February 7, 2025 • 11 mins
Worried about painful breastfeeding or sore nipples? In this episode we're busting breastfeeding myths & revealing techniques for a pain-free breastfeeding latch. Jaimie Zaki, an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) and mother of five, tackles three common breastfeeding myths that often cause confusion and unnecessary breastfeeding pain for new moms. Jaimie breaks down the truth about latch techniques and how to achieve a comfortable, effective latch. She debunks the misconception that breastfeeding is supposed to hurt, explaining that while some initial tenderness is normal, ongoing pain signals a problem. She also clarifies why a good latch should never hurt, even if it looks correct, and offers breastfeeding tips to adjust positioning for pain-free nursing. Lastly, she challenges the outdated nipple-to-nose latching technique, emphasizing the importance of proper chin positioning for a deep, effective latch. Jaimie introduces her Latching with Confidence program, designed to help moms master breastfeeding latch techniques, troubleshoot common issues, and heal damaged nipples.
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Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Breastfeeding with Confidence 00:43 Debunking Breastfeeding Myths 01:18 Myth 1: Breastfeeding Is Supposed to Hurt 04:30 Myth 2: If the Latch Looks Good, it Is good 06:59 Myth 3: Nipple-to-Nose Technique Is Best Keywords: sore nipples from breastfeeding, breastfeeding pain cause, how to fix bad latch, breastfeeding latch problems,, painful breastfeeding solutions
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.0005the longer you wait, the more you're hurting yourself. 2 00:00:03,280.0005 --> 00:00:04,550.0005 You're losing time. 3 00:00:05,330.0005 --> 00:00:26,660.0005 Finding solutions and frankly, you're missing out on time that you could be enjoying your baby feeling frustrated and Miserable I'm Jamie Zahke, IBCLC, and Mama Five, and this is the Breastfeeding with Confidence podcast where pregnant and new mothers learn how to prepare for and overcome breastfeeding challenges without being controlled by stress, fear, and anxiety. 4 00:00:26,930.0005 --> 00:00:35,919.9995 Each week we'll answer your questions, share breastfeeding success stories, and inspire you to shut out the toxic whispers of the world and embrace your God given intuition to make confident breastfeeding decisions. 5 00:00:36,0.0005 --> 00:00:37,0.0005 Let's dive in. 6 00:00:37,0.0005 --> 00:00:39,199.068055861 Breastfeeding Hey, howdy. 7 00:00:39,199.068055861 --> 00:00:40,269.068055861 Hey, mama bear. 8 00:00:40,269.068055861 --> 00:00:42,789.068055861 Welcome back to the breastfeeding with confidence podcast. 9 00:00:43,169.068055861 --> 00:00:52,219.068055861 Today we are going to talk about three common myths that honestly can undermine breastfeeding if you fall for them. 10 00:00:52,809.067055861 --> 00:00:56,959.066055861 These three myths are just really common for some reason. 11 00:00:56,959.066055861 --> 00:01:06,729.067055861 And I can tell you just about every single mom I work with has repeated some iteration of each one of these myths. 12 00:01:06,949.067055861 --> 00:01:07,519.067055861 to me. 13 00:01:07,959.067055861 --> 00:01:16,829.067055861 And so I'm going to dive into each one, kind of tell you what the myth is, tell you why it's wrong and let you know what you need to know about it. 14 00:01:18,259.067055861 --> 00:01:22,499.067055861 First myth is that breastfeeding is supposed to hurt. 15 00:01:23,89.067055861 --> 00:01:31,964.067055861 Now, I have told you my breastfeeding story and my lactation consultant just kind of made me feel like pain is part of the process. 16 00:01:32,74.066055861 --> 00:01:37,244.066055861 pain is a rite of passage and you just kind of have to suck it up and get through it. 17 00:01:37,634.066055861 --> 00:01:42,784.06505586 And honestly, this is the sentiment a lot of moms are telling other moms. 18 00:01:43,954.06605586 --> 00:01:51,54.06605586 When I was pregnant with my oldest, I actually had somebody invite me over to her house. 19 00:01:51,74.06605586 --> 00:01:53,4.06505586 It was somebody I was getting to know a little bit. 20 00:01:53,14.06605586 --> 00:01:55,128.96605586 We weren't really friends, but we were pretty close. 21 00:01:55,539.06605586 --> 00:02:02,799.06605586 acquaintances, and she already had two kids and I was telling her how, you know, I really wanted a natural birth and I wanted to breastfeed. 22 00:02:04,159.06605586 --> 00:02:10,349.06605586 And she told me, you know, Jamie, you need to make sure that you prepare your nipples for breastfeeding by roughing them up. 23 00:02:10,769.06605586 --> 00:02:13,719.06505586 And I was like, I'm sorry, what? That sounds insane. 24 00:02:14,29.06505586 --> 00:02:22,319.06605586 And she was like, Look me dead in the eye and was like, Jamie, breastfeeding hurts and you need to be ready for it. 25 00:02:22,729.06605586 --> 00:02:25,269.06605586 And I was like, okay, crazy lady. 26 00:02:25,709.06605586 --> 00:02:31,719.06605586 Now I absolutely did have a ton of pain, but that's not because breastfeeding is supposed to hurt. 27 00:02:31,949.06505586 --> 00:02:33,869.06605586 It's because there was a problem. 28 00:02:34,459.06605586 --> 00:02:37,499.06605586 Now I'm not going to sugarcoat things. 29 00:02:37,539.06605586 --> 00:02:42,689.06605586 Y'all a little bit of discomfort in the early days, as you are learning what to do. 30 00:02:43,154.06605586 --> 00:02:45,224.06605586 is within the realm of normal. 31 00:02:45,644.06605586 --> 00:03:00,664.06605586 But first of all, there is a big difference between discomfort and newness and, um, slight uncomfortableness versus excruciating pain that makes you want to jump off a fricking building. 32 00:03:00,794.06505586 --> 00:03:01,144.06505586 Okay. 33 00:03:01,794.06605586 --> 00:03:09,34.06605586 There is a difference between discomfort and the kind of pain that makes you want to throw your baby across the room. 34 00:03:09,529.06605586 --> 00:03:16,679.06605586 And it's an actually seen response, okay? Like, those are two very different things, and they're often lumped in the same category. 35 00:03:17,289.06605586 --> 00:03:21,399.06605586 Second of all, Breastfeeding really isn't supposed to hurt. 36 00:03:21,459.06605586 --> 00:03:28,339.06605586 Even in those early days, when that discomfort is normal, it's a sign that you need to make some kind of adjustment. 37 00:03:28,749.06605586 --> 00:03:32,989.06605586 Breastfeeding hurts because your baby's not latching properly. 38 00:03:33,449.06605586 --> 00:03:34,609.06605586 Nine out of 10 times. 39 00:03:34,609.06605586 --> 00:03:43,309.06605586 There's a few other reasons and we'll jump into causes of pain in a different episode, but nine out of 10 times, it's because something's wrong with how your baby's latching. 40 00:03:43,609.06605586 --> 00:03:57,329.06605586 That doesn't mean you are doing something wrong and you are bad and need to feel bad about yourself, it just means you're both learning and some small adjustments can be a game changer. 41 00:03:57,789.06605586 --> 00:04:04,469.06605586 And a lot of these moms, you know, a lot of moms kind of figure out those adjustments over time and don't even really know what they're changing. 42 00:04:04,469.06605586 --> 00:04:06,229.06605586 They just are changing things. 43 00:04:06,729.06605586 --> 00:04:09,49.06605586 And then they're like, Oh, well it eventually got better. 44 00:04:09,49.06605586 --> 00:04:10,989.06605586 That's because it just got better. 45 00:04:11,469.06605586 --> 00:04:13,609.06605586 And it was like, no, you changed something. 46 00:04:13,609.06605586 --> 00:04:15,89.06605586 Your baby changed something. 47 00:04:15,99.06605586 --> 00:04:17,49.06605586 Specific things changed. 48 00:04:17,679.06605586 --> 00:04:21,479.06605586 Don't get caught up in this whole, Oh, it's normal for breastfeeding to hurt. 49 00:04:21,479.06605586 --> 00:04:22,639.06605586 Breastfeeding is supposed to hurt. 50 00:04:22,639.06605586 --> 00:04:28,329.06605586 So I just need to wait it out because the longer you wait, the more you're hurting yourself. 51 00:04:28,339.06605586 --> 00:04:29,609.06605586 You're losing time. 52 00:04:30,389.06605586 --> 00:04:52,989.06505586 Finding solutions and frankly, you're missing out on time that you could be enjoying your baby feeling frustrated and Miserable and just trying to like get through this season instead of enjoying it The second myth that I hear all the time is like well, my baby's latch looks fine. 53 00:04:52,989.06505586 --> 00:04:56,109.06505586 So it is fine Nurses will tell you all the time. 54 00:04:56,109.06505586 --> 00:04:57,169.06505586 Well, their latch looks good. 55 00:04:57,169.06505586 --> 00:05:01,544.06605586 If it hurts, I don't know what to tell you Lactation consultants will say the same thing. 56 00:05:01,554.06605586 --> 00:05:02,704.06605586 You know my story. 57 00:05:03,64.06605586 --> 00:05:12,504.06605586 You know, if you listened to the first episode that my lactation consultant literally told me that my latch looked fine and it hurt because I'm a sensitive redhead. 58 00:05:12,744.06605586 --> 00:05:21,384.06505586 Like what in the ever loving monkey business is that? Like what? I just, I still can't get over that. 59 00:05:21,864.06605586 --> 00:05:26,104.06605586 to this day that somebody had the nerve to say something like that to my face. 60 00:05:26,144.06605586 --> 00:05:28,14.06605586 And the truth is it's a lie. 61 00:05:28,634.06605586 --> 00:05:29,224.06605586 It's a lie. 62 00:05:29,244.06605586 --> 00:05:35,234.06605586 If the latch looks good and it still hurts, then something's, it's not a good latch. 63 00:05:35,254.06605586 --> 00:05:37,294.06505586 Something is wrong on the inside. 64 00:05:37,704.06605586 --> 00:05:39,834.06505586 We can see the outside. 65 00:05:40,129.06605586 --> 00:05:40,829.06605586 of the latch. 66 00:05:40,829.06605586 --> 00:05:44,69.06605586 We can see if the mouth is wide open and includes areola. 67 00:05:44,69.06605586 --> 00:05:52,289.06605586 If it seems like a deep latch, right, we can see if your baby's well aligned and well positioned and all of that is well and good. 68 00:05:52,299.06605586 --> 00:06:00,154.06605586 But if you're still in pain, that means something going on inside the mouth that we can't see is probably a miss. 69 00:06:00,214.06605586 --> 00:06:01,924.06605586 Something's not working right. 70 00:06:02,144.06605586 --> 00:06:04,874.06605586 So we need to just find out what that is. 71 00:06:05,184.06605586 --> 00:06:14,894.06605586 And that starts by breaking down how to get a deep latch step by step, looking at each step of that latch and figuring out which part's not working. 72 00:06:15,254.06505586 --> 00:06:23,859.06605586 That's what I teach you in the very first module of Latching with Confidence, because I want you to know each part of Getting a good latch. 73 00:06:23,889.06605586 --> 00:06:26,949.06605586 I don't want you to just do it absentmindedly. 74 00:06:27,309.06605586 --> 00:06:33,149.06605586 I want you to know what you're doing so that if there is a problem, you can figure out exactly which part of the latch. 75 00:06:33,514.06605586 --> 00:06:38,604.06605586 It's causing the problem and then we can solve the problem instead of just hoping it gets better. 76 00:06:39,114.06605586 --> 00:06:47,214.06605586 So if the latch looks good, but it does not feel good, it is not a good latch and that is the truth. 77 00:06:47,434.06605586 --> 00:06:58,474.06605586 If anybody tries to tell you otherwise, send them to come talk to me because we will have a very interesting conversation on why they think it's okay to tell people to suffer unnecessarily. 78 00:06:59,20.57886132 --> 00:07:13,30.57886131 Myth number three that has a tendency to sabotage breastfeeding before it has even started is the idea that the nipple to nose technique for latching is the best technique for a deep latch. 79 00:07:13,560.57886131 --> 00:07:24,805.57886131 Now, I show you how to use what I call the latch technique Inside my free secrets to a first latch without pain class and inside my latching with confidence class. 80 00:07:25,225.57886132 --> 00:07:39,948.91219465 But this whole idea of the nipple to nose technique is really born on the fact that your baby should have their chin extended and their chin should be touching the breast when they're first. 81 00:07:40,308.91219465 --> 00:07:48,898.91219465 And typically, if we're in the right kind of alignment, when your baby is in that position, the nipple would be lined up with the nose. 82 00:07:48,928.91219465 --> 00:07:50,958.91119465 The nipple and nose would be at a similar level. 83 00:07:51,368.91219465 --> 00:08:14,317.24552798 Baby's chin comes out, opens wide, and then they can latch on, um, They'll be just, just around where the nipple is to latch on, but when people use the nipple to nose technique as a latching technique in itself, it's skipping that entire first step of making sure that the baby's chin is extended. 84 00:08:14,917.24452798 --> 00:08:27,147.24552798 And when we are skipping that, it means the baby could still have a tucked chin and you could maneuver your nipple to still be at their nose and think that's going to get a good deep latch. 85 00:08:27,467.24552798 --> 00:08:28,537.24552798 And it's not. 86 00:08:28,807.24552798 --> 00:08:39,267.24552798 So we need to really understand why these techniques are, um, where these techniques come from and understand why we're using the technique we're using. 87 00:08:39,517.24552798 --> 00:08:47,877.24452798 That's why I love the latch technique that I teach you in Latching with Confidence so much because it, it really walks you through. 88 00:08:48,227.24552798 --> 00:08:54,757.24552798 What I call look at the chin and you have to look at how your baby's chin is positioned to determine if you're getting a good latch. 89 00:08:55,17.24552798 --> 00:09:00,37.24552798 If your baby's chin is not extended and it is tucked to their chest, you're not going to get a good latch. 90 00:09:00,337.24552798 --> 00:09:01,657.24452798 Nothing else is going to work. 91 00:09:01,667.24452798 --> 00:09:02,927.24452798 It doesn't matter the position. 92 00:09:02,937.24552798 --> 00:09:03,937.24552798 It doesn't matter. 93 00:09:04,357.24452798 --> 00:09:05,937.24552798 Um, nipple to nose. 94 00:09:05,967.24552798 --> 00:09:08,777.24552798 It's not going to work if your baby's chin is tucked. 95 00:09:09,437.24552798 --> 00:09:16,707.24552798 So these are the things that for some reason are not being taught to nurses in nursing school is not being taught to doctors. 96 00:09:16,727.24452798 --> 00:09:23,767.24652798 And even some lactation consultants don't realize is crucial for getting those good latches. 97 00:09:24,87.24452798 --> 00:09:28,277.24552798 And these are exactly the things that I teach you inside of latching with confidence. 98 00:09:28,447.24552798 --> 00:09:39,197.24552798 So whether you are pregnant and planning to breastfeed, or you are a new mom struggling to figure out how to get that really good first latch that really comfortable latch. 99 00:09:40,517.24552798 --> 00:09:51,767.24452798 Latching with confidence is going to break down step by step how to work with your baby to get a good latch and what to do if that's still not working. 100 00:09:52,67.24552798 --> 00:10:01,117.24552798 Um, all the little troubleshooting techniques, position changes you can do, different breast holds you can do, ways that you can support your baby's mouth. 101 00:10:01,117.24552798 --> 00:10:09,427.24452798 Whether or not you should be using a nipple shield and how to do that, how to heal cracked nipples if, hey, we have figured this latching thing out. 102 00:10:09,447.24552798 --> 00:10:14,297.24552798 It's getting better, but my nipples are still damaged and need to heal before the pain fully goes away. 103 00:10:14,657.24552798 --> 00:10:18,407.24552798 That's All laid out for you inside of latching with confidence. 104 00:10:18,497.24552798 --> 00:10:27,707.24452798 When you join now, you also get a free month of the confident mama 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.0005the longer you wait, the more you're hurting yourself. 2 00:00:03,280.0005 --> 00:00:04,550.0005 You're losing time. 3 00:00:05,330.0005 --> 00:00:26,660.0005 Finding solutions and frankly, you're missing out on time that you could be enjoying your baby feeling frustrated and Miserable I'm Jamie Zahke, IBCLC, and Mama Five, and this is the Breastfeeding with Confidence podcast where pregnant and new mothers learn how to prepare for and overcome breastfeeding challenges without being controlled by stress, fear, and anxiety. 4 00:00:26,930.0005 --> 00:00:35,919.9995 Each week we'll answer your questions, share breastfeeding success stories, and inspire you to shut out the toxic whispers of the world and embrace your God given intuition to make confident breastfeeding decisions. 5 00:00:36,0.0005 --> 00:00:37,0.0005 Let's dive in. 6 00:00:37,0.0005 --> 00:00:39,199.068055861 Breastfeeding Hey, howdy. 7 00:00:39,199.068055861 --> 00:00:40,269.068055861 Hey, mama bear. 8 00:00:40,269.068055861 --> 00:00:42,789.068055861 Welcome back to the breastfeeding with confidence podcast. 9 00:00:43,169.068055861 --> 00:00:52,219.068055861 Today we are going to talk about three common myths that honestly can undermine breastfeeding if you fall for them. 10 00:00:52,809.067055861 --> 00:00:56,959.066055861 These three myths are just really common for some reason. 11 00:00:56,959.066055861 --> 00:01:06,729.067055861 And I can tell you just about every single mom I work with has repeated some iteration of each one of these myths. 12 00:01:06,949.067055861 --> 00:01:07,519.067055861 to me. 13 00:01:07,959.067055861 --> 00:01:16,829.067055861 And so I'm going to dive into each one, kind of tell you what the myth is, tell you why it's wrong and let you know what you need to know about it. 14 00:01:18,259.067055861 --> 00:01:22,499.067055861 First myth is that breastfeeding is supposed to hurt. 15 00:01:23,89.067055861 --> 00:01:31,964.067055861 Now, I have told you my breastfeeding story and my lactation consultant just kind of made me feel like pain is part of the process. 16 00:01:32,74.066055861 --> 00:01:37,244.066055861 pain is a rite of passage and you just kind of have to suck it up and get through it. 17 00:01:37,634.066055861 --> 00:01:42,784.06505586 And honestly, this is the sentiment a lot of moms are telling other moms. 18 00:01:43,954.06605586 --> 00:01:51,54.06605586 When I was pregnant with my oldest, I actually had somebody invite me over to her house. 19 00:01:51,74.06605586 --> 00:01:53,4.06505586 It was somebody I was getting to know a little bit. 20 00:01:53,14.06605586 --> 00:01:55,128.96605586 We weren't really friends, but we were pretty close. 21 00:01:55,539.06605586 --> 00:02:02,799.06605586 acquaintances, and she already had two kids and I was telling her how, you know, I really wanted a natural birth and I wanted to breastfeed. 22 00:02:04,159.06605586 --> 00:02:10,349.06605586 And she told me, you know, Jamie, you need to make sure that you prepare your nipples for breastfeeding by roughing them up. 23 00:02:10,769.06605586 --> 00:02:13,719.06505586 And I was like, I'm sorry, what? That sounds insane. 24 00:02:14,29.06505586 --> 00:02:22,319.06605586 And she was like, Look me dead in the eye and was like, Jamie, breastfeeding hurts and you need to be ready for it. 25 00:02:22,729.06605586 --> 00:02:25,269.06605586 And I was like, okay, crazy lady. 26 00:02:25,709.06605586 --> 00:02:31,719.06605586 Now I absolutely did have a ton of pain, but that's not because breastfeeding is supposed to hurt. 27 00:02:31,949.06505586 --> 00:02:33,869.06605586 It's because there was a problem. 28 00:02:34,459.06605586 --> 00:02:37,499.06605586 Now I'm not going to sugarcoat things. 29 00:02:37,539.06605586 --> 00:02:42,689.06605586 Y'all a little bit of discomfort in the early days, as you are learning what to do. 30 00:02:43,154.06605586 --> 00:02:45,224.06605586 is within the realm of normal. 31 00:02:45,644.06605586 --> 00:03:00,664.06605586 But first of all, there is a big difference between discomfort and newness and, um, slight uncomfortableness versus excruciating pain that makes you want to jump off a fricking building. 32 00:03:00,794.06505586 --> 00:03:01,144.06505586 Okay. 33 00:03:01,794.06605586 --> 00:03:09,34.06605586 There is a difference between discomfort and the kind of pain that makes you want to throw your baby across the room. 34 00:03:09,529.06605586 --> 00:03:16,679.06605586 And it's an actually seen response, okay? Like, those are two very different things, and they're often lumped in the same category. 35 00:03:17,289.06605586 --> 00:03:21,399.06605586 Second of all, Breastfeeding really isn't supposed to hurt. 36 00:03:21,459.06605586 --> 00:03:28,339.06605586 Even in those early days, when that discomfort is normal, it's a sign that you need to make some kind of adjustment. 37 00:03:28,749.06605586 --> 00:03:32,989.06605586 Breastfeeding hurts because your baby's not latching properly. 38 00:03:33,449.06605586 --> 00:03:34,609.06605586 Nine out of 10 times. 39 00:03:34,609.06605586 --> 00:03:43,309.06605586 There's a few other reasons and we'll jump into causes of pain in a different episode, but nine out of 10 times, it's because something's wrong with how your baby's latching. 40 00:03:43,609.06605586 --> 00:03:57,329.06605586 That doesn't mean you are doing something wrong and you are bad and need to feel bad about yourself, it just means you're both learning and some small adjustments can be a game changer. 41 00:03:57,789.06605586 --> 00:04:04,469.06605586 And a lot of these moms, you know, a lot of moms kind of figure out those adjustments over time and don't even really know what they're changing. 42 00:04:04,469.06605586 --> 00:04:06,229.06605586 They just are changing things. 43 00:04:06,729.06605586 --> 00:04:09,49.06605586 And then they're like, Oh, well it eventually got better. 44 00:04:09,49.06605586 --> 00:04:10,989.06605586 That's because it just got better. 45 00:04:11,469.06605586 --> 00:04:13,609.06605586 And it was like, no, you changed something. 46 00:04:13,609.06605586 --> 00:04:15,89.06605586 Your baby changed something. 47 00:04:15,99.06605586 --> 00:04:17,49.06605586 Specific things changed. 48 00:04:17,679.06605586 --> 00:04:21,479.06605586 Don't get caught up in this whole, Oh, it's normal for breastfeeding to hurt. 49 00:04:21,479.06605586 --> 00:04:22,639.06605586 Breastfeeding is supposed to hurt. 50 00:04:22,639.06605586 --> 00:04:28,329.06605586 So I just need to wait it out because the longer you wait, the more you're hurting yourself. 51 00:04:28,339.06605586 --> 00:04:29,609.06605586 You're losing time. 52 00:04:30,389.06605586 --> 00:04:52,989.06505586 Finding solutions and frankly, you're missing out on time that you could be enjoying your baby feeling frustrated and Miserable and just trying to like get through this season instead of enjoying it The second myth that I hear all the time is like well, my baby's latch looks fine. 53 00:04:52,989.06505586 --> 00:04:56,109.06505586 So it is fine Nurses will tell you all the time. 54 00:04:56,109.06505586 --> 00:04:57,169.06505586 Well, their latch looks good. 55 00:04:57,169.06505586 --> 00:05:01,544.06605586 If it hurts, I don't know what to tell you Lactation consultants will say the same thing. 56 00:05:01,554.06605586 --> 00:05:02,704.06605586 You know my story. 57 00:05:03,64.06605586 --> 00:05:12,504.06605586 You know, if you listened to the first episode that my lactation consultant literally told me that my latch looked fine and it hurt because I'm a sensitive redhead. 58 00:05:12,744.06605586 --> 00:05:21,384.06505586 Like what in the ever loving monkey business is that? Like what? I just, I still can't get over that. 59 00:05:21,864.06605586 --> 00:05:26,104.06605586 to this day that somebody had the nerve to say something like that to my face. 60 00:05:26,144.06605586 --> 00:05:28,14.06605586 And the truth is it's a lie. 61 00:05:28,634.06605586 --> 00:05:29,224.06605586 It's a lie. 62 00:05:29,244.06605586 --> 00:05:35,234.06605586 If the latch looks good and it still hurts, then something's, it's not a good latch. 63 00:05:35,254.06605586 --> 00:05:37,294.06505586 Something is wrong on the inside. 64 00:05:37,704.06605586 --> 00:05:39,834.06505586 We can see the outside. 65 00:05:40,129.06605586 --> 00:05:40,829.06605586 of the latch. 66 00:05:40,829.06605586 --> 00:05:44,69.06605586 We can see if the mouth is wide open and includes areola. 67 00:05:44,69.06605586 --> 00:05:52,289.06605586 If it seems like a deep latch, right, we can see if your baby's well aligned and well positioned and all of that is well and good. 68 00:05:52,299.06605586 --> 00:06:00,154.06605586 But if you're still in pain, that means something going on inside the mouth that we can't see is probably a miss. 69 00:06:00,214.06605586 --> 00:06:01,924.06605586 Something's not working right. 70 00:06:02,144.06605586 --> 00:06:04,874.06605586 So we need to just find out what that is. 71 00:06:05,184.06605586 --> 00:06:14,894.06605586 And that starts by breaking down how to get a deep latch step by step, looking at each step of that latch and figuring out which part's not working. 72 00:06:15,254.06505586 --> 00:06:23,859.06605586 That's what I teach you in the very first module of Latching with Confidence, because I want you to know each part of Getting a good latch. 73 00:06:23,889.06605586 --> 00:06:26,949.06605586 I don't want you to just do it absentmindedly. 74 00:06:27,309.06605586 --> 00:06:33,149.06605586 I want you to know what you're doing so that if there is a problem, you can figure out exactly which part of the latch. 75 00:06:33,514.06605586 --> 00:06:38,604.06605586 It's causing the problem and then we can solve the problem instead of just hoping it gets better. 76 00:06:39,114.06605586 --> 00:06:47,214.06605586 So if the latch looks good, but it does not feel good, it is not a good latch and that is the truth. 77 00:06:47,434.06605586 --> 00:06:58,474.06605586 If anybody tries to tell you otherwise, send them to come talk to me because we will have a very interesting conversation on why they think it's okay to tell people to suffer unnecessarily. 78 00:06:59,20.57886132 --> 00:07:13,30.57886131 Myth number three that has a tendency to sabotage breastfeeding before it has even started is the idea that the nipple to nose technique for latching is the best technique for a deep latch. 79 00:07:13,560.57886131 --> 00:07:24,805.57886131 Now, I show you how to use what I call the latch technique Inside my free secrets to a first latch without pain class and inside my latching with confidence class. 80 00:07:25,225.57886132 --> 00:07:39,948.91219465 But this whole idea of the nipple to nose technique is really born on the fact that your baby should have their chin extended and their chin should be touching the breast when they're first. 81 00:07:40,308.91219465 --> 00:07:48,898.91219465 And typically, if we're in the right kind of alignment, when your baby is in that position, the nipple would be lined up with the nose. 82 00:07:48,928.91219465 --> 00:07:50,958.91119465 The nipple and nose would be at a similar level. 83 00:07:51,368.91219465 --> 00:08:14,317.24552798 Baby's chin comes out, opens wide, and then they can latch on, um, They'll be just, just around where the nipple is to latch on, but when people use the nipple to nose technique as a latching technique in itself, it's skipping that entire first step of making sure that the baby's chin is extended. 84 00:08:14,917.24452798 --> 00:08:27,147.24552798 And when we are skipping that, it means the baby could still have a tucked chin and you could maneuver your nipple to still be at their nose and think that's going to get a good deep latch. 85 00:08:27,467.24552798 --> 00:08:28,537.24552798 And it's not. 86 00:08:28,807.24552798 --> 00:08:39,267.24552798 So we need to really understand why these techniques are, um, where these techniques come from and understand why we're using the technique we're using. 87 00:08:39,517.24552798 --> 00:08:47,877.24452798 That's why I love the latch technique that I teach you in Latching with Confidence so much because it, it really walks you through. 88 00:08:48,227.24552798 --> 00:08:54,757.24552798 What I call look at the chin and you have to look at how your baby's chin is positioned to determine if you're getting a good latch. 89 00:08:55,17.24552798 --> 00:09:00,37.24552798 If your baby's chin is not extended and it is tucked to their chest, you're not going to get a good latch. 90 00:09:00,337.24552798 --> 00:09:01,657.24452798 Nothing else is going to work. 91 00:09:01,667.24452798 --> 00:09:02,927.24452798 It doesn't matter the position. 92 00:09:02,937.24552798 --> 00:09:03,937.24552798 It doesn't matter. 93 00:09:04,357.24452798 --> 00:09:05,937.24552798 Um, nipple to nose. 94 00:09:05,967.24552798 --> 00:09:08,777.24552798 It's not going to work if your baby's chin is tucked. 95 00:09:09,437.24552798 --> 00:09:16,707.24552798 So these are the things that for some reason are not being taught to nurses in nursing school is not being taught to doctors. 96 00:09:16,727.24452798 --> 00:09:23,767.24652798 And even some lactation consultants don't realize is crucial for getting those good latches. 97 00:09:24,87.24452798 --> 00:09:28,277.24552798 And these are exactly the things that I teach you inside of latching with confidence. 98 00:09:28,447.24552798 --> 00:09:39,197.24552798 So whether you are pregnant and planning to breastfeed, or you are a new mom struggling to figure out how to get that really good first latch that really comfortable latch. 99 00:09:40,517.24552798 --> 00:09:51,767.24452798 Latching with confidence is going to break down step by step how to work with your baby to get a good latch and what to do if that's still not working. 100 00:09:52,67.24552798 --> 00:10:01,117.24552798 Um, all the little troubleshooting techniques, position changes you can do, different breast holds you can do, ways that you can support your baby's mouth. 101 00:10:01,117.24552798 --> 00:10:09,427.24452798 Whether or not you should be using a nipple shield and how to do that, how to heal cracked nipples if, hey, we have figured this latching thing out. 102 00:10:09,447.24552798 --> 00:10:14,297.24552798 It's getting better, but my nipples are still damaged and need to heal before the pain fully goes away. 103 00:10:14,657.24552798 --> 00:10:18,407.24552798 That's All laid out for you inside of latching with confidence. 104 00:10:18,497.24552798 --> 00:10:27,707.24452798 When you join now, you also get a free month of the confident mama bear society, which means you get to come join me in the confident mama bear society. 105 00:10:28,17.24552798 --> 00:10:37,977.24552798 Join me on live calls to ask your questions, to actually implement the techniques you're learning and ask like, Hey, this technique isn't working. 106 00:10:37,987.24552798 --> 00:10:42,117.24552798 And then I tried this and that's not working, but this, this, this, and this is happening. 107 00:10:42,537.24552798 --> 00:10:54,687.24552798 What's going on and we can figure it out together so that you can feel confident and start making the changes that you need to make so you can actually enjoy breastfeeding. 108 00:10:55,377.24552798 --> 00:10:59,547.24552798 If you want to learn more about latching with confidence, you can visit littlebearlactation. 109 00:10:59,587.24652798 --> 00:11:01,617.24652798 com slash latching with confidence. 110 00:11:01,687.24652798 --> 00:11:10,82.24652798 I hope to see you inside because I believe that you deserve to enjoy breastfeeding and I can help you do that. 111 00:11:10,284.08232441 --> 00:11:12,434.08232441 All right, Mama Bear, that is a wrap for today. 112 00:11:12,454.08232441 --> 00:11:20,584.08232441 If this episode helped you feel a little more confident or a little more prepared for breastfeeding, can I ask you a quick favor? 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