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June 19, 2025 30 mins

Here are Dopamine Menu Ideas That ACTUALLY Work For Anxious Attachment ✨💛

Your dopamine menu is EVERYTHING if you have an anxious attachment style 

Why? Because it helps you stop chasing those quick emotional hits from your partner. You’ll stop needing constant texting, reassurance, or obsessing over every little thing 💭📱

Even that urge to stalk your ex online? 👀✨ It starts to fade.

In this episode of Anxious to Secure, Jula breaks down how to build your OWN ✨slow dopamine menu✨ to help you feel more SECURE from the inside out 🛟💛

If you’ve ever felt glued to your phone waiting for a reply... Or replayed a convo on a loop in your head... This episode is for YOU 🖤

So what’s a dopamine menu anyway? You’ve probably seen the trend on IG or TikTok — usually it’s about boosting energy or focus 💡💃

But here’s what no one is talking about  Dopamine menus can actually help soothe your nervous system 💛✨ and shift anxious attachment patterns for GOOD 

This episode dives into: ✨ the science of dopamine ✨ how it fuels those emotional rollercoasters ✨ how to REWIRE your brain with grounding, secure habits

You’ll learn how to swap fast dopamine spikes (like texting, scrolling, or binging) for small, SAFE, meaningful moments that actually calm your system 🧘🏼‍♀️📓

You’ll walk away with a 3-part dopamine menu you can start using TODAY 

From:  -tiny starter habits that gently wake up your brain  -to main meals that boost your dopamine through connection + creativity  -to dessert-style rewards that help you feel satisfied + SAFE 💛✨

This isn’t just a cute Pinterest trend — This is about retraining your brain to stop chasing CHAOS ✖️ and start choosing ✨CALM, CLARITY + CONNECTION✨

Perfect for anyone who: ✶ feels like silence from a partner sends them into a spiral ⛈ ✶ constantly checks messages, stalks profiles, or replays convos 📱 ✶ uses food, social, or distractions to numb the anxiety 🍫 ✶ wants to feel EMOTIONALLY SAFE + in control again 

Let’s rewrite the way your brain experiences LOVE, connection, and calm  One tiny dopamine habit at a time 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 What is the Dopamine Menu trend?

02:01 QUICK dopamine - aka fast and dirty dopamine

05:01 Slow dopamine - aka clean, real dopamine

08:09 Why dopamine MATTERS for anxious attachment

09:33 Why YOU need a dopamine menu for anxious attachment - The REAL tiny moments

12:05 Your 3 Course Anxious Attachment Dopamine Menu

14:20 Your Dopamine Starter Menu

18:26 MAIN Dopamine Course Menu

24:00 Your Dessert Dopamine Menu

27:37 Remember

 

 

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🖤 3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

 

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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