287 🌟 Unlock Your Inner Healer and Embrace Your Intuition with Katie Beecher

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>> Katie Beecher (00:00):
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Welcome back to the Midlife Makeover Show. Today's

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guest brings a powerful blend of, science,
intuition, and healing to help us tune into our
bodies and transform our lives.
Katie Beecher is a licensed professional
counselor, medical and emotional intuitive,
and the author of Heal from Within, an
Intuitive Guide to wellness. With over

(03:52):
35 years of experience, Katie has been featured in
over 200 media outlets like
Goop and Quora Organics, and has
even taught at the Omega Institute.

I love, that place.

Her unique ability allows her to create in
depth emotional, physical, and spiritual
reports even before ever speaking
to her clients using only their name
and age. That is some powerful
intuition right there. In today's
episode, we'll dive into how you can access your own
intuition, heal from within, and create a

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more empowered, connected life.
Whether you're struggling with your health, your emotions, or
just feeling a little out of alignment,
Katie's approach can help you reconnect to your
true self. Get ready for some
major aha moments. Please welcome
Katie to the show.

Very nice to be here.

It is great to have you. I've, I've enjoyed
even talking to you before we hit record. I mean,
some of those, like, are my best conversations. I should just, like,
come on, you know, with it already
recording.

Just be right. Be fun.

It, yeah. And I told you already that I
was so happy when I woke up this morning. I realized
that I would be interviewing you today because I personally
even needed a little extra
intuition and energy. And I think we all need
that, though, like, every single day. You know, it's like,
oh, my God, to be in the flow all the time, that would be a little

(05:26):
crazy, but it sure would be nice,

To be in that.

Nice, yeah. To truly be connected to
ourselves.
And so, where I would like to start,
we're going to go back to 1983,
and I want to talk about little Katie. Tell us
about little Katie and her journey
as a teenager and what led you to where
you're at now.

Yeah, so, 1983, I was
16 years old, and I'm, in the throes of an
eating disorder. Really, really bad growing up. Three times
a day, suicidal. Just had, had it.
Couldn't go on. And, all I can
say is it was divine intervention because I came
home from school one day and decided I Was going to call

(06:09):
our pediatrician and let him know what I was doing
and ask for help. And I had never told anyone
about this, my parents, no one. Because I just
knew I wasn't going to get support and didn't have it
anyway. So in 1983, no one
was really talking about eating disorders and I was
told, you know, you'll probably find blah, blah, blah.
And I said, no, that's not the case.

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So he hooked me up with a Jungian psychologist.
And for those of you guys who don't know about
Jungian stuff, he
was a genius, way ahead of his time.
Everybody's ideas, we say
everybody's stuff is based on Jungian psychology.
So it's a lot of it is

(06:52):
connecting with your intuition and your body
and your authenticity and healing
self love and self acceptance
and symbolism, you know, listening to the
messages that your symptoms and your body are
giving you and instead of
pushing them down or just trying to band aid them

(07:13):
with m medicine or whatever, all
that has itself place. But what I
do and how I healed from the
eating disorder, was getting down to
the root causes of what was going
on and of course physical, emotional and
spiritual. But my therapist
taught me not only how to love and accept

(07:35):
myself for the, the good, the bad and the
ugly, but also to
see my intuition as normal and
acceptable and not
strange and not something I had to hide.
even my own psychic abilities and
talking to dead people and all of that which I've

(07:57):
been doing since I was very, very, very little and didn't
really understand any of it. She taught me how
to understand it and see how
the eating disorder was one of the best things that ever.

Happened because awaken that
within you.

Totally, totally. And I
am so grateful for it. Don't get me wrong, it was the hardest
thing I've ever done or recovered from. But it
needed to happen because I needed to
find me, you know, stop pushing me down,
separate from a lot of negative
influences in my family, learn to set
boundaries, you know, just, just things like that.

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And it helped me to find the courage
to become a licensed counselor and then
listen to my intuition and put all of that
together, and use all of it to write my book
and then to do the work that I'm doing now.

Wow, that's a, that's a big journey.
That's a great journey.

It is.

Do you think everyone can have a very strong
intuition about themselves?

I really do. Like I try to tell people I am
one of the most non woo woo Woo woo. People you
will ever meet. Because it's,
it really is just a gut
feeling, literally. And when we're young, you know, we
have all of the, we just come out with whatever we need to say,
hopefully, if you can, in your family. But we just come out with stuff. We

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just know stuff. You know, you're not constantly questioning
or second guessing who you are. So you're living
through your intuition and even
medical intuition. Like, yeah, my abilities
are off the charts. But when you
have a child, let's say, who has a
stomachache, you know, you go into detective
mode. And did they eat something? Do they

(09:44):
need to lay down? Are they going to throw up? Do I
need to take them to the doctor? Do yourself too. Like
there's, there's this immediate sort of tuning in
and going, okay, what do I need to do? And what
caused this so it doesn't happen again and how do I make myself feel
better? And it sounds really simplistic, but
that's the start of it, you know, it's tuning

(10:05):
in.

Was your intuition always very strong or
like after you kind of went through all that therapy and
you kind of awakened yourself even more, did it become
stronger?

Yes, definitely. I didn't
know that I had medical intuitive abilities
until m. Later in my life. I
now have like we talked before the session, or before
the recording. I have all of the Claire's.
So for me, when I get information,
I feel things in my body, I see pictures

(10:38):
of things in my head, I see words and
I just have a knowing, I'm a medium
so I connect with people on the other side, including
animals, you know, pets and stuff like that too.
And I even sometimes smell things. And
so because of learning
to be open to my intuition

(11:00):
rather than overthinking it and second
guessing it, which is what blocks a lot of people.
Yes, right. And also being
afraid of the information I
receive because we get intuitive hits all the
time, but we're afraid of what it tells us.

I know, yes. We almost don't want to believe
it. Right. Especially if it's something that could be, could
be dark or it could be negative. We're like, well,
yeah, yeah.

Not only do we not necessarily want to believe it,
but it's also that we don't want to hear it.
So if your intuition is saying you're
not being treated well and you need to get out of this
relationship or this job or you need to
stand, up for yourself or you do to express yourself, that
is really hard. And it doesn't happen overnight.
And change is scary. So

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people who say they're not intuitive and
like there's signs all over the place. Your body
is giving you signs. If you push down those
feelings, it's going to come out in your body
through symptoms that then get your attention,
that make you listen whether you want to or not, you know,
so, be the easy way or the hard way.

Yeah. It made me think of when I was.
So when I was a kid, there was something that I
knew that was going to happen. I had this very strong
intuition even in my gut. I can even feel it now
because it brings me back and it came
true. And so from that point on I
became very fearful of my

(12:31):
intuition because I was worried that like, oh
my God, did I manifest that? Or, you know, I didn't think those
big fancy words like manifest when I was a little girl,
but I was like, did I make that happen? Did I? You know,
you know, maybe I shouldn't be thinking that way or trying to
predict things. And so I would, I purposely
tried to just block it. and

(12:51):
then it wasn't until later on in my life that
I allowed myself, I gave that
myself permission to open that back
up again for my own health and well
being.

That's such a good point. And that
used to happen to me often too. And
also what would happen is I would sense negative,
energies and negative forces. And so
that was also freaking terrifying.
but
we don't have to be. So

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I think what happens is when I first started to
accidentally channels channel people's dead
relatives during my session. Right.

So wild.

It was, it was something, and
I was like, I don't know if I like this.
It feels like it takes over and that
you're not present anymore so you don't
feel in control. And that's part of
what you were feeling. M is this,
this force that.

Yeah.

Know this. You know, am I even in the picture?
So it felt like the
weirdest, freakiest thing in the entire world and the
most natural.
Because it was just there. Right. So
if you think of it more as
when we let our intuition in or spirit,
we don't lose control and

(14:16):
you're not completely stepping back and allowing it
to take over. M present.
And what you're doing is you're asking for help,
you're asking for a teammate, you're asking.
It's something that knows you completely and loves you
unconditionally. So instead of
you being in anxiety freak control

(14:37):
mode and having to override everything
you're saying I can't do this all
myself and that's okay. So I'm gonna let this
force come in and just give me suggestions
and you know, and give
me some problem solving skills so that I
don't have to do this all myself.

Trying to work with it.
Hm. And not be fearful of it.

Yeah, exactly.

what was I going to ask you? Good night. self
love. And I'm like, I was
like, so many questions. Self love, why do you think
that's so crucial in the
healing process?

It's essential in the healing process. And I, you
know, I just knew even when I was really, really
young that this was going to be the basis
of how I helped people from now on.
And self love starts with self acceptance,
right? And people think self
love means you have to love everything about you. And it
doesn't. There's going to be things we're not fond of and

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that's okay because there's things we need to change. But
if you do not like yourself,
if you don't think that you are
worthy of loving things or of being
healthy, right. You are going to
treat yourself badly. So you're
not going to, you know, eat foods that
make your body feel better, you're not going to move,

(16:05):
you're not going to set boundaries, you're going to let people
treat you badly, you're going to treat yourself badly.
you're not going to ask for help when you need it,
you're not going to do all of these self nurturing
things that we need to do. And
it's, it's like taking care of a
child or somebody that you love. You love them,

(16:26):
therefore you treat them well and you take care
of them. It's the same with ourselves. If you
don't, you know, think we're worthy,
then we're not going to treat ourselves well. And how can you possibly
be physically, emotional or spiritually healthy
if you aren't good to yourself?

Yes, very true. It's interesting. I
used to own and manage some
integrative practices and
I noticed with, especially with certain,
certain patients that had certain diagnoses
that you could tell they were
there because they were suffering, they were in pain and

(17:05):
they were seeking help obviously because they walked in the
door. But ultimately they
didn't totally want to heal because
their pain, their symptoms,
it got them something. Whether it
was attention from a spouse
or maybe they didn't have to. I mean, honestly, just like there's

(17:26):
some people, they didn't want to work, oh, I can't work. I've got
this going on. I've got that going on going on. there
was some deep seated issue. There was something
underneath it. And really the common
thread through all of it was
self love.

I really love. Yeah, I really
love that you said that for a bunch of reasons.
we are not saying that people are causing their
own pain and wallowing it. That's not at all. I know
that's not what you mean. And the reality
is people may not get the love
and attention they need from people. They may.

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You know, feeling healthy
may mean that you have to go out into the world
and you may have a bazillion social phobias.

Yes, correct.

and there's been so many people that I've worked with who
once they did get sick, their
partner or kids, for example, finally
paid attention to them and took seriously because
they thought they were going to die. So
illness, really serves
so many purposes.
And I always ask people who are kind

(18:35):
of struggling, and my guides obviously give us this information,
but how is feeling
bad serving you? And are you getting something
out of it that you may think you need,
you know, waiting, opening that new business that you've
been wanting to do or going to school
or. Or maybe being vulnerable with somebody

(18:56):
or taking risks? Because if you're in your
house and you're stuck and you can't get out of there and you
don't feel well, you don't really have to challenge yourself
a whole lot.

Right, Exactly. You know, and I, I was there
once, too, and I wrote, I'll never
forget, Marianne Williamson's quote,
and woke me up for sure.
And the beginning of the quote goes, our
deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.

Yes.

Here's the next big zinger. It is our light,
not our, darkness that most frightens us.

Yes.

And when I truly, even though I had read that quote so
many times, I finally got it and I asked myself
the question, okay, Wendy,
what if you were to fully step into your
light and all the pain and the suffering,
the physical pain, the emotional pain, what if they'd all just. If
someone could just like, wave a magic wand and be like,

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you're like, you're healed, you're good, you're
like, you're. You feel great. You're no more aches and pains.
And then what?
And it was like, oh, shit. That means.
That means that I would have to step
into my greatness. It means that I would have to leave
an empty Marriage, it means that I might actually have

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to go get a job to get out of this debt
and then to start this business or to write a
book or to do all the things I know I'm capable of
doing, but I hide behind the
pain and the suffering. All of that.
Yeah, I had that moment.

Totally relate. And, in my book,
there's a lot of my techniques that have
helped me live and survive and heal and all that. And
one of them is learning to look
at your issues as your friends instead of
your enemy and doing a written dialogue with that. So
when I found out I had Lyme disease, I'd had it since I was a kid, but

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I was finally diagnosed at like 45.
So I was like, okay, M. The first thing
is, you know, scared because you hear you're never going to heal. Well, that's BS Because I
am healed. And I was like, okay, well, what is
this about? So I wrote to it and I said, okay, why
are you here? Why now? What do you want me to do? Like, why is
this. Whatever. And it wrote back

(21:17):
and said, you need to write the proposal
for your book that we've been telling you you needed to write since you were
16 years old. And I'm like,
oh, okay. So,
you know, now I'm. I. I know I have a book out.
It's, you know, best selling book, whatever. I'm not a writer.
I fully admit that. And thank God for

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editors and things. you know, but I'm like, I
don't even know where to start. What do I do? But I
literally knew I did not have a choice.
If I wanted to heal, that was the message,
that was what I needed to do, and I needed to step into that.
And, like, thank God. yeah, but. But,
yeah, yeah.

And it's one thing to listen to your intuition, but then you have to
act. You have to take action. Because I feel like,
right. Like, we all have. I'm sure we have all
heard that little voice. It's like, do this, do that, don't do that.
Oh, my gosh. and we're like, yeah, ah, yeah,
yeah, whatever. you know, like, yeah, tomorrow, Monday,
all the next year, you know, and

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until it's screaming at you. Right?
Like. And it can scream at you in the
nicest of ways, but it can scream at you through
your symptoms, through illnesses,
through trauma and grief.
And. Yeah, and I. I too
had the Lyme disease and the black mold
toxicity. And, yeah, I healed as

(22:39):
well. And it's like, it's. And
I think that because I hadn't found your book yet,
but I had read, the Body Keeps the
Score and that. I
was like, shit, my body
is hanging on to all of this stuff, thinking it's trying
to protect me. Right? Because it's like, okay, I'm

(22:59):
protect you so you don't have to get out there in that wild, crazy world
and start a podcast and write a book. I mean, right,
I'm going to keep you. I'm going to keep you right here. Even
though it's really painful. It's very safe and comfortable, even though
it's awful. Right. It's so crazy.
And I read that book and I was
like. Like. Was another. Like, hello.

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Like, what was that one comedian, like, here's your
sign, you know, like, oh, God, it's another
sign. Dang it.

And the Body Keeps the Score is basically based
on Jungian psychology.

Yes.

It all goes back to. To him. Did
that. Yeah.

You know, I thought about this yesterday, that
I feel like we don't. Myself included, we
don't appreciate our miraculous
bodies as much as we should. Like, we are
geniuses. We all are. Our body. I
mean, if you just, like, look at your body for a minute, you're like, oh, my
God, how's this whole thing operating? And I'm just

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sitting here running my mouth, and my heart's
beating, the blood is flowing, the cells are floating
around my lungs, you know, like, it's
crazy. And I don't think we give it the
credit that it deserves and
love it as much as it should be loved.

Yeah. Especially those of us with eating disorder backgrounds.
Right? There's. There's so many pressures.
There's so many. I mean, things have gotten better, but, I
mean, Jesus, we have a long way to go. And
m. You know, I. I don't know if you know this about me, but,
I'm 60, and I am a competitive
pole dancer, and.

Oh, I want to do that. That's on my list.

Okay, so you need to do that. But I started,
like, six years ago, basically five years ago. You know, don't Count
Covid and all that. but it's the best thing I've ever done
for my body and for my mind and
socially. And, you know, you basically have to wear a
bikini because you have to stick to the pole or you will fall and die.
So it's not about any kind of sleaziness,

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and it's. I'm stronger than I've ever been,
and I started knowing nothing and being able to do
nothing but, like, I weigh more
now than I did when I started because of
muscle and my body. You know, I've had to
make adjustments and had to be like, if you want
to learn things and achieve things and do more on that
pole, and you need to get stronger and you

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need to focus. And I always tell people
when they talk about starting movement, you know,
because it's like, I don't feel like it or it hurts or whatever.
And I have something, a genetic thing that makes my
body potentially hurt all the time. And I do this.
I always say, find something you
love.

Yeah.

And if you love it, it won't be a chore. And it's
the first time that movement for me hasn't been
connected to what I weigh or. Or what I ate that
day or fear of gaining weight or something like
that.

And you love yourself.

Yeah, and I love what I'm doing. It's so
I'm there like eight. Like, it's an addiction. It's
great.

I'm trying to find, like, now that I'm here on the island of Madeira,
I'm like, trying to find someone that teaches that, you know, like,
it'd be odd if I just went up to a telephone pole. So I'd be
like, well.

Look at.

That crazy American over there. Right?
Doing.
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so let's talk about this has
been pretty big in my life lately.
Boundaries. So how

(28:31):
is setting boundaries and you can even give
some of your personal examples if you want, especially in your younger
years. How is setting boundaries can be
so helpful towards your own health and
well being?

I don't think you can be healthy without them.
right, because boundaries
and, and connecting to your intuition helps you
set boundaries. Because the more that you
are getting from your intuition and spirit,
the more you're getting what you need, your self worth,
your loving words, all those things, the

(29:07):
less important it is what other people are doing and
saying. Right? Because a lack of
boundaries often comes from worrying too much about what
other people think or being afraid you're going to hurt their
feelings or being afraid to use your
voice and have your own power. So
that, that was one of the things that connection

(29:27):
intuition really helped me to say. You know what?
The messages that I'm getting from my
family are wrong. They're negative.
They don't make sense. They never did make sense. I always
knew as a child that this was total BS and
that I could see these truths and no one admitted them and
it was confirmation. And I was like, I.

(29:48):
Part of setting boundaries is, number one,
realizing that you don't have to think the
way other people think
M what other m people do and
say is about them and you don't have
to take it personally. And
maybe there are things that they're saying that are valid. So you
can learn from that and take from that and

(30:10):
not make it feel. Make you feel like
total crap, you know, something wrong with
you. And it just helps you
to be authentic and use your
voice. And then you
are less likely to push
down feelings of negativity
or self or not

(30:33):
feeling like you have power into
your body and having those symptoms. And
the thing about boundary setting is it doesn't happen
overnight and it's little baby steps.
And that's what I work with people on is what's one thing you can do
even if it's, you know, say your
mother calls all the time and she's driving you insane or whatever.

(30:53):
can you, instead of responding to a
text or a phone call, can you wait an hour?
That might be your first step, you know?

Right, right.

I mean it's baby steps, but that might
be significant for you. And so
I've had people say, well, she'll just keep texting. I'm like, and
you know, so you m. Don't have to respond.
Right. And I also say, well, okay, so what
if you don't respond to her text
in an hour? Is she going to come and kill you?

Right.

You know, it's, it's these
imagined anxieties
that we have in our heads.
So I'm like, what's the worst thing that can happen?
Because not setting boundaries might
literally be killing you.

Yeah, it's true. Yes. I'm like,
word. Yep. Totally. Yeah.
Boundaries are huge. I'm like learning that more and more the
older I get. And I
think sometimes when we're especially like a 40s and
50s or an empty nest and it gets, it does
get quieter. And then when you,

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you. I don't know how to You notice the outside
influences even more the external
forces I guess coming in. Because, because I mean it should
be like your household usually is quieter after an
empty nest. You usually typically have a little bit more alone
time and you kind of see things a little
bit clearer. even for me lately I've
had. Do you remember. You remember back in the. Maybe the

(32:24):
90s, do you remember those paintings that they would have.
They just look like a blob or like a bunch of do.
Do you remember those? And you would, you'd stand
there and you stare at it and some people be like, I don't see
nothing. And then someone, someone would come along. They're like,
oh my God, that's like an eagle flying
over a mountain. And then the sun. You don't see

(32:45):
the sun. You know, like you're like, oh my. No, I don't see
nothing. To me, I feel like the
closer you get to
yourself and to your spirit, the more you
set boundaries, the more self love that you have. That
picture becomes so, so much
clearer in your mind and in your heart. And

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just like you said, you, you want to set those boundaries
because you're like, I am loving. Loving myself
so much that you're you're. You're not doing
this anymore. Because I'm enjoying life finally.

And even as we get older. Right. You were talking about the empty nest
thing. Well, kids are very distracting and.
Hm. Them takes a lot of
time. So let's say your last one
goes, moves m out or whatever and you're
left alone with your partner. And
maybe you've been avoiding the

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issues that you and your partner have been having or
avoiding your own pain or pushing down things
that make you unhappy. And now you're stuck alone
with that person. And I have
a lot of clients who when this happens, they're like,
oh, I didn't realize how unhappy
I was.

Yeah.

Or like now I
want to have a life. I want to.

Well, because. Yeah, because like the, the kids and
running them back and forth to soccer practice and making dinner.
It's, it's a distraction. It's. And it can
be, you know, like it distracts you from
reality of life with just
your husband or your spouse.
Right.
So. Yes. Yeah.

you know, so so many things
as women especially get older,
it's so fascinating that they put
up with less. Yeah, I
think that's, you know, it's such a healthy
thing because you kind of have your life
established and But a, a technique that
I, it's in my book.

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But a cool technique to start you getting
to know your true self is
start a running list on your phone of things
about you. And it might be your
hair color or eye color. It does not have to be earth
shattering things because we are made up of a zillion
different components. So start
just getting to know you. And

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the more that you think about, is
this aligned with me? Is this
about me? Or did I just think I
liked it? The more you think that way, the
more that you are going to make yourself
a priority and do things that you
enjoy don't. Things that you don't do things you don't
enjoy. The more you m. Form a sense of self.

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And it might be a very different sense of self
than you had in, you know,
20s or something like that. So you're getting to know yourself
again and that can be really,
you know, refreshing and empowering and maybe
even for the first time. Totally,
totally.

And you know too, you were talking about like several different
components, right. That we're made up of. And I
always think about like Joe
Dispenza. I, learned like which I'm surprised I didn't know this
already but that were
99.9999% energy.
All of us, the. This laptop, this
coffee cup, everything is energy. And

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it's only true teensy tiny bit of matter.
But we as human beings, we
see that
tiny.0001% matter.
The point is, is that it's all energy.
We're all in this big, you know, bowl of
soup, if you will, and we're
giving and exchanging energy. And you,

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me, everyone has control of what Energy
is coming and going, and I think that's why
it's so key. Speaking of boundaries, of
protecting your energy and that you
have control over that. If someone is coming
in and attacking you or saying negative things, or you look on,
on social media and you're like, God, I can't. You know,

(36:49):
then block it. Then block whatever you have to
do to protect your energy. I mean, become an
energy snob, if you will. Right. Like, I'm only
giving you, like, energy. I'm blessing you with my
energy, you know, because I want to do that.
Or I'm like, no, we
can be more selective.

I love, love, love that you said that. Because,
you know, I work with so many people, they don't feel empowered.
They're like, oh my God, around someone who's negative and it ruins
my whole day. Or I absorb everyone's energy.

Yeah.

You know, or I feel like I have to do what that person needs or I'm
gonna hurt the feeling, whatever. And I'm always like, yeah, wait,
hang on. You and you alone control your
energy. You allow what comes in and
what does not come in. Unless you are in an altered state.
You know, unless you be like
severely drug addicted or, you know, really

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mentally ill and you're out of it or something like that, or you choose
to delve into the dark arts. Wouldn't recommend
that one. But, you know, don't ever
give your energy up to other people. You are not
a victim, huh? No.
And if you. And that's a way of
escaping too. Because if you're like, nope, I'm just gonna go out

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and everyone's energy affects me and I'm gonna get too tired
and I can't handle it. It's like, that's a way of avoiding
going out into the world and having a
voice and doing your own thing. So. I love that you said that.

Yeah. I always think of like a. A Teflon
pan, a nonstick pan, you know, And I think
like, even I had this experience yesterday
and when this person was saying these awful things
to me and I was like imagining myself as
like, pan.
And I was like, I'm just gonna let this stuff just like slide right off,

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you know, I'm like, I'm
like, no, I. This is not. Just like you were saying
earlier, like, this is not. This is not me, this
is them. like, I'm not attaching to this, this is.
And you almost have to have that kind of, out of body
experience, if you will. Right. You kind of like
over here observing, being the
observer rather than being in it.

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Like, you know, to be in the world, but not of it. To be
in this, you know, fight that's going on, but not
of it. You're kind of like removed. You.
You're just observing. And it's.
It takes practice. It takes practice to be able to do
that. To not. And to know, like,
is this, is this gonna matter 5 years from now or 10 years

(39:17):
from now or 20 years from now? Right. Like, most of us
here listening, we're on our second
half of our life, you know, like, why do we
give a crap about the dumb. Like, if you really sit
down and think about the things that we worry about, like, is it
really matter? Is it gonna matter
someday? I know it's hard to believe someday
everyone's gonna forget about Wendy Valentine and

(39:40):
it's okay. You know what I mean? And then. But Wendy
Valentine will be like, not worried about some of the dumbest
shit that I worry about. We all do it.

And also, the more you set
boundaries, the more you are secure with yourself.

Yeah.

The less threatened you are by other people's
words. And the more that you can be open
to constructive feedback. And
one example that I have is
I was, you know, in therapy, totally vulnerable. Never
told anybody anything. And one day my therapist says
to me, you're being really narcissistic.

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And it was like a dagger in my heart because
that's the last thing I thought I was. Last thing I
wanted to be. I wanted to be the opposite of my family.
And here's this person that I just loved and trusted,
saying like.
And I was like. And, she said, okay, hang on.
she told me the story of Narcissus, who thought

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he was so beautiful that he could not stop looking at his
reflection in the water and stopped eating and dying.
And she said, you are not by
nature a narcissistic person. You care about others.
She said, but the very nature of eating
disorders and depression and anxiety is
that it all becomes. Your whole central

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focus, becomes what you weigh, what
you ate, what you ate. Are people. Are
people watching you eat? You know, how
are you feeling? What is going on around you?
And not. And
because of the disorder, it's very hard to
get beyond yourself and your pain.

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Oh, hell yeah. She's
absolutely right. That is narcissistic
behavior. And it's not
serving me. And I can admit
it and say, that's real.
I am not less than. I am
not broken.

It's.

This makes sense. I want to change it. And also,
what Else can I maybe learn about myself and admit
and make changes about without feeling like.

Yes, exactly. Yeah, you're just like peeling
back the layers little by little.
I feel the same way. Like I, I mean, I plan
to always evolve until the day I die.

Right.

But I'm always curious about me. How can
I be better? How can, how can I improve,
how can I love more? And you know, all of
that, all the time. I mean, not
obsessed, but I try to
do the best that I can. Right. But
you're so right. I feel like you,

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you're more open to like,
okay, oh, did I say I did? was I not nice
today? You know, like I'm, I'm more
able to just admit and when I'm
in the wrong or like, oh geez, I probably was a little
bitch either. Sorry about that.

You know, it makes us better parents and friends
and. Because in my family growing up,
people were so concerned with their own addictions
or issues or shame or narcissism, that
we were. Our children were not put first.
their were. And I always said, I
am going to raise my children differently and

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try to catch myself or admit when I'm
screwing up or I need to go to therapy or I need to whatever
my meds, whatever the hell is, I am going to do that and
put my kids and my husband
before being in a state of
chaos and.

Were we raised in the same family?
It's all you're talking about. Were
we next door to each other?

We related. Yeah, I know,
it's a, it's a familiar story. Isn't it
crazy?

Yeah. And I just is like probably
maybe about four weeks ago, I finally stood up
to my biggest bully in
my whole life. And I must say, it felt so,
so good.

Right. And you didn't die.
No.

Exactly. And you know what? I even like, I, I was,
I was standing there in front of the mirror and I was like, look at my.
Have like having a conversation with myself. And I was like, girl, you
were 52 years old. What the hell?
What are you worried about? What are you scared of? What are you truly scared of?
Then you're like, yeah, I'm a grown ass
woman. No, this is

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not going to happen anymore. It's such a liberating
feeling and I just, it just. Oh, feels,
so good.

Right?

No longer be in fear of that person
anymore. It is the best feeling.

I tell people what's the worst thing that can happen, they stop talking.
Thank you, God.

Like, okay, how do I. Where do I sign
like.
So let me ask you this. How, how can
we get more in tune? What are
some things that we can do on besides buying your book?
some like daily practices to help us get
more in tune. To like cut the noise and
go get right here.

So the first thing that's coming to mind. Thank you, guys. The
first thing that's coming to mind is to remember that,
that feelings, especially anxiety,
they're not evil and they're not our enemies
and it's there for a reason.
And it's a survival
mechanism. Like we need it because

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anxiety tells us when something, is
dangerous or something we need to avoid. Or
maybe it's saying you can't continue to
do this anymore or you're betraying
yourself or something. So
the tendency is that people
feel anxiety and then they detach from
themselves because they act like

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anxiety is a totally other person that has
taken over them. It's not another person.
It's a feeling you are having.

Yes.

Control you. And one of the most important
things, when you're feeling anything
and those of us raised in dysfunctional families, half
the time we didn't know what we were feeling. We were just
feeling something that didn't feel good. And
so to use the written dialogue in my
book, or just sit, get grounded, go
somewhere where there's no noise and no distractions and just be

(46:04):
like, okay, what is going on right
now? What do I feel in my body?
You know, is this stomach, whatever,
connected to a feeling? why do I feel
uncomfortable? Can I label this? And
let's say the label is anxiety. It's just whatever.
And then you can ask yourself, is this
mine? Do I have something that

(46:26):
I need to attend to? Is that why I'm
anxious? And you can also
say, am I picking this up from other people?
Maybe this isn't even mine. You know, we live in a crazy ass
world right now. You know, maybe this is not even
mine and I'm picking up on somebody
else's fear or whatever. Maybe it's
a combination. But instead of

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being afraid of your feelings, try to
at least connect with them and understand
them. It does not mean that you automatically
have to change your life or that it's going to change that. You have to
confront every bully you've ever encountered. Right.
but just allow that feeling to be there
and give you messages and process

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it and then you can decide how you want to
handle it rather than feeling like you have
no power at all and you're
frozen.

Right?

Yeah.

I mean, one of the Things I learned.
I think I told you in the intro I did go to Omega. I
love Omega in Kripalo. Oh my God, my favorite
places. But I did get certified in positive
psychology, at Kripalu. And
ah, one of the things I got
out of that whole course was you are a human
being. Being human. Like

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we're human beings again. Like we're, we're, we're
built with these emotions and to not
be scared of them. Like they're trying to tell you something
and talk to them, name them, label them,
whatever you got to do. Just like, don't try to avoid it.
Like, okay, hello, anger is here.

Right? And maybe you need to be.

Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I know. And not to be.

Yes.

I used to, having been raised the way that I was, was like,
I'm not allowed to be angry. I have to be a good little girl and I gotta be
quiet and I gotta be nice and perfect and everything.
And I was scared to be angry because
if I'm angry, then there's more anger that's gonna come
back. So being angry is okay.
And angry. I mean, on the level of, you know,

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emotions, anger is actually in the middle,
like closer to the positive emotions. Anger is not
so bad. Anger can motivate the. Out of you
to do something. Right. I mean, like it has for me.
I'm like, oh, yeah, watch this.

No, and also, yeah, the problem.
Not, it's not a problem, but the, the conflict about
anger is that if you are angry at
somebody or at a certain thing you have, you.
If you want to change that, you need to change it and you need to take
action. So let's say you're angry at your
parent for treating you like crap your whole life or

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whatever. And then if you feel
that you have to make changes. And so for
some people, it's easier to push that anger down and pretend it doesn't
exist or be like, oh, that's my mom,
it's my family, or whatever other
freaking you've been taught. Because
they don't. I don't care if someone's related to you or not. They don't have a right to

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treat you badly, you know?

Correct. Yes.

And so there is an amount
of dealing with those emotions, and if you do
not deal with them, they will make you physically ill.

Yes.

No. No condoms.

It's true. Yeah. Oh, for sure.
Yeah. In horrible ways.
And I think of emotion as energy in
motion. And it's supposed to
flow through you. Allow those emotions to flow through you. Don't
push Them away. Just let them like, okay, if any. That one needs
to sit there for a little bit. Let it sit there for a little bit, right?

(49:55):
So it's. It's okay not to be scared.

Like we're.

Again, you're a human being being human. Like you're,
you're built with the fight flight freeze fun
responses. It's okay. But
sometimes we don't need to fight flight
freeze. Like our, our naturally. Our bodies
will like kick into that where it's like, am I really
scared? Do I need to be fearful like you said, like, is something,

(50:20):
something really bad going to happen? Do I
need to be freaking out right now? But I
think that's when like healing yourself. Just like your book
Heal from Within, healing yourself from within
helps all of that. So it's.
I don't know about you, like even healing from like the Lyme
disease and all.

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When you heal from within, you're not
even trying to focus on. On whatever the
disease is, whatever the symptoms, right?
Those, they will just like disappear and you'll wake up one day
and you're like, oh, did I just heal from black mold
toxicity? Did I just like recover from menopause?
Like, I didn't even. I wasn't even focusing on it. So
it's not like you have to focus on whatever that

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dis. Ease is of your body.
You just heal from within. Love yourself more.
It sounds so fluffy and easy
know. But it truly is, right? Like it's.

And if you focus on menopause or
whatever, like how if you. This idea at this
certain age, I'm going to feel like crap. This is going to happen to me.
Well, then you will feel like crap. Or you can decide
age is a number. It doesn't really matter. Get up on a pole when
you're 60, do crazy things, you know? because I don't
feel whatever age I'm supposed to be, get up on.

That pole, girl and.

Or your hoop or whatever.
But I do also want to tell people that
other people's pain might be the best
gift you've ever given them.
That's a really bizarre concept for some people.
But if you are honest with someone and set
boundaries and you stop doing things for them that they need
to do for themselves, just as one example. It

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forces them to deal with their
crap. It forces them to
challenge themselves and see what they can do. Maybe
they need to hit rock bottom. Like I had to hit rock
bottom to seek help for the eating disorder. Nobody
could have done that for me. So, you know, no
amount of Enabling would have helped me. And
so when I hear about people who are going through

(52:22):
a really rough time, of course I feel for them
and want to help them. But I'm also like, you know what? This could be
such an amazing thing for you.
The outcome could be because people are
forced to change or they die. You do have a choice. You
can change your diet, but a different way of
thinking, of setting boundaries, because you

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may be helping them so much more than you
realize.

Yeah, exactly. And helping yourself.

Yeah. Oh, God, yeah.

I mean, sometimes distance, distancing yourself
from someone that has been harming you
can help you heal. Just,
I mean, just the space of. Not have like. Oh,
God.

Right, right. Or even just the emotional space. Like I said,
not even if it's a job.

Right. Even if it's a job that you've been hanging on to that's making
you sick. Like literally making you sick. It's
not worth it.

Right, right, exactly. And you know, I
again work with so many people and they're like, I don't know how to even
begin thinking about leaving my partner
or like money. And I said, okay, how
about you take one little first step and go
attorney. It will cost you nothing. Find out what
your rights are. Find out what your, you know, your financial

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situation is. Get a support person there. Like, that's
one little step. It doesn't start, you know,
overnight. And of course, thinking about supporting yourself
and getting your own place, of course, that's terrifying.
But, you know, there's steps that you.
And you'll gain confidence along the way.

Exactly.

so that's what I help people do a lot too. Like real life
examples of. Okay, so you came to me for this problem.
We looked at root causes, but now what can you actually do?
Like.

Right, exactly. It's not going to solve itself.

Yeah. And I'm not just going to give you fluff and woo woo. It's like,
yeah, let's like actually help you solve the problems.

Give me fluff and woo woo. Dang it
Had a poll. No, I'm just kidding. Sorry.
All right, so tell us more about the services that you
provide.

So, my main thing
is, yeah, I'm a medical and spiritual intuitive.
And with just someone's name and age,
I create a very long, extensive four
page report and an intuitive soul
painting that symbolically gives people
information through their watercolor paintings.

(54:45):
And I send that before I meet with you.
I don't want information, so I cannot.
Anything. you get it. It goes into
your entire life, like past, present,
Future relationships,
childhood traumas, career, intuitive
stuff. anything you can possibly. The physical, emotional
symptoms, obviously anything you can possibly think of.

(55:07):
when we meet, I teach you more about connecting to your
intuition in your body. We look at the
specific things in your life that are going on. You get
more information from my guides. in addition to what's
on the report, you can ask any questions you want. You know,
it's a very, very interactive thing.
and yeah, from there we

(55:28):
decide a plan on what you do.
a lot of people just do one session. That's all they need. It's
enough to get them started. and then I have people
that I work with maybe once every six months, or
people I work with once a week or so. It really
kind of depends. But you are not, it's not like,
oh, you have one meeting and then now you're obligated for six more.

(55:48):
Or, you know what I mean?

Right.

That like, you can do one and we can get a ton
from that one session. So,
I, I would imagine though.

People are, would be relieved when they
will kind of find out those root causes of things. Like,
oh, that makes very much, very much. Like I
was saying earlier, that like, it makes that painting
become very clear and vivid.

Yeah, no, exactly. It puts so many things together
and their loved ones often come through, their pets come
through. They're, you know, so it's like you get all this
information. and it's also very validating
because a lot of people already sort of
knew or have an idea. And for me
to confirm that, you know, I
don't want anyone substituting my intuition for theirs.

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I want to help them build theirs. And I will always be
honest and tell them what I get, you know, for my,
The information that comes through is very personal.
Sometimes it's things they've never told anybody, you
know, so it's,
it's so cool. Yeah. But
yeah, so it's really, really powerful work.

It's like, I mean literally like reading the soul.
That's fascinating. I want one.
Especially with like lately I'm like, oh my God.
I had, I actually had my. The
car that I was towing behind the RV went

(57:18):
up in flames, in South Dakota.
And then about
four days later, that relationship I was referring
to earlier went up in flames. And I was like, you know,
I'm feeling kind of like the Phoenix, you know,
like I'm looking at this as a good thing, you know?

Yeah. I mean, you're going through so many
changes, so many Things, you know, it's
really very vulnerable
to be releasing a book and talking about
it to people and thinking about publicity
and doing all those things. Even though you've been in the
public eye doing your podcast, it's a different

(57:56):
part of your life.

Yeah.

Yeah. I feel like when I look into your energy,
it feels like it's revving and
swirling and like it
has a little bit, in a good way, a life of
its own. because you have finally decided to
get out of the way.

Yes. Yeah. You're so right. That's actually.
That is so wild that you said that, because I did.
Right. When I started off on my RV journey years
ago, and before I started this show,
I did a ketamine journey. And in
that, it was like. It was a trip, literally.
and in that whole experience, there's one

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main message that I got from my soul,
and it was my soul telling me to get the hell out
of the way. Would you
please step aside and let me do my thing?

I'm like, okay, that's what my guys just told me.
Yeah. Yeah.

It's so funny. But it's the same thing. I'm like, I get it.
I get it. Yeah. Otherwise this pod we wouldn't be
talking. If I had not gotten out of the way, we, like, I would
not have written this book, like, all of that stuff.

Right.

Fascinating. And I would not have if I had not stepped
into my light. Right. It goes back to the same thing. And if I had
not healed from within. There's so many
magical things that can happen in your life
when you step aside, when you allow yourself
to heal. It's amazing.

And it's hard work. Like. Yeah,
it's really freaking hard work. And, yes, there's a lot of
ups and downs. And you. You pitch to places and you don't
hear back or you do hear back. And there's a lot of, you know,
reject. You're opening yourself up to rejection, and you're doing all this
stuff. Being your true self and
living your purpose is really hard work, but,

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it's a lot more pleasant than being in
pain and sick and feeling like crap and being in an awful
relationship or an awful job.

Yep. And not being true to yourself.

Right.

Yeah. The number one regret of the dying is living life
for everybody else.

Talk about a way to get sick.

I know, right? Yeah. It ain't worth it. Ain't
nobody got time for that.
Well, where can we find you? And how do we get that amazing
book?

>> Katie Beecher (01:00:09):
Yeah. So, my website's the easiest. It's
katybesher.comb e-e c h e
r. I'm on Instagram and Facebook.
Katie Beecher, medical intuitive. My book's available
everywhere. you know, Amazon and all the places and
bookstores and stuff like that. if you go to my website, I think there's
an Amazon link on there. So, But yeah,
that's the easiest way.

>> Wendy Valentine (01:00:31):
Thank, you so much. You're awesome.

Oh, my pleasure. And you are awesome as well.

Thank you, everyone. Have a great day.
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Thank you so much for listening to the show. Get out there
and be bold. Be free.

Be you.

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