January 28, 2025 • 18 mins
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Watched One of Them Days with Keke Palmerand SZA last night and it was dope.
Like, I think the trailerreally did it justice.
, the movie was funny.
I had a good time.
And while I was watching it, Ireally got some, some good life
tools, tidbits, whatever from it.
That I want to share with y'all today.
, it's not a spoiler.
(00:21):
So if you haven't watched the movie,one, get out there and watch the movie.
Go, head out to the movies.
, if you watched the trailer,then you don't have to worry.
I'm not about to spoil nothing.
I'm not about to tell y'all no,no new things that y'all have not
gotten from the trailer itself.
So anyway, without further ado,let's get into this episode and talk
about a few key life tidbits, ahas,pointers that I got from this movie.
(00:45):
An empowered woman is a powerfulwoman, and when powerful women
unite, change happens for the better.
Welcome to the Come On,Sis, Let's Talk Talkspace.
You are now tuning in to Come On ,Sis,Let's Talk with your host, Syeeta.
What's up y'all?
Welcome back to Come On Sis, Let's Talk.
So I'm talking about one of themdays with Kiki Palmer and SZA.
(01:06):
, no I'm not paid by them,but it was a dope movie.
, the reality is we all go throughsomething, every last one of us, we
go through something, you have a day,you have a week, you have a month.
, and if you ever watched Friday,like I think a lot of us have, it
was a pretty, it was a funny movie.
I mean, Chris Tucker, right?
It goes to show that things can happen.
Things happen in life and sometimeswe get a day that goes left.
(01:29):
Now, of course, a lot of thesemovies or these two movies really
are intended to be a little extra.
, but we all go through something.
And what I pulled from this movie was afew things about just life in general.
One, be resilient.
So in the, if you watch the trailer,you know, that there's a couple
of, , Girls played by Kiki Palmerand SZA, who are friends, and the
(01:50):
rent was stolen by a boyfriend.
Okay, and so now they need tofigure out how to get the money,
so, being resilient.
, in life, things are gonnahappen, , not according to plan.
Things just happen, and we haveto know how to move and shake,.
We have to know how to bounce back.
We didn't have to know how togo to plan B, C, D, Z, whatever.
(02:13):
We need to know how to be pliablein this life, how to get to where
we need to go and take extra steps,different journeys, different courses.
Forge our own paths to get there becausethat's how we win at life We went at life
by thinking for ourselves coming up withour own decisions sometimes in concert
(02:36):
with a friend or family or whatever Butreally learning how to utilize our brains
utilize that knowledge that doesn't comefrom AI or someplace else but comes from
here Okay, so I mean it was pretty dopebecause you know, you follow along the
path of a day With two girls, excuse me,follow along the path of a day with two
women who are trying to figure it out.
(02:58):
And they go through a few differentthings, but the whole purpose is
figuring it out, thinking about howto make it work when it's not working.
And if any of you been in life, ifyou have a life like mine, The path
of straight and narrow is not it.
Right.
And anytime I feel like I come upwith a plan, that plan be thwarted,
and I have to come up with somethingdifferent sometimes on the fly.
(03:20):
And so we have to be on the ready tomake decisions , as they come up I
feel like a lot of us get caught up in.
This idea of complacency, or like, itdidn't work for me, woe is me, my plan
didn't come to fruition, somebody saidsomething bad to me, , this didn't
work out, this person didn't, theywere supposed to do this, and they
(03:42):
didn't do it, and so now I'm pissedoff, like, we have to get out of that.
Yes, sometimes in your life it'sgoing to be somebody else's fault.
Sometimes it's going to be your fault.
But whether it's your fault orsomebody else's fault, it don't
matter, it's still your life.
So we have to learn how to, we haveto learn how to dig in our toolbox.
If you watch Mickey MouseClubhouse, then you got to dig in
(04:02):
that toolbox and find some tools.
That's it.
We, I mean, we have to stop lookingat life from a perspective of good
and bad, positive and negative.
It just is.
This is our journey.
So we need to stop puttingextra on it and just live it.
Live it.
Be resilient.
And like, it is an adventure.
(04:24):
And the adventure is not always nice.
The adventure is not always goingto make you feel warm and fuzzy.
It's not, that's just, it's not.
So get that out your head.
If you're trying to live a life of onlypeace and joy and happiness and, you know,
skipping around, it's not going to happen.
But the sooner you.
Accept that, that betteryour life will be.
(04:44):
I promise you.
I have been in some situations, honey.
And you know, I've never been, you know,super poor and down and out and never had
a, you know, not had a roof over my head.
But I think we have allbeen in situations where.
It just didn't work out, especially whenyou thought it was going to work out.
The person that you was riding with, theperson that you depend on, wasn't there.
(05:06):
They just, they messed up, theyfumbled the bag, they whatever.
The family member, the friend,that you thought was definitely
going to be there, wasn't.
The opportunity that looked like itwas a sure situation didn't happen,
you got ghosted, whatever it was, wejust have to learn how to be resilient.
And this movie, and as you canprobably tell from the trailer,
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they have to go on this missionto figure out how to make it work.
We have to be comfortable.
Learning how to make it work andsometimes it's gonna be funny like for
a long time I have I still say thisnow actually that my life feels like an
episode of Martin if you ever watchedMartin Hilarious comedy, but I feel
like sometimes like it's an episode ofMartin in my personal life things happen
(05:51):
like okay I'm running late for work.
That would be the same day.
The tire pressure is low That'll bethe same day that I don't have no gas
because I forgot to get gas the nightbefore and I thought that morning I
was gonna get gas and now the trafficis That that's how my life tends to
work out And I have gotten to thepoint where I'm like, okay, what else?
What's next?
Right?
Because sitting in a space whereyou just frustrated gets you nowhere,
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keeps you from thinking, keeps youfrom coming up with a different.
Keeps you from comingup with different ideas.
Keeps you from really surprisingyourself as to how you're
going to get out this hole.
So be resilient.
And if you don't know how to beresilient, work on some puzzles for real.
Learn how to put yourself in a spacewhere you're having to figure it out.
Do some puzzles, do somearts and crafts, do something
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that's going to make you think.
I like to do, , Let's just, I liketo do Wordle, , with New York Times,
it's just one puzzle.
Luminosity has a bunchof different brain games.
Those are just some examples.
Do a crossword puzzle.
Do a, um, uh, what do you call that?
Cryptoquip.
Something, something that makes yourbrain think, we have to get comfortable
with thinking because using our thinkingbrain and not some, you know, computer
(07:02):
generated, , When we text and it
changes the word to the right word forus, like, we have to learn how to stop
relying on things and people and learnto rely on ourselves and our brains.
So that's one thing I got from the movie.
The other thing I got from itwas, the truth still set you free.
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Now I'm not gonna be specificabout where I got this from, but
essentially, we got to be honest,
being honest about how we feel is going togive us the freedom that we need in life.
Part of the honesty is being honestwith ourselves, right, looking yourself
in the mirror, like, girl, there'ssome things that we need to work on,
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okay, you and I, and working on them.
We have to be honest, whether it's, opportunities that we are missing out
on, whether it's our relationship withourself or somebody else, whether it's
where we are in our life right now, , andwe trying to get someplace else, whatever.
We have to just be honest andI'm not advocating for going out
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there and be honest with somebodyelse just because like, Hey, you
trash, like that's unnecessary.
What I'm saying is in the momentwhen we're having conversations,
when we're having dialogue, whetherit's with ourselves or somebody else.
We have to just be honest aboutour feelings and our opinions.
For instance, I went toa dinner the other night.
I went to a dinner.
(08:27):
, And somebody was presenting at thedinner and they, they said a word
that I did not, I didn't know.
They said it a couple of times and Iwas like, okay, I'm looking around.
Nobody else seems to bepuzzled by this word.
I had never heard this word andI did not know the definition.
So what I do, raise my hand, excuseme, what does this word mean?
And I got the answer.
(08:49):
The word was lubricious.
Okay.
I never heard that word before in my life.
Slick, is what it means, but I knowthat I was not the only person who
had not heard that word, but you knowwhat set me free asking that question.
I didn't care if somebodylooked at me crazy.
I didn't care.
If somebody was like, girl,you don't know that word.
Like, I don't care how dumband the reality is, I know.
Cause I had never heard that word before,but even if they did feel free, stand
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in your truth and , ask questions.
If you need to ask, tell somebody thetruth about how you feel about them.
If you need to, you don't have to be rude.
, if it's something that you think isnegative, , if you think somebody
looks nice or smells good, tellthem, it don't have to be nothing
that's forward or improper, youcan just tell somebody how you feel.
Hey girl, you look good.
You know what I'm saying?
Like I like your outfit.
I like your jacket.
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Or if you're talking to yourfriend, I really did not
like how you said that to me.
You hurt my feelings, wehave to be honest.
If somebody hurt your feelings, tellthem that they hurt your feelings.
If you didn't like how somebody wascoming at you, tell them that you
didn't like how they was coming at you.
Be open.
Communicate.
We have to be real.
We have to be morecomfortable with being true.
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Oh, and don't forgetto tell me how it goes.
Yes, I know this is close,but it's that serious.
Honest.
It's gonna set us free.
Too many of us out here livein somebody else's truth.
And it's not ours.
What is true to you?
And a lot of times we got this naggingsituation, we might have a friend.
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, Who does a thing or it could be yourspouse does a thing or things that
you're really not feeling but youjust don't say anything because you
don't want to hurt their feelings.
You don't want to have an argument.
You don't want to have a disagreement.
You don't want to go there.
You don't want to change the mood.
You don't want to change the tone.
But if it's something that's botheringyou and you are in a situation with
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a person or your job or anything.
We just have to learn how to be truthful.
Start with us.
Start with yourself, be truthful,it's going to set us free to
live the lives meant for us.
so when I watched this movie, , andit got to this part, you know, in
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the movie where, , there was sometruth telling, I was like, yes.
Yes, because, and then you seehow truth telling just allows you
to be freer, like it just allowsyou to feel like, damn, I said it.
You don't have to hold it in anymore,the thing about being honest, you don't
have to hold it in because holdingstuff in is energy, that's energy.
Why are you holding up that energy?
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Put the energy out there so it canbe utilized for something else good.
Emphasis on good, something positive,put the energy of truth out there.
It does not have to be somethingthat is a detriment to yourself
or society or another person.
It doesn't have to be negative.
It just has to be honest.
It has to be a truth coming from you.
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It just is what it is.
We have to be comfortablegetting out there.
You know, a truth for me is that.
When I'm not at home, Itend to be uncomfortable.
I like the comfort of my home.
I like the comfort of my things.
And doing things that keep me out of myhouse, keep me out of doing the things
that I'm used to doing, are uncomfortable.
That's my truth.
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And so I make it known, I makeit clear, I make it plain.
, but that doesn't stop me from doing it.
It makes it better.
When I go out and do these things, becauseI know that, I've spoken it out, I let
that, I'll release that energy out there.
But it's not going to keep mefrom doing the things that make me
uncomfortable, because that's my truth.
Okay, , another truth of mine isthat sometimes I feel uncomfortable
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with the words that I'm speaking.
, like I'm talking to y'all right now,sometimes I stumble and fumble all over
my words, I speak too fast sometimes.
, But it's okay because I'mbeing honest about that,
I'm letting y'all know.
So when y'all see it inreal time, it's like, okay.
She already said that she, , shesometime got an issue talking too fast.
I'm gonna slow it down sometime.
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Sometimes y'all could tell meif I'm talking too fast for you.
Slow it down.
Okay.
I heard you.
I'll slow it down.
, but that's my truth.
Living in our truth not only sets usfree, it opens us up to opportunities
that we may not have otherwise seen.
The last thing that I will getinto that we can probably get
from the trailer is, , friendship.
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Friendship is a beautiful thing.
One thing I really appreciated aboutthe movie These are two women working
together to figure something out andthrough the course of the movie You can
see how their friendship and the dynamicswithin their friendship plays out.
It's beautiful It's touching especiallyas you know as we get older as
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women And I'm gonna talk to my mom.
Actually, I'm gonna come up with anotherepisode send out my mom talking about
, creating, cultivating friendships asan adult because it's challenging.
, , but to see these women, who hadthis beautiful friendship, , and how
that plays out through the courseof the movie, I thought was dope.
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I really thought it was dope.
I always love to see women outthere empowering other women.
Hence this whole talk space.
, but I really thought it was beautifuland it is a, it is an, , it was an
opportunity for me to see the importanceof female empowerment, the importance
of the positivity that we can allget male, female, or otherwise from.
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, looking at two women on screen who areworking together who have a friendship and
despite whatever's going on between them,they can come up with a plan of action.
I really just thought that was, Beautiful.
Something that we can allextrapolate to our own lives.
, the importance of havingreally good relationships.
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, it could be a friendship, it couldbe with your spouse, it could be
with your cousin, your, your, yourbrother, your sister, your mom,
your, your, your father, whatever.
, Just the beauty of a relationship thatis solid and unconditional, because
a lot of us, we finicky out here.
I'm with you one day.
I'm not with you the nextand you know, I'll be honest.
I'm a person.
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I'll cut you off quick.
However There are people in my life,like I'm sure you have people in
your life that you're just down for,
I'm not advocating for, you know,taking nobody's mess and breaking up
your peace, disturbing your peace.
But when you have some really good solidrelationships that you know it is two
sided and y'all are both rocking witheach other and it's an unconditional
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situation, it's beautiful and reallywork to cultivate that and working to
Sustained a good relationship takeswork, , it definitely takes work, , it
takes communication, it takes honesty,it can, it takes, you know, being
truthful, , , it takes, , understandingand acceptance of another person, , And
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I just felt like, although, maybe themovie was intended to hit those points, I
don't know, but that's what I got from it.
I got a really good feeling, , outside ofjust the comedy, and the feel goodness
of the movie, a really good feelingabout having a positive relationship,
particularly about two women in thissituation, how women can really come
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together, , in a positive way, ina positive light, , and be unified.
And it was just, it was just dope.
I really just liked that.
And of course, two black women, right?
Because we don't really see a lotof that on screen where there are
two black women on screen, in amajor film in a positive light who
are working together in this way.
So I really, really.
I really appreciated that.
, and those are the three things.
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, I would suggest goingout to see the movie.
, especially if you, you know, got a couplegirlfriends, , I went with my husband,
but if you got a couple girlfriends, go.
It's a really good feel good movie.
If you like the comedy, , you can laugh.
, if you like to laugh.
I mean, I think we all liketo laugh at some point.
But some of these pointers, like Imentioned, , and others will be in that
movie, , I recommend going out to see itwith somebody that you like being around.
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It could be your friend.
It could be your spouse.
It could be a family member.
Don't matter.
And I mean, if you haven't watchedit yet, think about these different
things, unconditional relationships,truth telling, being truthful with
yourself and being resilient and seewhat other ones you can come up with.
If you have watched the movie, leaveme a comment and let me know if you
agree that this movie does a goodjob of touching on those points.
(17:41):
, and whether or not you foundsome other things that you
found to be really important.
Female empowerment, I believe,is the way of the future.
It has to be.
It has to be.
There's a lot going on.
But us as women, working together.
, as a united front unconditionally tomake moves, , is the most beautiful
thing for obviously our societies,but for the world as a whole,
(18:07):
we know how to get things going.
We know how to think for ourselves.
We know how to build community.
We know how to build families.
We have raised this world.
And just the unity and the solidarityand the power that we have.
We all need to know that we have that.
, and so I just want toleave y'all with this.
(18:29):
It's never too late tostart working on you.
Peace out y'all.
And I'll catch you on the next one.
Oh, don't forget to like subscribe,share, tell a friend, tell a friend, let
me know how you feel about this episode.
Peace out y'all.
Watched One of Them Days with Keke Palmerand SZA last night and it was dope.
Like, I think the trailerreally did it justice.
, the movie was funny.
I had a good time.
And while I was watching it, Ireally got some, some good life
tools, tidbits, whatever from it.
That I want to share with y'all today.
, it's not a spoiler.
(00:21):
So if you haven't watched the movie,one, get out there and watch the movie.
Go, head out to the movies.
, if you watched the trailer,then you don't have to worry.
I'm not about to spoil nothing.
I'm not about to tell y'all no,no new things that y'all have not
gotten from the trailer itself.
So anyway, without further ado,let's get into this episode and talk
about a few key life tidbits, ahas,pointers that I got from this movie.
(00:45):
An empowered woman is a powerfulwoman, and when powerful women
unite, change happens for the better.
Welcome to the Come On,Sis, Let's Talk Talkspace.
You are now tuning in to Come On ,Sis,Let's Talk with your host, Syeeta.
What's up y'all?
Welcome back to Come On Sis, Let's Talk.
So I'm talking about one of themdays with Kiki Palmer and SZA.
(01:06):
, no I'm not paid by them,but it was a dope movie.
, the reality is we all go throughsomething, every last one of us, we
go through something, you have a day,you have a week, you have a month.
, and if you ever watched Friday,like I think a lot of us have, it
was a pretty, it was a funny movie.
I mean, Chris Tucker, right?
It goes to show that things can happen.
Things happen in life and sometimeswe get a day that goes left.
(01:29):
Now, of course, a lot of thesemovies or these two movies really
are intended to be a little extra.
, but we all go through something.
And what I pulled from this movie was afew things about just life in general.
One, be resilient.
So in the, if you watch the trailer,you know, that there's a couple
of, , Girls played by Kiki Palmerand SZA, who are friends, and the
(01:50):
rent was stolen by a boyfriend.
Okay, and so now they need tofigure out how to get the money,
so, being resilient.
, in life, things are gonnahappen, , not according to plan.
Things just happen, and we haveto know how to move and shake,.
We have to know how to bounce back.
We didn't have to know how togo to plan B, C, D, Z, whatever.
(02:13):
We need to know how to be pliablein this life, how to get to where
we need to go and take extra steps,different journeys, different courses.
Forge our own paths to get there becausethat's how we win at life We went at life
by thinking for ourselves coming up withour own decisions sometimes in concert
(02:36):
with a friend or family or whatever Butreally learning how to utilize our brains
utilize that knowledge that doesn't comefrom AI or someplace else but comes from
here Okay, so I mean it was pretty dopebecause you know, you follow along the
path of a day With two girls, excuse me,follow along the path of a day with two
women who are trying to figure it out.
(02:58):
And they go through a few differentthings, but the whole purpose is
figuring it out, thinking about howto make it work when it's not working.
And if any of you been in life, ifyou have a life like mine, The path
of straight and narrow is not it.
Right.
And anytime I feel like I come upwith a plan, that plan be thwarted,
and I have to come up with somethingdifferent sometimes on the fly.
(03:20):
And so we have to be on the ready tomake decisions , as they come up I
feel like a lot of us get caught up in.
This idea of complacency, or like, itdidn't work for me, woe is me, my plan
didn't come to fruition, somebody saidsomething bad to me, , this didn't
work out, this person didn't, theywere supposed to do this, and they
(03:42):
didn't do it, and so now I'm pissedoff, like, we have to get out of that.
Yes, sometimes in your life it'sgoing to be somebody else's fault.
Sometimes it's going to be your fault.
But whether it's your fault orsomebody else's fault, it don't
matter, it's still your life.
So we have to learn how to, we haveto learn how to dig in our toolbox.
If you watch Mickey MouseClubhouse, then you got to dig in
(04:02):
that toolbox and find some tools.
That's it.
We, I mean, we have to stop lookingat life from a perspective of good
and bad, positive and negative.
It just is.
This is our journey.
So we need to stop puttingextra on it and just live it.
Live it.
Be resilient.
And like, it is an adventure.
(04:24):
And the adventure is not always nice.
The adventure is not always goingto make you feel warm and fuzzy.
It's not, that's just, it's not.
So get that out your head.
If you're trying to live a life of onlypeace and joy and happiness and, you know,
skipping around, it's not going to happen.
But the sooner you.
Accept that, that betteryour life will be.
(04:44):
I promise you.
I have been in some situations, honey.
And you know, I've never been, you know,super poor and down and out and never had
a, you know, not had a roof over my head.
But I think we have allbeen in situations where.
It just didn't work out, especially whenyou thought it was going to work out.
The person that you was riding with, theperson that you depend on, wasn't there.
(05:06):
They just, they messed up, theyfumbled the bag, they whatever.
The family member, the friend,that you thought was definitely
going to be there, wasn't.
The opportunity that looked like itwas a sure situation didn't happen,
you got ghosted, whatever it was, wejust have to learn how to be resilient.
And this movie, and as you canprobably tell from the trailer,
(05:27):
they have to go on this missionto figure out how to make it work.
We have to be comfortable.
Learning how to make it work andsometimes it's gonna be funny like for
a long time I have I still say thisnow actually that my life feels like an
episode of Martin if you ever watchedMartin Hilarious comedy, but I feel
like sometimes like it's an episode ofMartin in my personal life things happen
(05:51):
like okay I'm running late for work.
That would be the same day.
The tire pressure is low That'll bethe same day that I don't have no gas
because I forgot to get gas the nightbefore and I thought that morning I
was gonna get gas and now the trafficis That that's how my life tends to
work out And I have gotten to thepoint where I'm like, okay, what else?
What's next?
Right?
Because sitting in a space whereyou just frustrated gets you nowhere,
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keeps you from thinking, keeps youfrom coming up with a different.
Keeps you from comingup with different ideas.
Keeps you from really surprisingyourself as to how you're
going to get out this hole.
So be resilient.
And if you don't know how to beresilient, work on some puzzles for real.
Learn how to put yourself in a spacewhere you're having to figure it out.
Do some puzzles, do somearts and crafts, do something
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that's going to make you think.
I like to do, , Let's just, I liketo do Wordle, , with New York Times,
it's just one puzzle.
Luminosity has a bunchof different brain games.
Those are just some examples.
Do a crossword puzzle.
Do a, um, uh, what do you call that?
Cryptoquip.
Something, something that makes yourbrain think, we have to get comfortable
with thinking because using our thinkingbrain and not some, you know, computer
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generated, , When we text and it
changes the word to the right word forus, like, we have to learn how to stop
relying on things and people and learnto rely on ourselves and our brains.
So that's one thing I got from the movie.
The other thing I got from itwas, the truth still set you free.
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Now I'm not gonna be specificabout where I got this from, but
essentially, we got to be honest,
being honest about how we feel is going togive us the freedom that we need in life.
Part of the honesty is being honestwith ourselves, right, looking yourself
in the mirror, like, girl, there'ssome things that we need to work on,
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okay, you and I, and working on them.
We have to be honest, whether it's, opportunities that we are missing out
on, whether it's our relationship withourself or somebody else, whether it's
where we are in our life right now, , andwe trying to get someplace else, whatever.
We have to just be honest andI'm not advocating for going out
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there and be honest with somebodyelse just because like, Hey, you
trash, like that's unnecessary.
What I'm saying is in the momentwhen we're having conversations,
when we're having dialogue, whetherit's with ourselves or somebody else.
We have to just be honest aboutour feelings and our opinions.
For instance, I went toa dinner the other night.
I went to a dinner.
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, And somebody was presenting at thedinner and they, they said a word
that I did not, I didn't know.
They said it a couple of times and Iwas like, okay, I'm looking around.
Nobody else seems to bepuzzled by this word.
I had never heard this word andI did not know the definition.
So what I do, raise my hand, excuseme, what does this word mean?
And I got the answer.
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The word was lubricious.
Okay.
I never heard that word before in my life.
Slick, is what it means, but I knowthat I was not the only person who
had not heard that word, but you knowwhat set me free asking that question.
I didn't care if somebodylooked at me crazy.
I didn't care.
If somebody was like, girl,you don't know that word.
Like, I don't care how dumband the reality is, I know.
Cause I had never heard that word before,but even if they did feel free, stand
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in your truth and , ask questions.
If you need to ask, tell somebody thetruth about how you feel about them.
If you need to, you don't have to be rude.
, if it's something that you think isnegative, , if you think somebody
looks nice or smells good, tellthem, it don't have to be nothing
that's forward or improper, youcan just tell somebody how you feel.
Hey girl, you look good.
You know what I'm saying?
Like I like your outfit.
I like your jacket.
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Or if you're talking to yourfriend, I really did not
like how you said that to me.
You hurt my feelings, wehave to be honest.
If somebody hurt your feelings, tellthem that they hurt your feelings.
If you didn't like how somebody wascoming at you, tell them that you
didn't like how they was coming at you.
Be open.
Communicate.
We have to be real.
We have to be morecomfortable with being true.
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Yes, I know this is close,but it's that serious.
Honest.
It's gonna set us free.
Too many of us out here livein somebody else's truth.
And it's not ours.
What is true to you?
And a lot of times we got this naggingsituation, we might have a friend.
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, Who does a thing or it could be yourspouse does a thing or things that
you're really not feeling but youjust don't say anything because you
don't want to hurt their feelings.
You don't want to have an argument.
You don't want to have a disagreement.
You don't want to go there.
You don't want to change the mood.
You don't want to change the tone.
But if it's something that's botheringyou and you are in a situation with
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a person or your job or anything.
We just have to learn how to be truthful.
Start with us.
Start with yourself, be truthful,it's going to set us free to
live the lives meant for us.
so when I watched this movie, , andit got to this part, you know, in
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the movie where, , there was sometruth telling, I was like, yes.
Yes, because, and then you seehow truth telling just allows you
to be freer, like it just allowsyou to feel like, damn, I said it.
You don't have to hold it in anymore,the thing about being honest, you don't
have to hold it in because holdingstuff in is energy, that's energy.
Why are you holding up that energy?
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Put the energy out there so it canbe utilized for something else good.
Emphasis on good, something positive,put the energy of truth out there.
It does not have to be somethingthat is a detriment to yourself
or society or another person.
It doesn't have to be negative.
It just has to be honest.
It has to be a truth coming from you.
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It just is what it is.
We have to be comfortablegetting out there.
You know, a truth for me is that.
When I'm not at home, Itend to be uncomfortable.
I like the comfort of my home.
I like the comfort of my things.
And doing things that keep me out of myhouse, keep me out of doing the things
that I'm used to doing, are uncomfortable.
That's my truth.
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And so I make it known, I makeit clear, I make it plain.
, but that doesn't stop me from doing it.
It makes it better.
When I go out and do these things, becauseI know that, I've spoken it out, I let
that, I'll release that energy out there.
But it's not going to keep mefrom doing the things that make me
uncomfortable, because that's my truth.
Okay, , another truth of mine isthat sometimes I feel uncomfortable
(12:54):
with the words that I'm speaking.
, like I'm talking to y'all right now,sometimes I stumble and fumble all over
my words, I speak too fast sometimes.
, But it's okay because I'mbeing honest about that,
I'm letting y'all know.
So when y'all see it inreal time, it's like, okay.
She already said that she, , shesometime got an issue talking too fast.
I'm gonna slow it down sometime.
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Sometimes y'all could tell meif I'm talking too fast for you.
Slow it down.
Okay.
I heard you.
I'll slow it down.
, but that's my truth.
Living in our truth not only sets usfree, it opens us up to opportunities
that we may not have otherwise seen.
The last thing that I will getinto that we can probably get
from the trailer is, , friendship.
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Friendship is a beautiful thing.
One thing I really appreciated aboutthe movie These are two women working
together to figure something out andthrough the course of the movie You can
see how their friendship and the dynamicswithin their friendship plays out.
It's beautiful It's touching especiallyas you know as we get older as
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women And I'm gonna talk to my mom.
Actually, I'm gonna come up with anotherepisode send out my mom talking about
, creating, cultivating friendships asan adult because it's challenging.
, , but to see these women, who hadthis beautiful friendship, , and how
that plays out through the courseof the movie, I thought was dope.
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I really thought it was dope.
I always love to see women outthere empowering other women.
Hence this whole talk space.
, but I really thought it was beautifuland it is a, it is an, , it was an
opportunity for me to see the importanceof female empowerment, the importance
of the positivity that we can allget male, female, or otherwise from.
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, looking at two women on screen who areworking together who have a friendship and
despite whatever's going on between them,they can come up with a plan of action.
I really just thought that was, Beautiful.
Something that we can allextrapolate to our own lives.
, the importance of havingreally good relationships.
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, it could be a friendship, it couldbe with your spouse, it could be
with your cousin, your, your, yourbrother, your sister, your mom,
your, your, your father, whatever.
, Just the beauty of a relationship thatis solid and unconditional, because
a lot of us, we finicky out here.
I'm with you one day.
I'm not with you the nextand you know, I'll be honest.
I'm a person.
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I'll cut you off quick.
However There are people in my life,like I'm sure you have people in
your life that you're just down for,
I'm not advocating for, you know,taking nobody's mess and breaking up
your peace, disturbing your peace.
But when you have some really good solidrelationships that you know it is two
sided and y'all are both rocking witheach other and it's an unconditional
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situation, it's beautiful and reallywork to cultivate that and working to
Sustained a good relationship takeswork, , it definitely takes work, , it
takes communication, it takes honesty,it can, it takes, you know, being
truthful, , , it takes, , understandingand acceptance of another person, , And
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I just felt like, although, maybe themovie was intended to hit those points, I
don't know, but that's what I got from it.
I got a really good feeling, , outside ofjust the comedy, and the feel goodness
of the movie, a really good feelingabout having a positive relationship,
particularly about two women in thissituation, how women can really come
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together, , in a positive way, ina positive light, , and be unified.
And it was just, it was just dope.
I really just liked that.
And of course, two black women, right?
Because we don't really see a lotof that on screen where there are
two black women on screen, in amajor film in a positive light who
are working together in this way.
So I really, really.
I really appreciated that.
, and those are the three things.
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, I would suggest goingout to see the movie.
, especially if you, you know, got a couplegirlfriends, , I went with my husband,
but if you got a couple girlfriends, go.
It's a really good feel good movie.
If you like the comedy, , you can laugh.
, if you like to laugh.
I mean, I think we all liketo laugh at some point.
But some of these pointers, like Imentioned, , and others will be in that
movie, , I recommend going out to see itwith somebody that you like being around.
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It could be your friend.
It could be your spouse.
It could be a family member.
Don't matter.
And I mean, if you haven't watchedit yet, think about these different
things, unconditional relationships,truth telling, being truthful with
yourself and being resilient and seewhat other ones you can come up with.
If you have watched the movie, leaveme a comment and let me know if you
agree that this movie does a goodjob of touching on those points.
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, and whether or not you foundsome other things that you
found to be really important.
Female empowerment, I believe,is the way of the future.
It has to be.
It has to be.
There's a lot going on.
But us as women, working together.
, as a united front unconditionally tomake moves, , is the most beautiful
thing for obviously our societies,but for the world as a whole,
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we know how to get things going.
We know how to think for ourselves.
We know how to build community.
We know how to build families.
We have raised this world.
And just the unity and the solidarityand the power that we have.
We all need to know that we have that.
, and so I just want toleave y'all with this.
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It's never too late tostart working on you.
Peace out y'all.
And I'll catch you on the next one.
Oh, don't forget to like subscribe,share, tell a friend, tell a friend, let
me know how you feel about this episode.
Peace out y'all.
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