August 25, 2024 • 40 mins
In this heartfelt episode, join our host as they delve into a variety of topics that have been resonating deeply with them. From feeling motivated to create content and expressing gratitude for the growing listener base, to reflecting on personal influences in music, particularly the impact of Aaliyah and Beyoncé.
Our host also shares personal experiences and thoughts on navigating life as a Black man, discussing the complexities of perceived Blackness, systemic biases, and the importance of mental health and therapy. They touch on the struggles and triumphs of existing in a world that often feels unkind, and the journey towards thriving rather than just surviving.
This episode is a mix of introspection, cultural commentary, and personal anecdotes, offering a raw and honest look into the host's life and thoughts. Tune in for a jam-packed conversation that covers a range of emotions and experiences.
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Music.
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Man, I've been hitting y'all with the episodes like pretty regularly.
Y'all, I'm proud of myself, I have to say.
And, you know, that's thanks to really been, I've been feeling extremely motivated
about creating content.
And, you know, I've been, I've had things that have kind of been triggered inside
of me that have been like, you know, you should, you should talk about this.
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And it seems like it's resonating with you guys. So, you know,
I've, as I mentioned before, when I started this particular season,
I have seen that there are, you know, quite a few more downloads,
listens, and, you know, it's, it's, it's, I'm appreciative.
I'm extremely thankful for everything and anything anybody does.
Cause I, I, I just think I'm just some person who, you know,
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has a pastime and I just talk a lot, you know, but to see that people are, are,
you know, you know, feeling what I'm saying and, you know, liking the content, you know, laughing or,
talking about their favorite, you know, part of what I talked about is pretty neat.
Even my husband, I do send it to a lot of my friends. I didn't do that before.
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And, you know, I just kind of thought when it came to, you know,
creating content that a lot of it is organic and And it's really not,
you know, it does take you having to create an audience,
you know, by any means necessary, which would be, you know, sending it to friends
or, you know, acquaintances or, you know, adapting or, you know,
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becoming a part of different neighborhoods or, you know, associations,
networks and stuff like that to get your words out there.
So I appreciate everybody that
listens and that tunes in weekly and I appreciate
everybody who really you know rock
with your boy because sometimes I feel like
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I'm going through this world alone and you know
I wonder what my contribution to you know society is at times and you know that
might be a you know extremely grandiose thing to think about but I think about
it often you know i don't i want to it may be a a big thing to say but i really want to,
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leave the world better than what i came in with you know i want to impact and you know,
inspire people to look outside themselves because life is complicated and.
Being a human is very complex, and sometimes we can, you know,
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add to the complication of life.
And, you know, these type of outlets allow us to, or allow me specifically,
to be free and just talk about whatever I want to talk about.
You know, whether it be about, you know, hair, which I'm going to discuss today,
or it be about race, which I'll probably discuss as well.
And, you know, last week was about my anxiety and, you know,
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kind of personifying my anxiety in a way that, you know, made it palpable and
intense, which is what my anxiety feels like most often.
And so, you know, it's it is a place for me to be vulnerable.
But it's also a place for me to be an example to others that I have the same
thoughts and feelings and what you feel is, you know, normal or it's more common than you think,
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because a lot of times, you know, we think that unfortunately we think,
you know, we think we're out on the island by ourselves and no one else knows
and understands what we're going through.
So that's why I put it on record, you know, as a frame of reference for everybody
who's interested in listening.
So I do, you know, my goal with this podcast is I would love for it to become
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something that, you know, grows a lot.
I would love to get to a place of being able to interact with people more about my content.
A lot of times I feel like I'm just putting it out there.
And I made this analogy before about it feeling like I'm throwing a hot dog down a hallway.
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You know, it's not impactful.
It doesn't have any legs sometimes. And, you know, a lot of that is driven by numbers.
But I'm learning that it's not the mass in which you invite in.
Sometimes it's that one or two people that you impact.
And that's what really matters. But I'm appreciative to all and every appreciative
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appreciative to all and every and the opportunity to be able to have this outlet,
you know, because a lot of people don't a lot of people don't have the same outlet that I do.
So, yeah.
So today is it's not a somber day. I just woke up not too long ago.
Maybe I've probably been out for about an hour going on two hours.
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And today, unfortunately, 23 years ago, Aaliyah passed away.
She was somebody who was very influential in my music career.
Library, library, library, library, biblioteca.
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I'm going to talk about that, too. I'm going to talk about my journey with learning Spanish as well.
So we we have a jam packed conversation today, conversation or jam packed show.
But 23 years ago, she passed away. And I remember being extremely sad about it.
And for a number of weeks, I couldn't really listen to her music because I was
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just so distraught is the best word I can explain about what took place.
You know, I think that she she was when it comes to musical taste,
she was somebody I felt like represented me with how I felt and how she said things.
You know, there's something to be said about her being a writer,
not being a writer, but the way she conveyed the music, I think, was impactful to me.
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And instantly i became
a fan so you know
back and forth you know i like the song i like the first album but i really
became like a fanatic or fanatical fan when her second album one in a
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million came out and it was great you
know it's a great album I loved her I you know
had thoughts that I was going to meet her one day I
even went so far as saying I
wanted like I was gonna marry her like that was literally my belief
like we're gonna get married and I make the joke to my friends like I don't
know how that would have worked out because I'm gay but you know and I knew
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then that I was but I believed it and you know everybody has the artist or or
you know whether it be music or whether it be other mediums that they connect with.
And, you know, she was one for me. And yeah, 23 years ago, you know,
she passed away and it was very sad. It was extremely tragic.
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And I think that is the one death that's happened that is not like close to me.
That really affected me and kind of changed my perception and how I listen to music.
And I think that I I think at that time I started to develop like I don't want
to get like super like fanatic because what happens if something happens to them?
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And I'm like, I think I subconsciously, you know, created that because if anybody
called me a beehive member, I'm pissed about it.
And I bring it up because I had a conversation with a couple of friends of mine.
I am a fan of Beyoncé's music. I am a listener.
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And I'm going to tell you guys why. Okay. Now, for a number of years,
let me go back to the beginning.
I liked Destiny's Child, you know, with Beyoncé, Kelly, Latavia, and Latoya.
Latavia and Latoya were my favorites, you know.
And I think it had something to do with the fact that you probably didn't hear
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much of them. It was always Kelly and Beyonce.
But after Destiny's Child broke up, kind of had a lot of unresolved trauma.
But it really affected me when they broke up because it was the tragicness of
how they how they ended as a group, you know, happened.
And for a number of years, I had a grudge with Beyonce.
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And I just had a difficult time really getting into getting into her music because
of the chip I had on my shoulder, you know, for the other two group members, you know.
And, you know, as I've gotten older, I've, you know, gotten all sides of the story as best as one can.
And it's interesting that people are still like to this day that happened over 25 years ago.
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People are still and those, you know, Latoya had a successful career,
you know, musically, and she is a great actress, you know, for her for 25 years
for that still to be in people's mind, just, you know, like.
Enamored with enamored is not the right word but just
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so like into like how did y'all
break up you know what took place you know we're still talking about
it and those women have had you know many facets
of their lives where it wasn't stuck in just that moment I
say that to say I had a
grudge against Beyonce and her artistry for a
number of years and it wasn't until
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I would say you know Beyonce album Drunk in Love where she kind of was on my
radar again and you know I only know a few songs from there so don't know what
Drunk in Love on uh yeah Drunk in Love was on Beyonce right,
I'm over here second guessing myself let me see Drunk in Love okay yeah okay
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I was I was confused Oh, was it?
Was it? Because I get that mixed
up with Lemonade because they have very similar rollouts to me, I think.
But anyway, and I started to listen to Drunk In Love and that song was everywhere.
And, you know, you know, I didn't dabble as much.
And I'm not like I don't think that I'm a Beehive member because I can't sing every song on the album.
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Album like i don't know dangerously in love i
don't know that by her i don't know all the ad libs and all the stuff
and the way she sings it i just i'm aware of the song you
know what i'm saying like i'm aware of the album so you know 2013 i kind of
had a you know a little bit of a renewed interest in in beyonce but nothing
to hold on to it too too much and then you know lemonade they came out and I
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started to realize the fandom among everybody else and how,
you know, how strong and, you know, powerful the Beehive was,
you know, and I liked every song on the album and, you know,
what she did visually, I thought was amazing.
And then, you know, Lion King album was great.
I love a number of those songs and I realized her visual artistry as well as her musicality.
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And as of recent i really got into the you know
the way that beyonce kind of build songs and stuff
like that but it was the the lemonade album no yeah it was the lemonade album
where you know i remember at the time and snl made a joke about it about beyonce
being black you know and you know i think it was i was going through a pivotal
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time as well with a reckoning with my you know perceived
blackness not just i mean because my blackness is i'm black obviously but my
perceived blackness which is what other people see you know what i'm saying
and how my blackness is weaponized and all those other things that i'm not going to get like deeply into.
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But, you know, it was coming at a time where I was transitioning,
you know, to being more aware of my perceived Blackness and how that was reckoning
with everyone else that I was interacting with.
It was very tough, you know, because my voice, my height, my size speaks before
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I say anything, you know.
And that's difficult at times because I like to think that I'm a pretty nice person until you get me,
you know, like there's levels to my anger is not like there's levels to my discomfort.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I'm not just discomfort. I'm not.
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Discomfort is the best word I can explain it. But I'm not off putting like I'm
not rude or, you know, difficult to deal with in the beginning.
Understanding that becomes as a
result of said transaction between you and i where i'm there's levels you know
amanda seals has this thing is how black she has this thing that she says about
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how black i'm gonna have to get we got michelle obama black which is when they go low we go high,
and then you got you know malcolm x black where you we know what i'm saying
and then you got there's many different facets we know there's times how am
I going to have to deal with this okay am I going to be Rashida Black.
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Or am I going to be you know.
Michelle Obama, black. I need to figure it out. So, you know,
I at that time I was starting to notice like her artistry a little bit more,
her love for black music and how much she really has began to impact the culture.
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And, you know, I would listen to her music in passing, you know,
I never really bought an album and it wasn't, you know, so I never really bought an album.
I never really listened to her, you know, in, in a, you know,
in the way that her fans did. It was just like, okay, you know, I like Beyonce.
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She has some good music. I like some of the songs. I like some of her ideas
and stances on how she feels and certain things.
But she's you know she's not an artist she
she wasn't as impactful as Aaliyah had
been you know to me in terms of
how I listen to music and a lot of times I thought
you know you know Beyonce really doesn't sing you know like sing
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sing and you know she just makes you
know songs for the masses which we
act like is a horrible thing you know what I'm saying like when
people get to a level systems oh they sold out and
it's like okay that's that isn't that the idea isn't that
the plan you know selling out isn't like
you know people are there are some people who
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will sell their soul you know to whoever but because an artist you know crosses
over and they're selling and they're known doesn't mean that they've sold out
it just means they've crossed over you know And we're not gonna get very deep
in that conversation, but I see all that to say.
It's polarizing sometimes being a Beyonce fan, but she did Black Parade and
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just seeing her walk and the influence that she's put on music and thinking
about her being, you know.
If not the first, one of the first people to release a streaming album,
Beyonce, on a Friday on the internet.
Nobody had ever done that. To be the first, in today's terms,
the first Black woman to go number one on a country charts and to go number
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one, have a number one single that's country.
And then to put it in perspective as being as influential as she is as a Black
woman And I think it speaks to the power that Black women have.
And I admire that in Black women. You know what I'm saying?
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I admire the strength and the, you know, the road, the complicated road that
they navigate, you know, as,
you know, human beings and how the world isn't kind to them most often.
And, you know, they have to fight to show their humanity when it comes to things
that, you know, people are just given a pass on often, you know, and Beyonce just,
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you know, her influence is amazing, you know, in a way that I've never seen in an artist.
I mean, some people can say Taylor Swift is that way.
Some people can say George Strait was that way or, you know,
William or Willie Nelson, William Nelson, Willie Nelson or, you know, Dolly Parton.
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And there's a long list of like artists, you know, that happen to be white that are that way.
You know what I'm saying? And then you have Beyonce, who's really kind of in her own lane.
And then you got Usher. And then you have, you know, Missy Elliott.
You got, I mean, there's a whole
line of us. But, you know, I would say Beyonce is up there at the top.
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So, you know, it really started to impact me, you know, more because it was more.
You know, more, I was more aware of it. And then my husband played partition
and, you know, his new car that he had, he was listening to partition.
He just loved the way it sound.
And I promise you, like, I began to love that song as much as he did.
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And it's a great song. And after that, I just kind of dug in,
you know, and, you know, when 2022 came around.
Actually Carlos mentioned it, I think it was 2021, if I'm not mistaken,
he was like, I was like, so what do you want to do it might have been 2022 I
said so so what do you want to do we like we always have
moments like that where we talk about you know the future you
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know I was like what do you want to do he was like well I want to I want to
I want to sing Beyonce at least once in my life and I said okay and then 2023
happened and we had I mean it was it was transformative like the experience
that I had like seeing people like it was a vibration you know what I'm saying
like Like seeing people sing every song,
you know, that, that, that, that, you know, this beautiful woman had and,
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you know, if fucking Tampa being, you know, 90 something degrees plus humidity
and she was moving around,
it was electrifying, electrifying.
So, you know, I would say that I'm a pretty hardcore fan, not a Beehive member,
because I feel like Beehive members can, you know, have a tendency to not hold, you know, their,
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you know, people accountable or fanatics or, you know, super fanatics, if you will.
They don't hold their people accountable when they do things that might not
necessarily be of the status quo. Like, I don't think that Beyonce is above critique.
But if you're going to critique her, you need to be like, let's,
there's a difference between saying, okay, well, this song might not have been
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the greatest, but to say Beyonce can't sing, it's like, who are you,
who are you comparing her to?
Like, what's your reference? Because I need to know. Because that sentence does not make sense to me.
You know, it's like 32 Grammys, you know, and then a lot of people can say,
well, it's 32 Grammys and we don't need that and blah, blah,
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blah, whatever, whatever.
Okay. OK, but even with that being said, we hear it.
We hear her vocals, her artistry in terms of her,
how she creates a song, her visuals like Two Hands to Heaven is the best written
song ever when it comes to explaining the love she has for J.P.
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It is a beautiful song your love
runs through me like lava your love
is blinding i'm so glad that our
love is blinding because all i see
is you the best of you and all i see
is the best of me and you bring out the best in me and in these dark times i'm
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glad my love or our love is blinding okay to be so in love with somebody to
say that you see the bigger meaning of our relationship.
What okay go back and listen to two hands to heaven an amazing song amazing okay need i say more,
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so i've grown my love for her has grown and i just realized i spent at least
18 minutes talking about beyonce so maybe i should reconsider myself being a beehive member.
All right so yeah there's that oh my god yeah the next thing i want to talk
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about because i there's no way for me to transition into the next topic the
next thing i want to talk about is me Me as a black man,
I mentioned this before in terms of like, you know, my perceived blackness,
how that really affects a person like me.
Like I am a six foot tall black man, close to 300 pounds, probably about three,
right at 300, six foot, 300 pounds.
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At this time, I have a really long beard and I have a salt and pepper goatee.
I wear glasses. I don't think that I'm the best dresser because I don't know
how to dress for my size and be casual, too.
And a lot of times that can be taken out of context. You know,
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when I'm raising my voice in a situation where I, you know, being,
you know, wrong, it's looked at as I'm making the other person the victim.
And, you know, it's difficult at times to just navigate your way in,
you know, in this world. You know, there's a lot of gaslighting that happens
when you're a black person among other, you know, from other parties about your true experience.
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You know, corporate America sometimes isn't kind to a person like me because of,
you know, the added caveat of being gay as well, you know, and it's difficult
sometimes because as a black person, you quickly realize that a lot of situations
that you're involved aren't made for you.
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Like, for example, yesterday I bought a car and, you know, it was a good experience yesterday.
I end up paying more than what I really wanted to, but I wasn't really being
realistic about what it was.
And I understand that I have a little bit more car than what I had prior.
So I get that. That's not lost on me.
But I, you know, I can't help but think about the credit system and how,
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you know, my husband experience can be that he can go to Hyundai and,
you know, in and out within an hour or two.
And I go to Kia and I'm there practically the whole day.
But Kia, that's the situation, the place that I went to, that I go to,
they're always like that. It's always three to four hours.
And I was there yesterday, three to four hours.
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And you know but i also know the experience that i have in terms of like when it comes to financial.
Creditors and stuff like that like like i told y'all me
and carlos ain't hurting for money but i bet you the conversation that they
had with me was different from the other person who is white you know what i'm
saying and that's just because of the the implicit bias that's involved in the
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idea of the credit system you know redlining these things exist this is documented minute.
And that's something that I have to, you know, take in consideration when I'm
having these experiences.
You know, it makes a person like me, you know, want to, you know,
keep my car until the wheels fall off, you know, rather than go inside and know
that I'm going to be scrutinized at a different angle.
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I was making a joke to my friend yesterday, you know, I was like,
oh my God, it took so long.
And I was like, yeah, you know, they had to, you know, check and see if I had
any kids and, you know, whether I claimed them or not, how much child support I'm paying,
what my first department complex was like and you know these are jokes but at
the same time too a lot of times i feel like that's the level of scrutiny that
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has had on us you know you can't quite explain it like.
A lot of people go in and they buy cars and they're not nervous.
Me, on the other hand, when I go in and I get credit or I'm running something
that involves credit, like I know for a fact it's going to be it's going to
be it's going to be an experience. You know what I'm saying?
And, you know, it's scary. I don't I don't like that feeling.
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So, you know, it makes it difficult to exist as a person of as African-American,
because personal color experiences, depending on your proximity to,
you know, whiteness can vary.
And, you know, that that has everything to do with colorism caste system,
depending on where you're from and, you know, just how people internalize blackness,
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you know, and I'm on the darker end of black.
You know I'm not light-skinned okay I
don't look like I have a mixed father and you
know also to add context in terms of like growing up
and you know don't get too dark don't go out there in the sun too too long you
don't get too dark you know and feeling like that you know something that you
can't change is is inherently bad that you know there are a lot of walking contradictions
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that happen as a black person that I can't even quantify you know in my experience and I have
to be honest about that impacting the way
I show up in the world and how I would choose not to go
outside at times because I don't really go I don't do much I don't do a whole
lot and the things that I do are the things that I want to do you know what
I'm saying like I don't I don't make obligations to myself if I don't feel like
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it's something that's going to be fun for me or not necessarily fun something
that's going to be the best way to explain it would be beneficial to.
Me, you know, something that I know I'm going to, you know, have fun or it's
going to, you know, really be an experience and so on and so forth.
And, you know, I also talk about the idea of a lot of Black folks,
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you know, that are my age, a little bit older.
And, you know, even to the younger generations, you know, for so long,
we are taught to thrive, you know, and I'm sorry, taught to survive, not thrive.
And, you know, surviving is really just, you know, keeping your head on the
swivel, you know, just being hyper aware of your surroundings,
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making sure that you act right at all times.
Don't do anything. Don't, you know, don't do anything too crazy.
Don't put too much, you know, eyes on yourself.
Just go in and just be respectful, respectable. But we know existing in America
as a black person, none of that stuff really matters.
I don't really pay play identity politics about how we should act and how we
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should feel, because none of that matters at the end of the day.
When I go and I talk about, you know, George Floyd, it didn't matter that he was being respectful.
It didn't matter that he was asking them to, you know, let him,
you know, stand up because he can't breathe and he's claustrophobic and all
these. None of that mattered. His humanity did not matter.
So why act like our behavior has anything to do with why we are allowed to exist?
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You know what I'm saying?
And so and I know these are very tough topics to talk about.
It's not the normal lighthearted Reggie conversation that I'm having.
These are things that played my existence. These are the things that keep me,
you know, that make me anxious and nervous.
And you know what I'm saying? And I was vibrating and, you know,
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and not being able to, you know, handle that.
You know, I'm always on, you know. And, you know, it's tough.
So, you know, I'm very aware of my mental health and my mind state often.
So, you know, if I start to feel the pressure of doing something and it's starting
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to impact me in a way that is not positive, I will stop. I will cold turkey
it like I don't want to do this anymore.
There's too much anxiety behind it and revisit it in the future, you know, just because.
That's the best way I know how to exist. And I'm learning how to thrive a little
bit more by, you know, doing the things I want to do in life.
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Like I said, I don't set expectations for myself.
I don't have like a list of things to do on my off days. If I get it done,
great. If I don't, I don't.
I'm a little bit more rigid in my, you know, professional life,
obviously, because, you know, it lends itself to like that.
I don't mind working at a higher level. But in my personal life,
it's, you know, like, for example, I get my nails done.
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That's something I do for myself, you know, and I went to go get my nails done.
I think it was it was last week, I think.
And I was talking with my nail tech, Anthony. He's the one that normally does
my nails. And he was like, yeah, come back in an hour.
And I was like, OK, I knew when I left that place, I wasn't going back.
I'll get that when I get there. Like, I don't want to put any extraness on what
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I got to do. You know what I'm saying? Like, if I want to do it, okay.
If I decide later on that I don't want to do it, then I'm not going to trip.
I'm not going to trip about it, you know? So that's the reality.
And that's how I need to live my life. And I think that, you know,
that's a level of thriving, you know? My parents were born in the 50s.
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Y'all heard me say this before.
You've heard the comments about my parents and how they were taught to survive.
So I'm going to start my mom's voice when she was very young.
She never had a way to express herself.
And she carried that in death. She carried that until her death.
And I try my best to not allow myself to have those type of,
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to not have that similar experience.
You know what I'm saying? man. What's that have to do with it, sir?
Okay. Discharging, I guess. And yeah, I mean, I go to therapy.
We have a couple of therapists. I've talked about this all before. So y'all know.
And all of that, I think is imperative for you to exist as a black person in this world.
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You need to have those outlets and those things, those places that allow you
to be who you are unequivocally without any pomp and circumstances,
my good friend likes to say.
So I'm trying to think about it. Well, so that, but I'm a proud black man,
proud gay black man, proud.
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And I'm sympathetic to our experience in this world.
And I know that the way we are, the way we have to show up in this world is difficult for us.
And I'm always going to give us the benefit of the doubt, no matter what,
you know, some people can say, that's why, Reggie, why? Like,
you know, there's some bad people. Yeah, there is.
But I also know that there are certain circumstances that we experience as Black
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folks that is a shared experience that impact us more than it does anybody else.
And I feel like the compassion should be had because no one else is going to
have that compassion whenever, you know, we're involved in something.
No one else is going to have the same compassion that I would have for someone
who looks like me simply because they don't understand the experience because
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they don't have that shared experience.
So i'm trying to remember the other things that i wanted to talk about too um
and i i i'm i'm losing i should have wrote that shit down and i did not.
I talked about beyonce's artistry and that really wasn't something i wanted to talk about i'm happy,
and i hate in the episodes like that y'all i really do because i really want
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to cut our points and i don't like being that person like oh he didn't talk
about that and i won't get it until I listen back at this and I'm like,
oh yeah, I should have, should have, should have listened to that.
But yeah, I mean, I'm not going to make this episode any longer than it has to be.
Those thoughts are fleeting. And I think, you know, 35 minutes is long enough.
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This episode is definitely exist, you know, lasted a little longer than the previous episodes.
And I think that, that that's just because of how the conversation lended itself to be.
So it happens. so i ain't really tripping but yeah i do want to let you guys know that i am on patreon,
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All right. That's all I got, guys. I appreciate you listening.
As always, it has been a pleasure.
You know, those are some things that I've been thinking about,
and I would love to hear your thoughts and concerns or questions that you have
to continue the conversation.
Enjoy the rest of your day. And I will talk to y'all later. Lady,
I'll talk to y'all later. Bye.
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Music.
Music.
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Man, I've been hitting y'all with the episodes like pretty regularly.
Y'all, I'm proud of myself, I have to say.
And, you know, that's thanks to really been, I've been feeling extremely motivated
about creating content.
And, you know, I've been, I've had things that have kind of been triggered inside
of me that have been like, you know, you should, you should talk about this.
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And it seems like it's resonating with you guys. So, you know,
I've, as I mentioned before, when I started this particular season,
I have seen that there are, you know, quite a few more downloads,
listens, and, you know, it's, it's, it's, I'm appreciative.
I'm extremely thankful for everything and anything anybody does.
Cause I, I, I just think I'm just some person who, you know,
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has a pastime and I just talk a lot, you know, but to see that people are, are,
you know, you know, feeling what I'm saying and, you know, liking the content, you know, laughing or,
talking about their favorite, you know, part of what I talked about is pretty neat.
Even my husband, I do send it to a lot of my friends. I didn't do that before.
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And, you know, I just kind of thought when it came to, you know,
creating content that a lot of it is organic and And it's really not,
you know, it does take you having to create an audience,
you know, by any means necessary, which would be, you know, sending it to friends
or, you know, acquaintances or, you know, adapting or, you know,
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becoming a part of different neighborhoods or, you know, associations,
networks and stuff like that to get your words out there.
So I appreciate everybody that
listens and that tunes in weekly and I appreciate
everybody who really you know rock
with your boy because sometimes I feel like
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I'm going through this world alone and you know
I wonder what my contribution to you know society is at times and you know that
might be a you know extremely grandiose thing to think about but I think about
it often you know i don't i want to it may be a a big thing to say but i really want to,
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leave the world better than what i came in with you know i want to impact and you know,
inspire people to look outside themselves because life is complicated and.
Being a human is very complex, and sometimes we can, you know,
(03:22):
add to the complication of life.
And, you know, these type of outlets allow us to, or allow me specifically,
to be free and just talk about whatever I want to talk about.
You know, whether it be about, you know, hair, which I'm going to discuss today,
or it be about race, which I'll probably discuss as well.
And, you know, last week was about my anxiety and, you know,
(03:46):
kind of personifying my anxiety in a way that, you know, made it palpable and
intense, which is what my anxiety feels like most often.
And so, you know, it's it is a place for me to be vulnerable.
But it's also a place for me to be an example to others that I have the same
thoughts and feelings and what you feel is, you know, normal or it's more common than you think,
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because a lot of times, you know, we think that unfortunately we think,
you know, we think we're out on the island by ourselves and no one else knows
and understands what we're going through.
So that's why I put it on record, you know, as a frame of reference for everybody
who's interested in listening.
So I do, you know, my goal with this podcast is I would love for it to become
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something that, you know, grows a lot.
I would love to get to a place of being able to interact with people more about my content.
A lot of times I feel like I'm just putting it out there.
And I made this analogy before about it feeling like I'm throwing a hot dog down a hallway.
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You know, it's not impactful.
It doesn't have any legs sometimes. And, you know, a lot of that is driven by numbers.
But I'm learning that it's not the mass in which you invite in.
Sometimes it's that one or two people that you impact.
And that's what really matters. But I'm appreciative to all and every appreciative
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appreciative to all and every and the opportunity to be able to have this outlet,
you know, because a lot of people don't a lot of people don't have the same outlet that I do.
So, yeah.
So today is it's not a somber day. I just woke up not too long ago.
Maybe I've probably been out for about an hour going on two hours.
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And today, unfortunately, 23 years ago, Aaliyah passed away.
She was somebody who was very influential in my music career.
Library, library, library, library, biblioteca.
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I'm going to talk about that, too. I'm going to talk about my journey with learning Spanish as well.
So we we have a jam packed conversation today, conversation or jam packed show.
But 23 years ago, she passed away. And I remember being extremely sad about it.
And for a number of weeks, I couldn't really listen to her music because I was
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just so distraught is the best word I can explain about what took place.
You know, I think that she she was when it comes to musical taste,
she was somebody I felt like represented me with how I felt and how she said things.
You know, there's something to be said about her being a writer,
not being a writer, but the way she conveyed the music, I think, was impactful to me.
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And instantly i became
a fan so you know
back and forth you know i like the song i like the first album but i really
became like a fanatic or fanatical fan when her second album one in a
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million came out and it was great you
know it's a great album I loved her I you know
had thoughts that I was going to meet her one day I
even went so far as saying I
wanted like I was gonna marry her like that was literally my belief
like we're gonna get married and I make the joke to my friends like I don't
know how that would have worked out because I'm gay but you know and I knew
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then that I was but I believed it and you know everybody has the artist or or
you know whether it be music or whether it be other mediums that they connect with.
And, you know, she was one for me. And yeah, 23 years ago, you know,
she passed away and it was very sad. It was extremely tragic.
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And I think that is the one death that's happened that is not like close to me.
That really affected me and kind of changed my perception and how I listen to music.
And I think that I I think at that time I started to develop like I don't want
to get like super like fanatic because what happens if something happens to them?
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And I'm like, I think I subconsciously, you know, created that because if anybody
called me a beehive member, I'm pissed about it.
And I bring it up because I had a conversation with a couple of friends of mine.
I am a fan of Beyoncé's music. I am a listener.
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And I'm going to tell you guys why. Okay. Now, for a number of years,
let me go back to the beginning.
I liked Destiny's Child, you know, with Beyoncé, Kelly, Latavia, and Latoya.
Latavia and Latoya were my favorites, you know.
And I think it had something to do with the fact that you probably didn't hear
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much of them. It was always Kelly and Beyonce.
But after Destiny's Child broke up, kind of had a lot of unresolved trauma.
But it really affected me when they broke up because it was the tragicness of
how they how they ended as a group, you know, happened.
And for a number of years, I had a grudge with Beyonce.
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And I just had a difficult time really getting into getting into her music because
of the chip I had on my shoulder, you know, for the other two group members, you know.
And, you know, as I've gotten older, I've, you know, gotten all sides of the story as best as one can.
And it's interesting that people are still like to this day that happened over 25 years ago.
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People are still and those, you know, Latoya had a successful career,
you know, musically, and she is a great actress, you know, for her for 25 years
for that still to be in people's mind, just, you know, like.
Enamored with enamored is not the right word but just
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so like into like how did y'all
break up you know what took place you know we're still talking about
it and those women have had you know many facets
of their lives where it wasn't stuck in just that moment I
say that to say I had a
grudge against Beyonce and her artistry for a
number of years and it wasn't until
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I would say you know Beyonce album Drunk in Love where she kind of was on my
radar again and you know I only know a few songs from there so don't know what
Drunk in Love on uh yeah Drunk in Love was on Beyonce right,
I'm over here second guessing myself let me see Drunk in Love okay yeah okay
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I was I was confused Oh, was it?
Was it? Because I get that mixed
up with Lemonade because they have very similar rollouts to me, I think.
But anyway, and I started to listen to Drunk In Love and that song was everywhere.
And, you know, you know, I didn't dabble as much.
And I'm not like I don't think that I'm a Beehive member because I can't sing every song on the album.
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Album like i don't know dangerously in love i
don't know that by her i don't know all the ad libs and all the stuff
and the way she sings it i just i'm aware of the song you
know what i'm saying like i'm aware of the album so you know 2013 i kind of
had a you know a little bit of a renewed interest in in beyonce but nothing
to hold on to it too too much and then you know lemonade they came out and I
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started to realize the fandom among everybody else and how,
you know, how strong and, you know, powerful the Beehive was,
you know, and I liked every song on the album and, you know,
what she did visually, I thought was amazing.
And then, you know, Lion King album was great.
I love a number of those songs and I realized her visual artistry as well as her musicality.
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And as of recent i really got into the you know
the way that beyonce kind of build songs and stuff
like that but it was the the lemonade album no yeah it was the lemonade album
where you know i remember at the time and snl made a joke about it about beyonce
being black you know and you know i think it was i was going through a pivotal
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time as well with a reckoning with my you know perceived
blackness not just i mean because my blackness is i'm black obviously but my
perceived blackness which is what other people see you know what i'm saying
and how my blackness is weaponized and all those other things that i'm not going to get like deeply into.
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But, you know, it was coming at a time where I was transitioning,
you know, to being more aware of my perceived Blackness and how that was reckoning
with everyone else that I was interacting with.
It was very tough, you know, because my voice, my height, my size speaks before
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I say anything, you know.
And that's difficult at times because I like to think that I'm a pretty nice person until you get me,
you know, like there's levels to my anger is not like there's levels to my discomfort.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I'm not just discomfort. I'm not.
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Discomfort is the best word I can explain it. But I'm not off putting like I'm
not rude or, you know, difficult to deal with in the beginning.
Understanding that becomes as a
result of said transaction between you and i where i'm there's levels you know
amanda seals has this thing is how black she has this thing that she says about
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how black i'm gonna have to get we got michelle obama black which is when they go low we go high,
and then you got you know malcolm x black where you we know what i'm saying
and then you got there's many different facets we know there's times how am
I going to have to deal with this okay am I going to be Rashida Black.
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Or am I going to be you know.
Michelle Obama, black. I need to figure it out. So, you know,
I at that time I was starting to notice like her artistry a little bit more,
her love for black music and how much she really has began to impact the culture.
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And, you know, I would listen to her music in passing, you know,
I never really bought an album and it wasn't, you know, so I never really bought an album.
I never really listened to her, you know, in, in a, you know,
in the way that her fans did. It was just like, okay, you know, I like Beyonce.
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She has some good music. I like some of the songs. I like some of her ideas
and stances on how she feels and certain things.
But she's you know she's not an artist she
she wasn't as impactful as Aaliyah had
been you know to me in terms of
how I listen to music and a lot of times I thought
you know you know Beyonce really doesn't sing you know like sing
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sing and you know she just makes you
know songs for the masses which we
act like is a horrible thing you know what I'm saying like when
people get to a level systems oh they sold out and
it's like okay that's that isn't that the idea isn't that
the plan you know selling out isn't like
you know people are there are some people who
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will sell their soul you know to whoever but because an artist you know crosses
over and they're selling and they're known doesn't mean that they've sold out
it just means they've crossed over you know And we're not gonna get very deep
in that conversation, but I see all that to say.
It's polarizing sometimes being a Beyonce fan, but she did Black Parade and
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just seeing her walk and the influence that she's put on music and thinking
about her being, you know.
If not the first, one of the first people to release a streaming album,
Beyonce, on a Friday on the internet.
Nobody had ever done that. To be the first, in today's terms,
the first Black woman to go number one on a country charts and to go number
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one, have a number one single that's country.
And then to put it in perspective as being as influential as she is as a Black
woman And I think it speaks to the power that Black women have.
And I admire that in Black women. You know what I'm saying?
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I admire the strength and the, you know, the road, the complicated road that
they navigate, you know, as,
you know, human beings and how the world isn't kind to them most often.
And, you know, they have to fight to show their humanity when it comes to things
that, you know, people are just given a pass on often, you know, and Beyonce just,
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you know, her influence is amazing, you know, in a way that I've never seen in an artist.
I mean, some people can say Taylor Swift is that way.
Some people can say George Strait was that way or, you know,
William or Willie Nelson, William Nelson, Willie Nelson or, you know, Dolly Parton.
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And there's a long list of like artists, you know, that happen to be white that are that way.
You know what I'm saying? And then you have Beyonce, who's really kind of in her own lane.
And then you got Usher. And then you have, you know, Missy Elliott.
You got, I mean, there's a whole
line of us. But, you know, I would say Beyonce is up there at the top.
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So, you know, it really started to impact me, you know, more because it was more.
You know, more, I was more aware of it. And then my husband played partition
and, you know, his new car that he had, he was listening to partition.
He just loved the way it sound.
And I promise you, like, I began to love that song as much as he did.
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And it's a great song. And after that, I just kind of dug in,
you know, and, you know, when 2022 came around.
Actually Carlos mentioned it, I think it was 2021, if I'm not mistaken,
he was like, I was like, so what do you want to do it might have been 2022 I
said so so what do you want to do we like we always have
moments like that where we talk about you know the future you
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know I was like what do you want to do he was like well I want to I want to
I want to sing Beyonce at least once in my life and I said okay and then 2023
happened and we had I mean it was it was transformative like the experience
that I had like seeing people like it was a vibration you know what I'm saying
like Like seeing people sing every song,
you know, that, that, that, that, you know, this beautiful woman had and,
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you know, if fucking Tampa being, you know, 90 something degrees plus humidity
and she was moving around,
it was electrifying, electrifying.
So, you know, I would say that I'm a pretty hardcore fan, not a Beehive member,
because I feel like Beehive members can, you know, have a tendency to not hold, you know, their,
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you know, people accountable or fanatics or, you know, super fanatics, if you will.
They don't hold their people accountable when they do things that might not
necessarily be of the status quo. Like, I don't think that Beyonce is above critique.
But if you're going to critique her, you need to be like, let's,
there's a difference between saying, okay, well, this song might not have been
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the greatest, but to say Beyonce can't sing, it's like, who are you,
who are you comparing her to?
Like, what's your reference? Because I need to know. Because that sentence does not make sense to me.
You know, it's like 32 Grammys, you know, and then a lot of people can say,
well, it's 32 Grammys and we don't need that and blah, blah,
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blah, whatever, whatever.
Okay. OK, but even with that being said, we hear it.
We hear her vocals, her artistry in terms of her,
how she creates a song, her visuals like Two Hands to Heaven is the best written
song ever when it comes to explaining the love she has for J.P.
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It is a beautiful song your love
runs through me like lava your love
is blinding i'm so glad that our
love is blinding because all i see
is you the best of you and all i see
is the best of me and you bring out the best in me and in these dark times i'm
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glad my love or our love is blinding okay to be so in love with somebody to
say that you see the bigger meaning of our relationship.
What okay go back and listen to two hands to heaven an amazing song amazing okay need i say more,
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so i've grown my love for her has grown and i just realized i spent at least
18 minutes talking about beyonce so maybe i should reconsider myself being a beehive member.
All right so yeah there's that oh my god yeah the next thing i want to talk
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about because i there's no way for me to transition into the next topic the
next thing i want to talk about is me Me as a black man,
I mentioned this before in terms of like, you know, my perceived blackness,
how that really affects a person like me.
Like I am a six foot tall black man, close to 300 pounds, probably about three,
right at 300, six foot, 300 pounds.
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At this time, I have a really long beard and I have a salt and pepper goatee.
I wear glasses. I don't think that I'm the best dresser because I don't know
how to dress for my size and be casual, too.
And a lot of times that can be taken out of context. You know,
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when I'm raising my voice in a situation where I, you know, being,
you know, wrong, it's looked at as I'm making the other person the victim.
And, you know, it's difficult at times to just navigate your way in,
you know, in this world. You know, there's a lot of gaslighting that happens
when you're a black person among other, you know, from other parties about your true experience.
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You know, corporate America sometimes isn't kind to a person like me because of,
you know, the added caveat of being gay as well, you know, and it's difficult
sometimes because as a black person, you quickly realize that a lot of situations
that you're involved aren't made for you.
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Like, for example, yesterday I bought a car and, you know, it was a good experience yesterday.
I end up paying more than what I really wanted to, but I wasn't really being
realistic about what it was.
And I understand that I have a little bit more car than what I had prior.
So I get that. That's not lost on me.
But I, you know, I can't help but think about the credit system and how,
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you know, my husband experience can be that he can go to Hyundai and,
you know, in and out within an hour or two.
And I go to Kia and I'm there practically the whole day.
But Kia, that's the situation, the place that I went to, that I go to,
they're always like that. It's always three to four hours.
And I was there yesterday, three to four hours.
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And you know but i also know the experience that i have in terms of like when it comes to financial.
Creditors and stuff like that like like i told y'all me
and carlos ain't hurting for money but i bet you the conversation that they
had with me was different from the other person who is white you know what i'm
saying and that's just because of the the implicit bias that's involved in the
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idea of the credit system you know redlining these things exist this is documented minute.
And that's something that I have to, you know, take in consideration when I'm
having these experiences.
You know, it makes a person like me, you know, want to, you know,
keep my car until the wheels fall off, you know, rather than go inside and know
that I'm going to be scrutinized at a different angle.
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I was making a joke to my friend yesterday, you know, I was like,
oh my God, it took so long.
And I was like, yeah, you know, they had to, you know, check and see if I had
any kids and, you know, whether I claimed them or not, how much child support I'm paying,
what my first department complex was like and you know these are jokes but at
the same time too a lot of times i feel like that's the level of scrutiny that
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has had on us you know you can't quite explain it like.
A lot of people go in and they buy cars and they're not nervous.
Me, on the other hand, when I go in and I get credit or I'm running something
that involves credit, like I know for a fact it's going to be it's going to
be it's going to be an experience. You know what I'm saying?
And, you know, it's scary. I don't I don't like that feeling.
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So, you know, it makes it difficult to exist as a person of as African-American,
because personal color experiences, depending on your proximity to,
you know, whiteness can vary.
And, you know, that that has everything to do with colorism caste system,
depending on where you're from and, you know, just how people internalize blackness,
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you know, and I'm on the darker end of black.
You know I'm not light-skinned okay I
don't look like I have a mixed father and you
know also to add context in terms of like growing up
and you know don't get too dark don't go out there in the sun too too long you
don't get too dark you know and feeling like that you know something that you
can't change is is inherently bad that you know there are a lot of walking contradictions
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that happen as a black person that I can't even quantify you know in my experience and I have
to be honest about that impacting the way
I show up in the world and how I would choose not to go
outside at times because I don't really go I don't do much I don't do a whole
lot and the things that I do are the things that I want to do you know what
I'm saying like I don't I don't make obligations to myself if I don't feel like
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it's something that's going to be fun for me or not necessarily fun something
that's going to be the best way to explain it would be beneficial to.
Me, you know, something that I know I'm going to, you know, have fun or it's
going to, you know, really be an experience and so on and so forth.
And, you know, I also talk about the idea of a lot of Black folks,
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you know, that are my age, a little bit older.
And, you know, even to the younger generations, you know, for so long,
we are taught to thrive, you know, and I'm sorry, taught to survive, not thrive.
And, you know, surviving is really just, you know, keeping your head on the
swivel, you know, just being hyper aware of your surroundings,
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making sure that you act right at all times.
Don't do anything. Don't, you know, don't do anything too crazy.
Don't put too much, you know, eyes on yourself.
Just go in and just be respectful, respectable. But we know existing in America
as a black person, none of that stuff really matters.
I don't really pay play identity politics about how we should act and how we
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should feel, because none of that matters at the end of the day.
When I go and I talk about, you know, George Floyd, it didn't matter that he was being respectful.
It didn't matter that he was asking them to, you know, let him,
you know, stand up because he can't breathe and he's claustrophobic and all
these. None of that mattered. His humanity did not matter.
So why act like our behavior has anything to do with why we are allowed to exist?
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You know what I'm saying?
And so and I know these are very tough topics to talk about.
It's not the normal lighthearted Reggie conversation that I'm having.
These are things that played my existence. These are the things that keep me,
you know, that make me anxious and nervous.
And you know what I'm saying? And I was vibrating and, you know,
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and not being able to, you know, handle that.
You know, I'm always on, you know. And, you know, it's tough.
So, you know, I'm very aware of my mental health and my mind state often.
So, you know, if I start to feel the pressure of doing something and it's starting
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to impact me in a way that is not positive, I will stop. I will cold turkey
it like I don't want to do this anymore.
There's too much anxiety behind it and revisit it in the future, you know, just because.
That's the best way I know how to exist. And I'm learning how to thrive a little
bit more by, you know, doing the things I want to do in life.
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Like I said, I don't set expectations for myself.
I don't have like a list of things to do on my off days. If I get it done,
great. If I don't, I don't.
I'm a little bit more rigid in my, you know, professional life,
obviously, because, you know, it lends itself to like that.
I don't mind working at a higher level. But in my personal life,
it's, you know, like, for example, I get my nails done.
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That's something I do for myself, you know, and I went to go get my nails done.
I think it was it was last week, I think.
And I was talking with my nail tech, Anthony. He's the one that normally does
my nails. And he was like, yeah, come back in an hour.
And I was like, OK, I knew when I left that place, I wasn't going back.
I'll get that when I get there. Like, I don't want to put any extraness on what
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I got to do. You know what I'm saying? Like, if I want to do it, okay.
If I decide later on that I don't want to do it, then I'm not going to trip.
I'm not going to trip about it, you know? So that's the reality.
And that's how I need to live my life. And I think that, you know,
that's a level of thriving, you know? My parents were born in the 50s.
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Y'all heard me say this before.
You've heard the comments about my parents and how they were taught to survive.
So I'm going to start my mom's voice when she was very young.
She never had a way to express herself.
And she carried that in death. She carried that until her death.
And I try my best to not allow myself to have those type of,
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to not have that similar experience.
You know what I'm saying? man. What's that have to do with it, sir?
Okay. Discharging, I guess. And yeah, I mean, I go to therapy.
We have a couple of therapists. I've talked about this all before. So y'all know.
And all of that, I think is imperative for you to exist as a black person in this world.
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You need to have those outlets and those things, those places that allow you
to be who you are unequivocally without any pomp and circumstances,
my good friend likes to say.
So I'm trying to think about it. Well, so that, but I'm a proud black man,
proud gay black man, proud.
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And I'm sympathetic to our experience in this world.
And I know that the way we are, the way we have to show up in this world is difficult for us.
And I'm always going to give us the benefit of the doubt, no matter what,
you know, some people can say, that's why, Reggie, why? Like,
you know, there's some bad people. Yeah, there is.
But I also know that there are certain circumstances that we experience as Black
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folks that is a shared experience that impact us more than it does anybody else.
And I feel like the compassion should be had because no one else is going to
have that compassion whenever, you know, we're involved in something.
No one else is going to have the same compassion that I would have for someone
who looks like me simply because they don't understand the experience because
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they don't have that shared experience.
So i'm trying to remember the other things that i wanted to talk about too um
and i i i'm i'm losing i should have wrote that shit down and i did not.
I talked about beyonce's artistry and that really wasn't something i wanted to talk about i'm happy,
and i hate in the episodes like that y'all i really do because i really want
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to cut our points and i don't like being that person like oh he didn't talk
about that and i won't get it until I listen back at this and I'm like,
oh yeah, I should have, should have, should have listened to that.
But yeah, I mean, I'm not going to make this episode any longer than it has to be.
Those thoughts are fleeting. And I think, you know, 35 minutes is long enough.
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This episode is definitely exist, you know, lasted a little longer than the previous episodes.
And I think that, that that's just because of how the conversation lended itself to be.
So it happens. so i ain't really tripping but yeah i do want to let you guys know that i am on patreon,
i would love for you guys to support you can join for free i don't have any
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tears or anything like that if you're looking for extra content those reggie
rants and stuff like that that typically happens you know during the week my
recommendation is to go and join let me pull up my patreon Patreon. Let me see.
Patreon. You would think that I would be professional and I would know and I know it.
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I just want to confirm that it's right. OK, so let's make this switch.
OK, so my.
Patreon is Reggie's Expressions, and that's spelled R-E-G-G-E-E,
apostrophe S, Expressions.
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And my very second post says, I love the salt and pepper beard,
because it's saying embracing growing old.
I love the salt and pepper beard and the grays popping up everywhere.
Growing old is a privilege, and I don't take it lightly.
So yeah you know if
you're interested in you know going and doing
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so my recommendation is to go on there
and and pull it up and listen and or
you know subscribe and you'll be able
to get special content you know in between times also
if you guys definitely want to donate i'm
not going to be shameful about requesting this
stuff anymore just because you know i'm not
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doing anything differently than anybody else if you guys
want to support i'm absolutely open to any type of
donations that you want to give my cash app
is dollar sign r l s
g 1980 any donations that
you would like to give you can you can subscribe on youtube i think i no no
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can't describe yeah you can youtube is more of a complicated thing don't worry
about it but uh you can subscribe on On Facebook, which is R.L.
Socorro Garner, and that's A-R-E-E-L Socorro Garner, S-O-C-O-R-R-O-G-A-R-N-E-R.
On TikTok, it is Reggie's Expressions, R-E-G-G-E-E, apostrophe,
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nope, R-E-G-G-E-E-S Expressions.
And then on Instagram, it is R underscore L underscore Socorro Garner.
So A-R-E underscore E-L underscore Socorro, Garner, S-O-C-O-R-R-O, G-A-R-N-E-R.
There's no dash in Instagram. Okay.
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All right. That's all I got, guys. I appreciate you listening.
As always, it has been a pleasure.
You know, those are some things that I've been thinking about,
and I would love to hear your thoughts and concerns or questions that you have
to continue the conversation.
Enjoy the rest of your day. And I will talk to y'all later. Lady,
I'll talk to y'all later. Bye.
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