How can we redefine masculinity in a way that empowers men and boys?
In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I speak with Dr. Brendan Kwiatkowski-Hartman, researcher, educator, and consultant, about one of the most complex and debated topics in modern life: masculinity. Brendan’s work is driven by personal experience, including the tragic loss of a student to suicide, which inspired him to explore how boys’ struggles are shaped by both biology and social pressures.
We discuss why terms like toxic masculinity often create division, and why men and boys need guidance on embracing masculinity positively instead of simply being told what not to do. Brendan shares how reframing masculinity around safety, authenticity, emotional awareness, and self alignment can help men lead healthier lives and build stronger communities.
In this episode you will learn:
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How societal expectations influence boys and men from an early age
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The difference between restrictive and empowering forms of masculinity
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Strategies for educators, parents, and communities to support positive male development
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How embracing authenticity, responsibility, and emotional literacy fosters resilience and wellbeing
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Why curiosity and nuance are essential when talking about masculinity today
This conversation offers insight for anyone interested in men’s mental health, positive masculinity, emotional wellbeing, and creating environments where boys and men can thrive.
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Timestamps:
02:01: Brendan's Journey: From Teacher to Masculinity Advocate 03:50: Defining Masculinity: Beliefs, Behaviors, and Roles 06:32: The Demonization of Masculinity: Impact on Society 10:03: Toxic Masculinity: A Misunderstood Concept 11:58: Restrictive Masculinity: Harmful Beliefs and Behaviors 15:45: Reframing Masculinity: A Personal Evolution 19:18: The Fluidity of Masculinity: Personal Experiences 23:48: Authenticity in Masculinity: Finding Inner Confidence 25:58: The Balance of Masculinity 27:53: Navigating the Gray Areas of Masculinity 32:49: Understanding Rites of Passage 38:37: Breaking the Trauma Triangle 46:11: The Epidemic of Male LonelinesPopular Podcasts
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