting passed around. And I can't
monitor my friendships the way I would like to. It's
not that I want to control anything, but I don't
have the I don't have the capacity to be best
friends with.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Nine people like, how are how? Is everybody the best? How?
And you know they talking about each other behind their backs.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
And I have seen this, Like I have seen people
be friends with that many people, and you can always
tell who's closer than you know what I mean. You
can tell the one that's still just kind of hanging
in there but really ain't really feeling it. You can
tell the ones that's super close to hang out all
the time. So it's like, it's no way to equally
share that responsibility with nine or ten people and be like, oh,
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I love everybody likes it's gonna be something. But what
I will say is that I am just a little vulnerability.
I am actively going through this right now, and it's hard,
you know. And it's not like we had any type
of falling out. It's not like anything bad happened. It's
just I am in a completely different space right now
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and they are in a completely different space right now,
and we cannot get together or hang out, or the
way that we used to hang out is not really
a way that I want to.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Like, I'm not into a bunch of dramas.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
I'm not into you telling me what this person said
about me, especially if I'm not even around. It's weird,
you know what I'm saying. So it's like I think
back then it was fun. That was a good time
to me, you know, Like, but now I love making content.
I'm on social media. They not really into social media
or any of that. So it's like having a friend
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like you that I could talk about social media and
content with who gets it.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Like I can talk about the algorithm with and they
not like algorithm. What's the algorithm? I don't really understand. Yeah,
Like you're not watching Violant.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Like I just you know, it's I'm in such a
different space that it wasn't that we had a fallen
out or anything. We genuinely have just grown apart. And
it is a challenge to let go or even come
to terms where you feel like this no longer is
serving me in this season of my life and I
have to walk away from it, and it's really sad.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
It's sad.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Yeah, I mean I totally agree, one hundred percent. But
the goal is, you know, you want to be aligned
and everything. I need my fitness goals to be aligned.
I need my friendships to be aligned. I need my relationships,
business partnerships, I need everything to be aligned. And again,
I hate to make it sound like so so doomsday type,
but the older you get, the less time you have.
(14:55):
Life is short. It's a cliche, but life is short.
You could walk outside, get here by bus, and you
are gone. And you have spent the last twenty thirty
forty years nitpicking, arguing with people, not seeing the world,
not making no money, bending over backwards for people who
really don't care about your well being, and being inconvenienced
that every turn because you don't have any boundaries, and
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so like, I think it's just important to girl the
way that just came up out of me. I'm sorry, try, friend,
you got to send me a signal. Friend, you gotta
tell me when it's time.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
But it got word.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
That just wrap it all up. Yeah, every everything you
do got to be a line.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
And it do hurt, It hurt. But you know, like
at the end of the day, I think it's so
hard for people to understand, Uh, we didn't end on
bad terms. People don't understand that it's always with.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
What they do.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Well, what you what you did, And I'm like, it's
not even like that.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Yeah, don't trying to make up nothing.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Just tell people that it's just we just not the
same and I'm just in a different It's okay for
me and you to be in a different place. This
is not our season to even you know, try to
explore anything. And I mean that with family members, relationships, friendships,
situationships like all of that, there is a time and
a place for it. And you're gonna realize one day,
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like I am tired of this, especially like situlationships, You're
gonna wake up one day and not be okay with
the fact that you let somebody play with you like
that for that long m You know, I'm saying, continuously
letting somebody in your space, in your body, be getting
all the benefits of an actual relationship, but never committing
to you, you gonna.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Wake up one day and be sick of that, you know.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
So like over time, you just outgrow things, and I
think you just gotta know when to let go and
not feel like it gotta be this big beef, this
big argument. It don't gotta be all of that. It's
just like, I don't want this around me, and that's okay.
It's okay for me not to want to be involved
with that anymore.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Girl. You know that again? A thousand percent agree.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
This is when I knew like it helps me a
lot to have you as a friend because in addition
to talking about certain things that you know, other people
don't really relate to with social media. Like I just
remember when you was here and we was hanging out
in Atlanta and I.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Was like, we was at but we always cutting up.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
No, we were saying McK and I was like, oh,
there's a speak easy back here, we can go back here.
We sat in there for two minutes. I grabbed my
phone because I felt the energy. Girl, I'd be feeling energy.
I said, but we can't go go go to sleep though,
you know, like if you're ready to demp we can,
God said, and I girl, okay, And we scut down
(17:43):
and we got up out of there, And I love
I loved that about you because one thing about us,
like our turn up is not like all night.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Now. Now we might get drunk.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
We might get drunk in a in a condo, in
a ruble now we might be there, but we're not
going to be still in the condo.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
But I like safe fun.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
I don't mind having a good time, but I need
to be aware of my surroundings. I need to know
that I can trust who's around me, and a lot
of times you can't, which is why I don't be
having a whole bunch of friends, which is why you
don't see me out drinking a whole bunch with a
bunch of different people, because I.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Don't know these snickers. I don't know them, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
And so you have to just be responsible with yourself,
with your time and with your space.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
That that has everything to do with cutting off people
and outgrowing besties and things like that.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Outgrowing things in general.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Girl, was a time where I could, you know, every week,
I could probably let y'all walls go get drunk.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Yeah, let's go get drunk. We're gona stay out till
three am. No more. I'm sitting here doing this podcast
in my back hurt.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Okay, right, not to mention it literally takes me seven
to ten business days to get me back out related
Like Lord, I cannot bounce back from looking no more, girl,
I can't.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
I can't. That's why I give me a little with
Sabvion Blanc. I can't. No More's I get the wine.
I'm asleep. That's it.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Okay, whatever, that tequila be on my ass when I
say I because I have, you know, different reasons why
if I'm if it's the beginning of the night and
we're out, if it's like seven o'clock, I'm gonna have
tequila because I know that that'll keep me up, that'll
keep me lively. But untie's tired and want to go
to bed. If you see I'm telling you now, if
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you see me order Kendle Jackson sharone, you need to
snatch me up out of there, because I'm two seconds
away from finding a pillow and a blanket and nodding off.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
You need to take no wine, no hold on. Two things.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I want to say. I'm gonna stay five track, but
I got something else to say. Two things, girl, I
still been looking for that Savion Blanc we had when
we went to Cleveland, the Wretch, the Wrint.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Yeah, I'm still looking it was. You gotta go back
to the Wrints period because we can do that too.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Because they ain't grabb don't want to sell it to
us at the corner liquor store.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
We've got to go back to the rents. Girl. I
love that wine. That one was so good.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
But The second thing is get you a friend or
a best friend that can help you fix your nervous system.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
Y'all have no.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Clue your nervous system if you can get you a friend.
I told this to Jerline. I said, girl, I think
you just fixed my nervous system.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
I was going through so much. I went around her.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
We had such a good time. We went to the
Botanical guards a lot. It was beautiful, like just being
in nature, like Ryan is scooters. The thing about it,
if you tell your friend you going through something and
she knows exactly how to heal you, then that's the
person you need to be around, Like, that's the one,
like you know, like I don't. I just don't see
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the point of having friends and they can't contribute anything,
especially if you are able to contribute back to them.
It's like, why is your friendship so one dimensional? And
y'all see that problem with that. That's what I mean
when I mean aligned, Like you have to be in
community with people who are interested in.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Giving the same things that they're taking from.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
You, because people will people will be like all your
nervous system tore up today.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Okay, I hold that thought.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I'm gonna mess it up some more because now I
want you know, because oh you got this going on,
everything needs to be about me, you know, like I said,
want you to do that that's going on with them? Yeah,
like you don't have a time, and you're gonna take
the attention.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
You're doing something, you're you're.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
Having a great day, you know, give me time to
be in my funk and even girl, even.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
Something the stuff that I was going through when you
was here. I was like, yeah, well I don't care.
We're gonna enjoy our time. You know, like we don't.
We don't crash my boy bank shop birthday party. We
don't did the belt line.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
We did the belt guardens, We went to the Brave Stadium,
walked around the Battery, and so.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
We really did. We had we did.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
We had a glass And I think that it matters
how you spend your time with people because we didn't
have to get tore up drunk, We wasn't being indecent
or getting arrested fighting. It wasn't messy with nobody arguing
like it was just a really good time. And that's
what I mean when I say a line like be
with people who if even nothing, if nothing is even
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going on you're still having a good time because we
could have just stayed at the hotel or just sat
around and did nothing, and I'm sure that would have
been fine, too.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Agreed.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
I won't agree, but yeah, I know we went on
a whole spilled Okay, get that jealous spirit of off
your friend. Look, you get you up, Carolyn, and you'll
be okay, okay, okay. But it is a beautiful thing,
you know, And I think that, like we said, life
(22:52):
is too short to spend it any other way but happy.
So get your so around yourself for some people that
make you feel good and regulate your nervous system around
yourself with people that you you know, that bring the
best in you and make you a better person and
hopefully help you make it to heaven. Because I'm sorry,
I had to say. I had to say, girl. They said,
(23:13):
Donald Trump trying to figure out how he can make
it to the Pearly Gates. That's what he said. We
have a we have a c I'm such a good time.
I'm sorry, good time. I'm sorry I had to derail
it because we had to get this in. They said,
he wanted to know he done called in to Fox
and Friends. Uh, this past week and basically said that
he's trying to end the war in Ukraine because he's
(23:34):
trying to figure out how he can make it back
to heaven. Told them folk that he don't think he
high up on the totem pole and he got to
fix it. So let's they they let's okay, we gonna
see what.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
We haven't heard enough of what he said. We got
tapped out. Yeah, let's hear someone. Let's see what he says.
Seven thousand people a week from being killed.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
I think that I want to try and get to
Heaven if possible.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I'm hearing. I'm not doing well this guy.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
I there's a question on here that says one or
three things that Trump can do to get into heaven.
And I want you to know right now if you don't,
if you're of the Christian faith that believes in heaven
and Hell and God, the Father, God, the Son, Jesus,
and the Holy Spirit, then I can tell you right
now that man won't make it because you cannot say
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you believe in the God of the Christian faith and
you persecute and attack and discriminate against people that don't
look like you. Black and brown people are literally suffering.
I scott folks getting snatched off the streets, tearing up
their families. The National Guard was in DC and they
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were ripping homeless people out of your tent, the people
who already don't have anything, or they came there with
the garbage people and they were taking their tests and
throwing them in the trash with their belonging, ripping them
out of their homeble.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
How in the world can you target a.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
Community that's already going through what they're going through that just.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
That right there alone. But it's so much more damage
that you have done.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
And I think you believe the number, the number of
people will slide you up to the top if you
get rid of this war.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
But I'm here to tell you today there is nothing, nothing, nothing,
I mean that you can do.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Okay, being subject to holiday Okay, heaven, I promise you that.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Right look, right.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Now, you can say your breath right now, right now,
you can save your breath because we don't want to
hear it. I think when you it's not a balancing act.
You don't do enough good to outweigh the bad when
it comes to this. I'm just I'm talking based on
what this man has said. They say they're Christians, right,
and y'all believe that the only way through heaven through
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the sun. Right, that's the only way you can get
through the Father.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Right. Okay, Well, Jesus was an immigrant. Speak.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Jesus was a friend to the homeless. Hello, Jesus had
empathy for sinners. Okay, So you I fear good clown
man that you'll never see.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
You'll never see the gates of heaven.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
You You and Tyler Perry for what he been doing
to black women in all these places and movies.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
Trays is crazy, try all of it. And you know,
obviously people are not perfect.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
But yeah, I don't even know why this was.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
The same thing. Yeah I can't. People are not perfect,
but there are people like him who just don't get
a past. For me.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Now, you belong in that circle of people not perfect.
Like he's literally evil. He has literally set out to
demolish and destroy those type of people, people who already
have the mentality that everybody is beneath them and they
can do no wrong.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
I don't want nothing to do with that.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I genuinely and strongly, I don't even know if I
can say this ooo, But if you can't leave it
in there. I strongly dislike him, strongly like, I just
don't Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I just don't
have any respect for someone who just lies the way
that he does. He lies so much that somebody can say, literally,
the sky is blue, and he will tell you not
(27:27):
really as purple. You just can't see it yet. But
I have concepts of a purple sky coming soon, and
people will.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Be like, you know what, you are so right.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
Like he's the only one who has access to the
proof of the purple sky. He's not ready to release
the chet. It's not above it's above our pay grade.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
That we don't have clearance for that yet. That's that means.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
So while y'all are lollygaggon and looking at blue skies,
we're onto something bigger and better and not girl.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
This is how he has gotten people to vote against
their own interest.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
This is how he has gotten the American people divided
by making them think that they have nothing in common
with the immigrant next door, or the trans person next door,
or the black or brown person next door, making them
think that we are so different when you actually have
more in common with that trans neighbor or that black neighbor.
You have way more in common with them than a billionaire.
But you'll never see some of us will never see
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a million dollars. Most of us will never see a hundred.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Thousand I received that I received, We see a meal.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
But people, people don't be leaving their hometowns. People don't
be educated, people don't have any ambition, And it's not
sometimes it's not Sometimes it's not their fault. Sometimes people
literally are in areas where there's limited access to to
if they don't even know how to think that there
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can be they don't even know how to think that
there's more than what they're dealing with right now, and
so that that that's it's a it's an unfortunate situation.
But he's he looked at them people and he said,
this will we gonna do? And it keeps getting worse
prayed on them, And that's so sad because they don't
see how they've been brainwashed. The worst thing about being
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brainwashed is that you don't even know that it's happening.
It's like it's gradually happening, and you see somebody in power,
and because you start to idolize them more than you
idolize yourself, God, anything else. And you want the things
that they are able to do, the things they are
able to say, how they walk around the world with
no care. You want to exude that same power in
your life, and you don't have it, so you admire
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those who do, and then you find yourself following behind
somebody who you think, okay, well, this group of people
will be in jeopardy, not realizing that it's actually a
domino effect, and you will be affected soon. I don't
care what nobody say, even in due time. I know
that he's trying to protect the billionaires, but in due time,
they too will.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Be affected by all of the decisions that he makes.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
Like, even if it is in their favor now, the
way that the world is going, we all gonna be affected.
You can't affect a large group of people like this
and think that we just gonna lay down and take
it like. This is not a dictatorship, this is not
a third world country. This is not that people are
extremely independent here. And eventually, you know, some people are
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standing up. But there will come a time where we're
all gonna have to come together and we're gonna see
exactly what that looks like. Because I'm willing to go
to war about it, for sure. I just I just
love how people are finally standing up because for months
we've seen people just roll over and been so so
complace that. Okay, okay, okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
I know, I know, I'm sorry. I'm back because this
is what I mean when I say Tyler Perry won't
see Heaven.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Why would you make Janna Jackson say that to Martin
Hardrick of all people, ghosts, James Saint Patrick James, Why
would you make Jane and Jackson tell him that?
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (31:03):
This is what I mean when I say we have
got to have more empathy. Though, these the people in
power are literally bullying everybody who don't have enough money
to fight back. And shout out to Gavin Newsoen in
California who is basically outright loudly defying what they're trying
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to do in Texas with the Jerry Mandarin redistricting so
they can have more seats to basically hold that Republican
influence for another thirty forty years or what have you.
It's sickening, it's disgusting, and I'm so proud of the
people that do use their voice. Gotta we gotta stand
up and fight this, y'all like there is not enough, There's.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Not enough of them.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
You can literally look at the percentage of billionaires, the
percentage of wealthy, the percentage of lawmakers. They don't outnumber us,
they don't outnumber us. But you know, but you know,
but you know who does outnumber who?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
A white man committing crimes in this country? What they
want to now, I just want you all to know.
Speaker 2 (32:08):
I just want you all to know that the statistics
are extremely skewed.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Black people, people of color are over policed.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
And that's why this whole black on black crime thing was,
it has been a thing. It's a lie. But I'm
saying this because I want people to know that these
people are playing with the information that they're giving us.
They're literally trying to rewrite history, disbanding the Department of Education.
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You're talking about what we can and can't mention when
we're discussing slavery in museums. Maybe if we probably wouldn't,
it would be a horror show.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
It would be a horror show.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
So I'm like, long story short, if Heaven had a cookout,
you wouldn't be invited.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
At all at all. And y'all stop inviting people to
the cookout. That's enough.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
You're pissing me off too, Like everybody who is of enough,
you want to say what I'm saying. Every time they
use a little slam okay, put a little dude rag on. Okay,
get on the camera and talk they you basic basic
human decency. That'd be my favorite one. They'd be like, oh,
they're not racist. They invited to the cookout, ma'am.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
That's not how that works. That's not how that works
at all. I strongly dislike it. I want to eat them.
I don't even be hungry.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
After I started inviting the wrong people to the cookout,
I'd be like, you know what, I think, I'm gonna
run up the street to the Popeyes, give me a
three piece of a biscuit on head onto the house extra, honey,
please not talk on this biscuit, all right, Love's pride
or something. But you know, hopefully, you know, I think
everybody has their own relationship with God, depending on their religion.
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You know, I want him to work this out himself.
I personally, I hope that I go in therapy. I
hope right, you're worried about having you need to be
you want to see that got you.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
It's a mental condition. You gotta address that first.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
Before you can talk about Oh, I'm trying to go
to heaven and I'm gonna do this like no, like
work on your mental hope because the way you think
it ain't right. So you need to go talk to
the lady and a psychiatrist, not a therapist, just someone
to prescribe you something, okay, because it looks it do
look kind of crazy.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
I think that is. So I'm glad you made.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
That distinction because people will sit up in these sessions
and just talk and talk and talk and they ain't
got no will that all are dealing with chemical imbalances.
But you know, hopefully I hope I go to heaven too,
and when I get there, I pray to God I
don't I don't see that man. So friend, I hated
to do this, but we actually do have to wrap up.
(34:46):
You know, I prefer seeing your face in person, but
you know we'd be backing action that.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
Time we show me back.
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All right, y'all, Well, look, make sure you tune in
every Thursday. Okay, you're gonna get all the visuals on YouTube.
You gotta make sure you like, comment and subscribe and
hit that notification bills that you know every time we upload.
If you're more of an audio person, you can listen
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