My Thoughts on the Diddy Trial: Separating Kink from Abuse

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June 5, 2025 • 31 mins

What happens when the headlines stop and the real healing begins? In this episode, I'm sharing my thoughts on the Sean Diddy Combs trial, focusing specifically on Cassie's testimony and what it reveals about consent, control, and the difference between kink and abuse.

I walk through the sexual aspects of the case first, explaining terms like cuckolding and urophilia to help normalize consensual adult activities that might sound foreign to mainstream audiences. Then I dive into the abuse allegations, breaking down why Cassie likely stayed in the relationship and how predatory behavior often starts with grooming. I also discuss the importance of checking in with yourself if this case is triggering unresolved trauma, and I share resources for healing including trauma-informed coaches, therapists who specialize in complex PTSD, and practitioners who work with somatic release. Throughout the episode, I emphasize that celebrity status doesn't put anyone above the law and explore the broader questions this case raises about how we value women and treat abuse victims.

If you've been following this case or if any of the testimony is bringing up difficult emotions for you, this episode offers both perspective and practical support. I'm here to help you process what you're feeling and find the resources you need to heal.

If you need help, contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or visit RAINN.org.

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

TOPICS DISCUSSED:

Trauma response and healing resources for those triggered by the case
Different types of therapeutic approaches (EMDR, somatic release, EFT, hypnotherapy)
Normalizing consensual adult sexual practices and kink community standards
The importance of informed consent in sexual relationships
Grooming behavior and predatory patterns in relationships
Age gaps and power dynamics in relationships
The mindset of abuse victims and why they stay
Comparing abusive relationships to trafficking situations
The cycle of abuse and normalization of violence
Parenting perspectives on protecting daughters while harming other women

BEST MOMENTS:

"Healing is not a one time deal. Sometimes it's one of those things where there are layers to it. You heal one layer and you're like, I thought I was done with that. But then another layer comes up."

"What somebody does in their bedroom, as long as it is consensual and it is happening between two consenting adults, that is what makes the difference."

"Once you've been stripped of your self esteem, your self worth, and you're constantly living under duress, the survival mind kicks in."

"Celebrity does not equal above the law. Even though it seems like it does not equal that."

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