September 2, 2024 • 19 mins
Powerful techniques to feel the forgiveness you can allow for an apology you're never going to get. "Forgiveness is the scent the violet sheds upon the heel that has crushed it."
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.697710799Everybody welcome back to mood hacks. 2 00:00:29,986.697710799 --> 00:00:34,786.697710799 I have a super powerful one for you today. 3 00:00:35,356.696710799 --> 00:00:37,906.697710799 That is more of a life hack. 4 00:00:37,916.697710799 --> 00:00:49,786.695710799 Honestly, this is something we're going to talk about that can help you release age, old anger, resentment, even trauma so that you can be lighter and brighter. 5 00:00:50,481.696710799 --> 00:00:51,661.696710799 in your life. 6 00:00:51,821.696710799 --> 00:00:55,441.696710799 We're going to be talking about forgiveness today. 7 00:00:55,441.696710799 --> 00:01:13,711.695710799 Forgiveness is a key element for every single one of us because we have all experienced resentment, disappointment, even outright trauma at the hands of other people. 8 00:01:13,931.695710799 --> 00:01:17,811.696710799 This is part of life on earth, period. 9 00:01:17,811.696710799 --> 00:01:20,21.696710799 There is not a single person alive. 10 00:01:20,901.696710799 --> 00:01:27,651.696710799 Who doesn't need to or has not already done extensive work on forgiveness. 11 00:01:27,681.696710799 --> 00:01:35,241.696710799 And generally we're forgiving people for whom we will never see an apology. 12 00:01:35,801.696710799 --> 00:01:38,101.695710799 This is what we're working with today. 13 00:01:38,751.695710799 --> 00:01:48,771.6967108 Many people have said in many different ways, essentially, Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. 14 00:01:49,231.6967108 --> 00:01:56,121.6967108 This quote has been attributed to Buddha, to Nelson Mandela, who we all know had every right. 15 00:01:56,681.6967108 --> 00:02:03,911.6967108 And every justification to hold on to any anger, but he knew that was not going to serve him in his life. 16 00:02:03,931.6967108 --> 00:02:05,251.6967108 Even as far back as St. 17 00:02:05,291.6967108 --> 00:02:11,231.6967108 Augustine said resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. 18 00:02:11,771.6967108 --> 00:02:17,821.6967108 So many wise men and people, sages throughout time, have expressed this. 19 00:02:17,891.6967108 --> 00:02:23,481.6967108 And so I really wanted to talk about it with you today and some different exercises. 20 00:02:23,861.6967108 --> 00:02:33,781.6977108 That you can do to take forgiveness into your own hands, to take your overall life enjoyment and your lightness and your brightness. 21 00:02:34,331.6977108 --> 00:02:43,491.6977108 into your own hands, because we all have someone who has wronged us who definitely owes us an apology. 22 00:02:43,921.6977108 --> 00:02:50,181.6977108 But I think we all have people for whom we are never going to receive that apology. 23 00:02:50,551.6967108 --> 00:03:01,641.6977108 And are we going to let that dictate? Our life is, are we going to let that just make us angry when we're driving in the car, every time we think about it, or when we're taking a shower, you know, it's shower thoughts. 24 00:03:01,641.6977108 --> 00:03:03,311.6977108 We start arguing in your head. 25 00:03:03,311.6977108 --> 00:03:09,851.6997108 Anytime you get these, these are keys that you need to forgive and let go. 26 00:03:09,971.6997108 --> 00:03:14,31.6987108 Why? For your own benefit. 27 00:03:14,561.6987108 --> 00:03:15,151.6987108 All right. 28 00:03:15,211.6987108 --> 00:03:18,611.6997108 So there's a few different exercises that we can do. 29 00:03:18,831.6997108 --> 00:03:22,621.6997108 I'm going to highlight some kind of quick and easy ones. 30 00:03:23,26.6997108 --> 00:03:25,906.6997108 This is definitely work you have to do for yourself, though. 31 00:03:25,946.6997108 --> 00:03:29,196.6997108 And this is a treat for yourself. 32 00:03:29,266.6997108 --> 00:03:44,781.6997108 And a lot of times, I've seen people whose Parents have passed away, or loved ones have passed away, and the people that they leave behind have grievances still that will never, ever come to rectification. 33 00:03:45,391.6997108 --> 00:03:46,791.6987108 They will never get that apology. 34 00:03:46,791.6987108 --> 00:03:50,751.6997108 This person has passed on to do whatever dead people do. 35 00:03:50,751.6997108 --> 00:04:03,221.6987108 So here are some exercises that you can do To take your own life enjoyment and your own state of peace and your own state of mind into your own hands. 36 00:04:03,431.6997108 --> 00:04:09,851.6997108 Because most likely these people are never going to apologize for a multitude of reasons. 37 00:04:09,851.6997108 --> 00:04:16,921.6997108 Alright, these are some quick ones that I have learned over the years from people much wiser and happier than myself. 38 00:04:16,921.6997108 --> 00:04:18,401.6997108 One is kind of a fun one. 39 00:04:18,401.6997108 --> 00:04:24,751.6997108 Let's start with a fun one, okay? Now you have to do these exercises with intention, friends. 40 00:04:24,891.6997108 --> 00:04:31,741.6997108 You're gonna need to like create some space where you don't have any distractions, people, children. 41 00:04:32,211.6997108 --> 00:04:34,151.6987108 There's no partner coming in to barge in on you. 42 00:04:34,151.6987108 --> 00:04:35,351.6997108 You need time. 43 00:04:35,756.6997108 --> 00:04:37,306.6997108 To sit and write this out. 44 00:04:38,26.6997108 --> 00:04:41,836.6997108 So the first one is the coconut smash and it is that much fun. 45 00:04:42,366.6997108 --> 00:04:50,76.6997108 But first, what you have to do is you have to get out paper and you need to think about this person that grieved you that will never apologize to you. 46 00:04:50,76.6997108 --> 00:04:59,946.6997108 And you are going to formally forgive this person, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve it. 47 00:04:59,946.6997108 --> 00:05:01,956.6997108 You deserve peace of mind. 48 00:05:02,576.6997108 --> 00:05:06,326.6997108 You really, really, really deserve that apology you're never going to get. 49 00:05:06,596.6997108 --> 00:05:10,876.6997108 And so the next best thing is going to forgive them. 50 00:05:10,886.6997108 --> 00:05:16,326.6997108 And actually, we just want the apology so that we can forgive. 51 00:05:16,326.6997108 --> 00:05:31,126.6997108 So why don't we just skip over that and get to what you really want, which is to stop holding on to the anger, holding on to the resentment, holding on to the wrongdoing as a justification for why you do XYZ. 52 00:05:31,656.7007108 --> 00:05:35,296.7007108 We all want the apology just so that we can forgive. 53 00:05:35,646.7007108 --> 00:05:36,916.7007108 So let's just forgive. 54 00:05:37,576.7007108 --> 00:05:41,726.6997108 So, what we're gonna do is we're gonna write all about it. 55 00:05:42,396.7007108 --> 00:05:50,271.5997108 First, we're gonna write down, Dear so and so, I forgive you for the way that you treated me. 56 00:05:50,951.6997108 --> 00:05:51,761.6997108 Back then. 57 00:05:52,301.6997108 --> 00:05:57,121.6997108 I forgive you for your horrendous actions. 58 00:05:57,121.6997108 --> 00:06:00,491.6997108 I forgive you for X, Y, and Z. 59 00:06:01,131.6997108 --> 00:06:04,471.6987108 And I know that you maybe don't know better. 60 00:06:04,471.6987108 --> 00:06:07,531.6997108 And maybe I don't know the whole story. 61 00:06:07,926.6997108 --> 00:06:16,886.6997108 But the end of the day, write out all, as much detail as possible for what you are forgiving this person for. 62 00:06:16,886.6997108 --> 00:06:17,916.6997108 And here comes the fun part. 63 00:06:17,916.6997108 --> 00:06:24,346.6997108 Then you're going to hollow out a coconut, yeah, coconut, and you're going to roll up this paper. 64 00:06:24,346.6997108 --> 00:06:41,36.6997108 And you're going to stick it in a coconut and you're going to go find a nice sturdy brick wall and you're going to smash the shit out of this coconut, releasing, releasing all this anger that you have to this person, releasing forgiveness into your heart and soul and mind. 65 00:06:41,326.6997108 --> 00:06:43,6.6997108 for your own peace. 66 00:06:43,6.6997108 --> 00:06:48,196.6997108 And with that, you know, bombastic smash tastic action, it's done. 67 00:06:48,196.6997108 --> 00:06:50,386.6987108 And it, and it feels lighter. 68 00:06:50,386.6987108 --> 00:06:53,336.6987108 I've got a couple more exercises that you can do as well. 69 00:06:53,456.6997108 --> 00:06:55,256.6997108 Because this is not an end all, be all. 70 00:06:55,266.6997108 --> 00:07:15,126.6997108 Some of these, some of us, most people, have childhood trauma because we were raised by human beings and not God, not the angelic universal angels, right? We were raised by actual fallible human people who were doing the best that they could, and they were raised with their own trauma. 71 00:07:15,576.6997108 --> 00:07:24,856.6997108 And so we all have forgiveness to do around those things, but we also might have forgiveness around our exes or maybe an ex best friend. 72 00:07:25,356.6997108 --> 00:07:45,226.6997108 Or et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, an old boss, maybe, you know, so the first one is the coconut and depending on how deep the pain, the heart and the forgiveness that depends on how much work you're going to have to do around it, but this is something you can do for yourself that is so profound and life changing. 73 00:07:45,771.6997108 --> 00:07:50,911.6997108 Just imagine not carrying this around with you anymore. 74 00:07:50,971.6997108 --> 00:07:52,791.6997108 Think about how much lighter you will be. 75 00:07:53,151.6997108 --> 00:07:56,101.6997108 This reminds me of a Zen Buddhist parable. 76 00:07:56,101.6997108 --> 00:08:15,111.7007108 These two monks are walking down in complete silence and walking along, and they come to a river where a woman is just standing on the edge and she can't really cross the river because she's going to get all of her finery messed up. 77 00:08:15,111.7007108 --> 00:08:20,601.7007108 She's dressed very beautifully, like for a wedding, and she can't get across the river. 78 00:08:20,611.6997108 --> 00:08:21,751.7007108 There's no ferryman. 79 00:08:21,861.6997108 --> 00:08:23,221.7007108 She's just waiting and waiting. 80 00:08:23,911.6997108 --> 00:08:34,106.7007108 And so one of the Buddhist monks picks up the woman and carries her across this river and she's so incredibly grateful. 81 00:08:34,506.7007108 --> 00:08:41,146.7007108 And the two monks continue on their way and they're walking and walking for hours in silence once again. 82 00:08:41,146.7007108 --> 00:09:00,341.7017108 And finally one of the monks who energetically had become increasingly agitated as he stood in his thoughts and thought about this caring of the woman and finally he could take it no more and he looked at his brother and he said why did you do that? You know we're not allowed to touch women. 83 00:09:00,351.7017108 --> 00:09:07,11.7017108 Why did you do that? And the other monk looked at him a little shocked and laughed softly. 84 00:09:07,561.7017108 --> 00:09:24,1.7012108 And he said, my brother, I sat down that woman hours ago, why are you still carrying her? Right? So this is the kind of lightness and joy that you deserve, you can give to yourself without ever receiving another apology. 85 00:09:24,1.7012108 --> 00:09:25,121.7007108 So here's another exercise. 86 00:09:25,131.7017108 --> 00:09:28,551.7017108 We've got the bombastic coconut smash, that was fun. 87 00:09:28,551.7017108 --> 00:09:30,91.7017108 Another one that you can do. 88 00:09:30,91.7017108 --> 00:09:47,681.7017108 Write out again, you're gonna have to get pen and paper friends this is just gonna have to happen and you write it all out you write out your grievance and you write out your forgiveness around it and Then you get a fire going and something sort of self contained Whatever feels good for you. 89 00:09:47,711.7017108 --> 00:09:48,991.7017108 Maybe you're doing this while you're camping. 90 00:09:49,1.7017108 --> 00:09:53,391.7017108 Maybe you're doing it in your office wastebasket outside et cetera. 91 00:09:53,431.7017108 --> 00:09:56,231.7017108 There's a jillion ways to do this. 92 00:09:56,341.7017108 --> 00:09:58,341.7017108 Make it sacred and holy for you. 93 00:09:58,361.7017108 --> 00:09:59,861.7017108 Make it intentional. 94 00:10:00,521.7017108 --> 00:10:02,71.7017108 Make it mean something. 95 00:10:02,761.7017108 --> 00:10:07,151.7017108 And you take that paper out there, and you tear it into little bits and say, I forgive you. 96 00:10:07,151.7017108 --> 00:10:07,891.7017108 I forgive you. 97 00:10:07,931.7007108 --> 00:10:10,991.7007108 And as I burn this paper, I burn that anger. 98 00:10:11,31.7007108 --> 00:10:14,601.7007108 I burn that resentment because I don't want it anymore. 99 00:10:15,121.7007108 --> 00:10:16,661.7007108 Okay? That's number two. 100 00:10:16,851.7007108 --> 00:10:19,81.7007108 Dude, you guys know what? I have one too. 101 00:10:19,426.7017108 --> 00:10:21,636.7017108 that these are ones that I've learned from other people. 102 00:10:21,926.7017108 --> 00:10:23,416.7017108 This one I do for myself. 103 00:10:23,416.7017108 --> 00:10:25,246.7017108 Sometimes I have learned this. 104 00:10:25,606.7017108 --> 00:10:31,96.7017108 You can, if you're going to do a workout I like to take these HIIT classes. 105 00:10:31,136.7017108 --> 00:10:43,566.7027108 So they're kind of like idiot proof and you just go through it and you're working kind of hard, right? But sometimes I'll set an intention in the beginning of a really good run or a really good exercise or really good workout. 106 00:10:44,186.7027108 --> 00:10:51,36.7027108 I'll say, you know what? I am just going to forgive so and so by the end of this workout. 107 00:10:51,606.7027108 --> 00:10:56,56.7027108 And while I'm lifting the weights, while I'm doing sit ups or push ups or all these. 108 00:10:56,56.7027108 --> 00:10:57,366.7027108 I'm saying, I forgive you. 109 00:10:57,586.7027108 --> 00:10:58,726.7027108 I forgive you for that. 110 00:10:58,836.7027108 --> 00:11:00,816.7027108 That hurt and I let it go. 111 00:11:01,46.7027108 --> 00:11:01,816.7027108 I forgive you. 112 00:11:02,36.7027108 --> 00:11:03,726.7027108 I forgive you for that. 113 00:11:03,816.7027108 --> 00:11:05,816.7027108 It hurt and I let it go. 114 00:11:06,146.7027108 --> 00:11:13,966.7027108 And I'll just kind of say these forgiveness mantras to myself over and over and over while I'm pushing my body to physical exertion. 115 00:11:14,506.7027108 --> 00:11:16,836.7027108 And it's like it forces it out of me. 116 00:11:17,276.7027108 --> 00:11:19,866.7027108 So I'd really recommend that you try this. 117 00:11:20,216.7027108 --> 00:11:21,86.7027108 I like it. 118 00:11:21,106.7027108 --> 00:11:23,946.7027108 It really helps me lighten a lot. 119 00:11:24,136.7027108 --> 00:11:26,726.7027108 It feels really good when you're done. 120 00:11:26,966.7027108 --> 00:11:31,656.7027108 And all these exercises can be done in combination with each other. 121 00:11:32,116.7027108 --> 00:11:47,826.7017108 Like I said, the deeper the trauma, the kind of the more work you're going to have to do on it, you know, if your parents were just absolutely terrible humans for no fault or all fault of their own, you're going to have to do more than probably just smash a coconut. 122 00:11:47,836.7027108 --> 00:11:55,46.7027108 You might have to do all of these exercises, maybe a few times, but the end result is so worth it. 123 00:11:55,46.7027108 --> 00:11:59,826.7027108 Just imagine if everybody who'd ever wronged you in your entire life. 124 00:12:00,171.7027108 --> 00:12:04,401.7027108 Came and apologized to you egregiously, laying flowers upon your feet. 125 00:12:04,741.7027108 --> 00:12:05,901.7027108 Well, that ain't ever going to happen. 126 00:12:06,301.7027108 --> 00:12:09,971.7027108 So this is like having that happen. 127 00:12:09,971.7027108 --> 00:12:15,21.7027108 So imagine the lightness you will feel once you go through some of these exercises. 128 00:12:15,401.7027108 --> 00:12:28,451.7037108 Now I've got another one that really helps with the childhood trauma, which even if you're, I swear to God, like everybody has issues dealing with their parents. 129 00:12:28,521.7037108 --> 00:12:34,156.7037108 I have a wonderful friend who suffers from migraine headaches. 130 00:12:34,786.7037108 --> 00:12:45,376.7037108 And she's been to a therapist, she's been to all kinds of different modalities of healing to try to understand this. 131 00:12:45,376.7037108 --> 00:12:50,586.7047108 And this she has discovered through multiple modalities. 132 00:12:50,686.7047108 --> 00:12:52,216.7047108 You guys, you won't even believe this. 133 00:12:52,216.7047108 --> 00:12:53,166.7047108 It's actually beautiful. 134 00:12:53,166.7047108 --> 00:12:55,936.7047108 It's like one of the most beautiful and poignant stories I ever heard. 135 00:12:56,486.7047108 --> 00:13:17,856.7047108 She grew up in an incredibly loving household where her parents supported her in any endeavor that she did, told her she was brilliant and talented, beautiful, capable, anything that she wanted to do, and they would always love and support her. 136 00:13:17,856.7047108 --> 00:13:29,936.7057108 And because Of all of that love and support, she has felt intense and immense pressure to be, to rise up to how they esteemed her. 137 00:13:29,936.7057108 --> 00:13:37,856.7067108 Intense pressure, and she gets absolutely days long, crippling migraine headaches. 138 00:13:37,856.7067108 --> 00:13:42,66.7067108 All right, let's all talk about how poignant this story is. 139 00:13:42,66.7067108 --> 00:13:45,246.7067108 I know people whose parents were meth heads. 140 00:13:45,841.7067108 --> 00:13:57,881.7067108 That beat them and their siblings, that completely checked out and they were alcoholics by 14 and stealing their parents car and driving around because their parents were just completely checked out. 141 00:13:58,201.7067108 --> 00:14:02,861.7067108 Or that beat them, that did drugs, etc, etc, etc. 142 00:14:03,111.7057108 --> 00:14:07,231.7057108 And we don't have these crippling migraines. 143 00:14:07,321.7067108 --> 00:14:09,511.7067108 We have our own trauma. 144 00:14:09,511.7067108 --> 00:14:18,41.7057108 Television sitcoms teach us that every childhood is perfect except for ours, and I have to tell you it's just not true. 145 00:14:18,361.7067108 --> 00:14:20,731.7067108 We all have something. 146 00:14:21,101.7057108 --> 00:14:27,81.7057108 Even if your childhood was quote unquote perfect, it still lends itself to a sense of trauma. 147 00:14:27,416.7067108 --> 00:14:30,866.7067108 Where, you know, my poor friend gets these awful, awful migraines. 148 00:14:31,546.7067108 --> 00:14:39,486.7067108 So we all have things to work through from our formative years as a result of being in this human experience. 149 00:14:40,96.7067108 --> 00:14:45,6.7067108 So I want to tell you about a very deep meditation I did in one of my Kabbalah classes. 150 00:14:45,476.7067108 --> 00:14:49,16.7067108 I might have mentioned I take all kinds of spiritual classes. 151 00:14:49,16.7067108 --> 00:14:52,876.7067108 I'm just dipping my toe in the water here and there because there's truth everywhere. 152 00:14:53,326.7067108 --> 00:14:56,496.7067108 And so I'm gleaning truth from, from wherever I can find it. 153 00:14:56,806.7057108 --> 00:14:58,186.7067108 And I really like Kabbalah. 154 00:14:58,256.7067108 --> 00:14:59,476.7067108 It's actually super legit. 155 00:14:59,486.7067108 --> 00:15:01,206.7067108 If you can take classes or look into it. 156 00:15:01,526.7067108 --> 00:15:02,436.7067108 It's amazing. 157 00:15:02,676.7067108 --> 00:15:04,36.7067108 You don't have to, I'm not Jewish. 158 00:15:04,36.7067108 --> 00:15:05,746.7067108 I was raised WASP y as heck. 159 00:15:05,786.7067108 --> 00:15:08,546.7067108 And but I, I love a lot of their messages. 160 00:15:08,546.7067108 --> 00:15:10,616.7067108 I love a lot of the Buddhist messages, etc. 161 00:15:10,716.7067108 --> 00:15:11,346.7067108 I digress. 162 00:15:11,466.7067108 --> 00:15:12,276.7057108 Easily and often. 163 00:15:13,6.7057108 --> 00:15:20,746.7067108 So, the meditation that we took in this particular Kabbalah class was, oh, absolutely profound for every single human that was in that class. 164 00:15:20,746.7067108 --> 00:15:23,126.7067108 There was probably 50, 60, 75 of us in there. 165 00:15:23,226.7067108 --> 00:15:23,956.7067108 I'm not good at counting. 166 00:15:24,716.7067108 --> 00:15:34,906.7067108 And The, the wonderful gentleman, I don't know if he's a rabbi, he's a teacher, he's a wonderful healing teacher named Daniel and he's lovely. 167 00:15:35,356.7067108 --> 00:15:42,856.7067108 So Daniel runs us through this just absolutely stunning meditation, which I'm not going to do the whole meditation for you. 168 00:15:42,856.7067108 --> 00:15:55,626.7067108 I'm going to describe it to you and you can recreate it for yourself and you want to get yourself into a meditative state, take deep breaths, get yourself into the space of it. 169 00:15:56,811.7067108 --> 00:16:08,861.7067108 And then you're going to imagine yourself in an absolutely bucolic, idyllic, natural surrounding, whatever that means for you. 170 00:16:09,231.7067108 --> 00:16:17,851.7067108 For me, it was a meadow with a trickling waterfall and little flowers and, you know, little dew drops on everything. 171 00:16:17,861.7067108 --> 00:16:19,711.7067108 Sun is breaking through trees. 172 00:16:19,711.7067108 --> 00:16:21,631.7067108 It's neither hot nor too cold. 173 00:16:22,401.7067108 --> 00:16:25,591.7067108 And then all of a sudden, my parents are there. 174 00:16:26,571.7067108 --> 00:16:28,231.7067108 He brought our parents in. 175 00:16:28,231.7067108 --> 00:16:35,681.7067108 And so we had a meditation with us just talking to our parents when they had us. 176 00:16:36,241.7067108 --> 00:16:44,916.7067108 So not your parents now, but I was talking to 1977 parent, mom and dad. 177 00:16:44,916.7067108 --> 00:16:50,181.7067108 Right? And so he has you talk to them and say, I forgive you for everything. 178 00:16:50,871.7067108 --> 00:16:57,521.7067108 You did the best you could with what you had and who you were at that time. 179 00:16:57,521.7067108 --> 00:17:00,281.7067108 I mean, most of our parents, my parents were kids. 180 00:17:00,821.7067108 --> 00:17:04,421.7067108 I was doing hellaciously crazy things by the time my parents were like having me. 181 00:17:04,691.7067108 --> 00:17:09,311.7067108 I can't even imagine being a good parent at the age at which my parents had me. 182 00:17:09,311.7067108 --> 00:17:38,156.7057108 And so you, you have this conversation in this deeply meditative state with them, where you say to them, the only thing that you had to do, only responsibility you had towards me, was having me and thank you so much having me and I'm going to take it from here and thank you so much for coming together to create this life force that is me. 183 00:17:38,266.7057108 --> 00:17:41,776.7057108 I am so incredibly grateful. 184 00:17:41,796.7047108 --> 00:17:44,396.7057108 You don't owe me anything beyond that. 185 00:17:44,396.7057108 --> 00:17:45,216.7057108 Thank you. 186 00:17:45,406.7057108 --> 00:17:46,246.7057108 Thank you. 187 00:17:46,696.7057108 --> 00:17:47,636.7057108 Thank you. 188 00:17:47,636.7057108 --> 00:17:58,346.7057108 And this was so profoundly powerful that when he brought us out of this meditation, Like 20, 25 minutes later, there was not a dry eye in the place. 189 00:17:58,416.7057108 --> 00:18:04,536.7057108 Everybody was glowing and humming and absolutely elated. 190 00:18:05,176.7057108 --> 00:18:17,366.7057108 So this is another exercise that if you can get yourself into this state, a meditation state, and just run yourself through this creative visualization. 191 00:18:17,986.7057108 --> 00:18:21,536.7047108 Again, make sure nobody's going to bother you. 192 00:18:21,546.7057108 --> 00:18:24,46.7057108 You deserve this time for you. 193 00:18:24,46.7057108 --> 00:18:35,26.7057108 It's so incredibly powerful and uplifting and just the ultimate, ultimate lifelong mood hack. 194 00:18:35,26.7057108 --> 00:18:40,976.7062108 So I'm going to conclude for today with the quick recap. 195 00:18:40,976.7062108 --> 00:18:43,956.7067108 We have the smash tastic coconut break. 196 00:18:44,206.7067108 --> 00:18:52,516.7067108 We have the write out the paper on write out your grievances and forgiveness on the paper, shred it and burn it. 197 00:18:52,866.7067108 --> 00:18:54,96.7067108 Intentionally. 198 00:18:54,526.7067108 --> 00:19:08,26.7067108 And then we have the very intentional exercise sessions or runs that can help you release anger, resentment that you are holding on to that is not hurting anybody except for you. 199 00:19:08,666.7057108 --> 00:19:11,826.7077108 And there's a beautiful quote by Mark Twain. 200 00:19:11,826.7077108 --> 00:19:19,766.7077108 And he says, forgiveness is the scent that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. 201 00:19:19,766.7077108 --> 00:19:22,896.7077108 And with that, I want you guys to go out and crush it. 202 00:19:23,596.7067108 --> 00:19:24,716.7077108 tHis has been beautiful. 203 00:19:24,776.7077108 --> 00:19:26,346.7072108 Thank you for sharing this moment with me. 204 00:19:26,346.7072108 --> 00:19:28,296.7077108 These are very cathartic for me as well. 205 00:19:28,296.7077108 --> 00:19:31,486.7077108 I would love to hear, Your experience with these. 206 00:19:31,486.7077108 --> 00:19:34,356.7077108 If this is helpful, you can go to Facebook. 207 00:19:34,356.7077108 --> 00:19:36,246.7077108 The mood hacks is our page. 208 00:19:36,646.7077108 --> 00:19:41,896.7077108 Also if you'd like, we have the book, go to dub dub dub dot the mood hacks.com 209 00:19:42,406.7077108 --> 00:19:43,306.7077108 regardless. 210 00:19:43,311.7077108 --> 00:19:45,286.7077108 Thank you for being here and sharing this moment. 211 00:19:45,406.7077108 --> 00:19:47,176.7077108 Forgive, forgive, forgive. 212 00:19:47,266.7077108 --> 00:19:48,616.7077108 It's the greatest mood hack. 213 00:19:49,116.7077108 --> 00:19:51,66.7077108 It's your girl, Jamie Roddy out chow for now.
.697710799Everybody welcome back to mood hacks. 2 00:00:29,986.697710799 --> 00:00:34,786.697710799 I have a super powerful one for you today. 3 00:00:35,356.696710799 --> 00:00:37,906.697710799 That is more of a life hack. 4 00:00:37,916.697710799 --> 00:00:49,786.695710799 Honestly, this is something we're going to talk about that can help you release age, old anger, resentment, even trauma so that you can be lighter and brighter. 5 00:00:50,481.696710799 --> 00:00:51,661.696710799 in your life. 6 00:00:51,821.696710799 --> 00:00:55,441.696710799 We're going to be talking about forgiveness today. 7 00:00:55,441.696710799 --> 00:01:13,711.695710799 Forgiveness is a key element for every single one of us because we have all experienced resentment, disappointment, even outright trauma at the hands of other people. 8 00:01:13,931.695710799 --> 00:01:17,811.696710799 This is part of life on earth, period. 9 00:01:17,811.696710799 --> 00:01:20,21.696710799 There is not a single person alive. 10 00:01:20,901.696710799 --> 00:01:27,651.696710799 Who doesn't need to or has not already done extensive work on forgiveness. 11 00:01:27,681.696710799 --> 00:01:35,241.696710799 And generally we're forgiving people for whom we will never see an apology. 12 00:01:35,801.696710799 --> 00:01:38,101.695710799 This is what we're working with today. 13 00:01:38,751.695710799 --> 00:01:48,771.6967108 Many people have said in many different ways, essentially, Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. 14 00:01:49,231.6967108 --> 00:01:56,121.6967108 This quote has been attributed to Buddha, to Nelson Mandela, who we all know had every right. 15 00:01:56,681.6967108 --> 00:02:03,911.6967108 And every justification to hold on to any anger, but he knew that was not going to serve him in his life. 16 00:02:03,931.6967108 --> 00:02:05,251.6967108 Even as far back as St. 17 00:02:05,291.6967108 --> 00:02:11,231.6967108 Augustine said resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. 18 00:02:11,771.6967108 --> 00:02:17,821.6967108 So many wise men and people, sages throughout time, have expressed this. 19 00:02:17,891.6967108 --> 00:02:23,481.6967108 And so I really wanted to talk about it with you today and some different exercises. 20 00:02:23,861.6967108 --> 00:02:33,781.6977108 That you can do to take forgiveness into your own hands, to take your overall life enjoyment and your lightness and your brightness. 21 00:02:34,331.6977108 --> 00:02:43,491.6977108 into your own hands, because we all have someone who has wronged us who definitely owes us an apology. 22 00:02:43,921.6977108 --> 00:02:50,181.6977108 But I think we all have people for whom we are never going to receive that apology. 23 00:02:50,551.6967108 --> 00:03:01,641.6977108 And are we going to let that dictate? Our life is, are we going to let that just make us angry when we're driving in the car, every time we think about it, or when we're taking a shower, you know, it's shower thoughts. 24 00:03:01,641.6977108 --> 00:03:03,311.6977108 We start arguing in your head. 25 00:03:03,311.6977108 --> 00:03:09,851.6997108 Anytime you get these, these are keys that you need to forgive and let go. 26 00:03:09,971.6997108 --> 00:03:14,31.6987108 Why? For your own benefit. 27 00:03:14,561.6987108 --> 00:03:15,151.6987108 All right. 28 00:03:15,211.6987108 --> 00:03:18,611.6997108 So there's a few different exercises that we can do. 29 00:03:18,831.6997108 --> 00:03:22,621.6997108 I'm going to highlight some kind of quick and easy ones. 30 00:03:23,26.6997108 --> 00:03:25,906.6997108 This is definitely work you have to do for yourself, though. 31 00:03:25,946.6997108 --> 00:03:29,196.6997108 And this is a treat for yourself. 32 00:03:29,266.6997108 --> 00:03:44,781.6997108 And a lot of times, I've seen people whose Parents have passed away, or loved ones have passed away, and the people that they leave behind have grievances still that will never, ever come to rectification. 33 00:03:45,391.6997108 --> 00:03:46,791.6987108 They will never get that apology. 34 00:03:46,791.6987108 --> 00:03:50,751.6997108 This person has passed on to do whatever dead people do. 35 00:03:50,751.6997108 --> 00:04:03,221.6987108 So here are some exercises that you can do To take your own life enjoyment and your own state of peace and your own state of mind into your own hands. 36 00:04:03,431.6997108 --> 00:04:09,851.6997108 Because most likely these people are never going to apologize for a multitude of reasons. 37 00:04:09,851.6997108 --> 00:04:16,921.6997108 Alright, these are some quick ones that I have learned over the years from people much wiser and happier than myself. 38 00:04:16,921.6997108 --> 00:04:18,401.6997108 One is kind of a fun one. 39 00:04:18,401.6997108 --> 00:04:24,751.6997108 Let's start with a fun one, okay? Now you have to do these exercises with intention, friends. 40 00:04:24,891.6997108 --> 00:04:31,741.6997108 You're gonna need to like create some space where you don't have any distractions, people, children. 41 00:04:32,211.6997108 --> 00:04:34,151.6987108 There's no partner coming in to barge in on you. 42 00:04:34,151.6987108 --> 00:04:35,351.6997108 You need time. 43 00:04:35,756.6997108 --> 00:04:37,306.6997108 To sit and write this out. 44 00:04:38,26.6997108 --> 00:04:41,836.6997108 So the first one is the coconut smash and it is that much fun. 45 00:04:42,366.6997108 --> 00:04:50,76.6997108 But first, what you have to do is you have to get out paper and you need to think about this person that grieved you that will never apologize to you. 46 00:04:50,76.6997108 --> 00:04:59,946.6997108 And you are going to formally forgive this person, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve it. 47 00:04:59,946.6997108 --> 00:05:01,956.6997108 You deserve peace of mind. 48 00:05:02,576.6997108 --> 00:05:06,326.6997108 You really, really, really deserve that apology you're never going to get. 49 00:05:06,596.6997108 --> 00:05:10,876.6997108 And so the next best thing is going to forgive them. 50 00:05:10,886.6997108 --> 00:05:16,326.6997108 And actually, we just want the apology so that we can forgive. 51 00:05:16,326.6997108 --> 00:05:31,126.6997108 So why don't we just skip over that and get to what you really want, which is to stop holding on to the anger, holding on to the resentment, holding on to the wrongdoing as a justification for why you do XYZ. 52 00:05:31,656.7007108 --> 00:05:35,296.7007108 We all want the apology just so that we can forgive. 53 00:05:35,646.7007108 --> 00:05:36,916.7007108 So let's just forgive. 54 00:05:37,576.7007108 --> 00:05:41,726.6997108 So, what we're gonna do is we're gonna write all about it. 55 00:05:42,396.7007108 --> 00:05:50,271.5997108 First, we're gonna write down, Dear so and so, I forgive you for the way that you treated me. 56 00:05:50,951.6997108 --> 00:05:51,761.6997108 Back then. 57 00:05:52,301.6997108 --> 00:05:57,121.6997108 I forgive you for your horrendous actions. 58 00:05:57,121.6997108 --> 00:06:00,491.6997108 I forgive you for X, Y, and Z. 59 00:06:01,131.6997108 --> 00:06:04,471.6987108 And I know that you maybe don't know better. 60 00:06:04,471.6987108 --> 00:06:07,531.6997108 And maybe I don't know the whole story. 61 00:06:07,926.6997108 --> 00:06:16,886.6997108 But the end of the day, write out all, as much detail as possible for what you are forgiving this person for. 62 00:06:16,886.6997108 --> 00:06:17,916.6997108 And here comes the fun part. 63 00:06:17,916.6997108 --> 00:06:24,346.6997108 Then you're going to hollow out a coconut, yeah, coconut, and you're going to roll up this paper. 64 00:06:24,346.6997108 --> 00:06:41,36.6997108 And you're going to stick it in a coconut and you're going to go find a nice sturdy brick wall and you're going to smash the shit out of this coconut, releasing, releasing all this anger that you have to this person, releasing forgiveness into your heart and soul and mind. 65 00:06:41,326.6997108 --> 00:06:43,6.6997108 for your own peace. 66 00:06:43,6.6997108 --> 00:06:48,196.6997108 And with that, you know, bombastic smash tastic action, it's done. 67 00:06:48,196.6997108 --> 00:06:50,386.6987108 And it, and it feels lighter. 68 00:06:50,386.6987108 --> 00:06:53,336.6987108 I've got a couple more exercises that you can do as well. 69 00:06:53,456.6997108 --> 00:06:55,256.6997108 Because this is not an end all, be all. 70 00:06:55,266.6997108 --> 00:07:15,126.6997108 Some of these, some of us, most people, have childhood trauma because we were raised by human beings and not God, not the angelic universal angels, right? We were raised by actual fallible human people who were doing the best that they could, and they were raised with their own trauma. 71 00:07:15,576.6997108 --> 00:07:24,856.6997108 And so we all have forgiveness to do around those things, but we also might have forgiveness around our exes or maybe an ex best friend. 72 00:07:25,356.6997108 --> 00:07:45,226.6997108 Or et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, an old boss, maybe, you know, so the first one is the coconut and depending on how deep the pain, the heart and the forgiveness that depends on how much work you're going to have to do around it, but this is something you can do for yourself that is so profound and life changing. 73 00:07:45,771.6997108 --> 00:07:50,911.6997108 Just imagine not carrying this around with you anymore. 74 00:07:50,971.6997108 --> 00:07:52,791.6997108 Think about how much lighter you will be. 75 00:07:53,151.6997108 --> 00:07:56,101.6997108 This reminds me of a Zen Buddhist parable. 76 00:07:56,101.6997108 --> 00:08:15,111.7007108 These two monks are walking down in complete silence and walking along, and they come to a river where a woman is just standing on the edge and she can't really cross the river because she's going to get all of her finery messed up. 77 00:08:15,111.7007108 --> 00:08:20,601.7007108 She's dressed very beautifully, like for a wedding, and she can't get across the river. 78 00:08:20,611.6997108 --> 00:08:21,751.7007108 There's no ferryman. 79 00:08:21,861.6997108 --> 00:08:23,221.7007108 She's just waiting and waiting. 80 00:08:23,911.6997108 --> 00:08:34,106.7007108 And so one of the Buddhist monks picks up the woman and carries her across this river and she's so incredibly grateful. 81 00:08:34,506.7007108 --> 00:08:41,146.7007108 And the two monks continue on their way and they're walking and walking for hours in silence once again. 82 00:08:41,146.7007108 --> 00:09:00,341.7017108 And finally one of the monks who energetically had become increasingly agitated as he stood in his thoughts and thought about this caring of the woman and finally he could take it no more and he looked at his brother and he said why did you do that? You know we're not allowed to touch women. 83 00:09:00,351.7017108 --> 00:09:07,11.7017108 Why did you do that? And the other monk looked at him a little shocked and laughed softly. 84 00:09:07,561.7017108 --> 00:09:24,1.7012108 And he said, my brother, I sat down that woman hours ago, why are you still carrying her? Right? So this is the kind of lightness and joy that you deserve, you can give to yourself without ever receiving another apology. 85 00:09:24,1.7012108 --> 00:09:25,121.7007108 So here's another exercise. 86 00:09:25,131.7017108 --> 00:09:28,551.7017108 We've got the bombastic coconut smash, that was fun. 87 00:09:28,551.7017108 --> 00:09:30,91.7017108 Another one that you can do. 88 00:09:30,91.7017108 --> 00:09:47,681.7017108 Write out again, you're gonna have to get pen and paper friends this is just gonna have to happen and you write it all out you write out your grievance and you write out your forgiveness around it and Then you get a fire going and something sort of self contained Whatever feels good for you. 89 00:09:47,711.7017108 --> 00:09:48,991.7017108 Maybe you're doing this while you're camping. 90 00:09:49,1.7017108 --> 00:09:53,391.7017108 Maybe you're doing it in your office wastebasket outside et cetera. 91 00:09:53,431.7017108 --> 00:09:56,231.7017108 There's a jillion ways to do this. 92 00:09:56,341.7017108 --> 00:09:58,341.7017108 Make it sacred and holy for you. 93 00:09:58,361.7017108 --> 00:09:59,861.7017108 Make it intentional. 94 00:10:00,521.7017108 --> 00:10:02,71.7017108 Make it mean something. 95 00:10:02,761.7017108 --> 00:10:07,151.7017108 And you take that paper out there, and you tear it into little bits and say, I forgive you. 96 00:10:07,151.7017108 --> 00:10:07,891.7017108 I forgive you. 97 00:10:07,931.7007108 --> 00:10:10,991.7007108 And as I burn this paper, I burn that anger. 98 00:10:11,31.7007108 --> 00:10:14,601.7007108 I burn that resentment because I don't want it anymore. 99 00:10:15,121.7007108 --> 00:10:16,661.7007108 Okay? That's number two. 100 00:10:16,851.7007108 --> 00:10:19,81.7007108 Dude, you guys know what? I have one too. 101 00:10:19,426.7017108 --> 00:10:21,636.7017108 that these are ones that I've learned from other people. 102 00:10:21,926.7017108 --> 00:10:23,416.7017108 This one I do for myself. 103 00:10:23,416.7017108 --> 00:10:25,246.7017108 Sometimes I have learned this. 104 00:10:25,606.7017108 --> 00:10:31,96.7017108 You can, if you're going to do a workout I like to take these HIIT classes. 105 00:10:31,136.7017108 --> 00:10:43,566.7027108 So they're kind of like idiot proof and you just go through it and you're working kind of hard, right? But sometimes I'll set an intention in the beginning of a really good run or a really good exercise or really good workout. 106 00:10:44,186.7027108 --> 00:10:51,36.7027108 I'll say, you know what? I am just going to forgive so and so by the end of this workout. 107 00:10:51,606.7027108 --> 00:10:56,56.7027108 And while I'm lifting the weights, while I'm doing sit ups or push ups or all these. 108 00:10:56,56.7027108 --> 00:10:57,366.7027108 I'm saying, I forgive you. 109 00:10:57,586.7027108 --> 00:10:58,726.7027108 I forgive you for that. 110 00:10:58,836.7027108 --> 00:11:00,816.7027108 That hurt and I let it go. 111 00:11:01,46.7027108 --> 00:11:01,816.7027108 I forgive you. 112 00:11:02,36.7027108 --> 00:11:03,726.7027108 I forgive you for that. 113 00:11:03,816.7027108 --> 00:11:05,816.7027108 It hurt and I let it go. 114 00:11:06,146.7027108 --> 00:11:13,966.7027108 And I'll just kind of say these forgiveness mantras to myself over and over and over while I'm pushing my body to physical exertion. 115 00:11:14,506.7027108 --> 00:11:16,836.7027108 And it's like it forces it out of me. 116 00:11:17,276.7027108 --> 00:11:19,866.7027108 So I'd really recommend that you try this. 117 00:11:20,216.7027108 --> 00:11:21,86.7027108 I like it. 118 00:11:21,106.7027108 --> 00:11:23,946.7027108 It really helps me lighten a lot. 119 00:11:24,136.7027108 --> 00:11:26,726.7027108 It feels really good when you're done. 120 00:11:26,966.7027108 --> 00:11:31,656.7027108 And all these exercises can be done in combination with each other. 121 00:11:32,116.7027108 --> 00:11:47,826.7017108 Like I said, the deeper the trauma, the kind of the more work you're going to have to do on it, you know, if your parents were just absolutely terrible humans for no fault or all fault of their own, you're going to have to do more than probably just smash a coconut. 122 00:11:47,836.7027108 --> 00:11:55,46.7027108 You might have to do all of these exercises, maybe a few times, but the end result is so worth it. 123 00:11:55,46.7027108 --> 00:11:59,826.7027108 Just imagine if everybody who'd ever wronged you in your entire life. 124 00:12:00,171.7027108 --> 00:12:04,401.7027108 Came and apologized to you egregiously, laying flowers upon your feet. 125 00:12:04,741.7027108 --> 00:12:05,901.7027108 Well, that ain't ever going to happen. 126 00:12:06,301.7027108 --> 00:12:09,971.7027108 So this is like having that happen. 127 00:12:09,971.7027108 --> 00:12:15,21.7027108 So imagine the lightness you will feel once you go through some of these exercises. 128 00:12:15,401.7027108 --> 00:12:28,451.7037108 Now I've got another one that really helps with the childhood trauma, which even if you're, I swear to God, like everybody has issues dealing with their parents. 129 00:12:28,521.7037108 --> 00:12:34,156.7037108 I have a wonderful friend who suffers from migraine headaches. 130 00:12:34,786.7037108 --> 00:12:45,376.7037108 And she's been to a therapist, she's been to all kinds of different modalities of healing to try to understand this. 131 00:12:45,376.7037108 --> 00:12:50,586.7047108 And this she has discovered through multiple modalities. 132 00:12:50,686.7047108 --> 00:12:52,216.7047108 You guys, you won't even believe this. 133 00:12:52,216.7047108 --> 00:12:53,166.7047108 It's actually beautiful. 134 00:12:53,166.7047108 --> 00:12:55,936.7047108 It's like one of the most beautiful and poignant stories I ever heard. 135 00:12:56,486.7047108 --> 00:13:17,856.7047108 She grew up in an incredibly loving household where her parents supported her in any endeavor that she did, told her she was brilliant and talented, beautiful, capable, anything that she wanted to do, and they would always love and support her. 136 00:13:17,856.7047108 --> 00:13:29,936.7057108 And because Of all of that love and support, she has felt intense and immense pressure to be, to rise up to how they esteemed her. 137 00:13:29,936.7057108 --> 00:13:37,856.7067108 Intense pressure, and she gets absolutely days long, crippling migraine headaches. 138 00:13:37,856.7067108 --> 00:13:42,66.7067108 All right, let's all talk about how poignant this story is. 139 00:13:42,66.7067108 --> 00:13:45,246.7067108 I know people whose parents were meth heads. 140 00:13:45,841.7067108 --> 00:13:57,881.7067108 That beat them and their siblings, that completely checked out and they were alcoholics by 14 and stealing their parents car and driving around because their parents were just completely checked out. 141 00:13:58,201.7067108 --> 00:14:02,861.7067108 Or that beat them, that did drugs, etc, etc, etc. 142 00:14:03,111.7057108 --> 00:14:07,231.7057108 And we don't have these crippling migraines. 143 00:14:07,321.7067108 --> 00:14:09,511.7067108 We have our own trauma. 144 00:14:09,511.7067108 --> 00:14:18,41.7057108 Television sitcoms teach us that every childhood is perfect except for ours, and I have to tell you it's just not true. 145 00:14:18,361.7067108 --> 00:14:20,731.7067108 We all have something. 146 00:14:21,101.7057108 --> 00:14:27,81.7057108 Even if your childhood was quote unquote perfect, it still lends itself to a sense of trauma. 147 00:14:27,416.7067108 --> 00:14:30,866.7067108 Where, you know, my poor friend gets these awful, awful migraines. 148 00:14:31,546.7067108 --> 00:14:39,486.7067108 So we all have things to work through from our formative years as a result of being in this human experience. 149 00:14:40,96.7067108 --> 00:14:45,6.7067108 So I want to tell you about a very deep meditation I did in one of my Kabbalah classes. 150 00:14:45,476.7067108 --> 00:14:49,16.7067108 I might have mentioned I take all kinds of spiritual classes. 151 00:14:49,16.7067108 --> 00:14:52,876.7067108 I'm just dipping my toe in the water here and there because there's truth everywhere. 152 00:14:53,326.7067108 --> 00:14:56,496.7067108 And so I'm gleaning truth from, from wherever I can find it. 153 00:14:56,806.7057108 --> 00:14:58,186.7067108 And I really like Kabbalah. 154 00:14:58,256.7067108 --> 00:14:59,476.7067108 It's actually super legit. 155 00:14:59,486.7067108 --> 00:15:01,206.7067108 If you can take classes or look into it. 156 00:15:01,526.7067108 --> 00:15:02,436.7067108 It's amazing. 157 00:15:02,676.7067108 --> 00:15:04,36.7067108 You don't have to, I'm not Jewish. 158 00:15:04,36.7067108 --> 00:15:05,746.7067108 I was raised WASP y as heck. 159 00:15:05,786.7067108 --> 00:15:08,546.7067108 And but I, I love a lot of their messages. 160 00:15:08,546.7067108 --> 00:15:10,616.7067108 I love a lot of the Buddhist messages, etc. 161 00:15:10,716.7067108 --> 00:15:11,346.7067108 I digress. 162 00:15:11,466.7067108 --> 00:15:12,276.7057108 Easily and often. 163 00:15:13,6.7057108 --> 00:15:20,746.7067108 So, the meditation that we took in this particular Kabbalah class was, oh, absolutely profound for every single human that was in that class. 164 00:15:20,746.7067108 --> 00:15:23,126.7067108 There was probably 50, 60, 75 of us in there. 165 00:15:23,226.7067108 --> 00:15:23,956.7067108 I'm not good at counting. 166 00:15:24,716.7067108 --> 00:15:34,906.7067108 And The, the wonderful gentleman, I don't know if he's a rabbi, he's a teacher, he's a wonderful healing teacher named Daniel and he's lovely. 167 00:15:35,356.7067108 --> 00:15:42,856.7067108 So Daniel runs us through this just absolutely stunning meditation, which I'm not going to do the whole meditation for you. 168 00:15:42,856.7067108 --> 00:15:55,626.7067108 I'm going to describe it to you and you can recreate it for yourself and you want to get yourself into a meditative state, take deep breaths, get yourself into the space of it. 169 00:15:56,811.7067108 --> 00:16:08,861.7067108 And then you're going to imagine yourself in an absolutely bucolic, idyllic, natural surrounding, whatever that means for you. 170 00:16:09,231.7067108 --> 00:16:17,851.7067108 For me, it was a meadow with a trickling waterfall and little flowers and, you know, little dew drops on everything. 171 00:16:17,861.7067108 --> 00:16:19,711.7067108 Sun is breaking through trees. 172 00:16:19,711.7067108 --> 00:16:21,631.7067108 It's neither hot nor too cold. 173 00:16:22,401.7067108 --> 00:16:25,591.7067108 And then all of a sudden, my parents are there. 174 00:16:26,571.7067108 --> 00:16:28,231.7067108 He brought our parents in. 175 00:16:28,231.7067108 --> 00:16:35,681.7067108 And so we had a meditation with us just talking to our parents when they had us. 176 00:16:36,241.7067108 --> 00:16:44,916.7067108 So not your parents now, but I was talking to 1977 parent, mom and dad. 177 00:16:44,916.7067108 --> 00:16:50,181.7067108 Right? And so he has you talk to them and say, I forgive you for everything. 178 00:16:50,871.7067108 --> 00:16:57,521.7067108 You did the best you could with what you had and who you were at that time. 179 00:16:57,521.7067108 --> 00:17:00,281.7067108 I mean, most of our parents, my parents were kids. 180 00:17:00,821.7067108 --> 00:17:04,421.7067108 I was doing hellaciously crazy things by the time my parents were like having me. 181 00:17:04,691.7067108 --> 00:17:09,311.7067108 I can't even imagine being a good parent at the age at which my parents had me. 182 00:17:09,311.7067108 --> 00:17:38,156.7057108 And so you, you have this conversation in this deeply meditative state with them, where you say to them, the only thing that you had to do, only responsibility you had towards me, was having me and thank you so much having me and I'm going to take it from here and thank you so much for coming together to create this life force that is me. 183 00:17:38,266.7057108 --> 00:17:41,776.7057108 I am so incredibly grateful. 184 00:17:41,796.7047108 --> 00:17:44,396.7057108 You don't owe me anything beyond that. 185 00:17:44,396.7057108 --> 00:17:45,216.7057108 Thank you. 186 00:17:45,406.7057108 --> 00:17:46,246.7057108 Thank you. 187 00:17:46,696.7057108 --> 00:17:47,636.7057108 Thank you. 188 00:17:47,636.7057108 --> 00:17:58,346.7057108 And this was so profoundly powerful that when he brought us out of this meditation, Like 20, 25 minutes later, there was not a dry eye in the place. 189 00:17:58,416.7057108 --> 00:18:04,536.7057108 Everybody was glowing and humming and absolutely elated. 190 00:18:05,176.7057108 --> 00:18:17,366.7057108 So this is another exercise that if you can get yourself into this state, a meditation state, and just run yourself through this creative visualization. 191 00:18:17,986.7057108 --> 00:18:21,536.7047108 Again, make sure nobody's going to bother you. 192 00:18:21,546.7057108 --> 00:18:24,46.7057108 You deserve this time for you. 193 00:18:24,46.7057108 --> 00:18:35,26.7057108 It's so incredibly powerful and uplifting and just the ultimate, ultimate lifelong mood hack. 194 00:18:35,26.7057108 --> 00:18:40,976.7062108 So I'm going to conclude for today with the quick recap. 195 00:18:40,976.7062108 --> 00:18:43,956.7067108 We have the smash tastic coconut break. 196 00:18:44,206.7067108 --> 00:18:52,516.7067108 We have the write out the paper on write out your grievances and forgiveness on the paper, shred it and burn it. 197 00:18:52,866.7067108 --> 00:18:54,96.7067108 Intentionally. 198 00:18:54,526.7067108 --> 00:19:08,26.7067108 And then we have the very intentional exercise sessions or runs that can help you release anger, resentment that you are holding on to that is not hurting anybody except for you. 199 00:19:08,666.7057108 --> 00:19:11,826.7077108 And there's a beautiful quote by Mark Twain. 200 00:19:11,826.7077108 --> 00:19:19,766.7077108 And he says, forgiveness is the scent that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. 201 00:19:19,766.7077108 --> 00:19:22,896.7077108 And with that, I want you guys to go out and crush it. 202 00:19:23,596.7067108 --> 00:19:24,716.7077108 tHis has been beautiful. 203 00:19:24,776.7077108 --> 00:19:26,346.7072108 Thank you for sharing this moment with me. 204 00:19:26,346.7072108 --> 00:19:28,296.7077108 These are very cathartic for me as well. 205 00:19:28,296.7077108 --> 00:19:31,486.7077108 I would love to hear, Your experience with these. 206 00:19:31,486.7077108 --> 00:19:34,356.7077108 If this is helpful, you can go to Facebook. 207 00:19:34,356.7077108 --> 00:19:36,246.7077108 The mood hacks is our page. 208 00:19:36,646.7077108 --> 00:19:41,896.7077108 Also if you'd like, we have the book, go to dub dub dub dot the mood hacks.com 209 00:19:42,406.7077108 --> 00:19:43,306.7077108 regardless. 210 00:19:43,311.7077108 --> 00:19:45,286.7077108 Thank you for being here and sharing this moment. 211 00:19:45,406.7077108 --> 00:19:47,176.7077108 Forgive, forgive, forgive. 212 00:19:47,266.7077108 --> 00:19:48,616.7077108 It's the greatest mood hack. 213 00:19:49,116.7077108 --> 00:19:51,66.7077108 It's your girl, Jamie Roddy out chow for now.
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