111: (part 2) 10 truths about men I wish I KNEW SOONER when I was insecure

10 Hard Truths to STOP Chasing (Anxious Attachment & Dating Advice)

If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨

This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships — before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay.

In this podcast episode, I share dating advice for anxious attachment, explain how men actually fall in love, and why chasing, proving, and people-pleasing push men away instead of creating connection. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing, stop abandoning yourself, set healthy boundaries, and attract secure, emotionally available men without playing games or pretending not to care.

This episode is especially for women struggling with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, limerence, and anxious-avoidant dating dynamics — the women who keep asking: “Why do I care more than he does?” “Why do men pull away when I get attached?”

You’re not broken. This is about attachment wiring, not your worth 🔒🧠

 

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  ⏰ What you’ll learn in this episode:

00:00 Understanding Men's Love Dynamics 00:07 01. Understand how MEN fall in love (not what you think) 04:26 02. Let Him Be Your Hero 09:57 3. Men are attracted to confidence AND boundaries 12:30 4. Men fall for presence, not perfection 16:06 5. Physical intimacy creates FAST bonds - use it wisely 17:50 6. Men secretly love a woman obsessed with HERSELF 19:42 7. The more you abandon yourself, the more emotionally unavailable men show up 20:54 8. Give him freedom - the healthiest power move 23:07 9. Obsession is a signal - not love 24:34 10. Make Him Fear He Could Lose You 26:11 Summary

 

 

 

🖤 About me

I’m Jula, an attachment style coach. I help women stop chasing, stop overgiving, and attract secure love ✨

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.