This episode explores the guilt and discomfort associated with setting personal boundaries. We examine the fear of being perceived as selfish or weak that often prevents individuals from saying no or withdrawing from unwanted commitments. I introduce the concept of "fawning" as a potential trauma response related to people-pleasing. As always I offer some reframes and tips to help you recognise these feelings, prioritise their well-being, and understand that setting boundaries is an act of self-care and wisdom, rather than selfishness or weakness.
Refererences:
Article about 'Fawning' - Psychology Today
The Mystery of the Squashed Self - Trisha Lewis
Beware The Self Squashing Prophecy - TEDx - Trisha Lewis
Other 'unsquashing' resources and quizzes - my website.
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