Are you a married man stuck in a sexless marriage for years—or even decades? You’re not alone. In this in-depth video, we explore the heartbreak of sexless marriages, a major source of unhappiness for countless husbands. Why do men stay? The top reasons I hear in the comments are: 1) wanting to raise their kids, 2) fearing financial ruin from divorce, or 3) honoring a faith-based vow to God.
This video is tailored for Christian men, though all are welcome, as we dig into scripture—Matthew 5:32, 1 Corinthians 7, Genesis 2:24—to uncover what the Bible says about sex, divorce, and marital duties.
We tackle tough questions: Does withholding sex count as sexual immorality (porneia)? Is it abandonment? Jesus in Matthew 5:32 allows divorce for sexual immorality, but translations vary—adultery, fornication, or broader unlawful lust (from the Greek porneia). Meanwhile, Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 insists sex is a marital duty, not optional, to guard against temptation and foster emotional connection. Yet, many churches sidestep men’s needs, focusing only on women’s perspectives, leaving faithful husbands lost when wives reject intimacy.
From Genesis 2:24’s “one flesh” union to Jesus confronting the Pharisees in Matthew 19, we examine God’s original design for marriage—a sacred covenant of mutual love, not just physical but emotional unity. Historical context matters: in Jesus’ time, women couldn’t divorce, and no-fault divorce left them destitute. Today, is staying in a loveless, sexless marriage what God intends? Or does Paul’s abandonment principle (1 Corinthians 7:15) apply when a wife emotionally checks out?
I also share my course, How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction, distilling thousands of hours of podcast insights (Modern Marriage with Monica) into actionable tools for men to reignite passion—no wife buy-in needed. Learn the six pillars of attraction, masculine-feminine dynamics, and how to shift your marriage’s trajectory.
Keywords: sexless marriage help, Christian marriage struggles, Bible on divorce and sex, Matthew 5:32 explained, 1 Corinthians 7 sex duty, porneia meaning, God’s marriage design, emotional abandonment divorce, Christian husband advice, reignite sexual attraction
Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro: The Pain of Sexless Marriages
2:30 - Why Men Don’t Leave: Kids, Finances, Faith
6:10 - Churches Ignoring Men’s Needs
9:45 - Matthew 5:32: Divorce for Sexual Immorality?
14:20 - Porneia Unpacked: Adultery, Lust, and More
18:50 - 1 Corinthians 7: Sex as a Marital Duty
23:15 - Genesis 2:24: Marriage as One Flesh
27:40 - Emotional Abandonment: Does It Count?
32:00 - Matthew 19: Jesus vs. the Pharisees
37:20 - God’s Love-First Approach (John 13:34)
42:10 - My Course: Fix Your Marriage Now
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