September 5, 2023 • 11 mins
Happiness is not about how much "stuff" we have! It's so important to put that into perspective whenever you're feeling less-than those who seem to have everything. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Do you.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Know that your happiness does not consist in having a
great deal of stuff? Did you know that our world
wants us to go and buy, buy more whatever, buy
more boots. I love boots. I don't need more boots.
(00:40):
I don't and more boots don't really make you happy.
They do temporarily, but the truth is stuff doesn't make
you happy. It never will. I work in Africa. I
work in West Africa. I go there a lot, two
or three times a year, and the people that I
(01:02):
work with don't have stuff. A lot of them don't
even have a pair of shoes. A lot of them
don't have a cup of fresh water. They have to
walk miles to access water. They don't have beds. They've
never heard of a bed or a mattress. They sleep
on a mat on the floor of a mud hut
(01:24):
that is smaller than your bathroom might be. They don't
have stuff, and they're happy. Their kids are happy and joyful,
and they sing and they dance and they clap, and
they play games with nothing with sticks in the dirts.
They play clapping handgames and jumping games, and they're happy.
(01:45):
They have joy, They have each other, relationships, love, joy,
reaching out to others, finding your place in the world.
Those things will make you happy. Hi, good evening. You've
called the Delilah Show. Who was this? This is Jorene, Jorene.
(02:11):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I was wanting to dedicate a song to my husband.
So next month will be our one year that we've
been married together, and you know we are having our
ups and downs and turning to work things out.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You just got married a year ago, and you sound
like you're not a teenager anymore. How old are you?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I'm forty five.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And what's your husband's name? Will? How old is Will?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Thirty six?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
And what seems to be the one thing you just
keep button your heads up against, like that one or
two issues that it doesn't seem to be a way
over it or way around it, a way under it.
It just keeps cropping up. What is the mountain that
you just can't climb together?
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Well, I don't know how to say it, but I
guess we're going through, you know, hard times, up and down,
and I guess we're trying to work things out.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
And right, but there's always one thing or two things
that couples can't agree on or figure out where to live,
or financial issues, or his parents are butting in or
your parents are butting in, or somebody's children are unhappy,
or somebody uses too much alcohol or is stoned all
(03:41):
the time, or money is disappearing that's unaccounted for, or jealousy,
or somebody's unfaithful. What is the roadblock between you and
will and joy? There is something called joy in love,
and there's a roadblock keeping you too from enjoying that.
What is the roadblock or do you even know?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
It's probably financial and it's just like things popping up.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So when there's financial problems and there's not enough money
to go through the end of the month, do you
sit down and figure it out together or do you
get frustrated with each other?
Speaker 2 (04:22):
I would get frustrated that right now we're, you know,
trying to figure things out together.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
When you two can figure out that you're on the
same team and you're each other's best friends and not
fuss at each other but instead fight against the world
or economics or financial constraints or whatever. It is when
you figure out that this is your best friend for life. Yeah,
and you need to be on the same team. Maybe
(04:52):
maybe make up t shirts or baseball caps or something
to remind each other that you're on the the same team,
you're each other's teammates, you're best friends. Yeah, then you
can tackle anything, right. I have a granddaughter and she
and her fiance are expecting and they were over here
(05:15):
and fussing and fussing and fussing, and I said, let
me let me show you something. And I said, come
here to this door. I have a swinging door into
my pantry. And I had her fiance stand on one
side and I got on the other. I said, now,
push as hard as you can against me. And I'm
a big girl. I'm not a ninety pound weekling. I'm
(05:35):
five foot ten. And he was pushing as hard as
he could and I was pushing back, and he wasn't
getting very far. And I had I had Ava, my granddaughter,
do the same thing, and you know, the same thing happened.
She wasn't able to push the door against me. I said,
now the two of you team up together and push
against me.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
And guess what.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I couldn't hold the door against him. I said, when
you guys realize that you need to push against the world,
push against financial problems, push against whatever it is together,
nothing's going to stop you, right, nothing's going to stop you, right.
So go grab your hobby and say, let's let's become
(06:20):
each other's team. Whether it's a baseball team you love,
or a football team or a chess team or whatever
it is, say let's be each other's best teammates, and
let's take on the world together. Yes, and then nothing's going.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
To stop you exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I will play a song for you and will thank
you for Colin.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yes, thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Have a great rest of your summer.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
You too, have a good night.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Bye bye, Judy. What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
My husband and I we've been married for about a
year and a half and I tore off the men
forever until I found him and fell completely in love
and realized what it was to be in love. Except
this last six or eight months has been so extremely hard,
so extremely hard financially, and you know.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Just everything, Okay, tell me what's going on.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
Well, I married him and he had a lot of debt,
and I thought I could handle it, and I can't.
And we're trying to work our way through that. And
you know, my job, I've you know, took promotion and
make more money to try to make things better.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
So why did he have a lot of debt?
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Oh, from his previous relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
It's it's not that he was out going to parties
and buying hot rods.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
It's that he had a No, it.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Wasn't anything like that. No, it's just I mean, real
world thing. But I mean, that's not the big deal.
The big deal is just trying to deal with it
ever since then, and he just does not deal with
it very well. And I've I don't even know.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
It's just, honey, it's not your problem. Don't make it
your problem.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
It is because I'm married to a man.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Yeah, but you're making something, You're you're putting a boulder
on your shoulders that doesn't belong on your shoulders.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
How do I get through that? Though?
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I mean, you recognize that you didn't create this mess.
You certainly can't fix it right now, so losing your
serenity over it and letting it drive you crazy is
probably not a real good idea. You know, the first
lesson you learn about eating an elephant have you ever
heard that one how to eat an elephant?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
No, one bite at a time, one bote.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
At a time. And it's a big elephant, but one
beat at a time.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
You just need to stop looking at the problem and
feeling overwhelmed and letting that steal your joy and letting
that come between the person that you love. Obviously you
loved him with all your heart or you wouldn't have
married him. Yes, okay, So focus on that love and
that connection instead of on the problem. Don't let this
(08:57):
tear you apart.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Okay, and you will be fine. Hi, good evening. You've
called the Delilah Show. Who is this? It's Dave, Hi, Dave,
how are you good?
Speaker 5 (09:16):
Good?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I have?
Speaker 5 (09:18):
I'm calling because my friend, as she sent me an
email and she's kind of going through her rough time,
and she's got a little boy, and she's like she says,
she's been struggling like financially for a little bit, you know.
And then like he was telling me that she's a
special ed teacher in high school and she might not
(09:40):
have a job next school year.
Speaker 6 (09:42):
So your your friend is a single mom. Yeah, she's overwhelmed,
she's exhausted exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
And now she's afraid that things are going to fall apart, and.
Speaker 6 (09:51):
She's not gonna have a job right because budgets are
being cut and you know, special services and special ed
goes right down the toilet exactly.
Speaker 5 (10:01):
But she has a strong faith, and I just wanted
to let her know that I'm there for you know,
if she needs anything. And she's been there for me
for a lot of stuff. So it's wanting to extend
the favor.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
So do you live in her area? Uh?
Speaker 5 (10:15):
Yeah, relatively close.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Well, I would say the best thing you can do
for her is call somebody an a range of babysitter
so that she can go out with you or with
some friends and just spend a few hours taking care
of herself.
Speaker 5 (10:28):
Yeah, that sounds like a.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Good idea, because when you're stressed and you're overwhelmed and
you need to get away, just need to clear your head. Yep,
just a.
Speaker 5 (10:39):
Thought, all right.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
All right, Bye bye bye.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I So hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey it's Delilah, won't
mo
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Do you.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Know that your happiness does not consist in having a
great deal of stuff? Did you know that our world
wants us to go and buy, buy more whatever, buy
more boots. I love boots. I don't need more boots.
(00:40):
I don't and more boots don't really make you happy.
They do temporarily, but the truth is stuff doesn't make
you happy. It never will. I work in Africa. I
work in West Africa. I go there a lot, two
or three times a year, and the people that I
(01:02):
work with don't have stuff. A lot of them don't
even have a pair of shoes. A lot of them
don't have a cup of fresh water. They have to
walk miles to access water. They don't have beds. They've
never heard of a bed or a mattress. They sleep
on a mat on the floor of a mud hut
(01:24):
that is smaller than your bathroom might be. They don't
have stuff, and they're happy. Their kids are happy and joyful,
and they sing and they dance and they clap, and
they play games with nothing with sticks in the dirts.
They play clapping handgames and jumping games, and they're happy.
(01:45):
They have joy, They have each other, relationships, love, joy,
reaching out to others, finding your place in the world.
Those things will make you happy. Hi, good evening. You've
called the Delilah Show. Who was this? This is Jorene, Jorene.
(02:11):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I was wanting to dedicate a song to my husband.
So next month will be our one year that we've
been married together, and you know we are having our
ups and downs and turning to work things out.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You just got married a year ago, and you sound
like you're not a teenager anymore. How old are you?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I'm forty five.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And what's your husband's name? Will? How old is Will?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Thirty six?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
And what seems to be the one thing you just
keep button your heads up against, like that one or
two issues that it doesn't seem to be a way
over it or way around it, a way under it.
It just keeps cropping up. What is the mountain that
you just can't climb together?
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Well, I don't know how to say it, but I
guess we're going through, you know, hard times, up and down,
and I guess we're trying to work things out.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
And right, but there's always one thing or two things
that couples can't agree on or figure out where to live,
or financial issues, or his parents are butting in or
your parents are butting in, or somebody's children are unhappy,
or somebody uses too much alcohol or is stoned all
(03:41):
the time, or money is disappearing that's unaccounted for, or jealousy,
or somebody's unfaithful. What is the roadblock between you and
will and joy? There is something called joy in love,
and there's a roadblock keeping you too from enjoying that.
What is the roadblock or do you even know?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
It's probably financial and it's just like things popping up.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So when there's financial problems and there's not enough money
to go through the end of the month, do you
sit down and figure it out together or do you
get frustrated with each other?
Speaker 2 (04:22):
I would get frustrated that right now we're, you know,
trying to figure things out together.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
When you two can figure out that you're on the
same team and you're each other's best friends and not
fuss at each other but instead fight against the world
or economics or financial constraints or whatever. It is when
you figure out that this is your best friend for life. Yeah,
and you need to be on the same team. Maybe
(04:52):
maybe make up t shirts or baseball caps or something
to remind each other that you're on the the same team,
you're each other's teammates, you're best friends. Yeah, then you
can tackle anything, right. I have a granddaughter and she
and her fiance are expecting and they were over here
(05:15):
and fussing and fussing and fussing, and I said, let
me let me show you something. And I said, come
here to this door. I have a swinging door into
my pantry. And I had her fiance stand on one
side and I got on the other. I said, now,
push as hard as you can against me. And I'm
a big girl. I'm not a ninety pound weekling. I'm
(05:35):
five foot ten. And he was pushing as hard as
he could and I was pushing back, and he wasn't
getting very far. And I had I had Ava, my granddaughter,
do the same thing, and you know, the same thing happened.
She wasn't able to push the door against me. I said,
now the two of you team up together and push
against me.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
And guess what.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I couldn't hold the door against him. I said, when
you guys realize that you need to push against the world,
push against financial problems, push against whatever it is together,
nothing's going to stop you, right, nothing's going to stop you, right.
So go grab your hobby and say, let's let's become
(06:20):
each other's team. Whether it's a baseball team you love,
or a football team or a chess team or whatever
it is, say let's be each other's best teammates, and
let's take on the world together. Yes, and then nothing's going.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
To stop you exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I will play a song for you and will thank
you for Colin.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yes, thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Have a great rest of your summer.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
You too, have a good night.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Bye bye, Judy. What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
My husband and I we've been married for about a
year and a half and I tore off the men
forever until I found him and fell completely in love
and realized what it was to be in love. Except
this last six or eight months has been so extremely hard,
so extremely hard financially, and you know.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Just everything, Okay, tell me what's going on.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
Well, I married him and he had a lot of debt,
and I thought I could handle it, and I can't.
And we're trying to work our way through that. And
you know, my job, I've you know, took promotion and
make more money to try to make things better.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
So why did he have a lot of debt?
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Oh, from his previous relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
It's it's not that he was out going to parties
and buying hot rods.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
It's that he had a No, it.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Wasn't anything like that. No, it's just I mean, real
world thing. But I mean, that's not the big deal.
The big deal is just trying to deal with it
ever since then, and he just does not deal with
it very well. And I've I don't even know.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
It's just, honey, it's not your problem. Don't make it
your problem.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
It is because I'm married to a man.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Yeah, but you're making something, You're you're putting a boulder
on your shoulders that doesn't belong on your shoulders.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
How do I get through that? Though?
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I mean, you recognize that you didn't create this mess.
You certainly can't fix it right now, so losing your
serenity over it and letting it drive you crazy is
probably not a real good idea. You know, the first
lesson you learn about eating an elephant have you ever
heard that one how to eat an elephant?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
No, one bite at a time, one bote.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
At a time. And it's a big elephant, but one
beat at a time.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
You just need to stop looking at the problem and
feeling overwhelmed and letting that steal your joy and letting
that come between the person that you love. Obviously you
loved him with all your heart or you wouldn't have
married him. Yes, okay, So focus on that love and
that connection instead of on the problem. Don't let this
(08:57):
tear you apart.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Okay, and you will be fine. Hi, good evening. You've
called the Delilah Show. Who is this? It's Dave, Hi, Dave,
how are you good?
Speaker 5 (09:16):
Good?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I have?
Speaker 5 (09:18):
I'm calling because my friend, as she sent me an
email and she's kind of going through her rough time,
and she's got a little boy, and she's like she says,
she's been struggling like financially for a little bit, you know.
And then like he was telling me that she's a
special ed teacher in high school and she might not
(09:40):
have a job next school year.
Speaker 6 (09:42):
So your your friend is a single mom. Yeah, she's overwhelmed,
she's exhausted exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
And now she's afraid that things are going to fall apart, and.
Speaker 6 (09:51):
She's not gonna have a job right because budgets are
being cut and you know, special services and special ed
goes right down the toilet exactly.
Speaker 5 (10:01):
But she has a strong faith, and I just wanted
to let her know that I'm there for you know,
if she needs anything. And she's been there for me
for a lot of stuff. So it's wanting to extend
the favor.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
So do you live in her area? Uh?
Speaker 5 (10:15):
Yeah, relatively close.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Well, I would say the best thing you can do
for her is call somebody an a range of babysitter
so that she can go out with you or with
some friends and just spend a few hours taking care
of herself.
Speaker 5 (10:28):
Yeah, that sounds like a.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Good idea, because when you're stressed and you're overwhelmed and
you need to get away, just need to clear your head. Yep,
just a.
Speaker 5 (10:39):
Thought, all right.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
All right, Bye bye bye.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I So hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey it's Delilah, won't
mo
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Delilah
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