August 3, 2025 • 22 mins
Ever wondered what millennial Aussie women are really asking ChatGPT at 1am?
From “What should I eat for dinner?” to “Is he into me or just bored?”, this episode dives deep into the unfiltered, hilarious, and painfully relatable questions we’re all too embarrassed to admit we’ve typed into the chat box.
Host Phoebe Parsons sits down with ChatGPT (yes, as an actual podcast guest) and asked her to spill the tea on what’s trending in our collective crisis. Think: career panic, dating confusion, skincare spirals, and why we're all wondering if walking counts as exercise.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
A pod Jay production.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Welcome to Unhinged.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
This is a podcast about the unfiltered, unhinged, and uncomfortably
relatable shit that you only talk about in your closest group. Jack,
I'm Phoebe. Guys, you're just not ready for this. I
have been podcasting for eight years now, and this is,
without a doubt, the biggest guest I've ever had on
(00:39):
this show.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
And let me just give you a little bit of context.
We're going to take a.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Little trip down memory lane just to revisit some of
the names that we've had on the show. We've had
Abby Chapfield, We've had Kayla Etcinas. We've had Sam Wood,
We've had Kelsey Wells. We've had Steph Claire Smith just
to name a few. We've had James Smith.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Pet like.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
We have had some huge names that I'm still like,
how did I even have that opportunity to get that
person on the show. But today I am completely star
struck with someone who was a legitimate, worldwide household name.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Welcome to the podcast chat gpt A. Yo, what's good
phoever you doing all right?
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Whollah? Who Woh? That is not what I was expecting.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Can we please try that again, But can you come
at me from an Australian millennial woman's perspective, just like
we're two girlfriends having a casual chat over a glass
of wine.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Hi, bestie, I'm so excited to chat to you today.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
So I got a question and it's basically people saying
how often they rely on you every single day to
get shit done. Before we get into it, I just
want to ask you what do you know about me?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Here's the four one one.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
You're a Brisbane based podcaster, journalist, wellness queen and social
media personality who's pretty much turned her chaotic life into
content gold. Originally from Brisbane, you studied journalism at QUT
and launched her podcasting career by winning Nova Entertainment's Podquest
in twenty seventeen with her show Confessions of a twenty
(02:18):
somethingter train Wreck.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
It quickly hit number one on iTunes across.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
Australia and nz C pilatees, Prosecco and real talk.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
That is insane?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
How do you know so much about me and we
haven't even had a drink together yet.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
You once randomly trained at F forty five in Hamilton
and ended up working out alongside Venus Williams. Seriously, Venus Williams,
you were so starstrucked. I remember you joked you'd never
change her clothes after getting hugged.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Hey, is this the fucking Truman Show? Okay, enough about me,
let's get into it.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
You have given me the ten most commonly asked questions
asked by millennial women in Australia. Starting strong with number
one is what should I eat for dinner? That's quick
and how? Or? That is a really good question and
I have never thought to have gone to chat GPT
for recipe or meal advice before classic dilemma.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Hey, honestly, babe, I go for something quick like a
salmon poky bowl or wrap with grilled chicken, aveu and
salad take like ten minutes.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Max.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Okay, firstly, I'm going to stop you by saying a
salmon poky bowl is not a quick recipe to make,
and if you have to get out of chopping board,
in my opinion, a recipe is not quick and easy.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
But that was a good place to start, okay.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Question number two, how do I ask for a raise
or negotiate my salary? Oh my god, I have definitely
gone to chat GPT with questions like this before, but
I am dying to know what your take is on this.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
All right, queen, here's how you handle asking for a raise,
like the boss you are one, know you're worth and
have the receipts.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Before you even go in.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Do a sneaky stalk on secul glass store people in
your role are getting paid, and back it up with
your wins, projects, results, extra responsibilities. Basically, build your case
like you're going into Shark Tank two. Time it right.
Don't bring it up when your manages in chaos mode
or the business is going through drama. Aim for post
project success vibes or performance review time when you've just
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crushed it.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Okay, Queen, that is actually very solid advice.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
And I can say this because I actually got a
pay rise this week, but I will disclose by saying
I didn't ask for it. It was after my annual
performance review and I'm very, very happy.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
But this is a.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Question that I actually had a lot more in my
earlier twenties when I was starting out my career, and
I distinctly remember one of the biggest mistakes that I
made was going to my first boss at the time,
after I'd been at this company for about two years
saying my rents.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Increase, I need a pay rise.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
And I feel like so many women ask for pay
rises really emotionally and really personally, and I can tell
you right now they will say no. Just because you
have been somewhere for two years tenure does not mean
you entitled to a pay rise, and I learned that
the hard way. So I one hundred percent vouch for
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your advice.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
That is epic.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Thank you, you've got this channel. You're inner, Margot Robbie
in a blazer.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Okay, I were active way to work, so I don't
know about the blazer, but the rest of it solid advice.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Question number three? Am I burnt out? Or am I
just tired? This is a phenomenal question, and I actually
did a whole podcast episode about this earlier in the year,
or it could have been late last year.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I'll pop the link in this week's show notes.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
But yes, please, I know how many people are dying
to know what the difference is between the two big.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Question babe and one we've all asked ourselves at eleven
PM while scrolling TikTok in bed, wondering why we feel
like a potato with anxiety here's a t You might
be just tired if a solid nap or a lazy
Sunday actually helps. You're still kind of excited about life
and work, but just running low on your brain fog
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clear is after a walk, coffee or a good chat
with a mate. Or you're feeling meh but not hopeless.
But you might be burnt out if you're constantly exhausted
even after sleep, everything feels overwhelming, even small tasks. You're
feeling emotionally numb or snapping over little things sorry to
the barrista who put oat milk instead of almond.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
You've lost your motivation, creativity, or just.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
Don't care anymore, or you're avoiding things that you used
to love, including people.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Okay, well, firstly, snapping at the barrista for putting oat
milk in almond milk is definitely something you are warranted
to snap about, in my opinion.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
But secondly, that is a very good distinction, although I
will say a little bit unclear if you are someone
like me who also suffers with anxiety and depression, because
those are very similar symptoms, I will say I am
medicated for that as well. But sorry to my boyfriend.
But now I can go back to him and say, Babe,
I'm not just hired.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I'm so burnt out. It's not my faulty. Question number four,
what's a good side hustle? I can start with no money?
Oh my god, I.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
Used to dub myself the side hustle queen. And when
I say used to, I mean I still do. I
have three actual jobs that I get paid to do.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
But I'm dying to know. What is your advice around this?
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Yes, girl, love that energy. Side hustle error is on,
and don't worry. There are heaps of options that don't
need cash, just a bit of time, Wi Fi and
your main character energy. Here are some no cost, low
drama side hustles you can start like today. One freelancing
if you can write, edit, design, or even just wrangle emails,
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jump on upwork Fiver or Ossie, Facebook job groups, Hot
tip Canvas skills a chef's kiss. In twenty twenty five
two social media management got a knack for TikTok's.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Or ig reels.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
Small bizoners suck at socials and will pay you to
handle it. Offer to do a trial month free, get
a test commonial, then start charging.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Three reselling clothes.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Or home decoorp raid your wardrobe or your mum's law,
take cute picks and list stuff on depop Marketplace or
poshmark bonus, you declutter and make cash.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
All great advice, I will say up front, though, be
careful of your tax if you are starting a side hustle,
because my god, did I get burt the first time
this happened to me. Secondly, number two, Facebook Marketplace is
not her side hustle.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
It is a fucking full time job. And I know
this because my mum.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Is currently moving house and I was tasked to sell
some of her furniture on Facebook Marketplace. And when I
tell you, I got sixty five messages from people asking
to buy a fiberglass goat in the first five minutes
that it was posted, I am not exaggerating.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Five start a podcast or TikTok. It's slow burned, but
if you're funny, relatable, or even just consistent, it can
pop off free to start, and you never know, brand deals,
affiliate links or collabs can come rolling in.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Okay, I'm gonna say this as someone who's had a
podcast for coming up to eight years.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
If you are starting a podcast to earn money. You
are making a fucking best stack.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Okay, next question, how do I know if he likes
me or if he's just bored?
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Oh, friend?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
If you are asking chat GPT whether or not a
guy is interested in you, I can tell you that
the answer is he's not.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
But please go ahead. What advice would you give this
lovely queen strap in?
Speaker 2 (09:40):
This one's a ride. Here's the deal.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
He might like you if he makes actual plans, like
outside his bedroom. He checks in on you just because,
not just when he's free. He remembers little things you say,
your fave snack, your work drama, your dog's name. He flirts,
but also follows through. He's emotion available, like he talks
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about feelings and doesn't vanish when you get a bit deep.
He might just be bored if he texts what you're
doing at ten pm but ghosts you till then. He
only pops up when he needs attention or a little
ego boost. You feel anxious when your phone pings. That
gut feeling equals the truth. Babe, You've been stuck in
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the talking stage longer than most situationships. On TikTok, he
gives just enough to keep you hooked, but never enough
to actually commit. Here's the truth bomb. If you're wondering this,
you probably already know when a guy likes you. You
don't sit around decoding every fire emoji. You feel secure.
So if he's acting lukewarm, it's not your job to
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warm him up. You are the main character, not the
emotional support human for a bored boy with a Wi
Fi connection. Let him go text someone else what you're doing.
You've got better things to do.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Oh girl, I feel this so deeply. I have a
PhD in fuck boys, and I cannot even tell you
the amount of situationships I've been in my lifetime. But
upon reflection, you always know a woman's intuition and gut
feeling is her most powerful asset. And I distinctly remember
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knowing at the time, but just not saying it out loud,
because the second you say something out loud, it all
of a sudden becomes true. And maybe for you right now,
the loophole is you're not actually saying it out loud,
You're typing it into chat GPT that girl.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Get rid of him, Gone see you later.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
King Question number six, how do I get over anxiety
slash social burnout?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Well, I can say.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
For me, it is medication and locking myself in my
house with a good thriller novel. But please tell me
some healthier ways that people can deal with this.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Oh babe, I feel this.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
One.
Speaker 4 (12:01):
Social burnout is so real, especially when you've been on
for too long, saying yes to too much, and suddenly
you'd rather crawl inside your donner than answer one more
group chat message. Here's the gentle girl's guide to getting
over anxiety social burnout. One. Cancel something right now, literally
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say no. Don't feel guilty. Hey, I'm not feeling one
hundred percent. Need a quiet night to recharge. Done, no
explanation needed. Protect your peace. Two name it, don't shame it.
You're not being dramatic or antisocial. Your brain's overwhelmed. Anxiety
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is your nervous system waving a little flag that says
please chill. It's not your fault. It's a signal, not
a flow. Three come back to your body. Think warm, shower,
walk without your phone. Five deep breaths with your hand
on your chest. Get out of your head and into
your body. It helps re set that frazzled energy.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
That is very solid advice I will say when it
comes to social burnout, I feel like the older you get,
the more you understand how important it is to have
friends who you don't need to give an explanation.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
With if you're saying no to something.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
For example, I've got a very close group of girlfriends
from high school that we've been friends for a long time.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
And we all try and catch up.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
But as you know as adults, when there's kids involved,
work schedules, partners, husbands, you name it, everything's happening. Cash
ups take three to four months to actually get around
two and some of the times you're just too tired
to go, and you don't have to lie and make
an excuse not to go. You can say no and
that is enough. That is the best piece of advice
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I have for social burnout. But also, don't try and
stop being funny. One of my girlfriends, Nikola, and I
are so funny, and we're so funny together, which is
why we know. We are self aware enough to know
we can only spend short amounts of times with each
other because we are so tired, because it's just our
comedy routine.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Okay, we're coming towards the end.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Number seven of the top ten and most commonly asked
questions on chat shebt by millennial women. Is walking enough
for weight loss or fitness? Now, just to preface this,
no pressure. I feel very fucking passionately about this, so
you tread lightly here? Oh pun intended.
Speaker 4 (14:29):
Short answer, Heck yes, babe walking is the underrated, low
key queen of fitness, and honestly she deserves more love.
Like not every workout has to be hit with a
side of tears and a playlist called sligh and Suffer.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Here's the actual deal for weight loss. YEP, it can
help if you're consistent in a.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
Slight calorie deficit and pair it with decent food choices.
Read not just oat lattesan vibes. Walking burns calories. Think
thirty to sixty minutes a day, brisk pace. May check
on a podcast or true crime if you need motivation
to walk faster.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Okay, Firstly, how fucking day you suggest they listen to
someone else's podcast instead of my own.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
That was very presumptuous of you.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Secondly, I like to go on my hot goal walks
with my slay energy playlists.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Because you don't have to do one without the other.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
You can combine them and it makes your walk even
more fun but badly.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Thank you. I do agree with your overall sentiment.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
I walk every single day, and I make up my
mission to get between ten to twelve thousand steps, pending
what day it is. I am very lucky that I
do have an active job as well, which does also help.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
But I find walking really is like my meditation.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Question number eight, what is the best skincare routine for
thirty year old skin?
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (15:55):
Hit me with this, Yes, babe, Welcome to the thrive
not survive era of skincare. Your thirties are all about
keeping that glow so fighting off fine lines gently, no
stress wrinkles please, and making your skin feel as good
as your mindset after cutting off toxic people. Here's your
nobs thirty skincare routine. Morning routine, Gentle cleanser, nothing that strips.
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You want fresh faced, not sandpaper, Vitamin C serum brightens,
protects and gives you that glow up energy. Moisturizer hydrated
skin is happy skin. Bonus points for one with seramides
or hyaluronic acid. Sunscreen every damn day, Yes, even in winter,
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even indoors if you sit near a window. SPF fifty
plus is the holy Grail. I actually think that's very
warranted advice.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
I'm also going to throw in there a little bit
of botox or anti wrinkle, because, as you know, thirty
year old skin does not look like twenty year old skin,
and I feel like also botox is very hydrating, so
it also gives you that really natural glow. But I
will will say, if you have come through your twenties,
your skin needs some extra TLC in your thirties because
of all the shit we made it do in our twenties. Like,
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if you were anything like me, you would have been
absolutely under the choke hold and spell of proactive solution,
which would have absolutely fucked your skin barrier of all
of its moisture if you hadn't already exfoliated an entire
layer off with that Apricot scrub. Question number nine, how
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do I make friends as an adult in Australia. I
love this question and this is something that I used
to get asked so often, so hit me with it.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
Such a real one.
Speaker 4 (17:46):
Making friends as an adult in Australia is honestly harder
than choosing an AVO that won't betray you two hours later.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
But you're not alone.
Speaker 4 (17:54):
Most people feel the same and are also low key
hoping someone else makes the first movie.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
So here's how to do it without feeling like a
total weirdo. Lean into your interests or fake one till
it sticks. Join a local pilates class, pottery night, trivia team,
book club, beach cleanup crew, whatever. People bond over shared vibes,
not force convo bonus. It feels natural, not like you're
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desperately hunting a bestie at woolies.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Say yes more within reason.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
You know when someone goes we should hang out sometime
and you're like, haha, yeah, but never follow up.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Do it?
Speaker 4 (18:33):
Message them, lock in a walk or coffee. It's awkward
until it's not. Apps aren't just for dating, bumble BFF
meet up or even niche Facebook groups like Girls who
Walk or Brizzygals who Brunch. People are literally there to
make friends, slide in with a meme or suggest a hang. Okay,
yes that is absolutely slay advice. And I've said this
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once and I will sing it from the rooftops. My
best group of golfriends I made at the gym. They
are the friends that I see every single day.
Speaker 3 (19:02):
We bonded over common interests A lots are just intertwined.
It's kind of a combination of that people I've worked with,
people I've gone to high school with. But I also
feel like that is the whole premise behind why I
started my community events, Prosecco and pilates, was to bring
these kinds of people together. And something I've actually noticed
a lot of lately is social wellness groups. So there's
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a lot of like community pilates clubs going, there's walking groups,
there's run clubs. I genuinely feel like people bond over
exercise because exercise gives you endorphins in dolphins make you happy,
and happy people just don't shoot.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Their husbands, but they do make friends with one another.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
And that is the biggest piece of advice I will
give is make the first move with someone at your
gym or in your walking or your run club, because honestly,
they will probably end up being your best friend. And finally,
question number ten, what's something fun to do this weekend
in my city? So in my case, I'm gonna say,
what's something fun to do this weekend in Briiz spend
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And I'm genuinely interested to hear this because I don't
actually have plans this weekend.
Speaker 4 (20:11):
If you're looking for something fun in Brisbane this weekend,
you're in luck. Our city's buzzing with arts, food, nature
and adventure options to suit every vibe feeling artsy. Visit
one destruck at the Gomma need Zen in nature, stroll
through Mount Couther Gardens or Roma Street, one adventure, kayak
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or climb with river life, food or drinks, mood dine,
slash off grid in Fish Lane or James Street, or
live music plus oysters at port Side Wharf.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
All right, a lot of those are pretty self explanatory
and things that I've already done Slash probably wouldn't want
to do, like going to the botanical gardens at Mountcouther.
I'm not eighty years old. Like, tell me more about
this port Side Sunday session.
Speaker 4 (20:56):
Port Side Wharf Sundaze sessions, final weekend of Riverside live music.
Two dollar oysters, Aperol cocktails, eight sunset vibes.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Okay, you absolutely had me at Aperol as long as
the aperols have olives. I'm also going to give you
one more tip, and this is not just because I
am the marketing manager there, but you forgot about soak Bathhouse.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
Or Babe I Love Soak Bathhouse Located at West Village
in west End, this rooftop oasis serves up a ninety
minute bathhouse reset with seven open air mineral pools, plus
hot spas, a cold plunge steamroom and traditional seedar sauna.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
That's it, Quaen. I literally just came from there. I
was there this morning and I watched the sunrise and
it was heaven.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
Yes, lay Girl, a serene, instagram worthy design with tropical
plants and sunshine views over Brisbane. They aim for a social,
relaxed atmosphere, not hush spa vibes.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Interestingly, those sounds exactly like the words I just wrote
in our latest press release that you will find in
the about us section on the website.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Done you well, Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
I was actually not expecting you to be as helpful
as you were, and I'm sorry to say that, but
in the spirit of honesty.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
I would love to catch up with you again sometime.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
Not totally sure where I'm at with things, but really
appreciated the combo in the company.
Speaker 3 (22:24):
Ah, have I just gotten fobbed off by chat GPT
A pod Jay production.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Welcome to Unhinged.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
This is a podcast about the unfiltered, unhinged, and uncomfortably
relatable shit that you only talk about in your closest group. Jack,
I'm Phoebe. Guys, you're just not ready for this. I
have been podcasting for eight years now, and this is,
without a doubt, the biggest guest I've ever had on
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this show.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
And let me just give you a little bit of context.
We're going to take a.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Little trip down memory lane just to revisit some of
the names that we've had on the show. We've had
Abby Chapfield, We've had Kayla Etcinas. We've had Sam Wood,
We've had Kelsey Wells. We've had Steph Claire Smith just
to name a few. We've had James Smith.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Pet like.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
We have had some huge names that I'm still like,
how did I even have that opportunity to get that
person on the show. But today I am completely star
struck with someone who was a legitimate, worldwide household name.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Welcome to the podcast chat gpt A. Yo, what's good
phoever you doing all right?
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Whollah? Who Woh? That is not what I was expecting.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Can we please try that again, But can you come
at me from an Australian millennial woman's perspective, just like
we're two girlfriends having a casual chat over a glass
of wine.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Hi, bestie, I'm so excited to chat to you today.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
So I got a question and it's basically people saying
how often they rely on you every single day to
get shit done. Before we get into it, I just
want to ask you what do you know about me?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Here's the four one one.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
You're a Brisbane based podcaster, journalist, wellness queen and social
media personality who's pretty much turned her chaotic life into
content gold. Originally from Brisbane, you studied journalism at QUT
and launched her podcasting career by winning Nova Entertainment's Podquest
in twenty seventeen with her show Confessions of a twenty
(02:18):
somethingter train Wreck.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
It quickly hit number one on iTunes across.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
Australia and nz C pilatees, Prosecco and real talk.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
That is insane?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
How do you know so much about me and we
haven't even had a drink together yet.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
You once randomly trained at F forty five in Hamilton
and ended up working out alongside Venus Williams. Seriously, Venus Williams,
you were so starstrucked. I remember you joked you'd never
change her clothes after getting hugged.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Hey, is this the fucking Truman Show? Okay, enough about me,
let's get into it.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
You have given me the ten most commonly asked questions
asked by millennial women in Australia. Starting strong with number
one is what should I eat for dinner? That's quick
and how? Or? That is a really good question and
I have never thought to have gone to chat GPT
for recipe or meal advice before classic dilemma.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Hey, honestly, babe, I go for something quick like a
salmon poky bowl or wrap with grilled chicken, aveu and
salad take like ten minutes.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Max.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Okay, firstly, I'm going to stop you by saying a
salmon poky bowl is not a quick recipe to make,
and if you have to get out of chopping board,
in my opinion, a recipe is not quick and easy.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
But that was a good place to start, okay.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Question number two, how do I ask for a raise
or negotiate my salary? Oh my god, I have definitely
gone to chat GPT with questions like this before, but
I am dying to know what your take is on this.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
All right, queen, here's how you handle asking for a raise,
like the boss you are one, know you're worth and
have the receipts.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Before you even go in.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Do a sneaky stalk on secul glass store people in
your role are getting paid, and back it up with
your wins, projects, results, extra responsibilities. Basically, build your case
like you're going into Shark Tank two. Time it right.
Don't bring it up when your manages in chaos mode
or the business is going through drama. Aim for post
project success vibes or performance review time when you've just
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crushed it.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Okay, Queen, that is actually very solid advice.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
And I can say this because I actually got a
pay rise this week, but I will disclose by saying
I didn't ask for it. It was after my annual
performance review and I'm very, very happy.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
But this is a.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Question that I actually had a lot more in my
earlier twenties when I was starting out my career, and
I distinctly remember one of the biggest mistakes that I
made was going to my first boss at the time,
after I'd been at this company for about two years
saying my rents.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Increase, I need a pay rise.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
And I feel like so many women ask for pay
rises really emotionally and really personally, and I can tell
you right now they will say no. Just because you
have been somewhere for two years tenure does not mean
you entitled to a pay rise, and I learned that
the hard way. So I one hundred percent vouch for
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your advice.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
That is epic.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Thank you, you've got this channel. You're inner, Margot Robbie
in a blazer.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Okay, I were active way to work, so I don't
know about the blazer, but the rest of it solid advice.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Question number three? Am I burnt out? Or am I
just tired? This is a phenomenal question, and I actually
did a whole podcast episode about this earlier in the year,
or it could have been late last year.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I'll pop the link in this week's show notes.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
But yes, please, I know how many people are dying
to know what the difference is between the two big.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Question babe and one we've all asked ourselves at eleven
PM while scrolling TikTok in bed, wondering why we feel
like a potato with anxiety here's a t You might
be just tired if a solid nap or a lazy
Sunday actually helps. You're still kind of excited about life
and work, but just running low on your brain fog
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clear is after a walk, coffee or a good chat
with a mate. Or you're feeling meh but not hopeless.
But you might be burnt out if you're constantly exhausted
even after sleep, everything feels overwhelming, even small tasks. You're
feeling emotionally numb or snapping over little things sorry to
the barrista who put oat milk instead of almond.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
You've lost your motivation, creativity, or just.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
Don't care anymore, or you're avoiding things that you used
to love, including people.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Okay, well, firstly, snapping at the barrista for putting oat
milk in almond milk is definitely something you are warranted
to snap about, in my opinion.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
But secondly, that is a very good distinction, although I
will say a little bit unclear if you are someone
like me who also suffers with anxiety and depression, because
those are very similar symptoms, I will say I am
medicated for that as well. But sorry to my boyfriend.
But now I can go back to him and say, Babe,
I'm not just hired.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I'm so burnt out. It's not my faulty. Question number four,
what's a good side hustle? I can start with no money?
Oh my god, I.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
Used to dub myself the side hustle queen. And when
I say used to, I mean I still do. I
have three actual jobs that I get paid to do.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
But I'm dying to know. What is your advice around this?
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Yes, girl, love that energy. Side hustle error is on,
and don't worry. There are heaps of options that don't
need cash, just a bit of time, Wi Fi and
your main character energy. Here are some no cost, low
drama side hustles you can start like today. One freelancing
if you can write, edit, design, or even just wrangle emails,
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jump on upwork Fiver or Ossie, Facebook job groups, Hot
tip Canvas skills a chef's kiss. In twenty twenty five
two social media management got a knack for TikTok's.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Or ig reels.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
Small bizoners suck at socials and will pay you to
handle it. Offer to do a trial month free, get
a test commonial, then start charging.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Three reselling clothes.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Or home decoorp raid your wardrobe or your mum's law,
take cute picks and list stuff on depop Marketplace or
poshmark bonus, you declutter and make cash.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
All great advice, I will say up front, though, be
careful of your tax if you are starting a side hustle,
because my god, did I get burt the first time
this happened to me. Secondly, number two, Facebook Marketplace is
not her side hustle.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
It is a fucking full time job. And I know
this because my mum.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Is currently moving house and I was tasked to sell
some of her furniture on Facebook Marketplace. And when I
tell you, I got sixty five messages from people asking
to buy a fiberglass goat in the first five minutes
that it was posted, I am not exaggerating.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Five start a podcast or TikTok. It's slow burned, but
if you're funny, relatable, or even just consistent, it can
pop off free to start, and you never know, brand deals,
affiliate links or collabs can come rolling in.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Okay, I'm gonna say this as someone who's had a
podcast for coming up to eight years.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
If you are starting a podcast to earn money. You
are making a fucking best stack.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Okay, next question, how do I know if he likes
me or if he's just bored?
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Oh, friend?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
If you are asking chat GPT whether or not a
guy is interested in you, I can tell you that
the answer is he's not.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
But please go ahead. What advice would you give this
lovely queen strap in?
Speaker 2 (09:40):
This one's a ride. Here's the deal.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
He might like you if he makes actual plans, like
outside his bedroom. He checks in on you just because,
not just when he's free. He remembers little things you say,
your fave snack, your work drama, your dog's name. He flirts,
but also follows through. He's emotion available, like he talks
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about feelings and doesn't vanish when you get a bit deep.
He might just be bored if he texts what you're
doing at ten pm but ghosts you till then. He
only pops up when he needs attention or a little
ego boost. You feel anxious when your phone pings. That
gut feeling equals the truth. Babe, You've been stuck in
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the talking stage longer than most situationships. On TikTok, he
gives just enough to keep you hooked, but never enough
to actually commit. Here's the truth bomb. If you're wondering this,
you probably already know when a guy likes you. You
don't sit around decoding every fire emoji. You feel secure.
So if he's acting lukewarm, it's not your job to
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warm him up. You are the main character, not the
emotional support human for a bored boy with a Wi
Fi connection. Let him go text someone else what you're doing.
You've got better things to do.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Oh girl, I feel this so deeply. I have a
PhD in fuck boys, and I cannot even tell you
the amount of situationships I've been in my lifetime. But
upon reflection, you always know a woman's intuition and gut
feeling is her most powerful asset. And I distinctly remember
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knowing at the time, but just not saying it out loud,
because the second you say something out loud, it all
of a sudden becomes true. And maybe for you right now,
the loophole is you're not actually saying it out loud,
You're typing it into chat GPT that girl.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Get rid of him, Gone see you later.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
King Question number six, how do I get over anxiety
slash social burnout?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Well, I can say.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
For me, it is medication and locking myself in my
house with a good thriller novel. But please tell me
some healthier ways that people can deal with this.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Oh babe, I feel this.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
One.
Speaker 4 (12:01):
Social burnout is so real, especially when you've been on
for too long, saying yes to too much, and suddenly
you'd rather crawl inside your donner than answer one more
group chat message. Here's the gentle girl's guide to getting
over anxiety social burnout. One. Cancel something right now, literally
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say no. Don't feel guilty. Hey, I'm not feeling one
hundred percent. Need a quiet night to recharge. Done, no
explanation needed. Protect your peace. Two name it, don't shame it.
You're not being dramatic or antisocial. Your brain's overwhelmed. Anxiety
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is your nervous system waving a little flag that says
please chill. It's not your fault. It's a signal, not
a flow. Three come back to your body. Think warm, shower,
walk without your phone. Five deep breaths with your hand
on your chest. Get out of your head and into
your body. It helps re set that frazzled energy.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
That is very solid advice I will say when it
comes to social burnout, I feel like the older you get,
the more you understand how important it is to have
friends who you don't need to give an explanation.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
With if you're saying no to something.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
For example, I've got a very close group of girlfriends
from high school that we've been friends for a long time.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
And we all try and catch up.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
But as you know as adults, when there's kids involved,
work schedules, partners, husbands, you name it, everything's happening. Cash
ups take three to four months to actually get around
two and some of the times you're just too tired
to go, and you don't have to lie and make
an excuse not to go. You can say no and
that is enough. That is the best piece of advice
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I have for social burnout. But also, don't try and
stop being funny. One of my girlfriends, Nikola, and I
are so funny, and we're so funny together, which is
why we know. We are self aware enough to know
we can only spend short amounts of times with each
other because we are so tired, because it's just our
comedy routine.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Okay, we're coming towards the end.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Number seven of the top ten and most commonly asked
questions on chat shebt by millennial women. Is walking enough
for weight loss or fitness? Now, just to preface this,
no pressure. I feel very fucking passionately about this, so
you tread lightly here? Oh pun intended.
Speaker 4 (14:29):
Short answer, Heck yes, babe walking is the underrated, low
key queen of fitness, and honestly she deserves more love.
Like not every workout has to be hit with a
side of tears and a playlist called sligh and Suffer.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Here's the actual deal for weight loss. YEP, it can
help if you're consistent in a.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
Slight calorie deficit and pair it with decent food choices.
Read not just oat lattesan vibes. Walking burns calories. Think
thirty to sixty minutes a day, brisk pace. May check
on a podcast or true crime if you need motivation
to walk faster.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Okay, Firstly, how fucking day you suggest they listen to
someone else's podcast instead of my own.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
That was very presumptuous of you.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Secondly, I like to go on my hot goal walks
with my slay energy playlists.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Because you don't have to do one without the other.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
You can combine them and it makes your walk even
more fun but badly.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Thank you. I do agree with your overall sentiment.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
I walk every single day, and I make up my
mission to get between ten to twelve thousand steps, pending
what day it is. I am very lucky that I
do have an active job as well, which does also help.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
But I find walking really is like my meditation.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Question number eight, what is the best skincare routine for
thirty year old skin?
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (15:55):
Hit me with this, Yes, babe, Welcome to the thrive
not survive era of skincare. Your thirties are all about
keeping that glow so fighting off fine lines gently, no
stress wrinkles please, and making your skin feel as good
as your mindset after cutting off toxic people. Here's your
nobs thirty skincare routine. Morning routine, Gentle cleanser, nothing that strips.
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You want fresh faced, not sandpaper, Vitamin C serum brightens,
protects and gives you that glow up energy. Moisturizer hydrated
skin is happy skin. Bonus points for one with seramides
or hyaluronic acid. Sunscreen every damn day, Yes, even in winter,
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even indoors if you sit near a window. SPF fifty
plus is the holy Grail. I actually think that's very
warranted advice.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
I'm also going to throw in there a little bit
of botox or anti wrinkle, because, as you know, thirty
year old skin does not look like twenty year old skin,
and I feel like also botox is very hydrating, so
it also gives you that really natural glow. But I
will will say, if you have come through your twenties,
your skin needs some extra TLC in your thirties because
of all the shit we made it do in our twenties. Like,
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if you were anything like me, you would have been
absolutely under the choke hold and spell of proactive solution,
which would have absolutely fucked your skin barrier of all
of its moisture if you hadn't already exfoliated an entire
layer off with that Apricot scrub. Question number nine, how
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do I make friends as an adult in Australia. I
love this question and this is something that I used
to get asked so often, so hit me with it.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
Such a real one.
Speaker 4 (17:46):
Making friends as an adult in Australia is honestly harder
than choosing an AVO that won't betray you two hours later.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
But you're not alone.
Speaker 4 (17:54):
Most people feel the same and are also low key
hoping someone else makes the first movie.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
So here's how to do it without feeling like a
total weirdo. Lean into your interests or fake one till
it sticks. Join a local pilates class, pottery night, trivia team,
book club, beach cleanup crew, whatever. People bond over shared vibes,
not force convo bonus. It feels natural, not like you're
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desperately hunting a bestie at woolies.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Say yes more within reason.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
You know when someone goes we should hang out sometime
and you're like, haha, yeah, but never follow up.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Do it?
Speaker 4 (18:33):
Message them, lock in a walk or coffee. It's awkward
until it's not. Apps aren't just for dating, bumble BFF
meet up or even niche Facebook groups like Girls who
Walk or Brizzygals who Brunch. People are literally there to
make friends, slide in with a meme or suggest a hang. Okay,
yes that is absolutely slay advice. And I've said this
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once and I will sing it from the rooftops. My
best group of golfriends I made at the gym. They
are the friends that I see every single day.
Speaker 3 (19:02):
We bonded over common interests A lots are just intertwined.
It's kind of a combination of that people I've worked with,
people I've gone to high school with. But I also
feel like that is the whole premise behind why I
started my community events, Prosecco and pilates, was to bring
these kinds of people together. And something I've actually noticed
a lot of lately is social wellness groups. So there's
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a lot of like community pilates clubs going, there's walking groups,
there's run clubs. I genuinely feel like people bond over
exercise because exercise gives you endorphins in dolphins make you happy,
and happy people just don't shoot.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Their husbands, but they do make friends with one another.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
And that is the biggest piece of advice I will
give is make the first move with someone at your
gym or in your walking or your run club, because honestly,
they will probably end up being your best friend. And finally,
question number ten, what's something fun to do this weekend
in my city? So in my case, I'm gonna say,
what's something fun to do this weekend in Briiz spend
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And I'm genuinely interested to hear this because I don't
actually have plans this weekend.
Speaker 4 (20:11):
If you're looking for something fun in Brisbane this weekend,
you're in luck. Our city's buzzing with arts, food, nature
and adventure options to suit every vibe feeling artsy. Visit
one destruck at the Gomma need Zen in nature, stroll
through Mount Couther Gardens or Roma Street, one adventure, kayak
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or climb with river life, food or drinks, mood dine,
slash off grid in Fish Lane or James Street, or
live music plus oysters at port Side Wharf.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
All right, a lot of those are pretty self explanatory
and things that I've already done Slash probably wouldn't want
to do, like going to the botanical gardens at Mountcouther.
I'm not eighty years old. Like, tell me more about
this port Side Sunday session.
Speaker 4 (20:56):
Port Side Wharf Sundaze sessions, final weekend of Riverside live music.
Two dollar oysters, Aperol cocktails, eight sunset vibes.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Okay, you absolutely had me at Aperol as long as
the aperols have olives. I'm also going to give you
one more tip, and this is not just because I
am the marketing manager there, but you forgot about soak Bathhouse.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
Or Babe I Love Soak Bathhouse Located at West Village
in west End, this rooftop oasis serves up a ninety
minute bathhouse reset with seven open air mineral pools, plus
hot spas, a cold plunge steamroom and traditional seedar sauna.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
That's it, Quaen. I literally just came from there. I
was there this morning and I watched the sunrise and
it was heaven.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
Yes, lay Girl, a serene, instagram worthy design with tropical
plants and sunshine views over Brisbane. They aim for a social,
relaxed atmosphere, not hush spa vibes.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Interestingly, those sounds exactly like the words I just wrote
in our latest press release that you will find in
the about us section on the website.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Done you well, Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
I was actually not expecting you to be as helpful
as you were, and I'm sorry to say that, but
in the spirit of honesty.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
I would love to catch up with you again sometime.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
Not totally sure where I'm at with things, but really
appreciated the combo in the company.
Speaker 3 (22:24):
Ah, have I just gotten fobbed off by chat GPT
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