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April 11, 2025 8 mins

She’s successful, impressive, accomplished… and secretly miserable.

If that hits a little too close to home, this episode is for you.

Hilary is calling out the high-achieving hamster wheel that so many women are stuck on—working their asses off, racking up accolades, and still feeling like something’s missing. Sound familiar? That’s because you’ve been chasing a version of success that was never meant to satisfy you, just the people clapping from the sidelines.

In this episode, Hilary breaks down the real reason success isn’t scratching the itch—and why being self-centered (yes, self-centered) is the antidote. Not the selfish kind. The sane, grounded, peaceful, fulfilled kind.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • The lie high-achieving women are sold (and why it keeps you stuck)
  • How to recognize when you’re chasing validation instead of real joy
  • The myth of “I'll be happy when...” and how to break it
  • 3 real steps to start living life on your terms—today

 

Episode Breakdown:

  • [00:00] Why High-Achieving Women Still Feel Empty
  • [02:06] How to Break the Burnout Cycle 
  • [03:54] Two Choices: Keep Performing or Prioritize Yourself
  • [04:15] What Self-Centered Really Means
  • [05:30] Step 1: Audit Your Life
  • [06:24] Step 2: Redefine Success for You
  • [06:55] Step 3: Start Making Self-Centered Decisions
  • [07:37] Why People Might Not Like the New You (and That’s Fine)
  • [08:09] Choose to be happy, NOW.

If you're tired of being exhausted, overextended, and secretly questioning if this is all there is—Hilary’s here to say: hell no, it’s not. It’s time to stop chasing and start choosing you.

Because you’re not too much. You’ve just been aiming at the wrong finish line.

Hit play. It’s time for a self-centered glow-up.

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