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July 24, 2025 25 mins

If you've ever thought...  “Why don’t I feel like a priority in my relationship?”  “Why do I spiral the moment they cancel plans or go quiet?”  “Why is my Avoidant Attached partner always me feel I don't matter..”

 

Then this episode is for you:

 

In today’s deep-dive, I break down: ✶ Why your brain + nervous system are constantly scanning for signs you don’t matter ✶ The self-fulfilling prophecy of “I’m not important” ✶ How anxious attachment keeps proving the same story over and over ✶ What to do when your body goes into panic—even if it “wasn’t a big deal” ✶ 4 Steps to shift the pattern (so you can stop overthinking and start feeling SAFE again)

 

This episode is especially for you if: ➞ You feel invisible in your relationship with your avoidant partner ➞ You're tired of begging for attention but also afraid to ask for more ➞ You feel like you're always chasing crumbs, not getting real connection ➞ You're exhausted from always wondering: “Am I too much? Or not enough?”

 

You’ll leave this episode with powerful questions, tools, and proof that you’re not broken.. just stuck in a pattern your nervous system learned a long time ago

Let’s help your body feel safe enough to RECEIVE love

 

 

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What you'll find:

  • "He doesn't reply flow chart
  • anxious to secure the checklist
  • 21 ways to stop abandoning yourself
  • the magnetic formula to re-atttract anyone again
  • stop being "needy" guide
  • Challenge your thought cheat sheet
  • End jealousy forever - mega guide 

 

and moooore

 

 

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 What Happens When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority… in your Relationship 01:10 The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of “I’m Not a Priority” 02:29 Micro-Moments + Triggers that make you feel not a Priority 04:24 The REAL reason you feel so triggered (and why it's NOT about your Partner) 06:45 ✶ Let’s Break the Cycle with the 4R Method ✶ 06:58 01 Release 07:56 02 Rewire 15:21 Ways to Work with me 1:1 to become secure 17:35 03 Reconnect 18:33 04 REFLECT 21:00 Never forget these key lessons 21:56 How to create an empowered Self-Fulfilling prophecy and be treated as a priority

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