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April 18, 2025 8 mins

You’ve spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay—but what about you?

This episode is for the women who are exhausted, overextended, and quietly wondering when it’ll finally be their turn. Hilary is breaking down the deep conditioning that taught us to believe being selfless equals being worthy, and why that’s total BS.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting more, for needing space, or simply saying no… this one’s going to hit. Because the truth is, no one is going to magically give you permission to rest, breathe, or be a priority. You have to choose it. And when you do? Everything changes.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Why self-sacrifice won’t earn you the love or respect you deserve
  • The hard truth about how you’re teaching people to treat you
  • The 3 steps to stop people-pleasing and start living for you
  • How to be self-centered (in the best possible way)
  • And why this shift is your ticket to freedom

 

Episode Breakdown:

  • [00:00]  How You Were Conditioned to Be Selfless
  • [01:32] Why You Feel Undervalued and Exhausted
  • [02:03] The Guilt of Prioritizing Yourself
  • [03:06] The Truth About Self-Sacrifice
  • [04:00]  Setting Boundaries: Teaching Others How to Treat You
  • [05:04] What It Means to Be Self-Centered
  • [05:57] 3 Steps to Start Prioritizing Yourself
  • [07:01] What to Expect When You Start Saying No
  • [07:22] Why You Need to Choose Yourself Now
  • [07:54] Start Living for You

Nobody’s coming to save you. It’s your turn—right now.

Tune in, then grab Hilary’s free video training This Changes Everything to start making yourself a daily priority without apology. You’ll never look back.

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