May 27, 2025 • 24 mins
Episode 79: You Have to Fight for You!
Fighting for Your Dreams: Embracing Inner Advocacy and Discipline
In this episode of 'Conversations with Kimen,' host Kimen Petersen delves into the importance of fighting for one's potential, dreams, and goals. Highlighting the distinction between battling what you don't want versus striving for what you do, Kimen emphasizes the power of focus and discipline. With personal anecdotes and references to thought leaders like Eckhart Tolle and Albert Einstein, he explores how internal dialogues can both hinder and bolster our aspirations. Kimen discusses the role of the sympathetic nervous system, the significance of setting and working towards massive goals, and the importance of becoming one's own inner advocate. This episode inspires listeners to reshape their thinking, focus on their aspirations, and consistently pursue their dreams with unwavering determination.
00:00 Introduction to Conversations with Kimen
00:28 The Power of Fighting for Your Dreams
00:45 Understanding Resistance and Acceptance
02:20 The Inner Critic and Self-War
09:34 The Role of Discipline and Motivation
11:38 Creating a Life Around Your Goals
13:16 The Importance of Health and Longevity
21:50 Becoming Your Own Inner Advocate
24:05 Conclusion and Call to Action
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. Conversations with Kimen is aboutinspiration, life lessons, and wisdom.
Your host, Kimen Petersen shareshis stories to inspire you to live
a more soulful and illuminated life.
The topics covered in this podcastare as personal opinions inspired by
life, experience, and conversationsshared with amazing people.
Kimen hopes to encourage you tobe guided by life in the flow.
(00:23):
So the whole journey is moremanageable and joyful and fulfilling.
You gotta fight.
Fight for you.
Fight for your potential, fight foryour dreams, fight for your goals.
(00:45):
And I know often I talk about how
resistance causes persistence andacceptance causes disappearance.
That's not exactly whatI'm going for here.
Because when I say resistancecauses persistence, I mean resisting
something that you don't want.
(01:06):
So when you resist something you don'twant, you actually feed it energy.
See, you don't fight against thethings you don't want in life.
You have to fight for whatyou want in this life.
(01:27):
Now that seems like a small distinction,but it's actually really big because think
of it, if you were spending your wholelife battling to try to change things
you don't want, you don't like aboutyourself, I, Albert Einstein said it best.
What you focus on expands.
(01:47):
So the more energy you give towardsthe things you don't want, even
if you're trying to change them,you're trying to unwind them.
You're still giving them energy.
Think about you could take thatenergy to displace the things
you don't like, you don't want.
(02:08):
By actually really figuringout what you want in this life.
Like what's your purpose?
Like why are you doing what you're doing?
I mean, for me, it took me many years.
Many, many years of I, I felt like Iwas actually in a war against myself.
(02:31):
And not only was I in a war againstmyself, but I was kind of allied with
the forces that were trying to takeme down and trying to make me not
accomplish things and trying to tell methat I was useless, that I was a loser.
(02:51):
That I'd never be able to dosomething that I was a waste of space.
Literally, I was just displacing acertain amount of air until I die,
and I would like repeat these negativethings over and over in my head, I was
(03:12):
literally battling to ensure that I never.
It really did anythingworthwhile in this life.
And I didn't even know, um, thatthat's what I was doing because it
was just like, there's this innercritic, this inner dialogue that's
going on all the time and I was reallyconfused because I thought that was me.
(03:35):
That's who I am.
Like obviously if it's in myown head, it's gotta be me.
And I think it was introduced tome by Eckhart Toley, that that
inner dialogue was, it was anaspect of me, but it wasn't me.
(03:56):
And as, as I turned, and I kind of lookedover the years a little deeper and deeper
into it, um, they talked about the innerdialogue as being an extension of the
sympathetic nervous system, you know.
As the cranium got bigger, abrain got bigger, cognition got
bigger, so we could think deeper.
(04:18):
And the problem is like the moreself-awareness, the more cognition,
the more thinking about not justbeing in the moment, but everything
else you could think there wouldbe start to see the possibility of
perceived threat rather than just.
Um, like there's a lion, it's comingat me, fight or flight run or pick
(04:43):
up my spear and try to kill it.
Um, it was more like some kindof an exist existential threat.
Like, you know, maybe I don't fitin with this crew, or, you know,
what am I gonna do about food?
And so that inner dialoguewas built up and I guess as.
You know, as we went throughthe generations and things got
(05:04):
kind of easier for human beings,it was more about like threats.
Like, you know what, if my boss doesn'tlike me, I'm not gonna have a job and
then I'm gonna starve and I'm gonna,I'm not gonna be able to feed my family.
And maybe as a child, some ofthe things we build up, like you
do something, like you expressyourself openly, you get laughed at.
(05:31):
And that inner dialogue decides I'mnever gonna let that happen again.
And then every time you try to expandor free or freely express yourself,
just before you do, it's like your innerdialogue goes, no, no, don't do it.
You'll be so embarrassed.
Like, stop, stop, stop.
Fear, fear, fear.
Your heart rate gets elevated,your blood pressure elevates.
(05:53):
You start to sweat.
You start to shake.
Sympathetic nervous system.
And so that inner critic or um, ego senseof identity, it, it is protecting you, but
it's predicting you by keeping you small.
(06:14):
And maybe if you're like me, that,that inner dialogue that says you
can't do this, maybe it, there comesa time when you have to tell it.
Well, you know, thank you forsharing, but I'm gonna try anyway.
And it's like
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we, we do have dreams, right?
We do have things and goals and thethings we want to do, and then there's
the fear around not accomplishingthem or not being good enough.
And I don't know about you.
I was, I was out running this morning.
And I just heard that song and I'vetalked about it in another episode.
(06:57):
I'm not giving up.
I'm not giving up.
I'm not giving up.
No, not yet.
Even when I'm down to my lastbreath and I realized as I'm
coming back it's, it is amazing.
I get really emotional when Ihear that song, which is kind
of nice 'cause I don't get superemotional, a lot of time for music.
(07:19):
But that's one.
Because it really set, speaksto me in the sense that,
that you gotta fight for your dreams.
You gotta fight for that version, futureversion of yourself that's screaming
across like time across planes,across dimensions, saying, come on.
(07:44):
Because I think most of us havean idea of something really
big that we would love to do.
Something would, wouldbe really inspiring.
And yet sometimes we just don't go for it.
You know?
And maybe it's 'cause it's gonnatake too much time or it's too hard.
(08:07):
And maybe it's 'cause we don'tbelieve we're good enough.
You know I did an episode calledYou might as well go for it.
The time's gonna pass anyway.
And it's like if there's anythingbig that you really have a desire
to move in the direction, youweren't given that desire lightly,
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but that desire's not goingto like actualize itself.
You have to do, you have to do the work.
You have to like, you have to bite.
You have to fight the internaldialogue that's telling you you can't,
like when I went, decided to go backrunning and I knew how much running
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was gonna suck because I, my hip stillhurt and I was really outta shape.
Like running, running fitness was reallypoor and the, it sucked the whole way.
And literally, I got up in the morningand I really didn't want to go run.
I, I was like, I even considered justgoing and just hanging around outside
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and for like 25 minutes and then goingback inside and pretending that I'd run,
but you gotta fight.
And so I'd go out, I'd run andit would suck the whole way.
All the way there, all the way back.
And I had to like.
Part of your fight has tobe leading into discipline.
(09:37):
'cause if there's anything youreally want to do in this life,
you're not gonna get motivated.
The motivated does notcome and then you do it.
You gotta get disciplined.
So first off, part of the fight is youget consciously disciplined to do it.
You say, I'm gonna do itby this time, and you do it
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and.
It, it might not be enjoyable.
It might be really hard, butyou ju you do it and then you do
it again, and you do it again,
and one day, whatever you're workingtowards, it doesn't suck as bad
because discipline will get youmoving in the direction, right?
(10:23):
A desire to fight for what you wantwill help you like aim the discipline.
I mean, if you can figure out whyyou're doing it, that'll also help.
So the discipline willget you out of the door.
Discipline will get you moving, and asyou get moving towards something big,
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like say you're moving towards your dream,your goal, or maybe you're moving towards
the potential, at first you, you're usingyour discipline to move you forward.
And that's getting you moving.
And after you're moving for a whileand it doesn't suck so much, that's
(11:06):
where you get the motivation.
And it's interesting when you startto get motivated to do something,
you'll do it more consistently, uh,consistently, and you won't spend so
much, you won't spend so much energy.
And discipline yourself to do it.
'cause now you're motivated and withmotivation, you'll start creating
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some consistency, working towardsyour goal, creating your life.
Like if there's somethingyou really want to do.
You actually get, will have to getreally defined and specific and
you gotta plan your life around it.
You like, people will want tofit something into their life
that's, that's so hard to do.
We're all busy.
There's so much.
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And it's like if you're tryingto like jam it in the corners,
you're just gonna push it aside.
You might not even do it.
So literally you have to create alife, create your life around that.
So if you're like me.
I, I work, um, typically I'm cominginto the office either six 30 in between
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six 30 and seven 30 in the morning, andI'm here till 7:00 PM six days a week.
So how do I create a life aroundrunning well at 7:00 PM I'm going home.
I need food.
I can't run after I know that.
So.
What do I do?
And it's like I havethis internal dialogue.
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This is, oh man, I'm gonna beso tired if I run in the morning
and I'm getting up early, sucks.
And, and I take a, a little lookat my life and it's like, Hey,
you know, I'm going to bed at 1030, 10 30 pm and what am I doing
in between nine and 10 30 besideslike, scrolling on my phone, playing
games on my phone, and watching tv.
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So I said, okay, I'mgonna go to bed at night.
And I'm gonna get up beforefive and I'm gonna run.
And at first it washard, but you know what?
One of the reasons I got intorunning is 'cause my blood pressure
got outta control, my weight gotoutta control, and now it's really
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coming around to a different place
and I can see that I can look in thefuture and see who I want to be like.
I've said it before, the reason I'm doingthis podcast, 'cause I want to make a
difference in the world, and I don't knowif I'm good enough for that, but I don't
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know that I'm not good enough for that.
And I don't know if my message will landanywhere, but I don't know that it won't.
But I'll tell you what.
I know if you do something consistentlyover and over again, if you fight through
the negative dialogue through the thingthat says you can't or you're not gonna
make it, and you just keep on gettingout there and keep on getting back up.
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Every time you get knocked down, you keepon swinging over and over and over again.
You will get better.
And I really like.
My goal is to make a difference onthe planet, which is huge and probably
bigger than is possible in thislifetime, but I don't know for sure.
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But if you really want to have animpact in life, if you really want
to do something big, you have toset this massive goal, this goal
that's bigger than you are thisgoal that's nearly impossible.
And then you have to spend a life
trying as if you believeyou can reach that goal.
Against all odds, you are in aninternal battle with your mind.
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It's, it's going, oh yeah,you're never gonna get anywhere.
And you look at the stat and you're barelygetting any downloads and it's like,
and you look like, why am I doing this?
And you have to overcome that.
That's the inner dialogue.
The inner critic is going to try.
To stop you because it wants toprevent you from getting hurt.
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It wants to preteprevent you from failing,
but it does it by keeping it small.
And what you have to do is youhave to strengthen the inner
advocate, which means intentionally
when the inner critic iscoming back at you, you, you.
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Engage the inner advocate saying,no, I got this, I'm gonna do this.
And they're like, you'll never get there.
And I like, I don't care.
I'm gonna put everything I got in this.
And at the end of the day, if yougive 100% of what you have into some
project, if you honestly fight, yougive All you have in the day you have,
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it doesn't matter the outcome.
Because you'll be satisfiedthat you did everything you
could, and this is where I'm at.
I'm working on my health, andwhy am I working on my health?
Because I want to extend my life as far asI can into the future because I know if I
keep on doing this, I'm gonna get better.
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Can you imagine if you had such abig goal, such a big dream, that
you actually gave your life to.
And then you realize that in order tomake, in order to make it to that goal,
you are gonna have to extend your life.
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So now you start working on healthbecause like if you want to be successful
in any area of your life, you actuallyhave to work on every area of your life.
So.
I am working on my health, uh, losingweight, getting fit, running, and I've got
all these incredible goals around running.
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Like I'm gonna run a half marathon,um, near the end of June this year.
Next year I'm gonna run a marathon andI'm gonna do a bunch of stuff in between.
I.
Um, because I can see the possibilityof such a healthy human being, I could
be, and that healthy human being who'sworking on getting an incredible message
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out in the world and changing the world
is gonna need everyminute of this existence.
We're gonna have to keep on,like I, my desire and dream
is with my failing breath.
Somewhere in my late nineties, on mylast day, I record one more episode,
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one more inspirational episode.
One more thing to send out into theworld as I'm believing this world,
and that will be a life well spent.
So you've gotta fight that innercritic that says you're never gonna
accomplish, and you gotta get upearly and do the work day after day.
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And you can't rely onpeople cheering for you.
'cause people don't cheer cheerfor you until you make it.
And then they cheer.
They're not, there's, there's gonnabe a few people in your life that
are cheering you all the way through,but the majority of the support
you're gonna get after you make it.
So you can't actually bedoing it for the support.
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You have to have a bigger reason.
You have to have a big enough why?
'cause honestly, if you have a big enoughwhy, and I'm gonna do an episode on
this, it'll drown out all hows you willfind a way because it's that important.
Think about what you focus onexpands from Albert Einstein.
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If you are focusing on all the thingsyou want to create in your life, then you
don't have to put any energy onto, ontothe things that you don't want anymore.
If you completely and utterly tookyour life and you knew the dream
you were going for, you knew who youwanted to be, and you took a look at
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all the things you need to create,all the things you need to become.
You know, the idea of setting agoal and focusing on who you need
to become the person that wouldaccomplish that goal, that's the path.
You don't have to focus on whatyou need to take out of your life.
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You just so utterly focus on allthe things you need to create
that need, need to become like inorder to achieve your potential.
And if you're so focused on that, allthe other stuff starts falling away.
Like bad habits are gonna fall awaybecause there's not time for bad habits.
There's not time to like sit there andscroll on your phone for hours and hours
(20:04):
and hours anymore because you're gettingup at four 30 to go for a five o'clock in
the morning, run before you get to work.
And then on the weekend afteryour long run, you're like.
In the office recording podcast episodesand videos for shorts, for social media
to like drive more people towards you.
If that's your dream,that's my dream actually.
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You need to fight for youand you're fighting for
the potential, the possibility ofwhat you could be on this planet.
You're fighting for your dreams.
You're fighting for your goals.
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You're not fightingagainst anything anymore.
You're putting all your energy in thedirection of your dreams and goals.
'cause I'm not giving up.
And you're also having an internalwar with the inner critic.
(21:13):
And you're not actually battling it in asense, but you're, you're just telling it.
Thank you for sharing.
I know that you're trying to protect mefrom, from being hurt, but you know what?
The way you do that is you try to keepme small and I'm not here to be small.
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I'm here to be amazing.
I'm here to be powerful.
I'm here to be inspiring.
I, I'm actually here to change the world,
so I'm gonna go and dowhat I have to do anyway.
Become your own inner advocate.
I mean, it's funny, it's like.
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I used to be running and Iwould be like, I'm so tired.
I'm so tired, I'm so tired.
And now it's like I'm sayingout loud, you got this.
Keep on going.
Keep it going.
Keep it going.
It's like the episode I did, your bodywill give up, will try, or your brain will
try to give up long before your body does.
And it's like, now it's like.
If my brain starts likegoing, I can't do it.
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I just like check in with my legs.
How you doing?
Oh, you're fine.
Not tired.
Okay, great.
How's the hips?
Oh, you're doing good too.
Okay, good.
How's the breath?
Oh, good.
Can we go a little faster?
Yeah, sure.
Let's go.
Like that's being an inner advocate,
it's like.
Even like you can be an outer advocate.
'cause sometimes people are like,oh, I think you're doing too much.
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And I'm like, I alwayssay, Hey, you know what?
The human body is built anddesigned to heal, heal itself.
It can and it will.
It's resilient.
It's strong.
It's amazing.
It's impressive.
And as, as long as you'rebalancing your recovery with
your load, you can do anything.
And I mean anything.
You just have to balanceyour recovery with your load.
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That's all.
That's it.
And that's, that's it.
It's like if you really want tohave any opportunity, any chance to
reach your potential in this, thislife, you have to fight for you.
You have to fight for yourpotential, fight for your
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dreams, and fight for your goals
and become.
Your, your own internal and externaladvocate become your biggest cheerleader.
It's you against you anyway.
And so don't go down the path I did.
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Or if you're on thatpath, it's time to change.
If you're in a battle with yourselfand you're undermining self, I.
It is time to consciously changethat and start fighting for you.
Thanks for listening.
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. Conversations with Kimen is aboutinspiration, life lessons, and wisdom.
Your host, Kimen Petersen shareshis stories to inspire you to live
a more soulful and illuminated life.
The topics covered in this podcastare as personal opinions inspired by
life, experience, and conversationsshared with amazing people.
Kimen hopes to encourage you tobe guided by life in the flow.
(00:23):
So the whole journey is moremanageable and joyful and fulfilling.
You gotta fight.
Fight for you.
Fight for your potential, fight foryour dreams, fight for your goals.
(00:45):
And I know often I talk about how
resistance causes persistence andacceptance causes disappearance.
That's not exactly whatI'm going for here.
Because when I say resistancecauses persistence, I mean resisting
something that you don't want.
(01:06):
So when you resist something you don'twant, you actually feed it energy.
See, you don't fight against thethings you don't want in life.
You have to fight for whatyou want in this life.
(01:27):
Now that seems like a small distinction,but it's actually really big because think
of it, if you were spending your wholelife battling to try to change things
you don't want, you don't like aboutyourself, I, Albert Einstein said it best.
What you focus on expands.
(01:47):
So the more energy you give towardsthe things you don't want, even
if you're trying to change them,you're trying to unwind them.
You're still giving them energy.
Think about you could take thatenergy to displace the things
you don't like, you don't want.
(02:08):
By actually really figuringout what you want in this life.
Like what's your purpose?
Like why are you doing what you're doing?
I mean, for me, it took me many years.
Many, many years of I, I felt like Iwas actually in a war against myself.
(02:31):
And not only was I in a war againstmyself, but I was kind of allied with
the forces that were trying to takeme down and trying to make me not
accomplish things and trying to tell methat I was useless, that I was a loser.
(02:51):
That I'd never be able to dosomething that I was a waste of space.
Literally, I was just displacing acertain amount of air until I die,
and I would like repeat these negativethings over and over in my head, I was
(03:12):
literally battling to ensure that I never.
It really did anythingworthwhile in this life.
And I didn't even know, um, thatthat's what I was doing because it
was just like, there's this innercritic, this inner dialogue that's
going on all the time and I was reallyconfused because I thought that was me.
(03:35):
That's who I am.
Like obviously if it's in myown head, it's gotta be me.
And I think it was introduced tome by Eckhart Toley, that that
inner dialogue was, it was anaspect of me, but it wasn't me.
(03:56):
And as, as I turned, and I kind of lookedover the years a little deeper and deeper
into it, um, they talked about the innerdialogue as being an extension of the
sympathetic nervous system, you know.
As the cranium got bigger, abrain got bigger, cognition got
bigger, so we could think deeper.
(04:18):
And the problem is like the moreself-awareness, the more cognition,
the more thinking about not justbeing in the moment, but everything
else you could think there wouldbe start to see the possibility of
perceived threat rather than just.
Um, like there's a lion, it's comingat me, fight or flight run or pick
(04:43):
up my spear and try to kill it.
Um, it was more like some kindof an exist existential threat.
Like, you know, maybe I don't fitin with this crew, or, you know,
what am I gonna do about food?
And so that inner dialoguewas built up and I guess as.
You know, as we went throughthe generations and things got
(05:04):
kind of easier for human beings,it was more about like threats.
Like, you know what, if my boss doesn'tlike me, I'm not gonna have a job and
then I'm gonna starve and I'm gonna,I'm not gonna be able to feed my family.
And maybe as a child, some ofthe things we build up, like you
do something, like you expressyourself openly, you get laughed at.
(05:31):
And that inner dialogue decides I'mnever gonna let that happen again.
And then every time you try to expandor free or freely express yourself,
just before you do, it's like your innerdialogue goes, no, no, don't do it.
You'll be so embarrassed.
Like, stop, stop, stop.
Fear, fear, fear.
Your heart rate gets elevated,your blood pressure elevates.
(05:53):
You start to sweat.
You start to shake.
Sympathetic nervous system.
And so that inner critic or um, ego senseof identity, it, it is protecting you, but
it's predicting you by keeping you small.
(06:14):
And maybe if you're like me, that,that inner dialogue that says you
can't do this, maybe it, there comesa time when you have to tell it.
Well, you know, thank you forsharing, but I'm gonna try anyway.
And it's like
(06:34):
we, we do have dreams, right?
We do have things and goals and thethings we want to do, and then there's
the fear around not accomplishingthem or not being good enough.
And I don't know about you.
I was, I was out running this morning.
And I just heard that song and I'vetalked about it in another episode.
(06:57):
I'm not giving up.
I'm not giving up.
I'm not giving up.
No, not yet.
Even when I'm down to my lastbreath and I realized as I'm
coming back it's, it is amazing.
I get really emotional when Ihear that song, which is kind
of nice 'cause I don't get superemotional, a lot of time for music.
(07:19):
But that's one.
Because it really set, speaksto me in the sense that,
that you gotta fight for your dreams.
You gotta fight for that version, futureversion of yourself that's screaming
across like time across planes,across dimensions, saying, come on.
(07:44):
Because I think most of us havean idea of something really
big that we would love to do.
Something would, wouldbe really inspiring.
And yet sometimes we just don't go for it.
You know?
And maybe it's 'cause it's gonnatake too much time or it's too hard.
(08:07):
And maybe it's 'cause we don'tbelieve we're good enough.
You know I did an episode calledYou might as well go for it.
The time's gonna pass anyway.
And it's like if there's anythingbig that you really have a desire
to move in the direction, youweren't given that desire lightly,
(08:30):
but that desire's not goingto like actualize itself.
You have to do, you have to do the work.
You have to like, you have to bite.
You have to fight the internaldialogue that's telling you you can't,
like when I went, decided to go backrunning and I knew how much running
(08:53):
was gonna suck because I, my hip stillhurt and I was really outta shape.
Like running, running fitness was reallypoor and the, it sucked the whole way.
And literally, I got up in the morningand I really didn't want to go run.
I, I was like, I even considered justgoing and just hanging around outside
(09:15):
and for like 25 minutes and then goingback inside and pretending that I'd run,
but you gotta fight.
And so I'd go out, I'd run andit would suck the whole way.
All the way there, all the way back.
And I had to like.
Part of your fight has tobe leading into discipline.
(09:37):
'cause if there's anything youreally want to do in this life,
you're not gonna get motivated.
The motivated does notcome and then you do it.
You gotta get disciplined.
So first off, part of the fight is youget consciously disciplined to do it.
You say, I'm gonna do itby this time, and you do it
(10:00):
and.
It, it might not be enjoyable.
It might be really hard, butyou ju you do it and then you do
it again, and you do it again,
and one day, whatever you're workingtowards, it doesn't suck as bad
because discipline will get youmoving in the direction, right?
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A desire to fight for what you wantwill help you like aim the discipline.
I mean, if you can figure out whyyou're doing it, that'll also help.
So the discipline willget you out of the door.
Discipline will get you moving, and asyou get moving towards something big,
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like say you're moving towards your dream,your goal, or maybe you're moving towards
the potential, at first you, you're usingyour discipline to move you forward.
And that's getting you moving.
And after you're moving for a whileand it doesn't suck so much, that's
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where you get the motivation.
And it's interesting when you startto get motivated to do something,
you'll do it more consistently, uh,consistently, and you won't spend so
much, you won't spend so much energy.
And discipline yourself to do it.
'cause now you're motivated and withmotivation, you'll start creating
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some consistency, working towardsyour goal, creating your life.
Like if there's somethingyou really want to do.
You actually get, will have to getreally defined and specific and
you gotta plan your life around it.
You like, people will want tofit something into their life
that's, that's so hard to do.
We're all busy.
There's so much.
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And it's like if you're tryingto like jam it in the corners,
you're just gonna push it aside.
You might not even do it.
So literally you have to create alife, create your life around that.
So if you're like me.
I, I work, um, typically I'm cominginto the office either six 30 in between
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six 30 and seven 30 in the morning, andI'm here till 7:00 PM six days a week.
So how do I create a life aroundrunning well at 7:00 PM I'm going home.
I need food.
I can't run after I know that.
So.
What do I do?
And it's like I havethis internal dialogue.
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This is, oh man, I'm gonna beso tired if I run in the morning
and I'm getting up early, sucks.
And, and I take a, a little lookat my life and it's like, Hey,
you know, I'm going to bed at 1030, 10 30 pm and what am I doing
in between nine and 10 30 besideslike, scrolling on my phone, playing
games on my phone, and watching tv.
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So I said, okay, I'mgonna go to bed at night.
And I'm gonna get up beforefive and I'm gonna run.
And at first it washard, but you know what?
One of the reasons I got intorunning is 'cause my blood pressure
got outta control, my weight gotoutta control, and now it's really
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coming around to a different place
and I can see that I can look in thefuture and see who I want to be like.
I've said it before, the reason I'm doingthis podcast, 'cause I want to make a
difference in the world, and I don't knowif I'm good enough for that, but I don't
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know that I'm not good enough for that.
And I don't know if my message will landanywhere, but I don't know that it won't.
But I'll tell you what.
I know if you do something consistentlyover and over again, if you fight through
the negative dialogue through the thingthat says you can't or you're not gonna
make it, and you just keep on gettingout there and keep on getting back up.
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Every time you get knocked down, you keepon swinging over and over and over again.
You will get better.
And I really like.
My goal is to make a difference onthe planet, which is huge and probably
bigger than is possible in thislifetime, but I don't know for sure.
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But if you really want to have animpact in life, if you really want
to do something big, you have toset this massive goal, this goal
that's bigger than you are thisgoal that's nearly impossible.
And then you have to spend a life
trying as if you believeyou can reach that goal.
Against all odds, you are in aninternal battle with your mind.
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It's, it's going, oh yeah,you're never gonna get anywhere.
And you look at the stat and you're barelygetting any downloads and it's like,
and you look like, why am I doing this?
And you have to overcome that.
That's the inner dialogue.
The inner critic is going to try.
To stop you because it wants toprevent you from getting hurt.
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It wants to preteprevent you from failing,
but it does it by keeping it small.
And what you have to do is youhave to strengthen the inner
advocate, which means intentionally
when the inner critic iscoming back at you, you, you.
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Engage the inner advocate saying,no, I got this, I'm gonna do this.
And they're like, you'll never get there.
And I like, I don't care.
I'm gonna put everything I got in this.
And at the end of the day, if yougive 100% of what you have into some
project, if you honestly fight, yougive All you have in the day you have,
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it doesn't matter the outcome.
Because you'll be satisfiedthat you did everything you
could, and this is where I'm at.
I'm working on my health, andwhy am I working on my health?
Because I want to extend my life as far asI can into the future because I know if I
keep on doing this, I'm gonna get better.
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Can you imagine if you had such abig goal, such a big dream, that
you actually gave your life to.
And then you realize that in order tomake, in order to make it to that goal,
you are gonna have to extend your life.
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So now you start working on healthbecause like if you want to be successful
in any area of your life, you actuallyhave to work on every area of your life.
So.
I am working on my health, uh, losingweight, getting fit, running, and I've got
all these incredible goals around running.
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Like I'm gonna run a half marathon,um, near the end of June this year.
Next year I'm gonna run a marathon andI'm gonna do a bunch of stuff in between.
I.
Um, because I can see the possibilityof such a healthy human being, I could
be, and that healthy human being who'sworking on getting an incredible message
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out in the world and changing the world
is gonna need everyminute of this existence.
We're gonna have to keep on,like I, my desire and dream
is with my failing breath.
Somewhere in my late nineties, on mylast day, I record one more episode,
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one more inspirational episode.
One more thing to send out into theworld as I'm believing this world,
and that will be a life well spent.
So you've gotta fight that innercritic that says you're never gonna
accomplish, and you gotta get upearly and do the work day after day.
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And you can't rely onpeople cheering for you.
'cause people don't cheer cheerfor you until you make it.
And then they cheer.
They're not, there's, there's gonnabe a few people in your life that
are cheering you all the way through,but the majority of the support
you're gonna get after you make it.
So you can't actually bedoing it for the support.
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You have to have a bigger reason.
You have to have a big enough why?
'cause honestly, if you have a big enoughwhy, and I'm gonna do an episode on
this, it'll drown out all hows you willfind a way because it's that important.
Think about what you focus onexpands from Albert Einstein.
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If you are focusing on all the thingsyou want to create in your life, then you
don't have to put any energy onto, ontothe things that you don't want anymore.
If you completely and utterly tookyour life and you knew the dream
you were going for, you knew who youwanted to be, and you took a look at
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all the things you need to create,all the things you need to become.
You know, the idea of setting agoal and focusing on who you need
to become the person that wouldaccomplish that goal, that's the path.
You don't have to focus on whatyou need to take out of your life.
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You just so utterly focus on allthe things you need to create
that need, need to become like inorder to achieve your potential.
And if you're so focused on that, allthe other stuff starts falling away.
Like bad habits are gonna fall awaybecause there's not time for bad habits.
There's not time to like sit there andscroll on your phone for hours and hours
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and hours anymore because you're gettingup at four 30 to go for a five o'clock in
the morning, run before you get to work.
And then on the weekend afteryour long run, you're like.
In the office recording podcast episodesand videos for shorts, for social media
to like drive more people towards you.
If that's your dream,that's my dream actually.
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You need to fight for youand you're fighting for
the potential, the possibility ofwhat you could be on this planet.
You're fighting for your dreams.
You're fighting for your goals.
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You're not fightingagainst anything anymore.
You're putting all your energy in thedirection of your dreams and goals.
'cause I'm not giving up.
And you're also having an internalwar with the inner critic.
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And you're not actually battling it in asense, but you're, you're just telling it.
Thank you for sharing.
I know that you're trying to protect mefrom, from being hurt, but you know what?
The way you do that is you try to keepme small and I'm not here to be small.
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I'm here to be amazing.
I'm here to be powerful.
I'm here to be inspiring.
I, I'm actually here to change the world,
so I'm gonna go and dowhat I have to do anyway.
Become your own inner advocate.
I mean, it's funny, it's like.
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I used to be running and Iwould be like, I'm so tired.
I'm so tired, I'm so tired.
And now it's like I'm sayingout loud, you got this.
Keep on going.
Keep it going.
Keep it going.
It's like the episode I did, your bodywill give up, will try, or your brain will
try to give up long before your body does.
And it's like, now it's like.
If my brain starts likegoing, I can't do it.
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I just like check in with my legs.
How you doing?
Oh, you're fine.
Not tired.
Okay, great.
How's the hips?
Oh, you're doing good too.
Okay, good.
How's the breath?
Oh, good.
Can we go a little faster?
Yeah, sure.
Let's go.
Like that's being an inner advocate,
it's like.
Even like you can be an outer advocate.
'cause sometimes people are like,oh, I think you're doing too much.
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And I'm like, I alwayssay, Hey, you know what?
The human body is built anddesigned to heal, heal itself.
It can and it will.
It's resilient.
It's strong.
It's amazing.
It's impressive.
And as, as long as you'rebalancing your recovery with
your load, you can do anything.
And I mean anything.
You just have to balanceyour recovery with your load.
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That's all.
That's it.
And that's, that's it.
It's like if you really want tohave any opportunity, any chance to
reach your potential in this, thislife, you have to fight for you.
You have to fight for yourpotential, fight for your
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dreams, and fight for your goals
and become.
Your, your own internal and externaladvocate become your biggest cheerleader.
It's you against you anyway.
And so don't go down the path I did.
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Or if you're on thatpath, it's time to change.
If you're in a battle with yourselfand you're undermining self, I.
It is time to consciously changethat and start fighting for you.
Thanks for listening.
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