Ever wondered why your breakup hurt so much — even when they weren’t right for you? In this episode, we explore the real reason behind your pain: the unmet childhood needs that confuse safety with love. You were never "not enough" — and this shift will set you free. What if the pain of your breakup isn’t really about them at all? What if it’s about a much deeper, older wound — one you’ve been carrying since childhood? In this potent episode, I’ll guide you through the hidden reason your breakup hit so hard — even if the relationship was toxic or unfulfilling. Spoiler: It’s not because you weren’t good enough. It’s because, like so many of us, you were unknowingly chasing the feeling of love — which your nervous system confused with emotional safety and connection. We’ll explore: 💔 Why you may still be subconsciously seeking external safety that feels like love 🧠 How your childhood survival patterns became adult relationship struggles 🚩 Why you’re attracted to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners 🔥 The shift that sets you free: dating from joy and wholeness, not need 💡 How to stop confusing temporary relief with lasting love — and reclaim your worth This is the missing piece you’ve been searching for. The wake-up call your subconscious has been hinting you need. You were always lovable, even when your early life didn’t reflect that truth. 💫 If this resonates, please share it with a friend who needs to hear it — and leave a review so more women can find this work.
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Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -
Remy xox
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