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April 22, 2025 16 mins

Do you constantly need reassurance in your relationship?

Are you always seeking validation from your partner and feeling anxious when they don't respond?

I get it - I used to be the same way.

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure PODCAST, I'll show you how to stop needing constant reassurance and finally feel certain from WITHIN.

The only, empowered and independent way to go in relationships.

 

You'll learn WHY your anxious attachment makes you crave certainty 24/7, and more importantly, how to break this exhausting cycle.

I'm sharing 3 life-changing ways to meet your need for certainty without chasing it - including self-reassurance techniques, building a support system beyond your partner, and expressing needs without being needy.

PLUS, I'll guide you through a practical exercise to rewire your beliefs and create that inner safety you've been searching for.

If you're tired of overanalyzing texts, needing constant check-ins, or feeling like you're "too much," this is for you.

Let's create that security from within together.

 

🧠 Stop Overthinking Your Relationship (4-Step Course):

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

 

⭑ Attachment Library: 25 plus resources 

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

 

⭑ 1:1 Support Options ⭑

(Text + Talk, 90min Breakthrough Call, 4/8 month Private Coaching)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and the Need for Certainty 01:51 My Story: When I Used to Crave Constant Certainty 03:40 ROOT CAUSE: Why This Need for Certainty Hurts So Much 05:09 Consequences of your need for CERTAINTY goes UNMET 05:41 3 Ways to Meet Your Need for Certainty (Without Chasing It) 05:45 01 Give it to YOURSELF (Self-Reassurance and Self-Trust) 08:30 02 Get it from other SAFE people (not just your partner) 09:54 03 Learn to Express Needs in Healthy, Detached Ways 11:23 Text + Talk: Support to heal your Anxious Attachment 13:49 EXERCISE: Rewiring Beliefs for Certainty and Security 15:38 Never forget THIS about your NEED for Certainty + Safety

 

 

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns. Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

 

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