Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken?
In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off.
We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections.
If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have.
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TIME STAMPS
04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal
06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos?
13:58 Stay curious
17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy?
23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner
24:39 Domination fantasy
27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us
30:03 Slutty and proud
31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy
33:29 Rape play fantasy
36:26 Sex in public fantasy
36:58 Threesome fantasy
37:22 Dirty talking fantasy
38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations
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