Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One".
In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour.
Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves.
In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change.
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TIME STAMPS
04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected
08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships
12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection?
13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved
16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work
19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship
19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You
22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole
23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle
24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day
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Resources and next steps for your relationship healing journey:
>> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
>> Join Puja’s retreat (co-hosted by Will and Chiara)
>> Mini-course “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you”: join the waitlist
Deeper Lovers on Instagram and on the web: www.deeperlovers.com
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