Today’s episode is simple, but powerful.

Before you pray for a husband… Before you call that connection “God-ordained”...

Ask yourself: This one question...

Because the truth is: unhealed pain doesn’t go away just because we want to be loved.

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⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.

 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together

Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.

Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.

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 TRANSCRIPT

Today, I want to sit with you heart to heart. This isn’t going to be a long teaching. It’s not even going to be filled with a hundred tips.

It’s just one question. One that could change everything about how you approach love, Before you pray for a husband… Before you call that connection “God-ordained”...

Ask yourself: Am I choosing love from my healing — or from my wounds?

Because the truth is: unhealed pain doesn’t go away just because we want to be loved. It shows up in how we see ourselves, how we settle, and who we say “yes” to.

when you haven’t healed, you won’t just feel lonely — You’ll feel unworthy. Insecure. Silent in rooms where you should speak.

And that doesn’t just affect your confidence at work or in friendships — It affects who you let close to your heart.

Let me tell you a real story — shared with permission — that captures this perfectly.

Amanda was beautiful. Resourceful. A university graduate. But somewhere along the way, life chipped away at her self-esteem.

So she took a job far below her qualifications. Every day, she worked beside people who had the same degree — but they were leading teams, presenting ideas, getting promoted.

She dressed plainly. She avoided attention. And she quietly assumed, “Maybe I’m just unlucky. Maybe this is all I’m worth.”

She couldn’t say no. She avoided asking for help. She stayed quiet — and small — even when she had ideas.

Then… the attention started. Not from the man she hoped would notice her — a respectful, professional Christian colleague who kept his boundaries and showed no mixed signals. But from other men.

One by one, they started coming around. A married colleague asked her out. Another — who openly used drugs and alcohol — started spending time with her.

And she let him.

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