September 19, 2023 • 9 mins
Sometimes you need to toss in the towel so you can begin anew. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast do Hey, it's Delilah.
Thank you for joining us today for this little audio hug.
(00:25):
Do you ever feel like tossing in the towel? Sometimes
you got to toss in the towel. Sometimes you're in
a relationship, you're married, or you're partnered with somebody that
is abusive or neglectful or just not making wise choices,
and you just can't stay another moment. Sometimes people get
(00:49):
beat up by life, not by their partner. Their partner's
not purposefully hurting them, but life is hurting them, and
it tears at the fabric of relationships. A few years ago,
when we lost my stepson, we lost three boys in
(01:09):
a couple of years, my adopted son, my birth son,
and my step son, and everybody thought my husband and
I would never make it. Couples rarely make it through
the loss of a child, not that they're fussing at
each other, but because the stress of life is so overwhelming,
they lose their way and they lose their ability to connect.
(01:34):
In just a moment on Hey, It's Delilah. I'm going
to talk with somebody who loves her husband so much,
but the stress of life is tearing at the fiber,
the fiber of their marriage. I'm going to give her
a little insight and some words of love. Coming up next. Hi,
(01:58):
good evening, you've called Delilah. H Who is this? Hi?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
My name's Ronda.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Hi Ronda, how are you? How was your summer?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Well, we're struggling. My family's struggling. My husband I've been
together thirty years and the last year and a half
we had a house fire, and we're going through something
really difficult with my daughter, and for the first time
in thirty years, I don't know if we're going to
get through it. And I've been trying to get through
(02:29):
to you for so many months to try to get
some works of wisdom.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Okay, Is what you're struggling with have anything to do
with your husband being neglectful or abusive?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
No?
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Okay? Does it have anything to do with you being
neglectful or abusive?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
No? I mean neglectful? Maybe? I mean we you know,
houseby we were out of our house for eleven months.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I'm asking is the struggles that you're going through with
your husband because you stop caring about your family because
you're abusive to your family.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Okay, So based on that question and your answers, I
can tell you you're going to make it through this.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
How can you be so sore?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Because you love him? You wouldn't have been with him
all these decades if you, guys, didn't have a strong
foundation of love. You clearly have a strong foundation, or
you wouldn't have made it through everything you've made it
through before this huge house fire and complications hit. You
(03:37):
wouldn't have made it through being pregnant, or being up
all night or taking kids to school and blah blah
blah blah blah blah blah. Those little stressors of life
would have destroyed the fabric of your marriage if you
didn't have a strong foundation of respect and love. But
you do. Yeah, And right now now you are being
(04:03):
battered by the winds of life and you feel like,
I can't hold on any longer. But you are going
to be You are going to hold on because you
recognize that it's not your husband that's hurting you, and
it's not you that's hurting him. It's life circumstances that
are hurting both of you. You are not purposefully hurting him,
(04:27):
he's not purposefully hurting you. And so what you're going
to do is you are going to realize that if
you two join forces like never before and re establish
your team by sitting down and spending a day or
a weekend or a few days alone talking and reconnecting,
(04:51):
you will be able to withstand any storm life throws
you because you already have.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I know, I just feel like this past year has
just been too much, and for the first time in
thirty years, I'm really really scared.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Well, stop being scared, because you, my friend, are a warrior.
You're a warrior. But warriors sometimes we get scared, and
sometimes we fall down. Sometimes we just have to fall
down and let our armor down for a minute. Then
we got to pray, and then we got to stand
back up and go back into battle. But if you
(05:31):
and your husband go into battle together, you're going to
make it through whatever this is. You will okay, because
if you didn't have that firm foundation of love, you
wouldn't have made it all these decades. If you sit
(05:59):
down and look back over your life, you will think
of a thousand times where somebody was flirting with you,
or somebody was flirting with him, or the kids were
driving you nuts, or you didn't have money to pay
the mortgage or whatever. You'll think of a thousand times
where either one of you could have tossed in the
(06:19):
towel and made other choices. When you were young and
in your prime and some guy at work was hitting
on you or something, you could have made a different choice,
but you chose to remain committed to your husband and
your marriage.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yes, yes, absolutely, Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
So you've already proven beyond a shadow of a doubt
that he is your person and you are clearly his,
and whatever is coming at you, you know, I think
about those poor people in Maui. I think about people
that have been hit by hurricanes. I think about train derailments.
I think about all the crap that's going on around
(07:01):
us that's just knocking people to their knees. And yet
relationships grow stronger when you're going through the flames of
trials and tribulations if you respect each other, and you
two clearly do, or you wouldn't have made it. Okay, Mary, right,
(07:25):
there's an old song. I used to play it thirty
forty years ago. You and me against the world. It
was about a mother and a child. But you guys
have to remember that you are each other's each other's team.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, I think we forgot that this past year.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yes, there's an old book and it says two are
better than one because if one lies down alone, they'll
be cold. Who's there to keep them warm? Two are
better than one? And then it says this, a cord
of three three strands is not easily broken. What is
that third strand? It's talking about how two people are
(08:08):
good together, how it's good to have two people bonded together.
And then it says a cord of three strands a
braid is not easily broken. That third strand is your
faith in the almighty.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Whatever that looks like to you.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Oh, I will firmly believe that. Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
So take that faith and go wrap your arms around
your husband and say I forgot for a minute that
we are each other's teammates. And maybe go get my
son and his wife have Team Harris T shirts like
football shirts that they wear them and their kids to
remind each other that they are each other's teammates. Right,
(08:53):
maybe you need to write that on a T shirt.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Okay, Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
You're gonna make it through whatever this storm is, I
promise you, and you're going to call me back and
you're going to get through and say, remember me, I
thought I was going to toss in the towel. Honey,
you're not. You are not going to toss in that towel.
You're going to take that towel and go dry your
tears and wipe his face and kiss his face and
start all over again.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Okay, I hope you're right.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
God bless you.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
God bless you too. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast do Hey, it's Delilah.
Thank you for joining us today for this little audio hug.
(00:25):
Do you ever feel like tossing in the towel? Sometimes
you got to toss in the towel. Sometimes you're in
a relationship, you're married, or you're partnered with somebody that
is abusive or neglectful or just not making wise choices,
and you just can't stay another moment. Sometimes people get
(00:49):
beat up by life, not by their partner. Their partner's
not purposefully hurting them, but life is hurting them, and
it tears at the fabric of relationships. A few years ago,
when we lost my stepson, we lost three boys in
(01:09):
a couple of years, my adopted son, my birth son,
and my step son, and everybody thought my husband and
I would never make it. Couples rarely make it through
the loss of a child, not that they're fussing at
each other, but because the stress of life is so overwhelming,
they lose their way and they lose their ability to connect.
(01:34):
In just a moment on Hey, It's Delilah. I'm going
to talk with somebody who loves her husband so much,
but the stress of life is tearing at the fiber,
the fiber of their marriage. I'm going to give her
a little insight and some words of love. Coming up next. Hi,
(01:58):
good evening, you've called Delilah. H Who is this? Hi?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
My name's Ronda.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Hi Ronda, how are you? How was your summer?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Well, we're struggling. My family's struggling. My husband I've been
together thirty years and the last year and a half
we had a house fire, and we're going through something
really difficult with my daughter, and for the first time
in thirty years, I don't know if we're going to
get through it. And I've been trying to get through
(02:29):
to you for so many months to try to get
some works of wisdom.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Okay, Is what you're struggling with have anything to do
with your husband being neglectful or abusive?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
No?
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Okay? Does it have anything to do with you being
neglectful or abusive?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
No? I mean neglectful? Maybe? I mean we you know,
houseby we were out of our house for eleven months.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I'm asking is the struggles that you're going through with
your husband because you stop caring about your family because
you're abusive to your family.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Okay, So based on that question and your answers, I
can tell you you're going to make it through this.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
How can you be so sore?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Because you love him? You wouldn't have been with him
all these decades if you, guys, didn't have a strong
foundation of love. You clearly have a strong foundation, or
you wouldn't have made it through everything you've made it
through before this huge house fire and complications hit. You
(03:37):
wouldn't have made it through being pregnant, or being up
all night or taking kids to school and blah blah
blah blah blah blah blah. Those little stressors of life
would have destroyed the fabric of your marriage if you
didn't have a strong foundation of respect and love. But
you do. Yeah, And right now now you are being
(04:03):
battered by the winds of life and you feel like,
I can't hold on any longer. But you are going
to be You are going to hold on because you
recognize that it's not your husband that's hurting you, and
it's not you that's hurting him. It's life circumstances that
are hurting both of you. You are not purposefully hurting him,
(04:27):
he's not purposefully hurting you. And so what you're going
to do is you are going to realize that if
you two join forces like never before and re establish
your team by sitting down and spending a day or
a weekend or a few days alone talking and reconnecting,
(04:51):
you will be able to withstand any storm life throws
you because you already have.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I know, I just feel like this past year has
just been too much, and for the first time in
thirty years, I'm really really scared.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Well, stop being scared, because you, my friend, are a warrior.
You're a warrior. But warriors sometimes we get scared, and
sometimes we fall down. Sometimes we just have to fall
down and let our armor down for a minute. Then
we got to pray, and then we got to stand
back up and go back into battle. But if you
(05:31):
and your husband go into battle together, you're going to
make it through whatever this is. You will okay, because
if you didn't have that firm foundation of love, you
wouldn't have made it all these decades. If you sit
(05:59):
down and look back over your life, you will think
of a thousand times where somebody was flirting with you,
or somebody was flirting with him, or the kids were
driving you nuts, or you didn't have money to pay
the mortgage or whatever. You'll think of a thousand times
where either one of you could have tossed in the
(06:19):
towel and made other choices. When you were young and
in your prime and some guy at work was hitting
on you or something, you could have made a different choice,
but you chose to remain committed to your husband and
your marriage.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yes, yes, absolutely, Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
So you've already proven beyond a shadow of a doubt
that he is your person and you are clearly his,
and whatever is coming at you, you know, I think
about those poor people in Maui. I think about people
that have been hit by hurricanes. I think about train derailments.
I think about all the crap that's going on around
(07:01):
us that's just knocking people to their knees. And yet
relationships grow stronger when you're going through the flames of
trials and tribulations if you respect each other, and you
two clearly do, or you wouldn't have made it. Okay, Mary, right,
(07:25):
there's an old song. I used to play it thirty
forty years ago. You and me against the world. It
was about a mother and a child. But you guys
have to remember that you are each other's each other's team.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, I think we forgot that this past year.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yes, there's an old book and it says two are
better than one because if one lies down alone, they'll
be cold. Who's there to keep them warm? Two are
better than one? And then it says this, a cord
of three three strands is not easily broken. What is
that third strand? It's talking about how two people are
(08:08):
good together, how it's good to have two people bonded together.
And then it says a cord of three strands a
braid is not easily broken. That third strand is your
faith in the almighty.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Whatever that looks like to you.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Oh, I will firmly believe that. Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
So take that faith and go wrap your arms around
your husband and say I forgot for a minute that
we are each other's teammates. And maybe go get my
son and his wife have Team Harris T shirts like
football shirts that they wear them and their kids to
remind each other that they are each other's teammates. Right,
(08:53):
maybe you need to write that on a T shirt.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Okay, Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
You're gonna make it through whatever this storm is, I
promise you, and you're going to call me back and
you're going to get through and say, remember me, I
thought I was going to toss in the towel. Honey,
you're not. You are not going to toss in that towel.
You're going to take that towel and go dry your
tears and wipe his face and kiss his face and
start all over again.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Okay, I hope you're right.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
God bless you.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
God bless you too. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah
Host
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