DELILAH DILEMMAS: My advice

More advice from me, Mama D. ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast de Hey It's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, I have a feature
called Delilah's Dilemmas. Or Folks call me or write me

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and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
We're going to listen to some of those unique situations
right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma comes
from a young man named Eric. He says, Dear Delilah,

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I'm nineteen years old. My name is Eric. There's a
girl that I recently came in contact with through one
of my high school friends. Her name is Becca. She
is beautiful, smart, talented. Moment I'm not talking with her,
I wish I was. I was always taught by my
parents at opposites of tract, but in this case, she
seems to like everything I like. I've been rejected all

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my life by pretty girls, but this girl seems different.
When I close my eyes, she is all I see.
When I go to sleep, I dream of her. I
don't know what to do, Delilah. Please help me. There
are a lot of things I can do without in life,
like money, friends, even a big house. But she is
something I cannot do without. To tell you the truth,

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she is the first girl I have ever thought about
like this. Please help me. Thank you so much from Eric, Eric,
you don't really have a Delilah dilemma, but I will
answer your question next. Eric wrote in thinking he has
a Delilah's dilemma, Eric, you don't have a dilemma. You're

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in love, your knucklehead. You are stupid, head over heels,
bit by the love bug in love. Now, the question
is does Becka feel the same? If not, you're going
to have to back off, honey, because you are going
to scare her away with this much enthusiasm. But if

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she is feeling attracted to you, if she is dreaming
of you and walking on air thinking about you, then man, Eric,
you are exactly where you need to be, young in
love with a beautiful woman. Life doesn't get any better
than that. So slow down. You said, there's a lot

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of things I can do without in life, like money, friends,
and even a big house. You need friends even if
you are stupid in love. You need good friends, so
do not turn away from your friends right now. And money, honey,
if you're thinking about a forever commitment, you definitely need money.
No woman wants to marry a loser who isn't helping out.
So stay focused on your job, and stay focused on

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keeping your friends, and just enjoy this delightful, delicious feeling
of being head of her heels in man. Tonight's Delilah's
Dilemma is from a young lady named Caitlin, who says,
I'm only fifteen years old. In the past few weeks
have been very complicated and very difficult. About three months ago,

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I made a choice to go live with my dad
after I had lived with my mother for ten years.
I left all my family and friends, and I only
did it because I was mad. But now I know
I made a bad decision. What I really regret is
making this decision, and I want to go back. I

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already ask my mom, but I have no clue how
to ask my dad. I've cried myself to sleep because
of all the sadness in my heart. I miss my
mom so much. I just really want to go back home.
Can you please help me from Caitlyn, Caitlyn, I will

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try to help you, and I will have some words
for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Caitlin,
fifteen years old, got mad at her mom through a
fit and told her mom she was going to go
live with her dad, which she did, and now she's

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homesick and lonely and missing her mom and her family
and doesn't know how to put the pieces back together again. Caitlyn,
here's the good news. God is a god of second chances,
and all of us make really bad choices in our anger,
and sometimes we have to live with the consequences, and
sometimes God shows us grace and lets us work through it.

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What I would do if I was you is I
would talk to your dad. Maybe you can write him
a letter like you wrote me, and just be really
honest and say I love you, and I know you
gone way out of your way for me, but I'm
really homesick and I didn't really think this through, and
can I please go back to my life. If your

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dad was willing to take you in that quickly, I
would say he loves you very much, very very much,
and he probably misses you very much. And he was
probably looking forward to being able to spend time with him.
So maybe if he agrees, you can spend a little
more time with Dad, growing close to him and getting
to know him and letting him know you before you're

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grown and gone, and hopefully you'll be able to go
back to the house, the home, the family, the friends,
the school that is familiar to you. If that is
not allowed, if your parents say no, then you're going
to have to take a very valuable lesson from this
and trust that God has you there for a reason,

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even though you might not see it right now. Sometimes
in our life, God closes a door, try to kick
it back open, but it's not opening, and the reason
is because He's got a better plan for us. So
if that door to return home doesn't open, Caitlin, that
means that God wants you there to meet a specific
person or to learn a specific lesson. When I was

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a young girl, I had to move off the farm
we lived on and move into a city called read Sport,
and I hated it and I wanted to go back
home to the farm. But it was in that small
town that I met the Kanegi brothers who started my
career in radio. So even though I wanted to go
back to where I felt was home, God had me
there for a specific reason, and he might be doing

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that for you. I got a letter from an overwhelmed
listener who says, I'm working a full time job that
demands more than forty hours a week. Most often, it
feels like I've got two jobs and now I'm a
full time returning student. I just started back to college

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this week. I want to be a successful career woman
and an a student as well. However, I'm constantly bogged
down with all the demands on me. Do you, Delilah,
have any advice for someone who wishes they just had
the guts to give up? How do I do all
of this? Thanks for your inspiration from Tamara, Tamara, I

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will be back with my best advice for you coming
up next. Tamar. Here's the deal. Tamara is the woman
who submitted tonight's Delilah's dilemma, a full time employee working
more than forty hours a week, and now a full
time student wanting to get straight a's. Here's the thing, Tamara,

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they have not yet come up with a way to
clone you or I I wish they did, so that
we could do all the things we want to do
in the course of twenty four hours. However, they haven't
done that yet. And you are one person, and you're
one person requires at least six or seven hours of sleep.
If you don't get that sleep, you will not be effective.

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So something's going to have to give. You cannot work
two jobs or more than forty hours a week and
be a full time college student and get straight a's
unless you have no life whatsoever. So you're going to
have to figure out where you could make a sacrifice.
You don't have to bag at all. You said, I
wish I had the guts to give up. Don't give up.

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Rearrange drop a class, change your schedule so you're only
taking one or two classes at the most. Or go
talk to your employer and say, I have to cut
back to thirty hours a week. There are ways to
do it. You have options. You have to figure out
a smart way to balance those options. You cannot keep

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adding responsibilities onto your shoulders. You make sacrifices somewhere, So
before you add another thing to your plate, young lady Tamra,
you're gonna have to take a few hours off of
your plate. I so hope you have enjoyed these radio
moments as much as I enjoy bringing them to you.

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I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's
Delilah