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October 8, 2025 • 66 mins

🎙 Episode 20: The Mental Load of Being the Default Parent

 

Being the “default parent” isn’t just about who packs the lunches or remembers picture day—it’s the invisible mental load of managing a whole family’s schedule, emotions, and survival. From keeping track of doctor’s appointments to knowing which kid refuses the “wrong” chicken nuggets, it’s a full-time job that rarely gets recognition.

 

In this episode, we’re unpacking:

✨ What it really means to be the default parent (spoiler: it’s exhausting)

✨ Why the mental load is more than just chores—it’s the constant thinking

✨ The burnout, resentment, and guilt cycle we don’t talk about enough

✨ How to start sharing the load without losing your mind

 

Because being the go-to person for everything may look like strength, but it can feel like drowning. This one’s for the parents holding it all together—and maybe ready to put a few things down.

 

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If this episode hit home, share it with a fellow parent who gets it. And don’t forget to follow and leave us a review—it’s the best kind of emotional labor you don’t have to overthink. 😉

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