If you care about autonomy, informed consent, and saying no to pressure in pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding, this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, I’m joined by doula and Holistic Pregnancy Podcast host, Taylor Shaffer, to unpack what real informed consent actually looks like (and why those hospital “consent forms” usually aren’t it).
We walk through the BRAIN method—Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, and doing Nothing—so you can use it to make confident decisions about:
Prenatal tests
Inductions (especially in the busy holiday season)
Epidurals and birth interventions
Newborn procedures
Tongue tie releases
Formula “top offs” and early breastfeeding decisions
Whether you’re still pregnant or already holding your baby, this episode will help you recognize coercive language, spot red flags, and stand firm in your right to say no—in the hospital, at home, and in the postpartum/breastfeeding trenches.
You are not a “difficult patient.” You are a mother making informed, intentional choices for your body and your baby.
In This Episode, We Talk About:What informed consent really means (and why signing a hospital form is not the same thing)
The difference between liability-focused consent forms and true autonomy-centered informed consent
How to use the BRAIN method in real conversations with providers:
Benefits
Risks
Alternatives
Intuition
doing Nothing / waiting
Red flags that your provider is not giving you full informed consent:
How to tell the difference between a real emergency and “manufactured urgency”
Why it is never too late to switch providers—even late in pregnancy
How informed consent continues into postpartum and breastfeeding, not just birth
What informed consent looks like when:
Nurses are “helping” with latch in the hospital
You’re being pressured to supplement with formula
Someone says your baby is tongue tied and you “need a release”
Why you need a breastfeeding plan (not just a birth plan)
The role of doulas, IBCLCs, and holistic practitioners in supporting autonomy-centered care
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Topics Covered in this episode:
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