114: Why affirmations can make you MORE anxious or simply don't work (for love, relationships, secure attachment))

Why do affirmations sometimes make you MORE anxious instead of calm? 🌪 Why do they feel fake… forced… or even triggering? 🧨 And why do you end up overthinking MORE after saying them? 🧠💭

If you’ve ever thought: ➞ “Affirmations don’t work for me.” ➞ “I feel worse after saying them.” ➞ “They just make me more aware of my fears.”

You’re not broken 🫂 You’re not doing it wrong 🖤 Your brain is just doing EXACTLY what it’s designed to do 🔒🧠

In this episode, I explain why most affirmations don’t work for anxious attachment — and how they can actually strengthen your abandonment fears, texting anxiety, and relationship overthinking 🚩

You’ll learn: ✨ Why your brain hears fear words FIRST ✨ Why repeating affirmations without feeling them backfires ✨ Why big “I am secure” statements get rejected ✨ Why timing matters more than repetition ✨ Why your BODY must feel safe before your mind believes

And then I walk you through a simple 5-step action plan to make affirmations ACTUALLY work — in real life, in real relationships, during real triggers 💪🏽🖤

This is for you if: ➞ You overthink texts 📱 ➞ You panic when there’s space or silence 🌪 ➞ You feel needy, clingy, or “too much” 🩹 ➞ You want secure attachment but don’t know how to get there 🗝

No fluff. No toxic positivity. No lying to your nervous system.

Just attachment-safe tools that calm your body, rewire your brain, and help you feel steady inside yourself 🔒✨

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Affirmations and Attachment Anxiety 01:03 Why changing your limiting beliefs is important to becoming securely attached 02:28 01. The brain hears words literally 05:10 02. Repeating without feeling doesn’t work 10:28 03. You affirmations are NOT believable 13:46 04. You're not repeating it in the RIGHT moment 17:11 05. Aligning Actions with Affirmations 20:02 How to become secure with coaching 23:23 5 Steps how to make affirmations work for love, secure attachment and self-esteem 32:05 Bottom line

 

 

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🖤 About me I’m Jula, an attachment style coach. I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

 

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.