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Hey, how are you?
I'm great.
How are you today?
It's definitely a Monday today.
Could you introduce yourself,please, and give, like, a little
backstory for our listeners?
Yes, absolutely.
My name is Nikita Grady.
I am a postpartum pleasure andintimacy coach.
So I work with moms, not justwomen who just had a baby in the
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last three or four months.
I work with moms, and I helpthem reconnect with their bodies.
I help them also reconnectwith their partners and regain intimacy
in their relationship.
And I got into this because in2021, I had a miscarriage.
And my relationship after themiscarriage took a major hit from
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that whole postpartum phase.
And I was, like, trying tofigure out what was happening, what
to do, and it just wasn'tenough resources out there.
And so after navigating all ofthese different challenges and this,
because postpartum with thispregnancy was totally different from
my other pregnancies.
And so I did the work and Icame out on the other side and I
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was like, I can't be the only one.
So I feel, as a certified sexcoach and sex educator and somebody
who just experienced this,that I should put the word out and
try to help moms any way thatI can.
Because this is something thatis not talked about.
When you look up postpartumthing, they talk about depression
or anxiety or weight gain,weight loss, breastfeeding, like,
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all of those things.
No one talks about yourrelationship or your sex life after
you have a baby.
That is so true.
And.
And that's the reason why Ididn't know that was going to be
an issue.
Yeah, like, I feel like no onetold me, look, this is going to test
your marriage or you mighteven feel, like, resentful or all
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of those things.
Like why?
Like, why don't we talk about that?
I think because it's taboo.
Just like the topic of sex itself.
I know relationship isn't justdefined by sex, but people don't
like to talk about the ugly.
It's.
Everybody wants to talk aboutthe good things.
So it's, oh, you're going tohave a baby and, oh, just enjoy it
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and all the things.
And just make sure that you doXYZ and yada, yada, yada.
No one.
I'm not sure why.
No one feels the need to say,make sure that you effectively communicate
with your partner.
Make sure that you establishboundaries or that.
Do you know that your entirelife, and not just your personal
life, but your love life isgonna change after you have a baby?
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Because now you have a wholenother dynamic.
You're number one, responsiblefor another person or other people.
And then I think two peoplefail to put out that when we have
babies as moms, like the firstthing that goes out of the window
is the self care for ourselves.
And when we neglect self carewhen we're neglecting ourselves,
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I mean, we're trying to beeverything to everybody.
And by everybody, I mean yourkids, your spouse, or whatever, whoever's
in your home.
When we're trying to beeverything to everybody and we're
not even what we need to be toourselves, that impacts us in a way
that is unimaginable and wedon't even realize it until it's
too late.
And I think people are justafraid, number one, to admit that,
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because in order to admitthat, for me to tell you that your
relationship might suffer oryour sex life might suffer, or you
might wake up on some days andnot even know who you are, that means
that I probably experienced that.
And then that means that Ihave had a problem.
And a lot of people don't liketo admit that they had a problem.
Oh my gosh, that is so true.
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And that's why, and I thinkthat's why people don't talk about
it, because either that or.
So I did a live show back inFebruary, and after the live show,
someone came up to me and shewas like, thank you so much.
You made me feel normal.
Everything that I, that youtouched on is how I was feeling after
I had my daughter.
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She was like.
And when I talked to myfriends and even my mom who has multiple
kids, they was like, oh, Inever experienced that, so I don't
know what's wrong with you.
And so she literally thoughtfor this two year span that something
was wrong with her becauseother people said that they couldn't
relate to her.
That's.
That is such a disservice tofellow women and fellow human beings
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because obviously we all suffer.
Gosh, that, that's exactlywhat I'm like trying to fight against.
And you are too, obviouslyaside from like.
But you actually help specific people.
Yes.
So tell me about that.
So I'm pretty much here forthe people who are experiencing any
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type of issues, whether it'sjust the intimacy in your relationship
is gone or if it's just Idon't know who I am, I don't feel
like myself or I can't thinkabout sex because I'm breastfeeding
and I just feel like my bodydoesn't belong to me.
It Belongs to my child.
And a lot of people can'tseparate the.
If you are someone who feelslike everything is PT ring, like
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everything was like it wasbefore pregnancy, I am not the one
for you.
I'm not here.
Kudos to you if your sex drivedid not change.
Kudos to you if yourrelationship did not take a hit.
But I am here to help womenwho are struggling with their self
identity, with their mentalhealth, with their sex life, their
sex drive, intimacy withintheir relationship, and then their
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relationship as a whole withthemselves and their partners.
Do you find that it takes alot for someone to come to you?
Yeah.
For a client to come to you?
Yes.
So I have some people thathave come to me and they would say,
hey, my husband sent me one ofyour posts on Instagram and said
that I should reach out orthat I should have a conversation
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with you.
This is the issue that I'm having.
Or someone will say, hey, myfriend sent me this and I'm just
trying to see what do you doand how can you help me?
A lot of the times what I havefound is women will also come to
me because they can't talk totheir partner about sex.
It's uncomfortable.
Or they're afraid that if it'sbeen over six weeks and the doctor
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has cleared them for sexualactivity, but they are not ready
for sex and their partner is,they feel like it's going to create
like World War three in thehome or whatever the case may be.
So they come to me and I letthem know, this is how I can help
you.
This is what working with melooks like.
Do you want to move forward?
And once we go through that, Ithink painting a picture of what
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you can achieve by workingwith me makes them feel a little
bit more at ease and thenthey're able to put their guard down
also, I think because I'vebeen through it before and I can
relate.
I'm not just somebody out herewho, like, I'm not someone who's
not a mom out here trying tohelp women through postpartum.
If I just feel like I can'thelp you if I don't know what I'm
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doing myself.
And because I've been whereyou are, I think it makes it easier
once people actually initiallyconnect with me for them to open
up.
Have you dealt with a lot ofpeople asking you questions and they're
like giggly and awkward?
In the beginning I did.
I don't come across that asmuch now.
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And I think some of it wasprobably me, like I, for instance,
if I was out and about andsomebody just happened to ask me
what I did, I would justgiggle and, like, thanks, Coach.
And then they would get, like,shy or timid, and then they would
be all bashful and giggly.
And so when I rebranded, whenI figured out what I really wanted
to do and I rebranded, I waslike, okay, it's time for me to take
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myself serious.
And I don't feel like otherpeople can take me as seriously if
I'm giggling when I give my title.
And so I think because now I'm.
Yes, I'm a sex coach or I'm apostpartum pleasure intimacy coach.
It's okay.
All right, let's talk.
I really admire that you saidthat social media had given you problems
with censorship or messing upyour algorithm.
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Oh, yeah.
It is an ongoing fight.
So I had to recently create awhole new Instagram, and I decided
to start from scratch.
So I'm very intentional now.
Not to mention, like, sex,even in.
So at one point.
And a lot of people in myindustry do the same thing.
Like, instead of typing sex intheir caption, they'll do, like,
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SCGs or SECKs, or they'llwrite sex, and then they'll do upside
down E or E with an accentmark or something like that.
So I've just learned differentways to say what I need to say to
my audience withoutspecifically saying sex.
And that's part of the reason why.
So initially, I was apostpartum sex and intimacy coach,
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and so then I changed my titleto Pleasure.
And it wasn't even socialmedia that pushed me to change it
to Pleasure, but I'm sure thatbecause my title had sex in it, that
was part of the reason why Ikept getting Shadow banned.
What pushed me to change mytitle from sex coach to Pleasure
is I would notice if I was outin public, if I was in Target, and
I would approach someone and Iwould be talking to them and they
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had toddlers with them.
If I said the word sex, numberone, I would be uncomfortable.
Not because I'm notcomfortable saying sex around kids,
but because I don't know howother people would respond to that.
I know that not everyone iscomfortable with words like that
being thrown around, withbeing thrown around their kids.
And so I would, like, hesitateand I'd be like, hi, I just wanted
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to introduce myself.
I'm a sex coach.
And I was like, okay, now itmakes it seem like I'm embarrassed
about what I do, so I need tofix this.
So then I started to lean intothe term pleasure.
And from my own personalexperiences and even working with
my therapist, I come.
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I found that I like the wordpleasure better.
I feel like pleasure is moreencompassing because also what I'm
noticing is, although Istarted out as a certified sex coach,
and then I niched down to workwith postpartum women or moms in
general, I'm also noticingthat pleasure can be a lot of things
and not necessarily just sex.
And my therapist made astatement to me, and it was.
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I was so.
I had gotten a little stagnantin my business.
I wasn't really doing anything.
My motivation was up and down,mostly down.
And I was to the point where Iwas ready to throw a towel in.
And so my therapist said, youwork with women in helping them rediscover
pleasure.
And I was like, yeah, that's right.
And she said, the reason whyyou're struggling so bad is because
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you're not allowing yourselfto experience pleasure in life in
general.
And because you're not able toexperience pleasure, you're having
a hard time teaching otherwomen how to experience pleasure,
even though you're talkingabout sex.
And so I pondered on that fora while, and I was like, she might
be onto something.
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And then I was like, you know,that is a issue that we have postpartum
as moms, is we don't allowourselves to experience pleasure
in general, not even just sexually.
And so I like.
I just.
I don't know.
I just.
I like the term pleasure andintimacy better because I just feel
like it makes it a little bit broader.
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And I can hit on more thingsthan just say pleasure.
Makes me think also of, youdon't necessarily need a partner.
Right.
You can find pleasure inindulging in a big bowl of ice cream
binge watching your favoritecomfort show.
Like, that could be pleasure.
But if you are not allowingyourself to even do small things
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like that, then you're hurting yourself.
But ultimately, you're hurtingyour loved ones, because you can't
perform from an empty cup.
You just can't, no matter howhard we try.
Like, I try to be super momall the time, but there are times
where I'm so depleted that Ihave the energy to do absolutely
nothing.
And my daughter would be like,mommy, I wanna go to the park.
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And I'm like, baby, please,no, not today.
Like, I just.
I can't.
And then that starts to becomethe norm, and we don't want that.
The best thing you can giveyour children is the best version
of yourself.
Absolutely.
I thought people Start small.
Don't think that self care hasto be these grand gestures to yourself.
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Wow.
And this is another thing thatmy therapist actually helped me to
see too, because we weretalking and I think it was a couple
of weeks after she told me thething about the pleasure.
And we were talking and shesaid, what are you doing for self
care?
Like you, I see you're outhere teaching everybody about self
care.
What are you doing?
And at this particular point,I had gotten away from my self care
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routine.
I did have one and then it just.
I don't even know whathappened to it.
I looked up one day and I wasnot doing self care again.
And I was like, I'm not reallygetting massages anymore and I only
really go to the nail shop nowif I have to and things like that.
And she was like, no, that is pampering.
What are you doing for self care?
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Pampering without self care isa waste of money.
And I was like, oh, that.
Yeah.
And so I started telling herabout like my old self care routine
and how I started it.
And she was like, okay, somaybe you need to get back to that.
And so start small.
And even though this is what Ido, like, I am not perfect.
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I'm still human.
So I do still mess up.
I do still fall short sometimes.
It's overwhelming.
My daughter is 5 and she hasthe schedule of about 5 kids.
She is in tumble, she is intap, ballet, hip hop.
She is also in gymnastics, and she.
She's in swim and she goes to school.
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Like, we are literally doingsomething almost every day of the
week.
And when you're ripping andrunning constantly on top of just
chauffeuring a kid around, ontop of whatever your career is, whether
you're a career woman or,well, a businesswoman or an entrepreneur,
like, whatever you do togenerate income, like, trying to
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juggle all of that can become overwhelming.
It's a lot.
And like I said, sometimesmost of the times we just, we're
like, I'll take care of melater and I'll take care of me later.
Goes from being one day to aweek to a month.
And then you look up and it'sbeen three, six, maybe even a year.
And it's like, when's the lasttime you bought something for you?
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When's the last time you tooka moment to just breathe?
When is the last time you tookjust five minutes to yourself where
you're not doing anything,you're not working, you're not talking
to anyone else, you're notcaring for anyone else you're not
cleaning like you areliterally just in the moment for
just five minutes.
Start small.
Once you can master takingfive minutes, then you can increase
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that to 10 minutes.
Once you can, once you mastertaking 10 minutes for yourself, then
you can start to incorporateother things.
And that was how I startedwith my routine.
I took a few minutes here andthere and then I went to in the mornings
I was like, let me focus onskincare because my skin has started
getting really bad.
So I went to Sephora and I hadthem do a skin analysis and they
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helped me choose theseproducts for me to use as far as
cleansers and moisturizers.
So I started there and thenevery morning I made sure that I
washed my face with theseproducts that I spent all this money
on.
And then from there Iincorporated a nighttime routine.
Because I actually learned inthe last couple of years that the
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products that you're using inthe morning should not be the same
products you're using at night.
And I know I went to Sephora,you don't even have to start there.
You can start at Walmart, youcan shop on Amazon.
Like you have to do what'sbest for you.
But ultimately the goal isthat you want to create a self care
routine for yourself.
You want to make sure thatyou're nurturing yourself, you want
to make sure you're takingcare of yourself so that you can
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be the best version that youcan be to your children and your
partner.
I feel like I just recentlymade the cut between pregnancy, clothing,
pregnancy routine with washingmy face and showering.
And I, I feel like I just waslike, oh my God, I could go back
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to you like using goodproduct, being like more like girly.
Like I felt, you know, duringpregnancy I was like, I have to use,
you know, non toxic, blah,blah, blah.
So that was like a huge thing.
And that goes back to a lot ofwomen not feeling like their body
is their own.
Because you do have to be careful.
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When my daughter was born, shehad super, super sensitive, like
I think if I looked atfragrance, she broke out.
But I could not wear bodysprays or perfumes or scented lotions
or anything.
And I think in the last year Iwas just now able to start back doing
that.
So even with that, you canstill, there are still things that
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you can do to incorporate self care.
And like I said, as the kidsget older, when it comes to things
like that fragrance andproducts that you're using, you'll
find that as they get older,most kids outgrow that super sensitive
phase.
Not all.
It just really depends onwhat's going on with them.
But you'll learn to adapt andadjust and you can still find other
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ways.
So if you love to wear likebody spray or perfume, and you can't
wear that because your childis so sensitive, maybe you can find
like a natural oil that smellsreally good that won't be as harsh
for their skin.
And I know some people mightbe like, what does that have to do
with my baby?
Because you got to keep inmind, if you're spraying perfume
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on you and then you're holdingyour baby and your baby has super
sensitive skin, or if you'rehugging your toddler and your toddler
has super sensitive skin, thatis going to affect their skin.
Yep.
Or like allergies or headaches or.
But like feeling like yourbody is your own is such a man.
You just go like you, you justgo for so long, such a long time
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detaching from your body.
Let me just get through this pregnancy.
Let me just get through this.
And then if it's a difficultbirth or traumatic or even if you
have a C section, you're likehealing from surgery and that's like
a whole thing.
And yeah, it's so manydifferent scenarios because just
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like pregnancy, every woman inevery situation is going to be different,
even from one child to the next.
Your first child might sleepthrough the night, might be easy
to put on the schedule, andthen you decide to have another child.
And this child could be likethe seat of Chucky, this could be
your child that does whatever.
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And just you can't get thischild on a routine to save your life.
So how do you come back from that?
So it does vary from one kidto the next, from one woman to the
next.
But it's about finding a balance.
And I can help you get there.
But a lot of it, you stillhave to.
First of all, you have to bewilling to put in the work.
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And if you're not willing toput in the work, then you're not,
you're never going to come outof this.
You have to be willing to putin the work.
And by putting in the work, Imean that if I'm, if I give you a
task or what I call homework,if we work together and I give you
homework, and let's say yourhomework is for you to find 10 minutes
throughout the day that youcan just have moments to yourself.
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And you come and you keepgiving me excuse after excuse as
to why getting 10 minutes toyourself is not going to happen.
I can't help you because thatmeans you're not willing to do the
work.
Wake up 10 minutes earlier ifyou need to, stay up 10 minutes later
if you need to go in thebathroom, lock the door for 10 minutes.
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As long as your kids are notin danger, they're going to be okay.
Now, I'm not saying let yourchild scream and cry for 10 whole
minutes again.
You have to know yourthreshold and your children's threshold,
but that is still a start.
Try nap time.
If they're in daycare andthese are moments again that you're
not doing anything else.
You're not working, you're notcaring for your partner because your
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child is at daycare.
You're not cooking andcleaning because you only have three
hours to get the house tidy.
And I think that's anotherthing too, I have recently had to
come to terms with.
My house is lived in, I have afive year old and it's not gonna
always be clean all the time.
Like not the whole house atonce anyway.
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I was so anal about that forso long until I was like, I'm never
going to accomplish anythingbecause I'm always cleaning.
Sometimes you have to letthose chores go.
Those chores will be there tomorrow.
So if it is a matter of youhaving a breakdown because you're
so overwhelmed, you might betouched out, you're stressed out,
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you're overstimulated,whatever it is.
If it's a matter of you aboutto blow your gasket, you're about
to like really lose your cooland washing clothes, take a break.
Wash those clothes tomorrow.
Yes, I, I heard someone sayyour house can't be clean and your
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kids clean and you clean allat the same time.
Throw one of those away.
But it is very hard to achievefor sure.
It's not an easy task.
And some people, there aredifferent ways you can achieve that
too.
So if you have a husband or apartner that lives with you, this
is where communication comes in.
Like communicate.
Like, I really need you tohelp me with the house chores.
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I feel like I'm doingeverything by myself.
I don't know if you've everheard anyone say they feel like a
single.
What?
Hold on, let me think of howit's worded.
Even though they're married,they feel like they're a single parent.
I think it's called a marriedsingle parent.
I think that's the term for it.
First time I heard that wasfrom two of my closest friends.
They were calling a singleparent and I was like, Girl, don't
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talk to me about single parenting.
I am a single parent.
There is no way that myhusband is going to be in the house
with me.
And I feel like I'm doing thisby myself.
And they're like, oh, youdon't understand.
But when I started deep divingand really getting into this and
talking to more people, Istarted to learn that really is a
thing.
There are some people that arein relationships or marriages and
they feel single.
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What I'm finding in thosesituations is because the communication
is not there.
You feel tired and touched outand overwhelmed.
You're partner, your husband,or whoever also feels tired, touched
out and overwhelmed.
And you feel like the baby'shanging on me all day.
Why are you so tired?
But you have to understandthat having a baby is not just an
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adjustment for you, it's anadjustment for them.
You also have to realize thatthey see that you're sensitive.
They see that this is you're different.
And sometimes it's a matter ofthem not knowing how to respond to
you.
So it can maybe it's not thatthey don't want to help.
They feel like maybe beforethe baby, when they tried to help,
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you would tell them they werein the way and they don't want to
be in the way because theydon't want to frustrate you or irritate
you.
So you have to communicatethese things.
You have to talk and so justsay, hey, I feel overwhelmed.
Can you please help out withthe dishes?
Can you please help by cooking dinner?
Like delegate tasks if youneed to, but have a conversation
and you'll see how much easierit'll be and how.
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And y'all can actually evenmaybe develop a routine where y'all
take turns.
I got up with the baby last night.
It's your turn to get up withthe baby tonight.
Or the middle kid had anightmare last night.
I slept in there yesterday.
Can you go in there and sleepwith them tonight or stay in there
until they fall asleep tonightwhile they're doing.
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That's 10 minutes that you canhave to yourself.
Like you again, you have tofind ways to make it work for you
in your household.
But it's very possible.
Some people also find thathiring a cleaner to come to the house
once or twice a week is helpful.
So you have to again, figureout what works for you in your situation
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and then implement that.
But you have to do whatever itis that's going to help you stay
sane and that's going to allowyou to take care of yourself.
Yeah, what is worth it ifyou're going to pay?
With your mental health andyour relationship and intimacy, that's
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just not worth it.
Pay whatever it is for someoneto clean your house.
And if you don't have it,because the economy is real jacked
up right now and it's hard fora lot of people.
If you can't afford to hire ahouse cleaner, that's fine.
Maybe there's family membersthat you can bring into the home
to help.
Maybe you have close friends.
Even if you have friends withkids, arrange a play date, put the
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kids in one room, and youdon't even have to have the friend
help you clean up.
But just having an adult thatyou can have adult conversation with
while you do chores might be helpful.
That would.
That's everything.
I have a friend that tells meevery time we get on the phone, she's
like, I just love talking toyou because I done got the whole
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house clean, girl.
And she was like, I don't knowwhat it is about talking to you on
the phone, but when I get onthe phone with you, I get stuff done.
That's another way that you can.
And you're getting adult interaction.
Your kids are either nappingor playing with someone, or Maybe
they're watching TV or an iPad.
And I don't.
I know some people are like, Idon't want my kids to be an iPad
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baby.
I said the same thing until I realized.
TikTok, I beg her now, pleasego get your iPad and find you something
to do.
So, yeah, there are waysaround not having enough money to
hire help.
There are ways around feelinglike you're a single married person.
There are ways around feelinglike you're just completely exhausted
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and you just don't have thetime and energy.
So you work with women when,if this happens, when do you start
to work with their partner?
Or do you.
It depends.
So no one client that I workwith has the same process.
Everything that I do isspecifically tailored to my client.
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So if my client needs fortheir partners to be present, then
I can do partner coaching.
Some people, I've had somewomen say, it's me, I'm the problem.
I just need to work on this.
This is where my mind is.
This is where I want it to be,and so I work strictly with them.
I've had some women say, I'mnot the problem, my partner is the
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problem, but what can I do toget my partner involved?
And sometimes.
And so an example of that, Irecently had a client who.
It's not even she is postpartum.
She just had a baby a coupleof months ago.
But her issue was notnecessarily anything postpartum.
Her issue is that she wantsher boyfriend to be more explorative
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in the bedroom, and she's notsure how to make him do the things
that she wants him to do.
He doesn't know that she wasreaching out to me or that she worked
with me.
So in that instance, eventhough it was regarding her partner,
I was still able to work with her.
And our exercises includedthings like, have this conversation
with him, say these things.
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Or you can initiate by doingthis and saying something like, oh,
I read this in the book, or Iheard this on a podcast, or I saw
this on social media, and Iwant to give it a try.
And so I worked with her withhelp getting her partner where she
wanted him to be without himeven being present ever.
That's pretty powerful.
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And then, of course, there aresome situations where I will have
women come to me and they havean issue, and I will say, I can help
you with this to an extent.
I would need for your partnerto at least hop on one call.
Do you think your partnerwould be open to that?
So, yeah, it just.
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It really depends on what theissue is and what the desired outcome
is.
It's so important becauseyou're right, it's pleasure is not
just sex, and it's not justabout you and your partner.
So it's not just like your relationship.
It's really about beingintimate with yourself.
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Yes, I have.
Women become attuned to their bodies.
And so that this is a thing,because, for one, if you're breastfeeding,
if you're breastfeeding, it'slike, my child is latched to my boobs
all day.
This is not my body.
But for the women who aren'tbreastfeeding, for whatever reason,
sometimes they feel detachedfrom their body just because think
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about it, we grow these wholehuman beings in our body.
So our body goes through somany changes, and those changes,
we have hormonal changes, wehave physical changes.
Like all of these things thatare taking place.
You're trying to figure outwho you are or what your body is
doing now.
You might have stretch marksand loose skin for the first time
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ever in your life.
And if that is something thatyou've never had before, like, that
could be hard to becomeaccustomed to.
If your breasts got really bigwhile you were pregnant and then
they immediately went backdown, then, now your breasts probably
sag a little bit.
If you're not.
If You've had perky breastsall your life and now you have a
kid and your breasts are sagging.
That could be hard to accept.
That could be hard to look atevery day.
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If you're now an emotionalbeing and you weren't emotional before
the pregnancy, you might behaving a hard time with that.
Like why am I always crying?
Everything makes me sad.
I just help them do the workto become or attune to their bodies
again.
That means having theconfidence to be in this new body.
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That means accepting the factthat you may never go back to your
pre pregnant body.
For some people they do andagain kudos to you.
But for a lot of women that'snot the case.
So I hope you becomecomfortable in your new skin and
I help you rediscover thingsthat you like in terms of physical
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touch to you.
And what I mean by that is sofor me and I always tell people before
I had my daughter my breastswere one of my biggest hotspots.
I could go from 0 to 100 realquick if the win after my daughter.
And I always use my daughterbecause I breastfed my daughter like
strictly breastfed.
She didn't take bottles, shedidn't even take a pacifier like
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she strictly breastfed.
And I ended up breastfeedingher for a little over two years.
Even when she got introducedto solid foods, I was still breastfeeding
at that point.
It was more of a comfort thingfor her like a paci would be for
other kids.
But so by the time she stoppedbreastfeeding, my breasts were no
longer a turn on for me.
Don't touch them because no,but I wouldn't know that if I didn't
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take the time to explore mybody or try to become attuned to
my body again I would and andthis is for many women, some of the
things that you liked beforepregnancy you may not like after
pregnancy.
You might use to like beingbitten and now you don't.
You might not have liked beingbitten before and now you do.
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So I just help women figureout what it is that that they enjoy
in their new body and how toaccept that and be comfortable and
be confident and feel sexy.
You can find me on all socialmedia platforms.
Akitagrady.
So it's just N, I K I T a G Ra D Y and that is Instagram, Facebook,
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Twitter, X whatever it is now.
Snapchat, LinkedIn, Lemonade.
You can also visit my websitenikitagrady.com Feel free to message
me through my website.
Feel free to send me a DM onany social media platform.
If you DM me on social media,I just ask that you give me a little
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bit of grace because a lot oftimes messages will go to filtered
or spam and I don't see somemessages for weeks.
So just give me a little bitof time.
If you do happen to message meand I don't respond right away, or
you can send me anemail@hellokitagrading.com awesome.
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So I'll put all that in theshow notes as well.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for having me.
Of course we're gonna have apart two, three now.