April 24, 2024 • 24 mins
In this episode, Sabrina Shine Williams, of Shine Bright with Sabrina, interviews Na'Kedra Rodgers, Christian Motivational Speaker, Author, Entrepreneur, and Founder of OptimisticallyKe, LLC. Na’Kedra talks with us about The Power of Resilience and Finding Your Calling. She discusses the good & bad, and her book, Kneeling Earnestly for Transformation: 30-Day Devotional
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(00:05):
Welcome back to another episode of Shine
Bright with Sabrina, and I'm your host,
Sabrina Shine Williams.
Today, I would love for you to give a
warm welcome to
our Christian motivational
speaker, author,
entrepreneur and the founder of
Optimistically
(00:27):
Key LLC, Nikhil
Rogers. And
today we're going to be talking about a
topic that I have really.
pondering on lately. We're talking
about the power of resilience and
finding your calling. I know I am not the
only person out there that that's like,
(00:48):
what is my calling? What am I supposed to
be doing? What is my purpose? And
also looking at how do I
become more resilient? How do I
identify that I'm resilient? So I
want Nikita to introduce herself to my
audience. Tell us who you are.
What it's about Welcome to Kedra.
(01:09):
Well, thank you Sabrina for that awesome
welcome and introduction. I really
appreciate it. My name is Nikita
Rogers, as she says, I am a Christian
motivational speaker, author and
entrepreneur and I am just so excited to
be here and be a part of this
conversation.
Yes, yes, yes. I have to
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start with what made
you first let's the name of your
business.
Absolutely. So how did I get started with
my business?I didn't even know that I
wanted to start a business. I just knew
that I needed to do something. In the
pandemic, a lot was going on. We were
locked down, people were at home.
(01:53):
And I started seeing everybody just being
very creative. And I said,
Oh my goodness, I need to do something.
But I don't know how to cook. I don't
know how to bake. I'm not
crafty. I don't know how to make these
balloons or just party stuff. So
what can I do?So I started
asking people around me and they said you
(02:16):
need to do something with encouragement.
And I said what? They were like, you
already post inspirational videos on
social media anyway. And I said those
aren't my words. They said it doesn't
matter, just post it anyway. So I was
like, OK, So I went back and forth with
it for about a month or two, and
then I finally said, you know what? I'm
just gonna do it. I'm gonna post videos
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on social media. And so when I said that,
my friend said. You need a name. What are
you going to call this platform? And I
said, well, girl, I don't know. I hadn't
made it that far. So she and I
and my husband, we sat in the living room
and we just started talking. We just
started trying to come up with what we
would call it. And we were writing
(02:58):
names down. And I just wrote
optimistically key. And I was,
oh, this has a nice ring to it, but I
wasn't sold on it just yet. I was still
trying to hear what else they would come
up with. But then I would keep coming
back to it. And then I said, this is it,
This is what it's going to be because my
name is Nikitra. People call me
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Key. But what I found out
was the optimism or the
optimistically came from
what he desired me to be, what I had
to grow into. Because during the
pandemic, I was living in a time
where I wasn't the best version of
myself. I wasn't the happiest person.
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A lot of things were happening to me. I
had experienced a lot of loss. I was
grieving, whether it had been from
friendships being gone or relationships
gone bad or miscarriages, all of
those things. So I was in a place where I
needed some encouraging and
uplifting and thinking positive. So he
led me to posting these scriptures
(04:04):
and speaking on his scripture every day.
And I said every day I start to
speak it, I began to believe it so.
That's me. Optimistically key,
optimistically key optimistically.
So you spoke about the pandemic and
how it impacted you and the different
things you were going through and. How
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someone?
Helped you basically find your.
I don't wanna necessarily say calling,
but finding the direction that you were
supposed to go through, yes.
How did you find your calling?
How would you? How would you?
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Suggest to my listeners to find their
calling, which is probably part of what
you did also. So I would tell
them to do what I didn't do because what
I didn't do was go and ask God. That's
what I should have done. I should have
asked him what His plan was for my life,
what He wanted me to do. But instead. I
was asking people around me, but
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God will use people
to speak to you, to bless you, to
drop a seed. And that's really what they
did. Because my husband had actually
told me that I should do something with
talking about two or three
years before I even started my ministry.
But I wasn't, I wasn't at a place to
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receive it. So I didn't, I didn't
accept it because I was like, what? No,
I'm not doing that. I'm not
doing that. But like I said, over the
course of those three years when things
started happening to me and you know, I
started having just a lot of turmoil in
my life. Really a lot of turmoil, a lot
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of loss, a lot of grieving and just
really doing a lot of self reflection
and seeing myself for who I was. The
good, the bad, the ugly, all of my flaws.
Yes, I had them. Yes, we all have them
and just come to the realization.
That God could still use me even with all
of my mess. And that's just really what
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it was when I opened my heart. He began
taking that out of me and cleaning me up
so that He could use me. And it's still a
process, It's still going, but it's
I'm, I'm available now.
Yes, it's interesting because I
talked to people all the time. I said
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I'm learning to honor myself,
all of my greatness and my flaws and
all. All the good, the bad, the ugly,
because it actually made me who I am
today. And I think people forget that and
they think, oh, I can only talk about the
good things that happen. But no, you have
to honor those bad things because most
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likely they taught you a lesson. They
made you stronger. There's something that
you can.
Gain from the experiences that you had
and I like the fact that you said
ask God.
You can't go wrong. We
go around asking everybody, what should I
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wish, what do you think about this, what
you think about this? And I had a
conversation with the client earlier
today and I wonder, I said,
look, what has been given to
you is not for everybody else. It
is for you. People are not gonna
necessarily understand it. So you have to
be careful 'cause sometimes people will
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try to stop you from doing
something. And
occasionally it's because
they're trying to protect you because of
their fears. They have their own fears.
And it's like, oh, I better protect her
from that. It's not always that they
mean you harm. Sometimes they have your
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best interest in mind and they're just
projecting their own fears onto you. So
you have to be very careful with that.
But here's the thing, when God gives you
a vision. It's not for other people to
understand it. It wasn't for them,
it was for you. So when they're being
negative to you, you just say I'm going
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to trust what God gave me. I'm going to
see what He has for me, and I'm going to
keep on this journey. He didn't say that
it was going to be easy. He didn't say
that I wasn't going to have turmoil. He
didn't say that I wouldn't have to bounce
back for some things. But He did say that
on the other side, there's victory, but
if I don't go through to get to that
other side, I won't get it.
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So that's what you have to remember. When
people are projecting their fears, it's
because they don't understand it. They
don't know the plan. It's
God's plan, and that's what you trust.
Yes, yes, yes, yes. We have to trust
his plan, that's why. Because his plans
are better than our players could ever
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be ever be. So
one of the things that
you shared with me is that you wrote a
book. Yes, I did tell us the
name of your book and what it's
about. The name of my book is
Kneeling Earnestly for Transformation 30
day Devotional. I'm not sure if this will
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be a video or just audio, but it is the
back. It is my screen.
So my book is just really about
a lot of it is personal stories, personal
stories of how God turns some bad
situations around and, and made them
for my good. You know, we, we talk about
the good things. Oh, I talk about how God
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allowed me to get a degree, how God
allowed me to get married, how he allowed
me to have children. But I didn't say,
oh, I had miscarriages in between that
time and how my faith was.
You know, how you shake, you're shaking,
you're unsure and you're saying, well,
God, you told me that you would. Allow me
to be a mom. Well, what's happening? Why
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is it taking so long? I talk about things
like that in my book. I'm I'm very, I try
to be very vulnerable and transparent
just for the simple fact that someone
needs to hear that story. Everything that
we go through is not always for us. And I
don't want anybody to feel like I felt, I
felt like I was alone when I was going
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through some things. So I put
my triumph, I put my groups and
my triumphs in my book so that people can
know. Oh yes. You will experience
some heartache, but you can get through
it. So I talk about overcoming anxiety. I
talk about overcoming depression,
overcoming your fears, and just
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trusting God.
if someone wanted to purchase your book,
where can they get it from? My book is
available everywhere where books are
sold. You can get it from Amazon. You can
get it from Barnes and Noble, any
bookstore, Walmart, Christian bookstores,
or I would love. For you to
purchase it directly from me, you can
purchase it on my website at www
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. nikitarogers.
com and I will ship a signed
copy directly to you.
Yeah. So if you want a signed copy, go
directly to your website to get it.
That's right. So you talked about
in the book you talk about vulnerability.
And the things that you've gone through.
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And being resisted,
resilient.
What do you think helped
develop?That skill,
that mindset, that your
ability to be resilient.
I think it came from my mom, just seeing
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her. She was a very strong woman. She's
a, was a single mom, but I saw her
continue to just make a way
out of, you know, she just made a way and
she trusted God. She kept us in church.
And so when I would go through things and
I would cry because we are emotional. We
experience emotions, you know, and all of
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those things, the heartache. But you
cannot stay there. You give
yourself a certain amount of time. To go
through what it is, experience all of the
emotions that you are having,
and then you keep it moving because
you'll get stuck if you stay there. You
cannot move forward. And that's the
biggest thing that people have to to
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realize. You have to keep going. The
world keeps moving because you're going
to go through something else. And what
you went through before that may have
prepared you for the next test because
it's a bigger test, but because you learn
something. In. The trial
that you just came out of, you're better
equipped to go through the next one.
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Yes, yes.
So true, so true. I
think sometimes when we go through things
we don't realize that.
Is preparing you for something else,
whether you're gonna go through something
similar or you're gonna share a story
with someone to say, hey, you know what,
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you can overcome this. I was
able to do it and I know you can also.
So that's the thing. We don't always
remember that and.
The part where you said you went through
it alone, you want people to know that
they're not alone.
I just went to a conference recently and
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in the conference. We were talking about
different things and they just amazed
me how many women and
men, not just women.
Are going through or have been through
the same thing that I've been through?
Yes. I was like, that's
interesting. And when you are going
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through it, sometimes you feel like
you're alone. You need a community
or that outlet to let you know you are
not alone. You're not by yourself, you're
not the only one. And you will be able
to survive, Yes. But that's the
thing about it. We have to talk. You
know, we don't, don't keep that stuff to
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yourself. It will eat you up,
eat you up in the inside. And you're
just, you're just filled with so many
emotions and you, you don't know how. And
you're just spewing all of this stuff out
over everybody because you don't know how
to direct it. You don't know how to guide
it. You just, you need some help. You're
crying out from help, but then you don't
want to show. That side of
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you, you gotta do it.
Yes, that vulnerability, it's
something, it's something I'm
knocking you down a couple of times.
It'll help you get over it.
It'll help you get over it. Like,
OK, I need to be a little bit more
vulnerable. I need to ask for help. I am
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not the superwoman that people want me to
think I am. And I don't have to be a
superwoman. That's the biggest thing. We
don't have to be a superwoman. And I
think depending on your background,
especially if you grew up in a corporate
environment. They make
you think that you.
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Some environments make you think that you
have to have it all together. You can't.
You gotta come in there ready, and you
can't show your
humanity. When we're
human beings, we have no choice but to
show that. And when you don't, it stifles
in it. It backs you up. So it's
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that's definitely not a good thing at
all. Right?
So true. So I just, I
love the fact that you're out here
being vulnerable. You're sharing your
story, you're sharing your mission.
You said something about your.
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Did you call it a mission? Is that what
you called it? Ministry. Ministry.
Wishing ministry. My ministry is
encouragement. My ministry is
offering hope. My ministry is
reminding people like like you saying,
sister, you have a friend in me,
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sister, you can lean on me. Sister,
I know what it's like to be a podcast
host. What are you struggling with?
Oh, I can relate. I've been there. I've
done that too. You know, just like you
said, community, reminding people
that human interaction, it's
essential, but also reminding
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people about the source. So many times
we get caught up in, you know, the the
latest thing now is black girl magic and
I love it. You know, I love black girl
magic. I like to think that I'm, I'm
sprinkling it every day when I get up,
but I want to remind people
the source is him. He's the one
that gives us the confidence to be able
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to do the things that He has planned for
us a long time ago. So don't get wrapped
up into thinking that it's you. It's him.
He's giving you the power to do all of
the things that your faith prompts you to
do. That's
my ministry. Yes, yes, yes,
yes. Just to remind us, you're not doing
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this all on your own. Yeah. There's a
higher force that's moving you
forward. I know I was talking to someone
and we were talking about. I said, yeah,
I believe in God personally. Of course
not everybody believe in God. Whatever
you wanna call your higher power, some
say universe. I still said OK in my mind,
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that's still God. You just called him by
a different name. We have to remember
that we're not doing this on our own.
He is the source. So he's providing us
with resources to be able to carry out
hit the calling that he placed on our
life. Yes.
I apologize a little bit for y'all.
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So what is one
thing that one piece of advice
you could give to your younger self on
how they can be more resilient and shy?
What would your advice be?
Don't listen to what other people say.
Love yourself even when people
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don't. Don't let them shine your light
because they are insecure you. Be
authentically you and whatever it
is that you set your mind to. Believe
that you've already been equipped. You
have the wisdom, you have the knowledge,
and you have the skill. Just
remain consistent.
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Yes, yes, yes, remain
consistent. And let
me, let me give you a piece of advice. If
you have not been consistent, maybe
you've fallen off, you can get back up,
that's right, as long as you breathe in
and on this side. Of the earth,
you have the opportunity to get back up
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and started again. You don't have to
worry about oh, I messed up, I didn't do
OK, maybe you did forgive yourself
and start moving forward. And that's
what's important that we continue to move
forward. So for any of my
listeners, how can they reach
you, reach out to you, contact you,
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follow you online? How do they get
connected with you?Yes, you can send me an
e-mail. You can reach me through
my website, or you can e-mail me
directly at optimisticallykey@
gmail. com. I would love to
follow you because I want to keep up with
what you are doing as well. I want to
support you. I want to share what it is
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that you're doing because again, it's
about building that community and
followers are important. Building your
network, that's important. So you can
find me on Facebook. You can find me on
Instagram or
LinkedIn and all of those my profiles
are listed as my name Nikitra
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Rogers with AD
Rogers and I
will put her information down in the show
notes so that you can follow her.
And Nikitra, is there anything
that you want to leave with my listeners
before we sign off anything that.
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I forgot to ask you or you just wanted to
say. I just want you all to
to be encouraged
if you are available. I do have some
speaking events coming up because I am a
Christian motivational speaker. I'll be
speaking next month, May
4th at the Sister to Sister
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Emposium Symposium in Irving and that
information is available on my website at
www. nikitarogers.
com. And I'll also be speaking the
Saturday after that, which is Mother's
Day weekend. They're having a
picnic to honor mothers
in the Bicentennial Park, and that's on
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my website as well. You can get the exact
location. And I just want you to come out
and celebrate being a mom, celebrate
being a sister. I'll be talking about
best love is the self love because we
have to love ourselves first before we
can love others. We have to love
ourselves first so that we can show
others how we want to be loved so we can
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know what it is that we want, what we
like, what we don't like, what we don't.
But just knowing that you can get through
anything, don't be concerned if you have
to pivot because that's life. If you have
to start again, that's life.
Just keep going. Just keep moving
forward. If you don't know what your
purpose is, that's cool too. I just
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learned mine three years ago, like I
said. So it's never too late to learn
something new. It's never too late to
try. You won't know if it'll be
successful or not if you don't try. You
may take some losses, but that's just a
test. It's a test to see what you're
gonna do next. Are you gonna rise to the
occasion? Are you gonna throw a pity
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party? Which one are you gonna do? I
think you're gonna ride.
Yes, no, no more pity
parties. No more extended pity
parties. If you get one, they gotta be
short. Don't stay in it. Don't get stuck.
Don't get stuck. Thank you, Nikita. Like
I said, I will put her contact
information down in the show notes so you
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can follow up with her. Maybe you can
attend some of the events that she will
be speaking at and you may even want to
purchase her book that she's written to
help you with your calling to
help you. Transform
your life. OK 'cause what it's all
about right now. Transformation.
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Shine as bright as you want because
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Stay inspired, let's keep making the
world a brighter place for all of
us together.
Welcome back to another episode of Shine
Bright with Sabrina, and I'm your host,
Sabrina Shine Williams.
Today, I would love for you to give a
warm welcome to
our Christian motivational
speaker, author,
entrepreneur and the founder of
Optimistically
(00:27):
Key LLC, Nikhil
Rogers. And
today we're going to be talking about a
topic that I have really.
pondering on lately. We're talking
about the power of resilience and
finding your calling. I know I am not the
only person out there that that's like,
(00:48):
what is my calling? What am I supposed to
be doing? What is my purpose? And
also looking at how do I
become more resilient? How do I
identify that I'm resilient? So I
want Nikita to introduce herself to my
audience. Tell us who you are.
What it's about Welcome to Kedra.
(01:09):
Well, thank you Sabrina for that awesome
welcome and introduction. I really
appreciate it. My name is Nikita
Rogers, as she says, I am a Christian
motivational speaker, author and
entrepreneur and I am just so excited to
be here and be a part of this
conversation.
Yes, yes, yes. I have to
(01:31):
start with what made
you first let's the name of your
business.
Absolutely. So how did I get started with
my business?I didn't even know that I
wanted to start a business. I just knew
that I needed to do something. In the
pandemic, a lot was going on. We were
locked down, people were at home.
(01:53):
And I started seeing everybody just being
very creative. And I said,
Oh my goodness, I need to do something.
But I don't know how to cook. I don't
know how to bake. I'm not
crafty. I don't know how to make these
balloons or just party stuff. So
what can I do?So I started
asking people around me and they said you
(02:16):
need to do something with encouragement.
And I said what? They were like, you
already post inspirational videos on
social media anyway. And I said those
aren't my words. They said it doesn't
matter, just post it anyway. So I was
like, OK, So I went back and forth with
it for about a month or two, and
then I finally said, you know what? I'm
just gonna do it. I'm gonna post videos
(02:37):
on social media. And so when I said that,
my friend said. You need a name. What are
you going to call this platform? And I
said, well, girl, I don't know. I hadn't
made it that far. So she and I
and my husband, we sat in the living room
and we just started talking. We just
started trying to come up with what we
would call it. And we were writing
(02:58):
names down. And I just wrote
optimistically key. And I was,
oh, this has a nice ring to it, but I
wasn't sold on it just yet. I was still
trying to hear what else they would come
up with. But then I would keep coming
back to it. And then I said, this is it,
This is what it's going to be because my
name is Nikitra. People call me
(03:19):
Key. But what I found out
was the optimism or the
optimistically came from
what he desired me to be, what I had
to grow into. Because during the
pandemic, I was living in a time
where I wasn't the best version of
myself. I wasn't the happiest person.
(03:42):
A lot of things were happening to me. I
had experienced a lot of loss. I was
grieving, whether it had been from
friendships being gone or relationships
gone bad or miscarriages, all of
those things. So I was in a place where I
needed some encouraging and
uplifting and thinking positive. So he
led me to posting these scriptures
(04:04):
and speaking on his scripture every day.
And I said every day I start to
speak it, I began to believe it so.
That's me. Optimistically key,
optimistically key optimistically.
So you spoke about the pandemic and
how it impacted you and the different
things you were going through and. How
(04:26):
someone?
Helped you basically find your.
I don't wanna necessarily say calling,
but finding the direction that you were
supposed to go through, yes.
How did you find your calling?
How would you? How would you?
(04:48):
Suggest to my listeners to find their
calling, which is probably part of what
you did also. So I would tell
them to do what I didn't do because what
I didn't do was go and ask God. That's
what I should have done. I should have
asked him what His plan was for my life,
what He wanted me to do. But instead. I
was asking people around me, but
(05:09):
God will use people
to speak to you, to bless you, to
drop a seed. And that's really what they
did. Because my husband had actually
told me that I should do something with
talking about two or three
years before I even started my ministry.
But I wasn't, I wasn't at a place to
(05:29):
receive it. So I didn't, I didn't
accept it because I was like, what? No,
I'm not doing that. I'm not
doing that. But like I said, over the
course of those three years when things
started happening to me and you know, I
started having just a lot of turmoil in
my life. Really a lot of turmoil, a lot
(05:50):
of loss, a lot of grieving and just
really doing a lot of self reflection
and seeing myself for who I was. The
good, the bad, the ugly, all of my flaws.
Yes, I had them. Yes, we all have them
and just come to the realization.
That God could still use me even with all
of my mess. And that's just really what
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it was when I opened my heart. He began
taking that out of me and cleaning me up
so that He could use me. And it's still a
process, It's still going, but it's
I'm, I'm available now.
Yes, it's interesting because I
talked to people all the time. I said
(06:31):
I'm learning to honor myself,
all of my greatness and my flaws and
all. All the good, the bad, the ugly,
because it actually made me who I am
today. And I think people forget that and
they think, oh, I can only talk about the
good things that happen. But no, you have
to honor those bad things because most
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likely they taught you a lesson. They
made you stronger. There's something that
you can.
Gain from the experiences that you had
and I like the fact that you said
ask God.
You can't go wrong. We
go around asking everybody, what should I
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wish, what do you think about this, what
you think about this? And I had a
conversation with the client earlier
today and I wonder, I said,
look, what has been given to
you is not for everybody else. It
is for you. People are not gonna
necessarily understand it. So you have to
be careful 'cause sometimes people will
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try to stop you from doing
something. And
occasionally it's because
they're trying to protect you because of
their fears. They have their own fears.
And it's like, oh, I better protect her
from that. It's not always that they
mean you harm. Sometimes they have your
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best interest in mind and they're just
projecting their own fears onto you. So
you have to be very careful with that.
But here's the thing, when God gives you
a vision. It's not for other people to
understand it. It wasn't for them,
it was for you. So when they're being
negative to you, you just say I'm going
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to trust what God gave me. I'm going to
see what He has for me, and I'm going to
keep on this journey. He didn't say that
it was going to be easy. He didn't say
that I wasn't going to have turmoil. He
didn't say that I wouldn't have to bounce
back for some things. But He did say that
on the other side, there's victory, but
if I don't go through to get to that
other side, I won't get it.
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So that's what you have to remember. When
people are projecting their fears, it's
because they don't understand it. They
don't know the plan. It's
God's plan, and that's what you trust.
Yes, yes, yes, yes. We have to trust
his plan, that's why. Because his plans
are better than our players could ever
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be ever be. So
one of the things that
you shared with me is that you wrote a
book. Yes, I did tell us the
name of your book and what it's
about. The name of my book is
Kneeling Earnestly for Transformation 30
day Devotional. I'm not sure if this will
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be a video or just audio, but it is the
back. It is my screen.
So my book is just really about
a lot of it is personal stories, personal
stories of how God turns some bad
situations around and, and made them
for my good. You know, we, we talk about
the good things. Oh, I talk about how God
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allowed me to get a degree, how God
allowed me to get married, how he allowed
me to have children. But I didn't say,
oh, I had miscarriages in between that
time and how my faith was.
You know, how you shake, you're shaking,
you're unsure and you're saying, well,
God, you told me that you would. Allow me
to be a mom. Well, what's happening? Why
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is it taking so long? I talk about things
like that in my book. I'm I'm very, I try
to be very vulnerable and transparent
just for the simple fact that someone
needs to hear that story. Everything that
we go through is not always for us. And I
don't want anybody to feel like I felt, I
felt like I was alone when I was going
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through some things. So I put
my triumph, I put my groups and
my triumphs in my book so that people can
know. Oh yes. You will experience
some heartache, but you can get through
it. So I talk about overcoming anxiety. I
talk about overcoming depression,
overcoming your fears, and just
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trusting God.
if someone wanted to purchase your book,
where can they get it from? My book is
available everywhere where books are
sold. You can get it from Amazon. You can
get it from Barnes and Noble, any
bookstore, Walmart, Christian bookstores,
or I would love. For you to
purchase it directly from me, you can
purchase it on my website at www
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. nikitarogers.
com and I will ship a signed
copy directly to you.
Yeah. So if you want a signed copy, go
directly to your website to get it.
That's right. So you talked about
in the book you talk about vulnerability.
And the things that you've gone through.
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And being resisted,
resilient.
What do you think helped
develop?That skill,
that mindset, that your
ability to be resilient.
I think it came from my mom, just seeing
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her. She was a very strong woman. She's
a, was a single mom, but I saw her
continue to just make a way
out of, you know, she just made a way and
she trusted God. She kept us in church.
And so when I would go through things and
I would cry because we are emotional. We
experience emotions, you know, and all of
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those things, the heartache. But you
cannot stay there. You give
yourself a certain amount of time. To go
through what it is, experience all of the
emotions that you are having,
and then you keep it moving because
you'll get stuck if you stay there. You
cannot move forward. And that's the
biggest thing that people have to to
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realize. You have to keep going. The
world keeps moving because you're going
to go through something else. And what
you went through before that may have
prepared you for the next test because
it's a bigger test, but because you learn
something. In. The trial
that you just came out of, you're better
equipped to go through the next one.
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Yes, yes.
So true, so true. I
think sometimes when we go through things
we don't realize that.
Is preparing you for something else,
whether you're gonna go through something
similar or you're gonna share a story
with someone to say, hey, you know what,
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you can overcome this. I was
able to do it and I know you can also.
So that's the thing. We don't always
remember that and.
The part where you said you went through
it alone, you want people to know that
they're not alone.
I just went to a conference recently and
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in the conference. We were talking about
different things and they just amazed
me how many women and
men, not just women.
Are going through or have been through
the same thing that I've been through?
Yes. I was like, that's
interesting. And when you are going
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through it, sometimes you feel like
you're alone. You need a community
or that outlet to let you know you are
not alone. You're not by yourself, you're
not the only one. And you will be able
to survive, Yes. But that's the
thing about it. We have to talk. You
know, we don't, don't keep that stuff to
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yourself. It will eat you up,
eat you up in the inside. And you're
just, you're just filled with so many
emotions and you, you don't know how. And
you're just spewing all of this stuff out
over everybody because you don't know how
to direct it. You don't know how to guide
it. You just, you need some help. You're
crying out from help, but then you don't
want to show. That side of
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you, you gotta do it.
Yes, that vulnerability, it's
something, it's something I'm
knocking you down a couple of times.
It'll help you get over it.
It'll help you get over it. Like,
OK, I need to be a little bit more
vulnerable. I need to ask for help. I am
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not the superwoman that people want me to
think I am. And I don't have to be a
superwoman. That's the biggest thing. We
don't have to be a superwoman. And I
think depending on your background,
especially if you grew up in a corporate
environment. They make
you think that you.
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Some environments make you think that you
have to have it all together. You can't.
You gotta come in there ready, and you
can't show your
humanity. When we're
human beings, we have no choice but to
show that. And when you don't, it stifles
in it. It backs you up. So it's
(15:51):
that's definitely not a good thing at
all. Right?
So true. So I just, I
love the fact that you're out here
being vulnerable. You're sharing your
story, you're sharing your mission.
You said something about your.
(16:13):
Did you call it a mission? Is that what
you called it? Ministry. Ministry.
Wishing ministry. My ministry is
encouragement. My ministry is
offering hope. My ministry is
reminding people like like you saying,
sister, you have a friend in me,
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sister, you can lean on me. Sister,
I know what it's like to be a podcast
host. What are you struggling with?
Oh, I can relate. I've been there. I've
done that too. You know, just like you
said, community, reminding people
that human interaction, it's
essential, but also reminding
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people about the source. So many times
we get caught up in, you know, the the
latest thing now is black girl magic and
I love it. You know, I love black girl
magic. I like to think that I'm, I'm
sprinkling it every day when I get up,
but I want to remind people
the source is him. He's the one
that gives us the confidence to be able
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to do the things that He has planned for
us a long time ago. So don't get wrapped
up into thinking that it's you. It's him.
He's giving you the power to do all of
the things that your faith prompts you to
do. That's
my ministry. Yes, yes, yes,
yes. Just to remind us, you're not doing
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this all on your own. Yeah. There's a
higher force that's moving you
forward. I know I was talking to someone
and we were talking about. I said, yeah,
I believe in God personally. Of course
not everybody believe in God. Whatever
you wanna call your higher power, some
say universe. I still said OK in my mind,
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that's still God. You just called him by
a different name. We have to remember
that we're not doing this on our own.
He is the source. So he's providing us
with resources to be able to carry out
hit the calling that he placed on our
life. Yes.
I apologize a little bit for y'all.
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So what is one
thing that one piece of advice
you could give to your younger self on
how they can be more resilient and shy?
What would your advice be?
Don't listen to what other people say.
Love yourself even when people
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don't. Don't let them shine your light
because they are insecure you. Be
authentically you and whatever it
is that you set your mind to. Believe
that you've already been equipped. You
have the wisdom, you have the knowledge,
and you have the skill. Just
remain consistent.
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Yes, yes, yes, remain
consistent. And let
me, let me give you a piece of advice. If
you have not been consistent, maybe
you've fallen off, you can get back up,
that's right, as long as you breathe in
and on this side. Of the earth,
you have the opportunity to get back up
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and started again. You don't have to
worry about oh, I messed up, I didn't do
OK, maybe you did forgive yourself
and start moving forward. And that's
what's important that we continue to move
forward. So for any of my
listeners, how can they reach
you, reach out to you, contact you,
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follow you online? How do they get
connected with you?Yes, you can send me an
e-mail. You can reach me through
my website, or you can e-mail me
directly at optimisticallykey@
gmail. com. I would love to
follow you because I want to keep up with
what you are doing as well. I want to
support you. I want to share what it is
(20:11):
that you're doing because again, it's
about building that community and
followers are important. Building your
network, that's important. So you can
find me on Facebook. You can find me on
Instagram or
LinkedIn and all of those my profiles
are listed as my name Nikitra
(20:33):
Rogers with AD
Rogers and I
will put her information down in the show
notes so that you can follow her.
And Nikitra, is there anything
that you want to leave with my listeners
before we sign off anything that.
(20:54):
I forgot to ask you or you just wanted to
say. I just want you all to
to be encouraged
if you are available. I do have some
speaking events coming up because I am a
Christian motivational speaker. I'll be
speaking next month, May
4th at the Sister to Sister
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Emposium Symposium in Irving and that
information is available on my website at
www. nikitarogers.
com. And I'll also be speaking the
Saturday after that, which is Mother's
Day weekend. They're having a
picnic to honor mothers
in the Bicentennial Park, and that's on
(21:36):
my website as well. You can get the exact
location. And I just want you to come out
and celebrate being a mom, celebrate
being a sister. I'll be talking about
best love is the self love because we
have to love ourselves first before we
can love others. We have to love
ourselves first so that we can show
others how we want to be loved so we can
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know what it is that we want, what we
like, what we don't like, what we don't.
But just knowing that you can get through
anything, don't be concerned if you have
to pivot because that's life. If you have
to start again, that's life.
Just keep going. Just keep moving
forward. If you don't know what your
purpose is, that's cool too. I just
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learned mine three years ago, like I
said. So it's never too late to learn
something new. It's never too late to
try. You won't know if it'll be
successful or not if you don't try. You
may take some losses, but that's just a
test. It's a test to see what you're
gonna do next. Are you gonna rise to the
occasion? Are you gonna throw a pity
(22:39):
party? Which one are you gonna do? I
think you're gonna ride.
Yes, no, no more pity
parties. No more extended pity
parties. If you get one, they gotta be
short. Don't stay in it. Don't get stuck.
Don't get stuck. Thank you, Nikita. Like
I said, I will put her contact
information down in the show notes so you
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can follow up with her. Maybe you can
attend some of the events that she will
be speaking at and you may even want to
purchase her book that she's written to
help you with your calling to
help you. Transform
your life. OK 'cause what it's all
about right now. Transformation.
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Hopefully you have heard something that
has inspired you today. That is my desire
for you to be empowered
to show up as your highest self.
And if you have not subscribed already,
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Remember, you have the power to make a
difference by deciding to take action.
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Shine as bright as you want because
together we shine brighter. And until
next time, this is Sabrina Shine Williams
signing off Take care.
Stay inspired, let's keep making the
world a brighter place for all of
us together.
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